#08-BITESIZE-PREGNANCY SERIES-Going back to our mothers in Pregnancy!

I remember, I noticed a lot of my pregnancy symptoms from dropping the knife and spoons in the kitchen very often, like very often, which my mother-in-law had to pick up time and again, and she said, the veil, you get me exercised a lot too easily forgetting things here and there and feeling the lack of food.

The pain in the lower abdomen early on that I mistook for period pains. And the first flatter, the first flatter right around the start of the second trimester when I was watching television and it startled me. So yeah, I noticed a lot of changing pregnancy symptoms and a lot of. And then I clearly remember that I also went to my mom to discuss those symptoms.

You all would meet the veil in the bite-size pregnancy CDs. And today we are talking about going back to our mothers and pregnancy back then I did seek comfort. That, what was happening to me in pregnancy happened to others too. I went to pregnancy forums and discussed it with friends and try to express myself everywhere.

That's how I am, which is why you're listening to the podcast. But when I discussed it with my mother-in-law, she pretty much did not have any of those symptoms. So I don't have friends who had severe nausea and I did not have a lot of knowledge. And then one day I was discussing with my mum and we could relate on a couple of things, not too many, but not too less too.

And I was so glad I could feel that blood bond right there. My mom liked me. She remembered so many things. She had clear vivid memories. It was also fun to know about the time. I was little about the time that she carried me, her apprehensions fears, joyous moons. She told me that as an infant, I would burst out giggling when she would tickle my tin.

So I tried that with DV later and it did not work, but she did not tell me about her struggled stories. She talked less of her struggles, but that's okay. Then I was only interested in knowing what happened to her during her pregnancy. And it did comfort me to have someone with similar symptoms. And to imagine the time you were just beginning to fall, it was mesmerizing, enthralling and reassuring.

And I have been under the belief that pregnancy and symptoms can have a hereditary impact. To some extent. And I did try to find a study on it while preparing for this podcast episode, uh, to find a study on the effects of heredity on pregnancy, while there were studies on particular diseases that may already be headed into, in nature and reflect during pregnancy and a mother may be carrying it from her mother, but there wasn't any that directly talked about the likeliness of you having your mother's symptom.

So my belief remains a belief, but there are two ways to look at this. Like there are two sides to anything and quoting penny Simkin because she said something on this. So penny says that in your pregnancy, ask your mother to tell you her story of giving birth to you, ask your partner to do it with his mother.

What does your mother remember about going into labor? What did she feel when she first saw you and held you Benny emphasizes asking these questions to our mothers, to our bloodlines. Now, um, there are two sides to a story. One is this. And on the contrary, we know that two pregnancies for the same mother can be very different.

Can we even say they can be similarities in the pregnancies of the mother and the daughter? Let us see Vipe penny says a number of different things to ask your mother. When we go down to the history of birth, according to a research published in 2009 by public health researcher,  a sacramental theory of childbirth in India.

It says that 70% of the birds in rural India are at home with about 74% of the total population living in Jerusalem. And two thirds of these rural birds are attended by family. What are the forms of local experts, which in the current anthropology and public health literature are called dyes or traditional birth attendants.

And traditionally the information is passed on to a mother by the experience of women, of the family, of the house, of the community. And that information is passed on with the aim of preparing the mother to book and help her to relax. But today we are already bombarded with information from all the sources during pregnancy.

This information is usually casual as if people are owning their stakes in your pregnancy when there are none in the first place. So some of you may not agree and rightly. So the explanation to this contradiction lies in the fact that all work the years with the medicalization of birth, the pass on of information has not only reduced.

The inflammation is thus half big and inaccurate. Sometimes. Now let's ask a question here. Can there still be some wisdom in going back to our mother? Let's break it down. Healer, if you want to take information directly from our mothers, like in my case, because of the same bloodlines, they may be similar experiences and pregnancy is full of different flavors of life coming together.

All of us are to you and there are so many unanswered questions. So going back to your particular tile, hood, your memory. Can have a benefit on you. It can calm you down. It can relax you, it can mess mid-rise you, it can make you familiar with the process. So asking the right question is important. Talk about labor, talk about birth and what happens thereafter.

If you are a first-time mother, it will help you prepare. It will help you clear up on anything that may schedule. So that's the second. So we see when going back to our mothers is referred to even without any evidence backing it. It is from the sense of reducing the field of the unknown and creating your own commune that you can trust.

And that starts with your mother, your individual case, learning about labored. When she decided to go to the hospital, what happened some 20 plus years back when most births were non medicalized and nuts? We'll give you a glimpse of the progression of things, how things happened. Now, you will obviously have tons of questions.

Your mother will not be able to answer your questions to you. She will only be able to tell you her story. I will repeat. You will have tons of questions when your mother shares her journey with you, and she will not be able to answer it. She may not be able to. Then it becomes beneficial. Then you consciously take these questions and ask your doctor, ask both experts and consciously, get familiar with the process as much as possible.

And now a bit of caution, like I pass on in all my episodes and starting to be a child, but educator, it is my job to tell you both sides of the story, both sides of the. Now we have established what can be the benefits in going back to your mother, say for conversation with your mother makes you uncomfortable, or you become anxious with anything that is passed on to you through your friends or something that you learned from the internet.

Notice that this is your trigger. We dogged about stress and triggered. In the last episode, this is your trick. Now this trigger can just be the conversation or it can be the topic of conversation. If it is the conversation, the way the information was presented to you, if it had a negative connotation, it does not serve you.

You can cut it off. Even if you started the conversation yourself, you have all the right to kindly excuse yourself and, you know, eliminate your trigger. Like we discussed in the last step. If the trigger is the topic of the conversation, because you need more answers because it brings on held fields related to both.

For example, my friend called me a couple of days back and she said the way my mother told me her story of labor and pain and it scares me. I'm really scared. What do I do? So we discussed how this was her unfounded fear and there are two ways to go back. To live with it all, to find out ways to manage your field, to learn more about labor pain management and overcome your fear, because feel it comes from not knowing things.

And when you know the process, when you note things feel it gets reduced. And that is the reason we are talking about going back to our mothers in practice. So in such circumstances, take a note and discuss your fears, your apprehensions with your doctor. You can also go to a birth educator and take a counseling session or take a few prenatal classes.

Learning is the best way to overcome fears because there are support measures out. That you may not be aware of. Plus knowledge helps you decide what to do. Imagine going into an aircraft for the first time and not knowing hand, how to go about it. And probably nobody helped you during that time. He'll be really hesitant.

He'll be scared of the airplane, but since there are so many people to help you out with things in the airplane, it becomes easy for you to go about it purely. You need to have that information before. So all in all finding your commune is beneficial, but make sure that you decide who to let in that commute, because we do not want unsolicited advice coming from all corners to make the experience all the more confusing and tough.

We need people who empowered us, encouraged us to learn and not comply with what they think is best. We need people to share their experiences with us without burdening us to walk in their shoes. But they give us a chance and open space to share, learn, and take our own decisions and figure out things for ourselves.

And that would be it. I wish you of luck in finding your commune that stays close together to you. And if you think you do not have a commune, yet you disappoint me. You're wrong. This is your commute. Please feel free to send in your questions. Apprehensions on my email ID, mommy, track daddy vespers@gmail.com.

You can join me on my Instagram. The handle is Divya Kapoor, Volks. We owe X. All of this information is in the episode notes. In the next episode, we'll discuss about breast leakage during pregnancy. What is it? Should you be. With that I will take a leaf and remember our bodies have immense power. The immense intuitive power of our bodies live within us.

Our bodies know how to function, develop another human being, teach us the most basic functions like breathing, sucking within the womb, heal and recover. Do you remember? Our bodies are Buffalo, embrace it. And remember all you pregnant mamas out there. You got the bat, take care and see you.