44. Why does my husband's Ex think I'm the enemy?
Episode description
Stepparents — we're betting you came into your blended family with the BEST intentions. You want to thoughtfully care for your step-kid(s) and bring value as you lovingly support then — and your spouse. You really want to contribute good things to their lives!
But does it feel like all the good things you do seem to get overlooked by your spouse's Ex? Are you often the target of harsh criticism?
…or, have they even gone so far as to try and turn the kids against you?
It's hurtful and confusing when a stepparent is unfairly scrutinized and deemed unacceptable by the Ex in the other home — especially when the Ex has remarried and supports the kids attachment to their new spouse (the other stepparent).
In this episode we'll explore the possible reasons why your spouse's Ex thinks you're the enemy — even though they haven't given you a fair shake.
Discerning what's under the surface in these complex dynamics will help you to move forward wisely with more confidence and compassion.
You'll Discover:
- What causes a double-standard mentality between the Ex's
- How an Ex's emotions might create animosity toward the stepparent in the other home
- Why your spouse's Ex is threatened by your "position".
- How a curiosity mindset can help to ease tensions
- Understand the anxieties bio-mom might face that can trigger protective behaviors with the kids
Resources from this Episode:
- Episode 31 — 3 Unexpected Ways to Improve How You Cope With Your Ex
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