124: Nikki Spo // UNVEILED: Forgiveness

Welcome back to another week of Nikki Spo // UNVEILED. Last week, I focused on the importance of vulnerability and staying true to your emotions. Today, I want to talk about a topic that has been paramount in my life, quite literally life-changing, and something I think is the most powerful emotion or action that someone can have or do, and that is forgiveness. The ability to forgive is a superpower, and I want to share this power with all of you! 

In this episode…

• The ability to forgive 
• Myths about forgiveness 
• Elements of humility 
• Empathy 
• Being a forgiver who wants to be forgiven  
• Forgiving people & systems 
• NOT Convincing someone to be sorry 
• Humbly asking for forgiveness 
• Self-worth 
• Brené Brown on forgiveness 
• Never giving up on yourself 
• Pain & resentment 
• Expressing your feelings 
• Healthy release of emotions 

Quotes:

“I want to address some myths about forgiveness. One, is that forgiveness is a sign of weakness. Two, forgive and forget is the rule. Three, forgiveness is immediate. And four, you can only forgive someone who is actually sorry.”

“Love is a part of forgiveness. Empathy is a part of forgiveness. Humility is part of forgiveness. Forgiveness is this all-encompassing, all-inclusive, super emotion or super ability.”

“Holding on to pain, anger, and resentment only poisons your own well.”

“Numerous times in my life I had to forgive people who weren't sorry for hurting me. Truly, I don't even think of it as had to anymore. I think of it as I get to or got to.” 

“From personal experience, being on both ends of the forgiveness spectrum, I know that forgiveness most benefits the forgiver because it grants the forgiver space to release their resentments and live a more happy, joyous, and free life.” 

“You get to choose to forgive, and you get to choose with whom, what, when, where, why, and how you move forward.”

“Forgiveness is a process that does not exclude hatred and anger.” 

Timestamps: 

0:00 - 1:20 | Introduction & myths about forgiveness  

1:20 - 3:45 | Myth 1: Forgiveness makes you weak

3:45 - 5:35 | Myth 2: Forgive and forget is the rule 

5:35 - 6:30 | Myth 3: Forgiveness is immediate 

6:30 - 9:00 | Myth 4: You can only forgive someone who is actually sorry 

9:00 - 10:10 | Courage, humility, & empathy  

10:10 - 11:00 | Being the forgiver & being forgiven  

11:00 - 12:00 | Having a strong sense of self-worth 

12:00 - 14:55 | Words from Brené Brown 

14:55 - 15:40 | Pain & resentment 

15:40 - 16:47 | Outro

Brené Brown 

brenebrown.com 

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