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Thanks for tuning in to the Boundless Authenticity Podcast. Today's topic is understanding intuition and getting into the Flow with my guest Vincent Melling. Vincent is an author, speaker, teacher, and ICF accredited coach, and his recently published book Getting into the Flow describes how he received a flow of synchronicities, coincidences, chance meetings and calls, opportunities and events occurring in perfect timing when he went to Aluru for a global meditation
on the December twenty twenty solstice. Vincent's book also describes how you can use intuition to create a magic flow in your own life, and Vincent's coaching aims to guide you to find this magic and flow to speed your journey to creating what's in your vision. So, Vincent, how's it going?
Oh goodness, thanks Johann, And you're absolutely right. The book does tell you how you can develop your intuition. I'm just going to hold it up here and I am going to have to do something really clever, which is unblow my background because zoom does blur it. Yeah, So the book tells you how to do it, but it's work that is far more powerful when you do it in a group. And over the past a few days, I've been working with a couple of friends. We call
them the Academy of Intuitive Mastery. We've been taking them through the work that's in the book and helping people first of all, connect with their intuition, develop their intuition, and then get a vision for their lives, connecting with their purpose, their mission in life, and giving them some tools to move on and start creating that. So, yeah, that's what I've been doing over the past. We can bitch.
Okay, Well, I like that because man, I come across some people and they're freaking out. They're like, ah, I don't know what my purpose is. It's like, I mean, I'm not laughing at them, but it's just like this real childlike anxiety and they think they're gonna spontaneously combust because they haven't found their purpose yet. And a lot of the times, what I've also realized is that they're missing some really big clues in their life as to
what it should be. And I think it's like a personal development industry induced coma that the Internet has put out there for people, because now they see all this stuff about live your dream and live your purpose. And so everybody thinks that they should be doing something that's really grandiose, you know, and it scares them and so they just don't do anything at all.
Is that sense, And it's actually something that I specifically address in the book because that's how people view it. And great I think everybody does have a purpose in life, and that's great news. But it never starts out as something grandigos. And so, for example, if you think of Mother Teresa and she has this order of nuns and she has convents around the world, but it started out when you know, she was moved by a poor person on the streets of Calcutta. It was just that one person.
And you will find that across a range of people that have started working with purpose, that it starts very, very small and then builds. And very often our sense of purpose builds out of the chance that we've had, out of the challenges that we've had in life, and our desire to help others who are facing the same challenges, help them surround them. So that's where purpose comes from. Where it doesn't come from is an a goic place, a place of first saying, well, when I was a kid.
Everybody was talking about starving millions in Africa, So something a guy it might be to take that thing, and so, well, I'm going to put together a project that's going to help solve this problem, but without really the emotional connection, without the intention. And there is something about each of us that's a divine gift or an innate talent that we've got, and I often think our purpose is around also connecting with that talent and using that to express
and help people. I'm going to stop rambling there and into the conversation.
I mean, you're not a rambling, you're making perfect sense. But what about the concept that maybe an individual has more than one purpose? You know? And suppose you're walking down the beach and there's nobody else on the beach, but you see that there's one person in the water and they're drowning, so you jump in and you save them. That's a purpose. Or the guy that gets up super early and runs the street sweeper, that's a purpose, you know.
But some people don't feel purposeful in whatever is they're already doing. So what would you say to that?
Yes, it's certainly something I think about a lot, because somebody has to run the street sweeper and pick up the garbage and appreciate all of that. I think it is possible to be running more than one purpose at a time. I'm thinking in particular, for example, somebody that's caring for an elderly relative or something like that might also be writing or something like that. But yeah, we've usually got a sense of we've usually got a sense
of that when it happens. Yeah, what I was going to say was that the way we see purpose in this work, it reveals itself over time. In other words, if you were shown where we're going to end up in your life, it will be absolutely overwhelming and it will push you into that place to resistance that you
were talking about. People online feel about purpose. It's got to be big, and it's got to be impressive, and it's got to When we do the work that we do, we do a visionally exercise that gives you a vision perhaps for the next six to fifteen months, something like that, and that will give you a snapshot of We do a whole of life thing, but one of those areas of life will be a snapshot of where your purpose
is taking you in that time. And then you follow that and then six months twelve months later, you come back and do the exercise over again and see what the next level is for whatever it is you're working on, whether it's your purpose or whether it's something else that you're choosing in your life.
Okay, I accept that.
I have to answer the question, Yeah you did.
So what's your personal definition of intuition?
Intuition is a facility that we've all got, and it's like a connection to some big cloud of information that's out there in the universe, and we can tap into that and we can bring it in. We can bring it in and it will come to us in all the various form clear senses that are available. So some people will get intuition very visually. Some people will get intuition audibly here's something. Some people will get words, some people get feelings and chills. It's possible to get smells
and tastes, they're not so common. And sometimes you'll just have a knowing how it shows up. You know, there's there's a number of ways it shows up, but it never shows up like in like a YouTube video, and you never have some you know, an inituitive guy sitting there telling you exactly what you need to know and how to do things and show you everything. Usually it's more symbolic than that. It needs a little bit of interpretation.
And when you're connected with interpretation, then the sorry when you're connected with intuition, that interpretation is usually quite simple and obvious. You don't have to go around doing too many mental contautions to do it. But by the same token, imagination is a great way of digging into the interpretation of what we get symbolic what we get feeling wise,
and we've historically kind of downplay imagination. We say we said that kids, he's got a very active imagination, to say that he's kind of a little bit out there, a little bit too far away to the imagina. We've kind of this imagination And really imagination is part of ituitive faculty, and we find in given readings that when we lean into imagination and just in a surrendered way, we've got to be and just allowing imagination to feed
us and not what we want to hear. But when we do that, it opens up like another level of psychic reception and we can we get more information. So that's kind of how I see intuition. It's like our connection to that universal cloud of information. But the way I teach it for intuitive purposes, it's great for directing your own life. It's great for making decisions, it's great for getting a vision, it's great for creating a bit of magic in your life. What we what I don't
teach is making predictions, making forecasts. When, for example, I get an insight about where I'm going with my work, I assume that it takes into account where the external environment is and what is possible for me in that environment and has given me given that to me, Usually the external environment doesn't have a lot of power. That's a whole other conversation that we can have here. But intuition is very much about understanding the level of power
that you have within yourself. Yes, so that's a few of the things that a few aspects of intuition. That and how I see it.
So the very fact that you're saying that you teach it suggests that it is both an any ability that we all have and it's something that you can learn. Because I've heard people say, oh, I'm not very creative and I don't even know what it feels like to sense I intuitive faculties or whatever you know, And I'm like, what do you feel like eating for breakfast today? They're like,
I really go for some eggs. Oh my goodness, there you go, you know, like it's it's a sense they can feel that you can tap into your intuition, you know. But I think that going back to what you were saying as well, there's a certain level of crazy making or gas lighting, or just societal conditioning in general where they do say stuff like oh, that kid's got a wild imagination, you know, and all these different things through childhood then disabled our natural the ability to into it. You know.
Yeah, yeah, that's absolutely true. And you said in each intuition, and that's what I've found that everybody's intuitive, but with some people, and very often it's men who seem to particularly receive this message about being mental. Being logical is very shut down, and you have to be a little bit patient, a little bit supportive and encouraging and everybody
will get something. But then there's another level of intuition, because most people, you know, view intuition as being kind of gut feel or getting a hunches or perhaps seeing messages. And really you can use intuition for a lot beyond those basic kind of warning mechanisms. As I said, you can use it for decisions, to help create visions, to get creative, turn on your supercreativity, lots of things. So
it's a very powerful tool when you develop it. And most people who say they're intuitive are kind of right of the kind of very ground level and yeah, yeah, just using it for the danger and they're not really. You know, when you get chained up, you get very used to making decisions based on intuition and you know what it feels like and how to distinguish it from what's coming on from the mind. And that's really important.
So could you share a specific moment when you were intuition played a significant role in your life.
Yes, I'll go back to one of the earliest moments. I was in a class with a teacher, and this teacher was from Southern Africa, and he was running a training course in Southern Africa, and usked to saw to tune in and make a decision and find out whether it was true for us, whether it was true for us to go on that course. So everybody tuned in and nearly everybody in the class got yeah, that it was true for them to take this course in Southern Africa, and I think I was about the only one that
didn't get that it was true. But it was then it was very clear for me that this wasn't true. This didn't have energy this training, So I didn't go. Other people did and some months late this was going to be the only one in the year. Some months later I got laid off from my job. I had an end date and the teacher organized a second round of this training and it was going to start like a week after I had finished up at this job, and this time it was truth for me. It was
absolutely perfect. So that is a very simple example of intuition leading me to making a really good decision. I had absolutely wonderful time. Where they were running it at the time was next to a nature and serve and there were animals, and yeah, we could go driving everything there.
Yeah. And have you ever ignored your intuition and then regretted?
It doesn't everybody, And yes, it's very common to say I wish I had listen to my intuition.
You know.
The problem I have is that prior to really getting involved with this work, which is probably twelve years ago, I was in the camp that actually believed that I was not intuitive, and until I had it really demonstrated to me, I believe that. So I was up to up to about ten years ago, I was never really listening to my intuition. Unfortunately, I'm a bit of a good boy in respect to your question, so I do tend to listen to my intuition and act on it,
and very rarely act against it. So I'm really struggling to find an example of where I went and against it and had a nasty lesson that I've got one now that's come to me that I just ended up making an investment with a guy where all the numbers added up, but I picked up something wasn't quite right about this guy, but because everything else set it up, I gave him the benefit of the doubt. If at the time I had trusted my intuition more, I wouldn't have going ahead with that.
Man. I feel like I'm the guy that picks up stuff about other people all the time and have never been wrong about it. But then when you try to tell other people, I'm not really getting a good vibe coming off this person to get like all teenager ish, like you know, no, you don't know what's best for me. You just don't want me to have friends, or you
don't like this person because this thing. And I'm like, no, I mean, I trust my intuition and just maybe you're just too close to it and I'm getting it and I'm supposed to tell you. I can only warn you do what you feel like, Yeah, but then it always turns out bad for them, and they're like, oh, you're right, how do you do that? It's like, how do they do what? I just listened?
Yes, and you're absolutely right, and you know, obviously to talk to somebody else about something that they're doing where they're messing up, you need permission. But it's very difficult talking to other people about what you're picking up intuitively, particularly if you don't have that level of trust with them. They don't trust you, you know, that person that may may come back to you afterwards and say, oh, you were right, and then next time you warn them they
will listen. But you're also battling, as we said, that conditioning in our society that puts intuition down. And so yeah, that's that's another reason that pulls people back from listen to you.
Yeah, no matter how many times they warn them, they never listen. Yeah, oh well, so what strategies do you use to kind of validate your intuition? You know, you're how do you validate your intuitive feelings before you act on them? Is what I really want to see.
It is a really good question. And the answer is that when you go into this work, you enter into like a journey on your life path, and you know it's on your life path, and you feel that it's on your life path, but it kind of runs and unfolds over the years, and yeah, you get little bits of confirmation all the way along. Sometimes you get big
bits of confirmation. So we talked about my trip to Laru and how all the synchronoss flowed, and how all the coincidences flowed, and how opportunities came up, how the timing was perfect, particularly around COVID and lockdowns in Australia, which were a little bit harsher than there were in other parts of the world. But it all came together really, really nicely. And then you think, oh, yeah, this is definitely true. But little bits of magic are always showing up.
And I ran a class on Sunday. There were eight of us in the class. It was online. We ran into breakout rooms and what we're we looking at we were looking at It was a class that I called from per from vision to why. So when we do this work, we get a vision of what we want in our lives, how we see ourselves in our lives, and so what this class is about was just tracking back from that and understanding, getting a little deeper understanding of the why behind it, what it is that's motivating
us to pull in this fission. And one of the breakout rooms spontaneously decided to form like a little self help mastermind group and it was, oh, this has never happened before, and I can see those people going on and creating great things. But so you're always getting little bits of confirmation. Keep a journal of what I'm creating,
and then what's showing up that's particularly magical. There's always three or four things showing up every week that I wasn't expecting and that's come from left field, and you know, to me, those are indications of of this stuff really working and really creating stuff that really creating outcomes that I wasn't looking for, but especially enough for me to notice and messages for me to keep going.
So besides journaling, are there any other practices that you use the inns your abilities.
Yes, so the first practice is a daily practice. We create a vision that encompasses various areas of our life and to still that down into a set of eight choices, to which we had a couple of standard choices, which are very much like goals. But you know, when you think of goals and intentions and all that sort of thing,
choice is a little bit more powerful. There's a little bit less from for weaseling out of a choice, and it's kind of like a message to your unconscious that of all the possibilities, this is the one, This is the one that I'm aiming at. Very often we have goals that we can kind of go for, but sometimes we asked whether or not this was really what I wanted. But with the choice, it's there and it's that one outcome out of all the possibilities that you're aiming at.
And we go through that every day, and you take like a minute per choice. You drop into your intuitive state, into innocence, we call it, but it's like a meditative state. Tune into that end result of what's in that choice, and when you've got it, you move on and you move on and you move on, and then you go back and get a couple of action items how of
going through those choices. So it is a daily practice of going in and then over and above that, it's just the there's a weekly meditation that we do for more strategic purposes. I'm very what's the word blessed that I'm in a community where that's run online three or four times a week. So just pick up one of those sessions and go and write and journal. So that's
a more detailed journaling exercise. And then there are things that you do through the day as you go through your day just to retain that connection to intuition.
Interesting, So I noticed that you mentioned something about the subconscious there, and are you saying that intuition is related to subconscious knowledge there is dormant or like prior experiences like childhood programming, Like what do you think.
We do have a part of us that's unconscious. We do have a part of us that is conditioned by childhood programming, for sure, and out of that, we also have parts of us that deny what's try and hide aspects of us that we think about, and also try and hide aspects of us that are great and powerful, but we don't want other people to know that about
us because somehow it might be embarrassing or something. And you know, perhaps forty fifty years ago, being psychic might have been one of those gifts that you've got, but you just don't want everybody to know about it. So we all have that. But and that's part of our
psychological makeup. But we've got another part of us that is sometimes called a higher self or sometimes called a in a genius, or sometimes called super conscious, but whatever it is, is a higher part of us that's connecting outwards to a growter field of consciousness and through that consciousness can pull the information in that's intuition, so very very separate from the conditioning, and it's a state that we access again primarily through pertaining a state of presence
or a state of going a little bit deeper in meditative state. So you know, when we're sitting here in a normal day, in some aspect of fight or flight or freeze, we can't access our intuition. Stresses something that really takes away our ability to access intuition. You do need to come out of that, take a couple of breaths, and drop in to access intuition.
Okay, well, you mentioned something to me about men somewhat being conditioned into being rational thinkers and not having as
much access to the intuitive faculties. So I know a lot of men that are in crisis, because you know, I'm a coach too, and you know a lot of these guys that come to me it's because of that at rock bottom during prices, they're in a transition from one place in their life to another, but they have no idea exactly where they want to go, even though when you ask them about it then they start to tell
you exactly where they're going. But it's like they just completely second guests themselves and second guests and can block intuition like nobody's business. But what tips could you give to someone like that man or woman who is having trouble balancing intuition with rational thoughts and they're kind of on their own on this path, and they want to know about how they can, especially with respective vision and purpose, how they can narrow these things down on their own.
To narrow these things down on their own, what am I going to suggest, first of all, to connect with intuitional or at least to get the panicky stuff out of the way. Breathing is always wonderful, and you've got to slow it down and you've really got to stay with it for three four minutes. Sometimes, you know, when it's a normal kind of day, you know, three or four breaths will bring you into relaxed statement. Sometimes I feel a bit more panicky. Yeah, breath work is very good.
You know. One of my other hats is as a completely yoga teacher. We have and it's a wonderful, wonderful lineage of yoga. And there are special breaths for people that are suffering anxiety or panic work, so I won't go into those now, but yeah, generally stating the breath really helps activate the parasympathetic nervous system and get you out of fight or flight. And you need that to get to access your intuition beyond that to get to
you know, find more about your purpose your life. This is something that I take people through in a guided meditation. It's not available for free, but you can always pick the book up and the book's fairly cheap if you get the e book. Particular, if you get the e book and there are details in there about how to access it, someone to contact me if you can't access it.
So yeah, okay, So Vincent, where can we find your book?
You will find it on vincentgmailing dot com, slash get the book. I think it's slash get the book. But if you can't find it there, just go to the homepage and there'll be a bright little button that says get the book. I think it is. You can and it's great to order our back paperback copies from me. If you want the e book, or if you're in the States, or if you're in Europe, you can get you can get it at Amazon, or you can get it at some of the other good online book sellers.
Just Google getting into the flow and it will take you to the Amazon for your particular geography and you'll be able to get it there. Both the ebook and the paperback agree.
So here's the last question. Do you have any less pieces of insight that you intuitively feel gated to share with everyone?
Yes, I do, and it kind of relates to the place of intuition in elevating consciousness. And so you know, when I was a kid, the Beatles were big, and one of the things that the Beatles did that nobody was kind of expecting at the time was that they went to India and learned meditation, and that was the start of meditation making its way out of being really fringed to making it into a It wasn't mainstream by a long chalk, but it was kind of something that urgan.
Meditation became something that a sizeable chunk of people did, and they were kind of seemed to be a little bit out there, but there were a lot of them doing it, and over time it's grown and mindfulness has gained popularity. Now it is so mainstream that that's really mainstream. My son. I've got a son who's studying for a PhD in psychology and his lab is getting money from the Australian government to research mindfulness because they've recognized all
the benefits that come from this form meditation. And the way I see intuition is that it is another step up in consciousness from meditation, so it really builds on that. But what intuition does is that it helps us build our lives in line with our purpose, but really create great things out of our lives, great adventures like I had going to Central Australia. I've been in Australia for thirty years and never been and then intuition just said you've got to go this time, and so I went, yeah.
So it helps us build our lives, it helps us create our purpose, and it helps us I believe, it helps us elevate our vibration. So it's kind of the next level up from meditation. That's where I see it, and.
We have to agree with you. Thanks for being on the Boneless Iuthenticity boat.
And thank you for having me on here. Rojohn. It's been an absolute pleasure talking to you. Really loved it.
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