Welcome to this second installation of Basics Bootcamp! I tell some truths today that we need to hear and recognize, if we are going to raise a happy family and feel good inside ourselves. Just like the title says, I do dive into my biggest and deepest fears about the pressures put on you, as you raise your kids. I say things today that scare the bejabbers out of me! But I know they need to be said. As a child development expert, I'm the one who has to say them. I also share something positive: ...
Aug 25, 2020•59 min
Welcome! In this episode I share a recent case study from my online private coaching practice, the Ninja Parenting Community (NPC) , where the mom of a four-year-old was dealing with extreme temper tantrums, and fearful that her son would never learn to obey the rules. Even the ones for safety. She struggled to see how good boundaries could improve that situation – until they did. Here's something I have learned during the coronavirus pandemic: Basics matter. Understanding how to do the most bas...
Aug 11, 2020•56 min
Our choices right now seem extremely limited, don't they? We don't have a choice in how the coronavirus spreads, we don't have a lot of choices in how our children's childcare and schooling works right now. For many of us even our own ability to be private, to have alone time, doesn't feel like it's under our control. Today's guest, Mariela Ortiz, helps us to a different mindset: she talks about "a daily practice of choice." Some things are in our control; we can make meaningful choices. Listen ...
Aug 04, 2020•1 hr 14 min
SENSITIVE EARS ALERT… Part way through this episode I share about a traumatic event that happened to me in my childhood. I ask that you put on headphones, or listen away from sensitive ears. Thank you! Today I share three keys to success, when parenting in a pandemic or any crisis. They are not difficult keys. Because if they were, we wouldn't be able to do them as consistently as they need doing… Instead, the first key is relaxing, the second key is enjoyable, and the the third key takes someth...
Jul 28, 2020•39 min
Navigating social situations has only gotten worse in the pandemic – but it sure wasn't always easy, even before! Today's guests, Evie Granville and Sarah Davis of the Modern Manners for Moms and Dads Podcast , have spent years helping parents navigate social minefields. With a book coming out in the fall and an awesome quiz that you can take right now (I did!) , These two friends, educators, and parents have lots to contribute in helping us get along and raise our kids in these crazy times. Lis...
Jul 21, 2020•1 hr 2 min
If the return to preschool/childcare/school is on your mind – and I know it is, because I've spoken with lots of you over the last few weeks – this FREE Pandemic Back-to-School Challenge will help you: – Take on your biggest concerns about the upcoming year – Manage your children's behavior, and your own emotions, so you're ready for the upcoming changes – Learn the 3 Keys to Success for starting this year off right, even amidst all the uncertainty You can do this, and I'm excited to help! The c...
Jul 16, 2020•4 min
I am excited to bring Shannon Connery, PhD, onto the show today, because she's got lots of great ideas to help you keep going! ( Click here for Shannon's website, where you'll find her podcast, her blog, and a wonderful free guide that she offers to help people overcome the challenges that we all have in our lives : ) Shannon is a therapist living in Colorado, and in our conversation today you'll hear her story of losing nearly everything – and coming back stronger from that experience. Shannon ...
Jul 14, 2020•1 hr 12 min
Today we're answering your GREAT questions! – "[My young daughter] is going through a phase of not wanting clothes on. Do I just not battle it? What's appropriate at 4? How do I instill the importance of being careful without taking away her sweet innocence? Or am I totally overthinking this?" – "This week's hot topic is sharing and temper around that. The minute [my three-year-old's] little brother walks in the room (even if he hasn't messed with her stuff yet) she goes right to screaming at hi...
Jul 07, 2020•56 min
As a child development expert, I want to help you keep going in our new reality! This conversation, recorded during March 2020 (in other words at the very beginning of the pandemic here in the US), I know will be super helpful for that. I am excited to bring you my conversation with the author of one of my favorite parenting books (it's called Happy Campers ) – Audrey Monke of sunshine-parenting.com is today's OkayCon 2020 guest! Audrey shares: - How to stay positive, even while everyone is coop...
Jun 30, 2020•1 hr
"Would you have any recommendations for books or anything that might help with learning the best ways to integrate an older adopted child into a family, or good books on adoption and advice?" "How to divide my attention between my 1 YO and my 4 YO… I try to give exclusive mummy daughter time but it's never enough." These are the first two questions in our Q&A series… I hope they are helpful! A Summer Camp program for you Towards the end of the episode I mention NPC Summer Camp, a new program...
Jun 23, 2020•28 min
I am super excited to bring you this conversation with Jennifer Louden, whose extremely helpful books (including the one we dive into today, Why Bother? ), have sold nearly a million copies! Jennifer has been featured in hundreds of podcasts, magazines, and TV and radio shows – even appearing on Oprah. In today's conversation you will learn: – How to really give a hoot about your life again – Why it's crucial to LIVE in tough times, instead of just trying to live through them – Appropriate disci...
Jun 16, 2020•1 hr 16 min
"It's as if we are going through the 1918 flu pandemic AND the Great Depression AND the Civil Rights era, all at once." That's what James Arthur said on his podcast, Minority Korner , in (and about) Spring 2020. I think he's right. To get through it all we are going to have to work together! That's the spirit in which I bring you this episode. In this conversation on racial justice between my friend Shane Sams, and his friend Talaat McNeely, Talaat shares that we each must "Make change within ou...
Jun 09, 2020•54 min
(FYI: about 10 or so minutes in, I use the word "jackass" once or twice... it's not enough for an E-rating, but I want you to be aware just in case you want to listen away from sensitive ears.) Hi Friends, I had planned for, and drafted, a very different kind of post today for you (I got about a dozen spider bites while sleeping Saturday night, and we've got a very large ant invasion going on in our kitchen; my abandoned draft was largely about these.) But as I wrote I realized how truly small a...
Jun 02, 2020•14 min
"I feel like I'm completely alone trying to meet completely insatiable needs for days on end." That is what one of the moms in my online coaching practice, the Ninja Parenting Community, wrote early last week. She's not the only one. Not by a longshot! In this week's episode I share my best ideas for getting through a crisis. Even a slow-motion, simultaneously-terrifying-and-tedious, pandemic-induced crisis like the one we're in now in June 2020. If your energy, patience, and/or well-being is fl...
Jun 02, 2020•43 min
FYI: NPC Grand Reopening sale : ) I have been working hard behind the scenes, creating a 5-module course on “How to keep going” and a training on “how to handle your child’s angry outbursts,” not to mention spring cleaning in the Ninja Parenting Community… the response from NPC members has been wonderful! I'm excited to reopen NPC registration so you can get the help you need coming through the pandemic Go to weturnedoutokay.com/joinNPC – and save 33% when you sign up by Monday June 1! I am so e...
May 26, 2020•1 hr 13 min
"My biggest struggle is with my five-year-old. When she is angry she scratches, bites and sometimes hits. She also yells very loudly. I would love some advice on how to get her to stop." A listener wrote in with this question, and I knew it would probably resonate with many listeners. Like us adults, kids are experiencing lots and lots of angry feelings – more so than pre-pandemic, without the usual outlets or often even the ability to leave the house and get a change of scene. It can be difficu...
May 19, 2020•44 min
FYI if you want some company, some learning, and some stories, join the WTOO Book Club! During our first meeting I am sharing about a truly low point in my own parenting, and asking the question "how do we come back from crummy parenting moments? Join us Wednesday, May 13 at 9 PM EST – click weturnedoutokay.com/weekly to get the link to the meeting! Hope to see you there : ) I am so excited to bring you this conversation today, which will be so helpful as these weeks of confinement and social di...
May 12, 2020•1 hr 4 min
WTOO Book Club – Starting Wednesday, May 13 at 8 PM EST we are doing a chapter-by-chapter weekly read of Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics. We will learn to get good behavior from kiddos, share some stories, and spend some time each week together. If that sounds good to you, Click here to join the WTOO Book Club! Working closely with parents of young children during this pandemic, I’ve seen so many examples of bad behavior: – Kids smearing peanut butter on walls, dumping vinegar in beds, destroy...
May 07, 2020•41 min
The pressures of home and family life during lockdown play a big part in today's conversation. Like you, my guest Anne and her family are sheltering in place. Like you, Anne has her good days and bad days – as does her 5-year-old son. But several weeks ago something happened in their family life that caused Anne's son to erupt into angry outbursts: the accidental death of Dilly, the baby bird the family had taken in. Today, you get to listen in on a coaching exercise to help Anne bring her son b...
May 05, 2020•42 min
FYI: I am starting a WTOO book club, a chapter-by-chapter read of my parenting books! If you want to learn to get good behavior from your kiddos, and share some stories, and spend some time each week with me, you can do that starting in May : ) Click here to buy Positive Discipline Ninja Tactics , the book we'll start with, so you can get reading! I am so excited to bring you this conversation, with returning champion, mom, and money expert Raeshal Solomon of mylittlebanker.com ! Raeshal knows s...
Apr 28, 2020•1 hr 1 min
OkayCon FREE Virtual Summit happening now If you're not sure how much more of this whole stuck-at-home stuff you can take, go to okaycon.com for a new, relevant interview each Monday and Wednesday, and a watch party each Monday and Wednesday evening throughout April! We will get through this together I recorded this before our current "double pandemic" (of Covid-19, and Fear). But it seems especially relevant now: Can you, or should you, train your child to play independently? Do you negatively ...
Apr 21, 2020•47 min
Today's conversation is part of the OkayCon Virtual Summit! - Not sure how much more of this whole stuck-at-home stuff you can take? Go to okaycon.com for a new, relevant interview each Monday and Wednesday, and a watch party each of those weeknights! We will get through this together Dr. Heather Maguire's day job is that of professor, teaching graduate students how to shape children's behavior. My day job is that of parent coach, teaching moms and dads how to, well, shape their children's behav...
Apr 14, 2020•1 hr 14 min
How, you might be wondering, are we actually really going to get through this time? You're not alone in wondering that. I have been wondering about it too. I've also been feeling terribly guilty, any time that I forget we are in the midst of a worldwide pandemic and find myself enjoying something, or laughing at a joke, or feeling contented. So today I want to bring you an episode that defines our most important asset, the single most important thing we need to get through this (or any) time of ...
Apr 07, 2020•42 min
Today we are bringing back – for the fifth time! – beloved guest, an expert in teaching kids coping skills, Janine Halloran LMHC of copingskillsforkids.com . We discuss: – How Janine is thinking about school work and all this extra time at home with kids and family – The kinds of questions her clients are bringing to her right now, in spring 2020 during the COVID-19 pandemic – Why a child's behavior is most likely worse than usual right now – What you can do about that, if that's the case in you...
Mar 31, 2020•50 min
Hey friends! I hope everyone you love is doing okay. And if you're going a little stir crazy, I hope I can help! I've been working hard behind the scenes to put together a Virtual Summit, bringing you the best ideas, from experts in their fields, to help you through this double pandemic – of Covid 19, and Fear. So! Each Monday and Wednesday at OkayCon.com during April 2020 I'm releasing presentations by experts in: – Children's behavior – Home and family security – Helping children through this ...
Mar 29, 2020•5 min
During our Ninja Parenting Community live members only call last week, many members expressed frustration with all the list of activities coming at us, but the lists are often in a somewhat disorganized fashion. So I wanted to give you a list, organized by how much time/input required by us parents! Read the complete list at: weturnedoutokay.com/323 Announcing OkayCon, We Turned Out Okay's FREE virtual summit! All the first week of April 2020, and into the second week of April 2020 (and possibly...
Mar 24, 2020•54 min
So, I say I'm going to drop an F bomb in the beginning segment of this episode, but we decided to edit it out, so no worries about earmuffs :-) Re coronavirus: I had an anxiety attack this morning, before I was even fully awake. To help you in case you are experiencing heightened anxiety right now as well, I start off today’s show with audio from a video series I’m doing on how to feel better during this time of fear, worry, and coronavirus threats. The video has its own post, with a cheat sheet...
Mar 17, 2020•49 min
Today's guests have written a book, called Screen Schooled , which has had a huge impact on how I think about my teenagers and their educations. I found Matt Miles' and Joe Clement's book so compelling, and so full of great ideas for helping teens navigate the modern technical world, that I knew I wanted their take on young kids and tech. (They are both parents, each raising young children in their families.) I knew I wanted to bring that perspective to you! We discuss: – How 21st-century skills...
Mar 10, 2020•1 hr 20 min
When my husband Ben went grocery shopping this weekend, there were empty shelves instead of many things we normally get. Earlier in the day there had been not one but two fistfights in our local grocery store over supplies! If you're worrying about interruptions in the supply chain, the stock market, and other factors related to (or attributed to, anyway) coronavirus, you are not alone. And right off the bat I want to say: we will get through this together. How we get through this is how we get ...
Mar 05, 2020•40 min
Screens are here to stay – which is awesome on the one hand, and completely frightening on the other. Especially when it comes to little kids. It's so hard to know: – what is the right amount of screen time – what is damaging or detrimental – how to come up with guidelines about this in the first place – how to implement those guidelines in the second We discuss all of this today – in fact, we are talking kids and tech all month! Join us as we kick off with a show about the basics: Good guidelin...
Mar 03, 2020•42 min
