Author Recap: Your Superpower is Authenticity, Confidence & Purpose

Okay, so Adrian, I mean, an actress, an insurance agent, an MBA, you know, a speaker and a coach. What an interesting, as she said, a long and winding road. We should write a song about that. Anyway, I'm really curious as to what your takeaways were from our wonderful friend. Oh my gosh, so many. Yeah, so many. First off, I mean, you know, she says, look, I saved up enough to take a year off, and that was my big time out. How many people have done that in their careers? 1% of 1% of 1%? That really have done that, but she figured out, who am I, who do I want to be, and what do I want my life to look like? What a powerful thing that, you know, I mean, that's what we try to do as coaches with the people we're coaching, but we do it in an hour every week or so. And that's the only time they think about it. And I mean, how important is that in our lives? Yeah, well, I was amazed that one year turned into five years. You know, you and I are big hockey fans. Five minutes for fighting is about as long as we can. That's our time out and it's not for anything good. I was really impressed with her idea of hear, heal, and practice. That you're hearing things, you're healing someone, you're practicing, and then that undercurrent of what are you learning? Constantly asking what are you learning? What are you gonna be taking forward? We talk about that all the time, that curiosity is a wonderful characteristic for great leaders and just for an interesting life. Be curious about things, ask a lot of questions. What are you learning? What are you hearing, healing, and practicing? That was a big takeaway for me. Yeah, I thought that was really, yeah, no matter what we're hitting, yeah, those three things, you know, am I learning something? Am I healing something? Am I practicing something? That's really powerful. I was also impressed by this idea of personal power, because yeah, sometimes, you know, you and I, we do this with lots of, you know, directors or VPs who want to become CEOs or move into the C-suite and we help them with their executive presence. And we try and let them know, look, this isn't about appearing tough. It's not about deepening your voice and say, no, coming across like, no, it's about believing in yourself, as Michelle says. It's about your ability to influence others and get your wants and needs met. Now that is something deeper that comes to those three things she talked about, right? Authenticity, confidence, and purpose. Yeah. One of the takeaways for me was the know who you are and then show who you are. I thought that was a great way to put it. Once you know who you are, make sure that that's what you're showing to other people. If you know that you're a good counselor, show people that and counsel. That's a great reminder. Often we know who we are. Do we always show it in the right way? You say that every day you wake up and you have a few goals, right? To be what? I would say be kind, be grateful, and be of service. And I think if you can do those three things, you're gonna have a good day. Well, isn't that knowing who you are though, and then showing who you are by doing those things, by being kind and gracious. Yeah, no, I think it's completely different. Completely different, okay. I don't think it was not at all. Yeah, it is interesting how these things do come together over time, you know, as we talk to different people. And then my last takeaway, which I thought was really interesting, is she says, take time for yourself, date yourself. I thought that was really interesting. You know, we often talk about, you know, take your spouse on a date or spend time with your kids on a special date. How often do we actually date ourselves? We say, what am I going to do tonight? You know, am I going to read a good book? Am I going to go for a nice walk? Am I going to ride my bike? And that's one of the ways that she calms her anxiety. And then, you know, my shameless plug for our sponsor, Magic Mind, I really do love that stuff. You know, I've been presenting it to an insurance company, oddly enough, Michelle worked at one of those. Three weeks in a row, and you're presenting, and you're doing workshops, and so on, and you wake up in the morning, and it's easy to kind of get a little anxious. And I take my little magic mind shot, I love that stuff, and it gives you seven hours. Easy up, easy down, calms me down, gets me in the flow. And they've got a new product coming out, actually, called Gummies. Now, I know, Adrian, when you think of gummies, you don't think of magic. It's a different thing. Yeah, it's a different thing. These little gummies give you a little four hour hit, which is really great. Because sometimes you don't need the seven, you just need that presentation time. So again, go to magicmind.com slash Chester and Adrian. No, go to magicmind.com forward slash Gostik and Elton 30 and you get a 30% discount. Oh, it's 30, wow. 30, 30, you know, put in whatever number you want and get the discount and wait for the gummies. But I swear by it. And what is it? Which is it, 20 or 30? It's 30. Oh, okay, so that was my bad. That was my bad, okay. But at any rate, it's great stuff and I'm looking forward to the gummies. Well, listen, when we talk about things that we're grateful for, people that are kind and people of service, my mind goes to two names. How about you, Adrian? What are the two names that come to your mind, kind, grateful and of service? Gondi, Mother Teresa, Brent Klein and Christy Lawrence. I think they are in the pantheon of those. Our producer, Brent Klein, we want to thank him for putting this mess together. To Christy Lawrence who helps us find great guests and all of you who listened in, thank you. 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Hey, and thanks everybody for joining us. Until next time, we wish you the best of mental health. ♪♪