As a kid the dream was to become a professional baseball player and do it for a living. I am sure that kids today have those same dreams and can see themselves hitting the homerun that wins the World Series or pitching a no-hitter. It was such a fantasy fest and we all did fantasize, but alas none of us made it. We played in and out of uniform, organized and pick up, honed our skills, took batting practice and we all thought we were so darn good, but not good enough. There were some guys in the ...
Jul 11, 2022•30 min•Season 4Ep. 31
Have you ever wondered why your parents did some of the things that they did. I did lots of times. My dad had so many regimented activities that I thought he had a screw lose or something. I’m only going to talk about two here because there are too many to put into one episode of this podcast. As I grew older though I cam to realize that what I learned as a child were the missing puzzle pieces that I needed to stay healthy. Young people today are always searching for their own puzzle pieces. But...
Jun 29, 2022•23 min
Once again I had the pleasure of speaking with Dianne DeOliveira from Jersey Shore Matters on the topic of school shootings. We discussed the possible profile of a school shooter, how they are missed, and what parents can do if they suspect their child is exhibiting behaviors that could indicate that they are at risk for violent and or deadly behavior. The Bully Proof Classroom The Regional Training Center...
Jun 15, 2022•16 min•Season 4Ep. 30
School Shooting have been around now for over 20 years. My prayers are and always will be with the victims friends and family's. My question is though how do you address the trauma that kids will experience on an ongoing basis because of what they witnessed in their school. Moreover how do you help students' regain the trust and confidence in their teacher's, principals, and in society in general that they will keep them safe and out of harms way. Truly in every school shooting there are victims...
Jun 13, 2022•21 min•Season 4Ep. 29
"It's easier to build strong children than to repair broken men." Fredrick Douglas . How true, as a follow-up to my episode on the Frankenstein Monster I present to you a 4 part series on how we can build strong children and why it is far more difficult to mend children who lack the qualities of respect, responsibility, resiliency, and compliance. "To educate a man in mind and not in morals is to educate a menace to society." Theodore Roosevelt. This content provides the listen with the content ...
May 31, 2022•31 min•Season 4Ep. 29
So What do we do about school and other shootings? Schools have done what they can to try and quell the fears of parents and teachers by setting up protocols for active shooters. My wife who is a classroom mother had to go through checkpoints in our daughter's school and had to be escorted to her classroom. Yet yesterday Salvador Ramos walked into Robb Elementary School In Uvalde Texas and shot 19 students and 2 teachers killing them. In Buffalo NY on May 14, 2022 13 people were killed in a raci...
May 25, 2022•41 min•Season 4Ep. 28
Once again I had the pleasure of speaking with Jen Dalton. she has written a terrific article that you can access by clicking on the link at the bottom. Rumors and gossip can destroy a friendship, a family, school, or organization. In this episode we discuss some of the lifelong consequences that can occur from gossiping and why it is so necessary to teach our children the dangers of participating in this type of activity. Article: How To Have Gossip Free Conversations By Jen Dalton...
May 18, 2022•49 min•Season 4Ep. 28
Let's build strong children of character so we don't have to mend broken adults. Part 3 of a 4 part series discusses the importance of compliance and why parents need to take on a leadership role in teaching their children that life is a series of gains and losses and why they will always have to ask the question: what am I going to gain and what am I going to lose because of my behavior. Jim discusses a new podcast that will be starting soon that spotlights The Regional Training Center. This dy...
May 11, 2022•26 min•Season 4Ep. 27
Maryanne Christiano-Mistretta is an international traditionally published author, award-winning journalist, and award-winning motivational speaker. Her latest book Be (Extra)Ordinary: 10 Ways to Become Your Own Hero can be found in Barnes & Noble bookstores. She’s a self-employed editor, blogger, ghost writer, and speaker. ( www.peartreeenterprises.com ) Her You Tube channel is dedicated to anti-bullying and being YOUnique: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLq6J9MSvcjd-haQ30ycLWA?view_as=sub...
Apr 27, 2022•32 min•Season 4Ep. 27
This is the second in a four part series on how we can build stronger children and stop repairing broken adults. today Ji talks about the importance of accountability and responsibility and how when a child is left to themselves a negative attitude can begin to develop which can be carried over into adulthood. To accompany this podcast Jim is making his book "The Real 3R's: Respect, Responsibility, and Resilience available to his listening audience for just $2.99. Just click the link below. The ...
Apr 12, 2022•34 min•Season 4Ep. 26
"It's easier to build strong children than to repair broken men." Fredrick Douglas . How true, as a follow-up to my episode on the Frankenstein Monster I present to you a 4 part series on how we can build strong children and why it is far more difficult to mend children who lack the qualities of respect, responsibility, resiliency, and compliance. "To educate a man in mind and not in morals is to educate a menace to society." Theodore Roosevelt. This content provides the listen with the content ...
Apr 06, 2022•44 min•Season 4Ep. 25
Sometimes in order to be supportive of our kids we need to listen more than we speak. Attention is a commodity and all kids want it but with that attention could come a host of socially related issues. Taking the time to help our children become more socially resilient will help them now and down the road. I have taken the time to curate the article that i have linked below and think that you will find this episode an excellent listen. I also speak in this episode about the importance of taking ...
Mar 30, 2022•40 min•Season 4Ep. 24
It is very difficult for victims to forgive, but an angry victim may only seek revenge at a later time on his own. Bullies need to learn how to ask for forgiveness, victims need to accept it. We can be an example by asking for and receiving forgiveness ourselves.
Mar 23, 2022•1 min•Season 4Ep. 23
Dr. Frankenstein creation was put together with used body parts from corpses that were buried in a graveyard. The head was that of a criminal who was just executed for his crimes by hanging and the brain used was referred to as abnormal. (It was from a murderer) The perfect head (maybe) and the brain they needed. Well suppose that brain wasn’t that of a criminal. Suppose it was the brain of a college graduate who was wrongly executed. Suppose the brain was from a father of three with an IQ of 14...
Mar 22, 2022•27 min•Season 4Ep. 23
Kids are going to disagree whether we like it or not. Giving your students a voice helps to reduce anger. The idea here is that “attitude is everything.” Too often kids, when they disagree, will personalize the disagreement, resulting in name-calling or the berating of others. Often bullies will use their power to force their victim into submission. Teaching students the right way to disagree with each other builds confidence, boundaries, and maturity. It helps both the bully and the victim. The...
Mar 16, 2022•2 min•Season 4Ep. 22
It was my pleasure on Tuesday to interview Mike Kuczala. His bio speaks for itself; and I have had the pleasure of working with Mike for almost 20 years. Please click on the links below for information about Mike's new book and his website, as well as important Information about The Regional Training Center. Mike Kuczala has delivered keynotes, given presentations, facilitated professional development and taught graduate courses on 4 continents. His presentations, courses, books and videos have ...
Mar 16, 2022•40 min•Season 4Ep. 21
Since the dawn of public education teachers and schools have focused on the academic achievement of students. All students were expected to leave school with basic reading writing and math skills. Some kids excelled and went on to institutions of higher learning, some were trained at a trade such as carpentry, or auto mechanics, and still others left school with those basics and worked at more labor related jobs such as factory or office work. Everyone who left secondary school did have the basi...
Mar 01, 2022•37 min•Season 4Ep. 19
This is the third in a three part series on emotional maturity. In this episode Jim curates an article on emotional intelligence and explains how by being emotionally mature a person can be emotionally intelligent. He goes over some qualities that emotionally intelligent people display and why these qualities are important to teach to our children and students. The Power Of Consistency The Teacher's Survival Guide...
Feb 22, 2022•28 min•Season 4Ep. 18
Katie Kuperman is a passionate writer, entrepreneur and mother. Situated in Toronto, Canada, she lives with her family and is the owner and principal copywriter of Striking Content, a content writing and strategizing business. Her life has been rich with a breadth of experience ranging from competitive sport and travel, to academics and entrepreneurship, to motherhood and the pursuit of dreams. Katie writes with intent and purpose to make her readers feel, learn and do. It is her hope and her vi...
Feb 16, 2022•42 min•Season 4Ep. 17
Parents today have a terrible time when their children leave home. That is because they know deep down that they haven't done enough to prepare their children for independence. Children today are not given enough basic responsibilities, and aren't prepared for being responsible for all that lies ahead in their lives. These children haven't learned enough about survival out in the dog eat dog world. They are emotionally immature. Emotionally mature people have certain characteristics that make it...
Feb 07, 2022•28 min•Season 4Ep. 17
I interviewed Jen Dalton on my show about 2 months ago and found the interview to be inspiring and thought provoking. So much so that I asked her if she would co-host a show with me. Well, this is the show. I think you will find Jen's knowledge in the area of confidence to be unique and has a nice balance of empirical research and experiential opinion. In case you missed it I am republishing her bio below along with some books and websites. Jen or Jenny Dalton is an author, facilitator, coach, a...
Jan 27, 2022•58 min•Season 4Ep. 15
Parents today have a terrible time when their children leave home. That is because they know deep down that they haven't done enough to prepare their children for independence. Children today are not given enough basic responsibilities, and aren't prepared for being responsible for all that lies ahead in their lives. These children haven't learned enough about survival out in the dog eat dog world. They are emotionally immature. Emotionally mature people have certain characteristics that make it...
Jan 20, 2022•29 min•Season 4Ep. 15
Last week I produced an episode on an article in The NY Times titled " No Way To Grow Up." Great article that spoke to the problems our kids were facing due to virtual learning. This week the NY City Schools want to put everyone on virtual because of staff shortages as well as the number of students who have contracted the CORONA Virus. Mean while parents are up in arms because their child's school was shut down after the holiday break. For the sake of our children we need to work together on so...
Jan 12, 2022•32 min•Season 4Ep. 12
No Way To Grow Up . A great article written in a newsletter by David Leonhardt for The New York Times. The first sentence states: American children are starting 2022 in crisis. Well, American children in every generation have always had some type of crisis. Addiction, bullying, suicidal ideation, depression back in the sixties we had the crisis of academics when Russia put a man in orbit before the United States. As a boy my crisis was managing the alcoholism and PTSD that my father brought home...
Jan 04, 2022•27 min•Season 4Ep. 15
On Saturday, Tim Throne, who heads the Oxford Community Schools district, detailed in a letter the school's account of several key events leading up to the shooting at the high school by Ethan Crumbley. "It's critically important to the victims, our staff and our entire community that a full and transparent accounting be made. To that end, I've asked for a third-party investigation be conducted so we leave no stone unturned, including any and all interaction the student had with staff and studen...
Dec 08, 2021•33 min•Season 4Ep. 11
On November 24 I had the privilege of being interviewed by Dianne DeOliveira a radio host down here at the Jersey Shore. She has several shows, the one that I was interviewed on was Jersey Shore Matters on 107.1 The Boss. She asked some great questions. The purpose of the interview of course was to gain some insight into bullying but also to shed so light on the Wall Township High School Football hazing incident. I did a show on this tragic issue last week. You can listen to that episode by clic...
Dec 01, 2021•16 min•Season 4Ep. 10
Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/james-burns5/subscribe When we teach kids how to manage stress by nature they become more resilient. Join Jim in part two of a two part podcast on the importance of resilience and what we as teachers and parents can do to help our children handle stress in ways that will strengthen them physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. The Bully Proof Classroom...
Nov 19, 2021•30 min•Season 4Ep. 9
Well it's happened again. For the second time in fours years another student was hazed and assaulted in a high school locker room in New Jersey. The victim was held down and the perpetrators allegedly tried to sodomy him with a broom stick. You can read the attached article. This podcast offers some suggestions on how we can stop this madness. Better locker room supervision along with stronger more meaningful consequences would be a start. Listen in and read the article. Subscribe Read The Artic...
Nov 16, 2021•29 min•Season 4Ep. 8
My name is Jim Burns I wanted to take a few minutes to tell you as my readers and listeners about a very interesting and fun way of taking some course work with a reasonable investment of time, and at cost that is totally affordable. Even when you take courses online or virtually there is still an investment of time that must be put in in order to receive the instruction and complete the course. Too often you might be a bit too tired after work and not want to have to sit at your computer for a ...
Nov 09, 2021•8 min•Season 4Ep. 7
Resiliency is not something that is taught but developed over time through experience and life lessons. We are all only a compilation of what people have said to us and what people have done to us. How we perceive the words and actions of others and difficult situations may determine how resilient we are. If a person is raised in a highly critical home and his/her parents do nothing but correct, condemn, berate, and shame, as the person grows older even the slightest amount of constructive sugge...
Nov 08, 2021•37 min•Season 4Ep. 6
