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I know we're running a bit late, but better late than never, they say, better late than never. Thank you so much for joining us for this live edition. We're also live online, so if you want to see what we look like, if you want to see how our guests is presenting himself to then please please log on. It's d I'm Doctor G the Love Motivator. That's his handle DJs, and your G is mine and you can find us and be part of the conversation as well.

Pedro, are you there?

I am lovely perfect? So yes, it's talking point and we are talking this afternoon to doctor g the Love Motivator, his story. We're going to do a deep dive he's come and the tagline is from homelessness to being a author and a in flu answer. I keep getting that word from I hope I've done it right. I keep saying the cold but yes, so he's got over twenty five hitting thirty now in terms of followers, and his content is always powerful, motivational and we're looking forward to

Benny?

How are you doing?

The week has been good.

The baby fingers healing properly, so she's been doing exercises, so hopefully she gets to spend off this week or next week, actually next week Friday. Work has been you know, a little taxing, a little lot of driving. But as you were, but I enjoyed the driving because it gives me time to think sometimes when I just have things on my mind more than anything. I think you remember we did the episode of grief. Yeah, I'm going through that stag I'm going through those stages right now. I'm

I'm not sure if you can get on to the life, it would be good to see your face as well, so if you can come on. I know you have an Instagram handle as well, so hope only if you can so I can see you.

Because I have you on my Instagram.

Maybe so, but I think it may be maybe going from my speaker to your to my speakers, I can't have it on.

Okay, hold on because we don't necessarily have to do this. Let's see. I can take the zoom off for now and then you can. You can come on here, So I'm gonna invite you. Okay, technology fantastic, it's amazing, fantastic. I can hear you, but I'm saying I'm inviting you onto the live so we can see you. Can you come on? You know what.

He said, he's already well technology, welcome, welcome, Thank.

You for tops. Can we say that a radio?

Well wait, talking talking point?

Yeah? Okay, all right, fine, fair enough. I will leave you on zoom, but I just want to say say hi to those who are tuned in and were joining via. Yeah, I know, I know. I like that about you. If you're you're very honest to pedule, and I appreciate that. But thank you for sharing. In fact, we're doing this month, we're going to be talking to our men about our men and the issues that they face. And so we've

Here's the funny thing. Here's the thing.

I don't think it's that because I'm not prideful. I'm very transparent. I think I'm afraid. I'm afraid come up. Yeah, yeah, I be honest, that's what.

That's the type of thinking what anything is.

We start talking and then finding out more things that are on my head that I just didn't realize.

And I think that's the scariest part.

It's like opening respos isn't it.

You don't realize what you what you're really feeling, because you.

Know, I can say I just I really feel it.

Then you start talking to somebody and then you start realizing, oh, that wasn't it at all, and then it just opens up a whole another faction that now you have to deal with, and that could be a scary proposition.

Yeah, I appreciate that. I know what you mean. As I said, it's like opening a Pandora's box and you're not sure what you're going to get through, what you're going to get to, because sometimes what's happening in the past, what happened in our childhood. It's all connected and it all causes our issues later on in life. So yeah, I know there are several issues. Even for myself. I've had experience with that. There's several issues why we don't

People don't understand the whey we talk to each other.

I know we need to share some of the because I keep saying we need to recorder the conversations we have behind the scenes.

You know what, if I could just step down, I want to say you know first I'm hearing from you. I'm here. I go by the name doctor you love motivated because I love every human being more than I love animals. That sounds bad, right, A lot of people love love animals a lot more than they love humans. A conversation, I want to tell you, whether I hear you, I know I'm just this kind of guy, spirit led, so I just want to share with you. Grief is a real journey. I lost my sister at the age of forty two.

She was.

Through COVID four years ago and it really shook the motivator. And I'm coming out. I'm coming out even stronger and wise. Just so trust the process. That's what I will give to you. Trust the process of it and believe that you can make it through it. And yeah, I'm here. You said you need somebody. I'm here, man. That's all I want to put out there today.

Thank you.

I appreciate that.

There we go. The journey has started. You know what. Before we go any further, and I know, doctor G you're itching to get in and we want to get you talking, let's just have a word of prayer. The Only Father. We thank you once again for the opportunity to have these meaningful conversations. I know some of it may be sensitive. I know some of it may be triggering, but we know that all things work together for your good. Bless the technology. We've got a lot of things going

We're on zoom.

Oh my goodness, we're live on radio. So it's all happening. But I know that you can make it work perfectly to your name's honor and gory in Jesus name, we pray, Amen, and good to have you guys joined in. Please stay for the conversation. It's gonna get real, it's going to get raw, and I know it's going to help. I know it's going to help somebody. And for me, I've said it all the time. Doctor. You may have heard me say it to you because we've had a live previously.

Well worth it.

So let's jump in. Excuse the pun, let's get going, and let's talk to you about your story. I know you've got a number of books on the table, so we're gonna say that first and foremost. He's an author, ladies and gentlemen, listeners, friends, and he's brought some of his books with him. So which one's first? Which which one was the.

Let me just say thank you so much for having me in the studio, And I'm grateful. I gotta start with gratitude, indeed, because you know, every time I look back on how I started, for those people who have a gift inside of you. Some of you have gifts that you're thinking about. God has touched you with the

Still.

This is the book that my mom says the best one. It's actually called The Perfect Love Triangle. The reason because you know, relationships for me was my thing. That's where I started out, trying to give okay, if you say you love someone, you should love someone. And somewhere down the line, God say, son, the triangle thing got some issues with certain people, but God came up with love me, Love you love me. So I'm yet to relaunch that book. I just wanted to show you the big one is there.

Well, I love all the titles. I'm glad that you've offered me this one. It's going to be signed, sealed and delivered personal, personal edition, perfect and I will have a good look through it. When I was trying to get because when we're doing programs with thoughts, we normally try to get a handle on the book so we can have a good read and understand where we're talking from. I couldn't get a hold of this, and so thank you very much for bringing it for me. Thank you

Between.

So good to have.

You live longer than everything.

So hi, everybody, So and you just come in when I've just asked doctor g to to go back for us and give us a little bit of history, a little bit of background. We're talking king his story, and the details really have to begin at the beginning. I would want to say, So, you were born in montrat That's where I'm from, shameless plug and yeah, of course of course the nature and raised as an in an eventor's home. Yeah, and I remember when we spoke last you reminded me of how strict your dad is saying

I think the bottom, the foundation of everything that I've accomplished au far is faith. And I know for a fact when I think about the journey, I understand that it's all a process. And for many people they think faith is something Okay, I have to get it over like it happens straight away or I don't know, it's way out there. But faith is as simplest as getting up in the morning and tailing on the tap and

With my mom.

So the parents, they both work together in really building the home as an Adventus home. Because they send us to Adventuite School. It's you and for all of us went to Adventite School. How many siblings it's eight of us, eight of us and now seven live.

Yeah.

But faith is because my father always believed in prayer, early morning worship, get up and then get on with the day.

That was it and getting you up early before you wanted to get up.

Oh yeah, you hear my dad out there singing, you know, about five o'clock in the morning, and it's a hint time for you to get up or if you didn't get up, he will come and get you. So yeah, faith, you know, was one of the biggest things that allowed me to become aware of and praise.

God and shout out to those who are raising children God fearing children. There is nothing to replace that in the home or anywhere else, to be honest. Okay, So you've been raised in the church with the foundations, the SDA foundations, and and because of the volcano, i'd imagine you had to move to the UK. Yeah, and it is here that you begin to rebel a little bit. Or am I am? I understanding right that you've become

That's some of the strong word rebel. I think, I think, I think where it happened for me was I think going into my late teenagers or about nineteen eighteen, trying to find myself as a man. I think they're about twenty. I just kind of started to try to figure it out on my own. And that's where that's where I made a mistake. And I think, you know when a lot of the times young people think they can do it on their own. Do you think that your your

You know, you know, so, yeah, it's a weird and wonderful time that we live in and you're right, Pedro. And I don't know if you want to add anything here, a Petro and or you're raising children who are on the cusp of adulthood as well, and we've spoken about it. It's the beauty of talking point. We have touched on almost every topic over the you know what, I saw a flyer on my phone. I think it was Google pics or whatever brought it up one year celebration in

It's so funny because, as he just said, in the morning, it's kind of the three kids, it's kind of hard.

Well he had eight, but we get up, we get We do have prayer.

With him.

As you wash your teeth. You know what I'm saying. It's just busy. It's really crazy. In the morning.

It's just really crazy, yeh, because you know, the girls just want to take forever, especially the fourty years.

But we do.

We do have prayer he was told about. I believe it because that's where I was brought up. My mother's a Bible work, my Fallow's a pastor.

So we have prayer.

We have.

And then and the evening worships were the longest because my father had like forty five minute worships. It didn't matter if it was twelve o'clock at night, it didn't matter if it was nine o'clock at night. He would still be about forty five minutes every week, which at the time, I was like, man, this is forever.

Are we gonna finish?

But now that I look back, you know, I appreciate what he did because It gave me a foundation of Now that I have my kids, I'm very staunch on having on having that no matter what, even if we just pray, we're gonna we're gonna take five minutes and thank God for the day and for the life that we have, because I just think that it just puts

You may not realize it, but He's there. And then you start doing things that you're like, man.

Why am I and evenized God is, God is still talking to you because you have faith.

You don't lose that faith when you're still in your children.

If you are still in your children every day, every moment, then even when they leave, even if they kind of stray away a little bit, I will be able to talk to them and bring them back in.

And that it makes a big difference in their life.

And it's just ironically that he was just talking about what he was talking about, because just a few minutes when you just talking about Xenia I just finished before we got on. I just had worship with the kids and I was talking to them about their attitudes and how when I say something to.

Them, they act like they don't know what I'm talking about. And I told them.

Straight up that if I don't care if they're mad at me, I don't care if they hate my guts, But if it means that they're in the house and they hate my guts and they're in the house and they don't like me, that means they're not outside getting in trouble. They're not ourside getting pregnant, they're not outside doing drugs. I'm bettherm to be in the house and be mad at me and be outside of getting in trouble.

I know.

Because because this is why the dic tenorship to me, because I'm following God the best I can, and God is telling me how to raise my kids. So therefore God tells me to do such and such. They don't like it, get sweat, They'll get over it. They they'll they're they're, they'll get over there. They're being there feelings for a few minutes, but they'll get over it. Come back and the up said, I love your daddy and walk away.

You know they'll they'll get over it. You know, I'm not. I don't.

I don't.

I don't get upset when they get mad at me. You know they allowed to do that, So you know, I said, I know some people are not going to agree with that statement, but I.

Mean it's about balance. If I can get at him, we can have we can have our arguments. I can set my rules. But he also knows, and I hope he knows. I'm sure he knows how much I love him. You know how much these rules are to guide him, to keep him out of trouble. I'd rather do that than to have the police ring in my door, as you've just said. So, I mean, it's it's one of the other. If we don't try and correct them now and guide them now, then somebody else the penal system

The disrespect and be respectful because of the same token with our kids.

Like I'm respectful to them, I'm disrespectful. I don't you know.

Yeah, I do raise my voice, but then I do say, okay, look I should have raised my voice. But be respectful of me too, because I'm being respectful to you. Don't be disrespect for that. You be disrespectful back. And I'm gonna the daddy gonna come, the real daddy gonna come at me like I'm gonna show the old the Southern day school. I'm gonna show the old school then like that. Like my daddy from the South Green, Alabama.

He was no joke. He didn't play that you could you could, you.

Could be heard, but my dad was about My dad was the day my dad.

Was Okay, you know, I'm trying to I used to be like that. I'm trying to not I'm trying to let them be seen and be heard. But you better say it in the right way.

You're gonna be You're gonna be waking up from a little nap in a few minutes.

All right, let's move alof.

Before you get us.

Yeah, I hear you, I hear you.

You want to you want to call social services on me? Go ahead and living for to see if you love that body, you love me.

Out, stand up.

If you want to go live with somebody else, go right on the head. You're born and welcome to Let's see you.

Let's see how you throw you thrive and flourish in another household the way you can thrive and flourish in this household.

I want you to try and see.

Yeah, and I mean doctors. You also also hinted that the fact that a lot of our young people, and I don't want us to miss that point, that along a lot of our young people leave the church and leave the environment that they were raised in. And not every every young person obviously is raised in the church and with God fearing parents. But those years are explorative years, you know, and and those are the years that we

Of this.

Behavior came to a head. Was that before the heartbreak or our to the heartbreak? A second story straight for me?

So after the heartbreak. So basically you know this is this is why most people make bad decisions when they're emotional. Let me just say this again one more time. A lot of people make bad decisions because you're emotional. And I was in emotional state trying to figure out where I was supposed to be. So I just decided to pack up and leave London and I went to America. I was living in Florida for a while and didn't give no reason to my parents while I'm leaving. I

What I did for And you were saying part of what was going on in the UK. Was that breakup, that that marriage that was on on the heart, what just didn't happen?

It just ended.

So, you know, so I went away and I was in the States, and when I was over there in Florida having the world over time, my mom, keep praying, Mom, keep calling my mom, keep calling, keep praying, keep calling, keep praying, and what do you do with me your life? One day she had this conversation with me. I love my mom, shouting out to my mom, and she was like,

He wasn't.

He's like, you left, why'd you leave? There's no place here for you? And that's what's basically the conversation that were done, and whereas my mom saying to come back, they didn't know my mom, Dad didn't know nothing about it or whatever. I don't know the whole end of it. But when you realized I was there, it's like you left. You wanted to be. Come man, this is not where you're supposed to be.

Took the doors to the house even though Mom wanted to keep the door open, that closet shut.

Yeah.

Okay, so you've come back from from the US on the pleadings and begging of be your mother, but you have nowhere to go here in the UK. And is that where you became homeless and sort of ended up on part penches and trying to make.

I called it the I call it the desert, you know, my desert part of my life where dry land I thought it was, but that was where everything was for me. I always say about the park bench, because I actually literally was a cold night looking up on the clear sky stars and saying, what am I gonna do with myself right now? How does this ever happen? How does the spiral out of control that I don't have a job, don't have a place to live, don't have a girlfriend,

Stick a pin here, Angie. I wanted to come to you earlier. I know you haven't had a chance to ask any questions or give any input. I wanted to come to you, and then I realized you had just snicked off the screen, so I wasn't sure if you were there or not. Did you want to add anything to what's been said or to to where we are?

Hi, thank you for being for us on the show. I appreciate.

Actually it really brought to mind father was twenty two six training for a child in the way he should go and when he's old, who want you will not depart from it? And sometimes I often wonder kind of how that presents itself, because you know, you talked about your upbringing and you know that's setting a really good foundation for you. You've got a praying mother. It sounds

You know, you want to have a fresh start, do something.

But when you've come back and again you've talked about your mum praying for you, what really was the kind of turning point for you and actually was for you?

Was God in that moment for you?

You know, did you kind of recall any of those childhood messaging and those kind of big principles is that had.

Been instilled in you?

Was that that?

Did that actually have anything to do with it? Or really was the case? I'm really what potted him as it were? What am I going to do next?

I think it's both of them. They're not separate, but the training is definitely established in me about faith. As I said, I started out with that, but the conversation was real and having the encounter again, I think off had come to when I gave my heart to Christ at the agent eleven years old, I was baptized. I knew his voice, I knew who he is, and I understood clarity of the direction where he wanted me to be. But when you know, life spiral a lot of control

For the son.

Do you trust me? And I said, yes, God, Now go and tell everybody your story so.

You you are on goodness? Me, How how do you trust God from rock bottom? Don't don't don't make it too sweet to to to to romantic, you know, don't, don't make this story too romantic. How how do you trust God from a park bench when you've lost you've listed it for me, you've lost your family, You've lost the love of your life, you have no job, no home, no future. But the looks of it, how how how do you trust God?

I remember looking up at the stars and that's what I said, you said, and you know, stars was vivid to a bride and all I couldn't think of you. We're gonna be one of them. That's you should be shining bright. So tell everyone your story. That just tell your story every single day. And that's what I That's what I did, so even though I was trying to stay in the one four nine bus to keep on. And then I will go to the McDonald's and brimsdown and there's a lady that would come after a little

That, should we shouldn't we? Let's let's listen, listen, Let's take a pin here. Let's take a break. I'm sure my.

Colleagues did I pull an over there.

Let's take a break. We're going to take a song, and then we're going to come back. We're still on live. Don't go anywhere. I'm not sure if you're hearing us clearly. If you are, take us a heart, give us a light, give us a thumbs up, and we're going to take a song for the radio purposes, and then we'll be back. It's not one one by Kirk Franklin.

Come on, come on.

Hello, hes me Kirk.

I need to speak to Bishop sure, hold on, hello, Hey, I got some stuff I need to talk to you about.

They look pastor.

I've been having all these crazy kind of dreams. It's hard to sleep, I can't eat.

It's scary, you know, I know what you mean.

I mean, ever since that Tuesday seemed like like this getting real strange, shoot, anthrax, terrorist attacks, and I ain't even trying to get on the plane. I feel and you know when I try to pray that his voice killing me.

It.

God's not real, you know, that's just seeing men.

Yeah, but you ain't feeling me, No, son, I know just how you feel.

See, just because I preach, you teach, don't leader, don't get scared.

Sometimes yeah whatever, but you t dj but then I don't make mistakes.

Well, then the tain us on my mind. But your smile is gone.

I feel.

Your heart is heaven.

See, but you don't know my mind.

I mean it's a sick and tired of all she's got laid off, and to top it off, the rent too.

So tell me what I got to get here?

We'll see.

Trials come to make you storms, lad, How.

Can I trust God and all this mess?

Or see, that's the reason from a song. See wherever you're gold, that's one thing you got to know. God is right there by your side. So thank you for calling. It's always good to hear from you.

Yeah, but I gotta go now waiting. I have another call online too, but I ain't through.

See, I'm thick and tired of all these trucks folks talking about being as bad as the things see, y'all don't feel my pain.

I don't have drain.

I don't see how you want a couple of time.

I can things see, but.

You're looking at it now and you don't know how I struggled and what I've been through.

Yeah whatever, Now you cross the line.

I'm just speaking my mouth, okay, so let me speak mine too. I've had some mountains.

I've seen some balance.

I've even had to cry sometimes, not when.

I lost my mother, your mother, my mother.

I'm sorry, No son is frying. Some life is full of ups and downs.

For Goat said the strong won't last morning?

Ow'd you make it through?

The boy?

I thought you knew it was a love that can be strong. Smile as he'll throw alone.

Although your heart is heaven gone, ye fee, y'all don't feel mine. And I'm getting very thick and tired of all the things I just got laid off at the top.

It off the rent. Don tell me that what I gotta gain.

I tell your.

Trials comes away those those storms. How can I trust God in the midst of ball this methods?

See, that's a reason for this song.

Wherever you go from, you got to know God.

Steal cats.

Me to tell you.

Thank you, pastor.

Anytime I think I can make it now, just tell me what I need to do.

Just pray this prayer with me, say Father, Father, forgive and forgive me.

This song please help me, help me. I love you, I love I beg you.

This song says God's mercy kept me.

So I wouldn't let go.

Anybody in here ever felt like giving up, just throwing in the towel, just giving up. I'm not gonna ask you to hunt anybody, but just look at him. That person you're looking at is here tonight only because of God's versy and his grace.

Somebody only just tell God, thank you for.

Your mercy.

And your great set kept memost.

Yah.

I felt like I just couldn't take anable.

My hum sad me.

Be patient, way me done?

God help me close?

So God's mercy kept me. Can I get a witness in here?

So I wouldn't?

I almost gave him.

Most Okay, I must ride the edge of the break a cold see.

De really, but Jesus came and grabbed me and.

Slot God's versy keptain God's brucy. Can I get a witness in here that knows about God's grace about.

So I'm here today.

Became his great.

So come on, whnt somebody next to tell me I was really down. I was really down.

The devil really had me, but God's mercy kept me. I'm here tonight because of God's mercy.

Come on, just thank him, just thank him.

I oh.

Ned, I felt like I just couldn't take a life.

You knew more.

My problem was happy down.

Good, rush away down.

God help me.

So I couldn't lived.

God Percy, so I wouldn't live.

All eighty kill me?

She did?

Girl, you don't know what.

And how am I?

Russian hand is so far down? Yeah, but ah, Juliet may.

Not the same.

My moms.

Want let go.

Kurk Car Beautiful Selection, the Powerful Selection, one of my favorites. I have a lot of favorites. I know, I know kirk Car, I almost let go. Bringing us back to the conversation with doctor G. We're live on Instagram if you want to find us Doctor G, the Love Motivator, DJ S and G. And we've got some other handles here, Pedro, what's yours? Can't hear you?

My marriage?

Hear my marriage?

And Angie Angel face at Angel Faces all right, and we're trying to see if we can get onto Adventist Radio London as well, for those of you who are already connected there. We'll see if we can go live for the next hour or so on that platform as well. But feel free to join any one of us and you will see our faces. It's not always that you see our faces. You usually hear our lovely voices, some more lovely than others. Say no more. And we've got

And that's what you said.

You looked up, and as clear as day, you heard the voice of God say, tell your story. And that also made me. Think how many ministries are birthed, you know, from mess, how many testimonies are burst from that test And you know you were in that desert place, but God was preparing you for what he had in store for you. And you talked about you know, we maybe not going to touch on that old school teachers who

But that's that's what we were. We were chatterboxes.

But here God was putting in you and had put in you I beg your pardon, had put in you the gift of the gap. And now you're speaking internationally. You're rubbing shoulders with some really big, big hitters. You you met you met my man. Oh gosh, I've missed his name. Who does family feud? Okay, Steve, Steve Harvey. You've met Steve Harvey And potentially, I mean, I'm hooking

Up to Steve, you know, I tell you, and this is going back a number of years ago now on my way back to London is when I met him the first time and I planned to airport.

I tell us, tell us that story, because I really love how God sets you up right there.

I think that was that's why I was energized, not knowing I was going to get a knocked by my dad. It's funny the stories because it's just amazing. So here was this guy, you know, saying, hey, ain't that Steve Harvey. I said like yeah, and I really love Kings of Comedy love you know, his thing and that what he does. So at that stage, you know, and I just heard my spirit said walk up to him. So I just started to walk up to him. But now I look him back, I remember him doing that. He tapped his

Uh.

And counter that just being in the room, sharing with him, talking with him personally, Uh, you know, taking pictures with him and just hanging out. But it was a confirmation because that was that happened about three or four years later. I can't remember about five years later, but we stayed connected through from Atlanta to uh going back to Atlanta for the event, and it was a weekend event and I was there. But I say this, you know, God is a god of science and wonders.

I feel, I feel you need to repeat that God.

Is a god of and wonders because you know, all of us have something inside of us, and it's nothing to hide. You know, God has already made away for you playing if you want to go after it madly. You talk about the likes of Steve Harvey, but for me meeting Anthony Joshua a few times everyway Champions of World saying man, I see you. I said, no, you see me. He said, what do you mean why? He said, yeah,

Yeah, you said, this is a few years in the making. You've been invited here before.

I'd never I never got here, So you know, talking point, let me just say, you know, you guys are going places. You you said four years you're one of the things about conversations, and I say this for you said it in earlier, and I want to say, if it triggers you anyway, if it upsets you, reach out to me. I'm available. I would like to help you. But let me tell you. When God brings an emotion in you, he wants you to move something I'm learning to do. A lot of us hesitate to move, and it's only

That even my father, your earthly father, Yes, I knew.

I had a father in eaven. I knew your father would never leave me, know forsake me. I knew her father that, regardless to what I was going through, was going to somehow take me out of it. So we always put herself in a mess, right, Yes, that God never put us in a mess, but he will use that mess and turn it into a message. And that's why to this day, to this day, I'm just grateful for the journey. And you know it's not stop there and lots of new things coming in twenty twenty four, twenty five.

So as long as we have breaths, hey, as long as we have breath. Guys, do you want to add anything before we we take on a few more questions? And guys, if you're on these platforms, please and you want to ask a question of doctor G or any of us, then please do send those messages in and we'll pick them up and we'll ask on your behalf. But yes, guys, do you want to add anything anything? Sort of stuck with you, I'm just going to.

Say, as you, I really love what you just said. Then you know, you just turn that mess into a message for you. What's your what's the clear message for you? If you were to sort of say, I know, describe your message with one sentence or a couple of words. What would that be, A grabbing the book you love you?

That's that. That's it.

You know.

Love has been my message. It's the key. It says, love what you do, and do what you love. God is inside of love. He is the one that created love. He didn't the enemy did not create love. So for for if you trying to to that's where I started everything. When you start loving yourself the same way that God loves you, then you wouldn't put filth in your body. Then you wouldn't go to places that's gonna get you

You know.

For me, my message is to be love you. But most of all, if you could just love God unconditionally the same way He loves you, I guarantee you every thing that you desire will surely come to past. And I'm not listen.

I never give let me put like in this shot myself.

I want to.

I want to give some joy to something because there's a joy that I want to give. The joy is I'm happily married eleven years, the mad two beautiful children. I'm gonna see you on the phone on my own president of development company, and this is listen.

Can I just can I just can I just bring you back to what you said a few minutes ago, that you've moved from not being able to read, not being able to write. Listen God, if God isn't good, if God isn't great, if God isn't great, I.

Tell you something, and I hope that anybody that's listening. God don't want you to be average. He told you you were royal. He told you your peculiar. He told you you're set apart. He told you that if you trust me, I won't give you the desires of your heart.

This is this is it.

The thing is when I when I speak as a motivational speaker and I tell you the things spiritual speaking, I don't speak from me. I speak from what God put in me. Because there's a lot of people that think you could go and get a book or what do they call it. There's so many books now on personal development and you could go and google it, but there is something that has to take place in your

On your own.

You know you you can't do it on your own. You weren't. We weren't designed to do it on our own. We were designed to be able to cry out. David cried out, come on and prench you get you get me excited. So whatever I speak, you know, I remember I went to a college in reading and I was speaking read in college and I had my story because I just published Masterpiece, so I got my books with me and the lecturer what a powerful, powerful speech. I had children coming up in tears. These are Muslims, a

I was you didn't have that?

Could I couldn't? My uncles died, but I couldn't. But when my sister died forty two years old through COVID, suddenly haven't seen her for ten years, came up to London, been here for a couple of months, gone leave a beautiful baby girl behind. I couldn't understand that. But I've never asked God why. All I said to God was show me the purpose. And man, here comes a book out of it. Here comes me telling people with grief that's going through it that I've been through it. Come on.

And you hit her lave.

I mean, this is exactly, isn't it, Because like you said, and you're you know, you're demonstrating exactly what that is.

You know, not only is it just you have a message, you also have that passion, you have that fire, and you know you're seeing the impact.

And I guess, I guess.

My other question is asked on that is what has been the impact on you especially? And I asked that in the sense of this month's being November it's our men's months. And there are lots of men who are going through you know, we're all going through the struggle. Struggle is real, but for men particularly, you know, they have their own particular struggles they're going through. You know, you mentioned about mental health. You know, when you hit your lowest points as well. But so many men don't.

You're this and that you know, not showing your vulnerable side.

You've obviously had to learn some of that and embrace that, and you know you are using your own experience.

But so for you, what has been the impact for you? As well? As much as you are in you are impacting other people.

I think one of the things I always tell myself, you're not alone. The enemy's trick is to make you think that you're the only one. Nobody understands. And I think for men, uh, we're we are called to lead, we are called to be the head of the house. We are called to stand up and have the backbone. That's what we're called to do. And there's a lot of us fold, a lot of us like and I'll be honest, women have done tremendously to really man the house. Uh shout out to my single parents that are women.

Hey, let me let me.

And I'm talking to things. He invested in the in the company. Look, let me, let me say this in a say this. But he had to show me tough love. He had to show me son, no you left me. You need to stand on your own two feet and by far, I don't think I would have been here if he didn't close that door. And this is the thing.

Oh that's the word right there.

There's a lot of people who are scared of closed doors. But some closed doors are meant to let you know when the door is open. Value with when the door is open, valuate, like let me tell your husband's sorry. You just picked the nerve again. Like if your wife didn't close the door on you and he told you to, Hey, listen, you meant to sort your life out. Maybe you're coming on too late. You're not listening. She closed the door,

Who you are.

I need to get this tape.

So so for real, for real, let me just say this. So the thing is with men is if you're too emotional, doesn't matter. You're too emotional because at the time, and let me say this, let me say this, and let me say it gently, because there's a lot of people think emotions are something that you got to all it's over expressed. I cry, Listen, man, I cry. I cried. I remember when I was going through that, that time

But you are.

I wanted to just bring Petrone. I know he's been listening, and I'm sure he must have a commental two. He is obviously he's coming on here my marriage and he has a podcast that he does about marriage. I know what you said about our men and our men manning up and motivating our women to take care of him must have pricked there a little bit. I don't know if he wants to add anything to that, But Pedro, what's your he's not up, what's your thoughts?

I can't hear you. I hope our listeners kind on radio.

True in my marriage, I've in my nineteen years, my marriage didn't start to flourish until a man, I'm man up into responsibility for everything that was happening in the marriage.

Yeah, it didn't matter.

It didn't matter what my wife did it and marriage didn't matter what my kids did. My job is to facilitate and to fix the issues. If there's an issue, I fix it. If there's a problem, I fix it. I don't I don't judge, I don't, I don't blame, I don't any of that.

I'm like, Okay, this is the issue.

And then my wife's job is to facilitate back to me and understand where I'm coming from, and we work together every compromise.

And that goes with my kids too.

So what he was just saying, I was just thinking about what he was saying, and I'm like, man, I gotta get him on the podcast because what he was saying is so true. People need to hear that because like we as men, we as men with you know, we're told that, we're told that there's men that we're not supposed to. Like you said, the cry or show weakness. Showing weakness to my wife actually made him realize he said, I'm human when I'm mean and I'm rash and I'm

Has a heart, because that's one of the things that women will saying, you have no heart. You don't care, you know, only thinking of yourself, and.

That's that's the pay something. My wife says that you have no heart. You have no But let me just say this, some decision. I don't say this now, and in your life desires of you not to have no heart. He takes courage. Some decisions. You gotta be bold. You just have to say failess I'm you.

Just gotta do it.

And then guess what who you were right to? Maybe you were right exactly.

But don't don't give him too much in courage. Please please should be.

Mad, he should be mad.

It works out and she's like, you know what, you was right. You're right to do it that way. You was right to be mean that way. You wasn't being mean. You was just being to your to your guns. You was just you know, especially when they.

Come to the children, thinks I being mean to the children.

I'm like, no, I'm not being mean. To the children, because what you was talking about with like raising, I come from.

A single mom. My mom was single and when she.

Didn't have my father. My father left when I was about four, and I didn't have no no, no father until about fourteen. And I totally agree with that that a man needs to be there to raise their child, because it's just a difference. My mother could only get me to a certain point. At that point, I didn't needed that. My God bless my mother to meet a man who she married and from that point trust me. Me and him, we didn't get along. The first three years four years of our of our of the marriage,

One time I.

Got a whapon for dropping.

A bucket of butter on the floor. You know how slippery butter is. I was taking it out the fridge and it slipped up my head and fell and flattered. He thought I was being nasty by that whip me. But I understand now where he was coming from. It wasn't that, it was just it was just the visual aspect.

Of it to him. I was being you know, I was being you know, think so like.

But having my father in my life until he passed away, he was the best thing ever. That's what made me the man I am today. I got my mother and me, but I have my father, even though he's my stepfather, he's my father and he raised me the way that he wanted me to be, and that made me, you know, who I am today. So I totally agree with you on that, because you can't. I was gonna say something

You like, who's been raised by his mom, you get tild you can actually child sometimes when a.

Man get raised by their mother, because they and that's what I mean, it's just it just the masculinity part. Men need to have that Mexican masculinely brought him in them throughout their life. And that's why my oldest son, his mom had a had a husband, but she wouldn't let him do anything.

And I told him, no, if he's in your if he's in your house with your husband, long is he's not amusing my son, he should.

Be able to to he's my son because he took all the responsibility of you have a son. So I'm a I'm a strong believer of step parents being able to raise co parent with with everybody and raise the child with you know, to have a say because especially when it's a male, when it's a.

Male involved, I just want to interject here.

It helps them. It helped the young man.

It helped the young man to understand from a male perspective how to be a male.

And I just think that that's a really strong that's just my strong belief in that aspect. But that's what I really think.

When he was talking about raising kids and stuff, and I was like, no, that it just boy, You're like it just yeah, you're right to just well back.

I saw you, I saw your bursting, and hire would just go.

Back and forth. Were talking for two hours.

Yeah, and we don't we don't want to get too controversial, Petro, please, oh my goodness.

But I gotta speak on it. Though, because I want to say something.

Angela asked earlier. Angela asked the question earlier. You know, as for men like you know, like our mental health and stuff. This is what helps us with our mental health. I'm not being controversal, I'm being real.

Stop.

We got to stop using that word when we're being real and honest and transparent and just tell you how we feel as being contiversal.

Is my opinion?

Yeah, fair enough my opinion?

What is my opinion?

Fair enough?

Your opinion? You that's what it is.

Yeah. I wanted to also add here, Pedro, whiles you're talking about that that I mean I'm a single mom, and praise God, I now have a man in my

So in my life, I've actually been met three times. First marriage, she had got a husband. My second marriage, she didn't really have a guy in my son's life.

But one thing I always give my credit to my second ex wife when I because I was not there, I was not able to be.

There in America. I was not to be in America.

I got to put it back to Bermuda, and and my son was going he was in his teenagers, he was going through the issues. She got the elders, the pastor, she got different people to come into my son's like men, more models and men mentors that helped.

My son to be a good man. You met my son Johnny Johnny when I came to visit, right, Yes, she got him.

She got him help so that people to the man could be there in his life to help him, to help him to straighten his life out because he would have went down that road.

So that's one thing I always I totally agree with that because.

We gotta be able to let even if you don't want to have the man that you're dating in the person's life, get like a mentor, get somebody that can direct that son to help him to be a better to be a better man as he gets older, get somebody as another male that can help him, because it's not easy to be a woman.

And the same thing goes with a man and a woman.

I mean, if a man and a daughter, get get a woman that you don't have to be dated her, but to get somebody that can help you with the daughter, to help you through some of the things because they as teenagers and kids, we don't notice we go through little things, we become, we start maturing, we start, you know, progressing, and it's just certain thing that we need in our life that we may not be able to get from the from the other sex, from the mother or from the father.

If it's.

So, I totally agree with that. Yeah, what did you say you want to.

Do you want to before we go on? We just want to I mean, I know we're pressed for time. Do we want to talk maybe about your raw talk a little bit about that, but and you before we do, do you did you want to add anything here?

No?

I think.

Love what Pedro was just saying, yes, but actually know you said what I was going to say in terms of what we talked about last week, in terms of mental ministries, and it is about. It's about building those bonds, those relationships and offering that support and opportunities, but also giving them practical, practical help and practical ways in which they can actually make a difference in people's lives.

Because sometimes we.

Talk about these things and it can be quite almost surface level. But actually when they were talking about, you know, utilizing people's skills, you know, the jobs that they can do for people, or the carpentry or plumbing or use those kind of really practical skills. Because again, another thing they mentioned was about having a purpose. You know, everybody wants to think that they've got a purpose, but so

So yeah, that all things into a lot.

Of that perfect Thank you so much for that, Angie, doctor g The coming back to you and you name drop I mean I don't usually name drop, but you've dropped some names, some heavy hitters in the motivational space and looking forward to what God is doing for you with you what's next? And so tell me what what?

Because we have aspiring.

Influences on theline, we have people who want to make their name great. We want we have future motivational speakers listening. What what's the responsibility you think it's been placed on you for speaking into people's lives? How? How how do you view that just kind of narrowing down, closing out, but pulling the curtains down. I mean, this is a huge responsibility. I mean I think of it in terms of even having this platform talking point.

It's it's a.

Tool that we can use to really have the conversations. In fact, it's our tagline the conversations you need to have. What what is it that you feel is your responsibility as a motivated wrong speaker. What is it that your goal is ultimately.

Ultimately you know being in a keynote speaker and my niche is motivational speaking and inspirational speaking. I say it's the great responsibility because I understand that one word could change your life.

So that's again.

Not for real.

I'm very serious. One word could interrupt a life true story. I was doing a live a young lady, well, a gentleman. He was an NYPD cop.

Because most of you are following just to say there is us, yeah, because she was.

He was in America and he he came on Live and he was sitting in bed. I remember it like yesterday. He said, listen, man, I watch your stuff and you've changed my life, you know, and basically thank you to showing gratitude and what I do. A couple of weeks later, I saw his life. He was in the in the life chat and he came up, but the lady was a person that had the phone, had his phone, was saying, we found your messages, found your videos that he saved. Oh wow, and just went to let you know.

He died.

He got he died in the line of judy.

Now he was.

Uh sober. That was one of the reasons. I think he was like two years sober or something like that. And he was saying I helped him to get through that. Wow, but died in line of judy. That's your job, you know, being a cop. But not look what happens the sister. I think it was that far on the phone and probably going through your stuff now finds me and she's going through grief.

Now.

She is one of my number one supports and she loves my work and I'm blessing her life. So it's just everything one word and that word. Let me just say this and I say this, yes, uh, you know you talk about tough love. Remember the word that comes out with your mouth. You can't take it back. You have to know that what comes out of your mouth could define the person that you're speaking to. So yeah, it's a it's a huge responsibility. I don't show up to any in any platforms. I don't go to any

So now who was that?

That's not me, that's God. So I say I say this with all respect for everybody that you aspiring to do this, just remember this when you leave the room, remember that you've left something there. Can you say that? Can you say that, Okay, I left and you're gonna call back now you're okay, Then you shouldn't have been there. And that's that. I always say this because to my clients and when I speak to them, they say, listen when when you leave, I'm different, and I want to

Oh?

Why?

And people of Fabagasket why? Because when you separate yourself from God, you are nothing.

Oh that's the word to end right there. Oh perfect. When you separate yourself from God, you are nothing. And it doesn't matter, It doesn't matter. I recently did a live with a gentleman. And if you haven't seen anyone listening, find my page and listen to it. He again, rubbing shoulders with the greats. You know, he's met some of the biggest names in business, entertainment, sport, and I spoke to him and he said to me, I didn't think

So I think.

You're no longer the same. You're in the prisons of greatest. Let me just say this and I'll be honest with you. Greatness allows you to see God because God is great. He doesn't deal with mediocrity. Somebody said, okay, he riding a donkey. Why didn't he? Why did he have to ride in a donkey? Now, let me tell you something. Humility allows you to reach everybody. I say again one more time. Humility allows you to reach everybody. And this

This is?

This is what it's about. And when I start seeing what God would showing me. Who told me how to write five books like for real?

For real?

Who I did not have that on the agenda? Who told her become an influencer? Listen, I tell you another thing. I told your traveling to speak. I went back to Monster. I gott to bring it in. I gotta bring in. I knew you didn't talk about he went back. I went back to Monster. And this is remember like for those who know, I went to the adventy school with

So it is.

I know it's a huge responsibility. Is not something that you think is for fame or glory because I get I get all kinds of messages. Man, I get people from all walks of life, and I can't answer oh some of them. I tried to reach all of them. But there are people out there that was going to dark places and they need to hear your voice and knowing that your voice is a voice that represents God. And there's nothing to do with me. It's all God. So you know, for me, I wish everybody that wants

All right, I think that's a perfect not to end on. And we're over time. We're always of the time. Guys, I'm sure you agree with me. Maybe we can have doctor G back. It was really a good conversation and there's so much more that we could have delved into. So well, we'll but we'll have a part two, as we always have a part two.

Continues.

But we're running out of time. Now.

Let me just say thank you yes for bringing me in, and thank you guys for joining me. And I'm grateful that I'm able to be here.

We had.

At seven events. Christians, we have to believe that the time is wrapping up. Okay, this is a wrapping up time. I have to say it. And the message has to spread, be spread like wildfire. We gotta get we gotta get busy, get busy living for God and letting people know because I get so many people ask you where do you get your faith from? And every time now and then I gotta tell them what Christians. And that's the most beautiful thing I had, you.

Know, yes, yeah, love it, love it, just to find one from that you were saying about, you know, one word and change in life. I was just thinking that back last week was that week of prayer. It was talking about the word as in the Word of God and actually in the same vein that Word of God could your life so much?

So, you know, yeah, take the word and you know, take that on your journey and thank God for yourself.

Actually have a word too, because we had had a discussion and somebody asked me, is Jesus the center of your heart or you're the center of Jesus?

Hard lugged conversation because you're.

Easy now, easy now, three minutes past seven. I gotta wrap it up, guys, but it's been wonderful to have you with us. Yes, we'll definitely do a part two, three, whatever it takes. The conversation continues to those who joined us on Instagram, with those who joined us on Facebook and a Arl I think was up at one moment, thank you so much for joining us. We'll be back next week and we'll be having the conversation yet again with our man for a man as we celebrate this

Have any problem. We want to thank you for this talk that you have given us today on talking.

We actually went that whoever listen to, whoever's going to listen to it on the social media that they will have they will get something from it that can help them and there walk with you and then they walk with their family. We ask Lord that you continue to bless us and as we go into this new week, watch overs and protectives, leaders down the path that you want us to go down.

Leaders down the path.

That we need to go down, even if you don't think it's the right path, directors, and and touch our hearts, that we will listen to you and not and not withhold what you're telling us to do.

We love you, love me, Thank you again.

We thank you doctor Gi for coming on today and for zinging Angela and myself and we just actually you continue to bless us all in our families.

So that's our holy name. And already listeners to as.

Well, Doctor G. I'm just gonna let everybody know on the radio, especially if they want to connect to you. It's at Dr G the Love Motivator, and they can get all the details of your books and how they can get connected or get the books and obviously on on your web and your social media pages they can get connected with you. May God bless you and may He enlarge your territory.

Thank you for having me.

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