Send us a text Abuse is a powerful weapon; destroying its victim's sense of value and robbing their voice. Years of ongoing physical, emotional, and sexual abuse had reduced Bonnie’s voice to a mere whisper. In this episode of “ Becoming Whole ,” we are honored to let Bonnie use her voice to tell her story. The fact that Bonnie would sit at a microphone to share with you reveals the triumph of her healing. Her words are transparent revealing a beautiful honesty with God even through the details ...
Mar 02, 2021•40 min
Send us a text Life with Jesus does not mean a life without suffering. So, how do we learn How to suffer well? Now, maybe that’s what you were taught or maybe you just assumed it to be true. Let’s face it, the typical American dream version of Christianity can paint a pain-free picture. But as you know, suffering is a reality. The world’s message about pain doesn’t set us up well either. We hope you’ll take time to listen as Josh, Kit Elmer, and Dan Keefer discuss the hard truth about suffering ...
Feb 23, 2021•40 min
Send us a text Your Bro’s, Your Girls, Your Tribe, Your Squad - No matter what you call it, you need a deeper kind of friendship. You and I are wired for connection. Friendship is a special kind of relationship that builds intimacy and brings fun while giving us some footing in this world. Rebecca Baker joins Josh and Kit on the podcast today to unwrap the gift of friendship. You’ll hear how true friends don’t just happen. Intentionality and vulnerability and risk are worth the gain. We hope thi...
Feb 16, 2021•29 min
Send us a text “I want what I want.” There it is; Temptation is calling. You’re in deep and need an escape. But, you’ve made a commitment to stop. Desire can flip the switch on commitment, detouring your willpower and ushering shame in like a tidal wave. It’s powerful that way but in moments of temptation, you may forget you have power too. In this episode of “Becoming Whole,” Josh and Kit offer you a pro-active approach to temptation with practical ways to use your power. Be sure to scroll down...
Feb 09, 2021•27 min
Send us a text On this episode of “Becoming Whole,” Josh and Kit unpack a spirituality tool for you that may seem tiny but has huge benefits. “The Examen” is a way to hit pause on your schedule to sift the day out. It’s a powerful habit developed by St. Ignatius of Loyola more than 500 years ago. Now more than ever, while our world glorifies busy-ness, hurriedness, loudness; the quiet slow of The Examen feels more than necessary. It may also feel counter-cultural and uncomfortable at times. And ...
Feb 02, 2021•18 min
Send us a text Rewind to a time in your past that was full of hurt, pain, wounding. Release, if you can, any feelings of shame and grief. As hard as it may be to believe; there is more to be found in your past wounding. In this episode of “Becoming Whole,” Josh and Kit explore the practice of rewinding to reveal the glory waiting in the wounding. This is not a practice of glossing over our pasts looking for the positives. We are loved by a God of redemption who has, yes, written glory even in yo...
Jan 26, 2021•17 min
Send us a text Can you recognize a destructive relationship? No relationship is perfect. But, we’re talking about more than just feeling disappointed. Can you tell the difference between a difficult relationship and one that is tearing you down? In this episode of “Becoming Whole,” Josh and Kit identify patterns to look for and unpack what they mean. Our deepest desire is to be known and loved. At a deep level then, you must be aware that something is not right. We hope this message puts some li...
Jan 19, 2021•20 min
Send us a text The Power Stance - feet apart, chest out, arms at your side. The pose is meant to inspire your own sense of confidence while giving others the idea you are powerful. The issue goes deeper than a perception though. And in this episode, Josh and Dan take a look at the past for where the Power Issues lie. When it comes to men and their unwanted sexual behaviors, power, or lack thereof, can point to the patterns we want to overcome. Listen in for a better understanding of what power i...
Jan 12, 2021•26 min
Send us a text Expectations for how the holidays should be were even more upside down this year because 2020. The usual anticipation we all feel leading up to Christmas has come and gone. Now what? Hope. Beyond expectation and anticipation, there is Hope. The very virtue of Hope is living in the present moment with the validation of a close, attentive God covering your life. Listen in for how and why you need to invite God into your hopes and then take notice. We pray you’ll be encouraged to tra...
Dec 29, 2020•22 min
Send us a text It’s the most wonderful time of the year. It's the reason for the season. Is it though? Feels more like ’tis the season for unmet expectations. Combine those unmet expectations with Covid restrictions and it feels even more difficult to find reason for our weary world to rejoice. Whatever hurt you’re facing - loss, grief, financial struggles or isolation - it hurts even deeper around this tender part of the year. Without the usual bustle of holiday parties and traditions; it may f...
Dec 22, 2020•22 min
Send us a text This short episode is packed. We encourage you to listen, then let it all settle in and listen again. Josh and Kit unpack a lot on the big topic of Expectation vs Hope in a little amount of time. There’s a lot to process here on the definitions of both concepts. When you were little, you were probably taught a happiness equation suggesting “Life’s going to be great as long as you (fill in the blank).” But, that equation subtracts the realistic bumps (or worse) in the road. This co...
Dec 15, 2020•17 min
Send us a text Abuse, Divorce, Loss, this Pandemic; Trauma comes in many shapes. You may still be figuring out all the ways trauma has left its mark. Trauma may have impacted your ability to build healthy relationships. The memory of your past trauma may still haunt your present day. The common denominator in all this is YOU. Our offering, in this podcast, is a look at how you can help you. Josh and Kit dive into the topic of Self-Kindness and Attachment Repair. Being kind to yourself plays a si...
Dec 08, 2020•25 min
Send us a text The practice of Solitude is... A. Not possible B. Scary C. Inviting D. All of the Above In the busy-ness of life right now, this is the episode for you. Josh and Kit are exploring how the practice of hitting pause is vital to living your life. We’re going to define the spiritual discipline of Solitude and ways you can move towards it. We hope you’ll understand how to set realistic expectations for yourself so you can begin where you are with what you have. Rather than wait until y...
Dec 01, 2020•18 min
Send us a text Where are you experiencing fear right now? What scares you most? Maybe it’s something that haunts you from your past. Maybe it’s the idea of a potential outcome in the future. Josh and Kit are exploring a new approach. Instead of trying to escape fear, numb fear or minimize fear - today, we’re going to face fear. You can do this. Facing your fear is a power move to pull back some of that control you normally give it. The rabbit hole of “what if’s” pulls your brain down a long, dar...
Nov 24, 2020•22 min
Send us a text Shame is a powerful influencer. And if we let it get loud enough, it convinces us that we are walking report cards. Shame gives us a capital F saying our behavior is who we are. Let’s turn down the volume on shame. You may be struggling with your behavior but you are not your sin. Your identity is not wrapped in your performance alone. If that statement can’t find it’s way into your heart; listen in on this conversation. Josh invites Regeneration Ministries, Dan Keeffer, to dig de...
Nov 17, 2020•27 min
Send us a text You are a sexual creature, created by a Holy God. Your sex drive has an ebb and flow. You have unique factors that contribute to the rise and fall of your libido. There’s a peace and confidence in that awareness. If you’re married, remember the same holds true for your spouse - EXCEPT that their ebb and flow and drive and triggers may be completely different. It’s no wonder that 1 in every 3 couples struggle with problems associated with different sexual desires. Couples are made ...
Nov 10, 2020•27 min
Send us a text If you’re married, you can attest to the fact that Holy Matrimony don’t necessarily mean holy harmony. Marriage involves the sometimes tough work of learning, adjusting, confronting, putting up with, and blessing your spouse's differences. When those differences hit the bedroom, couples tend to avoid the necessary work. If that sounds uncomfortably familiar, you aren’t alone. In fact, 1 out of 3 couples struggle with differing sexual desires. Josh and Kit invite you into a two par...
Nov 03, 2020•27 min
Send us a text “My experience indicates that most people become infatuated or fall in love with others an average of six times in the course of a long marriage.” Six times - Does that make sense to you or does it offend you? This is the statement Gary Thomas used to share an honest blog post admitting his own attractions while offering advice on how to handle them. Thomas is a best selling author and international speaker whose ministry works to bring people closer to Christ through marriage, pa...
Oct 27, 2020•38 min
Send us a text With no tools, no teams or projects, three men sit down on this episode to talk Friendship. Connection can typically be filed into a “Women Only” category. But, as you’ll hear from Josh, Matthew and Dan; men don’t just need but actually long for deep connection with each other. We hope you’ll listen to this honest conversation between men about men and come away with a better understating of this deep need. For our male listeners, hearing words put to buried feelings can help serv...
Oct 20, 2020•30 min
Send us a text Porn - this little word carries a heavy load of shame for some or maybe guilt for others. What about when you find out your child has been viewing porn? Our offering for you is today is 10 Tips to help you navigate the path forward when you discover your child has been viewing porn. Michelle Dunn - a Regeneration Team member and Therapist - joins Josh on the podcast to help us walk with our kids, not just as moms and dads, but also as allies in the world of sexuality. Everything w...
Oct 13, 2020•30 min
Send us a text There’s a simple call for all of us who claim to be followers of Jesus: Love others. But when it comes to LGBTQ+ people, we can let fear and misunderstanding get in the way of that call. Do you feel clear about what the Bible says about homosexuality? What does discipleship look like for Christians who experience same-sex orientation? What are we calling them to? Today we talk with Dr. Preston Sprinkle, a biblical scholar and NY Times best-selling author with a ministry centered o...
Oct 06, 2020•45 min
Send us a text Single: More than Un-Married Within the church, it may feel like being married is the goal. While being single is reduced to being un-married. Checking one box and not another can lead to resentment. Within the church, there can and should be a way to bring all of our gifts together. “For just as the body is one and has many members, and all the members of the body, though many, are one body, so it is with Christ.” (1 Corinthians 12:12) This episode is a deep dive between two peop...
Sep 29, 2020•37 min
Send us a text Power Parenting is possible! It IS possible to have an actual conversation with your kids, even your teenagers. Michelle Dunn, a Counselor & coordinator of the Regeneration Ministries PG series for parents, is on the podcast offering tips on powerful parenting through topics such as school, sports, and even sex. Parents need to push past the anticipated eye roll or angsty attitude to keep connecting. As much as they pull away, moms and dads need to lean into their teen’s life,...
Sep 22, 2020•32 min
Send us a text Abandoned & Shattered: these are the two words we hear most from those who’ve learned their spouse has been unfaithful. Vows that were spoken in front of friends and family are now shattered. And the shrapnel, the disorientation is hitting everyone you love. Where are you in the story? Are you feeling abandoned? Or Are you the one who did the shattering? We are here for you now. Join Regeneration Ministries Team Members - Josh, Kit, and Anne - for a wider look at infidelity an...
Sep 15, 2020•35 min
Send us a text “God, you have made us for yourself, and our hearts are restless until they can find rest in you.” This is Contentment and the Ache Within. Augustine wrote these words on contentment long before instant text messaging and social media. The truth remains; you were made by God, for God. Yet you live in a world that says we can double-tap, swipe-right, thumbs up our way to happiness. The problem is instant gratification does not equal happiness. Your very essence is designed to find ...
Sep 08, 2020•47 min
Send us a text It seems as though we’re all hunkered down in our political and ideological trenches these days. We hurl arguments like grenades, watching them explode from a “Twitter” distance away, high-fiving those on “our” side. Division is competing with COVID for pandemic status in our country. How do we, as believers, make our way through this division? We connect. Josh and Kit invite Ana Samuel, PhD to share practical ways for you to be loving and kind in a world that is anything but. You...
Sep 01, 2020•38 min
Send us a text We’ve lost our center. Our focus on the Cross has faded; making the conversation you’re about to hear necessary. The world and, in some cases, even the church is offering a watered-down Gospel. Rather than looking past the Cross as a place of burden, let’s start to look to the Cross as a place of intimacy. Lingering where Jesus died for you may make you uncomfortable. You may even question the power behind an event that took place more than 2,000 years ago. We want to challenge yo...
Aug 25, 2020•35 min
Send us a text Who you are and who you want to be… Do they feel oceans apart? If you’re feeling a disconnect between the two, you’re not alone and you’re probably exhausted. The battle between True Self and False Self is more common than you know. What is true is you are created in love by God for a purpose. But, this broken world takes a toll on that vulnerable, soft, true core. So, the “True Self” gives way to the “False Self.” In this episode, Josh and Kit expose the masks and fronts we use f...
Aug 18, 2020•30 min
Send us a text Understanding and Healing the Mother Wound Part 1 gave us an understanding of a Mother Wound. Now, let’s keep the conversation going. There is more to you and the relationship with your mom than the wounding. You are not stuck. This second part of the conversation pushes past the initial step of facing a mother wound to the work that comes next. And, the work is hard. There may be anger. There may be tears. And that is okay. Acknowledging your mother wound means moving past shame ...
Aug 11, 2020•25 min
Send us a text Mother. Mommy. Mom. Momma. When you were just a baby, your first smile was for her. And when she locked eyes with you and smiled back, something cemented deep down inside. As a child, seeing your emotions reflected back from your mom’s face was validating and connecting for you at a foundational level. That “mirroring” became an understanding for how you on how to move through relationships with yourself and others. So, what if mom didn’t smile back because of her own depression o...
Aug 04, 2020•30 min
