Responsibility is the “R” in my SER framework — and it’s one of the keys to a better life and higher attraction. In this video, I break down the gigantic miscommunication showing up in almost every couple, tell you the crucial difference between responsibility and accountability, and what makes taking responsibility so hard (especially in relationships). If you want to build better character and a healthier relationship, this one’s for you :) 03:30 Difference between Responsibility and Accountab...
Aug 20, 2025•1 hr 8 min
Higher quality relationships start with your energy. Simple shifts improve your life and attract the RIGHT people. In this episode, I give you 3 Markers & 3 Pathways to Higher Energy. 08:28 The invisible thing going on all the time 11:57 What do we need to know? 19:45 The minority is interested in Better 17:20 Three markers and three pathways 17:36 Marker #1: Attitude 22:24 The way you move towards partnership 27:12 Handling setbacks, stop being a victim, move on 35:42 Marker #2: Mindset 43:...
Aug 14, 2025•57 min
The majority of people who want relationships say there aren't enough good people to date and marry. I agree. In this episode I talk about what to do about it. 02:00 Scarcity of attractive matches in the dating market 06:55 Biological imperatives ?? 09:08 The truth of the minority 011:07 A dangerous move 13:28 Who is pursuing? 15:22 I would never! Who would ever? 19:33 Is this really why you’re single? 20:45 Are you over-inflated? 23:40 The truth is high energy 28:00 Most people have fundamental...
Aug 10, 2025•1 hr 39 min
Welcome to Phase 2! The goal is high level self-development and high level relationships. Most people want it, only a few actually do it. But it's available to EVERYONE. In this episode I explain the framework we'll be working out of for the foreseeable future. Timestamps are approximate: 02:30 Regrouping from Phase 1 and years of this work 03:45 From business school to therapist school, shoutout to Dr. Erika Grafsky 08:30 Lunch with Marissa Layton in Atlanta 10:30 The broader relationship conve...
Jul 31, 2025•1 hr 39 min
The Season 12 Finale! Let's bring everything from these past few months together. I planned on going over just a few notes to wrap the season, but I was in the zone and we got a lot more out of this. Discussing the importance of bringing humanity and decency back to relationship conversations, while also making clear distinctions between high-value behavior and low-value behavior and the outcomes that come with the respective mindsets. Few keywords for the episode: -Two types of people in the wo...
Mar 28, 2025•1 hr 21 min•Season 12Ep. 10
We’ve had years of polarizing relationship content and we need to get clear on how to move forward. In this episode, we dive into the key differences between pro-social and anti-social people, exploring where these traits stem from—specifically the aspects of someone’s upbringing. We discuss the importance of aligning with pro-social individuals to foster positive change in relationships and families. References: https://www.statista.com/statistics/205097/percentage-of-poor-black-married-couple-...
Mar 11, 2025•1 hr 42 min•Season 12Ep. 9
Let me check myself, help you check yourself, and try to keep us balanced! In this episode, we're highlighting the issues of Radical Red Pill ideology, which is a response to problematic Radical Feminism ideology. Let's make an effort to stay sane, stay reasonable, see the value in both sides, and use critical thinking to make responsible decisions for ourselves and our relationships. Thank you for your support! Let's Work Together: Interest Form Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Insta...
Mar 04, 2025•55 min•Season 12Ep. 8
I think the whole episode is more interesting than just the Main Points! Here are the 5 Tips for Moving Forward with the Mission, 5 Markers of the Inferior Man, and everything else in between. Thank you for your support! Let's Work Together: Interest Form Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler...
Feb 26, 2025•1 hr 15 min•Season 12Ep. 7
This short episode is part of a longer episode (about 1 hour). I edited this down to my first 5 tips to help us stay focused as we move forward with this work. Thank you for your support! Let's Work Together: Interest Form Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler...
Feb 23, 2025•17 min
Western culture has emphasized work and de-valued relationships. The impact on women is significant. Women who want marriage and family are over-burdened and under-prepared for what relationships take to thrive. Let's talk about the issues. If you want solutions, join us at workshop Saturday, Feb. 22nd 2025: Industrious Woman Workshop: Register Thank you for your support! Let's Work Together: Interest Form Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtay...
Feb 19, 2025•28 min•Season 12Ep. 6
This season is about making clear distinctions between who is who. Who can progress forward with us and who is going in a different direction. Here are 5 Markers of the Inferior Man Thank you for your support! Let's Work Together: Interest Form Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler...
Feb 18, 2025•22 min
Last Call for Women! Examining social and cultural issues preventing women from getting the relationships they want. We're talking about the breakdown of the nuclear family, the echo chamber reinforcing faulty thinking, rejecting accountability, and cult-like thinking. The Industrious Woman Workshop - Saturday, February 22, 2025 from 11 AM - 1 PM EST Register: https://TaylorChandler.as.me/?appointmentType=73712513 Thank you for your support! Let's Work Together: Interest Form Website: https://ww...
Feb 03, 2025•1 hr 10 min•Season 12Ep. 5
-Overview of Marriage and Divorce Stats -Making sense of the Numbers -Why Black Women's Numbers Look Different From Everyone Else? -Body and Attitude Factors References: https://www.niddk.nih.gov/health-information/health-statistics/overweight-obesity https://blogs.cdc.gov/nchs/2024/03/15/7567/ https://www.census.gov/library/stories/2024/10/marriage-and-divorce.html https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4850739/#T1 Thank you for your support! Let's Work Together: Interest Form Website: https:...
Jan 27, 2025•1 hr 8 min•Season 12Ep. 4
Prioritizing Money over godly principles has put relationships in chaos - disordered and dysfunctional. Finances are seen as the root of stability rather than a solid family structure. Let’s discuss the spiritual issue of disordered relationships with money and how it impacts people, specifically women. Let’s work together: https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/teluZNqP Thank you for your support! Let's Work Together: Interest Form Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorc...
Jan 20, 2025•54 min•Season 12Ep. 3
Distinguish between Leading vs. Controlling vs. Condescending 4 Points about Leadership 4 Ways to Make Leadership Better Interested in working together 1-on-1: https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/teluZNqP Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamtaylorchandler/ Thank you for your support! Let's Work Together: Interest Form Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler...
Jan 14, 2025•1 hr 1 min•Season 12Ep. 2
Instead of New Promises in the New Year, I’m challenging you to BREAK old ones. Happy 2025! SUBSCRIBE TO YOUTUBE Thank you for your support! Let's Work Together: Interest Form Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler...
Jan 06, 2025•1 hr•Season 12Ep. 1
For women facing tough internal conflicts and for men who seek to understand women better. 01:50:00 Be Present 03:10:00 Balance Desire and Good Stewardship 03:42:00 Missed Opportunity 06:48:00 Continuous Progress 07:43:00 Michelle’s Review 09:05:00 Investing in Yourself is Attractive 11:44:00 What do I pray for? 16:41:00 Men & Your Accomplishments 21:13:00 Do I work on this or wait for better? 23:03:00 When the honeymoon ends Thank you for your support! Let's Work Together: Interest Form Web...
Oct 22, 2024•25 min•Season 11Ep. 10
An informal Q&A from my porch! Married Men Flirting, What is Cheating?, Bad Relationships with a Family Member, Do I Need to Change My Tone?, Open Relationships, She’s Great and I Don’t Trust It, Dating Outside Your Circle 01:16 Married Men Flirting 01:38 Micro-Cheating 04:40 Bad Relationship with Sibling 06:07 Should I Change My Tone? 14:36 My Husband Has A Problem With My Tone 21:14 Gaslighting with Calm Tone 24:44 Open Relationships 26:25 I Don’t Know How to Express Myself 27:43 She’s Gre...
Oct 15, 2024•36 min
Giving you tools you can begin using ASAP at The Attachment Workshop! Listen in to some questions sent in on Instagram Live. Workshop is Sunday, Oct. 13 at 11 AM EST or Monday, Oct. 14 @ 6 PM EST. You choose your day! 2 hour workshop for $15 (10% the price of a 1-on-1 session) Click here to Register Thank you for your support! Let's Work Together: Interest Form Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler...
Oct 08, 2024•15 min•Season 11Ep. 8
One of the most common pairs - the Anxious-Avoidant Couple. Here are 8 Points for you to work on if this has been your pattern in dating. If you are currently in this type of relationship, you will hear things you can your partner can work on together… with a therapist! 03:33 Anxious-Avoidant Pairing 05:03 I Was Anxious, Then Avoidant, Then Secure 07:32 Couple-Work 09:16 Boundaries 15:21 Attunememt 17:43 Distance 19:19 The End of Negotiations 22:26 Make Believe 23:34 All That Time Wasted 26:27 T...
Oct 01, 2024•30 min•Season 11Ep. 7
For single people who want to vet better! Ask THESE 5 questions to get a better idea of who you're dealing with and if they're worth your time. 5 Questions you NEED to Ask Before Date 3 05:51 Social Media is a circus 08:18 “I’d Rather Be Single” 18:21 What Are You Looking For? 20:15 Hedging Your Bet 24:52 Do You Want Kids? 31:04 First Class vs. Economy Dating 36:00 “I Want Kids, but Only with the Right Person” 37:36 When Did Your Last Relationship End? 40:51 How Did Your Last Relationship End? 4...
Sep 24, 2024•48 min•Season 11Ep. 6
Can Women and Men *really* be friends? Should you even have opposite-gender friends if you’re in a romantic relationship? 04:37 Will I do paid matchmaking? 07:02 Free Coaching and Free Therapy - Sessions will be made public (https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/pLCXjOMz) 08:46 Can women be friends with men? 17:13 Context, Nuance, and Rigidity 20:13 Context of Male Friendships 24:44 How I Think Women Should Handle Male Friends 33:17 Picking Up New Opposite-Gender Friends 41:23 You Look Like a Mark...
Jul 25, 2024•1 hr 7 min•Season 11Ep. 5
The last 5 questions from my Live Q&A 00:38 Communication Skills 06:30 “Should I date someone I’m not physically attracted to?” 10:10 Look Better 15:16 How does Taylor deal with negativity online? 18:38 How to deal with the condescending nature of the question “Who Hurt You?” 21:37 Navigating STI/STD conversations in dating? Thank you for your support! Let's Work Together: Interest Form Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler...
Jul 11, 2024•35 min•Season 11Ep. 4
Be sure to follow on Instagram @iamtaylorchandler to participate LIVE and submit questions! How to stay hopeful and optimistic while dating? Social Media Detox Get clear on your Values and what you want Being a Serious Person when Dating Physical Appearance - Show up Ready Serious Communication Know your Strengths and Weaknesses “I keep giving grace and they don’t give grace in return” “How much time to spend before commitment?” “How do I deal with a breakup?” Thank you for your support! Let's W...
Jul 04, 2024•34 min•Season 11Ep. 3
Manage the conflict between wanting a relationship while having fear of becoming too attached, or attached to the wrong person! At the end of the episode I give you 4 things you may want to consider when determining if the person you’re dating is worth the investment. 04:27 What does it mean to become “Attached”? 06:00 Your Attitude About Attachment 09:00 Fear of Becoming Dependent / Losing Yourself 09:41 Interdependency 10:57 Willing and Open 13:46 Comment: “Vulnerability and Attachment is seen...
Jun 27, 2024•27 min•Season 11Ep. 2
Let's Review! Attachment is a Major Key for Better Relationships Your Attachment Style helps you understand how you relate to others, what your triggers and blindspots are (and why), and gives you a map to what you Need to feel safe and happy. Everyone has either an Insecure style or a Secure style. Insecure Attachers struggle with maintaining healthy relationships due to excessive anxiety and/or avoidance. The goal is to Shift to Secure attachment where you can have solid, lasting relationships...
Jun 20, 2024•1 hr 11 min•Season 11Ep. 1
I see a clear rise in the number of women who say they are abstaining from physical intimacy. This can make dating difficult. I understand this personally! It makes it even MORE difficult when you’re not really being honest with yourself and/or others about WHY you’re abstaining. Here are some things to consider if you are dating while abstaining, and hopefully it is also helps men understand what questions to ask, where women are coming from in general, and how to navigate the conversation bett...
Apr 25, 2024•40 min•Season 10Ep. 9
Most people dating seem to be WAY more concerned with what they’re getting rather than what they can give! Everyone is in relationships to fulfill some kind of personal goal but it becomes selfish and toxic when you lose sight of how you can support and nourish the one you’re with. Today we’re talking about GIVING and RECIPROCATION. I’m highlighting 5 ways YOU can reciprocate in a relationship so you can check how well you’re doing with things you can directly control TODAY. References: Obesity ...
Apr 11, 2024•1 hr 23 min•Season 10Ep. 8
Manipulation Tactics - How to Spot Them and What to Do About It What is DARVO? DENY ATTACK REVERSE Effects of DARVO Resist DARVO References: https://www.choosingtherapy.com/darvo/ https://bayareacbtcenter.com/reverse-darvo-for-combating-gaslighting-and-emotional-abuse/#:~:text=What%20Is%20DARVO%3F,the%20blame%20onto%20their%20victims. Thank you for your support! Let's Work Together: Interest Form Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandle...
Mar 15, 2024•1 hr 20 min•Season 10Ep. 7
This episode is a conglomerate of a few topics! -There’s a difference between wanting a relationship and being Ready for a relationship. Your emotional availability makes all the difference. -Many women can function well on their own, but still don’t have the relationship they really want. Let’s talk about some of the things that need to change in order to set yourself up for the man you’re looking for. -Men can be giving out way too much of themselves to others in an effort to be helpful and pr...
Feb 23, 2024•1 hr 23 min•Season 10Ep. 6
