105 – Focus On The Journey

FOCUS ON THE JOURNEY… I got a letter from a friend today.  He’s a young man, I met him because he reached out to me as a listener of this show and we became friends.  In his letter he described his on-going struggle.  He has a strong desire to be a better man.  He is trying to apply the things I talk about on this show and things I’ve shared with him personally.  He feels like the harder he try’s, the harder it becomes.  He is wrestling with some things like a video game addiction, some family issues, and some of the other things that we all encounter on this path of being a better man. He said he feels like there is an invisible ceiling in his way…he keeps looking for the improvement, for some good to come out of his efforts and he doesn’t always see them.  In the meantime he keeps pushing on, trying to be a better man but feeling discouraged, like he is fighting a losing battle. I decided to share this with you because it occurred to me that  if he is experiencing this…then there is a good chance many of you are.  The struggle is real.  Now I’m going to share an excerpt of my reply to him, and then expound on that a bit. I told him; 

“I have found that nothing worth while is ever easy…nothing. 

It might help to focus on the journey, rather than the destination.  In other words, don’t get bogged down thinking about where you are trying to get to…do not focus on what you perceive is lacking, because that will expand those things. 

Instead focus on the journey!  The day, hour, moment you are living in.  Focus on the things you are doing well, because then those things will expand.  Really, all we have control over is each moment we are living in, prepare yourself for a slow, incremental improvement, and keep living in the present.  Because the past is gone, the future hasn’t even happened…all you have is right now.  That invisible ceiling you spoke of may be the future…or the past, make it irrelevant by focusing on the moment.

Of course you will have failures, we all do.  Don’t focus on them or beat yourself up over them.  Just acknowledge them, learn from them, and drive on forward, with the intention of not repeating them.  And don’t forget to celebrate your victories…because you will have those too.

Hang in there man, the fact that you are trying is huge in itself.”

So that’s what I wrote to him, and I hope it helps.  Look, in these days we live in we are so accustomed to instant gratification, we have...