Finding Your Authentic Path in a World Full of Opinions

It's just going to be like a stream of conscious thoughts , maybe some unconscious ones , and then I'll regret it a little bit later but mostly kind of just want to talk about advice that we give ourselves , that we give our friends , and how we're all different and how we all think differently kind of along that line .

So if you're into that kind of thing , stay tuned . It may or may not be a good one . Who could be too sure ? All right , guys , welcome back . I'm going to do a very short solo episode , just kind of like a stream of consciousness thoughts , if you will . I hope it all makes sense . I don't know .

Sometimes , like before when I was doing my solo episodes , like I would just sit down on the mic and of course I would have to hit record 1500 times and I would be recording . I would look up for like two hours and I'd be like Jesus , there's got to be a better way .

And then , more recent , like with solo episodes , like I have some like inspiration hit or whatever , I would just sit down and I would journal it out and then not necessarily read from it , but like have like a script or not a script , but like highlight points that I knew I wanted to talk about , and then I could go off on a tangent , but then those points

would still be there on paper . And today , when I was sitting down like trying to think about it , I was like I don't know how to like word what I'm trying to say . Like sometimes you just don't have the words . So I hope it all makes sense , hope anybody can get something from this .

But advice it's like out there everywhere it's on TikTok , it's on Instagram , it's on Google , it's on like in therapy . Your friends , your family , like everyone's trying to give advice , right , and we just have to do what we can with it and take it with a grain of salt .

But the reason why this topic was like kind of heavy on my heart is because , like there had been some personal things that I had been going through and I just didn't know how to sit with it , I guess . So I was asking different friends for different advice and like what would you do and how do you handle that ?

And then , when they would give me the advice , I would just be like huh , you know interesting . Like well , that's not how I feel or what I'm thinking . So then it kind of got me on this topic of like well , johnna is just advice . Like you don't have to always take the advice Like it's just an opinion .

Advice is just an opinion unless it's from a therapist . Then obviously they have research and education behind their credentials and I would more or less take that as like not an opinion , but true , knowledgeable , sound advice . I don't want to say advice because that's like an opinion .

You know what I'm trying to say but it just brought like I was just thinking about it because , like when I used to say I wasn't a TikToker , because I'm really well , I'm getting more into it now but like scrolling and like seeing like different people talk about like how men are , or you should watch out for this kind of boy , or fuck boy this or fuck girl

that , and you just like mostly it's relationship advice , because that's where I struggle the most in my life , like not just romantic relationships , like I struggle in friendships sometimes too , because , like I've mentioned previously , I've lived this chaotic childhood and when things are good or stable or whatnot , it seems like something is wrong for me , which which ,

again , I'm in therapy , I'm working on it , but it's just . It's just one of those topics where it's like , does anyone really know , like , what we're fucking doing ? Like , does anyone know how to know if you're what we're doing is the right thing ? Like other than that just being alive ? Like we just have to go through life .

We have to make decisions , we have to make take chances , we have to make choices , and sometimes those aren't always the right thing . And that brings me back . So every time I think about that like , or if I've done something that I'm like I probably shouldn't have done , that I have to go back to .

Like the biggest thing in my head is what Jay Shetty said like we make so many decisions in a day and you're not always going to make the right decision , because sometimes there isn't a right or wrong decision , sometimes it's just is a decision and we have to stop labeling things .

Because that's when I think you get in your head that you've done something quote unquote wrong or right . And he was like it's how you handle the aftermath of that decision that truly defines who you are as a person . Like if you make the wrong decision . If it turned out to be the wrong decision , like , how do you handle that wrong decision moving forward ?

So I always try to remind myself that . And then another piece of advice that I always try to remind myself of before like I actually take advice from friends , family , strangers , whatever is .

Meenu has told me since working with her that if you look at someone , if you go to someone for advice and you're looking at their life and you're like you know I wouldn't want to live their life Not that you don't like the person or anything , you're just saying like that's not what I want or embody for me Then you really shouldn't be taking their advice ,

because y'all clearly have different values , different opinions on life in general anyways , and there's difference . Like advice , you can . It can come and go , it can ebb and flow .

Things that I feel like you shouldn't probably ask advice on are like your true values , your core values , because obviously you know when they're your core values , like that's what you stand behind , no matter what , and that's what gets conversations heated .

That's why they always say don't talk about like religion and politics and things like that , because most people know where they stand on that and they don't need advice , like it's more so , like things like should I leave this job , should I get a divorce , should I be talking to this situation ship that you're out there asking advice for ?

And when we do that , I think that we just have to be more cognitive . Like sometimes I think that we're not looking truly for advice , we are just looking to vent about a situation , and then the said person we're venting to then turns to give advice .

Like I'm guilty of that , like I will try to give my friends advice , like hey , let's fix this , here's some advice . When really they're just venting about their situation and just wanted a listening ear . And I think both parties could be better at that .

Like , how about we preface a conversation with like hey , before we get started , I'm just venting , I don't want advice . Or vice versa , like , before we respond , how about we say , hey , what are you looking for from me ? Do you need me to respond , like with what I would do with advice , or do you just need a listening ear ?

And what I just said kind of just spoke true to like when , when people are giving advice or when you were giving advice to your friends , we have to remember that comes from our own opinion , our judgment , our biases , our background , how we were brought up , what you've actually experienced in your own life .

So you're giving someone advice based on what you would do if you were in the situation , and so we just have to try to remember that when we are giving advice and don't take it personal . If someone doesn't take your advice Like I used to take it really a personal one . I'm like , well , why are you doing that ?

Or like you know the girls that keep going back to the same dude over and over and the friends like but why are you doing that ? I clearly specifically told you not to do that . And sometimes it's just because you know people have to learn on their own . I'm sorry , I'm so annoyed . My neighbor just started mowing and I just lost my train of thought .

So hopefully you cannot hear that , because now my dog is barking at the lawnmower , so sorry about the background noise . But anyways , it's mostly because people have to learn on their own and they have to figure it out on their own . And it's not that they don't want your advice , like , clearly they came to you and they respect you and your opinion .

It's not that they don't take it to heart or didn't want to waste your time or anything like that . It's just that I think , at the end of the day , advice is just advice . It's opinions we have to remember . It's based on how people's backgrounds are and what they've already been through in their life . So just a short little episode there .

I know it wasn't very like insightful or anything like that , but it's just something that's been on my mind about advice , because I have been asking friends for advice lately and then , when I don't always take their advice , I was just like , why don't I ? Let's dig a little deeper there .

Like , what is it in me that saying like I would rather do this versus that ? When I think it comes down to like I just don't know what the right thing to do is sometimes like , and then then I just have to sit with it and say , well , what do I feel good about at the end of the day ? I want to be a good human .

I want to be a good person , still make mistakes . I'm not always going to have it figured out and make the right decision . But yeah , I'll just end it there , short but sweet .

I think what I'm going to do the next couple of weeks is just give give myself a little break , because it has been several months in a row that I have I haven't done a break in a while .

So I think in the next couple of weeks coming up , I'm going to do a break for the podcast , unless something just crazy happens that I want to talk about or inspiration hits like wildfire , um .

But I think I'm going to play some of my old episodes , that some of my favorites , that I feel like need to be reheard or re-listened to get out um into the audience , just if maybe you haven't listened to it yet .

Kind of some , take me back Tuesday um episodes , if you will , just to give me a little break , but still give y'all something to listen to and to look forward to . Anyways , guys , as always , y'all can give me a little break , but still give y'all something to listen to and to look forward

to . Anyways , guys , as always , y'all can hit me up on Instagram babbles , underscore , nonsense If you have any topics that you want discussed or anybody that you want me to interview , or even if you want to be interviewed , hit me up .

Yeah , so , anyways , until next time , don't forget to go like share um , subscribe to the podcast , and I will be back in a couple weeks guys with some new content . Bye , thank you .