Send us a text I have had many women asking me to do a podcast for men so they can get their husbands to listen and understand women better. So, starting this week, the last Thursday of each month will be a men's episode called "Start Your Engines." Ladies are of course still welcome to listen in, as it's still relevant for you, but I am speaking more directly to the men here. We start off our first episode giving an overview of the often overlooked differences between male and female sexuality!...
Sep 26, 2019•40 min•Season 1Ep. 35
Send us a text This is a long one. Recently, the author of Love and Respect sent out an email to his readers addressing some complaints he often receives about how his teachings from the book are applied. And his response sent up a sea of red flags. So, I have brought my husband on to discuss our issues with it. If you want to check out the blog post that accompanies this podcast, you can find it here . And as always, if you like the podcast, leave a rating and a review! Support the show Join Sh...
Sep 19, 2019•1 hr 15 min•Season 1Ep. 35
Send us a text What do economics have to do with your sex life? More than you'd think. Today I talk about that in depth, and also address reader questions and comments about how to live with joy together in the middle of the mundane. Finally, Rebecca and I address the criticisms we have received for teaching women how to reduce their risk of being sexually assaulted. Check out the challenge blog post , Mother.ly , and the post for this episode ! Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com ...
Sep 12, 2019•38 min•Season 1Ep. 34
Send us a text Let's talk about how a seemingly small financial decision can have a domino effect that may create stress in your marriage. Also, how can we use routines without letting them take over our lives? Don't forget to check out the amazing " Get Your Marriage On " app, and check out the blog at To Love Honor and Vacuum! Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com ! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's G...
Sep 05, 2019•33 min•Season 1Ep. 33
Send us a text We're going to be getting a little academic today as I look at the Greek and the Hebrew used in the Bible to shed some light on the discussion about what it means for the man to be the head of the family. Rebecca and also talk about family support and family boundaries. As always, check us out on To Love Honor and Vacuum! Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com ! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good...
Aug 28, 2019•39 min•Season 1Ep. 32
Send us a text I think we often go looking for marriage advice hoping for some easy fix that doesn't really require effort or change. But that's not how to get the most out of marriage. Starting now, the blog and the podcast will both be focusing on action steps. Each week, I will issue a challenge to help you grow your marriage. Also in this episode, I address a reader question about dating a long-distance woman who lives with a highly restrictive father, and Rebecca gives her thoughts on unhea...
Aug 22, 2019•38 min•Season 1Ep. 31
Send us a text We have had a lot of conversations on the blog about modesty recently, and questions about yoga pants and women who wear revealing outfits at church always come up. In this episode, My daughter, son-in-law, and I go in depth on the topic to break down some of the unhealthy teachings and talk how to build each other up in Christ! As always, check out the extras on the blog here ! Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com ! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deser...
Aug 15, 2019•42 min•Season 1Ep. 30
Send us a text In light of recent events, I want to talk about the isolation and loneliness pervasive in today's society and address what we can do as individuals, parents, friends, and church members to connect with one another on a more effective level. As always, check out the blog for all of the extras right here ! Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com ! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Gr...
Aug 08, 2019•45 min•Season 1Ep. 29
Send us a text This month I am focusing on taking back "sexy", so for today's podcast we are discussing how sexy isn't shameful. My daughter comes on to talk about lingerie that can make you feel sexy and comfortable at the same time. I also talk about how sometimes it would benefit us to adopt a broader approach to our faith rather than to become immobile or ineffective due to a narrow spiritual world-view. Check out the extra's for today's blog post here ! Support the show Join Sheila at Bare ...
Aug 01, 2019•42 min•Season 1Ep. 28
Send us a text Today, Joanna, Rebecca, and I talk about some sad recent news in the Christian world and talk about the current status of the purity culture. Check it out on the blog here ! Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com ! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too! Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so...
Jul 25, 2019•39 min•Season 1Ep. 27
Send us a text Sometimes the way we talk about dating and marriage with our kids can seriously hold them back when it comes to finding a good spouse. But there are ways that we can set them up with the tools to succeed when the opportunity arises. Rebecca and Joanna also go on to discuss what to do when your relationship with your college-aged kid starts to become strained. Be sure to check out all the extras on the blog here ! Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com ! Check out her bo...
Jul 18, 2019•43 min•Season 1Ep. 26
Send us a text Today I am on vacation so Rebecca, Connor, and Joanna take over to talk about how putting systems in place can take a lot of the stress out of marriage and how to be sensitive when talking to people about pregnancy. For all the extras, check out the post here ! Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com ! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a L...
Jul 11, 2019•33 min•Season 1Ep. 25
Send us a text Events on the blog lately have woken me up to some of the disturbing realities of our culture, and so I talk with various members of my staff and family about these big issues on my mind recently. If you want all of the extras, check out the post here ! Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com ! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido co...
Jun 27, 2019•45 min•Season 1Ep. 24
Send us a text Today I continue my conversation from the blog about the importance of identifying your and your spouse's emotional needs, and I get into how it can help you resolve conflict. I also address a reader question about how to move forward when you have had an emotional affair with someone outside your marriage, and I also give my boardgame recommendations! Find the link to the emotional needs download, the board game post, and more right here ! Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Mar...
Jun 20, 2019•30 min•Season 1Ep. 23
Send us a text I just released the honeymoon course on my blog this week, so Rebecca and I have been talking about how marriages can get off to a great start, or a not so great start. I also address when and how to have conversations about sex while dating or engaged, and I share my thoughts on masturbation. If you want to check out the honeymoon course, click here ! And of course, if you want to check out this podcast's blog post, click here ! Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com !...
Jun 13, 2019•36 min•Season 1Ep. 22
Send us a text Today, my husband joins me as we talk about how there is often a deeper root to conflict than it first seems. One technique for finding that root is the 5 "why" method. I also address a reader question about the sexual difficulties in her new marriage, and I discuss a revelation I had thanks to a Twitter argument! For more, check out the blog post on To Love Honor and Vacuum ! Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com ! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserve...
Jun 06, 2019•35 min•Season 1Ep. 21
Send us a text Some of our readers have shared some sin checklists and score cards for wives that are being used by their churches as resources for marital counselling. They are both hilarious and concerning, so that is what I, Rebecca, and her husband (Connor) are talking about on today's podcast. To read more, and to take a look at these checklists yourself, visit my website here ! Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com ! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better...
May 30, 2019•40 min•Season 1Ep. 20
Send us a text On the blog I have been talking about sex and theology, so I'd like to bring it all together and take a look at what we can learn from the way God made our bodies, marriage, and sex! For the podcast extras, check out the post on my blog here And of course don't forget to check out Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and 9 Thoughts that Can Change Your Marriage ! Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com ! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Gi...
May 23, 2019•33 min•Season 1Ep. 19
Send us a text In the wake of Rachel Held Evans' passing, Rebecca and I talk about her work and ideas about prioritizing authentic living-in-Christ over strict adherence to doctrine. While different doctrines can be a source of division for Christians, Jesus' universal love ties us all together. And all too often, kids fall away from church because doctrine was the centre rather than a relationship with Christ. Check out my blog, To Love Honor and Vacuum, for podcast extras and more great conten...
May 09, 2019•38 min•Season 1Ep. 18
Send us a text Today, my daughter and I talk about gender differences and gender stereotypes. God created man and woman, but culture created masculine and feminine. We address how the ways that we look at masculinity and femininity are restrictive and work against inclusivity. And a strict adherence to gender stereotypes can also really damage our marriages. I also talk about whether it is selfish or frivolous to spend time and energy improving your sex life (I think you know my stance). For all...
May 02, 2019•40 min•Season 1Ep. 17
Send us a text I don't think we always talk about forgiveness in a way that is actually helpful. Today I talk about what it really means to heal and move past something. And while I talk about forgiveness, I also address some reader question and comments regarding men lusting after other women, and the harm behind the mentality that every man will have this struggle. Join us on the blog for even further discussion at To Love Honor and Vacuum! I would love to hear your thoughts. Support the show ...
Apr 25, 2019•32 min•Season 1Ep. 16
Send us a text We talk plenty about men struggling with porn, but today I address the growing number of women who are struggling with it. Rebecca and I also talk about whether to get involved if your child is dating a non-Christian, and how you can make yourself less of a target for sexual harassment from creeps you don't know. All that on today's podcast and more! Also, don't forget to check out the blog if you want more, at tolovehonorandvacuum.com ! Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marria...
Apr 18, 2019•40 min•Season 1Ep. 15
Send us a text Today I tackle the issue of modesty. We often warn women not to be stumbling blocks for men, and lay the blame for men's lust at their feet, but what if that is actually creating a stumbling block for our women? I also address whether you should fake orgasm every time, and Rebecca and I discuss wedding vows Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com ! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to...
Apr 11, 2019•34 min•Season 1Ep. 14
Send us a text All too often, big problems later on in marriage arise as a result of bad habits and poor communication earlier on. Let's talk about how to fix our marriages before they are broken. Rebecca also joins me to talk about why so many Christian women are having trouble finding a husband, and I address dealing with a spouse's sexual history. Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com ! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Se...
Apr 03, 2019•28 min•Season 1Ep. 13
Send us a text Everyone is sick today, so we have a short episode of Rebecca and Connor talking about the psychological burden of being in charge of chores. They talk about their own journey through sorting out the division of tasks and responsibility, and give some advice on how you can find a healthier balance in your marriage too! Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com ! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Gu...
Mar 29, 2019•16 min•Season 1Ep. 12
Send us a text Today I talk about what I have learned and observed about resolving "conflicts in marriage" and present some insights on a more productive approach. I also talk about some tricks to help you and your spouse communicate love to one another, and Rebecca and I delve into cellphones and the millennial mental health crisis. Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com ! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Gu...
Mar 21, 2019•37 min•Season 1Ep. 11
Send us a text This week we're finishing up our series on how sex should be mutual--including working towards a new definition of sex. I also talk about what to do when a husband in a high-pressure job is too tired for sex, why you might want to reconsider cosleeping, and then Rebecca comes on to talk about what millennials are getting RIGHT! Check out the podcast extras here . Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com ! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The G...
Mar 14, 2019•45 min•Season 1Ep. 10
Send us a text Today I talk about two small but vital things that can change your marriage from the ground up. Rebecca and I later discuss Dr. Ron Welch's book, 10 Choices Successful Couples Make , and I address some comments and questions from my readers about how society talks about sex, and why women often lose their libidos right before marriage. As always, if you want more you can check out the blog post for extras right here ! Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com ! Check out h...
Mar 07, 2019•40 min•Season 1Ep. 9
Send us a text Today we take a look at the do not deprive verses; have we been using them all wrong? I also speak with my daughter about the risks of having a young youth pastor, as well as the critical differences between Christian counselling and biblical counselling. Check out the post here ! Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com ! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an O...
Feb 28, 2019•53 min•Season 1Ep. 8
Send us a text Keeping with the theme of the month on my blog, we talk about sexual health, pelvic floor exams, testosterone levels, and flipping how sex is typically thought of in Christian communities. Speaking of community, my daughter and I talk about why community among millennials seems to be lacking, and what can be done about it. Check out the blog post here! Support the show Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com ! Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's ...
Feb 21, 2019•46 min•Season 1Ep. 7
