Send us a text Did you know that married couples who pray together are 90% more likely to report higher satisfaction in their sex life than couples who don't pray together? Call us crazy, but we've discovered that incorporating prayer in our marriage does way more than simply increase physical satisfaction - it draws us together unlike anything else can. Why? Because all truly healthy marriages involve three people - husband, wife, and God. When you bring God into your relationship great things ...
Sep 14, 2022•31 min•Ep. 38
Send us a text In this episode we welcome back to our podcast Eric and Rachel Beck. Two of our faves, the Becks dive into some of the best advice you can get on how to establish good culture in your marriage. There's so much good content in here it's going to blow your hair back (maybe!!). And Rachel gives her favorite buffalo taco recipe just for kicks! Enjoy! Want to get coached in your marriage? Check out what we have to offer HERE ....
Sep 07, 2022•34 min•Ep. 36
Send us a text We've all heard that familiarity breeds contempt. But is that true? In today's episode, we'll show you a different side of familiarity and how it can help you and hurt you at the same time, and how you can leverage it to your advantage. Based on a small verse tucked away in Psalms 71, we'll look at the one thing you need to do in order to keep your relational pursuit vibrant. And, if you hang around, you'll discover how the Roman Colleseum can teach us a thing or two about marriag...
Aug 31, 2022•30 min•Ep. 35
Send us a text When you and your spouse first met, FEELING came before EXPRESSION. You “felt” something before you expressed how you felt. But then we get married and the chaos of life hits, and that "lovin feelin" seems to be the last thing on our minds. It's at these moments that we learn a valuable truth - while feeling came before expression before marriage, after marriage expression comes before feeling! Actions come first!!! Think about this - you don’t feel healthy and then run three mile...
Aug 24, 2022•28 min•Ep. 34
Send us a text The most important thing you can do in your marriage is learn how to communicate properly to your spouse. Why? Because communication is all about CONNECTION! When you dated your spouse you had no problem communicating. But then you got married and all of a sudden communicating became hard. But it doesn't have to stay that way! In this episode we'll dive into two familiar stories in the Bible that shows the power of communication, and draw out three key elements that are important ...
Aug 17, 2022•41 min•Ep. 33
Send us a text Today is part 2 of a two-part series on sexual intimacy in marriage. Here's a quick sneak peek: The Purpose of sex is intimacy The Product of sex is LIFE That’s why it’s Pleasurable But when the pleasure overtakes the purpose then you forfeit the product . Here are the FOUR KEYS TO GREAT SEX: Rhythm Recognize Relax Reward Are you interested in being coached as a couple? We have a new program we just released that we'd love to have you join. You can learn more HERE ....
Aug 10, 2022•26 min•Ep. 32
Send us a text This is a topic we've been waiting to tackle! In this episode, we are going to share a three-part framework on how to view sex as well as four powerful keys to great sex. Can't get any better than that, can it? Today is part 1 of a two-part series on sexual intimacy in marriage. Here's a quick sneak peek: The Purpose of sex is intimacy The Product of sex is LIFE That’s why it’s Pleasurable But when the pleasure overtakes the purpose then you forfeit the product . Here are the FOUR...
Aug 03, 2022•32 min•Ep. 31
Send us a text A few weeks ago we had lunch with one of our pastors from church and his wife. The way they interacted with each other was one of the most refreshing and enlightening experiences we've had with a couple. After 22 years of marriage, they are still "madly" in love with each other, love being around one another, all while being in full-throttle parent mode. We sat in our car afterward and both agreed - "we're gonna get these two on our podcast, period!" Fortunately, we didn't have to...
Jul 27, 2022•51 min•Ep. 30
Send us a text Would you like a very simple three-step plan to magnetize your spouse to you? In today's episode, that's exactly what we'll tackle. We share three keys that will unlock gridlock in your relationship and put you on a path to thrive. But it's not just for hurting couples - healthy couples can (and should) use these same keys to move their relationship forward and make it even better. Here's a sneak peek - If you want to magnetize your spouse to you it will involve these three things...
Jul 20, 2022•28 min•Ep. 29
Send us a text Join us as we share a story about our 12-year-old daughter who was in a traumatic accident that threatened her vision. What we have learned from her during this time has helped us in our own relationship. Specifically, little Lundi has shown us three keys for choosing hope in the midst of a trial. Applied to your marriage, these keys are pivotal in keeping your hope anchored on the one unchanging person who has the power to change your relationship for the better. Listen in. You'l...
Jul 13, 2022•29 min•Ep. 28
Send us a text Never before have we lived busier lives and needed to put safeguards in place to protect ourselves from the stressors that crush our bodies and ruin our relationships. In this episode, we're going to talk about the dangers of "busyness" and distraction on our bodies and our marriages. We've learned that the real issue isn’t the increased stress, it's the prolonged release of adrenaline that seeks to alleviate that stress. We're going to dive into how our body functions to alleviat...
Jul 06, 2022•46 min•Ep. 27
Send us a text This episode will blow your hair back (assuming you have hair!). We interviewed some close friends of ours, Eric and Rachel Beck, about how to connect deeper with your spouse by discovering the unconscious emotions that fuel your emotions. You guys are going to love these two! Eric is a rock-star business coach who's helped thousands of entrepreneurs own their business without it owning them. Rachel is a former model turned wellness coach who's created eight online courses to help...
Jun 29, 2022•49 min•Ep. 26
Send us a text While in college, our old strength trainer used to say, "You’re only as fast as your slowest leg!" In marriage, this means you're only as strong as the weakest partner! All of us go through times of pain and heartache, struggle and strain. This is one of the reasons God gave us the gift of marriage - we have a built-in helper in our time of need! The question is, how can we help our spouse when he/she is hurting. In today's episode we're going to share four keys that will help you...
Jun 22, 2022•26 min•Ep. 25
Send us a text Last week we looked at the power of emotions and how trapped emotions wreak havoc on our bodies, our souls, and our relationships. This week we'll look into some practical steps we can take to process those emotions. An emotion is tied to what happened to us. A feeling is tied to how we process that emotion. If we don't process our emotions properly, we'll end up with feelings we never should have had. In this episode we'll discuss three simple steps to process emotions: * Let it ...
Jun 15, 2022•32 min•Ep. 24
Send us a text Trapped emotions rob us of joy and destroy our relationships, leaving us a shell of the marriage God intended for us. Not only that, they destroy our physical bodies. In this episode, we'll take a look at a powerful verse that shows us the importance of exposing hidden emotions and how God can help us get to the bottom of them. Psalms 139:23-24 states, “Search me, O God, and know my heart; Try me and know my anxious thoughts; And see if there be any hurtful way in me, and lead me ...
Jun 08, 2022•28 min•Ep. 23
Send us a text In this episode, we interview some longtime friends, Denny and Heather Smith, who show us that even a seemingly perfect couple is anything but perfect! Denny and Heather are both on staff at a church in Indiana and they share their powerful story of how they found love in the midst of difficult times early on in marriage. Heather also shares her story of how anxiety almost wrecked her life, to a point where she actually wrote out her own funeral service. But God pulled her out of ...
Jun 01, 2022•46 min•Ep. 22
Send us a text We live in a time when threats to our relationship are at an all-time high. Marriages are being ripped apart at break-neck speed, and one of the most pressing issues is the threat of an affair. Even the most spiritual leaders among us are falling prey. This episode is part 2 of a dive deep into ten principles to affair-proof your marriage. These are simple things we can do to assure our spouse that we'll last the test of time. We went from the perspective of what we can do individ...
May 25, 2022•25 min•Ep. 21
Send us a text We live in a time when threats to our relationship are at an all-time high. Marriages are being ripped apart at break-neck speed, and one of the most pressing issues is the threat of an affair. Even the most spiritual leaders among us are falling prey. So in this episode and the one that follows we dive deep into ten principles to affair-proof your marriage. These are simple things we can do to assure our spouse that we'll last the test of time. We went from the perspective of wha...
May 18, 2022•25 min•Ep. 20
Send us a text Many of you know that Tori is a certified coach for the Enneagram and Emotional Intelligence, but for those who don’t, well, she is! And in this episode she’s going to dive deep into the three “instinctual subtypes” of the Enneagram. Knowing how you behave “instinctively” will help you not only understand yourself but relate to your spouse on a deeper level. In short, there are three sub-types (or “instincts”) we all have. They are: Self Preservation - my instinct is mostly about ...
May 11, 2022•25 min•Ep. 19
Send us a text We all have five core needs: Security - Who can I trust? Identity - Who am I? Belonging - who wants me? Purpose - why am I alive? Competence - what am I good at? In today's episode we're going to dive into each of these and show you how God meets those needs in you through your spouse. We'll also discuss the core relational need of a husband and the core relational need of a wife and how you can make sure you're meeting those needs on a regular basis. If you'd like to connect with...
May 05, 2022•30 min•Ep. 18
Send us a text Today we're going to dive into the four stages of parenting and a very simple, practical way we can stay in love while parenting our kids. As any married couple with kids will tell you, it can be a real challenge! Our foundation is in Exodus 33 where we see how God parented the Israelites and stayed connected with them at the same time. Throughout the book we see the Four stages of parenting: • 1) Babysitter - A babysitter says, “ I’ve GOT you !” • 2) Referee - A ref says, “ I’ll ...
Apr 27, 2022•24 min•Ep. 17
Send us a text This episode is all about dating in your marriage. Often times when we get married that's the thing that gets pushed aside because of our busy lives. But it's vitally important if we want to keep our relationship strong and growing. We'll discuss three key aspects about dating: DATING IS ABOUT DISCOVERY DATING IS ABOUT CONNECTION DATING IS ABOUT DREAMING We'll also talk about the value of play and the five things it gives you as a couple: Deeper connection Positive emotions (cance...
Apr 20, 2022•28 min•Ep. 16
Send us a text Before two can become one, one needs to be one (a whole person). Relational health is born out of individual health. Often times in marriage the problem isn’t US - it’s ME. The problem we’ll talk about today is FEAR. We're going to show how fear is literally debilitating to your relationship. Fear draws us away from those we love. Faith draws us toward those we love. KEY - God often orchestrates scary situations to prove His power. How do we overcome fear? The same way the angels ...
Apr 13, 2022•23 min•Ep. 15
Send us a text Today we're talking about THE LOVE LOOP. This is just a fancy term for when spouses are connected and nothing is hindering their relationship. Like your wedding ring - it's fully connected in a perfectly formed loop around your finger. Marriage is the same way. And in order to keep that loop secure, we have to excel in the power of GRATITUDE! When your spouse does something for you it opens up a half loop. Expressing gratitude closes the Love Loop and results in connection. Unexpr...
Apr 06, 2022•28 min•Ep. 14
Send us a text When we first got married we quickly discovered one of the most difficult things to do was to accept each other for who we really are. Not because we didn't love each other, oh no! But because we discovered certain things we didn't like about each other. Fortunately, we made it through those early years and learned some powerful keys that helped us along the way. Here's what we discuss in this episode: * How to be accepting of your spouse * How to be acceptable to your spouse * Th...
Mar 30, 2022•24 min•Ep. 13
Send us a text George Bernard Shaw once said, “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” To strengthen your marriage you have to learn to communicate well. We know it goes without saying, but all-too-often we think we're saying one thing but our spouse hears something completely different. What do we do in those situations? How can we learn to communicate in a way where we stay on the same page? That's what we'll tackle in this episode. We'll talk abou...
Mar 23, 2022•20 min•Ep. 12
Send us a text What married couple doesn't have to deal with forgiveness? It's something Tori has to deal with on a regular occasion. HA HA! In this episode, we're going to tackle the issue of forgiveness and the danger of unforgiveness, and how unforgiveness in the heart gives someone control over your life. We've heard it said, "Refusing to forgive is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die." To help us wade through the murky waters of forgiveness, we've broken this episode down...
Mar 16, 2022•36 min•Ep. 11
Send us a text When you got married you became ONE with your spouse. This gave you the 10x factor! But Satan wants you divided because he knows he can't win if the two of you are operating on the same page. One of the ways to combat this is by proactively creating healthy habits in your relationship. A healthy habit is anything that draws you together with your spouse. It's finding something you can do together and making a consistent habit in your relationship. In this episode, we'll discuss a ...
Mar 09, 2022•27 min•Ep. 10
Send us a text Did you know there are two main types of thinking in marriage? If you want a thriving marriage you have to learn to think both emotionally and transactionally. Emotional thinking is subjective and is tied to how you "feel." Transactional thinking is objective and is tied to "logic." Typically, you will fall into one category more naturally than the other. But when you learn to think both ways, with the ability to pivot naturally, you'll discover a powerful tool in your relationshi...
Mar 02, 2022•25 min•Season 1Ep. 9
Send us a text One of our greatest needs in marriage is emotional connection. But that's impossible if you're not first emotionally intelligent. In this episode we're going to look at the two parts of the brain - the emotional and the logical - and discuss how we can make sure the emotional side of us stays healthy and strong so we can remain connected to our spouse. We'll also talk about the four parts of emotional intelligence and the research that shows how our emotional intelligence far outw...
Feb 23, 2022•28 min•Ep. 8
