SNM143: What To Do When You’re Feeling Overwhelmed

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what to do when you're feeling overwhelmed on today's episode. Today's episode is brought to you by digit save money without thinking about it. Get paid $5 just for signing up at serve. No master dot com Backslash digit today. Are you tired of dealing with your boss? Do you feel underpaid and underappreciated? If you want to make it online, fire your boss and start living your retirement dreams now then you've come to the right place. Welcome to serve no master podcast where you learn how to open new revenue streams and make money while you sleep. Presented live from a tropical island in the South Pacific by best selling author Jonathan Green. Now here's your host. Coming back from my trip to America, I made a lot of amazing contacts. In fact, I would almost say that I made too many because there are more projects, opportunities coming in then I can keep up with, and I'm always trying to keep my relationships hot, keep my contacts fresh, and so I latch onto every opportunity that comes my way. Everyone has an idea. Yeah, let's talk about it. Let's try. And already this week I've spent almost 10 hours on the phone talking to people. That's more time than I spent on the phone in the entire three months before I went to America. As I'm sure you figured out by now, I hate talking on the phone to people. I do it very, very rarely. I like talking to Skype here and there, but I hate filling up my calendar. My calendar had all these events this week for people that I was meant to talk to, and each of those conversations was awesome and very valuable, and that's why I did it. But because it's so different to my normal rhythm, I started to feel a little bit overwhelmed. I have all of these projects I'm working on and I sit down every morning and suddenly there's so many things going on, it's hard to decide what to work on. First. I want to work on this. I want to work on that. It promised to work on these two things. I want to get this done and there's such a wide breadth of things to work on that it could become very stressful. I don't have deadlines for most of my projects. I could turn them in at my own leisure when I feel ready and kind of work of my own pace. And I could also, when taking new jobs, just pushed my projections out a little further. Instead of saying one week, say three weeks, which every client or every part I work with will be fine with. I don't need to push myself hard, but we get to these moments whatever you're doing, where we start to feel that stress, whether it's self created or from your job. And we have that moment. We have those moments and we will, and they could come from other directions. Well, maybe sometimes you feel like nothing you're doing working, and you start to feel overwhelmed in that direction. I just noticed it myself, especially on Tuesday this week, that I was feeling like, really anti or just starting field down. My body started to feel a little bit worn out, and I realized I needed self intellect, needed figure out what's causing this and kind of isolate my problems in. The first thing I noticed was that I hadn't got any exercise in a few days just because events came to a head that affected my ability to exercise Sunday, Monday and Tuesday morning. Normally, when I get up in the morning, right around 6 a.m. After I record my podcast episode, I do yoga with the wife of a yoga DVD. We like a lot right now. DDP yoga. It's so fun and it's really effective. And when I do it, I can feel the pounds melting off. I lost about £5 last week, very excited about that, to be back on my rhythm. But Sunday morning I realized we are still got messed up because our son was sick. That Monday's something else happened with the other kids. And so I wasn't awake at the right time or I had a phone call meeting or something. And to state, my wife had to take the boat to the other island and take the boat to the island. We have to leave before just to leave before five. So we're up super early enough, helping her get ready for the boat and all those things happened. And then I was alone and I slept in. My rhythm got all thrown off. So for me, if I go three full days of that excising, I start to feel really bad. I don't feel good like that emotionally, not physically. All starts to come to a head. So if you're feeling moments of overwhelming the first thing to look at before you look at your work before you look at, your spirits will get your body mind. Body and spirit are all connected whether you are religious or not, spiritually or not, we need those three elements you can think of. Spirit is morale if you want to, instead of thinking that there was a religious or spiritual component. But it's basically desire. How are feeling our internal state or internal emotional state? So first I rise. My body wasn't in. Think my body wasn't feeling right. Fortunately, I am in a situation where it's quite easy to correct that I grabbed my board, went out of the ocean and got Ah, brutal workout. I'll tell you this right now. I went out with my new intern, were on the waves, and it was brutal. Out there was just so wavy that I couldn't even really catch any waves so busy fighting. But the time they came back, every muscle in my body was killing me and all of that tension had left. So whatever exercise you have in your life, they all remove stress. I know that people talk about yoga. Is the great stress reliever as the type of work out that it certainly is. But I feel the same way about anything. If I got lift weights, if I go out and work on the ocean, if I go for a run, I do any of those things. Basically, it's like I sweat out that stress and tension. So if you're feeling a little bit overwhelmed, it's very possible that it's your body I do. The exact same thing is everyone else when I have too much work coming in and have to choose what to give up. If I'm feeling too busy, it's usually exercise. That's the first thing that goes out the window. That's the first thing to go out in no time for this one. We toss it, and that's not the way to do it. It's unfortunate, but it's what we do. It's the same thing is like every high school when it runs out of funding the first and he gets tossed into the music program. We always tossed the things that don't seem valuable on paper but are actually necessary for our souls are necessary for the health of another part of us. So make sure so she worked from home. So should we get so busy? Whatever you're doing, you need to have something physical to keep your body in rhythm. Even if you're skinny, which I'm not, and you're kind of looked like you're pretty healthy. We still need to have something steady and it doesn't have to be hours and hours. The reason I love my yoga program, and I'm a big fan of it. Unfortunately, they no longer have an affiliate program, but I still have to tell you DDP Oh, it's really great. You had to watch a Professor Ressler kind of shouting and getting excited with how they get excited. And the workers are all 2025 minutes after a 25 minute workout. I feel the same way I do after our yoga workout with someone else. I love that efficiency. I don't always have an hour, but I could always make 20 or 25 minutes. Don't let time become your problem now one of the challenges with health and fitness. One of the big barriers is the distance between you and where you go to work out. So if you live 10 minutes from your jam or 20 minutes from your gym, well, now, every time you want to go to work out, it's an additional 10 2040 minutes just to get there and back. So I do recommend having something in the house where you could get in a quick workout. But oftentimes just going outside in your backyard. In the nature it's critical. It's the getting outside that makes a difference. Sometimes the walls start closing in. I can go on at work project, where I realized I haven't left my house for, like, days. I go downstairs to get food and exercise in my room. I work in my room, hang out the kids, and if I'm not paying attention, I don't spend enough time outside another way to help with feeling overwhelmed. Attention for me is I spent time swimming with my kids. I'm still teaching my son to swims, got a long way to go, but it's getting better and better. He's learning to swim frog style using this training program that I'm enjoying so far and twice in the last week we found frogs in the pool might have been the same frog because last week two frogs a lot smaller, So it's great for him to see his inspiration. I go swim like that guy, and I find that helps to ease my soul a little bit. Not as much as exercise. To be honest, exercise really makes much more of a difference. But we also have to do things that we enjoy so it can remind ourselves Why am I doing this? Why am I putting in the hours? As people get successful, they continue to work those long hours if you train yourself to work 40 hours a day, even when you have enough money in the bank, even when you have enough reserves that you could take the next six months off if you need to, you could become tempted to keep working this hard hours because becomes your pattern. The way you work when you're building your business is same way you work when you hit success. You don't want to become someone who works so hard that you never actually do the things that you got no business for the first place. The reason I work the way I do, the reason I worked from home. I moved my office from outside my home inside my bedroom so that I'd be near my kids more. If we start to slip away from that, then what's the point? I don't want you to lose those things. You could become very much a total work person. No, I know what we're talking about. Having too much working, feeling overwhelmed. And yet the one that I'm not talking about this work. And that's because taking your eye off the problem off gives you the distance to then make those decisions. Because guess what? Pushing something back till the next day usually isn't an emergency. Lately, I've been working with someone who every time we talk, it's something has to be done in the next few hours, and he has to be done immediately. I said We can't work like this. You have to just take it slow because you won't enjoy the journey. Everything can't be an emergency if the people you're working with make everything an emergency. I need to go in another direction. One of the experiences for my family. It's filled with lawyers and one of the members of my family. They would always get a project from someone, and they'd say, Look, this is an emergency. I need it finished immediately. Work all weekend, work over. I just get it done. And then they would finish the project handed to the person, and I would sit on that person's desk for anywhere from 2 to 6 weeks. As soon as it gets to the boss or Susan gets to the client. It's no longer an emergency. So pay attention to other people that you're surrounding yourself with and make sure that they're not introducing anxiety into your bloodstream. I have to be very careful when people start to reduce stress and say, All this is an emergency. This is an emergency to say. I don't work that way. I can't allow stress into my life. If you listen to some previous episodes and I served master, you know that I had a hard incident when I was younger, and I'm not willing to introduce stress in my life because it could take me away from my Children dress is a very dangerous thing for me and it's not worth doing it just the worst thing. You're bringing your life. It's so unnecessary. We have this tendency to live one second at a time. A couple 100 years ago would say, I'll meet you tomorrow I don't know, like around the middle of the day and be like a four hour window. Now we want people to the second and I'm the same way by set a meeting at seven. You better believe I'm ready at 6 59 and waiting for the clock to take over. That's just how I am. That's how we've become because I respect other people's time. And that's why I don't like having meetings. He suddenly the clock becomes important. I don't use an alarm. I don't set an alarm in the morning And guess what? This morning I woke up in 4 59 I look up a minute before five anyways, I expect to wake up five. That's just the time my body wakes up on its own. It turns out, when you say to yourself, wake up with five over, over, over over again, you pretty much always d'oh, I can't remember the last time I've slept in. Now, if something happens when I'm working till midnight or the baby's up all night, I may sleep in an extra at work till six if I don't set an alarm. But pretty much I'm always up five. Unless there's a major incident that kind of messes with my rhythm. So I don't have one of those perfect mental alarm clocks, and I've never had this before in my life. But now that I don't have stress and I'm in control of my schedule, kind of waking up in the same time every day anyways, and when I had a job in the past, I don't have to get about five used to have to get over like seven or 7 30 So this is a whole new world for me that comes because I've lowered my stress levels and my body is more in touch with my desires. Now, as far as organizing your actual projects, there are two types of project that we talked about their projects that are short term money and projects that are long term money. For example, if I'm writing a book for Amazon Everly, CNN Amazon. That's long term money. That's something that'll make a little bit of day a little bit of a little bit of day for a long time. Where's if I'm writing a book for a client doing ghost writing project or doing sales letter? That's fast money. We have to find that balance. That's really the way I believe in the structure I believe in for growing on my business is to build up your war chest with short time money, fast money. You have time to build long term money. Unfortunately for me, the things I want to do, the mess. Most things I have the most passionate about always the long term money projects. They're always the things that will take longer. So whenever something gets pushed off, it's one of those. It's unfortunate, but that's just the way it is. So take a look at your projects and say, Do I need money right now? Am I under money pressure? Then do a money project. If you're not under that pressure, push back the due date on the money project. I can push back the due date for pretty much any project. I'm working. I'm gonna tell the handy an extra week to make it really, really good. It's totally legitimate because I don't do emergency project now. Every once in a while, someone come in and say, Hey, I need this done by this date because it's an emergency. I need this stunning four days because the first person I hired failed. I don't get those very often anymore. I don't take those as much because then it takes your whole schedule. But people will pay a premium to get exclusivity. So sometimes people pay me double or triple toe own my time for the next four days. They don't work on anything else. Let me buy exclusivity. And you can say that to somewhere. Whether you working with a client or working for a project in the company saying this important upped, I push everything else off my desk. If it is, I'll do that. But you have to pay extra for that because I'm gonna build up a little ill will with some other clients. These steps allow you to pushed the stress back. There really is nothing that's an emergency. Most of the time when something is an emergency, it's because the first time they did it, they didn't do it right or because they procrastinate. It's just like when you're in college and you wait until the last minute, the night before the work on your paper and study for a test. It's not the teacher's fault, is it? It's your own. You can't blame your teacher who gave you two weeks warning to study for the test when you didn't study for the 1st 13 days. That's your own fault. So we do have to look within ourselves and within the people we're working with and say, What's the source of this rush? Why are we suddenly in a Russian? Sometimes the opportunity will come your way and they'll say, Hey, if you do this in the next three days, will be awesome And we'll do this for you Sometimes come my way and I say, Look, I don't work that way. I'd love to be part of that project, but I can't do something on a pressure like that's not worth it. To me, it's not that important, and sometimes you have to say no to think that you want to d'oh hard, But it's important because if you push yourself too hard. You'll wear yourself out. And for everyone, it's a different part for me. It's my heart where my heart out and I'll be done. If I pushed myself too hard, I might have to take a few days or even a week off work. And I don't want that. I find that balance, so make sure that you are working on projects that will give you the rewards you need. Sometimes for me, I'm so tempted on Lee work on my passion products when I need to work on my ghost writing client projects, too. It's finding that perfect balance. That's hard when thinking about what's overwhelming. Oftentimes it's money, an important lesson for money, and this is an area where I'm very weak, So that's why I have to talk about it. It's not as much about what's coming in. It's about what's going out right now. Our TV is acting like a real jerk. We bought a TV for Christmas. I'm not gonna lie. We brought it from Unknown Brand a little bit. It was like a 55 inch, four K TV for really cheap, so I knew it was like off Brand made in the sketchy China's factory, but it seemed like a cool opportunity grabbed, and it worked amazing for about a month or six weeks. Now, after about 20 minutes, it turns off you get about 20 minutes of good, amazing crystal clear picture watching a movie or playing a video game. And then it turns off. The good news is, the sound continues, so you could still hear the video game. So when the picture goes off, I can hear my character dying. When this happens, I have toe pause my game. Turn off the TV. Wait a minute, turn back on some of them. Give me another five minutes of TV time. It's so annoying, but it's like this situation I'm in. It's totally riel. So now I can't sit down and play video games for four hours. It's actually gate on my misbehavior, and in that way it's good. But my wife and kids can't watch movies because there's no movie that's only 20 minutes long. So when looking at replacement TVs, expensive and so it's this new expenses, we could spend money on a TV, or we could just accept that this thing is a little bit annoying. Wait another month to continue to build up our buffer because we're trying to work on being battered, having a bigger and bigger buffer for family emergencies and things like that. And it's one of those decisions, right? It's so tempting to go. Oh, I have enough money for the TV and I certainly dio we could easily afford into TV, but no TV for what we want. I was like, Maybe we need to get a real brand. It's gonna be almost three times what I paid for this one, and it's tempting to make that expense. I'd also love to get a new paddleboard. I'd also love to get a sweet Phoenix five watch. I've been looking at one of those. Those just became available, and that would be the second, too, Of course, for my health there. Help me exercise more kind of help me stay on track more. But we have these decision, y'all. I could spend this money to have it. That's kind of the way I was brought up. And it's the way of the American cultures. We have to constantly resist that, because guess what happened. More buffer feels pretty good when you're feeling the money stress. Sometimes it's like I shouldn't about so and so a few weeks ago. So as you're making financial decisions, it's important to talk to someone if you want to talk to talk to your dog or wait a day before you mind being expensive, often times thinking about buying something, and then something happens. The TV only stopped working about on Sunday or Monday. On Sunday, I was actually talking to people about buying the watch. The watch is far less expensive than TV, but suddenly this other problem came up. So it's nice to have not spent the money to have the choice. And, of course, we go back and forth. There's another off brand TV we could buy from a brand we've actually used before, but it makes me nervous. So do I want to go to another Off brand are going to go to like a big grand like so near Samsung around you, like your company. You know, these are some of the decisions that are real in my life, and when things go tough, they can start to pile up. So if you're too busy, the money has started to go low and you have an exercise. You suddenly have the perfect storm. You have the Bermuda Triangle of stress. I know you can't implement all of these changes at once, but having a few different things to work on can really make a difference. If you're feeling healthy in your body and you're feeling stressed out at work, the problem may be your spirit. Your morale, and the way to deal with that is to do something that's pleasurable for me. It's taking my kids for a swim. It may be for you yoga or meditation or going on a ride on your motorcycle. You need to have something that for you is just a pure pleasure activity. For me, yoga is about losing weight, so it's not a pleasure. It's something I do with a purpose. I have more pleasure when I go out paddling because I really enjoy it. But it's also there's a little bit of a purpose. Was something with the kids. I don't expect to lose weight from something that I don't expect to get stronger, but I just enjoyed in the moment, so it's good, have some activities where there's no extra purpose or no extra value. So you're just doing something for pure enjoyment, controlling your schedule, being a little bit organized. They're very valuable. I've actually been talking to an author that I'm a big fan of, and he's working on a new book that's all about organizing your structure. And he's really the experts on time management and controlling your days. I'm excited because we're gonna do a little cross promotion in the next few weeks when his new book comes out and when it does off course share with you. That's one of the best conversations I had this week. I actually wanted to talk to this guy for a long time, and we finally got together on the phone. It was really exciting for me because I love what he's doing. When it comes to time management, I'm actually very, very bad. Every time I talk to an expert, they describe him. So in structure, I kind of just sit down and work out of what I feel like, and I don't have like a really fixed day, like other people do we organize and ever notice our software? I try. It's an area of weakness so rather than try and share that with you guys. I'm gonna bring an expert in who's gonna tell you a lot about his expertise. And I'm hoping to have a mint for guest episode. And he'll talk about his new book, which is actually the new version of a very popular book about controlling your habits and control your day. Excited about that? I'd like to bring in people who are strong areas where I'm weak, and I'm willing to admit I'm not the best at everything. So I'm excited about that. And it might be that's the area where you're struggling in. That's why bringing in someone else because I'm not the best person to help you. If it's your day structure, your internal structure, then maybe you need to have a little bit more firm walls about each thing you're working on. Whatever's building up that stress and beside you, whatever's causing you to feel overwhelmed. The main advice I can give you is to be proactive, isolate the cause of your stress and see if there's something you could do to immediately remove it. When I first got into business, I had a great deal of stress in my heart instead were caused by a bad business partner. This is someone who eventually stole a great deal of money from the business and spread a lot of bad rumors about me. But even while we were working together, I could expect to receive between 40 and 100 e mails, text and Facebook messages a day, checking up on the progress of my work and demanding me to work harder and getting more things done faster. And my stress began to build up more, more, more, more, more, more, more to the point where I did end up in the emergency room and when I cut that person out of my life, even when he stole a great deal of money, even he was soiling my name and we had threatened to go to the lawyers. I felt a level of freedom that I had never felt before. I finally understood the Tina Turner divorce when Tina Turner divorced her husband, who was a rough guy, you know, in the movie, I saw he hit her. I obviously can't be sure of that because I was never there and witnessed it, but they had an abusive or unhealthy relationship. And when they got divorced, she said, All they wanna do is keep my name. I want a computer between a turner that's her married name. And of course, she's obviously a superstar. Now, sure, you know a couple of songs if you're older than me, if you're younger than me. She was a superstar when I was a kid, and she was also in one of the greatest movies of all times. Thunderdome. I when I left that relationship said, All I want is my name. I don't care about the other stuff. I just want my freedom, whatever it takes so that you never contact me again. And of course, when I left that relationship, he did steal something some content I'd made and then sold it, pretending it was his own and built his own business off the labor. My back. I don't care that part I don't even care about. I don't care about what he stole When I did care about with any continuing started rumors about me online and kept posting things that were wrong, Facebook until I brought up the lawyers and said, Look, you know what? Let's just go to court and open up every email we've ever said to each other because I have 1000 e mails where you call me bad names and said you were gonna do horrible things to including Murder me. And every time I say Let's go to court he would shut up And finally, after three or four times of that over the course of the next few years, he finally was totally out of my life. I did run into him a few weeks ago when I was in California and he looked so old. He looked like he was a death store and it brought a smile to my face. I was like This person having them out of my life removed all of my stress. Since ending that relationship, my life has gone straight up and a happier and people love me and having fun and kids everything's wonderful and his life went straight down, so I didn't need to seek revenge. This is why I say what you put into the universe comes back and when you put out bad things and do bad things, other people comes back your way and when you do good things, good things come your way. So the final lesson I'll share with you don't seek revenge. It's not necessary. People that do bad things. Eventually, bad things come their way. If you're feeling stressed from someone in your life who's causing you problems, just cut them out of your life. I've had to do this a few times, and sometimes it stinks. If you have a job that's putting too much stress on you, maybe you need to change positions or change things you don't. I have to stay at a job if you're only reason there is to make a certain amount of money. But it's killing your soul. You may have to make a decision that's a little bit tough and go. You know what? I need to work in a different department. I need a different boss. I need someone else because there are certain people who, especially managers and partners, that would have someone of their life who just poor stress under those around them. Just like I was telling you, the person who says everything's an emergency until it on their table, I hesitate to call this person that type of person a monster, but they're not a good parson there. People who it's always one rule for what else and run rule for them crack politicians. Wilmore. You remove those people from your life you'll find. Well, I'm making 90% of what I used to make, but I'm five times healthier five times for happy. This is one of the reasons my main role in businesses. I only work with people I like. I learned my lesson. I learned my lesson the hardest way you possibly can. You don't have to feel overwhelmed or stress. You have a pattern and funny that works the serve. No master system works. The things I share with you are exactly how I support my family by the things that we need to take care of all of our needs. You don't need to worry about that as long as you put in time timeless. What I'm sharing with you equals enough money to live the life you want. So don't let anything else get in the way. You don't need to let those little fear slip in, and instead, just make sure that you're enjoying the journey enough that you can stay the course if you push yourself too hard and force yourself to quit. It's not worth it. I'm really excited to have you with me on this journey, and I'm really excited to introduce you to one of the people that I look up to very soon in a very special episode that will probably come out maybe next week or so, or maybe in two weeks. Just gotta lock in the right time for that interview. And just remember that after the darkest of night, the sun always rises the dawn's inevitability. So if you're feeling a little bit overwhelmed to be proactive and say I need to do something to deal with this even if it means taking 1/2 day off for stepping away from the project you find gets what is still there tomorrow. Your work is not an emergency unless you're a soldier or fireman or a policeman, we get then you have to do with emergencies. But filing a paper Thursday or Friday that's not an emergency you today. It's probably fine to take control of your destiny, and this is exactly how you could remove that feeling of being overwhelmed. Thank you for listening to this week's episode of serve No master. Make sure you subscribe. So you never miss another episode. We'll be back tomorrow with more tips and tactics on how to escape that rat race. 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