You can now watch this episode on YouTube! Host Birna Gustafsson invites Sexologist Natassia Miller on for a conversation about monogamy, desire, and how to measure when your sex life is really getting better. She reveals how to set SMART goals for sex (yes, really) and what to do when you feel more like roommates than lovers. Plus, how straight couples can benefit from ditching heteronormative scripts. This is your permission slip to rethink what satisfying sex can actually look like and how to...
May 22, 2025•50 min•Ep. 60
Now also on YouTube! Sex and relationship coach Catherine Drysdale joins Birna to talk about how mindfulness and somatic tools can shift how we experience intimacy. We dig into how to build a personal pleasure vocabulary, move through shame, and what it feels like to be multi-orgasmic. Plus, a listener question on mindset blocks in her first queer relationship. Want more? A bonus full-length conversation is available at beyondwithbirna.com Find Catherine at catherinedrysdale.com Instagram & ...
May 08, 2025•51 min•Ep. 59
I break down real questions students ask me as a university-level sex educator, including: STI scares, awkard roommate encounters, drunk hookups, and how to survive being slut shamed. This episode reveals what’s really happening on campus and why it matters for everyone, not just students. Most people never get comprehensive sex ed, so I’ve also compiled my top tips for healthy, safer intimacy for young adults. UNBOUND: My favorite toys, use code BBIRNA at UnboundBabes.com/birna-gustafsson for 1...
May 01, 2025•39 min•Ep. 58
NEW: Watch on YouTube! You’ve heard it a HUNDRED TIMES- just communicate, go explore! What does that mean? Where do you even start? In this episode of Beyond the Bedroom with Birna, I break down how to actually improve your sex life long-term in three solid steps. I guide you through where to begin exploring and how to tell your partner(s) what you really, really want. This episode will help you get out of that rut and kickstart your journey from good to great in bed (and beyond!). Don’t miss ou...
Apr 24, 2025•51 min•Ep. 57
NEW: WATCH ON YOUTUBE @ BEYONDBEDROOMPODCAST! Did you just say "Mommy?" Mistress Lauren joins Beyond the Bedroom for a candid chat about what domming actually is (and isn’t). We answer listener questions about how to enjoy telling people what to do and receiving the care you deserve. Plus, domming from the bottom, why so many people insist they’re not REALLY into it (but they are). Plus, of course, some tales from the dungeon. Don’t miss out on a whole BONUS HOUR with Lauren, just for members at...
Apr 17, 2025•56 min•Ep. 56
A Valentine's Day special! Birna plays the couple's question game "Pillow Talk," now available for free on beyondthebedroom.com/games Check out all show notes, discount codes, and transcripts at beyondthebedroom.org Try Wisp for Birth Control, OMG Cream, Period Relief, and more
Feb 05, 2025•42 min•Ep. 55
Some politicians want you to believe that sex is determined at conception—but that’s not how biology works. In this mini episode, I break down the science of gestational development, debunk the dangerous myth of "sex at conception," and explain how this misinformation fuels anti-trans and anti-choice policies. I also unpack Trump’s 2025 executive orders targeting reproductive rights, gender-affirming care, and public health. What do these laws mean for trans and nonbinary people? How do they imp...
Jan 29, 2025•33 min•Ep. 54
To cheer us all up, Birna reacts to some fun and quirky questions from r/sex on Reddit. Topics include cockwarming, post-orgy guilt, and a drunk best friend begging to see a couple's sex tape. For show notes, articles, and transcripts check out beyondthebedroom.org Use code BBIRNA for a discount on all my favorite things at unboundbabes.com
Jan 22, 2025•44 min•Ep. 53
Birna reviews the film "Babygirl" and discusses the kinky themes and layered characters. Plus, listeners's questions about communication and whether our childhoods can shape what we're into. Check out all affiliate links and show notes on beyondthebedroom.org
Jan 15, 2025•48 min•Ep. 52
Birna reviews intimate resolutions submitted by listeners. Topics include better solo play, sober sex, honest communication, and much more. Plus, she shares her own resolutions for the year, including how to slow down her sex life. Check out beyondthebedroom.org for show notes, discount codes, and how to submit anonymous questions or voicemails for the podcast. To get a discount on my favorite sex toys, use code BBIRNA at Un boundbabes.com on any purchase. My favorites are Ollie, Puff, and Flick...
Jan 08, 2025•50 min•Ep. 51
This special bonus episode is full of holiday-themed listener questions, plus Birna's sex predictions for the new year! Longer show notes and transcriptions can be found on beyondthebedroom.org To get a discount on my favorite sex toys, use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com on Flick, Ollie, or any other purchase Check out other links and submit a question and your new year's resolution: https://linktr.ee/bbirna...
Dec 30, 2024•40 min•Ep. 50
What should you do if you got the HPV vaccine but then had an abnormal pap? How do you gift lingerie without sending the wrong message? In this episode, Birna breaks down new HPV data, lists the do’s and don’ts of gifting sexy items, & helps a listener talk to his girlfriend about her less-than-stimulating oral skills. Longer show notes and transcriptions can be found on beyondthebedroom.org To get a discount on my favorite sex toys, use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com on Flick, Ollie, or an...
Dec 18, 2024•42 min•Ep. 49
What counts as unprotected if we both have vaginas? How do I handle a harness? Is scissoring real?? This week is all about vulva-to-vulva action, but you don't need to be a participant to enjoy this episode! Whether you're a seasoned pro, a curious newbie, or a total outsider with questions, I'll answer your questions all about V2V, lesbian, sapphic sex. Longer show notes and transcriptions can be found on beyondthebedroom.org To get a discount on my favorite sex toys, use code BBIRNA at Unbound...
Nov 12, 2024•47 min•Ep. 48
Masks, tentacles, and roleplay, oh my! This mini-episode also answers listener questions re: sex magic, monster toys, and fantasizing about something against your values (spooky!!) To get a discount on my favorite sex toys, use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com on Flick, Ollie, or any other purchase Check out other links and submit a question or Halloween confession: https://linktr.ee/bbirna...
Oct 31, 2024•30 min•Ep. 47
Is it just me, or are there ads for erectile dysfunction meds everywhere lately? I investigate what this cultural shift means for male sexuality in the US. Plus, I answer listener questions about female Viagra, performance anxiety, and gimmicky ED supplements. To get a discount on my favorite sex toys, use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com on Flick or any other purchase! Check out other links and submit a questions or Halloween confession: https://linktr.ee/bbirna...
Oct 21, 2024•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 46
Challengers hit theaters and suddenly everyone wants two boyfriends and tennis lessons, and I don't blame them. I give my two cents on the film (minimal spoilers—don't worry!), discuss whether Gen Z really hates sex scenes, and answer questions about DP, sexting, and "overperforming" in bed. Recorded at Studio Friends in Tribeca, NYC To get a discount on my favorite sex toys, use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com on any purchase. Ollie and Puff are my top picks from Unbound! Check out other links,...
Jun 04, 2024•37 min•Ep. 45
So, you've tried everything, but you're still not "getting there." In this episode, you'll learn about the possible causes of female anorgasmia and how to make adjustments to facilitate pleasure. Subscribe to birna.substack.com for my newsletter, On the Nightstand for bonus content Use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com for a discount on my favorite toys Use code BBIRNA at furyou.com on body and grooming products Find me on IG, Threads, and Tiktok @bbirna Check out more (chat with me on Sunroom!) o...
Apr 18, 2024•1 hr•Ep. 44
I discuss the history of the prosthetic scrotum I saw at the spy museum, which sent me down a rabbit hole of sexual relations in intel operations. Plus: evolutionary theories on curved penises, why caffeine makes some people super horny, and my biggest dating "icks" Subscribe to birna.substack.com for my newsletter, On the Nightstand Use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com for a discount on my favorite sex toys! Ollie + Bender are amazing. Use code BBIRNA at furyou.com on body and grooming products ...
Apr 11, 2024•52 min•Ep. 43
Another cozy Q&A episode answering anonymous questions about penetration, flogging, negotiating something sexy, and the relationship between vaping and ED. A mixed bag of topics with plenty of personal details and hot takes dotted throughout. Subscribe to birna.substack.com for my newsletter, On the Nightstand Use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com for a discount on some of the best sex toys on the market Use code BBIRNA at furyou.com on body and grooming products Find me on IG, Threads, and Ti...
Apr 05, 2024•52 min•Ep. 42
You asked, I answered. Except this time, I surveyed my friends (of the real-life and internet variety) to help me with some topics. Here's what my circle is chatting about this week: What are some modern-day don'ts when it comes to flirting? How can I tell if I want an open relationship or just enjoy the thrill of cheating? Why does prostate pleasure still weird us out? & more on condoms, lesbian sex, and daily life. Subscribe to birna.substack.com for my newsletter, On the Nightstand Use co...
Mar 28, 2024•48 min•Ep. 41
What's it like running a sex shop? I sat down with my former boss, Saga Lluvia, owner of the sex toy store Losti in Iceland, to chat about peddling pleasure. We answered listener questions about the types of customers we encountered, the toys we recommend, and so much more. Sub to my newsletter birna.substack.com for more sex ed content Use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com for a discount on sex toys (my fav is Ollie, wand mentioned in this pod) and to support the pod Use code BBIRNA at furyou.com...
Mar 21, 2024•1 hr 12 min•Ep. 40
Love is Blind may be reality TV, but the conversations about birth control, sexual values, and red flags are sparking real-life debates. We recap the show up until the last two episodes and ask ourselves: Is love really blind, and is love always enough? Saga Lluvia, the owner of sex shop Losti, joins in as an avid watcher and gives her perspective as someone in the sex ed space. Use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com for a discount and to support the pod. Use code BBIRNA at furyou.com for 15% off a...
Mar 06, 2024•1 hr 18 min•Ep. 39
This week is a mix of serious and fun topics (isn't it always?) as I work through how reproductive rights restrictions are limiting our desire. Plus, I swap stories with listeners while answering the question, "Have you ever had crazy sexual chemistry with someone, and it surprised you?" Use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com for a discount and support the podcast Use code BBIRNA at furyou.com for a 15% discount on all products from Fur (grooming, body care, trimmers, and more!) Leave a message for...
Feb 28, 2024•54 min•Ep. 38
The spiciest episode of the relaunch (so far)!! Enjoy this special edition of Beyond the Bedroom, answering all the spicy, steamy, fun questions I get from listeners. Bonus: lightning round of my favorite confessions of the week. Happy Valentine's Day! Plus, how-to's on keeping sex tapes safe, buying a powerful toy, and initiating that threesome with an eager friend. Use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com for a discount and support the podcast (products mentioned this episode: Bender & Ollie) U...
Feb 14, 2024•55 min•Ep. 37
This episode is all about ejaculation; I discuss both how it happens and how people feel about it. Does pineapple really improve the taste? Why do people shoot it at different speeds? Are breeding kinks real? What's the deal with blue balls? All of these listener questions are answered & more. Leave a message for the podcast through the link in my IG bio (@bbirna) or DM me there with any questions you want answered in a future episode. Use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com for a discount and s...
Feb 07, 2024•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 36
Welcome back! I discuss the public perceptions of squirting by diving into my comment section and finding the nuance of "hate sex." Use code BBIRNA at Unbound to support the pod and shop with a discount! Products mentioned: Ollie (wand) and Puff (suction toy) Find me on socials @bbirna (IG, Tiktok, Threads) Check out "On the Nightstand," my free newsletter with optional paid bonus content by signing up at birna.substack.com
Jan 31, 2024•50 min•Ep. 35
Why did period underwear company Thinx get sued? Are my menstrual products toxic? And what the F are PFAS? In this episode, I answer these questions and more as it relates to the ongoing class action lawsuit against Thinx. I also give my advice as someone working in reproductive public health and who owned a few pairs myself. This podcast episode is sponsor/ad free. If you’d like to support the pod, check out linktr.ee/bbirna for my links, or pay a visit of beyondthebedroom.org Choose from four ...
Feb 23, 2023•36 min•Ep. 34
What pulled you in, and what pushed you away? Is an orgasm a requirement for a second go-around? I review my audience's poll answers and share some fun stories about first-time hookups gone wrong. Use code BIRNA10 for 10% off your Maude purchase at getmaude.com Learn more about your sexual wellbeing at beyondthebedroom.org Check out my Instagram and tiktok @bbirna, follow the pod @beyondbedroompodcast for updates on new episodes.
Jul 07, 2022•53 min•Season 3Ep. 33
Mal joins me as we share some fun yet insightful commentary on how corporations take up space during Pride Month. Use code BIRNA10 for 10% off your Maude purchase at getmaude.com Learn more about your sexual wellbeing at beyondthebedroom.org Check out mal at @malcolmaldrich and me at @bbirna, follow the pod @beyondbedroompodcast for updates on new episodes.
Jun 30, 2022•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 32
Hold on- an app that can give your strap on an erection?? When I heard about the VDOM I knew I had to have Glenise on the show and pick her brain. We chat about sex AI, how to engineer a sex toy, and how Atlanta shaped the development of her groundbreaking device. Pre-order or learn more about Glenise at: thevdom.com They are on Instagram @the.vdom Check me out @bbirna or @beyondbedroompodcast beyondthebedroom.org...
Jun 07, 2022•59 min•Ep. 31
