Episode 78: Ft. Teairra Mari

tip of the day. We always have to start the show with the tip of the day, and today's tip is how do you handle when you date a man who has a drinking problem? Has anybody ever dated someone who has your drinking problem? When you feel like, okay, he drinks way too much, we get into arguments I can't handle it. But wait, wait, it's a drinking problem where he drinks excessively, or it's a drinking problem where he drinks once in a while, but when he drinks

overboard and yell like I have done that. Yeah, I've dated a guy like that. How do you handle that? Break up with his as they can't get it together. Yeah, Like you gotta get it together. You gotta don't know how to control yourself as an adult, and speaking from experiences,

I've done that before. So I had to wake up, like, girl, get your ship together, Like, you can't be just out here drinking, like You're still accountable for your actions, you know, so whether you were drunk or not, Like, don't listen

to Jamie Fox all the time. You can't just always blame it on the alcohol, you know what I'm saying, Like, you have to take accountability, So pace yourself and you know, be an adult when you drink if you like to drink, right, Have you never done anything so bad that you would like embarrassed to call the person the next day? Um?

Probably the worst thing that I've done is like, yeah, like going too a rage, Like if somebody steps on my toe and then I'm like ready to fight and all my friends are like calm down, calm down now to nobody. Yeah yeah, and stuff like that. Yeah. Now, have you ever been with somebody that drinks too much? Tag you have? How do you handle that? How do I live with it? Every day? I mean, I mean what can you do? Can you stay with somebody and help them work through it or is it just a

lost cause some people just drink. I smoke. The public really don't know that because I don't put it out there. We all know you smoke. Everybody, don't y'all know I smoke, cause y'all know, but you don't. Never see me on Snapchat with the blunt and my mouth for Instagram with weed, like I don't do all of that. So the general public, my friends and family, of course, y'all know I smoke

about you. But you know, you know, everybody got their vices and you just gotta take you know, slipping moderation. I guess when when people what if he won't like, what if he just gets pits, he's drunk, embarrassing, you end up in an argument. What can you do? Is there any hope? I dealt with that and in a relationship too, but I can't. I don't have a solution for that. I don't. It's just a big problem. Um it's it's a fight, you know what I mean, And

it's just it's a fight. It happens, then you deal with the aftermath of the fight, and then you move on, like but I'm not sure if that's a good way to deal with that. Now it's not because then it just it's going to keep happening. Because that's how I remember. Please, Oh you want to hear a story, y'all. You y'all know I got one story. Story satiago. Let's go. No. So, one time my boyfriend got so fucking drunk. We were

living together. He got so drunk he went in the bathroom, right, and he came home and I was like, look at you. I was like, look at you. You get drunk like you in college. You're like a little fucking kid. Grow up. And he's like so trashed. He goes in the bathroom, right, So whatever, I'm in the living room. I noticed, like a long time goes by, So I'm like, let me go check on him. So I go and I knock on the door because that's a rule. I always when

somebody's in the bathroom, got a knock on the door before. Yeah, that's that's something I teach my son, you know. They Yeah, they taught me that, you know when I was a kid. They take a ship, don't come in here, knocked, So check it out, knocked and he don't answer. So I'm banging. Now He's like what I'm like, I'm like, yo, get off the bathroom. I gotta use the bathroom. So I walk away from the bathroom. I sit down for like another twenty minutes. Still he hasn't came out the bathroom.

So I'm like, all right, I'm going in the bathroom now right. So I opened the bathroom. They got it's laying down on the floor, face first, and it smells crazy and there, and then I took a ship in the bathtub. He yo. So I started kicking him. I'm like yo, I'm like, yo, get up, get up. I swear tonight, tonight, I'm gonna do it tonight, tonight, I'm gonna kill you. I didn't look at it. I could smell it, Pete, I've seen it. I gagged. I was stressed, like I know when I first saw it. When I

first saw it, I like I said, I gaged. I couldn't take it. It was. I got a weak stomach. So I got I walked out the bathroom, and I was I just I coached myself like I'm gonna go back in the bathroom. I'mau the snigger up right, So I go in the bathroom. I started kicking him. I forced him to get up. I put him in the bed, and then in the morning when he woke up, I told him. I was like, Yo, get up and clean the fucking bathtub. You took a ship in the bath

I wasn't gonna use. I wasn't gonna clean. Now, you got me. That's a grown us man by his mother. I was like, yo, go clean. He was like, what are you talking about. That's how bad it was. That's why I'm telling you this part. He did not remember that. They didn't remember what I was kicking the ship out of him together. If it was like salad, that I could pick it up with a paper towel, na, I would do it. No, it was a full man, all right.

So he was another one, another one. I mean, I've never apparienced that, but I would assume that if it was salad, that would have get some paper towels. If I don't think I could leave it overnight. No, you're gonna get your podcast, You're gonna get the paper, and you're gonna coute yourself. How long I tell you sho again. I left. I woke up. Once he woke up, I waited him to wake up, and I left. I didn't come home for like two days. I was not playing. I love him there, I love him there, me and

my son gone, are you crazy? And never came home. But come on, got that we're gonna cut that far had to be because that's your said. He Amen, we're gonna cut the sun's part too. At it at it? Did it happen often? Did it happen? Yes? He used to get drunk like that. Every time he got drunk. That's how he would do it. It wasn't no, no, no, no no. It was just like things like that. He wouldn't remember. He would cross his car, he would types of ship. This is real life. Yes, this is real.

This is a real drinking problem. He I mean, it wasn't every day. That's why it's different when he would drink. It's not like he can have two or four or five. We talk about the difference between an alcoholic problem and an alcoholic dicoholics, somebody who will wake us up everything. I think. I think there's just different levels to be an alcoholic. That's a different level. Yeah. Please, another time another time comes to him drink and I'm like, look

at you, look look at yourself, look at you. It's disgusting. So he's like, so he goes and he like, what are dripping on the floor? On the floor. This man went to the front door of the house and pete at the front door. That's what I said, that Angela, But Angela, my friend, my good friend. That's exactly what I said to him. I said, what the funk are you a dog? I was like, look at this, I'm married to a dog. Do you ever feel man? I

thought older? That was the serious relationship many with him? Yeah, I did all that. No, No, I mean, like I said, we would go through that, have the fight. You know, it will be a fight, and then we would have to deal with the aftermath of the fight and move on, you know, because you don't want that to keep happening. You know, it would keep it happened a lot. I'm not gonna I hated I hated him when he was drunk.

He knows this. If he's listening to this, he knows I'm talking about him because from the beginning of our relationship, it's a totally different person when he drinks. From the beginning of our relationships, everything could be so great. Then we go out to have a good time. You get drunking,

you know we hate each other. That I should have known that our relationship wasn't gonna work out because just one year into our relationship, two years into our relationship, I realized that I could not go out with him, We could not go out socially together, because everything was a problem. When you come home, moms, every time we will go out together, it would be a nightmare, like something that you're gonna get into an argument. Ever. Have

you ever had a bad experience with a drunken man? Absolutely? What's the um? Let me think, girl, because I don't even want to say too much because y'all might know who I'm talking about him. We don't, No, I would like this guy would just get totally disrespectful. Like when he's sober, he's respectful. When he's drunk, he's a disrespectful fuck, Like he disrespects you in your face, like bit just

laying on his lap board. My son's father came. We out of that again, exactly know, like he's laying on bitches lads, and let's just like respectful. I don't even I don't tolerate that, and you know that. But I love you when I know that you're inebriated, So maybe we could talk about it tomorrow, but that like given, um, I don't know what. You get tired of giving a guy a pass? You get tired? Yeah, mate, what because it seemed like does his name Ryan with ca sa?

I plead the fist? What about you? GD? I know, listen, I feel like I've been there sometime. What's the worst expert of the room. You're crazy when you're drunk too, though, and so am I say, you know, I'm not all of us. I'm not saying that crazy ship. Yeah, let's take responsibility absolutely with him. He'll get so drunk and then we'll get into whatever it is and then he don't even remember, right, That's what pisses me off. But

that's well know that they don't remember. They really don't remember. Yes, I blacked out, I mean not to but after time every time, but I don't think every time. I think they tricked up, remember pissing pieces, but they don't, or this happened out of that, and he'll be like, no, it didn't know. I didn't and I'd be like I was there, Yeah, other people were there, and there you're saying people he didn't say it, or that that's you know, whatever didn't happen, and that that's what pisses me off.

Like get drunk, get funked up, whatever. But when you get to the point where you can't remember saying and doing things like how do what about when you sunk up? What can you do after? Well, we can't know. I'll say something about that. Oh no. Usually when I'm drunk and I do something stupid, which is nine out of ten times when I'm drunk, I say, I don't remember, yea, even if I do, like what, don't tell me, don't tell me. I don't remember nobody, I don't want to.

I'm sorry, No, no, no, that's the worst. I had some friends in this room drunk, so I had to really like control and cast myself when I drink. And I'm gonna tell you, y'all, it's an alcohol for everybody. Are you light or dark? What thinks to Angela? Yes? Vacca won't have me black crazy, black head? Okay? No vodka no good. I drink tequila. I like drinking. Don want to turn up and be crazy? Right? No? No, no, no, no, Vodka makes me turn up and be crazy. Doesn't see

Vodka does everything wrong to me? It foks on my bladder like I can't. Poka is poison. It does't depend on what you drink too, because it's feel a certain way. Yeah, I feel like fequilla because I had some coffee and it it makes me like, oh I I don't want to go to sleep right dark for me is like okay, now I'm cool, I'm collected and I can I can enjoy myself, have a buzz and mure drink. Yes for sure. Yeah all right, Now what would y'all do if your

man makes a new friend who's attractive. Let's just say no friends. Friends is like a work thing though she shouldn't be a friend. She's like she's a co worker acquainted somebody they cool with, but they got to speak to each other. They were co worker together dinners because they have they don't have dinners. They don't have dinners. They have meetings and business chests where they got to travel together. I'll be there to I can come and

we are going. You can't now, okay, So then because I get a little crazy when it goes, I have to cross that bridge when I get to it. But let's talk about that. Like, Wendy, what is the limits to your guy in a business relationship, you know, where they got to talk to each other, communicate, work on things together for certain hours. I think, um, we're certain like tones of speech, you know, like you know what that Yeah, no, no, no, that's not cool. Yeah no,

that's not cool. It's not cool for you. Hell no, let me know. Yeah, I just it's a certain tone of a relationship or you know, business partnership, whatever it is. It's just a certain tone and that I won't tolerate because you've been in relationships where the guy obviously has to communicate with other women for what he does have to clothes that well, it's not so difficult because a lot of times, even though I'm busy, I'm very involved, Like you know, I've dealt with important men and I've

been like, you know, okay, this is your solence. Oh she she, she calling you right now. Okay, we're busy. Let me answer it, let me talk, let me you know directly, because women don't give a funk sometimes when they don't, but at least I know. So now, bitch, if you want to cross that line, then now I'm gonna have to. Yeah, you know what's up? And you looked me in my eye and you were lying, ass bitch, So now you have to deal with the rap. Can you're not pointing at me when you say what about

to stuff you've had to deal with? That YouTube? G I mean like, I feel like it's a difference between somebody having a friend and working with them, you know what I mean? I don't. I don't think I would be over right okay with somebody with my man having private time with a new friend, whether they're working together

or not. If you want to, if you guys have to meet up at night where there's dinner involved, I can come with you, or you can have other friends there where I know you know, it's just a common work thing. You know what I mean. I'm crazy. I couldn't even imagine. Would you rather not know? No? No, I would rather, like she said, be involved. You know what, do you ever lie about things because you know your man will get up set? We all do? I feel like that you lied about things seeing man because you

know he's not gonna like it. You know me, I I don't tell my man anything exactly how I don't know. I don't don't, but I'm gonna ask. That's exactly I think. If I was dating somebody, um, you know seriously that it has more. You know, who understands my lifestyle, who works in entertainment like I do. I think I would be able to be more open about certain relationships with them. But you know, when my last relationship was just somebody who you know, who's just a regular person, doesn't work

in entertainment. So you know, I don't feel like I could have been honest him about certain relationships because he wouldn't understand it, you know what I mean. He would give me problems for everything. Yeah, that's a I would take him to certain events and he would have a problem, like I gotta change if I'm going to be with him because this is what he wants. I always quit smoking for guys, and I always quit down. I might bend a little bit, but not too much. Yeah, but

I've been a little just I compromised. I tried to compromise good. Yeah, so I'm not like so stubborn about who I am and what I want. I think it's good if it's better for you. Yeah. Absolutely, I would never change for somebody, But if I felt like, you know, where he's ready, it's actually be something that would benefit me. Even if if I'm not with your ass. Yeah, you know, I might still take those changes on into my next chapter. Yeah, I think I did that. I think I changed for

the better. He wanted me to change, and I feel like, like, what things about you change? My demeanor changed a lot, Like I'm not as aggressive as I used to be, and I also became more private I used to, you know, when the beginning of Twitter, I used to my every move, my every thought, my everything, and it's just like some you know, I'm really really to myself now. Um. I improved on the way I communicate with people as well. You know, I showed more interests and like gratuity and

appreciation to things. For me thinking about it, I'm so submissive when I'm in love. I've changed so much. Yeah, read that and be like why did I? I think when I start regretting it as when I started going back to the player that I am meant to be exactly, I'm like, what am I doing that? That's not even Do you feel like people have like a the wrong

idea about you from watching you on TV? Absolutely? Yeah, Like people want to hang out with certain people that they tell me, Like, I didn't know what to expect and I'm like, okay, you know, I guess to know me is to love me, you know, or to love me is to know me. That's because I was like, okay, t's gonna be on love and hip Hop When you first started, you know, a whole different person, right. I was like, damn girl, I mean but no, but Angela, let's be honest. Yes, and I'm a don't start now.

I won't be now on type of person. I give you what you give me all the time. I'm nice, I'm very nice. But when you start with me, then I don't know a middle, you know. And that's something that I'm working on, right because I don't want to be on national TV not knowing the middle as a fucking twenty nine year old woman, you know. So I gotta, you know, get it together. I'm still working on a work in progress. Are you single now? I am single? Okay?

Are you dating anybody? Every time you asked here, she always does have like some special boot because you seem like a relationship kind of girl. I am a relationship kind of girl. But you know, I'm just you know, playing the field and music. Yeah, body language is like no, watch the next season. Yeah, I mean right now, I am just playing the field and focused on my music. Okay. You know, I want to release an album, so that's what I'm focused on. Okay, do you know where the

album is gonna be at yet? Have you? Are you going to be independent? Um? I don't know yet. I'm I'm like in the discussion with a couple of different situations and also so being independent, So I don't know if I want to because I feel like I could make more money being independent, So but I feel like I could get more exposure being on a label. You know what I'm saying. So it's like this pros I don't I don't know. Yeah, I'm still trying to work that out with myself ideally, Like if you could be

on a label, where would you like to be? You know what? In this day and time? I don't know. I don't know, but maybe somewhere that's an independent like distribution label. You know. I don't want to say any names because I don't want to. All right now, people have an emailion questions, so I printed somebody out all right, mm hmm, let me try to find a good one for you guys. Damn, that's like all four page letter. I end not listening. I have a bunch of people

asking questions. Girls. Some of these are a little weird, and I don't understand why we have to all right, So this is one woman says she's been in an honor and relationship with the guy for three years. She said she's known him since she was twelve. That's history, right. How does she know? I don't know? She said. We broke up in February. He's cheated multiple times, giving me an STD more than once, had two abortions that he

didn't pay for it. Girl, jump his ass. Ain't nothing else to say the same, that he changed, she said in February, this happened, Yes, she said, I want, but I'm not sure if I should put myself in that situation again. Should I give him another chance? I should? I count my losses and keep him count your losses. But she should have kept been moving where she's gonna wait from H and V Like No, No, she needs the next Stephanie. No, but let's admit it. We've all

stating relationships with guys that have treated us shitty. Yes we have, but the three STDs and back at least pay for my boy. She goddamn it. At least don't get at least pay for me to get numbed up. I paid for the abortion before I got to take the exactly. Come on, can you imagine being with it now? Because it's one thing when you're going out on your woman, but Sam, you protect yourself. Why you gotta come and bring me back with your I'm sorry, yes, exactly, you

look dirty? Not many times, and believe me, little three times. It's going to be a fourth, fifth and the six. I mean it. It was only only in February. You know, it's not enough time to really completely change from all that bullshit. I feel like an STD is a deal breaker if you give me, because that could have been a it could have been in terrible that's a deal break. What if she was pregnant when she had at CD, that's really like, I don't know, No, no, girlfriend, move forward.

The coucher losses. Ten months is a long enough time to you know, to have a nice pillow to move on on, like, go another time months, baby, and you'll be somebody that you hate having sex with. Hell no, no, not even for money. Yeah, no, work my ass off. Work to rather work hard and get right. You just slightly dislike it. It's just not that great, and you know what's wrong? And have sex with this guy? Y'all know,

I think that's all a part of love. Though it's part of to talk about me he rest in peace. Always got to talk about that little dick, dead guy, R dick tell me about l D T Yeah, R l D This neck on the Hennessy bottom? Oh hell no? How long was it? The neck of the girl? Okay, now that's not no, that's horrible. I where I was? That the whole that whole thing though, just but even the length. But are y'all wet with or length? I like a fair share of both. But if I had to,

I'm long. Yeah, I'm gonna take that thing heavy. I mean, my my first choice is lame and girl, but if you like, if if I have to, I still need a little left. But girl, like I could go, I could take I like seven inches with a lot of girlf is nice, but ten answers, nine inswers and a lot of girls about her was definitely a che chaser when it comes to that, like I'm all about nothing's worse than a long, skinny dick. That's terrible. That well,

that ain't even long, and we were together. We were only together for eight months, but it was a it was a relation, crazy relationship, and I just to make it put in mud. But you could have stayed with him longer. You think like you could have stayed with him? Nah, bro, he was the reason why I moved to Atlanta. I had to get the funk away from his crazy. His little dick made you moved to Atlanta. I got it, wasn't it was crazy as he was crazy. How you're

gonna be crazy with it? He has little dick syndrome. You can't be normal with a little dick. It's just like Napoleon in syndrome. You're a little dick as he wouldn't see. Have you ever said something to a guy that you feel bad? You said later, Yeah, because my mouth is reckless, girl, all kinds of chick, because you know, when you attack a guy's dick or they're wallet, then they're feeling some kind of like yeah, so I've said some things, you know, well your salary every Yeah, yeah, girl,

I've said something along those lines. And then I've been like damn, And when we've been trying to work it out and he's like, well, you said this and he holds on tour forever and that's why we ain't together. That's how you a bit. You keep bringing up ocean. Yeah, like what did you did? You feel bad? That's what I say, But yeah, I felt bad. Yeah, because if I wanted to work it out with them. But it's like you hit me low, I'm gonna go even lower. You know, I'm gonna hit you really wear you trying

to see you can see. Yeah, but that's that's not a person person. That's for you. You know, if you're going to for tat like that, what about your step you ever said? I know you did? Yeah. I mean, guys are so sensitive about everything. They'll say the worst things to you and you say the littlest thing like you never made me come and they die. They're they're like, oh, you know, I want y'all makeup. It's like, I don't know why you want to sensitive? We were fighting, calm down,

but I regret it. I like or or your dick is little because they never let it go. They just never let it go right. I'm trying to think, try to just to be careful that. But what about if you say a guys, if you call it a guy, different name, not during that just regular like you slip his name, like if he has a name like you like keep the conversation moving like it didn't happen. No, I mean you're just like like I would just keep

talking and act like it didn't happen. Now. See, I always catch myself, So if I'm about to call you see when your name is John, I'll be like, still, it's it. That's good catching myself all the time, though, But what if it yeah's catching yourself. Yeah, but what do you do, like if it just comes out like she said, I just act like it didn't happen, and I'd be like, I didn't say that, You're crazy, not

gonna lie. That's happened to me a few times. It's not like damn, but like like like names like Will and Bill or something like that. I don't know if that was a good. Yeah, Sean just was watching The Fresh Prince and were talking about Will Smith and that's why I called you Will my bad right, Yeah, you just gotta make some ship up. But God's Will be so mad over that like that. Guys are more sensitive than than we are. Absolutely, well, no, slowdown, it it

might called you the wrong names. Yeah, you're right, don't lie, but I wouldn't keep bringing it up. I will maybe I would, all right, right, alright, even you'll be like, so was that bitch Keisha? We're right, We'll ask Keisha to deal with like alright, right, now, here's another question. So I've been dealing with this guy for twelve years. We've only had a sexual relationship until around year four. He started having feelings and said he loved me. We

talked and agree to keep things how they were. I started dating someone else about six years ago. Now we're married. We have been for three years. My side dude has always been around and knows about my husband. Now that I'm married and giving him less attention, he's professing his love and wanting me to leave my husband. He's doing things he knows he shouldn't do, like texting or calling at the wrong time. Of course, my husband knows nothing

about him. I have no plans on leaving my husband, but I'm scared my side dude may say something about our relationship. What should I do? That sounds like a fatal attraction, first of all, and he should play his position. A pussy woman talking about her side dude, her s who as Nigga. Okay, so she's not sign Nigga's a

whole pussy punk as nigga. And those are those are the guys that you can never cheat on your boyfriend with, the guys that it's just an automatic him because she had known him before she knew her husband always had this relationship. But you know whatever, like people change, you can't always trust people. Just because you once trust them doesn't mean you can always trust them. But you trust somebody knew what somebody you know? I don't know, I

would say I don't. Oh that's hard because somebody that you know, she ain't Mary, may have more feelings for you and they get sensitive like he did. But somebody knew you can't trust. You can't because you don't know them. Right. So hey, ladies, if you don't get married, just be faithful. I mean that's the point again. Yeah, exactly right. But so you you you think a better side, dude, is

somebody knew or somebody your part? No, definitely, if somebody side, would it be somebody you knew for a long time before you probably, like you said, somebody knew because they don't know everything about trains know what I'm saying you don't know where I live. Bitches, don't be bringing your side see your house where your husband's sleep, Like that's just no, you know, so you could train a new side, dude, like she said, like you don't know where I live?

You know you do? You have to think about getting ahead of it and saying something to your husband like this. I saw a movie like that. I forgot what movie was that. It was a movie where it's nigged. It was like a DVD movie. I think we'll Golden Brooks or some ship. Remember, but yeah, I saw a movie like that. I don't know. I think you probably should. But what would you tell the truth? That? Would you

tell half truths? I plead to do because you could just probably it's just a guy trying would tell half true Now would you need to know basis, I'll tell you what you need to know, you would say, because once you bring it up, then there's more questions and

more questions and more questions. It is, Oh, your man wouldn't have to trust you again, right, that's just But what if you're like, yo, he's crazy, then he's going to be like, oh, I need to find out who he is and he's going to be trying to stop him. Somebody might die. Why are why are you bringing this up to your boyfriend? That's what I said, because but that's why you must with a new guy. And once you feel like he's starting the catch feelings, you drop

him and you pick up another new one. Black boom boom? Did he even give it? What is yours about? Yes? You know we're the best, black out, the best, That's what I'm saying. You know, you get the summer fifth. It was last my second Okay. I was like, so your birthday was on the weekend Friday. Yeah, you guys are so cute that tears. Yeah, we really get you ready for capricorns? Yeah okay, okay, well at least we

all get alongst we get along with everybody. We're just amazing. Yeah, here's a good one, and were I totally understand other sagests, but go ahead. I'm currently dating a chick with two kids, ages four and nine. We've been dating for eight months. I really love it, but her kids are so damn bad. They disrespect me and they have no discipline something like relationship. But I can't stand her kids. What should I do? Oh? Damn? He need to move on because you know a mother's love.

You know you can't tell my simple and you can't discipline her kids anyway. How would you feel like if you were dating a guy and he tried to discipline your child. No, I don't have kids, but you got to go, bro, I wish tell me how I will stab a man before I let him discipline my child. You got me fucked up. He has a father who can discipline, and I will discipline him. Trust me, I'll do it good. Even I don't even like for my son's grandparents to discipline him because I remember when I

was a kid. You know, I'm I'm I'm Puerto Rican. It was okay for everybody to hit us, you know what I mean. My uncle just said, that's my aunt, you said as my grandmother, you said us everybody my sister used to be me up all the time, like it was okay. I'm not playing that. I'm not playing that. I tell them, listen, he is. He is higher than y'all, so respect him, okay, like that? Like that, treat him like that. Kids that can never work. You guys saying

my son is really good. If I was with a guy with badass kids, I would probably because I would never would I wouldn't try to discipline someone else's kids. I would move on and within period. I mean, I would probably be with him, but I would be like, listen, I can't with your kids. So you handling your business with your kids, I'm going to handle my business because he's a guy too. Though it's different because yeah, and the kids are always around. Yeah, that's true. So with

the guy, they're not. She talked to the girl before him because I feel bad, that's all these questions. My first answer is you gotta go, and it's not gonna work.

Get a new one, you know. I feel like I feel like he should, you know, like like really seriously talk to her, you know, and tell her like, listen, I can't take your kids are disrespecting me, you know, like can we do something about yeah, exactly, If after that that doesn't, you know, if that doesn't, if it doesn't improve after that, then you know, what can you do?

You gotta move on the kids. If she's any kind of a mother, and you know, the kids are gonna come before, you know what I mean, kids or the dad hears like what you doing? I agree with that kids is acting like that I agree with that. To call a supernanny, yeah, to men with our kids because I'm too opinionate. I'm it's very rare, honey, it's very very rare. And um, I'm just too opinionate. It's so I just would prefer that. But all right, here's the next question. I'm a gemini. I often feel like I

get too attached to people too fast. Okay, rather it's with girlfriends or whether it's with girlfriends or guys, I often can't tell. Often can't tell rather if I have an actual deep connection with someone or from just being my attaching self. Right now, I'm talking to a guy. We've only been talking for a month. He says he likes me but doesn't want to be in a relationship yet. I understand why he feels that way, but I really

feel like I'm developing strong feelings for him. I've even had cases with females I think we are best friends and they only call me a friend or just a coworker or classmate. What do I do to keep myself from getting too attached to people? Like? Stop getting too that's something to say that. Don't we trying to blame it. Don't be trying to dated. Look that ain't got nothing to do with you being a Gemini. First of all, let's start there. Yeah, why did she started like that?

I don't know. Maybe she lonely. She probably the only child that ain't got no friends and she loaned. I ain't no couple, don't be so people's attach. Yeah, I don't like friends like that. They first eating and they feel like they're in a relationship after seeing somebody. You are not supposed to want to be in a relationship with that person. And if that person doesn't want to be with you after month, you should understand, like Sherry, a man is supposed to want you a little bit

more than you want them. I don't here. I can't see myself dating someone for a month and see me wanting to want knowing that I want to be in a relationship. I mean whether I'm like, we got to be in a relationship or not. But you're not. You're not in a month, You're not like okay, but that's attached, like she Maybe she's not. That's a cleany person that doesn't have anything doing a Gemini. Yeah anything like that. That's she's just a cleany person and she needs to work, work,

on herself because that ain't cool. I hate cleaning brands too, like clean you friends who are like, well, where are you at? Why you ain't calling me? Like girl, I'll talk to you, yeah, but you bothn't said, oh, I wasn't invited somewhere something where you at? I'm on my way, girl. No, I'll call you if I want to be around your glass tonight. And maybe it slipped my mind to call you. You know, it's maybe I wasn't invited here. You know what I'm saying, So chill. I still love you. I'll

talk to you when I talk to you. I feel like I get attached to people fasts too, but not everybody, come on right everybody? No no, no, no, no, no no. And you don't even like the word she needs to practice being I think, yeah, she needs to practice and joint time we click. But I'm not attached to you. But we click, yeah, you know. And I don't mind saying that I'm attached to my best friends or even

even yeah somebody. But I mean, even when I'm attached, when I say I love this person, this is my best friend, I'm not trying to be around them all the time. I'm not calling you all the time something happens. For my god, girl, I had to call you and tell you this, you know, But I'm it's like, you know, certain friends for certain things too exactly and im and you know, I'm I'm thinking trying to imagine because that's the total opposite of myself. I don't. I'm not. I

like being by myself. I thought, well, yeah, I thought, wow, I need some lonely time. Wants to be at home by myself. It was in my Spanish music. And you know there's a lot of water exactly water, water weed by myself. And you know, you know, I know people who needs to have somebody around them all the time. They can't be by themselves. Still I don't understand that. Yeah,

I just can't understand that. So that's what I say for this girl, she needs to practice some self time, you know, like like take a bath, sitting there for our security, to enjoy the things that you can do, drink a glass of tea like you know, it's just things that I enjoy doing by myself. Watching My Guilty Pleasures on TV that I would never tell y'all that I watched, you know, given example here, Okay, y'all, go, first important thing. Okay, so she brought up the lesbian

important thing. So okay, I'll say, you know I watched you know, certain she's watching im. Okay, what's the categories here? Oh my god, I hate to say this. Tell us, oh, y'all and judge me. A sex. No, but it's not. Yes, that's what I like doing. I can look at you serious, yes, but I don't like anal sex. I can't. That's seeing that big gaping asshole. And yeah it's sexy. Is far to see a girl getting killed in the ass, like

just getting her whole life. But I don't want it for myself, Like I know, I've tried it and I was to have a heart attack. No stop, like my my whole body head. I feel like the body needs to be built for that, Like you need to have a boose booty. I'm not a booty. It's crazy, Like I feel like I'm going to do you enjoy watching it a year because you wish you could do it. Maybe maybe that's what it is subconsciously. What about gay mail point? I like it. I like it a thing.

I guess it's a whole asping, you know, but it's not even like a turn you on type of thing. It's just like amazing. Yeah. I even like women watching guys fucking guys in the ask for Dodos. I like that because I'm weird. What kind of point don't you like? If you had to say, I just don't like fake scripted ship. I like for it to feel real, like when they're coming in the office and it's the fake secretary or the schoolgirl or the teacher, Like I'll be

like girls, yeah, like the delivery guy. Yeah. Like you know, if you can make it look real, then I will be interested. But I don't like the fake scripted ship. So that's me. And but what category? Um like, what don't you like to see? Um? I don't like to see regular Yeah, I don't like regular se Yeah, when they're just like I don't like it's like like regular feel of sex. Yeah, no regular like for me. I like my parts to be intense. Me too, I'm very intense.

I even sometimes watch and I don't want this, but I watch a little gang bang in there bang group sex. I like that kind of stuff to watch gang Bang Bang Bang every the glory, y'all. You know, UM have I I think I have probably in the past, but it doesn't It doesn't totally turn me on. Yeah I was younger, but yeah that's me, My me time. Have you ever wanted talking about the last team? I was supposed to be at work, but I'm here watching porn. I'm late. Has that happened? No, okay, so this has

happened to me. I've masturbated before, and like when I'm masturbate, like, I get really tired and I want to like later, going to sleep for a minute, and then I'm I'm letting late for something. Yeah, I have masturbated. I'm tired. I don't say that. I'd be like, oh my god, I want splay. I'm on my way. Have you ever baby masturbated before your man came over and then you didn't feel like having sex? No, if my my nigga

is coming, then hey, I'm ready. Now, I like to masterbate before before the dick comes over, because yeah, he comes out, is ready? Okay, So you masturbated, but do you comeau? I'd like, will not masterbate, I'd like to come? Yeah, you come Okay. We never report back on that one because I never tried it, and they'd be like, oh my gosh, like, wow, baby, your pussy so well, Like, how does he make you so harty? Have you ever

masturbated a not come? Yeah, and when you're drunk or like sometimes yeah, yeah, yeah, you know, and then it's just like, okay, I forgot much and your your ship looks you know now I'm a little bit Yeah, this kid, I've become nune before. We need some help. If I got to masturbate until I'm numb, somebody's got to come over, yeah, well or not or not. That's I mean, it's just like, I mean, you're trying to get there, you almost get there, you almost are there, and it's just like, damn, it's

not there. So you keep trying and it's like you're numb. It's wrong. It sucks. That sounds it's so bad. It is so bad when you so bad. And do you guys think about like another man when you're having sex. Ever, I'm not gonna lie. Sometimes when I'm getting my pussy a I will think of porn. Porn. I want not a hapn fast you know what I mean that is, that's not what I do the same thing because I'm not gonna like that. I think it's for a man, it's they're trying not to coming for a woman. We

try to come. It's like we gotta do would become they're lazy in a second and now or other times that when you come or you're like I'm done. No, I mean I don't. Once I come, like, you gotta stop. You gotta get your mouth off. You have, but I can take the dick. You gotta get your mouth off. But that's a great time to stick the dick in

after you perfect time, perfect time. That's great. You're thinking me, I got my tongue all down your throat and I'm looking all over your face because I want to take to all that ship. Yeah, that's fun, good time, good time. I gotta try to like somebody like to spitty on you, like yes, And I don't like that. You don't like that, and I don't like the smell of like it. It's like that starts off disgusting. Yeah, yeah, I can't. And you know, but after you have sex, you are supposed

to get up and pee. I didn't know you don't. Yeah, what if you ain't got to be you have to kind of like you will, it'll come out. You get some water. Yeah, used the bathroom. I don't have to be do you like to not be able to walk after you have sex? I like how the sex was. I don't know, because sometimes niggas doing too much and you can't walk for no reason, and it's just like, I didn't even enjoy this, and I can't walk now, and I don't like. Yeah, I don't even get almost.

I don't like. Carrie Bradshaw remembers on Charlotte's wedding, she me, yeah, and he was like rabbit, yes, yes. Her back was a little messed up. She was like, what are some things that we think about doing sex? Like do you ever just lay there and be like this is whack? Oh man? Yeah, Like sometimes I lay there and I'll make fake noises like but I'm really like, oh my gosh. You know when the sexist trash, when the sexiest trash, I turned up the speech. I turned up the talk

and get him to get I'm excited. She starts over doing it. You know what it is. She's trying to get away. Oh my god, You're dick is fucking incredible, Oh daddy. And then I love when the girl started saying, oh my god, please come come, please come. Then you're like, okay, yeah, just come. Yeah. Sometimes I will say that I don't want you to come right now, say you deserve come right now, you deserve it. This is your pussy, it's all yours. And she was not to say it just

like that. And when they asked this your pussy, that's my And then you know, we don't give a funk because after we're we just like roll over like I'm gonna be man, I gotta do so what you want to do. And you know the worst is if you roll up and get on your phone, you'd be like girls, all right, you know, he did a good job. If y'all cuddle after, oh my god, if I want to

cut it with you, after that, you did a phenomenal job. Yes, when you wake up inside of each other like and the and the look of if you fall aslee put your head on his chest after that's love so good. Okay. Somebody asked a question. Okay, well there's a few of them because we put it on Twitter. All right, if your boyfriend is pressing you to do you know, how do you kindly tell him no for the fiftieth time. I'm trying not to leave him, but I don't want

to leave either time. No, no, you want some of this old man? No no, this is how you get your man to stop asking you to zoom. Ain't ready? Guys? Are you ready? Say? Man? Are you so upset with want to suck me in my assh? Are you gaya will never get a like? You know that's gay? Like? Why would you want the asshole? If you can have the vagina, you know you must be gay. Have you ever thought about that? Have you ever thought about being with a boy? Oh? Here's somebody? Okay? Never asking? Destiny

wants to know. How can you tell if a guy really loves you or just your sex? Is y'all only fucking? Or no? Are your dates only like meet up to have sex? Or do you guys have intimate conversation? You spend time with each other outside of the bedroom, and sometimes you have at all? Did you wait it all? I don't know, I see because sometimes listen not get it twisted. I fucked on the first night, but with somebody that I connected with and we ended up being

together even case and rhymes with guy. No, no, no, I don't even know that you know, I'm It's just that the rhymes with guys. Yeah no, yeah, like first night and turned into something you know what I'm saying, So, yeah, well what about now? This is how I feel about that, because sometimes guys really don't know how to date, and sometimes you have to initiate it. Like sometimes they think just sucking you is like we date because they don't

make an effort. So I really feel like sometimes you have to teach guys what to do if they didn't have no real girlfriends like that before you or anybody that has like help them learn how to treat them. Women got to be like you gotta get learned, like you if y'all just had sex, but you're like, yeah, what are you doing that? You want to get something to eat or I want to see this movie. Just kind of put it out there and see if he does want to do other stuff and nothing like. That

episode was called Buddies. I remember that episode every episode. Yes, no, she was messing with this guy and he finally asks her, like you want to know She finally asked him, like you want to go get some food? And he was like like they were both so weird about it even getting and they didn't even like each other. But that is a good way to test it out, you suggested, and if he wants to follow up and do it, then it's going to happen. If not, that's just even.

If you guys put the effort up and you go, then you you don't have that connection, then it is what it is. Right, we're just fun buddies and that's fine. All right now, I'm here's one more. If a guy puts you in doggy style position the first time you have sex, does that mean it's sex and no real feelings? I like the style. I think I initiate it. I think I was like that. I'm flipping over and ask

looking stopped. Alright, alright, let's do the run down. You go and you're sucking the dick, right, and then it's time to put the condom on. While he's putting the condom on, you turn around. Isn't that what you're supposed to do? Exactly? That's what you want. Yeah, you think you're gonna be a missionary. You guys are making out, kissing and then he just turns you around. N't know. I'm down with guy's been forcing me to do a missionary.

I'm like, man, I can just man. Guys always want to make out while we're having sex and look me in the eyes. But he only want to do Should you be offended? No, I'm happy. No, you should probably be offended. I don't want to see your face and I haven't met a guy, right. It depends on who the guy is, too, because if he's just my but eat the nigger, I don't want to kiss you or

see you either, So I'm gonna turn around for you. Guys, I even if I'm the one who only wants to fund, they always like, no, don't you want that's your buddy? Don't you want him to want more? Like even if you don't know I, oh, ma'am, I don't. Don't you want to be like, don't I've had but he want to turn into something more, buddy like, No, that's but but that's the thing, even when you don't want it, even though you don't want it, you still want them

to want more. Like if they know, if they're just cool, would just always being the side person? And well, maybe, okay, maybe it's a difference, because y'all know how us women are. Maybe it's a difference if they ask for it and then you're like, no, I don't want that, But if they don't, then maybe you're like, you're like, you don't want more, you know what I mean, And we're complicated creatures, so I can get that. I'm not gonna lie. It's sweet satisfaction when you don't want more from a guy

and he wants more from me. All right, when you're with a guy and he's sucking up. Do we all have a guy that we just called to make us feel better? See, I don't. I wish I had my roller deck. Don't keep like that because even the guys that I can call, like when I want something, what I want is what I want and I don't want nothing else, you know. So it's like I can't call

anybody to feel that voice. Yeah, tunnel vision. I feel like everybody has that somebody in this that you can call in case of emergency that you can't call, but you're always wants to call that that you can. You want to see it, That's what I'm saying. Yeah, exactly, even if you're not doing nothing, but it's just a nice little body. That's what I mean. You can, but you might not always want to. But yeah, we all

got that, I hope. So yeah, you say, now I do I definitely have one guy that, no matter how miserable a man is making me feel, no matter what. Once I get some of that, it's like, why am I even thinking about guys like this is the best guy ever? Like nobody else matters, Like I'll never be faithful as long as he's around and he's to the curve. Yeah, yeah, we're for you. You know, he's just I feel like he's just that one special person that helps me get over any drama that I ever have with a guy.

And he loves his role. He's prayed out it. Yeah, get paid for this. So Terra, let's let's talk about what we can expect for you coming up. I know you're trying to get this album done. Yes, I'm trying to get the album done and we're shooting. Uh. We just got picked up first season four of leven Hip Hop Hollywood. So that's my main focus is using this platform for my advantage and you know, bringing out my music because that's what people want to hear from me.

They are a lot of people rooting for me that I didn't even know, so you know, it's more reason for me to get my ship together. You haven't loved to laugh from season one, Yes, because I know it's an adjustment. Yeah you know. Well, you know I did season two of New York, but I wasn't like a main castmate. So and and Emily. You know, Emily is one of my best friends and I was on there with her, and um, you know, since then, I've grown into a young woman. I was like twenties two on there,

and now I'm twenty nine. Friends yeah, yeah, yeah, So at Hollywood, it's just a whole different ballgame for me because it was like everything was in my backyard. My ex best friend, well my best best friend at the time was on the show. My ex boyfriend was on the show. You know, people that I knew, my ex assistant was on the show. So it was like I wasn't ready for the ship that was about to come. So I reacted them yeah yeah, And I said, yeah, but I think, um, I think that um ex best

friend is coming back next season. I don't know, but I think, so you want her back. Um, you know, it's it's no bad blood. I don't have beef with anybody. Like I said, don't start none, won't be none. Um. You know, I don't like when people expect a certain level of loyalty if they don't give it right. You know what I'm saying. So I think it'll be interesting. Just stay tuned. Would you still work with young Berg? Now? No,

because he's a lying, you know person. You know know what if he was like, I want to make up his banging ass beat? No he has said that, yeah, and he has. It's I can get banging beats from anybody. But when you listen to somebody and then they force you into saying something that's not right about your friend, that's not all right. I could never trust you again. Yeah, So what if that ray J? What if he's like, let's do a song together? No? Hell no? Hell no?

So you can't separate business? Why would I want to do a song with? Some people? Can? Some people are like, well, I can separate, but I don't want to do a song, were right? J? Like that's not doing nothing for you, not for me, you know, and it won't do nothing for him Either're like, no, we still who are you working with? Um? Season something? You said it just saying my music is good, like it's founding her legs a little hearty And she said that sounds like something y'all

are trying it now say no, what you're making me blush? Angela, it's about you. No, Tierra, I appreciate you so much. Once again, I told you she's a lip service veteran. So yes, I always enjoy this. Yes, I always enjoy this. We come up here, we have drinks, we have girl talk, and it's always a good time. You learned a lot about and I miss you. Yes, all right, well let's lip service on Angela. Ye, I'm Stephane in Santiago. I'm and what y'all doing for New Year's? Anybody got there

to be at your house? Yeah, we're gonna be with you. So you're going to be in New York? Yeah, I don't know. I was thinking at all going on myn and Brownstone y'all. Maybe I'll come, yeah, because I haven't made any like official plans yet, so maybe i'll come. And I haven't done New Year's even It'll be chill, That's what I feel like. I don't want to do nothing that's like a big protection. Well last year don't count because I slept through the I feel like we

could just wear a hoodie and jeans. Stephanie was with me last year. You know what, maybe if we did that like something different. Maybe our our year will be different, Like we just weren't a hoodie and jeans to bring. Yeah, and then it's just like damn, Like this year was so prosperous for me and I like it. It was we're hoodie and last year was probably the most stressed downlines in New Year's and I had a great year.

This year is really good. Think sometimes it's people think that New Year's has to be like the best night of your life. It's just so like too much day. I've been disappointed a few times. It's another night. We just go out and maybe I get a little more fucked up than usual, celebrate a little bit everything normal, right, Well, we will figure it out. I'm looking forward. Happy holidays, Happy holidays,