In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about 4 Rules For Expectations. Unmet and unclear expectations can do major damage in your marriage. Expectations and misunderstanding them is a main source of most conflict in most marriages. We are excited to share some tips from our friends at Emotionally Healthy Leader that we think will help you better understand healthy expectations and implement in your marriage. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email...
Sep 15, 2020•31 min
In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about this concept the Bible teaches about “speaking the truth in love.” Out of love and grace for each other sometimes we don’t want to say the hard things even if they are true. But to love is to tell the truth. We especially do want to tell the truth to our spouse. In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina got into detail about what it means to speak the truth to your spouse and how to do it. They also talk about how to not take this too far by sharing a...
Sep 08, 2020•31 min
In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about The Annual Check In Counseling Appointment. So many couples wait til their marriage is in trouble before they call a counselor. But there are several reasons why having a counselor lined up that you meet with at least once a year is really beneficial. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your i...
Sep 01, 2020•25 min
In this episode Dr. Kim has Joshua Rogers with him to talk about his new book Confessions of a Happily Married Man. Joshua is a writer and in his book he shares open and honestly about his first 10 years of marriage. The book is anchored by stories that other couples will relate to and can easily learn from. The stories are cringe-worthy, humorous, inspiring, heart-breaking, and full of wisdom. Joshua shares some great marriage insights in this episode. We pray this episode is helpful to you and...
Aug 27, 2020•42 min
In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about giving yourself grace. Accepting the gift of grace God has granted us and living in that grace. If you struggle with self condemnation and beating yourself up we pray this episode encourages and inspires you. A grace filled marriage is an awesome marriage and this goes in every direction. Holding onto things and beating yourself up will affect your marriage because an unhealthy you makes for an unhealthy marriage. But a healthy you makes for a hea...
Aug 25, 2020•31 min
In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk all about confession in marriage. What confession is, why it’s important, what it should look like in marriage, and how to do it. Confession isn’t something that we hear a lot about which is odd because it’s a pretty essential Christian practice. It’s tied to repentance and the gospel and living a reformed life. Whether you have never thought about confession in your life, or you have weird thoughts about it being tied to Catholicism, or you do try to c...
Aug 18, 2020•36 min
In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina continue their conversation about one of our most asked-for topics. They are talking about what to do when your wife wants you to lead spiritually. Last week they talked about it from the other side of things - what to do when you are a wife who wants your husband to lead. This week they are talking about it from the husband’s perspective. They share all about what to do when your wife wants this from you. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marr...
Aug 11, 2020•33 min
In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about what to do when you want your husband to lead spiritually. At least once a week we get a comment or question about this, which tells me many of you are struggling with this. Well today we want to provide some helpful insight into what to do when you are in this position. We want to clarify what is and isn’t your responsibility in this as the wife. We also want to share some helpful things to do to encourage your husband and share some UNhelpful th...
Aug 04, 2020•33 min
In this episode Dr. Kim has Felice Mathieu with him. Felice is a communication in marriage coach, spoken word poet, and author of A Christian Marriage Guide: Preventing Arguments and Promoting Unity in the Christian Marriage . Dr. Kim and Felice talk all about unity in communication. They chat about what unity is, how to foster it in your marriage, and identify enemies of unity and how to avoid them. Felice shares some practical advice and biblical truth that will help you and your spouse experi...
Jul 16, 2020•45 min
In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about covering our spouse’s vulnerabilities. Too often, we are aware of our spouse’s weakness and instead of shielding them or filling in their gaps we just want to fix them. Dr. Kim shares why it’s so important to focus on covering each other’s vulnerabilities. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to y...
Jul 14, 2020•30 min
In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina both share 8 things their spouse has taught them over the years. They discuss how marriage is a sanctifying thing and something that grows us. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here ! SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates...
Jul 07, 2020•53 min
In this episode Jennie Lusko joins Dr. Kim to talk about her story of coping with the loss of her daughter and how to walk through tragedy with your marriage still intact. Jennie and her husband, Levi, lead Fresh Life Church in Montana. They have five children: Alivia, Daisy, Clover, Lennox, and Lenya, who is in heaven. 5 days after Christmas in 2012 their daughter Lenya died of an asthma attack. Jennie is bravely sharing her story of loss and struggle with the world in her book that just releas...
Jun 30, 2020•1 hr 4 min
In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about the cold shoulder in marriage. A lot of us withdraw when things get tense or when we can’t seem to solve the conflict. For many of us, it’s normal to shut down and shut our spouse out. But shutting down isn’t going to help us build an awesome marriage. We have to learn new, better ways to communicate in our marriages. In this episode Dr. Kim shares some practical steps you can take if the cold shoulder is happening in your marriage. We pray this e...
Jun 25, 2020•25 min
In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about financial abuse in marriage. They explain what financial abuse is, what it isn’t, and answer some of your most asked questions about the topic. They give real life practical examples of financial abuse and practical steps for couples if they believe this is happening in their marriage. Dr. Kim shares some really valuable insight about money and marriage in this conversation that is valuable to EVERY couple - whether financial abuse has been presen...
Jun 23, 2020•43 min
Happy Father’s Day everyone! In this special edition Father’s Day bonus episode Dr. Kim has special guest Jeff Zaugg from dadAWESOME podcast with him. Jeff runs the dadAWESOME podcast. His mission is to help fathers live fully alive as they lead their children to God’s awesomeness! Jeff is married to his wife Michelle and has 3 beautiful daughters ages 6, 3, 1. Dr. Kim and Jeff chat all about fatherhood and how to be an awesome Dad. So many of you loyal listeners are fathers. This is a great con...
Jun 21, 2020•45 min
This is Part 2 of Our Church Stories & More episode. If you missed last week’s episode, be sure to check that out as it’s a great prelude into today’s show. In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina answer more of your church questions. They talk about how to be a healthy church member, how to find a small group, what to do if your spouse won’t attend church - and more! We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode a...
Jun 16, 2020•51 min
In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina talk about their church stories and church in regards to marriages. If you have been listening to the podcast for any length of time you know that one of our top recommendations is to be plugged into a local church. We have had several questions about church lately so we wanted to take some time to answer them here. We had so many of you submit questions that this will be a 2 part show. In this episode they talk about their stories and experiences with chu...
Jun 09, 2020•38 min
In this episode Dr. Kim and Chrstina talk about the right and wrong ways to apologize to your spouse. Apologies are necessary. Since we’re human and fallen, we should be apologizing regularly. Dr. Kim shares some great practical advice on what to do and not to do when it comes to apologizing in marriage. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to y...
Jun 02, 2020•28 min
In this episode Dr. Kim speaks with special guests Emily Jensen and Laura Wifler from Risen Motherhood. Emily and Laura are the cofounders of the Risen Motherhood ministry and cohosts of the chart-topping podcast. They are also in the trenches of motherhood themselves and share their lives and learnings with their audience. Emily and Laura are not only ministry leaders together but they are also sister-in-laws! Emily has 5 kids under the age of 7 and Laura has 3 kids 6 and under. They both live ...
May 28, 2020•56 min
In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about sharing your marriage conflict with your friends. I know - it seems weird! Is marriage conflict really something we want to share? They share about when it’s appropriate to share your marriage issues, with who, and why. Too often we are too stingy with the truth of our conflict and our marriages, friendships, and friends marriages are missing out because of it! Dr. Kim shares some great practical advice on how sharing our issues can benefit our wh...
May 26, 2020•28 min
In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about how to have hard conversations with our spouse. We all have to have them. There are things that aren’t fun to talk about and issues need to be addressed. But how do we have hard conversations well for the betterment of our marriage? Dr. Kim shares some great practical advice on some go-to tips for hard conversation and somethings we should all avoid when it comes to how to have these conversations. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your m...
May 19, 2020•28 min
In this episode Dr. Kim and Chrstina talk about how to recover from an open marriage. Dr. Kim shares about what an open marriage is, what God says, and how to recover from this kind of sexual baggage. We encourage you to not skip this episode even if that’s not your story. We are facing a culture where open marriages may very well become more common and sexual boundaries are being disregarded. Tune it so you can learn and better understand how to help people who may face this. And here is what w...
May 12, 2020•39 min
In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina wrap up our Top 10 Marriage Mistakes Series by talking about the #1 Marriage Mistake Dr. Kim sees in marriages which is a lack of respect. Do you feel slighted or torn down by your spouse? Do you feel like your dignity is often bruised by how your spouse treats you? Well, we pray this episode can lead you to have some real, honest conversations with your spouse and that it will be the first step towards change for your marriage. Maybe you are thinking - this...
May 05, 2020•29 min
In this episode Dr. Kim has long time friend of the podcast, Debra Fileta, back on the show talking about Love In Every Season. Debra Fileta is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Dr. Kim and Debra discuss her l...
Apr 30, 2020•58 min
In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about the #2 Marriage Mistake Dr. Kim sees in marriages, which is not listening to your spouse. Hearing is not the same thing as listening. So what does it look like to listen to your spouse well? How can we become better listeners? Dr. Kim shares practical advice on how to avoid this marriage mistake. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, re...
Apr 28, 2020•33 min
As if parenting wasn’t already hard enough, it just got that much harder with the coronavirus. In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina share practical advice on how to parent through this journey and most importantly how to parent TOGETHER with your spouse through this journey. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this po...
Apr 24, 2020•43 min
We have been getting a lot of emails and messages from you all saying you are struggling with your marriage during this coronavirus time. So we wanted to take some time to address this topic head on. So if you are feeling stir crazy, anxious, or driving each other crazy we hope this conversation provides some hope and helpful tips on how to get through this time by working together and not turning against each other. In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about how to support each other thro...
Apr 23, 2020•48 min
In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about the #3 marriage mistake Dr. Kim sees in marriages, which is little or no physical intimacy. Can you think of the last time you touched your spouse? How often do the two of you physically touch? How much of that touching means something and provokes intimacy? Do you feel more like roommates than lovers? Than this episode should prove useful to your marriage! If you aren’t facing this issue now, it may come in the future. So we pray you glean some w...
Apr 21, 2020•43 min
In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about the #4 marriage mistake Dr. Kim sees in marriages, which is always having to be right. You’ve heard Dr. Kim say it before - when you win a fight with your spouse - you lose! Because your marriage loses. And if your marriage loses; where’s the win in that? Winning battles while losing the war is a marriage mistake far too many of us get trapped in when it comes to our marriages. Dr. Kim gives some great insight and direction into this issue. We pra...
Apr 14, 2020•29 min
In this episode Dan & Mikayla Ockey join Dr. Kim to talk about how to handle this financial crisis we are in. Dan & Mikayla (Kay) are founders of Centsei online personal finance courses for couples. They are passionate about helping couples make wise decisions with their money, work together as a team as married couples, and work towards financial freedom. Today share some practical tips on how to navigate these weird financial times many of us are in due to the Coronavirus. Dan & Ka...
Apr 09, 2020•41 min
