Episode 98: Ft. Rico Love

when I was a teenager. Jesus, we had tougher skin growing up too, Like we could deal with ridicule a little better. But I don't know if we would have been able to handle it if it was every second. Imagine a kid in the ninth grade who gets talked about the school and it's posted in hashtag every day and you got to go to school tomorrow. As an adult, as a successful adult, you can deal with people saying you're ugly in your whack and this this is that because you go home to a nice house, you know.

But as a kid, you like, what am I going to do? Like they? And if you go viral, forget it? Oh you've done man. Imagine all the girls giving head in about to say vil. You know, we would have

been filming that ship except that child pornography. I'm just saying, you know, I always say that I feel like they should teach courses now in school, make it like part of the curriculum about social media and like how not to use it and away campaigns, and they should in school, like they should be part of like because we didn't grow up with that, that's a whole different world. But they should tell people like this is inappropriate. How did

this make you feel? Look at this story kind of like a warning to people, like what you shouldn't be posting, what you shouldn't be saying to return. You saw those students from Harvard that they had like a Facebook chat group and they were writing things in the chat group. They had just got accepted, so they were going to be like the class of UM and somebody reported them that was in the group, like one of the students

that got in. It was like they're saying like racial things, They're saying like Nancy things, and they resended their offer letters and now they're not going to Harvard. When you see, now, since we're talking about that, let's talk about Derrick Rose for a second, now, Rico, I don't know if you've seen this story, but apparently his girlfriend they pulled up some of her old tweets, right, and she was saying

things like I hate bald headed little black girls. And then she said, you can chase those little ugly black girls, and Elena just gonna sit here in the spotlight without you. And then she said, making over here, thinking of all the things that make black girls mad, I'm dying all the black bitches mad because his wife, Vanilla Taylor, and I made a whole list of ship we don't like in the number one thing was black people. L m f A out. Hold on, this is the girlfriend white?

Now she is half white, but I don't know where her other has because I get I get lost. Her name is um Elna Anderson. And she actually deleted her Twitter and went private and everything after these old tweets resurfaced of what she was writing. Now, let's just say, um, this is from two eleven. It doesn't even matter how old it is years ago. How I mean, I guess I would have to know, but it doesn't even matter, Like, I don't understand how can someone like get it together,

they'll fix their fingers to right. But surprised how many people feel that and think that that's insane. You can feel it and think it don't mean. What I'm saying is it's like a reality to them, So it's comfortable they have comfortable when I say how many? When you know that many people feel that way, you don't feel uncomfortable saying you know what I mean. It's just like

with the whole political thing. Now. Used to be certain things off limits, Now that you feel like they're not, you feel comfortable saying whatever you want to say if you know that the masses agree with you. That's the only thing that makes things politically correct and incorrect is the fact that I fear that my feelings will be shunned. But when I feel like my feelings are, people agree with my feelings and I feel okay to say that.

And so many people say that they did a study in the UK or did a question in the UK. When you're going out around acting, ran them young males in the UK like what type of girls they like? And it was like red bone, light skinned, big titties, no dockies, no no dog skins and no ship like that. You know, I just saw that on media take out. I'm like the only person in the whole world. Seriously, what do you think now, Like, say that happened to you, right you found out your girl had put put this

up you didn't know, and now it goes viral. Would you feel like, man, I can't be with her anymore. It's a tough situation if you was already like be from one and it's easy out with you know what I know. But if you really love her, it's difficult because you think about it, if somebody you really loved us, some dumb ship back in the day, what are you going to penalize them for that you love them? Right now?

So obviously when you break up and I'm like, yeah, you racist bitch, what do you feel the need to address it? Absolutely? And I would feel the need to her to address it together and we could be like, yo, you listen, just so y'all know I wasn't cool with that, you know, I you know, I let her know that I wasn't. That's not something I agree with and that's not something I find attractive at all. You know, I had to make a decision, like, yo, am I still

gonna all the great things I love about her? Now am I going to penalize her for my mistakes? Then I gotta ask myself, what about everything I've said in my life? What if she held me accountable for all those things? And I've grown and matured as a person. I think we do have that right to grow mature as people, because I know some girls I grew up with who used to say some really fucked up about dawkskin people and dawskin girls now and I don't think they feel that way now. But that was the thing

we changed. I think that was the normal. God, I've never felt like that. I never felt like I've never been I'm so glad you haven't. You know so a lot. I'm dog skin, so I know I had used to say that. People would be like, oh you just because you like skin and stuff like that. Shut up me. And we was just talking about this in the car. I think the most beau beautiful people are like darker like yeah. I think the we were just talking about is the fact that it can come in all types

of different shades. And today, like I hate when people say like, oh, that's not my type. I feel like, what is the type? Like? Today you can see something beautiful in something that you that you thought before was obscure. So I think that to find beauty and things is the gift of life, is not to be able to

limit yourself to this is what I like. So today I think today I can say that this is the most incredible moment I feel right now, right, and then tomorrow I can say wow, today, this moment now is trumps that one. So I can see something I think it's so beautiful, and then I could say later, you know what, I think that is the most beautiful thing I've ever seen, and I have the right to change it.

And I think that's the gift of life, and the gift of love is to be able to say I have a limitless amount of you know, ability to like and love different things. That's two, because I to hate beards, and now I'm fine with it, but I hate I agree. I don't be like I don't like face your hair. I like it really clean cut guys. But now I'm like, okay, a bear could be right right, I feel. And I remember when guys would Dredd used to be really in

and used to be like, okay, y'all. When I was younger, everybody wanted a boyfriend, the head dread, and then I was like, I don't know if I want a guy who was here as longer than mine. And then now everybody's baldet that all right, now we want to ask you about this. So I don't think this is a real story, but just and pertaining to you. They were putting out the story about offset and saying to him and Cardi b broke up because he tried to charge her two for a verse. Now I don't think that's true.

But let's just say you're dating somebody, right and they're a singer, do you charge them for a track? Yeah, because they're not paying for this the company, and this is business. But if she's not signed, um who's funding her? If she's not funny, if nobody's funny and she ain't got nobody paying for it, didn't, I won't charge her. She has a label behind her. If she got a company, then that's a budget and they're gonna get you gotta

understand about these companies they're gonna take. They're gonna say that you're not recouped anyway. So let's get this money. And if and if that's the case, if she, if I funk with her, and it's a budget in place, Yo, let's bust it down. They're gonna pay me sixty for a record. I buy you some veryrings of watching something. Let's do it. No. I I agree with what you're saying if the label is paying for but if it's not, like I think different. I did train this whole project, right.

I didn't charge training nothing. That's my sister. I love her. But what I did was I just said, my guys, who did you know music and all that stuff, just give them pay them. And she was like, that's love. You're not gonna charge me your feet and she was really preparing herself and like I was putting the money to the side and like, no, no, no, no, no, it's love. I'm gonna do this for the love and

just makes you take care of my guys. So when you my people and I know that you're not being funded by somebody, like this is an independent girl who's working her own set, and I'm gonna be I'm not gonna charge her. That mean business. Why it's the back I want some back in though I want some nice What it means is that point I like to get.

I like to get my favorites in other ways and say, all right, cool, I may need you for a look, or for a film or for this, and I want you to wave your feet the same way I wave mine. Or I might need you for in the parents. Just wave wave your feet the same way I wave mine.

Let me make my money, because imagine if I let's say I do a host and I do a big concert or something, and I say, what, this person is worth this much, but I'm not gonna have to pay them that, and I'm gonna get all the money from that, then it's an even trade. Let's say I have a music conference. Yeah, exactly, exactly. You know what I'm talking about, what you do. But I always say put that out there. I always say business is always one hand, while she

is the other, you know what. So definitely, Let's say you're dating a guy, right and he's an artist, and he's like, okay, I want you to be in my video. Are you like word quest this or is it free? I'm I'm sucking them. No, it's free. That's my baby. But if your budget and he's taking care of me, if he's if he's if he's somebody i'm dating, I'm sure you're not good all the time. He wants to do a video, it doesn't what I'm getting from exactly. Yeah,

that's what Okay. So what if he's like, you know what, I'm opening this club, I want you to come in and book some people and do this is and that you charge him. Oh, we'll see. In that case is business and I'm gonna need my find But yeah, but I think that this is how you play, even with the visual. If he's not paying for the visual directly, whoever is funding it, take that money and y'all split it.

If that's the case, don't ever think in this game that this anything is not going to be or you save this money on this and you're not going to pay for they'll find a way to charge you for it. That's how corrupt these companies are. They're gonna find a way to say you spent this much on this. I want you guys to understand about expense accounts and how this thing works is everybody in the company has a

card and they go and they travel. If they're traveling on your behalf, you don't have to be there, they'll charge you back to your account. You're paying for it. You won't know until you ordered the company and know

exactly where everything went. So so if they were to say I had to go out here to take this meeting with MTV about your video, and I had to smoothe these people and take them to dinner, you'll see if you ever were to order the company, if you were to get that far in your career, you order them to see hold on your charge me back for that. So they're gonna find a way to charge you. So I always tell people, if they're gonna pay, get your money. Bro.

If you're my man, are you're about to do and you're doing a track for me, Bron, get your money. Don't do nothing for free for me if you if you can get a check, let's bust it down, if anything, or take your money and then when you got yours, I get my money and it's all love. But if you're telling me, bro, I'm paying out of my pocket and you my you know you're my girl, or you my my brother, somebody I'm friends with, then you know, no, I ain't gonna I'm make it easier on you. But

if it's their money, tax them. Everybody noticed TAXI I agree with this. I agree with this because out of pocket is a different thing, especially a company that's gonna tell me that they spent it anyway. Although I will say I do feel like like to pay people that do stuff for me, even if we're friends, because I feel like I'll pay somebody that I don't even know for something that they do. Why would not I pay

my friend? But if you know your but if you know somebody is building something and you can help them by that's your that's your paying. Like, that's my way of contributing. This to saying out lend myself for charity work. People will say I won't give money to the charity, but I'll come and lend my services for the for

the sake of the charity to help you. So if you're building a company yourself, and i'm your friend and i'm and I'm working with you, it's easy for me to say, well, look, I'm not going to charge you for that, and it's just my contribution to helping you build your brands. So when your brand grows, you can able to look back and say you're a part of helping me because you could have charged me this. It's almost like you gave me that money instead of you

know what I mean. I think that's I don't like when people ask me for favors all the time just because we're friends, and you know, when somebody's abusing it, that's differ. Much like I have friends that would be like, can you host this for me? Can you do this to me? And I'm like, normally I get paid yeah to do it, but I've donefity sweet person, and you god, for a bit, someone asked me to show up host.

That's my job. I don't mean you can tell you can tell with somebody's I'm the type of person I like to do for you first. I want to do for you first, and then I'll make it clear in the beginning, like, um, you know ludicrous. I recently asked he did so I did something for him and I just said, this was like seven months ago. I say, y'all, I got my music conference coming up. I need you there. And he said, yes, I'm gonna do this for you for this and when my music conference come, but I

needs you Dundell. We had a verbal agreement, and it's always men. We moved forward. So I like to do for somebody first. I'd rather I hate to be able to ask to have to ask first. I'd rather do something for them and then they reciprocated. Then let me ask you this, how real is this whole fucking for tracks thing that everybody always talks about, Like, have you been approached a lot in your career, you know, obviously being a big producer by women who are like, well,

you know, does that happen? Like, I don't think people try me like that because they anybody who's ever been around you know how serious I take music. I don't play with it. And I feel like I'm too talented of a person and I'm too I have too much more to offer a person than to cheapen my brand to fuck you for a record, Right, So when you talk to me, I think you can feel that, and also you can feel these slimy type of characters who

you can tell when they like even think about. But sometimes in the studio people get a vibe too, like when you're being creative with somebody, then you might feel like I'm attracted to you while we're working on this. Yeah, we live in a real weird time, so I kind of I'm very cautious around about who's around me anyway, and I'm not usually around people who aren't really established anyway or doing something for themselves, because it saves you

a lot of bullshit and a lot of trouble. So, because nothing is worse than when somebody's really hungry tiger, you know what I mean, that's the worst yeah around, you know you kind of like Harri Sulton used to say, she's a hungry tiger. That's that's the worst tiger. Yeah.

All right, now people also wrote in some questions and we want to get to your advice, and then we're going to give us to all right, my status fifteen years old, and I've been hiding a secret from him and I'm trying to figure out a way to tell him the truth. The person that's on his birth certificate is not his biological father. I just recently found out my ex is actually his father. It was a simple mistake.

I was young, still in high school, and I didn't know how to read the ultra sounds, and I had hit my pregnancy for five months because I was ashamed. I was scared. At that time. I didn't know the guy that's on the birth certificate wasn't around anyway, so it's not like you know him. And that's family. How can I break the news to him without confusing him? How did the fifteen years old? Ye? Fifteen nowadays is

what nineteen and the mind? So I think he's old enough to have that the same way that you explained that on the question. I think you could sit out and explain because it doesn't sound bad. It doesn't sound like mom's a whore. It just sounds like you know. I think I think at fifteen he should have an idea of the kind of society who lives in. And that sounds pretty reasonable, like, yo, I made a mistake.

It was long ago, right, And she needs to know the name a father anyway, you don't know the guy. That'd be worse if you know. And she needs to do it now. Waited too long. Just now he's like another baby, so she's supposed to now, um, contact the X and be like, by the way, this fifteen year old is your son? Yes, I mean she needs to tell her son. She needs to tell him soon, Like fifteen years old is already old enough. He needs to

find out. She could have told him younger. She needs to tell him now before he gets older, because when you like turning an adult eighteen nineteen, it kind of hits you hard, like, damn, I'm nineteen years old. You waited nineteen years you know is long enough as soon as possible. If your mom was a whole, would you want her to tell you? But she wasn't all, that's

a question. I mean since she was said, it's not like she was you you'll know anyway, you think, so, yeah, man, especially if y'all if she grew up in the same place that you're living in now. Because the O G s will make a little comments everybody going, notice this is a new generation. It ain't like back in the day when your mother was a whole and everybody just smiled at and wave. Somebody's gonna say something to yes, for my uncle used the fucking mother, you know what

I mean? Like like everybody said, you know like that ship. After well, everybody's gonna start saying it to you can be like, damn, this might be truest bitch. So as a parent, do you get in front of it and be like okay, so, like is that the thing you get ahead of you just let it happen and don't explain it. Yeah, I think you get ahead of that. You talk about that. No, I think you have to

get ahead of it, like you. You have to prepare them, prepare them for what's gonna happen and what they're gonna face. That's why I don't want you dealing with these types of right exactly, I was manipulated, and you know, you can make something excuse if you want to say, yeah, that's the nation. When I was young and I was taught the wrong way by fanatic, and now when I got older and learned, like six months ago, he write

a song right now, don't don't. I feel like it's best for I feel like it's best for your for your kids to find out things from about you, from you, and then it's so fund up that we gotta that people even have to talk about that now. I mean, I mean my mother. My mother was a young single mom, like she was what she left my father. You know, my mom was a young single mom. She used to like the party I knew. I mean and my mom have a close relationship. I'm not even gonn a lot.

My mama still got answering her pants, my mother. I'm my lady. I'm like, listen, Grandma, you used to go like a sweater. You want me to bout your rocket. She's not with it. She's like, no, I want to have a drink. I'm like, mama, Mama trying to drink that that ass on outside. And I mean, my mom still looks good like she you know, my mom is still fired. She takes care of herself, you know, but

she still she still got answer her pants. It's just the person she is said that sounds terrible, like gotta go, you gotta go and no, and my mom, you know, I don't remember when I was a kid. My mom, um, she she switched boyfriends a lot, you know, not a lot, but enough, you know what I'm saying. My mom and I used to bother me like I remember, I remember when I was a kid. This is this is a true story. I mean, God bless my mother was a great mother. We were never we never were abused nothing.

I didn't even know we were poor until I got older. And how to offend for myself. Yeah, it's like I didn't but you know, you know, like my mom, I know shades and my mom, but I remember when I was a kid. I was but she checked me and this I never did this again. She had a new boyfriend. I remember, he was Amnigan guy. Right, whatever. He was real good to us. He was he was a new boyfriend, right. So one night she um, she left me and my aunt.

She left me with my grandmother, and I could hear her talking with my aunt about how she was going to like hit skars with this guy, and they talking in Spanish, but they think my Spanish isn't on point. But I know what they're saying, you know, and I'm just listening to them. So she leaves. I'm not even gonna give the full details of this, but so she leaves and whatever. She comes back next day, picks us up. We I get in a car with her. It's just

me and her. My sister was with her father again in the car with her, and I was like giving her attitude because I was upset about it. So she's like, what's your problem? You know, She's like, what's wrong with you? And I'm like, you know, I just don't. I just don't think that you should like be having sex to everybody, you dating everybody. And I'm a little girl. I promised you I'm like eight years old. I wasn't. I wasn't all than not. And that's the girl. I was a

little girl. I'm staying in the car. I'm staying in the front seat. I'm saying in the front seat with hind. She was like, she was like, what pops popped me right in my mouth. Like she was like, we'll talk about this when we get home. And I was like, oh, I started crying. But she gave me a whole fucking when I got home, she gave me a whole sex lecture because she didn't realize that I knew, you know,

what was going on. She popped me mouth, she popped me thinking the whole way like damn, this ship is crazy, Like you know, I think she kind of practiced and and and then the ride she's like, you know what, you're a little girl. You need some manya business, you know what I mean. Like she she was telling me, like like she was making me feel bad because I was, you know, concerned about this. I was. I was upset,

but you know, it really wasn't none of my business. Also, you don't learn it it's not your business until somebody tells exactly that's what That's what I'm saying. I never did that again. I never, I mean not until I became an adult that I you know, talk about that type of thing with my mom. You know, I never played myself again ever. My relationship is funny because I've never seen either one of my parents with anybody else, like my whole entire life, and they're divorced but they

still live together. But I've never seen my mom with another man. I've never seen my dad with another one. Yeah, yeah, they still I ain't going lazy. They used Today's life date the night, but they're just never home like you know, and they don't. But I've never ever seen them with anyone else. Like They've never said I'm dating somebody. I've never seen them. You know. It is weird, so I

look at it. I guess maybe part of it because even with my grandparents, like my grandparents were like my on my dad's side married and tell my grandfather passed away, my grandmother never seen him with anybody else. In my mom's side, you know, my grandmother passed me on that side, and then my grandfather remarried. But everybody in my family, I've never seen people like do you know, I really like straight, I like up around And I'm not even

saying that they were monogamous. I just never really seen you never saw it until I went to go work for wootang everything. Who's the lady in the back room with the whole with the whole gang grandma. But you know, those things probably do affect like you know, g you have your daughter, and do you ever think about, like how your life has affected how she's gonna look at relationships. Absolutely, my ex relationship, it works her nerves. It worked her nerves for very a very long time. Like I think

she's more happy than I'm single than I am. Really, Yes, she hated us, No, that's what I'm saying. When I was a teenam I know she really liked him a lot, like him alive, but she hated the things that we went through. And that's what I'm saying. I had like a young mom like and and her daughter, you know what I mean, Like her mother's relationships did like I noticed them, you know what I mean? I noticed then,

and they affected they infect us. That's the only relationship that I had that she really was like in tune within a part of so I usually keep her out of, you know, my person. It was so serious that she had to be right, and she was so grown too at that time. My mom was a square, Like my mom was like a church lady. Two boyfriends the whole time that I grew up, and one was named Alex and one name is Mr Stanley, and I hated I

hated Mr Stanley. I just felt like he's just always trying to talk to me, like and I broke up. She broke up with both of them, and she sat us down and told us, like, you know, Mr Stanley was trying to have sex with me, and I don't have sex until I'm married, and I want you all to know that you shouldn't have you know. She probably just went through it with him and just was fresh.

She was like, you think that I'm opposed to lay down with him until he didn't give me that ring and then he posted to think I'm so I was like, you know what, I don't really want to hit this, but I'm glad you need Mrs stan You didn't like him with your cousin, Mrs Stanley, And the other guy was Alex was cool. Alex was cool, but Mr Stanley was just a greasy ass, you know what I mean, Like just felt slimy. I felt like he was trying

to suck my mother mother mother. But you see, because of because of um, you know, being like being like that, never liking my mother's boyfriends, Like, no matter how great they were, I never liked them. My son is going to be eleven this month, and I've never brought one man around my son. He knows his father Like, it's just that, like I don't think it's cool to have your kid around around people who are temple bary in your life when when somebody when I get engaged, then

maybe I'll bring somebody. You have to because it's like, is what I'm getting married? How? How is that? What do you mean? Google? Look up your social media? My son? Um, I've had the conversation with I don't know is that I've had this converence. My son is UM, he's very computer savvy. He's very He's on the internet. My son is on the internet, so he's my son has been around, you know, he's with me, so he sees what's going on. He sees me on the cover of the magazine, you

know what I mean. So I've already explained this to him, so it's not a surprise for him. He knows exactly what I do. He knows that, Um, I was doing a lot of internet ship, you know, and I've explained it to him. He knows. Like my son follows me on Instagram. Yeah, my son has an Instagram, you know, so I and my son can read. You know, he's he's elevin. He's a big he's a big boy. He's a man. No, no, absolutely not no, no, no, no no, and um, you know I it's just he understands, like

I already explained it to him. Like I said, you have to prepare your children for what's outside. You know. I don't want anybody to um to come at my kid for something that I'm doing. That's why I've really tried to smarten up and change a lot of the things that I've done on the Internet. I've really tried. I think I have. I think I have. You know, Like I'm not drunk on the internet anymore. I'm not smoking with me looking a little drunk. I was drunk

on the internet. I'm not drunk in the Internet. I was drunk. But you know, my son, my son knows me. He knows what's going on. You know, it's not nothing is a surprise, you know what I mean. But yeah, grown up, Like I don't think you know that you should feel like I can't children exactly right, they don't know. Now, let's get to that, right, and that's you have some know,

um with with with my relationship with my son. I don't I don't post I don't, you know, I don't post up my kids, you know, because I don't want him to ever have to suffer for anything that I've done on the internet. I don't think I've done anything too crazy. But you're not an average looking mom. And when you're not an average looking mom, you have to realize that the rest of the moms don't like you know, and please, I can't even go to my son's school.

I can't go to my son's school. I um, when I do go, like I have to go into the skies because everybody knows knows who I am. You know, he's in the school in New York and the parents, like you know, I can't even I go to his graduation. I can participate and the you know, and the assemblies you know when they do like musicals and the school.

I go to that stuff. But yeah, exactly, you know, but like, um, the PTA meetings, like you know, when they do the parent teacher thing, I go, like one time in the school year because when I go is I can't I take a picture. Can I take a

picture with your mom? What? Like I swear, I swear it's um and I mean it's fine, it's cool, but it's just I don't really want my son to um to have to like I said, if it got for bid, like you know, UM, I don't be having sex tapes with random people, but got for the bed something came off of my own phone, you know what I mean. I don't want my son to have to. You know, I don't want people to be like, oh, I saw your mom. I saw your mom, like that's your mom,

So I don't you know. That's why I'm real private about my son because even though I'm trying, you know, I'm not I'm not posting up asked pictures and you know, working around even though I never really was working around without you know, I'm I'm not as um provocative. I guess is I don't know. One time in the third code on the stage, Yeah yeah no, I UM did I know? That is me and Nya Dare Me and

Nya we had aum. That's why every I'm glad you brought that up because everybody's like, oh, I know she knows Rick ross because um, she was on stage with him. But you know, I got you know, they called us Nina, it was Nina was friends with him, and they called us to do a job like that's not my friend Rick Rosses, you know, right, you know, you know what some of my favorite couple, Nina her boyfriend. But I didn't even throw But but yeah, you know, like I'm

not doing all of that. I'm trying, you know, even though it's still around, you know what I mean, And God forbid, I don't even though I'm trying not to, God forbid, you never know what could happen, you know. So I don't ever want my son. I don't ever want my son to have to suffer for the choices that I made in my life. But you said you had the mom thing too, What were you gonna say? I mean, when my daughter was in high school, I was the face of Magic City, So I'm sure there

was a little bit that came along with that. But from my understanding of what she explained to me, like people was like hype about it. They weren't like, yeah, that's what that's what I go through now with my son, And they were more like you know, you're excited. You know, Atlanta is different too, though I wouldna say that, but I was also in Atlanta. Differ it's like, yeah, let's go have some wings real quick. Yeah that's what their mothers look like that too, you know what I mean?

They like So when you got a young mom who got a crazy body, that's not normal like to us in our world and where we live and what we do. It's definitely not normal school my son. But I will say this the school my son goes, so he lives in like a you know, a little posh little area or whatever, and those little Spanish ladies got some you know, it's like the fire. It's nothing but crazy and every

time you go to school. So I don't think it's it's out of the norm, right I'm at So you know, now let's talk about that though, because obviously your songs and things that you talk about are personal to you and things that are sexual. Do you feel like, hey, do you let your kids listen to that music and you feel like you have to explain like, well, yeah, I only listen. My son knows, they don't know, but

I just he just likes that song. You know, a lot of times we grew up listening to We're saying the lyrics, but didn't really know what it was exactly. He really don't know. And he just don't get past that. And and that was, you know, when he was a lot younger, and records I've done and written for other people. I don't even think he realizes that. So, and I don't talk about what I do to my son at all anyway. I just just I'm just as dad. He

likes other people. He likes Ray Tremant, you know, so he like he not even he like play Black Beetles. This ship is what is this play back? You know? And I listened to old school music in the car with him. Anyway, I'm listening to the Beatles. I'm teaching about Michael Jackson and ship like that. So really, his his ear for music is a little different. He's not as aware of things just you know, going on because I kind of I don't mean, he's only seven. Let

him do his thing. But you know, these kids, now, they right, they know a lot. No, I mean when my son, my son is like I said, he's really computer. Yeah, so he's been honest since likes to some pop song and I called him he hurried to put it down. I'm like, what's that opened it up? He's like, I swear I didn't know that they would. I'm like, bro, just I'm just I'm just happy. But maybe YouTube that

his kid's favorite. He was like, I was watching f G TV and then when I clicked it, But I was saying, his defense, they put all these things on the side of the kids. Yeah, which is up because they're eating children right, And I agree. What if you catch him like looking at porn? Is is that when it's time to have a conversation, Because I'm gonna I'm gonna have the conversation with him, probably this summer already, because I think kids are moving to growing too fast.

And what. He has a little friend who's like his best friend. His name is Josiah, and I love Josiah. Josiah is fast, like he knows everything. He was like, um, you know, girls have vaginas. I overheard him in the back seat and he doesn't know I'm listening. I had to stop. I don't want to keep talking about vagina. Vagina, vagina. Girls worlds have a vagina and we have a peewee And I'm just like, come on, so I gotta get ahead of desidhy. I don't want to do right. That's

how I feel with myself. So you got to show him what's the right, and like it explain to him. And I'm telling my mom gave me to talk young and she gave me the talk. You have to pop you. Yeah, and it's not again just just and I have to say this because beside his parents are close to me, is that he has older cousins who are around him. I don't want you. I don't anybody think that his parents are like letting him. But it's just that you've got older, little little cousin. He has big brothers and

he's so much. He has like three girlfriends and all of that. I'm like, all Jesus. They had the Internet too, and that's so easy to find things. We didn't have the inter right and the television shows. You have access to Netflix everything, Like I don't know what people are watching, kids are watching. They we didn't know anything about. Like

I remember this is crazy where I left. But I remember the first time I Orgas was in um playing Hide and Go Seek and this girl was just kissing me and she was just grabbing me and kissing me on my neck and I just went all over myself, and I'm just like all I knew was that it was a lot, and it was the best thing I've ever felt in my whole life. And I really immediately hated her fast, and then I liked her again, like twenty minutes later. But I was just like, what the

fun is going on? So I was like twelve, so I didn't know. I didn't know, you know, I wasn't you know when we were growing up, masturbation and all that kids wasn't like in It was like I forgot herd like he be off. It was like now now a lot of things, you know, eating pussy and all that ship as we got young. Now, kids in high school having threesomes like crazy. The girls, Yeah, they're talking about giving their boyfriend the three for his birthday. Guys

in the ninth grade. So as when I was coming up, we didn't have that. I think that's the that's the part about the Internet that I think works, is that you're not so clueless to realities of life. But I didn't make you faster though, But I did think that that night. I never know how to say this for Naive, Yeah, Naiven see, I think that's what gave us our innocence,

and I'm purity that is lacking right now. So I want to I don't want to discredit that, but I just think that it's a it's a fine line, it's a balance because I know what that felt like, and I felt like I was walking around my neighborhood until it dried for like twenty minutes, and you're nervous going

home feeling guilty. Like listen, when I was in remember when I was in eighth grade, this girl that I went to school and she had like a house party and they would play this game like where you go in the closet with somebody, but like, um, three minutes or something like that, or yeah, I was like seven minutes to happen. Having that's exactly what I had to go in the closet with this guy, and I didn't

know what to do. I was in the closet, we had the light on, we were just sitting there like me, and then right before it was like almost time up. They were like one minute left. Then he like kissed me and hentted all over himself and I didn't do that was seven minutes and so like so we walked out there seconds and everybody sorry about apologize and they're like, oh, she notudding on himself. And I didn't know what it was.

I didn't know anything in my jumm in eighth grade and I still didn't know anything about like what that was. And so I'm looking, like what happened. He's like now saying some glue, and she was like, there's no glue in my closet, and then everybody was looking in the closet to see if there was glue. I had no idea, like what happened. That's how I found out about it, Like that was because of myself. Yeah, right now he's sitting somewhere in a in a room listening to this ship.

Like people still make fun of about this because I still know him to this day, Like everybody stills remember when you went none in the closet like best and I wondering if he knew what it was, but just saying the first time you met it on yourself, you with twelve you okay, So that was around that age, like the twelve thirteen. I couldn't believe first of all, when she was kissing on me, I'm just like, what is she doing? Like like what is this? Why is she doing this to me? Like how do we get

like how did we get here? Like you know, and she was so young, and it's almost like you get all these questions like who taught her? What is she? Like? She really was? She really was good. Like the way she was kissing on my neck, I was just like, what is this girl doing? And then when I started to feel it, I was just like, oh no, what is this? This is the best thing I've ever felt ever? And then immediately I hated her, like get away from what did you do? Twenty minutes later, I'm looking for

what is this mission? Then after that, when is the next time you like that happened? After that a lot that she was the ship that summared to me. She's got like nineteen babies now. She was morny. She was real horny. I'm not surprised that she has nineteen babies now. She was horny, like like like horny, bad story she learned it. It could be like her cousins was Scott. It's just so many things that you got to take into consideration, like somebody did it to her, They shouldn't

have been exactly that. You never know you never know how to was the first time he has sex. I was late to have sex. I didn't have sex. Stuff was seventeen. All of my friends were having sex, and um, I was like, no, I'm gonna wait till I'm married and then my friends that was sweet, Um, I think so. But what happened was a friend of mine he bade it me. He was like, yo, you get your dicks. The girl be sucking your dick. Bro, you might as well just suck because this is ridiculous. God sees you

getting your dicks, like you know what. I was like, you know what, girl, But the girls thought I was just like so cool, like he never did it, so they would all come to the neighborhood and tried to get me to do it. So all the guys were like, yo, fuck her, what are you doing you sucking bush? Yeah? So what I did was when I started having sex, I just went back and sucked them all damn Like I was just like I was like, I was like, oh, ship, this is I'm gonna do that. I'm gonna go. You know,

did you know how to use condoms in everything? Oh? Yeah, yeah, absolutely at seventeen, I guess you would not absolutely my friends. My friends were thirteen and fourteen, and they were having sex like a lot, like like literally like it was trains being ran. It was the ridiculous types of sex going on. And my man just no, seriously, it was so much going on and my one of my best friend's house that it was just like how is this happening? Like how was this? How is this not being stopped?

Like these are kids where literally his mom would be there, not not she wouldn't be there and know what's exactly what's going on, But she was kind. He had one of those houses where his mother would be in the room and he would have a back door and go to his room and anybody would come in there or she was She was like one of those parents that was like, y'all sucking all them dirty girls. You dick is gonna fall off, and then she going the room and slam the door. It wasn't like who's in my house?

And my house no, never would ever ever happen. Was the first annual pussy. I was like, I see again, remember we grew up in a different era. I was like, three, good lord, yeah, Jesus, but you gotta understand we grew up in a different era where a lot of guys were doing it. You know, a lot of guys were doing it but saying they weren't. And I was one of those people who really wasn't doing it, you know what I mean, Like you know how when guys I was like, no, I don't do that and that's not cool.

But then I didn't realize everybody was doing it but lying I was no. No. I think I think my girl taught me how to do it. Really, just like yes, since you got a head, that's crazy. I was. I don't think I was good at all, soil she showed me what were you doing wrong? I probably wasn't doing it wrong, but it just wasn't good. And the way you do any every way you do anything, why you do everything? You want to be you want to be right, you know what I mean. I don't want to be

I want to be the champion. Did you have to tell you? Like, she just showed me exactly what they're doing. You know, that's so good. You know when you marry somebody that you told how to eat pussy like so good because it's all right when you was all right if this sucks two ways, if you teach a guy how to eat pussy, and then you break up. You know he's around eating everybody is pussy the right way exactly. And then with honors or you meet a guy and you you love him, no, and he just eats pussy

mad good, like he's just amazing. You know, he's eating everybody's pussy because one girlfriend that told him how to do it. Oh whatever I had, that's not true. You know, think peoples, No, no one's a natural. Some people could be naturals. I think I was a natural. I sucking dick for sure. I don't think any whatever time me. What if the guy said I was taught, but I was at a very young I think I was nice. Like the first time I was kind of the first time I said to Dick, I did a terrible job.

I think I always was good at it. I think the first on it for so long, I think the first dick I suck was small, so it was like so much easy. I was like little dick. Guys out there got life so much easy. Little think little is a very easy to sign. It's where you like day is where you graduate. It's like, oh my god, you're like a lot going sucking dick on this side, eat chicken on this side, a little anything I can get, a root canal, just stuck on the side of my back. No,

but a big dick. I have you fucked up? You think you're nice little dick, and then you go home and your throat sloy. You're crying like like why nothing, like I have what do you call it? I can't even that's the way you feel like your mouth stretched out, like you gotta go get a lift, friller. You gotta feel like your head is trash. If you suck it that long to it, you know, you start this hurt. Nah. Yeah, yeah, But sometimes don't guys try to like hold back because

they don't want to come. I feel like they didn't come from him. I feel like every even the guy who says he can't come from head, I feel like every guy had the tick. You know what I mean? You just gotta find out that one thing that's gonna be that one thing he's singing that just so we can see how crazy you and go to exactly exactly he gonna comes from. Getting that dick suck. There's not a guy out that ain't coming back from hold. I think I'll make you best hold when a guy says that.

When a guy says, oh, I don't come from that, it's the same thing like a girl saying like, I don't you do this? You know, it's the same thing, the same thing. That's that's what I don't usually do this guy. I don't want you to think I'm a whole and you're like I told you the whole one night, right, Like, but can't you like kind of try to make it last longer. If it's really good and you don't want to come, you can stop and you know you can stop, and yeah, you have to stop at him. I hate

when guys do that. Just come. I don't want to do this, not me. I like for a guy to hold it. I like to do it for a while. I'll tell you when a guy comes like, oh I could have went like another five minutes. I like it, and then and then but jeezus, come on, you like it too, don't lie. I do. But but if it's too big, it's like, all right, this is too Oh my god, I loved it's so good. Pull that dragon out so I can feel it. Yeah, yeah, what what about talking? Like just talking in bad make you want

to come faster? Yes? Shut up up like I'm not listening, or don't turn around and make that face that like why are you sucking me? Like it's a rap? You just ruined it. It's over now, curtains. Do you ever feel like sometimes have you ever said something during sex and been like, what the fund did I just say? I feel like I feel like I've done that drunk, like you just don't know what's coming out of your mouth. Say a few times and I really didn't mean it.

But I never say I love you. I don't mean it. I didn't know I did. Definitely. That's a fucking song. Goddamn it. I'm just thinking, I never said I love you. Yeah, no, it's true. You never said I love you too. If somebody said it to you, no, Usually when we get to that point, I do love them, like I'm like, yeah, look and no I've been with all right. Not too long ago, I was working with somebody and they said I love you to me. They were like they like

we were not like we were arguing. We were having an argument and he was like, you know stuff, you know, I'll only go through this with you because I love you. This was like this was so I was like, uh, I was like, you know, I got love for you too, you know what I'm saying. Baby, Now, I told him and he's like, he's like, He's like, and I understand that what I'm saying, And you know, I just feel like I wasn't gonna tell him that I was in love with him, And that's exactly what I said. I

was like, what do you want me to do? You want me to tell you that I'm in love with you? I'm not. I'm not in love with you. And no, but we weren't. We weren't even on that kind of five. That wasn't even our five. We were normal like this is at the time when I had two boyfriends. Remember everybody, I had two boyfriends that was at that time time. So obviously he was actually the second boyfriend. Yes, it

was the backup boyfriend. But you know, when either way first or second, you're you're you're single, you're dating, and you're you're doing your thing, you know what I mean. So that's what I'm saying. We weren't on a vibe like. It wasn't like I wasn't being honest with him. He knew I was sleeping with somebody else from time to time. You know what I mean, I think I love for them. I didn't not the guy. Okay, ask you could you

be in love with both of them? Me in love? No, I don't feel like I feel like being in love like um, I feel like I'm a falling in love as person. But I don't fall in love with everybody like Gi. You you know, you know me well, like me and Gig like she knows names, you know what I mean, and you know like and you know I've I've dated some amazing guys who have treated me well, and I don't fall in love with them because I don't feel like we're on that we don't have that

kind of spiritual connection, you know. To be in love with somebody, it's a it's a strong feeling, you know. It's a like I love my friends, and I love my things, and I love my job, I love my hair, you know what I mean. But to be in love with somebody, that's that's like a different kind of thing, you know. So I'm not going at of You have a really unique theory about love. I think that we can be wrong about everything in the world, but we don't accept that we could be wrong about falling in love.

I do believe you only can be in love one time, only once. And this is why I say this. I think the definition of love, the definition of love is um, unconditional and continuous. So to be in love with somebody and say I'm not in love with him no more, all you're doing is realizing that. Well, and that's another thing. That's what I think, and and the reason why I say that is this. We can be wrong about so many things, and we we feel like that's not possible.

I was in love, No, you were infatuated with the feeling that you had been with this person, but over time that's feeling went away. And I think that it don't matter if he was with him for twenty years. You could be wrong like I was, or friends with somebody who I thought was my best friend and then he tried to steal from me and did so I had to realize this person wasn't a friend to me, he wasn't a real friend. So at the end of the day, I can say I was wrong about what

I thought this person was. So why can't a significant other, Uh, the person of the opposite sex who you love orho you think you You can say I really love this person, but I wasn't necessarily. I don't believe that if it's really love, you can ever fall out. I just think that you can say I love somebody and I love them and I love being with them, because by nature, I think we're meant to love everybody. I think that's that's but to be in love with somebody, to have

that connection my personal belief. And I'm not gonna say that if you believe otherwise, that you're wrong. I'm just saying my belief is that if you're in love with somebody, that's it. That's But if it's not, you don't realize I'm out of love with them, You realize, you know what it really wasn't what I know, I love them, I was never in love with them like I thought, because you know, do you think you could end up like never falling in love with anybody. I don't believe

that that is possible. I think that, um No, I'm not gonna say that's not possible, because I think so many people live just earth and don't. Really I think maybe you missed out on the person that you would love with because the own whatever decisions or whatever they could have been locked up or whatever. I don't know, but it's just so many things that I feel like, Um, you can love somebody, but love changes, you know what I mean. I feel like you can love someone so

much I want done. You can love someone some away because I I feel like, Um, I still love my songs. Father, I'm not in love with exactly. So we were saying the same thing, you know what I mean. I love him. I love him for the rest of my life. He's very important to me. I think very highly of him. He's a wonderful man, you know what I mean. But I don't see myself being in a relationship. What I'm

saying is the same thing you're saying. I love him though by nature we obviously, I believe we were born to love everybody, right, I feel like so much. So you have to teach a kid to go with a stranger. You have to teach him that because by nature we're trusting and we're giving and loving. So you have to exactly no, no, no, none, especially just when you're born. You have to be taught bad good. It's natural. Don't

talk to somebody tells you this. If somebody does exactly, and you're taught that, and you can see the lightbulb go off when you're telling your kids, like, really, somebody would try to put me in that car. But like I remember telling my son and he was like, why don't they do that? Don't they want to go to heaven? You're not gonna You're not gonna get to heaven like that. Trying to put kids in vans ain't gonna get you to heaven. But in retrospect, for you, I always thought

you were in love. Do you look back and say I wasn't in love now? I think we don't want to admit it though. I think we don't want to say that to this because we don't want to admit that we wasted a lot of time. But it's not wasted times. No, That's why I agree I said a lot of times. In mind, we think I have to say that it was love because I was in love because I don't want to feel like I wasted my time. But I think they are lessons and I think we learned and how to how to do with people and

we see things. I always say this, and this is something that um I point out to all of my friends. Every time you with somebody and you break up with them, I don't care if it's ten years, fifteen years. The sign that you saw that you shouldn't have been with them happened within the first month. I guarantee it. You liked them enough to keep going and you ignored it.

But I guarantee you if you look back in retrospect and say to yourself, I knew on week two when that motherfucker did this ship that I shouldn't have fun with him. Right, What do you think, Because I know you had a long term relationship, they were definitely some red flags. But you think looking back, you feel like you were in love or you feel like I feel like I wasn't in love. I don't feel like that's my one love, and that's it. I understand the logic

of behind what you're saying. Um you know, I'm sitting here thinking about it as you're saying that. Actually, however, with that particular situation, UM, I do think I was in love, like I was able to look past a whole lot of things, and I feel like it was I was blinded by love. Um Am, I still in love? No? I love him, yes, of course, but I'm not in That's what I'm saying. I really believe that you realize that this isn't the person, and that you really wasn't

in love. You was you love spending time with them. You love with whatever they had to offer, and I don't mean financially or whatever. I mean whatever they had to in your life give to you in your life, and and you you were infatuated with that, so that when that break happens, it hurts. But over time, you could look at that same person be with somebody else and it don't affect you the same way because it's like, I'm not moving like that. That's not where I'm at,

you know what I mean. And when you get to that point, it may be a situation where you get back with them and you realize, no, I'm really in love this person. Over in time showed me that I was. I'm not trying to hear. I'm not here to tell people that who they're not in love or not. I just believe that it's one one time only only because of my face. Honestly, you know, I listen to me, or you think you know, and you said because of your faith and the way, that's what I was just

thinking of. You took the word right out of my head. I hope you're right because of my faith, because I want to end up with that one person. I don't want to turn this into like I really hope that you're right. I definitely don't want to turn it into a Bible city, but don't want you to. I want you to understand everything on earth is just an example of the relationship. We should have a God. Right now, people want to call it the universe or whatever they

want to call it. But at the end of the day, the relationship that you're the bond between a mother and a and a daughter is a relationship that is supposed to have a God. The father and the daughter, the father and the son is just an example of how much God loves us, and we should love him and reverence him. So a marriage relationship is just that relationship. God is a jealous God. Why do you think we're jealous?

It's everything is a mimic, it's a relationship. Is an example of how we should feel about him, right, or whatever you want to believe in, because I'm not trying to force my beliefs on anybody. Whatever you believe is

that for exactly. So what I'm saying is when you have that you, and when you believe that strongly in your heart, then you it's impossible for me to believe that me and my imperfection can't get it wrong and assume that for this amount of time I was in love with somebody and not grow and say to myself, you know what, that wasn't necessarily a case. I wasn't

really in love with this person. We have to be mature enough to accept that we don't know everything and we made a mistake and was with somebody like it hurts you to realize that I was with especially with women, because with men. With men, we feel like a lot of times women feel like, well he's a man. He can be seven years old, get another girl, have a baby, and everything is different. I have to start over and it's more difficult fas and I respect that point of view.

So a lot of times you're angry with yourself and you feel like I spent all this time with this nigga, I'd better been in love. I can't be this fucking crazy. But it's like, we are imperfect. Let me ask you this, what if you're in love with somebody who's taken and you feel like you're in love with somebody, but there with some I believe that. Look, this is what I believe. And I'm not trying to tell Aboudy to go for and not that that's some advice ain't gonna give you,

but but this is what I'm saying. Just because somebody is with somebody don't mean that that's not the person for you. That don't necessarily mean that they're not for you. It just means that right now they could be going through their phase of not really knowing what they're doing

and being in the wrong situation. And I believe that if you trust again, I don't want to turn the Bible state, but if you trust God and say yourself, I trust that whatever is supposed to happen for me, He's gonna make available for me, then it will become available for you. All right. Now, let's get to one of these questions that somebody wrote in because that actually from us. I was the other day I was. I have been married for eight years. My husband and I

had our first child after two years of marriage. We put our child first, which kind of put our marriage on the back burner. In hindsight, that was not a good idea. Everything he does irks me. It didn't become this way overnight. It happened after he fell into a depression a few years back. I did my best to support him because I know what that feels like from experience. He sat at home during this time, which was okay

at first, but ultimately letter our financial ruin. As it was happening, I begged him to get a job, but he went inside worked while he was at home with our child. Though that wasn't where I wanted him to be in my resentment group, and her question is I just don't love him and I don't want to be with him anymore. So I try to work this out for the take of our marriage, going fast, Get going fast? Why the kid is young enough to not be so attached,

and then you can get over it. Don't wait till the kid is nineteen and starts hating himself and blaming itself for you. You know what I mean going now? And what I say is this, I can never depression is serious, and we can't question depression. But what I do know is that I'm a man who believes in figure this shit out. Let's get the funk up and

let's figure this shot out. I've been dead, poor I had nothing in my pocket and I've had millions, so I know what it's like to be able to say, bro, I'm gonna figure this shot out and I'm gonna get some mother fucking money for my family. And so some people ain't built like that. And that's why I don't believe she wants to be with him, because she not attracted to that weak nigger ship. And I ain't mad at her. She's supposed to because he's you know, and

I don't want to get all the way crazy. But but at the end of the day, when you got children, he is one thing to say, I'm by myself and I gotta but when you when you have a child, it's something that that's in you that has to I told my son the other day. My son said, data,

can you lift this car up? I said, if it fell on you, I could, because I'm gonna find something in myself that's gonna be bigger than, greater than who I name my daughter, Believe beyond, because when I look at her, I gotta say to myself, I gotta believe beyond every circumstance, every situation, everything I'm going through, and know that I gotta provide for her and also out to know that there's something greater for me beyond this situation,

beyond my last name. I gotta believe beyond whatever I can even see. So if you can't find that it muster that power up in yourself to provide for your family, then you don't need to be with him. He needs to figure out hisself. He needs to figure out who he is and when he's doing. There's only so much you can help him. You try for six years. But depression is a real thing. There's a real thing. But

sometimes but you gotta live your life too. So until they get over their depression, you gotta praveing them and let them rock. But you can't be miserable your life because another grown person is going through what they're going through and not trying to say what they're going through isn't real. But is it your obligation to not be happy? No, it's not all right. Now, here's one last question you're

gonna I want to hear this your answer to this one. Okay, I've been dating this girl for quite some time and I'm in love with her. I want to be with her. I can really see us in the future. The only thing is she's in school about five hours away, and you know how college schedules are set up. Well, when she's the way, I tend to sleep around and it's only because she's gone, and I really don't want this to be what I but what can I do to stop myself from this? Bro? You're gonna sleep around when

she comes around to just seeing you? Bro? Sorry, Yeah, it's it's cute that you weren't mean this person that's sleeping around, but you can't bus men. We we put up so many excuses on why we do the funk ship do we do? But at the end of the day, Bro, you're saying, you, Bro, you got you gotta figure out if when you're gonna get tired of you know, or if you're ever going. It's just a difficult thing. It's one of those things that I can't even I'm the

worst to give advice from that. But at the end of the day, you know, just being a buck at the end of the day, I don't think it's because she five hours where she'll get there and you'll find a way to suck somebody. What made you finally realize that it was time to settle down? Um, far settling down. I had already settled down, but I just think that what made me resent. I'm gonna be honest with you,

social media and our lack of discretion, you know. I think that's what turned me off from just fucking with bitches. And I think that's not a fair reason. I'll be honest with you. That's not a good reason because it wasn't my respect for the sanctity of the relationship. It was like these we just talked too much, and that's what made me feel like, let me just stay at home and let me just not if you ever noticed me?

And how just because I feel like whatever home? Because I don't want to I don't want to be involved in any ship. So what I think, what I think happens is you start looking around and realizing, like I started getting to like when I watch people post and I watched the little pictures of the guys watch and and and in the trip, and I'm like, Yo, you're

not showing his face for a reason. You stop showing his fucking watch, bitch, you giving them away, Like, stop doing that, Like why do we have to talk so much? So it made me bring, are you gonnow that you're in his car exactly, Like why the fund you posting up in his car, you little bird exactly. So it's like this whole real quick, Yeah, this whole, this whole thing about showing everything and talking about everything and a

lack of discretion. It kind of bothers me. So it kind of like it's like it's so annoying because and isn't that a turn off for a guy? Girl does that corny ship? And that's let me tell you. And then I see Nick his wife from later, I'm like, yo, you know this bach is just on ninety trips with ninety different things and you disgusting. No, but my thing is my thing is you know, like I've been out here,

like you know, I've been. I've been, and I've been doing videos for the first video idea was like seven years ago. Like it's pretty much seven years ago, right, that's not too long, I don't but I think it's longer than a lot of girls last. But it's it's been a while, you know whatever. In seven years, there hasn't really been no bullshit about me because I refused to be famous or for some bird ship like that. If it's gonna be my if it's gonna be birdship.

It's gonna be my bird ship. I'm not gonna bring some guys, you know, bringing somebody I respect, because if I'm working with you, I respect you. You know what I mean, down because I want a little attention. But even and it gets me so mad seeing God's funk with these girls. It gets I'm not even alive. He's like, I'm and you're doing the right thing, and you're doing you know, you're on a good stretch of you know,

not being a whore. What happens is no, seriously, what happens is the public eye is so dangerous because women will taunt your girl and just say things that aren't even you know. He's like, yo, you know he fun with my friend, he'd be buying my friend or type

of ship. Who's your friend? And let's see the friend, Like if this this, if it makes you this upset and you want to make her this man, show me to receive let's see the evidence, and then we gotta It's like it causes problems in your space and your energy is altered because of these fucking bitches who've got nothing else to do. But then and then you gotta look at yourself and say and be honest enough. One thing about me is I'm very honest to a fault.

So what I say is if I gotta blame myself, because it's like, bro, if you didn't do the fun ship before you now you're in a situation where everything you guilty. And I always tell people I'm going to jail for every charge I did, But I'm not going to jail for somebody else charge. I can't do it. So I'm not gonna sit here and play with you about fight with you about some ship I didn't do if I did it, Listen, it is what it is.

But at the end of the day, I'm not about to be fighting and wrestling about some ship that has nothing to do with me. And we got to learn how to look past the jealousy and the hatred that right, And like you said, when you're when you're dating on certain types of people, certain a lot of people are gonna come to you with stories once they find out, and it's like, do you you want to listen to

them or you want to be happy? Like just I feel like you should let your relationship flow and stead like having a lot of outsider a lot of outside static you're never gonna have happening. When Tony Breckon said that ship, like if you ain't going leave, then shut the funk up, you know what I mean? And I think that's the error that we used to have because my grandmother, like I think my grandfather had like, you know,

two or three kids it and nobody really understood. I remember acting like, hold on, man, how is uncle okay with what's going because it was back then it was like listen, that's my nigga, right funked up, But that's my nigga, you know, And we're about to be out here putting our business out here. But the best believe we got in this back room, I told this nigga,

he ain't ship, you know what I mean. So I just think that it should be a certain level of exclusivity when it comes to relationships, and it's not that anymore. What I believe from the jump was that to keep it private. But then what happens is when you keep your relationship private. Now you got her people telling her white, and then when you told him, and then when you tell them from it, when you tell him from the beginning, like look, I just don't want to know none of

the issues that come along with it. Then you do it and post it, and now all the issues that are said was gonna happen happens, and now everybody looking at like why he out here? Makes you look crazy? Which no mighty knew who she was before you started button in. So now it's just what can you do? You know, it's out the way because you don't even have to do no wrong. I'm telling you as it's like real, you know, life experience. I'm not gonna lie.

I feel like in order for a relationship to work, it has to be private for a long time, until you're very solid and secure, because if you put things out there too early, people do not want to see you happy. Some people do, but then other people would be like, oh wow. He's what I've realized too is people don't even know that Hayden right, Like I used to think, like how you just this that evil? But in their mind they're thinking they justified, like she need

to know, she need to know how to any ship? Why? Why but a stranger? That's ridiculous. This was a very insightful. Actually, we had a great time with you because I do always like rica lest honesty and his theories on relationship. So can we bring this to Miami for a special lip service in Miami segment. I think that this would be fun. Did the service and had a great time. She was like, next time I do this, can we cancel everything for the rest of the day. I didn't

want to leave. Yeah, let's let's do a special South Beach one. I'm down, Let's do it. Let's do it at this time. I'm gonna get the big big flies penthouse at this time for us. Right, we're gonna film and the camera crews for your guys. My guys is gonna be ten cameras is gonna be looking like you know what I mean that. We have to do it, and I making house. Make this happen soon, you never for television. Let's do it this summer. Yeah, maybe we

should do a special. Yeah, let's do it. And I actually have some sit I see y'all doing this ship with Draking somebody. I'm gonna have all replace. They're gonna be down and be texting and she's gonna be curving. Yeah, we just Sundy Beach. We're gonna do that. We're gonna do three days of lip service, okay, and we're gonna in Miami now that we're gonna do with you all three Yeah, alright, cool, let's do it. We do a specially in Miami version. Yes, this is all brought to

you by Rico Love. Yes, it was gonna be so sexy and Flynn think and then maybe if you have some new music that you would to perhaps some of the episodes and we can do it like that some parents and they could be on lip service and see, I have a marketing mind. So by the way, I just came up with ten ideas exactly, I love you and no. But it was really refreshing having a guess with so much faith. It's it's like, that's so good

for me. Right, guys, I'm already talking about God, even though I know everybody thinks I'm evil and that I want to say I want to say something, Oh please, because I don't want you to. I don't want you to ever say that even though you know what I mean. God is with us from jump. We're imperfect, were imperfect, So it's no way that we could ever be in His good graces if it was up to what we did and how we thought and how we behaved ourselves.

So at the end of the day. That's why it's important not to judge anybody, because the blessings I have are not because the good I've done. That's why I know that anything that ever happened bad to me wasn't because the bad I've done. I've never was good enough to earn his love for me, right, so how could I have to be bad enough to lose it? You get what I'm saying. So I want us to always know and no matter what, stop judging people when they

say I'm praying on this what you just was doing this? Yes, you're right, that was And guess what, God still love me? Why are you worry? That's Remember, there's no even, there's no even though it's no in spite of it's just the fact that God loves me and that's it and I love him and that's it and love ladies and gentlemen, and uh, let's not let's make sure that we just got a advason because you do have you know your music that you do all the time, and it's UM

July July we Love Music conference. UM is gonna be an Indianapolis, Indiana. Uh. The reason why I put in the Midwest is because I feel like they don't have opportunity. They don't have access to a lot of the information and celebrity and advice that people have in other cities. So I wanted to bring it closer to them and give them my opportunity. I only charged one seventy five for two day events. I did a hotel rate for one thirty for a night with the J W. Murray.

I want to make it accessible with people, and I wanted people to come. You should come, You guys should come. Maybe we should do a special service at the conference. So I think it's really cool to be able to educate people on how to create an incredible record, how to produce a great body of work. I got bet Cox and um Danger producing the track live from scratch in front of the entire UM convention. We got treated there.

We're gonna be talking about her project, how she was able to maintain her career after all these years being a woman. There's a lot of women who follow me and I have a lot of female fans, and what I taught them last year was proper studio etiquette. How to know somebody mean business, how to know when somebody's being a professional, when they're trying to fuck you. I want to make sure I let all my guys know who was at the conference. Listen, these are your sisters.

I don't want us to trying to match make here. I want if you want to work with somebody, let's be serious. I want to stress that I got Tammy Rivera coming. We're gonna talk about her transition from reality star to artists. I got um Ludicrous coming. He's gonna speak about picking records and understand how to break down records. I'm doing a lecture that breaks down Abbey Row, which is one of my favorite Beatles albums, and understanding what

makes something great. My father is a chef, and when he cooks, when he eats a meal, he's able to dissect and say it's a regular, it's nutmegs, this, all these things in the meal because he's he's perfected the craft of understanding what makes a meal great. I want to show people how to do that. Music listen to it and not just listen to it and love it your signing. Your job whenever you're around me is to

not just like something. It's to understand why you like it and what makes it great, not so that you can mimic it, but so that when you create something, you know that feeling. So when I when I first heard you Got It Bad a Boy Usher, I remember how it felt and I felt that same way when I wrote that Goes my Baby Pusha because I understood, like this makes me feel this way. So when I wrote it, that song identified with that feeling, so I knew I had something special. I want to teach people

how to do that. And that's great because you know, there's certain songs that you hear it, and when you hear it, you get love songs. And I mean, you know, there's fun pop songs that you dance to it that anybody could that's a great song no matter who sings it. But then there's songs that you hear and you have like a real special guction. You get emotional. I remember when that song when I'm going through this, Yeah, when I first heard We Found Love by Rihanna, I stopped

my car. I'm not I'm not exaggerating, but it was like it felt like a music video because it was raining, and I stopped the car and I was just like, what the fund did she just say when she said we found of Love in a hopeless place? I was done, and I was like, the way you describe your emotions. To have that gift and have the ability to describe how people are feeling, we cannot take that for granted.

We cannot. We cannot take it likely lightly. We have to take it serious and we have to make sure that it's our duty, is an obligation to be great every time we do anything. And I want people to know me for my greatness as opposed to you know how much when people ask you about how much money you make and all that, I think it's corny like, because guess what, you don't matter if I got a billion, if I got nothing. I have a gift. And that's

the thing that makes room for you. That's the thing that puts you in the presence of kings and queens and greatness is your gift and the ability that you have that's intangible. If you focus on the intangibles. I promise you everything in this world that you could physically touch you can have if you perfect the intangibles. So that's what the conference is about to come. You know, ge, I'm always talking. I was just watching a movie about

waking up and super consciousness. This is good for my brain. Awakening. Yes, I need it. Thank you so much, because I was really glad that you came. I was looking forward to because i've been when I have you up here, and I know we tried to make it happen a few times. Scheduling Wise said I know you'll be back again, absolutely, and we're doing in Miami and Miami down. All right, we call up lip Service