Parents often ask me how their three-year-old PDA child could possibly be masking before they've even started preschsool and seen much of how other kids behave. It's a great question, and one I asked many times as well. In this episode I dig into the answer, according to Polyvagal Theory. To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com. You can also connect with me on: Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents Tik...
May 10, 2024•29 min•Season 1Ep. 58
In this episode Dr. Alex Klein and I answer questions that families submitted. If you'd like to submit a question for one of our future conversations, here is where you can do so: https://www.atpeaceparents.com/submit-question-klein-ehrlich Here's some of the questions we took on for this episode: How do you know if the behavior you are observing as a parent is from ADHD or PDA? What are the differences and similarities? Why are psychologists so resistant to recognizing PDA? (Asked as “What is w...
May 03, 2024•47 min•Season 1Ep. 57
Does your child refuses to write or draw? In this episode I share my story of my son's avoidance of both and how supporting his nervous with PDA accommodations enabled him to come back to them over time. The story also illustrates the general logic of supporting a child through and out of burnout. To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com. You can also connect with me on: Instagram - www.instagram/atpeacepa...
Apr 24, 2024•21 min•Season 1Ep. 56
Knowing the difference between boundaries and rules, and when to use each, can be really helpful when parenting a PDA child or teen. To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com. You can also connect with me on: Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents And information on my Courses, Prog...
Apr 12, 2024•24 min•Season 1Ep. 55
In this episode I reconnect with my longtime dear friend, Lauren Stern Noel, who is also a developmental therapist and DIR-Floortime therapist working with Autistic children and children with developmental disabilities. We talk about playing with PDA children, and how it can look different than what parents might have expected. Lauren serves families and schools directly in the greater Chicago area and you can learn more about her services and work at her website : https://www.playtimekids.org/a...
Mar 19, 2024•45 min•Season 1Ep. 54
In this episode I discuss how as parents of PDA children or teens we do both parenting and caregiving, and how that relates to a "Gentle Parenting" approach. To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com. You can also connect with me on: Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents And inform...
Mar 12, 2024•19 min•Season 1Ep. 53
In this episode I talk about how I view parenting a PDA child or teen as distinct from "Gentle Parenting" by focusing on rhythms instead of routines. To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com. You can also connect with me on: Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents YouTube - www.youtube.com/@atpeaceparents And information on...
Mar 04, 2024•15 min•Season 1Ep. 52
Signalling safety - often non-verbally - to your PDA child or teen can be a really impactful way to accommodate their nervous system. In this episode I provide seven tips on how to do it. To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass at www.atpeaceparents.com. You can also connect with me on: Instagram - www.instagram/atpeaceparents TikTok - www.tiktok.com/@atpeaceparents Facebook - www.facebook.com/atpeaceparents YouTube - www.youtube....
Feb 26, 2024•30 min•Season 1Ep. 51
In this episode I discuss my two sons, the differences between SPD and PDA, and how those differences impact parenting. To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass . You can also connect with me on: Instagram TikTok Facebook YouTube And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at At Peace Parents . Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent. xoxo, Casey Mentioned in this episode: Paradigm Shift Program...
Feb 23, 2024•23 min•Season 1Ep. 50
When my PDA son was four-years-old and we were in crisis I called my longtime dear friend, Lauren Stern Noel, who is also a developmental therapist and DIR-Floortime therapist working with Autistic children and children with developmental disabilities. She invited me to Chicago to stay with her family and meet her most trusted colleagues - a speech language pathologist and occupational therapist - to help Cooper stabilize. The most profound shift for me was in my parenting and helping me start m...
Feb 14, 2024•46 min•Season 1Ep. 49
I always get questions about how to handle dynamics between a Pathologically Demand Avoidant child or teen and their sibling/s. And with good reason - it can be REALLY hard to navigate these dynamics in ways that support all members of the family. Want more on this topic? I first discussed it about a year ago in episode 15. To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass . You can also connect with me on: Instagram TikTok Facebook YouTube...
Feb 05, 2024•21 min•Season 1Ep. 48
In this episode I discuss the practical skills we need as parents to support the nervous systems and health of our PDA children and teens, and how it relates to my morning's yoga session... To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass . You can also connect with me on: Instagram TikTok Facebook YouTube And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at At Peace Parents . Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent. xoxo, C...
Jan 29, 2024•18 min•Season 1Ep. 47
I explain strewing as an accommodation that can help PDA children and teens. To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass . You can also connect with me on: Instagram TikTok Facebook YouTube And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at At Peace Parents . Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent. xoxo, Casey Mentioned in this episode: Paradigm Shift Program...
Jan 24, 2024•24 min•Season 1Ep. 46
Casey and Dr. Klein discuss PDA in their first podcast (of many to follow) and he shares some of the insights of PDA he's gained as a clinical psychologist. Disclaimer: Dr. Klein does not provide any clinical, medical, or therapeutic support as part of this podcast. To work with him as a clinician, you can find him here: https://www.dralexklein.com/ (Casey doesn't either). You can submit questions for my future chats with Dr. Klein here. To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen i...
Jan 16, 2024•1 hr 6 min•Season 1Ep. 45
Casey discusses the five most common ways she's found parents of PDA children and teens get stuck in bringing their family to stability. To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass . You can also connect with me on: Instagram TikTok Facebook YouTube And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at At Peace Parents . Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent. xoxo, Casey Mentioned in this episode: Paradigm Shift Progra...
Jan 08, 2024•32 min•Season 1Ep. 44
Casey discusses the ways parents of PDA children shoot themselves with the "second arrow" - often guilt - and ways to transcend it. To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass . You can also connect with me on: Instagram TikTok Facebook YouTube And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at At Peace Parents . Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent. xoxo, Casey Mentioned in this episode: Paradigm Shift Program...
Dec 21, 2023•29 min•Season 1Ep. 43
In this episode Casey discusses having a service dog to help her PDA son, and some of the ups and downs she's been through. To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass . You can also connect with me on: Instagram TikTok Facebook YouTube And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at At Peace Parents . Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent. xoxo, Casey Mentioned in this episode: Paradigm Shift Program...
Dec 12, 2023•20 min•Season 1Ep. 42
Casey discusses her identity, her role as a researcher rather than an advocate, and how this informs her objective approach - and openness -to helping each unique family find what works for them and the PDA child or teen without an attachment to path they choose. To learn more about and figure out if your child or teen is PDA, you can take my FREE Clarity Masterclass . You can also connect with me on: Instagram TikTok Facebook YouTube And information on my Courses, Programs, and Coaching is at A...
Dec 04, 2023•13 min•Season 1Ep. 41
Casey talks about the theory of change she uses in her work, and the common fear parents have that if they accommodate their PDA children and teens they will not be able to succeed as adults. To connect with me, find me here: Instagram TikTok Facebook YouTube For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent. xoxo, Casey Mentioned in this episode: Paradigm Shift Program...
Nov 28, 2023•31 min•Season 1Ep. 40
In this episode Casey discusses the challenges and strategies of parenting a PDA child or teen through the holiday season. (This episode was pulled from a recent Instagram Live video.) To connect with me, find me here: Instagram TikTok Facebook YouTube For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent. xoxo, Casey Mentioned in this episode: Paradigm Shift Program...
Nov 21, 2023•27 min•Season 1Ep. 39
Casey discusses the variability among PDA children and teens. To connect with me, find me here: Instagram TikTok Facebook YouTube For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent. xoxo, Casey Mentioned in this episode: Paradigm Shift Program...
Nov 13, 2023•11 min•Season 1Ep. 38
PDA children and teens have empathy, and in this episode we talk about why and how to help their nervous systems so they can access it. To connect with me, find me here: Instagram TikTok Facebook YouTube For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent. xoxo, Casey Mentioned in this episode: Paradigm Shift Program...
Nov 07, 2023•12 min•Season 1Ep. 37
In this episode we discuss the unique experience of parenting a PDA child for parents who are also pathologically demand avoidant and offer some simple tools and insights that may be helpful. To connect with me, find me here: Instagram TikTok Facebook YouTube For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent. xoxo, Casey Mentioned in this episode: Paradigm Shift Program...
Oct 30, 2023•17 min•Season 1Ep. 36
In this episode, we discuss why the Halloween - and the holidays - are so tough on PDA children and teens, as well as their parents, and I offer some tips to help you get through the beginning of what we call "The Gauntlet" in my family (the period between Halloween and my son's bday in January). Remember - it's not you! It's totally normal to dread these times of the year because of societal demands and expectations! I hope this podcast episode serves you. To connect with me, find me here: Inst...
Oct 24, 2023•19 min•Season 1Ep. 35
In this episode Casey talks about the fawn and freeze responses to nervous system activation. To connect with me, find me here: Instagram TikTok Facebook YouTube For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent. xoxo, Casey Mentioned in this episode: Paradigm Shift Program...
Oct 23, 2023•14 min•Season 1Ep. 34
Casey discusses why behavioral approaches don't work for PDA children and teens. To connect with me, find me here: Instagram TikTok Facebook YouTube For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent. xoxo, Casey Mentioned in this episode: Paradigm Shift Program...
Oct 17, 2023•29 min•Season 1Ep. 33
Casey talks about therapy for PDA children. To connect with me, find me here: Instagram TikTok Facebook YouTube For Courses, Programs, Coaching and Consulting, find me at At Peace Parents, LLC Thanks for listening! You are an amazing parent. xoxo, Casey Mentioned in this episode: Paradigm Shift Program...
Oct 09, 2023•17 min•Season 1Ep. 32
This episode explores what I call "The Theory of Change" of parenting a Pathologically Demand Avoidant (PDA) child or teen through an accommodation approach over the long term (years!). We talk about the logic behind lowering demands and making choices that feel counterintuitive as a parent to support your child back into their "thinking brain." We also discuss radical acceptance and what that means day-to-day as a parent as a PDA child or teen. To connect with me, find me here: Instagram TikTok...
Oct 02, 2023•39 min•Season 1Ep. 31
This episode discusses what it *actually* looks like to radically accept your PDA child or teen. For many parents this is where the rubber hits the road and it is less about a nebulous or theoretical "acceptance" of a neurodivergent child, and more about the points at which we have to accept that raising a child with a nervous system disability requires tradeoffs to our lifestyle, letting go of certain expectations we had for our lives, and cost-benefit decision-making within constraints. I hope...
Sep 27, 2023•22 min•Season 1Ep. 30
In this episode, we discuss the difference between trauma and Pathological Demand Avoidance, as well as the overlaps in terms of your child's or teen's behavior. We talk about how you can heal trauma, however you cannot heal a neurotype, but rather accommodate it through trauma-informed parenting and practices. Sometimes, as parents, we don't know where the line is between trauma and neurotype, so we have to be consistent in connection and accommodations and observe our own data about your child...
Sep 18, 2023•36 min•Season 1Ep. 29
