Authentic Men's Group podcast

Authentic Living & Our Identity

When our Actions, Beliefs, and Feelings align with our Identity , Life is good! Our goal is to align these attributes. That is authenticity. In this episode we discuss a paradigm of how to live authentically aligned with our identity.

Questioning Authenticity (Part 3)

In this podcast we discuss suggested questions men have had and continue to have about authenticity. Here are some of the questions we discussed: Is there such a thing as having different levels of authenticity? Is the authentic self created/invented or discovered? What is the risk of being authentic? What makes overcoming inauthenticity so hard? Is there a correlation between authenticity and success? Why is authenticity so important?...

Questioning Authenticity (Part 2)

In this podcast we discuss suggested questions men have had and continue to have about authenticity. Here are some of the questions we discussed: Why is authenticity important for us as members and leaders of AMG? How hard is it to be authentic in our culture? Is authenticity a state we stay in or are we in out of it? Do the stages of life change our authenticity?

Questioning Authenticity

In this podcast we discuss questions men have had and continue to have about authenticity.

Rest & Laziness

Men often struggle with understanding the difference between rest and laziness. We either rest and feel lazy or we are lazy and don't get rest. Here are some definitions of each: Laziness: the quality of being unwilling to work or use energy; idleness. Rest: to cease work or movement in order to relax, refresh oneself, or recover strength. Laziness is apathetic, just letting whatever happens happen. Here are 3 approaches to rest well: 1. Rest takes work. 2. Rest gives attention to the natural cy...

Success In Circles 4-7

In this podcast we continue the journey of redefining our success. We apply the 8 To Be Great model of success by Richard St. John to circles 4-7 of the Circle of Relationship paradigm.

Success In Circles 1-3

In this podcast we continue the journey of redefining our success. We apply the 8 To Be Great model of success by Richard St. John to circles 1-3 of the Circle of Relationship paradigm.

Redefining Success

Redefining Success It is important to define success for ourselves. If we do not, it will be defined for us. The Construct of Success: Merriam-Webster’s definition: the fact of getting or achieving wealth, respect, or fame. the correct or desired result of an attempt. a person or thing that succeeds. Defining childhood upbringing and development of messages we received about success. It was about being a hero, saving people, having fame and accomplishments, getting good grades. (Athletes, superh...

Awkward...

Awkward and embarrassing things happen, it is all part of the human experience. How we handle these experiences can impact us greatly. When you are sitting on the toilet at public restroom and you see a stranger through the crack in the door. When you have someone at your house and they will not leave. When there is confusion between a hug and a handshake. (A hugshake) When you meet someone at the grocery store and should know their name but don’t When people you don’t really know sing happy bir...

ETR (Energy, Time, Resources)

Three things we bring to every relationship. E nergy T ime R esources Energy Definition - The strength and vitality required for sustained physical, emotional or mental activity. Tailor your life to things that express and create passion. Be aware of obsessions and obligations. Synergy comes from energy. Rest is a big part of creating energy. Ask the question, ‘Is this energy producing or energy draining?’ Every yes is a no to something and every no is a yes to something else. Time By being inte...

Living the Could Life

In this podcast we talk about three components of living a could life. 1. Living 2. Loving 3. Leaving Start by asking yourself these questions: How could I live? What is living? Really living? Not just existing but truly living. What’s musing? What’s missing? What does it look like to live out of our imagination, not our history? What does it look like to live out of our inspiration, not our obligation? The key is not prioritize our schedule, but to schedule our priorities Ask yourself what real...

3 Words of Transformation Pt. 3 "Could"

Could is the focus word of the Benevolent State or state . This is where a man turns from the mirror and seeing his goodness to looking out the window to see how he can use his goodness to change and transform others. The word could indicates that someone has the ability to do something. In this stage we are making the proactive proclamation - “I am goodness. I am value.” “I am love.” Definitions of Benevolence : Kindness, compassion, consideration, thoughtfulness, altruism, generosity, open-han...

3 Words of Transformation Pt. 2 "Good"

The Second word is “Good” This word good is a good one isn’t it. Ask the question, “Is it good to be me?” I think this is what makes good such a foundational descriptor for men’s groups. When we say to men “You are a good man” we are actually saying, you are good just the way you are right now and you don’t have to hide from that”. In AMG we make it known they are GOOD and will make good decisions from their goodness. Some definitions of the word “good” are as follows: to be desired or approved-...

3 Words of Transformation Pt. 1 "Should"

When we talk about transformation we are talking about change, evolution, resurrection, revision, metamorphosis. To identify these stages we are going to use three words: Should - Discovery, Good - Maintenance and Could - Benevolence These three words align with the different stages men are in as they participate in small men’s groups. The First word is “Should” Some definitions of the word should: It is used to indicate obligation, duty, or correctness, typically when criticizing someone's acti...

How to Deal with Anger

Secretology Part 2

Secrets Reflect Our Beliefs About Ourselves “I must hide myself and what I have a tendency to do in the future.” “I must hide myself because of what I did in the past.” Shame and guilt are the core beliefs of what underlies these statements. Guilt says, “I did something wrong” Shame says, “I am something wrong” Both of these core beliefs leave us powerless in the present. If I flood the present with misgivings about the past and anxiety about the future I won’t have any energy, time or resource ...

Secretology Part 1

Introduction When I think of the topic of secrets it is an essential focus of Authentic Men’s Groups. One of the axioms of AMG is that ‘we have no secret that we have not told someone’. Another truth we live by is to be ‘authentic to everyone and vulnerable (completely open) to a select few’. It has been stated that “the secret sauce of Authentic Men’s Groups is that we have no secrets”. We discuss secrets in AMG in two key ways: In each group we create and value confidentiality which helps to f...

Error and Era Friends

The Negative Relationships Error Friends Examples: Wife had an affair with best friend. People that have gone through divorce. Not being supported by best friend when going through transition with my wife. These were friends that turned out and then turned on us. They went from close to far (from inner circles #3 and #4 relationships to outer circles #5 and #6 relationships). I trusted them and they proved themselves unworthy of the trust. The shared vulnerability was negligible at best, negativ...

Sex Connect

The Sex Connect Introduction Sex is more than hooking up… or is it? If we are meaning connection when we use the phrase “hooking up” then this may be exactly what sex is all about. The word connection is defined as “a relationship in which a person, thing or idea is linked or associated with something else” If we can link our associations together so that our sexuality is giving expression in the whole context of life perhaps we would not see our libido as something separate but something very h...

Vulnerability Does Not Bite

Vulnerability Does Not Bite Introduction Definition of vulnerability: The quality or state of being exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed, either physically or emotionally. With this definition who would want to be vulnerable? Why are we doing this thing if this what the definition is? Vulnerability may seem scary and if not done intentionally it can be! Vulnerability done intentionally can be so rewarding. Vulnerability in spirituality is an expression of faith. Vulnerability i...

Father's 3 Virtues

Father’s 3 Virtues Introduction Here are some quotes about fathers made in AMG sessions: I never heard my dad tell me he loved me, ever. When I had a dream or a vision I had it dashed by my father. I began to measure up to my Dad when I made more money than he did. I don’t ever remember my dad and mother hugging. My dad only showed one emotion and that was anger. There is a deep longing in all of us to connect with our fathers. Robert McGee in his book Father Hunger said it well: “What better wo...

Rethinking Masculinity

Rethinking Masculinity General Outline: Why toxic masculine norms need to be challenged and masculinity redefined. What are toxic masculine norms How AMG is challenging toxic masculine norms and redefining masculinity​. Why Toxic Masculine Norms need to be challenged and Masculinity redefined. There are multiple movements going on right now seeking much-needed equality from racial, feminists, and LQBTQ communities as well as many others. These movements are not exclusive to men. I dare say that ...

Imperfect Not Imposters

Men are hiding in one of two places, they are either hiding from success or hiding in success. Most men hide from success by just staying away from it and flying below radar. In this way their failures or perceived failures will never be seen. The other type of hider, are the men that hide in their success. These men though fewer in number have a far more elaborate way of hiding. They achieve more, accomplish more and collect more than their average male counterpart but still have the same probl...

What is AMG?

12 Rules For Life (Part3)

12 Rules for Life (Part 2)

12 Rules for Life (Part 1)

Interview with Tim (An AMG Coach)

Rupta (Rut or Routine?)

Interview with Chris (An AMG Coach)