110 - [THROWBACK] Permission to Stop Apologizing

It's time to activate your power , use your voice and create the life you're meant to live . So the next time someone asks , can you believe she had the audacity , you can look at them and say , yeah , I did . Hey , audacious Human . Today I feel like we need to have an important conversation . I'm going to try and keep this quick .

This is going to be a sassy conversation where I know I'll be challenging a belief in you , but it needs to happen . Remember , here at the have the Audacity podcast , we are all about leaning into the uncomfortable , because that's where growth happens . So here's the deal . I want you to stop apologizing for things you know you do not need to apologize for .

I say this with the most love for you and , as someone who used to apologize for everything , I mean I would get stuck in I'm sorry , loops , and I know if you apologize a lot , you know what I'm talking about when you say I'm sorry and the other person's like don't say you're sorry . And you're like okay , I'm sorry for saying I'm sorry .

And then they look at you and you're like okay , I'm sorry . And then you just want to say it again and that's the only thing , and you're just like okay , I'm sorry , luke , I've been there . I , I know . Once we have this conversation today , you're going to see this everywhere .

As society , we have been conditioned especially women to apologize for everything and we're done . Picture this You're walking down the aisle in the grocery store . You're pushing your cart , getting your groceries . You come to the end of the aisle and someone crosses in front of you and you stop Before even remotely colliding with the other person .

Now do you say oh , excuse me , or I'm sorry ? If you say I'm sorry , why are you sorry ? Now I want to have a dramatic pause here and give you time to think about it . What you would , how you would really react , but that would be weird on a podcast , so let's pretend I did that . Why are you sorry ?

Are you sorry for being a human being and taking up space ? If no one has told you this before , it is your right as a person , as a human being , to take up space . You don't need to apologize for that .

Think about this scenario have you ever been in a crowded situation , like at a concert or a show or something , and a large gathering of people and you need to get to your seat ? That's in the middle of the row and we all do this .

We stand there and try to think how do I get to my seat without disturbing anybody else , but you realize you have to scoot in front of the people . You have to do the scoot . Do you say excuse me , or do you say I'm sorry , or can I come through ? Or is it a combination of both ? Like an excuse me , I'm sorry , combo , why ?

Why are you just saying that ? You need to stop saying that , because you have a right as a human who purchased a ticket or a human attending the event , to get to your seat . You just say excuse me and get your scoot on through to your space . You get to take up space as a human . You don't need to apologize for it .

You get to take up space as a human . You don't need to apologize for it . This goes even to being at a restaurant and ordering food or something , and a waiter brings you the wrong drink , do you say I'm sorry , this isn't what I ordered . Try , excuse me , I ordered this water with lemons . Could I get some lemons for my water , thank you .

I don't even know why lemons for water came to my mind , because I don't even drink lemons in my water . So anyway , you aren't being rude or ungrateful to the server . You are just asking for what you ordered . As you're right as a person at an establishment , you may ask for what you ordered . There's nothing wrong with that . Don't apologize for it . Now .

I'm not saying you need to go around and say Jace said that I don't need to apologize for anything anymore . That's not what I'm saying . If you're wrong , if you make a mistake , like you spill something on someone or you're rude , you unintentionally or even intentionally hurt someone's feelings .

Yes , own your mistake , apologize and say you're sorry , but please stop apologizing for existing and taking up space . You get to take up space and I just really want that to sink in for you . I want you to remember excuse me and I'm sorry are not synonymous . Those phrases are different .

We need to sit and think about the difference between these phrases and use them correctly . They're not the same . Remember , excuse me and I'm sorry , are not synonymous . I'll talk to you soon . First , I want to say thank you so much for listening to today's episode .

It truly means so much to me that you were here and that I got to be a small part of your day . I have three things to tell you before you go , though . First , please rate and review this podcast . It truly helps this podcast grow and get the message out . It is such a simple thing that you could do to support this show . Thank you for doing that .

Second , share this episode with somebody right now that you know needs to hear it , or take a screenshot . Tag me on social media and let me know what you loved about this episode . I love getting to connect with you .

And the third last thing I have is I cannot let you go without sending you off into the rest of your day with the reminder that I want you to always remember you are worthy .

Sending you off into the rest of your day with the reminder that I want you to always remember you are worthy , you have value , you get to take up space in this world simply because you exist . Don't let anyone , including yourself , convince you otherwise . And if that idea or vision for your life is in you , it is for you .

Living with this phrase in mind in today's world is such a truly audacious thing for you to do . So until the next time I talk to you , remember , have the audacity .