117 - [AUDACIOUS TAKE] Is It a Difficult Thing or Is It the Next Thing You're Figuring Out?

It's time to activate your power , use your voice and create the life you're meant to live . So the next time someone asks , can you believe she had the audacity , you can look at them and say , yeah , I did . Hey , audacious Human , I'm so glad that you're here for today's episode and it's a good one .

Like I'm excited for it , not to toot my own horn , but toot , toot . I feel like it's a good one . It's something that you know . This is a come with me , let's figure this out together , type of podcast . I don't pretend I don't know all the answers . I just share what I'm going through and what I'm learning in real time .

And today I was hit with some more hard truth , like that is the season of life I'm in right now . Has anybody else been in that season or is it just me ?

Like , if you've been in that season , send me , shoot me a text like , click in the show notes to send a text feature button and it'll send me a text , and directly to me and send me the fire emoji . Like I feel like we're walking through it . Like we are walking through it right now .

It has just been the season of tough love , almost , and I know you have to have these seasons to have the everything's going right for you , and celebratory , like the sweet seasons . Gotta go through the valley so that you can enjoy the view from the mountaintop , and so that's where we are . And so I just really felt like I needed to share this with you .

Um , just a good perspective , as you could say . Because , like , really , I was hit . I was scrolling on instagram I know this is what happens . Like it's summer for me , I'm not teaching school right now . So , scrolling on Instagram and this reel popped up and they were like , is it a difficult thing or is it the next thing you're figuring out ?

And I was like , oh dang , like is it a difficult thing or is it the next thing you're figuring out ? That , like , that'll hit you when you're complaining about something Like is it really difficult or is it just the next thing you're going to figure out ? Talk about perspective .

And so I just got this little nudge , like , hey , you need to learn more about this , you need to explore this more . It a little little light bulb on me like , hey , pay attention to me , learn more from this . So down the rabbit hole I went and I'm taking you with me this episode . So welcome to down the rabbit hole .

And as I was looking for , okay , there's got to be more about this perspective whole thing . And Dr Nikki Starr said this quote that I really wanted to share with you , like bring us into the intention for this episode . And Dr Nikki Starr said it's all about perspective . It's not the things that happen , but rather your interpretation of them .

It's about the meaning you choose to give things . Like , oh look , I'm gonna read that last sentence again . It's about the meaning you choose to give things . Like think about it , you could have two situations two different people and one open , two different kids for birthday . Let's just go with this . Hang with me on this . One opens a card and they get $5 .

You know , they just got a hundred dollars in their last card . So they're like , wow , you ripped me off . You have another kid who this is the only card they're going to get and they got $5 and they're so excited for that . The $5 isn't better or worse than any situation . It's perspective .

I mean , like I talk about it a lot on the show , but like gratitude puts everything into perspective . Like having gratitude puts it all into perspective , as I was kind of getting into this more like okay , what are things we take for granted here in the United States , since that's where I live ?

Like what are things we take for granted that other people don't have or we haven't had that long ? I mean there's a lot of things we take for granted that we're like oh no , this is just how it is , but like we haven't had that that long . The grand scheme of things hasn't been that long .

So one thing was like showers Showers were not a common household staple until like the 1980s . Like it wasn't just like a staple thing you had in your house 1980s . When is the last time that you took a shower and were grateful for the hot water ? Like you're in the shower and when was the last time you were grateful for hot water ?

Like right now , 2024, ? There are places in the world that do not have access to that . There are places in the world that they can't just walk into a room and turn on a faucet and clean water to drink just comes out . They don't have that .

When's the last time you walked up to get a glass of water and were like I am so grateful that I can just turn on a faucet this is so easy . Or I can turn on a light switch and there's light . I don't have to walk around in the dark at night . It's summer in Texas right now it's triple digits .

I am grateful that I can walk into my house and the air conditioner is going , that I have air conditioning , because I don't want to sit in a hot house , so I'm grateful for that .

But don't you ever catch yourself on days like you have air conditioning and you're like on days it gets really hot , it doesn't keep up , your house is warmer than what you would like , than what feels comfortable , what you would like than what feels comfortable , what you're used to , and have you ever caught yourself being like oh , I hate that it's hot right

now , but really is it ? Is it really ? It's just not as cool as you would like , but is it though ? Is it really ? Are we just do ? We just need a different perspective , and this is not to shame you into like . You have every right to like be dissatisfied with something .

Complain about things Like it's not to shame you into never having negative feelings about something Like . That's not it . We're not going to the other extreme here . That's equal parts unhealthy . It's just putting some perspective on it . It's the thing you're going through right now . Is the difficult thing you're going through right now .

Is it really difficult or is it just the next thing you have to figure out ? Like , really think about it . You have a co-worker who's impossible to deal with . Is it really difficult ? Or is it the next thing you've got to figure out how to work with them Because , like , you have a job ?

Like , is it difficult that your AC is not working and there's triple digits outside ?

Or is it just something you've got to figure out today and I'm not minimizing circumstances for anybody , especially in today's economy minding circumstances for anybody , especially in today's economy If you have to replace your whole unit and that's a big expense and not a lot of people have extra funds right now , but that is going to be a difficult thing or is it

really going to end you forever , or can you figure it out ? Can you pick up extra shifts ? Are there things you could sell ? Could you mow some yards ? Is there ways you can make extra money ? Like , can you creatively problem solve this ? Is it hard ? Yeah , is it inconvenient ? Yeah , but can you figure it out ? Also , yes , you can't .

I mean going back to this whole idea that we just turn on faucets and there's running water , we take showers or baths in hot water , that we do nothing but turn a faucet that makes it hot , like let's have the hot water heater , you know , like the faucet doesn't make it hot , but like it opens up for the hot water to come . You know what I mean .

And we have access to entertainment . Majority of us walk around with computers in our pockets , our cell phones . We have access to concerts , we have access to movies , we have streaming services . We have all this entertainment , all this knowledge , all of these things that are food , our fingertips . We have food , like we have enough food to eat . Eat .

We , in one point in the history of civilization , are living better than , like the richest people did , with more perks . Like , objectively , objectively , our lives have never been better . Like , like , objectively looking at it , our lives have never been better and subjectively worse .

Like we're living in the top percentile of billions of people who've ever lived , but we're also so deep in comparison and nearsighted to everybody else's experience that our lives are subjectively worse . So it's just some perspective , it's a little empathy , putting yourself in another person's shoes , in another person's situation , seeing things through their eyes .

And as I was continuing to just read more and more about research and thought leaders had to say on this topic , I came across a multitude of times like , essentially , how happy you are is your quality of life minus envy ? Your happiness is the quality of your life minus how envious you are of those around you .

There's always going to have somebody who you think has it better than you and who subjectively maybe does . But everybody has their own problems . There's a lot that's talked about in the entrepreneurial world , like if you choose the success , you're also choosing the problems that come with it . You're like Jaycee , I'm broke .

I could totally deal with the millionaire's problems , could you ? Because maybe you don't have a lot of financial means but you have a family that you know you can trust and are supportive and love you and you know your friends are your friends because they genuinely want to be there for you .

There are some people who have success , who are more lonely than they ever have been because they have , are surrounded by people who are paid to be there , and you never know if people's intentions are pure because they want you or they want what you can give them . So , like do you want those problems ? Are you willing to deal with those problems ?

Right now in the united states , in this economy , it's housing , like affording housing , affording to buy a house is a thing . And like okay , you know , there are people who choose to rent because they choose to pay for rent Versus choosing to have the problem of owning a house and having to pay for the repairs for it .

Because if something breaks , like you're renting , you can just call having to pay for the repairs for it . Because if something breaks , like you're renting , you can just call your landlord they have to fix it . If you own it , like you got to come up with the money . And so it's like perspective .

It's all about perspective and it's not saying your perspective is wrong , and I feel like that's a lot of what's wrong right now in society is it's like my perspective is the only right perspective . If your perspective is different , it's wrong . Like , no , like . Take a pause . Breathe Deep breath in through your nose and out through your mouth .

Give your nervous system the time to pause . Now is it ? Is the perspective really that wrong , or is it just different ? Because everything in life is all about your perspective . It's not necessarily the things that happen to you , but it's rather your interpretation of them . Humans were meaning creating machines .

It's all about the meaning that you choose to give those things I talk about it on that . You choose to give those things I talk about on that podcast a lot . It's all about the meaning you give to something Perspective . You apply for a job . You know you're the most qualified candidate for a job .

You find out other people know you're the most qualified candidate for a job . You're told no , you're not going to get that position . Job you're told no , you're not going to get that position . One perspective that's not fair . I don't deserve that . Other perspective this store's closing . Maybe somebody needed this opportunity more .

This store's closing , because something better for me is coming . I don't see it yet , but I know it's coming . Perspective , rather than something happening to me , something's happening for me . Is it a difficult thing or is it the next thing you have to figure out ? That's the question I want you to ask yourself the next couple days .

Really be intentional about it . You're stuck in traffic . Is this really bad , or is this just the next thing you have to figure out ? Going to be late to work Okay , figure it out . Probably need to call my boss and let them know . Supervisor , let them know . Is it really difficult or is it just the next thing you have to figure out ?

That's what I want you to think about . That's my challenge for you .

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Don't let anyone , including yourself , convince you otherwise , and if that idea or vision for your life is in you , it is for you . Living with this phrase in mind in today's world is such a truly audacious thing for you to do . So until the next time I talk to you , remember , have the audacity .