Jimmy Carnes is a Capable Life trainer who has worked with Steve for over ten years. He joins Steve on the pod to chat: - What do you do when you don't know what to do. - Leadership as 'taking responsibility' rather than 'knowing what to do.' - How many milliseconds do you need to know if a worship band member is not ok? And much more. To get info and tickets for our upcoming Unlocking Faith conference, click here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Jun 25, 2023•46 min•Ep. 176
Sometimes it is easier to SEE Differentiation before you TRY it! We frequently recommend first watching it, then noticing a time you're anxious and debriefing after and then trying it for yourself. To that end, in this episode Steve spends time clarifying what differentiation is and then shows how it shows up in: Hidden Figures, The Crown, The Princess Bride, Toy Story and Spotlight. Coming in Oct 2-4, Unlocking Faith conference. Early bird pricing ends June 30th. Join us in person, live stream ...
Jun 18, 2023•59 min•Ep. 175
This week Lisa and Steve dive into the 4 styles of attachment, we help you locate your own attachment styles and then we talk through some characters from the show and their attachment. We also dig into differentiation, how some people mis use it and where we see characters differentiating well. Unlocking Faith is coming! We'll help you locate and unlock beliefs that block your enjoyment of God. Oct 2-4 in person in CO, or live stream or watch on demand. Early Bird pricing ends June 30 Learn mor...
Jun 11, 2023•59 min•Ep. 174
We all have beliefs that lay deeper than our belief in God and these beliefs block our connection to God. In this episode, Steve is joined by his trauma and attachment therapist wife, Lisa to chat the nature of beliefs and tools to dislodge core beliefs so our precious belief can soak deeper into our lives. Our Unlocking Faith conference is approaching! Early bird prices end June 30th. To come in person or buy a live stream or on demand video access, click here. Learn more about your ad choices....
May 28, 2023•36 min•Ep. 172
Jessie Cruickshank’s new book is Ordinary DIscipleshipship - an incredible and fresh approach to the way we change and help others change. I loved this interview where Jessie digs into attachment theory, the way God wired our brains for change, the power of truth and assumptions and her favorite way to die while being outdoors. Jessie is Director of Certification for Future Church, an ordained Foursquare minister and a nationally recognized leader in the fields of Experiential Education and Educ...
May 21, 2023•45 min•Ep. 171
Nick and Christine Caine are two of the most phenomenal people I know. Christine is an evangelist, gifted preacher and author. She and Nick lead Equip and Empower, an organization dedicated to helping women thrive in faith and leadership. They also lead A21, a global anti human trafficking organization. A21 is a full service organization from advocacy to rescue and recovery and operates in a dozen countries. In this rare treat, we hear from Nick and Christine together on the early days of A21, h...
May 14, 2023•54 min•Ep. 170
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May 08, 2023•32 min•Ep. 169
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May 01, 2023•21 min•Ep. 168
Sean Nemecek is a pastor, coach at www.PIRministries.org and author of the MUST READ new book The Weary Leader’s Guide To Burnout. Sean chats his own harrowing journey into and out of burnout. He helps us measure our healthy relationships and also gives us ways to implement proper rhythms that increase our chance of being well. Leaders, this is such an important conversation. You are worth pouring into. Please do not listen and move on. You can get help and you are worth the money and time to do...
Mar 05, 2023•48 min•Ep. 167
How do we learn to restrain our impulses long enough to reflect on them with God so we can deliberatively respond rather than react? Today we share tips on that, we announce the new conference and an Aussie speaking tour. Info and Tickets for the Unlocking Faith conference. Info for the Australian Speaking Tour. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Feb 19, 2023•23 min•Ep. 166
Justin Rosolino is the Magnolia Community Engagement Coordinator, serving in the non profit arm of Magnolia, the home decor juggernaut founded by Chip and Joanna Gaines. Justin is a guitarist, classicist and former educator which explains why he now works in addressing systemic poverty in Waco, Texas. Justin is the author of Idiot, Sojourning Soul, a provocative, wide reaching and entertaining memoir of his life and of Christianity in general. For resources to help you manage anxiety, yours and ...
Feb 12, 2023•55 min•Ep. 165
Ike Miller is a pastor, scholar, church planter and author who is releasing a fascinating book called Good Baggage to help us understand the implication of our childhood on our well being. Ike and I chat about upbringing, childhood vows and more. And of course Ike very kindly endures the gauntlet of anxiety questions! For resources to help you with emotional and spiritual health, visit www.capablelife.me Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Feb 05, 2023•41 min•Ep. 164
Mike Cosper is a musician, pastor, creative and podcaster, most recently known for the juggernaut podcast The Rise and Fall of Mars Hill. Mike serves as a Senior Director at Christianity Today and recently hosted two beautiful interviews with Bono and Bill Mallonee. We discuss how grief infects our work for better or worse, the impact and challenge of producing RaFoMH podcast. We kick around art and craft and the vital importance of putting beautiful work into the world. Mike is an utter gem, I ...
Jan 29, 2023•51 min•Ep. 163
Tara Beth Leach is a pastor, preacher and author. She brings a rare combination of candor, thoughtfulness, depth and succinctness. Tara Beth talks us through grieving as a leader, unique challenges of being a female pastor, the life of an Enneagram 6 and more. This was one of my all time favorite conversations and reminds me how grateful I am for her voice, writing and way in this world. You can dig into Tara Beth’s books here. Want to increase well being and break stuck relational patterns in y...
Jan 22, 2023•45 min•Ep. 162
"People grow when they are in a quest or when they are in a crisis' so says the wonderful Dr Scot McKnight. Our church has built a philosophy of discipleship and change around this profound idea. Today I share our steps to transformation, whether talking about spiritual growth or relational health. Also, exciting announcements! 1. To be the first to hear when conference tickets go on sale, visit www.stevecusswords.com and grab the free PDF. We will email our whole email list when pre sale is rea...
Jan 15, 2023•40 min•Ep. 161
Lisa, 'The Friendly Neighborhood Therapist' joins Steve to chat about power dynamics, manipulation vs gas lighting. Steve and Lisa also talk about upcoming intensives and when you know you could benefit from one. To learn more about intensives, purchase a journal or join the self paced learning community, visit www.capablelife.me Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Dec 05, 2022•32 min•Ep. 160
Movie writers and show runners sometimes employ an 'unreliable narrator' - often a character in the show who is confused, or intentionally deceiving the audience. Shows like The Sting, The Prestige, Home Land, True Detective and more employee this technique to keep the audience guessing or confused. Chronic anxiety is an unreliable narrator and the sooner we learn to mistrust its message, the more freedom we can experience. For journals and our self paced experience, visit www.capablelife.me Lea...
Nov 28, 2022•26 min•Ep. 159
Chronic anxiety has a gospel and if you don't stay on its treadmill, it tells you that Armageddon will happen. This is why we stay stuck - we assume we have to keep doing what we're doing so disaster won't strike. But Chronic anxiety is unreliable. How do we test our assumptions? On this solo episode, Steve further explores assumptions and doom that come with anxiety. For journal or our self paced learning community, visit www.capablelife.me To get on the interest list for 2023 intensives, email...
Nov 21, 2022•23 min•Ep. 158
A solo episode where Steve shares some of his current metaphors and tools on managing anxiety. This one - anxiety is like a lobster trap. You can leave anytime you want. Visit www.capablelife.me to order the new Calm, Aware, Present Journal, add on some video guides or join our Capable Life self paced community. To get on the interest list for Steve's 2023 intensives, email steve@stevecusswords.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Nov 13, 2022•36 min•Ep. 157
**For journals, online community or to inquire about Steve serving your organization, visit www.capablelife.me** This week Steve chats with Jay Kim, a thoughtful and wise young pastor who chats through analog Christianity, challenges of transition in leadership and minority culture. There were just so many fantastic nuggets of wisdom in this episode. Jay Y Kim serves as lead pastor at WestGate Church. He has written two cracking books on navigating our faith in a digital age: Analog Church and A...
Nov 07, 2022•54 min•Ep. 156
** For a journal, video series or to join our Capable Life self paced learning journey, visit www.capablelife.me ** I'm writing a new book! For feedback, or to share your own gaps, email steve@stevecusswords.com Also, shout out to Don Pape at PapeCommons. For more about Tyler Schultz: The Dropout Podcast Tyler Schultz Interview. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Oct 31, 2022•39 min•Ep. 155
** For a journal, video series or to join our Capable Life self paced learning journey, visit www.capablelife.me ** Murray Bowen, founder of Family Systems Theory developed 8 concepts to guide and explain how we think and act. Understanding and putting into practice these 8 concepts can really revolutionize your relationship with people and with anxiety. This episode is part 2 of 2 as we cover the last 4 of the 8 concepts. Hosted by Steve Cuss and Brendan Reed. (Listen to Part 1 here.) **This ep...
Oct 24, 2022•46 min•Ep. 154
Lucy Peppiatt is the Principal of Westminster Theological Centre in the UK where she teaches classes in systematic theology and spiritual formation. She is the author of volumes on discipleship, women in the NT, and the imago Dei and has a particular interest in the relation of Christ and the Spirit. She and her husband, Nick Crawley, have been in church leadership for over 30 years. They have four married sons. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Oct 17, 2022•34 min•Ep. 153
DJ Chuang works as a freelance strategy consultant with over 20 years of experience in developing digital strategies and effective team processes for businesses, nonprofits and churches, accomplishing a reputation for pioneering innovations, developing effective resources, and strategically connecting people for greater impact. DJ is a recognized facilitator of dynamic conversations that co-create innovative solutions that meet specific organizational needs and context. He’s launched 3 podcasts,...
Oct 10, 2022•48 min•Ep. 152
Sharon Hodde Miller is a speaker, author, church planter, co pastor and scholar whose recent book The Cost Of Control is a must read. Sharon diagnoses our control issues, but then sifts them through modern challenges like smart phones and body image. A delightful chat with a sharp and vital thinker. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Sep 26, 2022•47 min•Ep. 151
**To join Capable Life before the price increase, sign up for our free communications masterclass or buy a journal, visit www.stevecusswords.com Murray Bowen, founder of Family Systems Theory developed 8 concepts to guide and explain how we think and act. Understanding and putting into practice these 8 concepts can really revolutionize your relationship with people and with anxiety. This episode is part 1 of 2 as we cover 4 of the 8 concepts. Hosted by Steve Cuss and Brendan Reed. Links referenc...
Sep 12, 2022•49 min•Ep. 149
Steve is delighted to be joined by his 15 year old daughter, Kaylee. Kaylee is a foremost expert on the TV show Gilmore Girls AND she has sat through enough of Steve’s workshops (and, frankly, dinner conversations) that she is able to diagnose the anxiety in the System of Gilmore Girls. Steve and Kaylee cover triangulation, double binds, mixed messages and more. Note: www.capablelife.me membership prices increase Sept 15th. Join now before the price goes up. Also, our journals are now available ...
Sep 04, 2022•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 148
Dr Anne Pattel-Gray was the first Indiginous Australian to receive a PhD in Theology and she has used her personal experience and training to speak prophetically into unjust and evil racist systems. Anne has achieved many firsts in her life, and she is known as a trail blazer and has opened many doors for her people. She is a recognised scholar, Aboriginal activist and prolific writer with several publications –chapters, articles, edited works and authored books. Steve first encountered Dr Patte...
Aug 29, 2022•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 147
After a quick update and a candle lighting, Steve digs into the nature of power by comparing the Roman Pax Romana to the Gospel of Jesus and the Gospel of our chronic anxiety and inner critic. To learn more about the free Communication Style masterclass, visit www.stevecusswords.com Note: Capable Life membership prices increase Sept 15. To join before the price increases, visit www.capablelife.me Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Aug 22, 2022•35 min•Ep. 146
Part 7 in this series. Ruth Haley Barton (Doctor of Divinity, Northern Seminary) is founding president/CEO of the Transforming Center, a ministry dedicated to strengthening the souls of pastors and Christian leaders, and the congregations and organizations they serve. For over twenty years, she has ministered to the soul care needs of pastors and leaders based upon her conviction that the best thing we bring to leadership is our own transforming selves. Ruth is the author of numerous books and r...
Jun 20, 2022•38 min•Ep. 145
