Red flags. We’ve all got them. How can we recognize our own red flags and use that information to grow? Why do we find ourselves drawn to people with the same red flags over and over? And why do we ignore red flags even when we know they’re there? Brianna McCabe, professor and author ( The Red Flags I’ve (Repeatedly) Ignored: Love, Lust + Lessons ), joins Jeff this week to help answer all of these questions. Plus, she and Jeff break down some common red flags on reality TV and play a round of Ra...
Oct 17, 2024•55 min•Ep. 40
Can a marriage heal after infidelity? Jimmy Knowles believes it can. After cheating on his wife years ago, he put in the work to rebuild their relationship and become the husband he knew she deserved. Now, Jimmy shares his journey and insights with others. Today, he joins Jeff to discuss navigating conflict in relationships. They cover the best ways to address issues, how to spot conflict green flags in a new partner, and whether or not it’s truly possible to agree to disagree. Plus, they explor...
Oct 10, 2024•56 min•Ep. 39
Ever wondered if Mister Fantastic is that stretchy everywhere ? Or if everything Spider-man produces is radioactive? Jeff dives into the world of superhero intimacy with Diana McCallum, author of Sex Lives of Superheroes . Diana explores these scenarios through the lens of science, comic lore, and humor, all while offering a unique perspective on the intersection of psychology and superhero culture. Tune in as we discuss the pros and cons of superpowered sex and the complexities of intimacy in t...
Oct 03, 2024•57 min•Ep. 38
Are we missing out on valuable experiences by sticking to conventional monogamy? What’s the difference between non-monogamy as a relationship style and non-monogamy as an orientation? How do you know if non-monogamy is right for you? This week, Jeff sits down with his longtime friend, polyamory coach and therapist Heidi Savell, to tackle these questions and more–from first steps, to common pitfalls, and navigating jealousy and emotional regulation. Whether you’re poly-curious or already on your ...
Sep 26, 2024•55 min•Ep. 37
Is social media a double-edged sword for mental health? In this episode, Jeff chats with “no BS” therapist Jacquelyn Tenaglia, LMHC about the fine line between helpful and harmful online content. They discuss the impact of social media on mental health, the rise of “therapy speak,” and “concept creep,” and the ethics of AI in therapy. Listen to Jeff's podcast Problem Solved here: https://wavepodcastnetwork.com/ Follow Jacquelyn on Instagram ( @no.bs.therapist ) and X ( @TweetATherapist ) Learn m...
Sep 19, 2024•57 min•Ep. 36
Ever wondered how people-pleasing affects your sex life? Jeff and his guest, author and certified coach, Hailey Magee, break it down in this week's episode. They talk about setting boundaries, the impact of gender expectations on people-pleasers in the bedroom, and the journey to self-advocacy. Plus, Hailey shares some strategies for folks who are looking to break out of their people-pleasing patterns. Listen to Jeff's podcast Problem Solved here: https://wavepodcastnetwork.com/ Learn more about...
Sep 12, 2024•56 min•Ep. 35
Writer, performer, and creator Tess Gattuso is diving into Jeff’s Twenty Questions. You know the drill; it’s twenty questions with Jeff, so we’re covering everything from perfect sandwiches, to crushes on cartoon horses, and all of the relationship stuff–communication, showing affection, setting boundaries–in between. But more importantly, perfect sandwiches and crushes on cartoon horses. Listen to Jeff's podcast Problem Solved here: https://wavepodcastnetwork.com/ Follow Tess on Instagram: @tes...
Sep 05, 2024•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 34
What can digital dating apps teach us about our broader culture? This week, Jeff talks with Treena Orchard, an author, anthropologist, and proud cat mother about exactly that. Treena discusses her memoir, Sticky, Sexy, Sad , which delves into her deep dive into digital dating. With a background in anthropology and a focus on sexuality and culture, Treena offers a unique perspective on the world of online dating. Join Jeff and Treena as they discuss everything from the evolution of dating apps to...
Aug 29, 2024•55 min•Ep. 33
This week, Jeff chats with the brilliant Dr. M the Science Femme, who holds a PhD in neuroscience. They talk about her unique approach to teaching science while challenging societal norms by doing it in lingerie, focusing on increasing respect and credibility for women. They also dive deep into her personal experience with polyamory, discussing the dynamics of her polycule, addressing common misconceptions, and celebrating the joys of three-way kisses and poly euphoria. Listen to Jeff's podcast ...
Aug 22, 2024•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 32
Matthew Caws is a singer and songwriter who leads the best band in the world, Nada Surf . He joins Jeff this week to talk about love, songs, and writing love songs. Jeff gets to ask him a million questions about his process, point of view, inspirations, how he feels about his earlier music, what it feels like to put yourself into your songs, and whether or not every lyric has to mean something. It’s the best episode. Listen to Jeff's podcast Problem Solved here: https://wavepodcastnetwork.com/ N...
Aug 15, 2024•51 min•Ep. 31
This week, Jeff is joined by one half of the Double Teamed podcast, Niki, to convince everyone listening that you should all be non-monogamous. Okay, not really, but they do bust a whole bunch of negative non-monogamy myths. They also share what they love about non-monogamy, weigh in on some of the more common challenges, and offer some tools and guidance for folks who think they might be interested in trying non-monogamy on for themselves. Listen to Jeff's podcast Problem Solved here: https://w...
Aug 08, 2024•56 min•Ep. 30
This week, Jeff is joined by Leann Borneman, LCSW, CST. Leann is a licensed psychotherapist, sexologist, and certified sex therapist who specializes in ADHD and sexuality. She talks with Jeff this week about how women with ADHD can feel empowered when it comes to sex, intimacy and their relationships. Listen to Jeff's podcast Problem Solved here: https://wavepodcastnetwork.com/ Follow Leann on Instagram: @bornemanpsychotherapy Learn more about working with or learning from Leann: bornemancoachin...
Aug 01, 2024•59 min•Ep. 29
This week on Big Dating Energy , Brett and Tiffany from Love is Blind Season 4 bring their A-game to 15 of Jeff’s most unhinged questions. From secret social experiments to tricky wishes, Brett and Tiff laugh their way through Jeff’s wildest hypotheticals, showing off their playful banter and strong connection. But do any of Jeff’s questions throw these two out of sync? Listen to find out! Listen to Jeff's podcast Problem Solved here: https://wavepodcastnetwork.com/ Keep up with the Browns: @tcp...
Jul 25, 2024•44 min•Ep. 28
This week is all about firsts! Ely Kreimendahl, Dan Savage and Zachary Zane share their best first time stories. Jeff shares a few firsts of his own, too. From first kisses, to first sex parties, there are so many memorable first times in this one. Listen to Jeff's podcast Problem Solved here: https://wavepodcastnetwork.com/ Order your copy of Big Dating Energy Available now! Follow Ely Kreimendahl on Instagram: @elykreimendahl Subscribe to Ely’s Substack Read Dan Savage's column, listen to Sava...
Jul 18, 2024•49 min•Ep. 27
Libby Supan is a licensed therapist and certified intuitive eating coach who specializes in food and body issues, working to help women break the cycle of restrictive eating. She talks with Jeff this week about her personal journey as someone with an eating disorder and how she has used her lived experience to help others find food and body image freedom. Listen to Jeff's podcast Problem Solved here: https://wavepodcastnetwork.com/ Order your copy of Big Dating Energy Available now! Learn more a...
Jul 11, 2024•55 min•Ep. 26
This week on Big Dating Energy , Jeff talks with Lindy Elloway, who you might remember from that reality TV show where she tied the knot with a total stranger and then had the world peeping into every moment of their marriage. Lindy spills the beans with Jeff about how things on screen compared to real life, the behind-the-scenes influence of producers on their day-to-day, and whether the whole experience has changed her outlook on love and marriage now. Get your tickets for Big Dating Energy: J...
Jul 04, 2024•57 min•Ep. 25
This week, you’re in for a treat! Jeff’s reading the first chapter of his new book, this podcast’s namesake, Big Dating Energy . Listen along as Jeff reads from the book and provides some behind-the-scenes commentary. And then head to the link below to pre-order your copy. It comes out so soon! Listen to Jeff's podcast Problem Solved here: https://wavepodcastnetwork.com/ Pre-order your copy of Big Dating Energy: How to Create Lasting Love by Tapping Into Your Authentic Self - out July 9th, 2024 ...
Jun 27, 2024•36 min•Ep. 24
Alli Goldberg is a comedian and the creator and host of the live dating show, Love Isn’t Blind . She joins Jeff this week to talk about making live love connections, going through mens’ phones, red flags, green flags, and why she might believe in soulmates. Listen to Jeff's podcast Problem Solved here: https://wavepodcastnetwork.com/ Subscribe to Jeff’s Patreon: https://patreon.com/therapyjeff Pre-order your copy of Big Dating Energy Keep up with all things Alli Goldberg: https://www.allisongold...
Jun 20, 2024•56 min•Ep. 23
Todd Baratz is a certified sex therapist, a licensed psychotherapist, and author whose book How to Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind is out now! He joins Jeff this week to talk about what makes modern love so messy, whether or not “right person, wrong time” is really thing, and if the honeymoon period can last forever. Plus, Jeff puts him through a round of “Is This a Red Flag?” Listen to Jeff's podcast Problem Solved here: https://wavepodcastnetwork.com/ Subscribe to Jeff’s Patreon: https:/...
Jun 13, 2024•51 min•Ep. 22
Olivia de Recat is an author and illustrator. Her cartoons have been featured in The New Yorker since 2017. Her book, Drawn Together: Illustrated True Love Stories was published in 2022. She joins Jeff this week to talk about the importance of humor in relationships. They talk rescue attempts, being the funny one in your relationship, and more. Listen to Jeff's podcast Problem Solved here: https://wavepodcastnetwork.com/ Subscribe to Jeff’s Patreon: https://patreon.com/therapyjeff Pre-order your...
Jun 06, 2024•59 min•Ep. 21
Hannah Jones is a Denver-based comedian and one of Jeff’s favorite funny people on TikTok. She co-hosts the podcast Help! with Hannah Jones and Calvin Reid, and she’s one of the few brave souls to sit down and answer Jeff’s twenty questions. Hannah shares the story of her tortilla-scented first day on earth, why dating while living in your car is very different for women, some of her hottest relationship takes, and a whole lot more (like seventeen more. At least.) Listen to Jeff's podcast Proble...
May 30, 2024•1 hr•Ep. 20
Lily Womble is an intersectional feminist dating coach, the founder of Date Brazen, and host of the Date Brazen podcast. She joins Jeff this week to share her journey from being a top matchmaker to empowering clients to build their own confident and joyful dating life. She and Jeff discuss the misery that is the dating app landscape, the importance of asking for what you want in a relationship, how the patriarchy has really screwed up the dating scene for all of us, and why Lily is absolutely ...
May 23, 2024•1 hr•Ep. 19
Ely Kreimendahl is a writer, comedian, and therapist. She’s also the host of the Shame Spiral podcast and just an absolute delight. She joins Jeff for a conversation on shame, why it’s so painful to experience, why we’re afraid to talk about it, and why confronting our shame can be so empowering. Listen to Jeff's podcast Problem Solved here: https://wavepodcastnetwork.com/ Follow Ely Kreimendahl on Instagram: @elykreimendahl Subscribe to Ely’s Substack If you’re near Brooklyn, check out Ely’s mo...
May 16, 2024•40 min•Ep. 18
This week on Big Dating Energy , Jeff welcomes Zachary Zane to the podcast. Zachary wears many hats–columnist, author, speaker, and sex expert. His book Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto offers a vulnerable and informative exploration of sexuality, societal norms, and serves as a call to everyone let go of sexual shame. He is also the founder and editor-in-chief of Boyslut Zine . With columns in Men’s Health and Cosmopolitan , Zachary encourages readers to understand and embrace who they really ar...
May 09, 2024•53 min•Ep. 17
Dedeker Winston, Emily Sotelo Matlack, and Jase Lindgren are the hosts of the long-running Multiamory podcast, a research-backed advice show that delves into everything you’ve ever wanted to know about alternative relationships: polyamory, open relationships, non-monogamy, relationship anarchy, solo polyamory, you name it. There are so many ways of being in relationship that go beyond monogamy, and the Multiamory crew is here to help Jeff break it all down. Listen to more podcasts like this: htt...
May 02, 2024•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 16
Sabrina Zohar is a dating coach and host of Do the Work podcast. She’s a give-it-to-you-straight kind of person who wants to help you start your healing journey. She joins Jeff to answer his twenty random questions about childhood, trauma, love, sex, dating, you know, all that casual stuff. Listen to more podcasts like this: https://wavepodcastnetwork.com Listen to Jeff's podcast Problem Solved here: https://wavepodcastnetwork.com/ Get your copy of Big Dating Energy Learn more about Sabrina Zoha...
Apr 25, 2024•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 15
In this episode of Big Dating Energy, Jeff talks with best-selling author, actor, and podcast host Gabrielle Stone. Join Jeff and Gabrielle as she shares everything from the devastating discovery of her husband's affair to the empowering aftermath that led to her best-selling book Eat, Pray, FML . Discover how Gabrielle turned heartbreak into humor, and learn about her solo travel experience that reshaped her perspective on love and self-discovery. Jeff and Gabrielle explore the complexities of ...
Apr 18, 2024•59 min•Ep. 14
Busy Philipps is an actor, author, activist, and podcaster. You know her from Freaks and Geeks , Dawson’s Creek , Girls5Eva , and a million other things, including as Mrs. George in this year’s musical comedy Mean Girls . She joins Jeff for a candid chat about all the messy, wonderful stuff: falling in love, staying pals with your ex, diving back into dating, and the eternal hunt for the right person. It's the kind of conversation that feels like catching up with an old friend—and you might even...
Apr 11, 2024•1 hr 17 min•Ep. 13
Jennie Young is a writer, rhetorician, and English professor at University of Wisconsin, Green Bay. She is also the creator of the Burned Haystack Dating Method which aims to right the wrongs of the current digital dating landscape. Dr. Young joins Jeff to share her ten dating app rules, break down how the words we use affect our dating lives, and to help us better understand how we can use our language with intention to hopefully have a less miserable dating app experience. Listen to more podca...
Apr 04, 2024•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 12
Nick Thompson, host of the Eyes Wide Open podcast and a familiar face from season two of Love Is Blind, joins Jeff this week for a candid conversation on mental health and reality television. Nick shares what goes on behind-the-scenes to make for compelling on-camera stories and the profound impact that participating in reality TV can have on one's mental well-being. In addition to shedding light on the challenges faced by those in the reality TV spotlight, Nick shares ways in which fans can sho...
Mar 28, 2024•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 11
