127: Do men judge more than looks, keeping peace in the family, pop psychology
Do men judge more than looks, keeping peace in the family, pop psychology

Do men judge more than looks, keeping peace in the family, pop psychology
Today on the podcast a few questions from listeners will include a questions from a man trying to understand why Dr. Lisle recommends that women delay sex a bit. Another question asks whether women get more confident as they get older despite aging and perhaps feeling less attractive. And finally, an older listener has a crush on a much younger man in her life, what will Dr. Lisle say?
Committing to goals, displaying confidence, soulmates, why do guys push sex? 1. I'm 42 overweight would like to be married and would still like to have kids though I'm running out of time. I know exactly what I need to do to lose weight so I can feel better about myself and attract a mate but I just won't commit to doing it. Why? Are these things actually not important to me even though I think they are? 2. Setting New Year's resolutions seems to be a universal phenomenon. Is there an evolutiona...
Stress in the modern world vs. stone-age
Placebo effect, Stockholm syndrome, Listener's son having mental breakdown
Aren't humans omnivores? The evo psych of human diet. Stanford Experiment, Placebo effect, Stockholm syndrome. Stanford Prison Experiment: " The Lifespan of a Lie" https://medium.com/s/trustissues/the-lifespan-of-a-lie-d869212b1f62
A very unique dating question from a listener who has gotten healthier. Under what circumstances does Dr. Lisle turn disagreeable? Flooding the Circuits - tips, tricks, technique Managing anger & passion
Dr. Lisle discusses a novel approach to cravings. Are we prone to dislike certain people with personality traits opposite from ours? Do we select friends subconsciously based on status like we do with mates?
How does our personality change? With circumstance? With age?
Hamilton's Rule, Altruism, Kin selection
Q1: What makes certain people do more for others than they would for themselves? Q2: What's the scoop on altruism? Q3: What's wrong with socialism? Q4: Why do internet trolls say mean/harsh thing online? One caller has a question about her special needs son. Second caller has a question about identity politics in 2018.
An instagram model recently stopped shaving her armpits and wearing makeup as a sort of protest against the "societal programming" of beauty standards. What does Dr. Lisle think about this? What's the Doug Download on Prostitution? Is emotional intelligence a thing?
Depression, Psychedelics
Evo Psych in academia, advertising, music, and leadership
Most people treat fear of commitment like a character flaw to be worked through in therapy. Dr. Lisle says the opposite. A healthy fear of commitment is not weakness or immaturity, it is a perfectly sensible response to what he calls a 25 to life sentence. Any male in his right mind would pause before signing up for that. In this live caller episode, Dr. Doug Lisle breaks down the actual evolutionary math behind male hesitation, why a screaming deal on looks does not close the deal on commitment...
Questions today: 1) Listener has a friend who is an alcoholic. What can be done as a friend? 2) Why can some people drink heavily and not become addicted to alcohol? 3) Is it worth being an evolutionary psychologist in academia? 4) How does advertising & media influence people? 5) Why do people love music?
Evolution of language, Emotional first-aid, helping a friend
Questions for this show are: 1. Strategies for "healing" from an abusive relationship. Do spouses that escape a narcissist spouse need therapy and support on codependency? 2. Are children's attachment styles bogus in predicting their personalities? Also, what's the earliest age at which you can see a person's personality characteristics? 3.What advice would you give to a parent who's lost a child (say 18 years old) under tragic circumstances, such as suicide? Are there any useful techniques or w...
Questions for tonight are as follows: A listener's husband spends money on certain displays but not others - what does it mean? How does a 10-year married couple navigate being swingers when one of them no longer wants to do it? Why do some men feel guilty or nervous about Valentine's Day? Why do romantic partners act surprised when their spouse/partner leaves despite threatening to do so for a long time? Why does it feel so devastating when a spouse cheats?
Questions today are about: Influencing children - how does punishment work? Advice to psychology students who want to learn evo psych in a school that teaches conventional psychology Phobias like snakes, heights, etc.. are briefly explored Brief question regarding Big Five personality and how/if those traits can change as we age and gain status. Sharing evolutionary psychology knowledge in social settings. Getting cynical from evolutionary psychology - accepting the tragic view of existence.
Listener questions today are: 1. Pediatrician has overweight child patients that get picked on at school. Asking for advice on what to tell them. 2. Job satisfaction - should people select their job based on their own IQ, conscientiousness, and stability? 3. Stay-at-home mom has finished raising her kids and now wants to do something that makes her feel productive. Her family, on the gravy train because of all that she does for them is giving her push back. She's a little stuck between starting ...
Dreams, Meditation, Listener calls in about a childhood question
A news article sprinkles in evolutionary psychology when explaining why people are purchasing certain electronics. We will review the alpha/beta male dynamics, discuss the typical personality traits of alpha males, and shed some light on what women should consider when dating the 'alpha' male. We also have a listener who calls in asking for advice about a family conflict.
Most people assume that if they just explain the situation clearly enough, their parent will finally see what they see. Dr. Lisle says that's the single biggest miscalculation adult children make. Your mother is running a completely different cost-benefit analysis than you are, and the thing you call a crisis she calls a reasonable tradeoff. In this episode, Dr. Doug Lisle takes two family dynamics calls that converge on the same evolutionary machinery. Kara calls from Las Vegas about her 70-yea...
Kathy has been to five therapists in eight years, and none of them could explain why one fight over skipping Easter Mass turned into a permanent family estrangement. Dr. Lisle says the therapists missed it because they were looking in the wrong place. This was never about Easter, or religion, or one bad weekend. It was a coalition realignment, and the outcome was locked in before Kathy ever walked into that kitchen. In this episode, Dr. Lisle walks through the anatomy of a family coalition in re...
Relationships, Time in Womb, Free Will, Evo Psych of Bad Teeth
Neoteny, Why do women stay w men who don't love them, Asexuality
Getting Personal with Dr. Doug Lisle
Socializing as an Introvert, Finding happiness triggers, Kid is flunking, Appeal to nature fallacy
Evolutionary psychology in 2018