068 - INTERVIEW: Setting Strong Boundaries With Randy King

Randy is an education-based self-defense coach with over 15 years of experience who has taught thousands of people all over the world to better understand conflict management and violence prevention. In his quest to help people better understand conflict and violence, he has had the privilege to work with a truly diverse group of people including communities such as the first nations in Canada, Women’s Shelters as well as professional organizations like law enforcement and private corporations. He also has an absolutely amazing podcast channel called Randy King Live. 

In this episode, Randy and I discuss:

• The most essential skills to defend against alcoholic assailants
• Avoiding or deescalating social violence 
• Mixture of skills that supplement self-defense skills
• The difference between social violence and predatory violence

Key Takeaways:

• It’s easier to choose non-violence if you’re already skilled in violence. If you don’t have any skills, you don’t really have any choice - but if you know self-defense, you have a “fight” to fall back to in situations that need it. 
• Train yourself to think beyond the situation and to not take things personally in social violence situations so that you can avoid further violence. 
• Train your communication skills, boundaries and physical skills. If you’re able to talk a person out of making a bad decision, you might not even need to fight - but it’s always good to have your fighting skill ready. 
• Social violence is for the ego of the group or the person while predatory violence is more about taking something away from you. One is about status and one is about resources. 
• Show the predator that they chose the wrong target. 

"If your boundaries are strong and you look like you’re capable of stopping that person, they’re going to choose weaker prey… boundary-setting is the root of self-defense." —  Randy King

Connect with Randy King:

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/KPCMartialArts 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Conflictmanagementstrategies 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/randykinglive/ 

Website: https://www.randykinglive.com/ 

LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/randy-king-6a2b9b27/ 

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