061 – Marriage…A Mans Perspective

MARRIAGE…A Mans Perspective Last weekend I had the honor and privilege of not only attending…but also officiating the wedding of two very dear friends; Matti and Betsy, they are a great couple and I am really proud of them.  It was an awesome weekend, I got to see lots of other friends too…but the whole undertone of marriage got me thinking that it is something I should address here. Should you as a man aspire to become a married man?  It’s really a loaded question and the answer depends a lot on who you talk to. Relationships can be super tough, they can make you want to fake your own death and leave the country…I know because I was in a relationship like that once.  They can make you miserable beyond your wildest imaginations. However…a relationship with the right person can also enhance your life, and make it great.  A relationship with the right individual can actually make you a better person than you have the capacity to be on your own.  I know some of you are rolling your eyes, and to be honest if someone told me that 4 years ago I would have rolled my eyes too. By the time I met my wife I was completely committed to being single for the rest of my life, I was a committed, confirmed bachelor and you know what?  I was super happy about that!  I had had my fill of horrible relationships and I was done.  I had come to believe that the “right one” was a complete myth fabricated only to ensure the propagation of our species.  I was really looking forward to going through the rest of my life only caring about me, doing whatever I wanted to whenever I wanted to without considering what someone else thought of it.  I felt unshackled and liberated from the emotional anchor of a relationship.  I felt like this right up to the second that I met my wife.  So…what happened?  Well, I met my wife.  I met her, spent a few hours with her, and my life hasn’t been the same since that day.  I can’t explain it really.  I spent the next three days arguing with myself about my bachelor status and wanting to be single…but it was stupid and I knew it.  I had met the mythical ONE that I had given up on. So why am I telling you this?  I am telling you this in order to establish for the record, that it is possible…it does happen.  A lot of you listening may have given up like I did, others of you never did believe in it in the first place…still others of you listening might be locked into a horrible relationship with the wrong person right this second and what I’m saying sounds like science fiction.  Thats ok…I get it.  Wherever you are, I understand…because I have been there. OK,...