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Thoting And Plotting With Elsy

Jan 23, 202357 minSeason 3Ep. 12
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This week Rhianna and Adam are sitting down with Elsy, the charming and brilliant mind behind the sexual wellness company, Aroused Co. They tells us about their days as the president of the Pro-Hoe club, discovering their sexuality as a queer woman with a religious upbringing, and starting a sexual wellness brand by and for women.

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Bottle That Bitches is hosted by a horny Mary couple. Content may include adult language and themes. Check the description for more details. Your discretion is advised. It's season three. Welcome to Bottles Up Bitches, your favorite sex podcast with Me Rihanna Campbell and me producer Man Adam Rihanna. Are you ready for some hot topics and even hotter guests? Well, you know I am. Let's bucky do this? Say horny bitches? Kind I was waiting till you're

ready. Okay, you know, I'm sorry. I'm sorry. You go ahead, you quit. I'm not even here. I don't want to do it anymore. I don't want to. You can give the intro this time, Adam. I don't want you to pout. Okay, okay anymore. Well, you're not gonna get any ice cream tonight. I don't like that. Finally, duty do my neighborhood. How you doing? I'm doing great. I'm having a nice little night. I'm covered in. Well, we

have a lot of pets. I don't know if you know this. Sure, if you're living, if you're from our apartment complex, it's just two. Um No, I'm having a good night covered in fuzz more, you know or not. I'm having a good time. Yeah, it's a nice night. It's been a crisp November evening. It is. It's like, yeah, it's getting cool. But it felt good today. I walked for a little puppy and I felt like, actually pretty decent. It's in the fifties now. Yeah. Well, I as always am excited because we had

such a great conversation with a little Delight, a little Delight Um. I was so much fun speaking with Elsie from Aroused. Elsie is the CEO and founder of Aroused, which is a sexual wellness brand for Volva owners, and we learned so much about her and her background. She's originally from Honduras and has a religious upbringing, so it was really fun hearing all of her insights and her relationship with her faith but also having a sexual wellness brand because those

two don't typically correlate. Yeah, and even like her being queer, yeah, and like dealing with that as with the religious aspect of her life. Yeah, she had a lot of great insights and how to balance all these different things. So it was an awesome conversation to have. Yeah, and she was just such a lovely She's just like so positive and just happy. It was really nice to like, not that it's not nice, you know, not like any of our other guests have not been nice, but like

she just like she just had this like it fun. She just had this energy of just being excited. She brings the funk. And this I know we record. We do video record all of these interviews naturally through our recording provider. It just kind of happens, but we don't put those out. This is the one that I wish we did do that because she was so animated. Yeah, I wish people can see her the way she was doing close ups on our own camera, like putting her eyeball like to the camera,

like reacting to things and pantomiming smoking a blunt and fun things. So she's so much fun. I would love. That's someone that I would enjoy meeting in person, for sure. So we got to make our little way up to New Mexico to go and visit her and her girlfriend. Absolutely well, without further ado, I hope you enjoy this very intriguing episode with Elsie from Aroused Feather. Let the nerves roll off and then when it makes sense, that's where when we edit it. We'll start the episode from there.

Perfect. I think that's the best way because I'm like, oh my god, like what am I supposed to do? It's okay, Yeah, we want it to be very authentic. So we find doing it this way and you're not listening to like ten minutes of us like bantered introduce you, you know, introducing someone makes it so nerve wracking. Yes, he does, he does. I'm always like, oh my gosh, dude, Like, first of all, I don't I don't know what to do, like can I be myself you know like this? But thank you so much for having

me. I'm so grateful and I've been looking forward to this, so I'm really excited. Thank you so much. Guys. Absolutely have you done a podcast or any type of speaking event yet? Um? Not yet, but I mean no, okay, I haven't. Well, you know, there's our first time for everything. So we're happy to be the first to be your first. Always excited to be your first. Thank you. Thank you for taking my podcast Virginity away. Of course really might as well, so

tell us a little bit about you. You're originally from Honduras, is that correct? Yes? And I'm partaking is it a twisted tea. Oh I don't know what that is. It's a vodka seltzer with real juice. Oh no, gonna fake juice. Okay, okay, this is the real juice. Okay. My friend my birthday was a month like a little bit over a month ago, and he brought these for my birthday and is still in the fridge. So I'm like, if they're partaking, I gotta partake,

you know what I mean? Absolutely? I love it. Well, happy belated birthday. Thank you, thank you so much. I did hear your birth You were a Libra. I'm a September libra. You in October libra? Or you a scorpio. I'm a scorpio. I love that. We love scorpios. Thank you, thank you. I'm glad. I'm not getting all that hey that I usually get when I tell people I'm a scorpio. They're like, oh my god, what And I'm like, it's fine,

I'm good. It's not that serious. I learned. Um. We have an episode coming out on Monday, and we did a sextrology reading with a sex wellness educator and astrologer and she breaks down, like all of our houses and my mars is in scorpio, and your mars is like your sex personality essentially. So I learned that I have some scorpio in me. Oh, I know, I know. I'm excited for that. Do you follow any astrology? Do you believe in any of that or is it just me?

No? I well, I believe in astrology. But the thing is, I haven't educated myself as as I should, but I do know. It's related to the cycles of life. You know, everything is a cycle. So the way the moon rotates, the way the starts rotate, everything is a cycle. So there is some truth in astrology. I just haven't educated myself as much, but I do. I love, you know, reading my song, my moon, my ri scene. I love learning about it. So I'm always open. I don't know a smart though. That's kind

of where I'm at. I don't know everything, but I try it to me. It helps me learn about myself and how I can process things better. Yes, yes, as it should, I say, should you know? Because I don't know? Let me stop. We feel fine. Feel free to elaborate as much as you want. But I did interrupt you. So tell me what you're originally from? Honduras? Yes, yes, yes, so um, a little background about myself. How much background do you want? Because you know I can go all the ways? Do you do

you you let us know we're here. We're here to learn about who you are. Yeah, thank you, Thank you guys, thank you. I already feel very special. Um. Well, my name is Elsie. I was born and raising Honduras. Um. But I move out here to the United States to pursue a college degree. And I grew up in a really not really, but I grew up in I went to a Christian school from pre K to twelfth. My first language in Spanish, but you know, I learned English a bi lingual school, and then I went to an Episcopal

church growing up. So it was a lot of you know, Jesus everywhere in my house, which you know, it's cool because I've always I've always had a relationship with God. I've always put God as the fourth front, like at the front for fende of my life, you know, So it was cool or whatever. But I always struggle with the fear based Christianity that was pushed into us in my college or in my high school, and you

know, and then at my church and stuff. So that was always like kind of weird for me, I didn't really have I learned about sex at my sex education class in school, and I also learned not by choice. I was sexually abused at a young age, so I had to learn the wrong way, you know, which sucks. But that's how I learned about sex growing off, and I had a lot of trauma around the topic, a lot of sexual trauma when it comes you know, a lot of sexual

trauma due to what happened to me as a as a kid. And I don't know if you guys are aware of this, but I think seven out of ten people have had some type of sexual trauma. Interesting. So when I learned that, I was like, what, dude, it's crazy that. Of course we don't talk about it, you know, because we are ashamed and we don't really want to talk about what happened to us as kids. But I think once you heal that part of yourself, it's really important.

If you're comfortable with sharing, it's important to share that with other people so people can find their voice and feel empower So that's why I always like to start by that. Um. I went to New Mexico State, Go Aggies. I don't know you guys, know that school, but that's where I went to school, and I started exploring my sexuality, you know, when I was in school because I realized I was popping you feel me like

I will get attention. And I was like, oh shit, okay, I guess this is what it is to be in college, you know. So I became the president of the Pro Ho Club. Pro Ho. I love that it is what it sounds like. Is it like a sex empowerment club. It's not a club. I kind of make it. I was like, yeah, she's got people, she's got a group. I thought y'all were out there putting flyers up. Come join the Come join the club. That's so funny. No, I always say that. I'm like,

you know, I was the president of the Pro Bowl Club. That was never a thing. It was just in my head. And you know, me and my friends were kind of out there just holding around thloughting and plotting me kind o things. Yes, yes, um, And I was just I was just out there, honestly, just fucking if I'm being honest. But I would always be very insecure about you know, my not my body, but I was really insecure about my skills because I didn't have practice,

and I always, honestly, I would never really enjoy it. I was like, this is supposed to feel good, but it doesn't feel good. Come to find out, I was queer, you know, And but I was just having sex with all these men because of you know, compulsitory header s tuality. You know. I was pushed to like men, but I was never enjoying sex with men because I was never attracted to And I was like, oh my god, that's why that whole thing was a whole mess. Man. I'm like, dude, I was so unhinged, like why

would I do that? You know? But I had to learn that, and I learned that by being by self awareness. And this is where the actual story of my brand begins, because throughout my life, I've experienced a lot of like chronic mental mental not illness. But I was really really I was. I was going through a really severe case of depression. I could not I could diagnosed with a heart condition at a like seven years ago,

I think eight years ago. I'm twenty eight now. But when I was twenty, I got diagnosed with a heart condition that had me I was really depressed because I had to switch my life. I had to adjust to medication. I kind of I lost my volleyball scholarship. I forgot to tell you guys, I move out here because I had an athletic scholarship. But I lost my scholarship. So that really it took all over my life, my

body. I was really depressed. I got so depressed that I tried to commit suicide in a way, yes, yes, but I didn't do it. I didn't do that. I didn't. It was more indirectly, Like indirectly, I stopped taking my medication because some voice in my head was telling me that I was healthy, I was good to go, I was good. But come to find out, I was just depressed. I was just really unhinged. So after that, I decided to seek therapy and to seek help because I was like, dude, I need I need to fix whatever

it's going on in this head. So I went through therapy really young, but as a new being therapy. I don't know if you guys are from melee with therapy, but when you go for the first time, you aren't scared of being yourself because you don't want to feel jaws about your Sure, it definitely takes time to open up to a complete stranger about things you literally don't want to talk about exactly exactly, Like like I was going to therapy and I was like, damn dude, like should I be myself? You

know? I was like like can I tell you my secrets? Like are you gonna think I'm crazy? So that was my first time, Like I think it was like over eight years ago. That was my first time in therapy. It was cool, but I kind of quit. I was like, no, I don't need this shit. You know, I'm good man, Like, let me just do this thing. Three years ago actually today, and I just had a little ceremony my grandma passed away. So I was I was going through another depression, you know episode. And not only

that, I was also dealing with my sexuality. I'm like I don't know what to do, Like I'm having these feelings towards women, but I'm also a shame. I'm also embarrassed. I'm also this is not me, you know what I mean. Once again, going back to all those that like, I want to say that like mental brainwash, that growing up in a religion right you know us to you and yes, in no shape to any to Christianity because I always I always say, I love God, you know,

like I always I my relationship with God is extremely important. But I realize that the way they do religion is very, very dangerous because they brainwash your brain. They brainwash your mind by telling you you're a sinner, you're a sinner, you're a sinner, and you start believing those things. As humans, we don't know what to believe. As kids, we don't know what to believe. So when somebody's telling us you're a sinner, you're a

sinner, we literally believe we're sinners. So that's when I have a problem with religion. But you know, hey, I digress. That's organized religion. It's tough, and we've talked a little bit about it, and we're not afraid to get political or religious in any way because it all boils down and it all still relates to sex and sexuality because we're taught to, like

you said, be ashamed of our bodies. The way they approach sex can be very negative because it is very much like you're only allowed to you know, whether it's having sex after marriage or even that. It's like almost Catholicism. Catholicism is traditionally you're not allowed to use protection because sex is only used

to have babies. So like there's just all these different things that people are raised with and it could be so damaging, and especially if you're part of the LGBTQ community, like and then it's even more confusing and it gets even more shameful, and it's it's tough. So having any type of spiral or

a tough mental capacity for it is completely understandable. Yeah, I mean there's definitely like a separate a difference between faith and church for sure, and they're great like I also, you know, they're for sure great churches out there that are like we love everyone and we don't want to shame and like there are all those but but for sure like yeah, stealing, fear ism and

tactic. And we're from Texas, so we completely understand. Uh, you know the religious aspect, you know, having no rights, you know, all those cute things, cute girly things. Know what part of Texas? Do you guys live in Austin? Oh? Oh yes, my godparents live in Texas. So I was there for well, I was there last year for like a month and a half and I was just there in September, and I was just very because I I'm based in New Mexico for now and

here, um, whit is legal, you know. I was trying to go to like a dispensary in Texas and then my girl, we're girl girls, No, we're in Texas. Did you go Houston? That's where I'm from. I'm from Houston. And then Adams from the Dallas area, so we're we're And then like I have family in El Paso, and then um, so we're we We've lived in lots of different Texas areas where Native Texans, so we understand the being repressed for sure. Yeah. I was like, you an got weird. I gotta go. I have to go.

Oh you, I can't be here, like physically, my body wouldn't allow me to live here, you know. But I love I love Houston though, I really really like Houston. But we'll see why we love Houston. We're hoping big proponents of Houston. We love Houston. Um, this is so much fun. I'm learning so much about you because I now I have all these questions around, like so you had this religious upbringing and then you find out you're queer, and I'm like, well, where does where does

uh aroused fit into all? This, what was the inspiration? And you know what, we're well, how has your family feel about it? That's only spiraling questions. So tell our listeners about arouse, what it is and what you do. Yeah, most definitely, most definitely, and once again, thank you so much for the invite. I am so grateful. So how did I How did I? How did I start aroused? So going back to my mental health and my mental health journey, UM, I decided

to go back to therapy. But this time around, I was like, okay, you know why, let me show up as my full authentic self. You know. So when I went to therapy the second time, I was there just to write my wrongs, you know, accept my faults and just kind of free my mind from the delusions of the world and to heal and to stop suffering. Okay, So my therapists advised me. She said, oh, maybe you should start meditating. And I was like, girl,

what is that? You know? And then she's like, just start meditating, just focus on your breathing and I and this was three years ago, and I was like, sure, you know, let me try it. So whenever I started meditating three years ago, I would always have a mantra of whatever comes to my brain, it has to go, it has to go. So I would always be like, Okay, everything that comes, Oh I'm hungry, it's a thought. Oh I'm horny, it's a thought. Oh I'm gay, it's a thought. Oh my mama, my

mom is gonna get mad at me. It's a thought. Everything was a thought. That's how I started meditating. And then as I started growing in my meditation practice, she would I started reading more about like mindfulness, what comes with like meditating, what comes with being mindful? And then I found out about affirmations, and I started reading about I found out about affirmations on you know, social media, and I was like, oh, what are

affirmations. I thought it was just like a trending topic from the internet, you know. I was like, okay, this is trending, what's up? You know? So I started reading about affirmations and then I did my own in depth research and come to find out affirmations are related to neuroscience, and neuroscience is the start of the brain, the spinal cord and your peripheral nervous system, and how you repeating positive things can actually reprogram Like there's chemicals

in your brain. That can reprogram your brain to think positively by repeating positive things. That's when I say religion can be very dangerous because if you repeat positive things to yourself, then you start thinking positive. And that's how I started my affirmations journey. And I say this because an important part of my brand, my sexual work wellness brand, is we try to implement and teach people about affirmations, especially especially and we focus on sexual sexual healing affirmations.

What does that mean? That means repeating that you are a sexual person, I am a sexual person, I am healed from sexual trauma. We try to implement these even on our boxes. If you look on our packaging, we do have sexual healing affirmations all around because I do want to teach people about affirmations because a lot of people don't know that everything they need to heal and to unfund themselves from all these polluted air is just your rain, right.

That's how a Rouse started because I wanted to implement affirmations and I also wanted to implement female focus sexual education. And I also of course wanted to implement clitorial products because my brand and just a disclaimer my brand, I support all the different I want to say, all the different sexualities, and I support all the different genders, non binary, you know, if you identify

as women, if you're identified whatever you identify as. I supported my brand, though it is focused on people with vaginas and or people that identify as women, because we only sell clittorial products. Because yes, yes, I had, I had. I have a lot of religious friends, like really religious. I'm not gonna say yes, you know. I'm like, look, if any name slipped out, he bleeps them out. Please, okay. I don't want to want to protect everyone's privacy. Yeah, we're out

anyone, Thank you, thank you, thank you. I appreciate it. Um Jokingly, I texted her and I was like, oh, happy orgasm day. Come to find out a year later, she was like, girl, I had my first orgasm. My god at toy And I was like, what the fuck? Haven't you been married for four years? My girl? And she's like, yeah, you know, but I just had my first orgasm. And that's when I lost my mind. Right, I'm like,

how haven't you been married for four years? But oftentimes, as gracy as this sounds, this happens more often in hetero sexual relationship and I have a study that shows that it's more common to see that in heterosexual relationships, where women cannot really assert and express their sexual needs because they're kind of like afraid to hurt their men's ego or whatever their partner's ego. So that's that was one of the roots that was, like my muse, I was motivated

by my friends ability to not express what she wanted in bed. I was like, what the fuck? Yeah, you know what's shame, it's that shame. And then like you said, like you don't want to hurt someone's feelings. And it's not like we're ever taught how to orgasm. I mean, boys are taught. It's depicted, whether it's in movies, it's depicted everywhere. Guys know how to stroke it. But like we're not taught. We're not taught shit, Like I don't you know even if you're watching like

shitty poor and it's all about penetration, and what is it. I think only like twenty percent of women. It's like super low that women achieve orgasm through penetration and U I mean, and I'm very similar. We were together for four years and we were already married, and I had my orgasm after we were married. So I was like, I put a lot of faith in him. I was like, it'll happen eventually, we'll figure it out. But I had to get a toy. I figured out I need to

get a toy. I figured out how to use it and yeah, and then that's when I was like, Okay, now I know what I mean. Now I know I'm a clotoral comer, and now he knows this, and now he is able to even you know, you can perform and help me achieve an orgasm without a toy because you know what I need. Now if I don't know how am I going to tell him? You know? I think everyone should just go down on each other more often and be like

is this good? It's not good? Like y'all just everyone should just feel around everyone, whether you are a vola owner owner or you have a sack. I think we should all just go down on each other more and just be like, is this good? Is it's nice? Like for science or ahead for scy for science, please please just try it. Just try it. And it's crazy because a lot of people don't know that the clittering is is so powerful, right, Like you know, a lot of people don't

know that stroke that click for five seconds and you'll see what happened. Yeah you know, you don't even got to put in work baby, Okay, yeah. Absolutely. And then I also read something recently and it was and I'm paraphrasing every every statistic I read, I'm like paraphrasing. Uh. It was something along the lines of women need like fifteen minutes of poor play typically as well. So there's just a lot of warming up. You got to preheat the oven, you know. Facts. That's it. That's it.

I love that. I love that. So starting your business, so starting aroused if you're learning all these things like what what was the light bulb moment of like, Okay, I'm going to start a brand and focus on clatorial toys. Um so I was high, Yes, we support where to be signed. That's that's it. That's all. So me and my friend were smoking weed and then I was like, I want to help people somehow and I want to serve people, but I don't know how I want to start

a business. You know, for our listeners, I do. I do want to make it clear that Elsie, while telling this story, is that is bunt is mining a blunt imaginary mining blunt that's happening right now and it's cool, white fun. Listen, listen. I I whenever I before coming into the podcast, I was meditating and praying, and I was like, I just want to be myself because I just that's all I can be, you know, and this is what I will perfect. I love it.

You're really setting the scene for us. It's like we were there. We're practically co founders at this point. Thank you, guys, thank you. But yeah, I was just, you know, just doing my thing with my friend and then, um, Originally the name of our brand, or the name of my brand was gonna be succulents, succulents, and I was gonna sell toys that had the shape of a succulent growth. Yes, yes, But then when I was doing I was contacting manufacturers and suppliers. I

couldn't find any toys that had the shape of a succulent okay. So I was like, Okay, well let's see, let's see. Let's let's just go back to the throwing board. So I went back and I was like and then she told me what about a rouse? And I'm like, oh, tell me more. And then we looked up the definition of a rouse to awaken and to stimulate, and I'm like, oh, tell me more, girl. And then then then she was like yeah, a rouse and I'm like okay. And then I hired a Bronco sultan and then he helped

me with the branding and then that's how everything. Everything just came out very naturally, and that's how everything started. Hey, beautiful bitches, have you heard of our Patreon yet? This is a really great exclusive place where you can get two bonus odes a month, monthly live streams, a private discord to chat with us, and all kinds of bonuses and extras. You don't want to miss it, so head over to Patreon, or you can click the link in a description. You can even head to our website at www

dot cricket bunnymedia dot com and click the Bottled Up Bitches icon. Join our Patreon, join the fun, and enjoy all the exclusive benefits to become a very important bitch. I know one of your questions was does your family Yeah, you know what I mean. My mom does not know, my dad knows to have an adult business. My brother is full on board. He's like, you should hit up this person. You should hit up this person, you should hit up this other person. And then like my cousins and

my aunts and my uncle's they're like, honestly, they don't care. They're like, girl, you're always doing your thing. The only question they ask is how are you going to tell your mom? Because they know how my mom is. And I'm like, boy, I don't know how I'm gonna tell my mom. She'll find out, Okay, I don't know, Like I don't think about that, you know. Yeah, good for you because

you know doing this show. My parents both know what we do, like what this show is, and they're very like supportive, but they're also like, we're not gonna tell any of your family about it. Yes, a lot of his family thinks he still has a job that he hasn't worked out for over a year. Yeah, so I'm very like he lost his job

because of this pod. Yes, So like, good for you for at least from what that last bit of the sentence, it seems like you're able to kind of like let it roll off your back a little, that you're like not too worried about your parents like knowing what you do. Yeah, honestly, I am. I don't know why. I'm just not worried about it. I'm like, dude, that's like the last last thing I'm worried about, you know, Like what they're gonna do? You know? Are

they gonna mooove my ass? Like I'm grow you know, And this is me being sassy. I'm like, what are you gonna do? You're gonna get a phone call after this gets released from from a family member like, little do you know? We will whip your ass. But the thing is is, it's so you did an incredible job with your team, because you know, there's I don't think there's necessarily a wrong way to have um an adult business, but there are ways to do it in a very tasteful way,

and that is what you're doing. So your website is gorgeous, That's what would really may be excited. When I found your brand, was like, I just love how empowering it is. When I told Adam who you were, he was like, oh, okay, so we're having someone who like owns a toy brand. I'm like, it's not just that, Like it's very women focused. It's really pretty. I pulled up the website. I was like, she's got fucking stats on here. This is a wellness,

like it's it's wellness. It's more than just selling a sex toy. This is this is this is sexual wellness. Well I was gonna say, yeah, it's and I love it. And I know obviously, like you

got to pay your bills. So like, selling the product is an important part, but the website itself, almost in a very good way, almost feels like the product is the second aspect, where like you go to the website, it's like we're here for women, and we're here for like educating about women empowerment of winning, and then we also sell toys for them, Like which is it means that in the highest compliment, Yeah, I think, and that's what I want. That's what I want. That's why it

feels so good. And he's so reassuring to me that I mean the right path because I already told everybody I am gonna be or I am not gonna be. I am a successful entrepreneur. You guys invited me to this. I'm already I am already stepping into my power or being like you know what, let's get this. Okay, let's get it, let's do it. Okay, I'm nervous, but let's get it. So I'm so grateful, Thank you so much, guys. And that's what I wanted to transmit to

people. I'm like, listen, like we're here to empower women unapologetically. Okay, like stop, like we're done with whatever we used to do back in the day. Like if you want to fox this fuck yes, get it. Yes. I like how surprised you are by that, Like you're stepping into your power, but you should because it is it is a You are creating a brand. You're not a product. You're a brand. And that is what I see and everything that you do, and that's what made

me super excited to talk to you. And then when I did go on the website and I this is the thing. I have a rose. We're talking at Amazon, you know road the big trend was like what twenty twenty, you know, COVID times where everyone was wanting a rose. So I got one on Amazon and I hate it. I was like, this is awful. So when I looked at yours, I realized what was different about it in regards to just like how shitty mine is. Mine is flat. The top of it is entirely flat. So I was like who, and

I'm all let's be clear. I'm all labia, So I'm like, I'm gonna have my lips have to like straddle this entire thing to get to micheltorus. Like. I was like, this is ridiculous. It does nothing for me. I feel like, yeah, it is a chore using that thing. But I looked at yours and I was like, oh. I was like, mine sucks, So mine's cheap and suck, so yours is like it has like layers and divots. So I'm like, oh, you don't have to spread eagle all your genitals to get to the sucker incredible, so

yours is quality. I was like, Okay, I was like, this has made really well. I can see the difference. I'm zooming in on the website and I'm like, m this is what I need. So I will replacing my order because now I see, like what is different about because I'm like, I have a rose, i don't need another one. But I'm like, and I don't like it, but I'm like, oh no, this one's completely different. It is very detailed and the way it's made and it looks comfortable, like let's sit on that. You know, thank

you so much for that means a lot. And I'm not saying these because it's my business, but the people that buy from me, they really like it. Like all my customers and all my ambassadors are so hype, like I know it's gonna be a successful business, and I know it's successful when somebody reaches out to me to become an ambassador, like I had these. Lady she's coach from I want to say, why Yoming, I don't remember, and she's like, dude, let's do it, let's do it,

let's do it. And I feel like another thing that is very special on my brand that there's not a lot of black owned, women owned sexual wellness brand, so a lot of black women that I'm reaching out are really they're really supportive. They're like, oh, Sis, let's go Sis, And I'm like, let's go, Sis, Like what's up? You know?

I feel that. So it's really really I get this. I get the same way because I'm Latina, So anytime I see anything that is ladin owned, Yeah, any type of BIPOC community, any type of BIPOC community, I'm like, absolutely, let's get this, let's go, Like we need to rise up, we need to do more things. So I feel it.

Yes, I feel it. I'm like, we need to be empowering each other, but especially in this community where things are just in general tougher and there are just so many different aspects that other people don't have to consider. I'm all on board and all for it. So I get it. Thank you, thank you. And that's another market that I'm also trying to reach, like you know, as a Latina women, you know, I

also want to reach my Latino my Latino brothers and sisters. Um. It's just since I'm you know, in the face of like getting started, I'm still not able to ship internationally, but I want to ship internationally, like that's like a thing for sure. I'm like, I have to ship back to my country. Like this sounds crazy, you know. So thank you so much for your support and I'm so excited we are connecting. I'm a cloud now right now. I'm like, oh my gosh, dude, Like

it's all it's all networking and this industry it's so much fun. It's it's really like the sex community and industry is so niche and everyone is out here trying to speak and be seen and be heard. And so when you can do that amongst people like minded people in such a almost like shrowned upon kind of shamed way. It's just like there's no negativity. There's no negativity in

this kind of industry because we're all out here fighting for our lives. Okay, okay, we're all out here trying to make it okay, yeah, and we can all win. I think that's something that people don't understand, is like we can all win, we can all uplift each other, we can all be part of something. We don't have to work against each other. We can all be successful exactly exactly. And I'm so glad you have that mindset, because the little people don't. But I'm so glad you have

this mindset off. You know, we can all share the law baby, Okay, like we can all be here together. So that makes me really exciting business and networking. I'm polyamorous. You know, we can all share. I'm here for it. I love that. I love that I was able to read your blog and he was so so interesting. I love first of all, I love how you ride. You know, it was very engaging. I'm like, oh wait, why so she used to sneak around. Oh, her parents were at work, Okay, she was holding around.

What was it the hope that the pro Ho? I was also a part of the pro Ho club. Little did I know in my high school days. Thank you for reading the blog. It's super new. I'm very excited because, yeah that's only been out for like two weeks. Thank you for reading it. Oh, I love it. I am a fan, trust me. Like. One another thing I wanted to compliment you on is your voice. You have a podcast voice. Okay, I've been getting that a lot lately, and I was like, I always think of my voice

as very high pitch and can be kind of screechy. So I remember one time someone at a place we used to work, they met me one time. Oh I'm talking you know, I'm talking about It's funny. The place that he got fired from. I got fired first a few months prior, and we worked together. We've been together for almost eight years, and probably four out of the eight years we've worked together, he's the most reliable and credible, hard working person. So you know, when you work somewhere they're

like, who do you know that can do this? I'm like, I know someone, but it's my husband or my boyfriend. UM. So that's how we are with each other. But uh yeah, someone met me and that I left, and so they complained about me to someone of his employees, being like, she has an annoying voice, and I was like, okay, cool this person you got, you got the runoff for her hatred of me. But so I appreciate you enjoying my podcast voice. Thank you.

I love it. I love it. I'm like, oh, yes, this is her baby, Okay, this is her So I love it, and yeah, thank you for reading the blog. I'm very excited to share more stories about my hoeing years because it keeps going. There's there's so much to it. High school. High school was my entire free flag time period. I started dating him when I was nineteen, so got so gotcha, Oh you had your college years and now I don't know, are you in a relationship. Yes, I have a go with um. Yeah,

she's she's all on board, like one hundred percent. Ever since we've been dating for a year and a month. Oh, anniversary a year and a month. And the day we met, I told her I have a business coming in. I'm Elsie. I'm a Scorpio and I have a business. I'm Elsie. I'm a scorpio and I don't play about my business. Hey period, okay. And ever since then, she's been super supportive. She is always listening to how busy I get, how stress I get. You

know, she is the most beautiful, nicest. I'm in love with her, so I can't just go off. Oh good, well, if you don't mind me asking, how's the sex. Oh, it's really good, It's really good. She We do struggle sometimes because I'll be tired, you know. So she I think she's more, she won to have more sex than me, and I'm just like, baby, I'm tired. Do you not see me? I'm stress girl, Like I'm always like I told her as a since you're dating a CEO, like we gotta plan sex babes like

we have to. And she's not for that. But I'm oh, I like the kittie, the bag. He's part of the conversation. He's very he's very excited to hear about your love life, invested. Oh my, oh my god. He's good. Okay, okay, but he's so cute is Banjo. He's here at the party, very Texas. I love that. I love that. I love you guys as kitty. But um, so when he comes to sex, she wants to have sex more often. She'll probably send to these podcasts. Sorry, but I love having sex with

her. I love making love too. But the thing is I and I am not a night person. I go to bed early, you know, And she's trying to have She's trying to fuck like during the weekdays, and I'm like, girl, I gotta work tomorrow. Like, I'm not trying to do this. Let's do it. Not the weakest. Let's plan sex.

And she's like, who wants to plan sex? And I'm like, we can make it spontaneous, we can make it cute, we can make it kinky, we can send each other text messages, and then they the night we're having sex, boom, let's let's do it, you know. So yeah, that's that's something we struggle sometimes because I'm tired and she's like, oh, let's get it, let's get it. But sex is really good, like when we make love, like we're going to concooning January January

January VIARDA, Oh my god, that is so exciting. Vacations in January is the time. Okay, Oh, I'm so excited. I'm like, I got some gifts for her. I'm like, oh, you're gonna love this, Okay. I love a good vacation the toys. It's always a nice vacation when you can bring your toys along. You're like, we're gonna have dedicated time. But planning sex is good. I know, Yeah,

go ahead. I was just gonna say, I have, like I heard at this point, multiple couples have been married or together for years that swear by planning sex. And I think planning sex is completely underrated because we're very similar where I think Rihanna wants to have sex more often than me for like a very similar reason. Like I think we've talked about it on this show, like we're good at like daytime sex. I'm good at Like I enjoyed daytime sex. But man, once it HiT's nine o'clock, I'm like,

you want to do what I'm sleepy love. I love sleepy sex. Though. When I do edibles and I smoke weed and I get sleepy, I'm like, touched me everywhere, and he's like, I don't want you near me. I don't want you near me when I'm high, and I'm like, I need you on top of me and I want to smother a little bit. Um So I love, sleepy time, sex. I take that melotonin. My melotonin got me and I'll like give it to me. That's so I can no way for my girlfriend to listen. I'm so for it.

She's gonna be like, babe, you need what and I'm I'm sorry. Yeah, y'all should schedule sex. Schedule sex, you know, and you know what in case you know, close your I don't know her name, but close your ears. Maybe you should schedule the sex and her not no make I think you know, put it in your calendar, have it in your mindset. Okay, today it's happening. We're gonna have sex. She doesn't like I'll initiate, so she thinks that this is spontaneous. But

like, I've made it out. You know, I ate right, I feel good I had it. Or we had an early dinner so we have lots of night time, you know whatever that looks like, you know, but you mentally knowing, Okay, I'm gonna plan it. It's gonna happen on Thursday, you know, just so you're mentally like, not there, you're not tired. You've you've done that planning for yourself, since you're the one that needs that time. Scheduled out. Just don't tell her I love

too. It's not lying when it's omitting. Your relationship should be built on lies. I've been planning it for years. You had no idea. I love that. I will definitely implement that from that one, I promise. I actually will email you when that Yeah, I want to hear about it. Yeah, just then a follow up email telling us all about the good time of it. But it is, gosh, eight years together, and

yeah, we have to plan that out. And he's been on some crazy schedules working like what he used to work ten hour days, four days a week, and our work ten hour days, four days a week. Now you that hasn't changed. Yeah, but you have to kind of schedule it out, and it kind of it does suck a little bit of intimacy out in the beginning, but you just kind of get used to it and learn.

I don't like you said, it's a mindset thing, and my mindset was really negative about it, and I was like, this is not spontaneous, it's not romantic. I don't want to you know, it feels like an obligation. But I just kind of changed my mindset of like, no, like this is great that we're prioritizing it by putting it on the calendars and on the books, and we're making the time and investing in ourselves by planning it out. I love that, and I love how you said that,

because that's how I, you know, how I failed. I'm like, I feel like, if you want this to happen, I think we should put it on the calendar. You know. Yeah, next time she says something about it, say check your attitude, then get slapped, yeah, and then have makeup sex. You know, I haven't had makeup sex just yet because for the I don't know. I just and she can tell you, like for me, she gets mad at me a lot. I know why. I don't know why, you know, Like I wonder why

you know, and I'm like, being, why are you mad? I'll see us you and I'm like, don't be mad. I'm not mad, you know, it's just it's funny. It's not funny dynamic because she'd be mad and I'm like, why are you mad at me? You know? So we haven't had makeup sex deals yet, but I'm hoping one day, you know, maybe I'll just be that toxic girlfriend make her mad and then we can fuck. I'm just kidding. I'm kidding, mad No, I

I completely understand. But I'm excited for you guys though, to you know, a year is really exciting, especially in this day and age, and to have a business. Not sure, she's really busy too, Like, so there's a lot of work into being the CEO. There's a lot of work in being the CEO's girlfriend. Like that is. It's a balance when you are with someone that's constantly going and you're also going, and you have to balance the two. So it's a lot of work that y'a are both

putting in and prioritizing. So it's really important. So I'm proud of y'all. Thank you, Rianna, thank you. I appreciate it, guys, seriously, I do. Yeah, of course, So New Mexico. His family's going to New Mexico today, so yeah, there might be on their way, though I don't know they're on the way to your house right now, what part they're they're going to know, they're going to Roswell tonight. They're driving to Roswell tonight and then they'll eventually make their way to Santa Fe.

Oh okay. I live in Albuquerque in the like the big girl city. But it's not that big. Sure, I've never been to New Mexico. Now, I've always wanted to go. Oh it's beautiful. That's if you love it's so beauty, if you love nature, if you love hiking, if you love being outdoors, this is the place where you k it is cold. You just talked to me out of this with that entire description. Just kidding. No, it sounds beautiful, And I've always wanted to

h always wanted to visit and see. We've done like the forest, We've done, like the Pacific Northwest, We've done, the oceans. We've done all that. We've never done like a arid desert style environment. We've been to Nevada, but that was just Vegas. That sucked. Yeah, yeah, it wasn't fun. Uh oh yeah, we'll have Well, you guys are more than welcome to Yeah. Sure, uh huh. We'll have to check it out. And I'll ask you for the list of the sites to

check out. But just to follow back up on some one thing you brought up, you absolutely, at some point in time you to get an investor for succulent succulents by aroused. I am here for it. Make that shit, make that ship, be the first, be the mold. Like you can be the manufacturer, you can be the wholesaler. Succulents by Aroused. I can see it in lights. It's in green sponsored by bottled up by. I don't know you're giving these ideas out for free in this economy,

Like you need to pattent that ship. You need to go go copyright. That ain't real quick after this episode, you right, you right, I'm like, but you know what, I've found out A lot of people have ideas, but they never followed through. So that's why I'm worried. But I'm not that worried because it's hard. It takes courage to follow your joy, and a lot of people don't do it, you know. So I'm

so proud of you guys for pursuing your podcast. Seriously, a lot of people want a podcast, but they're like, oh, it's a lot of work, la la about you guys are doing the work. You're doing the lord's work. That's a crazy yeah. Usually people say we're doing the devil's work, the devil's work. No, no, no, no, no oh. I appreciate that. That's a little more positive. I love it. We're having a good time. We're approaching our one year anniversary, so

it'll be a year in December, so that's really fun. And uh, we got our I checked all of our stats today. The Spotify rapped came out, so like every podcasters posting their Spotify wrapped right now. Um, yeah, lots of fun stuff. Our top five countries are the US, India because it's like twenty five percent twenty or twenty five percent of our listener basis in India, Canada, Australia, New Zealand. Those are our top five countries. So oh cool. I love I love India and culture when

it comes to like Hinduism. I love learning about Eastern religious like Buddhism and Hinduism. In my roommate for two years, she's from She was born in India and then she moved here when she was I think three, and I was able to learn a lot about her culture. I'm actually reading a book it's called The Science of Self Realization by this profit not profit but like a monk from the Hinduism religion. So I love everything about India in the food

too. Oh yeah, we're having a good time. Well, we're gonna put all the all your information in our description. But where would you like people to find you? Oh, okay, find me only fans. Don't find me an only fans. Okay, do not not not yet, just kidding um. Find me on a rousecode on Instagram, and then if you want to check out my website, you can find me on a rousecode dot com. And if you want to find me on TikTok, find me on a rouse company. Oh fine, we love a tiki talk. We started

one. I think I posted two video so hard. It's scary and hard. I'm not out here trying to like, like, I can't, it's so much. I posted a video and it was a trailer of one of our episodes, and I drew stick figures of us because I didn't want to be on camera. Oh my god. Honestly, tiktoki is hard. But that's where's that. Like my my digital marketer, she's been asking me to create content and I'm like, oh I will, I just I just can't.

But I'm trying. That's vulnerable, starting a business, having a podcast, these things are things. But like being frequent on a TikTok, I don't know how people do it. That is a different type of confidence that I don't have, Like I'm not here for that. I just I cannot. I can barely post a photo of myself, let alone videos with me dancing with sounds and trends and captions and such. It's hard. It's hard, honestly, Like whenever she asked me to create some videos like using the

toys or not, we want that only fans only, fans only. Okay, okay, here, your digital marker is gonna call you like, great idea. I loved it, go for it right now. I'm like, Okay, maybe I can't. We'll see what happens. Confidence confidence, key, No, I swear, Like there's some videos of me, like,

you know, showing the toys, and I get so nervous. Like my girlfriend's like, she's like, because I was telling her, I'm a little nervous about the podcast today tonight, like I just don't want to sound like, you know, like silly or anything. And she's like, oh, baby, you'll be fine, Like don't you see those videos of you on your page? And I'm like, it's my fours. You don't see the

gun to my head on the other side of the camera. Yeah, I'm freaking now like I am not doing okay, Like I'm doing that because I have a business. But trust me, nobody would like even on my personal Instagram, I don't post. I haven't post. I haven't posted on my personal Instagram for like a year. Like I don't post, I don't do anything because I don't like being on social media like that. But I'm like, I have to do it. Man. I'm proud of you, one

step at a time. Thank you well, Elsie. Thank you for talking and gabbing away with us. I have thoroughly enjoyed talking to you. I will be placing my order to get to retry out a Row situation now that I see how differently it's made. It's she built different out here in New Mexico. Anything you like to add, Adam, No, thank you, just thank you so much. You're such a pleasure. You're so easy to talk to. You have such like a bubbly personality. I just enjoy joy

speaking with you. Delight so fun. Thank you so much, guys, thank you for allowing space for me to share a little bit of my story, share a little bit about my brand, and just you know, just chumping it out talking. You know, I enjoy myself, absolute thoughting and plotting. Okay. If you enjoy today's episode of Balled Up Bitches, be sure to rate and subscribe wherever you listen to your podcast to join in on

more of our conversations and fun. You can follow us on social media at bottled up Bitches on Instagram and bottled up Talk on Twitter and write in your sex capas and ifn you want to share with the team at bottled up Talk at gmail dot com. Cover art for Bottled Up Bitches is created by Winston Gambro. Episodes are produced and edited by Rihanna Campbell and Adam Lewis. This has been a Cricket Bunny production. Stay Horny Pitches

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