Becoming UnDone

Hosted by professor, speaker, and performance & comeback scientist Dr. Toby Brooks (@tobybrooksphd), Becoming UnDone is where high-achievers come to reckon with rock bottom—and rise again. Every week, we explore what happens when life doesn’t go according to plan. Through raw stories, vulnerable insights, and powerful conversations, we dive into the pain of identity loss, the paralysis of burnout, and the transformative power of coming apart.

This isn’t just about failure. It’s about what you do next.

Whether you’re an executive questioning your purpose, an athlete facing the end, or a leader secretly unraveling, this show is your reminder: the coming apart isn’t the end of the story—it’s the beginning of something greater. If you’ve ever asked yourself, “What in the hell next?”—you’re in the right place.

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006 | DISCIPLINE (W3) with Toby Brooks

On this 2nd of January, gyms are packed. People are eating better. A new year promises a new beginning. Motivation runs high. But none of my first four guests said a word about motivation. I never heard any of them complain about they were able to accomplish their goals because they’d been magically gifted an extra helping of internal drive. Because success isn’t ABOUT motivation. I heard a great quote this morning: motivation has an expiration date. And when motivation dies, discipline must tak...

Jan 02, 2023•9 min•Season 1Ep. 6

005 | SOMEHOW I MANAGE with Mike Meyer, Former Professional Baseball Player and Current Manager, Sioux Falls Canaries

What would you do if your wildest dreams came mostly true, but then the door closed before you were able to step through and enjoy it? For Tucson, Arizona native Mike Meyer, big league dreams started early. But baseball was never supposed to be a profession to have as much as a passion to pursue. He knew he loved the game from the moment he began to understand the basics as a toddler. And the game loved him right back. From his early days playing on rec league teams to invite-only scrimmages and...

Jan 01, 2023•1 hr•Season 1Ep. 5

004 | STRENGTH with Brad Arnett, Founder and Strength Coach, NX Level Sports Performance

Did you ever get exactly what you wanted, only to discover that maybe it wasn't exactly what you'd bargained for? Wisconsin native Brad Arnett landed a highly coveted Assistant Athletics Director and Head Strength and Conditioning position at his SECOND Power Five NCAA Division I school when he left the University of Minnesota for the desert of Tucson and the University of Arizona in 2000. A monumental responsibility and honor for anyone, Brad did it before he turned 30. One of the brightest, mo...

Jan 01, 2023•1 hr 7 min•Season 1Ep. 4

003 | PAYING THE PRICE: Word to the 3rd (W3) with Toby Brooks

I am a musician. I have been a drummer since beating on my mom’s pots and pans when I was three. I love most music—especially hip hop. When I was 16, I tore my ACL and had to have surgery. The day I got home from the procedure, I was stuck in bed and I had gotten a new CD in the mail from Columbia House: a new release by the hip hop group Third Bass. I listened to that disc on repeat for the next week, and the catchy beats and fun, light-hearted lyrics helped pull me out of what I now know was p...

Jan 01, 2023•6 min•Season 1Ep. 3

002 | PERSPECTIVE with Kara Fry Meyer, Former Elite & Collegiate Gymnast

Friedrich Nietzsche once said “He who has a why to live for can bear with almost any how .” For the high achievers among us, the purpose and the enormity of our WHY can pull so forcefully and so relentlessly that we are willing to endure almost any HOW. Competitive athletes are often celebrated for their singleness of focus and for their commitment to making their dreams reality. But sooner or later, those dreams inevitably have to end. For many, the days, months, and even years that follow a ca...

Jan 01, 2023•1 hr 22 min•Season 1Ep. 2

001 | PIVOT with Joseph Skrajewski, Hazelden Betty Ford Executive

My very first guest is Joseph Skrajewski , National Director of Business Development at the Hazelden Betty Ford Center in Rancho Mirage, California. Listen to Joseph's harrowing story of pursuing his dreams of high finance on Wall Street, surviving 9/11, overcoming addiction, and going on to become a world-renowned leader in bringing awareness, funding, and impact to the treatment of addiction disorders. His high energy and insights are sure to inspire! His episode, Episode 1: PIVOT tells the ta...

Jan 01, 2023•53 min•Season 1Ep. 1

000 | Becoming UnDone Promo

YOU. AREN'T. DONE YET. Achievers aim high. But to fall short? Well—that’s human. Sometimes we fail. Sometimes we just run out of time. Either way, it is what we do with the end of one chapter that can make all the difference in the next. Are we broken into pieces? Or can we see the bigger picture and realize that we aren’t finished? Can we recognize that the end of a chapter isn’t the same as the end of the story. Becoming UnDone is the podcast for those who dare bravely, try mightily, and grow ...

Dec 10, 2022•1 min0

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