#308 - Bobby and His Groomsmen Pre-Wedding Talk....An Hour Before He Got Married!

Eddie is my best man. So here we are our out, Like, what what's happening in your mind right now? Before I tell you what's happening to mine? Um, I just see a lot of scrambling, a lot of scrambling outside, people moving around in different directions. Uh, you were writing your vows. I wasn't writing them. Well, I have known them. I shut your mouth. I have memorized mine. But here's the problem. Last night at our rehearsal, as I was just saying thank you to people, I got choked out up. I

wasn't even anything emotional. I was just going, hey, thank you, and I went there and I was like, oh my god, I need to have these written down because if I get emotional, I won't be able to remember what I have planned to say. And so I believe in and I think probably and he can speak to this about sports, but I believe and putting myself in the environment of

where I'm about to perform. So I used to walk in the backyard and go stand at the tree and be like, all right, this is what I'm gonna see. When she wasn't here, you did this like in the last last month, the last couple of weeks. I would go stand where we're going to have the ceremony, trying to envision myself at happening so I could be in control. And it's not gonna happen. And so I sat in here and I typed them out right, and so that's what I did. It took me like fifteen minutes to

type them all out. And I do think that's unfair of you. So you're now and then and welcome to the best man. And then then you came back and then you said, uh, hey, is it shorter of than ten minutes? Longer tally long, really long? But yes, I was gonna say by the way, we're talking about like Kayla was trying to get like. He's like, how on your vows? She's like one minute, two minutes, and I didn't want to interject, but I'm like, I don't know how long they are, but Vegas has the over. I'm

just telling you that right now. We were driving back from the rehearsal and Caitlin was like, okay, but at least tell me. Are they like I promise you? Or is it like a story? And I'm like, why don't you just let me do the vowels and we'll just see you up there? Okay, you don't have to tell anything? But how long are they? She's like, what would you say? Though? You like? Best estimate? Um, Keith, here we are, You're here,

you're you're you're you know, dressed up looking good, fancy suit. Um, how are you feeling an hour out about me finally getting married? Did you ever think you'd see it happened? I did not? And why not? Too much work and too much play and not enough Bobby serious time? But I was wrong? How about that? And what do you think about Kitlin? Caitlin's wonderful, she's great. You couldn't do

better man saying you know, she's as sweetie. Last night when people were giving speeches, Amad got up and I had had a couple of notes, and then he kind of threw the notes away, and then you just decided to go from from your heart? Um, like, how much? Like what did you want to say? I'm always curious about people want to say, like what was your intention

when you got up to talk? Because I had asked you, I said, hey, would you mind saying a few things, because we didn't want everybody feeling they had to stand up and say something that's always awkward. Who were looking around going all right, do I stand up? So we had asked you people specifically, and you and I have been friends as long as almost anybody in this room. What was your intention with what you had to say? Well?

I wanted to kind of tell the story about how me and Caitlin spent some time and how I got to know where and how great she was. And then I also wanted to illuminate that you were just ready to be giving so much love to somebody, And I wanted to kind of tied all up in a biblical sense as well. So I think I kind of got nervous a little bit, but like you said, I threw the way of the notes and so from the I just went from the heart. Everybody said it was cool.

I saw you out there laughing a couple of times. That made me comfortable. Kitlyn came up, she was like, that's so sweet. I was like, I mean that's the truth. I mean, that's where we went through. That's what that's what I learned from or not learned from you, but that's what I saw from you when I first met you. And that was it. And I really had to come through that speech last night because he missed rehearsal completely the wedding. I called him. We were all drewary to

go go through. What do the actual rehearsal of the wedding? This goes here? And when I call him, Eddie called him me that n answer. I called him an answer. I call him again, he goes yo yo, that was up. I said, hey, where are you going? I'm chilling And I was like, what do you mean you're chilling? It's like I'm at the hotel of my underwear. I'm like,

we're going on all right, right, right? But to be fair, I wasn't given any time that the rehearsal dinner was the different my house like two hours prior to that earlier in the day about the rehearsal dinner, pairing through the rehearsal itself. Right. But the funny thing is that when I was when I came here, after I was here late, I get a text from you with a card saying the rehearsal is at five, but I'm sitting

right by you. So then Caitlin told my wife, Oh, don't worry about it, because a lot of people on the Arkansas side didn't get the information that they need to get. I think I'm making up stories last night. We're driving back said uh. And Andy would not sit in the front seat, even though he's six ft four or five or eight whatever he is. He demanded to sit in the back seat like Caitlyn sit up front. And as he's back there, he goes, Hey, I just want to be honest with you, guys. Um, I was

never worried about Bobby professionally. He's like, I don't don't worry about that. He goes seriously like I was really worried about him as a human and as funny as that is like, I think that was an extremely um, authentic way to describe how you have felt about me and even inside of our friendship the last ten years. Yeah, and we don't I don't know that we've ever had the friendship where we need each other's attention all the

all the time. Um. And so honestly, like how far you've you all have gotten and team effort largely in this room with the people that that work with you. Um, but that was there. How psychotic you are about you have to do this and you have to do that, and you don't you say yes before you think it through. That was always gonna work on on some level. Um, you're kind of the opposite when it comes to relationships.

You need a little bit of space, you need a little time to think, You need U, X, Y and Z. So for me, UM, that the happiest part about this for me is you actually committing to like being a whole person and not like just kind of driving traffic through uh, the professional side of yourself and letting that be your identity. I think having your identity outside of that without of getting too deep is gonna be a great thing for you When it makes me happy, kind

of looking in from the outside. I have a lot less worry because of this. Well and two, I mean I saw in your early stages, because right after you and Brooke got married, you and I became friends, and I saw you change into a family like that guy that I didn't think I would ever see, you know, and you know, to see you go hey like my kids, that's the most important thing. That wasn't who you were when you and I met at all. And you know, I obviously look up to you in a lot of ways.

And you know, we talked about again, we don't need each other's attention, so we don't say good morning and text. But you know, for for you to say that last night was hilarious but also the most true thing anyone had said the entire night. And I give you too much craps. So I actually had to qualify to Caitlin, Like, no,

I'm actually being serious right now, Like I was really worried. Well, my like first week of college, I wore my high school letterman jacket from playing football into a communications class and it was cold. It's the only code I had. You know, it's no secret. I've only said it ten million times, and I know that where this is going. You know that It's not like I had a bunch of coats. We didn't have a lot of money. And so I wore my one coat that I had to school.

And this one, this this prepu looking kid who played quarterback on the football team was like, hey, guy, well we don't where a high school jack as to college. And I was like, what he goes, you don't where your high school jacket of college. People don't think you're a lose their. I was like, it's the only code I had. And so the next day I didn't wear a coade at all, and I was really cold the all day long because I didn't have another coat. Well that got that got it was coordinay. And so that's

how Courtney and I met. And you know, Courtney, him and I were stuck at the hip from freshman year of college and until a couple of years after. And you know, I saw Courtney meet his wife and get married and have kids, and you know, um, for you to be here today and heck, I'm forty one now, you know, it's not it's not like the nineteen Hey we are, You're forty one with a couple of kids, and like what what what do you tell me? At this point, I'm about to do this today five minutes

from now, Like, what what do you tell me? There's no way to get ready for this. There's there's nothing that I can possibly say, I think, to completely prepare you for what's about to happen. Um. It's kind of funny you bring that up, though, because I've probably spent the entire day reminiscing about me and you, and I'm not trying to you too must about it, but oh I'm happy before you man really to say, you know, Keithan talking about whether or not would with this happen

for you? I didn't think so I really didn't know, Carrie. I've been talking about today and all day and sorry about that. Um actually wide a speech. I didn't know, you know, if we're going through it or not, but um I did, UM just thinking about um gonna get together. UM. It's so weird because you know, you're not really aren't

this emotional? Right, Like we don't really show our emotions. Um, we're gotting tough guys and things like this, these big events right like this, it kind of um, it brings it out at times, right, And I guess I'm just having that this moment right now. But I thought about probably three times in our lives that you've really shown

me emotion. And the first time I was thinking about with this when uh, you got hired on at Kiss that film and um, you were going to leave the queue go to Austin and there was this huge ice storm at that time. I don't know if if anyone remembers it, even Austin saw ice. I think that year and Bobby needed someone to help him move from Arkansas at Austin and he asked me to do it. It's and I'm just like, there's Bobby, it's impossible, there's no way we're going to get this done right. But he

gives me this look. And it's really hard for me to articulate the look that he gave me. But I guess, if you know, having kids now, the way I would say that look would would be someone that you know, like your kid that first Christmas morning when Christmas is real to him, you know, and it's just, you know, there's there's nothing that they want more, right, And he gave me that look and I couldn't tell him, no, Yeah, I didn't know, how are we gonna get there, but

as dad, if we can borry his trailer. I told him it was for and you know, he's like, all right, man, you know I know how much of a friend he is to you. That's what we're gonna do this And uh, that drive is like a seven hour drive. It took us twenty one hours to get there, and we didn't sleep. And when um, the relevance of this story is when whenever, um, you and Kaylen come to visit me and Okay, see uh and you know I'm meeting him for the first time.

You had that look. Man, you had that look. And and when y'all left, you know, immediately text you because kind of like what Andy was saying, you know, I'm

our relationship. I know, I know professional you are, but knowing relationships because your life has been tough, you know, and I know that you would overthink it or maybe even think that you don't deserve it, you know, And so I wanted to I just text you as I want you to know that you do deserve it, okay, and I'll want you to know that you go as I've support this and I think you deserve it, and

I'm happy for you. I'm sorry we've just uh friends for over twenty years now, and I know we don't talk as much, you know, because our lives, you know, me having kids and I'm and I'm in Houston now, and it's you know, things are different. It's not like the same. But you know what, when we get together, you're my friend or your brother, it's like, IM meanly go back to that place with you. No, maybe because these tears have already fallen, they won't fall later. That's

the goal, right, Maybe the seals already been broken. I mean maybe, And I had no ideas just gonna happen. I mean, as soon as you come to me, you and you brought those stories like it just it just overwhelmed me, you know, and I wasn't expecting it. You know. It's kind of like what you're talking about last night. You're like, you know, probably every five years, right, and and man, we've we've shared so much, you know, like

so many first first relationships, first breakups. I mean we've had you know, there were so many times you know, like I remember, it's just us you were just talking about just sitting up just talking about hardships or goals or whatever we want life, you know, and um, it was always great having someone, you know, a friend like you that we could talk about things like that, you know together, m thank god. I mean, how many years has it been, you know, we're going on like twenty two,

twenty three years now, friendship. I mean, it's and I know that, you know, if I was having some kind of hardship tomorrow, I could call you about the blue even if we hadn't sweeen each other in years, and you would talk. You know, you don't no matter how long you need, you know that we need to talk to each other. You do it, you know. And dude, I don't think you seem more I can say, you know,

no idea what's gonna happen, But I appreciate that. Man. Well, Mike d who's producing it and who was probably with me more than anybody else except for Caitlin right now, who by the way, we're in this room. And I said Mike, I said, hey, Mike had a girlfriend and at the time, and I had a girlfriend at the time, and I was like, I'm gonna beat you. I'm gonna propose on Saturday or a week from Saturday. And he goes, I'm proposing this Saturday and I was like, you son

of a gun. We did. It was right here we talked about he jailed me by a week. Um, Mike, you are the newest kind of member of this very close brotherhood. You know that that that is all of us, and you know the same. I guess the one common theme is that I'm not the best at being that communicative. But luckily for me, you don't talk much either. I

think that's why we get along so well. Um, but I just appreciate you, know, your ability one to just put up with me, but also to just to always be there, like if there is one constant person that is there all the time, regardless if it's a text or phone or work or like, it's always you, and that I hope you kind of feel that same love in this room, you know, as as I'm about to walk down the aisle. And you know, for for you to say yes to be a part of this group

meant a lot to me as well. I'm happy to be a part of it, dude. And that's what he says, and that's that's that's Mike right there. And then that's always like thank you, thank you, thank you. Well listen, uh, somebody beat on the door and said something like somebody's on fire. I think you need to get Yeah. But and this one, we were just gonna pop in and say afe you thanks because we were killing time. But

I genuinely appreciate the words you guys said here. And you guys know it doesn't matter what it is from me, you will always get it. And I know the sam about you, so uh. I love you all. This about to be a crazy night. May not talk to you guys much more. Everybody keep saying it's gonna flash by, and I'm not really going to get to talk to anybody except everybody. But just appreciate all you guys. Love

you guys. One thing, this is like your your day and your night, Like you said, advice advice for tonight, do what makes you happy and not what you feel like you need to do tonight, like say you're hellos and say your old thing, but also take time to enjoy it with Caitlin. Don't get separated and not actually share the night because you're going through whatever people think the ritual of a wedding and a reception ship. You're not working a night man, You're off tonight. I don't

think you're not hosting tonight. Just the last thing I'll say is you know, um, we're having the wedding at my house, and I'm pretty sure that that's going to be said publicly and um, but you know, traditionally the wedding is where you leave in a car and you drive away. Nobody wishes you could buy, and they're sparklers and stuff. What I had pitched to Caitlin was that we her and I have sparklers and everybody else leaves and then we just stay. She would have been the

most on brand. She didn't accept. After that was my goal. We said everybody else away, well even last night quickly to last night, I mean truly Bobby fashion, Like it was nine o'clock, like all right, you don't have to go, but you can't stay. Honestly, God that we saw like dirty minutes left in that place. But I was like, we gotta go on the start getting charged more so we got to get out of here. So I ran everybody, Okay, I love you guys. I like to say real al right, right,

I mean you've been like a brother. No, but I would like to say, real quick, let the emotions come tonight. Don't try to not let them or block them. Let them all come, feel them all, accept them all, and show Caitlin how much you really feel and show yourself. Let it all out, man, accept it be there. Not as much as I did, because be hard to get the words out. Okay. So and as always, this was brought to you by Draft Kings. All right, there we go. Two