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Ask Your Gay Uncle

Ben Palacios & Tom Trusspodcasters.spotify.com
Join gay uncles Ben Palacios & Tom Truss for advice, antics, tender moments, and tough love.
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Episodes

Hiatus

Ask Your Gay Uncle is taking a hiatus from making episodes. We hope to be back soon! Donate / Instagram / Twitter / Steamy Stories askyourgayuncle.com Ben Palacios on Instagram and Twitter Tom Truss on Instagram Jacqui Anders on Instagram...

Aug 23, 20216 min

46. Listeners Talk Pride

In honor of LGBTQIA+ Pride Month we asked listeners to answer the question, “What does pride mean to you?” Donate / Instagram / Twitter / Steamy Stories askyourgayuncle.com

Jun 30, 202127 min

45. Meet PENNYWILD: DJ, Choreographer, and Musical Theatre NERD!

Tommy and Ben interview PENNYWILD: queer DJ, choreographer, digital marketing producer, and self-proclaimed musical theatre nerd! She talks about turning jealousy into inspiration and finding her true self in the entertainment world. In the Generation Gap, Penny and the Guncles dig down the musical theater rabbit hole... but only one of them comes out killing it. Penny highlights RENT as her Moment in Culture. Donate / Instagram / Twitter / Steamy Stories askyourgayuncle.com/episode45...

Jun 09, 202148 min

44. Self-Worth

The Guncles answer an email from a listener with 5 questions that all revolve around self-worth. This Generation Gap highlights LGBTQ luminaries from Ben and Tommy’s respective generations. Donate / Instagram / Twitter / Steamy Stories askyourgayuncle.com/episode43...

Jun 02, 202146 min

43. Comedian Drew Droege, Part 2: “It’s on gay executives...”

Drew Droege is an actor, writer, and comedian from Heathers, Search Party, Bob’s Burgers, and Drunk History, and perhaps best known for his viral parody videos about Chloe Sevigny. In part 2, Drew and the Guncles discuss LGBTQ+ representation in the entertainment industry, and Drew shares his Guncle of the Week duo: filmmaker John Waters and the groundbreaking drag queen Divine. Donate / Instagram / Twitter / Steamy Stories askyourgayuncle.com/episode43...

May 26, 202126 min

42. Comedian Drew Droege, Part 1: “Monster in a wig”

Drew Droege is an actor, writer, and comedian from Heathers, Search Party, Bob’s Burgers, and Drunk History, and perhaps best known for his viral parody videos about Chloe Sevigny. Drew joins the Guncles to answer listener questions and discuss comedy, admitting fault, and why he loves playing a “monster in a wig”. Donate / Instagram / Twitter / Steamy Stories askyourgayuncle.com/episode42...

May 20, 202143 min

41. Ben and Tommy Apologize

Several listeners have written in pointing out hurtful remarks made by Tommy and Ben in previous episodes. The Guncles each apologize, and share their reflections on the harmful nature of their statements. Tommy’s Gauntie of The Week is Sharon Ellison, author, speaker, Founder and Director of the Institute for Powerful Non-Defensive Communication. Donate / Instagram / Twitter / Steamy Stories askyourgayuncle.com...

May 05, 202129 min

40. Grindr Scammers! (and Ben’s Empathy Homework)

Ben reports on how his "Empathic Sonar" homework is going, Tommy shares how he deals with guys who are trying to scam him on dating apps, and the Guncles answer a listener question about age gaps in relationships. Donate / Instagram / Twitter / Steamy Stories askyourgayuncle.com/episode40...

Apr 28, 202133 min

39. Meet Sex Coach, Court Vox

Somatic sex educator Court Vox helps a listener find a deeper connection in sex. Ben opens up about his challenges with maintaining long-term sexual interest in a partner: “How do I want something I already have?” Donate / Instagram / Twitter / Steamy Stories askyourgayuncle.com/episode39...

Apr 21, 202139 min

38. “I accidentally found his will…”

A listener has been providing extensive care for an elderly friend with Parkinson's, who has promised to include this listener in his will. This listener accidentally happened upon the will... read it… and discovered that he was not, in fact, included. What should he do? Later in the episode, Tommy invents a new game and The Guncles chat about Winnebagos and turkey basters. Donate / Instagram / Twitter / Steamy Stories askyourgayuncle.com/episode38...

Apr 14, 202128 min

37. “How can I develop empathetic sonar?”

Ben seeks advice from Tommy on ways to develop his ‘empathetic sonar.’ How does one practice reading the emotions and needs of those around them? Gauntie of the Week is trail-blazing doctor Margaret Chung, the first American-born Chinese female physician. Dr. Chung treated naval pilots and officers in WWII and helped establish WAVES (Women Accepted for Voluntary Emergency Service). She drank bootleg liquor, drove an electric blue sportscar, and dated actresses and lesbian poets. askyourgayuncle....

Mar 31, 202138 min

36. Gays Over COVID and DIY Decorating

One listener asks about a vigilante Instagram account called “Gays Over COVID” that outs gays for partying amidst the pandemic… What do The Guncles think about this social media call-out culture phenomenon aimed at gay men? Another listener working from home seeks advice on how to spruce up her apartment on a budget. Tommy and Ben battle in a game themed Generation Gap. Gauntie Of The Week is drag king Stormé DeLarvarie, who redefined women’s fashion, ignited the Stonewall riots, and patrolled t...

Mar 24, 202144 min

35. “Gay The Pray Away” with Erika Allison, Conversion Therapy Survivor

Author, mechanical engineer, interfaith minister and self proclaimed “hummingbird,” Erika Allison discusses her new book “Gay The Pray Away.” She talks about overcoming the trauma from conversion therapy and offers advice for LGBTQ+ people struggling with all forms of identity harm. askyourgayuncle.com

Mar 17, 20211 hr 4 min

34. “It’s about two women falling in love…”

One listener tells a story about his young niece being crushed that she wasn’t old enough to watch a French film about two women falling in love… so he asks the Guncles for help finding family-friendly LGBTQ+ media to share with his niece. Survey winner Alice hops on the pod to play Workshop/Greenlight/Blacklist and present “Gauntie of the Week”: Greek poet and OG Lesbian, Sappho. askyourgayuncle.com

Mar 10, 202132 min

33. Talking Drag with “Gay Spy” Michael Seligman

Michael Seligman writes and produces incredible content with a focus on drag, drag history and untold queer stories. His work includes Ru Paul’s Drag Race, the documentary P.S. Burn This Letter Please, and the hit podcast Mob Queens to name a few. Michael joins The Guncles to discuss his latest projects, play Generation Gap, and present Guncle of the Week: Rae Bourbon (drag pioneer born in 1892). askyourgayuncle.com

Mar 03, 202152 min

32. “His stepmom blocked me on Facebook...”

Jacqui joins The Guncles to share our survey results and announce the winner… with a special surprise! One listener needs advice on how to meet her boyfriend’s Trump-loving dad and the stepmom (who blocked her on Facebook). Another listener wonders what to do when her sexual needs directly clash with her partner’s boundaries. Guncle of the Week is Khalid Abdel-Hadi, founder of Jordan’s first LGBTQ+ online magazine. askyourgayuncle.com...

Feb 24, 202138 min

31. Networking, Bad Texters, and Sex With Women

The Guncles answer a listener question about their sexual experience with women, and whether they feel they’re missing out as gay men. In “Guncle To Guncle” Tommy seeks advice on dealing with a “bad texter” and Ben seeks advice on career networking. askyourgayuncle.com/episode31

Feb 17, 202133 min

29. Tommy’s Biggest Challenge, Part 1: The Accident

Tommy shares the single biggest challenge he’s ever faced. WARNING: This episode contains graphic descriptions of a traumatic accident involving injury and death. askyourgayuncle.com/episode29

Feb 04, 202140 min

28. To sex or not to sex?

The Guncles answer a listener question about having sex on dates vs. hookups. On another question they explore being out and employable in the realms of dance, theatre, and film. A listener shares his personal story of being content as a gay man, a father and grandfather, while married to a woman. askyourgayuncle.com/episode28

Jan 27, 202124 min

27. “Objectification with a side of consent please”

The Guncles answer a listener question about oversexualization and objectification in gay culture, particularly on social media. Ben opens up about his sexualized instagram persona. Tommy presents Gauntie of the Week: trans tennis player Renée Richards, who famously sued the US Open for the right to compete as a woman… and won. askyourgayuncle.com

Jan 20, 202138 min

26. A Very COVID Christmas

Ben and Tommy get tested for Covid, go head-to-head in a Christmas Carol battle, and help a listener celebrate a solo New Year’s Eve. askyourgayuncle.com/episode26

Dec 25, 202041 min

23. Anthony Meindl: Our Favorite Hollywood Guncle

Writer, filmmaker, and acting coach Anthony Meidl joins The Guncles to answer listener questions, play Generation Gap and discuss his new book and award-winning film. askyourgayuncle.com

Dec 03, 202046 min

22. Cartoons, Crushes, and Breaking The Friendzone

The Guncles discuss their first crushes. Tommy helps Ben break through the friendzone and Ben helps Tommy craft a flirty text. In "The Generation Gap" they test each other’s knowledge of cartoons. askyourgayuncle.com/episode22

Nov 25, 202038 min

19. Experimenting in College and Women Who Watch Gay Porn

The Guncles answer three listener questions: Can you be "not gay enough"? How do you connect with other LGBTQ+ people in college? Are women who like gay porn fetishizing gay men? askyourgayuncle.com/episode19

Oct 28, 202032 min
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