Welcome to season 6 episode 8 of Being Known Podcast. This season we are looking at The Beauty of Wisdom. We live in a world that has trained us to believe that we each live in our own personal silo. But this flies in the face of what neuroscience tells us about the interconnectivity of our minds. So much of our anxiety—and our lack of wisdom—stems from our trying to live against the current of how God has created our minds to function. We think we need to be able to live life on our own, and we...
Mar 22, 2023•47 min•Ep. 20
Welcome to season 6 episode 7 of Being Known Podcast. This season we are looking at The Beauty of Wisdom. It’s hard to know where we are going if we first do not know where we are. The integration of the domain of our state of mind is critical if wisdom is what we seek. For if we are not aware of the state that our mind occupies—knowing where we are—how will we be able to move in the path of wisdom? Join us as Pepper and Curt discover how being known enables us to more consistently be aware of o...
Mar 16, 2023•47 min•Ep. 19
Welcome to season 6 episode 6 of Being Known Podcast. This season we are looking at The Beauty of Wisdom. The book of Proverbs portrays Wisdom as calling out in the streets. She, in effect, is telling her story, and asking us to join her. As it turns out, it is crucial in becoming people of wisdom that we not only understand the stories we tell about ourselves, but that we tell them wisely. And to do this, we need other trustworthy people in our lives who can help us do this. For it is in the ve...
Mar 08, 2023•42 min•Ep. 18
Welcome to season 6 episode 5 of Being Known Podcast. This season we are looking at The Beauty of Wisdom. The memory domain of integration is not only about the past, it’s about the future. The future we are remembering. And indeed, becoming wise has everything to do with how you make sense of your past, something you are doing every moment of your life, even if you are not aware of it. For if we are to be wise as we approach our future, we must be aware of how our past is shaping us as much as ...
Mar 01, 2023•45 min•Ep. 17
Welcome to season 6 episode 4 of Being Known Podcast. This season we are looking at The Beauty of Wisdom. We often assume that wisdom is to be equated with knowing things. And indeed, knowing things is important. But only to the degree that it enables us to create beauty and goodness in the world, not least that of flourishing relationships. Our challenge is that so often we are interested in acquiring knowledge because we are more concerned with being right than we are about being loving. The h...
Feb 22, 2023•43 min•Ep. 16
Welcome to season 6 episode 3 of Being Known Podcast. This season we are looking at The Beauty of Wisdom. God creates mankind in a particular sequence, as Genesis tells us. He begins with mud, into which he breathes his breath. And so we too, in order to become people of wisdom, people who are deeply known, must be present first to our bodies. What are they telling us? And how do we then make sense of what we are sensing? How do we act with our bodies in such a way that wisdom is acquired? We di...
Feb 15, 2023•48 min•Ep. 15
Welcome to season 6 episode 2 of Being Known Podcast. This season we are looking at The Beauty of Wisdom. In the beginning, it was God’s presence that hovered over the deep waters of chaos. But before that wisdom was with God, and then was at his side as God brought order and purpose in his creating the world. Presence. For to know what wisdom is, let alone acquire it, we must first be present to it—in the same way that we must be present to God, to ourselves, and to each other as the starting p...
Feb 08, 2023•40 min•Ep. 14
Welcome to season 6 episode 1 of Being Known Podcast. This season we are looking at The Beauty of Wisdom as we address the following: What does it mean to be wise, and how does life at the intersection of interpersonal neurobiology and Christian spirituality—a life of being known—reveal how we can become people of wisdom in a world that so desperately needs it? We would expect there to be no debate: wisdom is something everyone thinks is a good thing. Who would ever want to be more foolish by th...
Feb 01, 2023•43 min•Ep. 13
As part of the Connections Conference 2022 hosted by The Center for Being Known, Curt, Pepper and Amy sat down for a live podcast recording to talk all things friendship, favorites and being known. Learn more about The Center for Being Known at www.thedbk.org
Jan 25, 2023•1 hr 10 min
We've come to the end of our season where we talked in-depth with personal stories as it related to Curt's book, The Soul of Shame. In this end of season episode we review our conversations, answer your questions, and pull it all together. We won’t be ashamed if we don’t answer all your questions, though we know we wish we could. . . . . . Thank you to our sponsors Hon’s Honey - Hon's Honey is a social enterprise dedicated to giving dignity and purpose to women survivors of trauma. They believe ...
Oct 05, 2022•41 min•Season 5Ep. 11
Welcome to season 5 episode 10 where this season we are bringing you personal stories and deep teaching into Curt’s book, The Soul of Shame . This week we are looking at chapter 9, “Renewing Vocational Creativity”. Human beings were made in God’s image in order that we might create and curate beauty and goodness in the world, not least through all of our acts of work, whether we are paid for it or not. But evil finds any and all of that creativity to be anathema. No wonder then, that evil has no...
Sep 28, 2022•48 min•Season 5Ep. 10
Welcome to season 5 episode 9 where this season we are bringing you personal stories and deep teaching into Curt’s book, The Soul of Shame . This week we are looking at chapter 8, “Redeeming Shame in Our Nurturing Communities”. Shame doesn’t just appear out of nowhere. Shame begins in the earliest communities in which we dwell. It is to those communities we now turn to see how shame emerges there – but also what we can to retell the stories of those communities: our families, our churches, and s...
Sep 21, 2022•51 min•Season 5Ep. 9
Welcome to season 5 episode 8 where this season we are bringing you personal stories and deep teaching into Curt’s book, The Soul of Shame . This week we are looking at chapter 7, “Our Healing Cloud of Witnesses”. For shame to be healed and our lives recommissioned, we need more than good information so we can simply appropriate it on our own as individuals. In the same way that we were made as contingent, co-regulating people who, made in God’s image, require the presence of others for our heal...
Sep 14, 2022•48 min•Season 5Ep. 8
Welcome to season 5 episode 7 where this season we are bringing you personal stories and deep teaching into Curt’s book, The Soul of Shame . This week we are looking at chapter 6, “Shame’s Remedy: Vulnerability”. Hiding and isolation are hallmarks of shame. Moreover, the very notion of exposing our shame is…shaming. Who knew that the very thing that we are most fearful of—our shame being exposed—is the place we need to begin to discover shame’s healing, and to have our stories begin to be told m...
Sep 07, 2022•49 min•Season 5Ep. 7
Welcome to season 5 episode 6 where this season we are bringing you personal stories and deep teaching into Curt’s book, The Soul of Shame . This week we are looking at chapter 6, “Shame and the Biblical Narrative”. At the heart of all that the Bible is lies a story. YES, a story about humans and all that we are. But even more so, a story about a God and who he is. In many ways, the Bible is the story that God is telling about us. Given what we have learned thus far about how shame infects the w...
Aug 31, 2022•43 min•Season 5Ep. 6
Welcome to season 5 episode 5 where this season we are bringing you personal stories and deep teaching into Curt’s book, The Soul of Shame . This week we are looking at chapter 4, “The Story of Shame You Are Living”. We’re all storytellers. Unlike any other living creature, humans are the only animals that tell stories in the way we do. It is in those stories that our shame takes up residence, with all of the mechanics we have learned about so far, and begins to tell a story that leads to our de...
Aug 24, 2022•44 min•Season 5Ep. 5
Welcome to season 5 episode 4 where this season we are bringing you personal stories and deep teaching into Curt’s book, The Soul of Shame . This week we are looking at chapter 3, “Joy, Shame and the Brain”. We were made for joy. The bible and our greatest literature attest to this. But not only this: research in attachment reflects that joyful human relationships are the key to our well-being. No wonder, then, that shame targets our experience of joy as its first priority in disintegrat...
Aug 17, 2022•45 min•Season 5Ep. 4
Welcome to season 5 episode 3 where this season we are bringing you personal stories and deep teaching into Curt’s book, The Soul of Shame. This week we are looking at chapter 2, How Shame Targets the Mind. It has been said, “Keep your friends close. And keep your enemies closer.” If we want to know what evil is up to as it uses shame in its quest to devour us, the first thing to know is how the mind works—so that we will also know where and how evil is doing its dirty work. In this episode, we ...
Aug 10, 2022•32 min•Season 5Ep. 3
Welcome to season 5 episode 2 where this season we are bringing you personal stories and deep teaching into Curt’s book, The Soul of Shame . This week we are looking at chapter 1, Our Problem with Shame. It’s not enough to know what shame IS. We also have to know how and where it works. Our problem with shame is not just a sensation in which we feel bad. It’s about all the ways that it hijacks our mind, relationships, and mostly, the story in which we believe we’re living. . . . . . Thank you to...
Aug 03, 2022•45 min•Season 5Ep. 2
Welcome to season 5 episode 1 where this season we are bringing you personal stories and deep teaching into Curt’s book, The Soul of Shame. This week we are looking at the introduction section, The Story That Shame is Trying to Tell. What is it about shame? Why is it that it just doesn’t seem to go away? Moreover, what makes it so destructive? Is it its mechanics? Or is it because it gets so intimately tangled up in our stories? Not only that, but is shame always bad for us? To top...
Jul 27, 2022•32 min•Season 5Ep. 1
Being Known Podcast normally ends our season with a wrap up episode highlighting each episode with one more nugget of wisdom. This season we mixed things up a bit and asked our listeners and followers what they wanted to know more about. We received over 40 questions seeking additional wisdom on sexual trauma, generational trauma, trauma and the church and more. A few of the questions asked include: How does trauma play out in our relationship with God? And how does this affect our ability to at...
May 18, 2022•56 min•Season 4Ep. 12
Welcome to Season 4 of Being Known Podcast where we are looking at trauma through the lens of hope and not fear. This week we talk on how we can begin to heal from trauma with a look at the wholeness of integration. We were made to create beauty and goodness in the world. But evil has other plans, and wields trauma as a way to devour us before that goodness and beauty can be realized. But - God had other plans beyond those of evil – plans that evil never saw coming, and still doesn’t. For indeed...
May 11, 2022•49 min•Season 4Ep. 11
Welcome to Season 4 of Being Known Podcast where we are looking at trauma through the lens of hope and not fear. This week we talk on how we can begin to heal from trauma. If there is anything we know about trauma, it’s that it depends on disintegration and isolation to do its dirty work. And if there’s anything we know about its healing, it’s that the presence of others is the beginning of integration, which leads to the creation of beauty and goodness in the face of painfully broken stories. B...
May 04, 2022•52 min•Season 4Ep. 10
Welcome to Season 4 of Being Known Podcast where we are looking at trauma through the lens of hope and not fear. This week we are looking at trauma caused by the church. One thing we know about infections: some of the most difficult to treat are actually contracted inside hospitals. How is it that the place where we come to heal can also be the very place where some of our most painful experiences of trauma occur? From pastoral and spiritual abuse to sexual assault that spares no denominational ...
Apr 27, 2022•53 min•Season 4Ep. 9
Welcome to Season 4 of Being Known Podcast where we are looking at trauma through the lens of hope and not fear. This week we are talking families! Despite our fierce commitment to individualism, trauma is far more likely to follow the way the mind has actually been made, rather than the way we have for the last several hundred years tried to pretend that it works. We would like to think that the trauma that we experience or perpetrate will only have effects on us or the ones upon whom we inflic...
Apr 20, 2022•46 min•Season 4Ep. 8
Welcome to Season 4 of Being Known Podcast where we are looking at trauma through the lens of hope and not fear. This week we are looking at the sensitive, hard and beautiful topic of sexual trauma. What is it about sex that seems to make everything – especially trauma – so much more difficult? Moreover, how is sexual trauma so much more debilitating than some other forms of our topic? No matter how much we would like to wish otherwise, there is just no getting around the fact that few things sh...
Apr 13, 2022•49 min•Season 4Ep. 7
Welcome to Season 4 of Being Known Podcast where we are looking at trauma through the lens of hope and not fear. This week we connect trauma and shame. Of all the things trauma can do, its capacity for self-perpetuation is unmatched. And at the core of that experience is our neurophysiological encounter with shame. Be it the way we sense the world, or the story we tell about what we are sensing, evil will want to use shame to strengthen the experience of isolation that we feel in response to tra...
Apr 06, 2022•46 min•Season 4Ep. 6
Welcome to Season 4 of Being Known Podcast where we are looking at trauma through the lens of hope and not fear. This week we connect trauma and the brain. To the great surprise of many, our bodies are how our minds most often and most powerfully let us in on reality. As we like to say in the business, first we sense, and only then do we make sense of what we sense. But what if our “sensing” mechanism, the body, has been the very thing that has encountered so much physical, sexual, or emotional ...
Mar 30, 2022•54 min•Season 4Ep. 5
Welcome to Season 4 of Being Known Podcast where we are looking at trauma through the lens of hope and not fear. This week we continue looking at the mind. If the mind goes first, it necessarily will involve the brain. Therefore, in this episode, we will explore how trauma affects the brain in particular – not least how it perceives our inner and outer worlds – and how being aware of this can give us clues to hour our healing can begin. Join Curt and Pepper as we discover how the brain is for fa...
Mar 23, 2022•47 min•Season 4Ep. 4
Welcome to Season 4 of Being Known Podcast where we are looking at trauma through the lens of hope and not fear. This week we begin our exploration of how trauma affects us at the beginning—for it is with our minds that we perceive that trauma has occurred in the first place and what its nature is. Pepper and Curt review what the mind is and how trauma affects it. Listen in as we catch the first glimpses of the effects of trauma and what we need to pay attention to as we seek its healing. We’ll ...
Mar 16, 2022•48 min•Season 4Ep. 3
