Episode 53 Ft Valerie Lora

things that you do to get ready for summer? Because clearly we've been you know, slacking, having a good time, and which is Memorial weekend? Who's eating crazy? So what are some things that you guys do? What are some tips to get ready for the summer. How many people are ready for the summer. I'm I'm ready. I just need a tan something I've been there? Would I do I find myself, you know, buying a lot of swimsuits

right before I find myself buying so many. I just spent like seven and I have so many already at I'm like many babies? Is do I need bab Just like shoes, you can't never have too many. Yeah, but it's a lot of cute one piece basises now. Never used to want a weird one, but there's so many cute ones now, mom. And I just made myself a really cute one piece basis. I saw you over there making babies. Yeah, I'm anything highwaisted and one piece. I

love it. No, they're super cute though, Like you don't even have to be all like you know, showing every now that babies is cut out. There's even a new style. It's it's a thong, but it's like a high waisted and it's it's like in a really sexy place right here. It looks nice. I just I just bought one, and I mean I don't I don't like to cover that much. I like to show more. I like, I think the smaller my basing student is, the nicer it looks. Listen, I'd be cuming up, especially I was in Kanda. You

know what I'm saying. You don't want to be on nobody's like instage. That's true, because but I got some really dope. That's another thing I find myself lying cover ups those don't last me. Yeah, yeah, and I lose them. I like, I don't know, I leave them. Yeah, I gotta get cover ups all the time. Yeah, all right, so what are some other things we're doing to get ready for the semi ladies? Bad? What you're doing? I mean, I always Summer sixteen came too fast, but I like

to always. I like colonics. I get I've never had a colonic. I've never had one either, And I had a friend that used to get them all the time. It's brave, like on a regular basis and whatever that. However regularly you're supposed to do it. She would do it often. I used to. They say in the beginning, like your first time, there's like levels to it, sessions like that, Yeah, you're supposed to do one that kind

of hydrates your colon. Then the second one kind of gets to stuff really good, and then the third one is like, all right, you're good. How does that three? I did it one time? You did, and I wasn't. I did it one time because when I got my breasted on, like the anesthesia made all my organs go to sleep. So yeah, I was um. I was constipated, No, lie, I was consipated for a month. I could not have a movement. And that's what makes you after surgery, That's

how you know that you're okay, it's after you. It was not normal. That's not normal. And and for me, I'm very regular, like I feel uncomfortable if you like, Yeah, everybody, I didn't want to, but so I was really consipated. So I went and got a colonic. I didn't one time it took. It didn't help regulate me. You know what's funny with the day I had to finally had a movement, and I'm telling you it was like twenty nine days later because I was helping um the day

I finally had a movement. No, I had a movement right after the surgery. But then that's it. Nothing else, that's it. Yeah. So when the day I finally had a movement with made it happen was pinkberry, I didn't say very yeah yeah, and liked everything work again, will kiss me. What the colonic did was empty everything. You know,

I was backed up for so long. So yeah, I felt bad when I got When I got I tell everybody who gets breast and plants to get a light bulb suction at the same time, because you automatically just fluff up after you get breast and plants. Yeah, and that didn't help me being me, not having a movement for so long, you know. So I gained a lot

of weight after I got my breast and plants. That's where the whole plastic surgery thing started, because it was only supposed to be breast and plants, but I gained so much weight from the boobs. I had to get a light bulb. And when I was doing a light bulb, was like, hey, might as well put the fut in my butt. I don't know, let's go to waste. I started to throw it away when I could go with

my butt, so I started. I got my first colonic because I was gonna shoot this pick these pictures for this magazine thing I was doing, and I'm like, oh my god, I'm so fat. I just had a baby. What I'm gonna do? And I got my first one? But you're supposed to like the first one kind of doesn't really do anything, supposedly, especially if you're backed up, because it kind of moisturized. Everything hydrates the cold and then the next time you come then you know, things

come out. I prepped for it, so I took all these fiber mixed things you can mix in your drink for like three days. Yeah, because if you don't, then it can be a little painful. If you have steak and pork like the week before, it feels like worse cramps or like child labor cramps. Yeah, but if you're prepped and like you take your fiber and everything before, it's like you can have great conversations and make jokes

while you're doing. It's not that. Yeah. When I didn't, but I felt like it emptied me out and then like like you said, it like put like you could feel the coolness of the water and side like the need. It's not a bad the thing. It's like really thin, like let's say you're pinky and like, I mean, I could have all you guys sitting in the room while I do it. That's how it is. It doesn't smell at first. I'm like, it's gonna smell like pooping here?

Can everybody get like? And it wasn't. It just it feels kind of weird when it's like something's about to come out because you feel like and then you can kind of see it and then you're like, oh, and it's kind of exciting, like oh, look what I but you can't smell anything. There's no mess. It's like literally from the machine, like from the tube into a machine and you get out comfortable. One time I did it and I was laughing, making jokes. I was sitting there

like I was sunbathing. And then the second time I went to like a rhodisio like one of those things that brings you met over and over until you tapped the thing down, and I was in pain. Like I was like, basically, just make sure you watch what you eat. Get some fiber, yes before get fiber, maybe juice a little bit like prep stuff. Well, they gave me some stuff like I said, e berry with like silium husk, the high fiber. Then like her, you should do it.

I want your stomach feels flattery immediately and you feel like the turkey from Christmas is released, like it's good. Well you uncomfortable staff when you did it, I don't. I don't feel like um. I feel like it actually made me a little more bloated because I had the floor inside of something. But the next like maybe a day or two later, I could not I felt the

difference like I felt lighter after. I don't remember. I wasn't eating a lot because I wasn't having any movement, so I was just stressed the funk out I was. I was drinking a lot of water. I was trying everything, googling everything, I did everything. I was just taking laxatives. That was the only way I could have a movement. Calonics aren't good for you, and you shouldn't do them.

A lot of people say that sometimes your body becomes dependent on it, Like, you know, it's not natural for you to get a kalonic, So I mean, I don't recommend it, like every time you want to lose five pounds the klonic, but like maybe once or twice a year, just yea and even place like anybody who tells you come here every week to get it, don't there, because a good place would tell you, like, no, you're not

supposed to do it all the time. It's just you know, unless you have like can it harm you in any way? If they do it the wrong way, it should definitely be like a licensed or like a m D because if they rubture something, you will be I mean, is the most important thing in the world. You'll break your ship gripper. And yeah, like if people have got it, there's been serious problems the wrong thing happening getting getting kalonic is kind of like having anal sex in a way. No,

it's kind of not. Well, I don't know because me and I don't have a lot of anal sex. I have more. And you know what's funny is that when I told him I'm getting a chalonic, he was like, oh, so that means UM, give you a chalonic tonight? Yes, exactly. And I was like, is there we do a lot of guys get calonics or do they feel weird about that? Man? That's like a pause thing for dude. Yeah, but they do, they do, and they don't admit it. Like where I

go one of my friends. One of my friends went with me and he was like, you know, asking questions and then he's like, I would never do it. First of all, the doctor's too hot. I'm having hard on my klonic. But then I heard that he's been there numerous times to get colon. He lied, and then time you go, you're going to run into him. They're like, what are you doing here? The last time I was there, there's an artist that was there and he kind of I guess he got like free services, so he was

like promoting and posting. But he was like, this is where I get my juices from. And I'm like, you just came out of the klonic room. I got to lie to kick it. I feel like men get it, but they don't admit to it. Has it have a tang? You want doing? I'm asking some people like and then like what a gushing up in you? Oh no, this doesn't feel too sa I'm not gonna lie. I remember doing it, and I was like, I got kind of I was like, oh this this feels kind of it's

gonna make me horny. Yeah, because it's after no and it's it's I mean, it's kind of like four play. I don't like, you know, but I'll take a finger thumb in my ask when I'm drunk, you know what I mean, while I'm gonna you know, so I remember, but I just I remember thinking like I'm just nasty,

Like I'm just I'm just why I think. But it's like, you know, you feel the coolness you know what I'm talking to, Like because your body's ninety eight point six right point six degrees and that is not it's it's cool, you know, and it feels good a cool sensation too. Yeah. The thing is after though, like they put a toilet right next to the room. Like when you're finished, you have to go, and sometimes you sit and like more

stuff keeps coming, like the water. You don't gotta wear a type, but you just sit in the bathroom for a little bit and maybe like they're still shore colon and it'll come out, So don't go on. I didn't go to a doctor. I didn't go to a doctor to get it done. I went to like a little spot in the city. This sounds a little shady, looked a little shady. I'm gonna take it at my spot at um no, because I just wanted to get it done. I just want clean, like but you have to go

up some stairs. And then why didn't you go to a real doctor? Though? Because I thought that was you know, I googled it, Where could I get a colonic in New York City? And that's what popped up the power of Ye, it wasn't a doctor. I know. I don't think it was a doctor. Do you have to go to a doctor? You don't have to do anything? But you only got one colon? Can't up? What do you say getting ready for the summer? What are some tips

from you? Well, I want to say something nasty. But what I'm going to say first, both I will um, I like to listen. I love to cook. You all know I love to cook on that grill and I love to feed, right, I love to keep my family. I love to cook. I love to cook on the grill. So as soon as the ice milk, I'm on the grill with a coat on and hat and gloves. So I've been on the grill. No, no, no, no, I start as soon as I can stand there be outside in front of that grill. I'm cooking my dinner on

the grill. And I think that, Um, I just start to eat healthier tours the summer. So by the time the summer gets here, and you know, I'm not all like heavy with the fatty foods and the starches and roast beefs and potatoes, and you know, I do more vegetables and fish and shrimp and turkey briggers. Um. And the summer I find myself eating like just naturally, eating

like more greens and salads and stuff. And the nasty thing I was gonna say is um, I like to hold my breath when I write, Dick, I feel like summer, Yeah, because I feel like it tightens up my stomach. I was just like doing some apps like like engaging your coral while you're having sex. Okay, so you just be working out and working out for one day more calories like that. In my mind, I feel like it makes my stomach tighter and it makes everything tight my core.

It does. You know, it's been funny egs after um after your boyfriend like comes inside you when you do keegos right there? Yeah, yeah, yeah you're pregnant either. It's fun Yeah, I can't say yeah, like a weird love thing that I love to go to the bathroom and see, like how much comes out, Like you'd like to come you have me too. I always want to see how much it was, Like it was with a lot of them.

That's a lot. No, But I know you're doing you're beating whatever because you can't say what a guy has been up you about how much comming has gas a whole lot like saying yeah, that means he's been waiting. But guys come inside of you, like even your man when you're on birth control, Like it sucks up the press. It gives you an older But that's what to p right after you have sex. Comments very that's a different that's a different way. It's a different way. I don't.

I hate it, and it does mess up your p especially if the guys, Like if you're not circumcised and you came inside you, like and you had sex randomly, like not fresh out shower, like, then you're in trouble. Vagina sensitive. It's all. You can't mess it up. I don't want nobody in his house, like I feel like, goes very pretty quick. It does, right, listen. That's one thing though. Sometimes after you have sex, you don't feel like going to the bathroom, but you have to. You

have to. That's very important. Like I don't know what network did it, but they did like an inquiry in the park, like about the scientific reason why you have to pee, Like, it's true, you have too. It kills the bacteria, pianistic and it's good for you because the cold, the vagina and asshole are so close to each other and all the fluids with you, so you'll get an infection. You're also not supposed to let somebody do an know and then have sex with you because you're asking the

put it. But come on, some people don't know, or if you're using a condom. You have to change the condom. But some people really don't know that. Yeah, it's good to put that out there. Now, what if somebody has antosex? Can you suck his dick after that? No, after the show, after that, after the shot. When you're when you're having antosex or me personally, there's a lot of running to the bathroom in between, like in between actions, there's a

lot of let me clean you all don't. Yeah, sterilizations, we go. We sterilized the instruments in between every move. Definitely, I don't like insex because I I don't need the poop is so important to me, and I feel like this is so serious, like I don't want to mess my ship up. Like I don't even like taking pills because I don't want it to sunk up my pooping patterns like pop in the morning and to me anal sex or different medication funks up my ship, you know,

And where is this ship after you shower? That's again, I don't know. There's my b TM. I right, but I poop like this with my feet up on the toilet. You do used to be your leg down postipation? No, it helps, you know, and it comes out so much easier. It goes better. And I'm on my phone, like, dude, you're like the people in Thailand. Have you ever seen a toilet in Thailand? So it's just a hurt, just a roll on the floor, so like that on the toilet and my feet on the toilet, and they poop

like that on the toilet. And then when you go into that into the city and Thailand, they have pictures of like on the toilet, like, don't poop like this because that's like people from the villages that really. Now, let me ask you this. Your boyfriend, are you okay with him? Like if he comes in while you're taking a ship and he just sees you with your legs up, we already think I'm crazy anyway, So I love people talking to people while I'm shitting. I don't have problems

shitting me. I can't even we will mind child holding them back from while I'm taking a smn't know what you on for breakfast, babes, know my poop doesn't I mean, it smells like poop, but it's not like, oh my god, I go like, it's not like blue the bathroom. I go like twice a day, like I think people can sometimes just thinks a little bit, like if I've been drinking or about eat whatever, like the trone. Sometimes yeah, some specially for the birds coming out. Oh my god,

that is the word. Yeah one time velvet cake and my ship was blue. That's a blueberry or corn. Corn does not sig. It comes and comes. Oh my god, can we switch it? Can we switch the topic? And we can't get because kids me not said that's it time. So now you know the rule is for people in general, it's the best time to be single in the summer, right, and everybody's getting you know, everybody that was like in relationships your man, it's like, all right, I don't know.

I'm ready to be a little more wild and loose and a girl sometimes be like you the win to nigger. I'm ready to be out. And has anybody ever broken up with you? Like for the summer? The love of my life right when I was really young. Know, it was such a bad breakup. I think I'm still affective by it today. I was so young and he was older. I always like older guys. So he told me, you know,

somemmer's coming. And when I first got with you, it was like you know when you get a new puppy and then the puppy grows up and it's no more. So that's how he broke up with me. Like my co Yes, Washington he can put in Washington Heights. He compared it to like getting a new puppy and not having a new puppy, feeling no more was gone. Absolutely, But I remember being in club Exit. That's how long ago it was, like he walks to go to a lord. I'm gonna go for steven Sundays to the club like

I loved him more after that. I don't know why after he broke up after he was such an asshole. When I was young, I was a little dumb. I mean they were the more I wanted. I mean, truthfully, do girls really like nice guys? I mean, I know it's a stereotypical question, but it's the truth. Like do you like anybody that's just too nice? Nice guys? Geez, don't because my man is an asshole. He is the king of as you think you'd like to argue. He likes to argue, but you think you like it because

if he likes it. In yes, she likes to make up, but is it an argument like you know, is it? You know, honestly make you horn here. But we haven't had many arguments since we've been back together, which is a good thing. We had a really good vacation. We had amazing birthdays, the two of us our birthdays or six days apart, and you know, we had birthday vacation and friends and family and fun and there hasn't been any drama, thank god. So why do you think that is? Like,

what do you think change that y'all are not really arguing. Well, we did a lot of communicating during our break and a lot of things came to light on both sides, and I think that we're able to understand your own what. We broke up for eight months and got back together so together during that break up time. During that break up time, UM, we did a lot of communicating, a lot of talking, and UM, I think that we're able to understand each other better. Break it's not always a

bad thing. Sometimes people need it. Yeah, I think it's I think we it was good for us. I think we needed that time apart. We were like five years and at the time, So yeah, I think a little break never hurt nobody. Yeah, we've been great since now. One of my friends is dating this guy, and um, I guess for some reason, she's not that attracted to him anymore. So she sends niken pictures to herself to like another guy and that tours you better chill out with all that. Oh, now, is that a reason for

your man to break up with you? Because I never have The person lives in another country. It doesn't matter. Guys can't take it. They can dish it, but they can't take it. Anything is cheating to him. She can sneeze on the next man and he'll be like, bitch, I'm leaving you. Like the thing is herself, because if she feels the need to send naked pictures, that means she won't be sucked by somebody else. She just feels

like her boyfriend's not that attentive anymore. So she's like, you know what, I just like the attention for the attention from somewhere. But the last time she sent her own boyfriend and naked picture him on deck. They need to find some She needs to write down the list of like why she even working with him or still with him or in the first place, and figure out

where the voids are. Because if you feel like you gotta send like you need that attention, and you think it's okay when you're in a relationship to meet people have the opposite sex and like be cool with them. Yes, what about you know you meet somebody at the opposite sex and y'all go out for drinks, but not on a date they know you have you're in a relationship. No, that's not okay. I think it's okay. I do it. I mean they're just friends, though it gets true they're

new friends if they're new. And it depends on what kind of drink you're talking about, like a social drink where there's a lot of other people there, or just a one on one you're like, oh, where are you at where I'm in your area? Come out, let's have a drink before I got to go do something else. Like what do you like that? I mean, I think it would be okay for me because of what I do for a living. But I don't think it would be okay for I think it's okay if he's a

j I don't think it's okay. I think to me, like I think, like I just feel like there's something wrong with us, because why is it that if it's a guy and a girl automatically if you can go out with your home girl have to work and have a drink. Like I have a lot of guy friends that I've never had any sex with, but maybe you

think they would. I mean, I'm sure like guys are in that case, you know, I know, but if I if I have oh and oh, like if I'm good, so then it should it should be all right, right like, because I would think like wants my boyfriend probably wouldn't want me to go out with somebody that he knows is attracted to me, right exactly. That's the That's the thing. It depends on the dynamic of the relationship. If if it's a flirting thing, I don't think it's okay, obviously not.

But let's it's like a business even I like you, you know, I don't even like the girl. She's just super hot, right like, Like, let's you get okay with me going out with your boyfriend for a drink. I would. I wouldn't be okay with me going on with somebody else's word for I would though, Like I mean, I don't ask him, you know, Like I'm a girl. I wouldn't even play myself. I wouldn't do that. I mean, if I knew that you just sucked everybody else's man.

But like, let's say, if Angela be like, oh but we here at this part we have I don't know if it's a weak thing, that's what I said, If it's you just like the ether and then she called different they were together. I also think it depends on who the girl is. Yeah, yeah, it's circumstantial, because you're not to have a problem with me being around ever in life. I could probably spend the night at his house. He wouldn't give a ship, you know, and then you

know me too. You know I'm not that type of person. And stephanitiely you know, if I was Stephanie's crazy anyway though, because I don't know, I'm a little passive. I'm just saying. But she also probably wouldn't think she wouldn't say nothing to me, but she might say something Tom Right now, I'm like, what are you doing going on with my friends? Right? What do you do you? By accident? Ever slept one of your friend's boyfriends. No, because I don't play at all.

I don't know. Sometimes people could drink your friends slept with but it wasn't your friend. No, I mean this is the thing, like I once my friends have sex with a guy. I don't care who it is. It's like, I'm not even attracted to you anymore unless it's one of those guys that you just passed around, like girl, yeah, you know what I mean. But one of my friends girls got them too, But you are one of my

friend's boyfriend somebody they were in a serious relationship. No, you're gross now, it's like, no, so if you went out with another guy that you just Girls have done that to me. Girls sleep with mind they want to see that's your friend anymore. That's happened to me. My my daughter has a sister her same age, and it's gonna be your friends. Well, I thought, obviously it wasn't.

How do you know such a fan of you that anything you want you have, they want, they they wanted, like, oh I work here here she then you go on to Sam Salon, I'm going to there's like ten on the black damn this X to like seven exit and all right behind you. Like sometimes, how do you work through something like that? How do you work through something like the way I dealt with it was I felt

like all right. I felt like they were good together because if he went to do that to me, then they're the same kind of person and they're both not for me. That's how I felt like, alright, keep each other, hope it works out because you have both justice Gray. So you didn't end up back with him. That was absolutely not She never again never looked back. That's good. And that was a person that you know, like, there's a way the one person you're week fur and turned

domb for, like like in the movie Casino. Remember, but that's one thing that will make me get over a guy really quick if he works with some one of my friends or a wag bitch. It's like, that's it. I was so in love with this guy a day ago, but now he's just so wax that the chicken is. You'd be like, oh, you're sucked with her? Well you know she. I think you'd be like, why am I hating to me? It was just like, well, they'll they'll get their karma, and they did, because that I believe

in karma. To listen, I don't guy to do nothing to nobody. That ship is so now it's okay. You think for you to meet a guy that you know, and become cool with him and go out of drinks even if you're in a relationship. For in my relationship, can meet him though not like somebody was cool with before, but like somebody to meet somebody knew, you know what. Like to me, it's okay, But that does leave a lot of room for error because you're human, no matter

if I've been with somebody ten years. If I meet some other dude and it's somebody I'm attracted to and it's fun conversation and we're having a drink, so now you're inhibitions are like things can happen. So if you're a person that's in a relationship, sometimes you shouldn't put

yourself in situations. But if you're just having a drink and oh my god, casual but not like pre planned, and there's excitement and you're doing extra to your bake up and get e secure and sexy, Like, is there a time limit on when somebody else can like text you or call you at night? I think so absolutely. Yeah, you don't want to be she'll be calling me during

booty call hours. When I'm in a relationship, I flip on everybody that hits me up, like Afrey lover a prwe because when I was on our break and I moved away to Philly, I was managing a strip club. So a lot of people would call me late at night, late at night, you know, on my side, Can I get in you here? What's up? I'm on the table.

And for the first couple of weeks after I left the club and moved back home, my phone will be be going off at one thirty two, three o'clock in the morning, and I just be like, yeah, I had was understandable because it was part of your word. But the guys don't worry if to die down. So got to the quay there used to be like guys in the morning, no matter why because and a lot of time,

you know, I was just in a relationship. A lot of time I'll be like with my man and getting a call at one thirty in the morning, and it would be a nightlife person, know what I'm saying, exactly, or a promoter or something like that, even like, oh, I need you to host this party for me next week morning exactly. Yeah. I'm I'm a I'm total and I'm a very nocturnal person. You to me, shouldn't that be acceptable because most of your no, but still it

should be acceptable. But I would work out at nine tomorrow and you get to know and I you know, I have I had a crazy boyfriend. We're both crazy. So no matter what was like after after after eleven pm, I'm like, you know, I gotta man, I want to fuck you hit me up? Is that weird? I am? I am? Do not to serve Queen is not to serve King. His BlackBerry is always on silent, like I'll be here to tell him not to serve Queen. That's exactly what I used to do when I was with

my last boyfriend. Every night, as soon as he would come home, I'll put my phone on do not to serve. You know, it's crazy, that's terrible for me. Like he is always on the phone because he'd be like if I don't answer right then, and I'm gonna miss some money. That's how he feels, to the point where he even got like a phone holder thing in the shower and then we're so excited about phones being waterproof. I think the only time he's not on the phone is during sex.

I think because everything everything he does, even the shower, like when the shower, like the shows that I'm like, this ship is ridiculous, ridiculous, he's okay with you, Like if he leaves his phone at home, he's not worried about you looking at He don't care. I do not do that, so he don't right, But if you did, will he be okay with it? You think I don't know. It's been a couple of times where like you know you're on the phone to be like so right, but

I'm not. I'm the type of person like I don't want to find out, Like I don't want to know. I'd rather not even read it if I don't know whatever you need, Yeah, like I don't want to know if you respect me enough to not make me feel like I don't want him doing that ship to me

because I hate that ship. So be the one. Because I have friends, like I have only one friend who her and her boyfriend like, well her husband, like he'll answer her phone, she answers his phone, or like she'll be like, oh, I don't have my phone, so just

call his phone. I have his phone all day because that they if we're together and like my phone not working and like I'll have like somebody called I call me on his phone, here's his number, blah blah blah, but are you not Like I don't know, I'm not keeping it, but I would have something or like if we were together and I saw Angie call, I would answer it like hey girl, right, no, but she means, oh,

I have his phone today. When we were my head, I was like, I was like, look, switch phones with me, like let's let's see who's going was switch phones with me? And he would not do it. I'm like, switch phones with me for a day, like bad. Yeah, I was serious because I knew what I wasn't doing that I was not. I was serious. I was trying to. I was like, know what, don't even take my phone, take

my phone for the day. I don't even need yours, but take mine just and he was like no, I'm cool, Like I'm good on it because I don't want you to day. Clearly I could have bluff one time, but I was just like please, God don't know. Said yes I did this guy one time, and he would he grabbed my phone and went through it, like went in the bathroom and locked it up in the bathroom, and I was like, Okay, I can never talk to you

again in life. Do you guys feel about that because I could be talking to y'all and you could you could be saying be something really personal. Yeah, and I don't want hand eating that. So if you knew somebody checked all your ship all the time secretly, would you were those b breakups? Yes? I think that's crazy because I don't do that, Like, I don't. I don't do that either. I can see it's like something popped up

on my phone. Somebody just texting me and you look, okay, I'm not but you're not gonna take my phone and go through everything. Now, there's so many apps, you know how you can check your kids phone and it comes to your computer before kind to his phone when his kids getting text messages. You see, So dudes can do that to your phone. All you need is like the like serious stuff. Let's keep a red this stuff on all of my phones that somebody could take it the

wrong way. You read it and you know what it is, but he could take it the wrong way. And I send nude I'm send nude pictures to my best friends all the time. Likes send me sometime my friends send me videos or pictures Like I'm not just saying do this do you think I'll like that? Like and it'd be like, you know, I don't want him to see that. I don't. I usually don't want a guy going through

my phone because I'm cheating on him. To make that clearance everyone, the real reason is, let's down, don't go through my phone. You're gonna get your feelings. You're gonna get you feel all right. Now. We were talking about this earlier. Can you meet quality guys in the club and the strip club and the regular club or are those guys that you tend to want to leave alone? Because people always ask where can I meet a good guy?

I don't want to meet a guy in the club because that's not the type of person that I went. But what do you think I've I've had a serious relationship, a serious open relationship, so I don't know. I had a relationship with somebody in the club and we worked good for a while. I also um dated of radio personality slash DJ back in my twenties, and um he ended up being married. But but that was a good relationship while he was married, and you didn't know. I

didn't know until he got arrested. That's crazy, got arrested. But yeah, but but his not didn't built him out. His wife calling threatened him to come and take my car because my car was in his name, like he had brought me a car and it was his name, and she called like, yeah, well i'm his wife and I know you're driving a car. I want that one. You think if he would have told you he was married,

you would have covered form him somehow someway. Well, if he would have told me in the beginning back then, that was in my like sugar baby days, so I probably wouldn't have cared. But he didn't tell me. And then when I found out, I was like, really upset about it because he lied to you. Because he lied. But had he kept it real with me nine times up to him back then, I would have wrote. And a lot of a lot of guys don't realize that sometimes you keep it real with a girl one and

she's still gonna sunk with you. Yeah, But I feel like you can't categorize where you can meet a good guy with because good guys and bad guys are everywhere. You know you had judged people on because they're at the club. It could be you could meet somebody at the club that never goes to the club and he's only there because it's his homeboy's birthday or or anniversary

or a special occasion. So you can't say like, oh, you can't meet nobody this place at that, but he's in the c you can meet the Well, it depends on how much money you got. I think I think I wouldn't date a guy that like I walk into the strip club with him and every stripper knows his name, and the bartenders like and everybody. Then I'll be like, oh, ship, he's always here, he's a regular, and then whatever. Then maybe that I wouldn't. I don't know, but the sinners

are in church. It's not like I was just you could probably you think the percentage is higher though, of a guy being sucked up if you meet them like in the club or it doesn't matter. I don't think it matters where you meet a person. The person is who they are and how they going to be friends. Just recently went on a date with somebody she met on an app, like on one of those dating and

she was really scared about it. But I said, listen, you can meet somebody in the club and they could be crazy, right, Just so there's no telling what could happen regardless of where you meet somebody. That online dating thing is really The other day, we were in the gym and my boyfriend's friends finished working out. They were all talking and he said like nothing to the point where I'm like, this is the norm now? How for like dating people? He's like, oh, man, I used to

have sex. Let me go on this app so I could get me a girl tonight. So I'm like, what, you just have sex with girls? He's like, yeah, like you, it's better and it's like no string. That's as you meet them. You can see they picture, how they look, you know, they know how to cook or not by the encryptian, and then you have sex with them and then that's it. You picked the next girl tomorrow. I was like, that's disgusting. It's like shopping. Yes, sounds like

it is. I didn't. I didn't know that it was. I guess I'm old now or something. We don't do that. Definitely year in the club all the time, just like me because we obviously host parties. Dada dada da. So do you have you ever met a quality guy in the club. Well, I always had a rule of thumb that I would not date a guy that I met in the club, Like I don't want to. I don't. I don't like when guys trying to talk to me when I'm drunk because I feel like you're trying to

play me because I'm drunk. You think, yeah, but you're in the club. What did They still polite and nice though, even though you know, I swear and I've met a lot of guys. But finally, finally back in two thousand thirteen, and to that, no, because I had a relationship, I met this guy in the club. It's the first time I ever met a guy in the club that I actually slept with and had a thing with. And it was a nightmare. So from my experience, I don't know. One time it wasn't bad. No, he's I found out

he had he had a whole other life. He had a wife and kids, and it was crazy. It was a really it was a man. Yeah, that's probably the number one thing they lie about. And I swore that he was like my rebound from my son's father. So I swore I was in love with him. You know, it's hard on the rebound, you know what I mean. So I swore I was in love with him and he just put me through so much. This is why you had to ask glass. When you meet them, you have to be like, so, do you have a girlfriend? No,

do you have a wife? You got you? So what's some merson if? Do you have someone that would be upset if they saw us sitting here having a conversation? Yeah, like you know, you gotta go that all the levels. Great? Are you know you have someone you're having sex with? What are the questions that you asked somebody when you first start on the first date? What are some good questions? Where do you live? Like? Who, what do you do? Where do you live? Is that rude to ask that

on the first date? No, okay, I'm just asking the damn s. You're gonna want to know where you live so you can ask where do you live? Who do you live? We're not really like where, like what's your address? But like how is your living situation? Like what's your living situation? Does your wife sleeping You sleep on the couch and she's sleeping around? Do you have a roommate? Do you live with your grandma? You know how many dudes say that you live with your baby mama your

couch together? But I'm not with my baby mom, but I'm trying to help, but pay the rent, so sleep on the couch. What are some other questions you got to ask? What's your sign? Yeah, that's probably what I asked on the first sign. That's a nice that's a nice icebreaker. I don't think I've had a normal first day and so long. That's like, by the time we got to them, we already know for the little steed trampled there a little? How already do that? To swear?

I swear whoever is gonna be my next boyfriend, I'm gonna be really faithful to them. She like, like she actually could say without laughing, No, I am, because I think I'm I'm warm. Sure, all right? What is I believe you? Because I made that bow and I did it and you did it. I did alright. Some more questions. Is it okay to ask a guy like what he does for a living and to get an idea of like you think? So not in the what do you work? Well, you can say where do you work or what do

you do? Yeah, that's a typical question. What do you do when do you get into Like what's your score? Yeah? What's your goals? Do you want a family? Do you have kids? I think that's the first day question, like what, like what are your goals? What do you want out? Like a lot of times relationship don't work. Sometimes maybe people don't want really not on the same page. Sometimes

guys just want to have sex. Girls just want to have sex sometimes too, So it's okay to like, but would a guy take you on a full date if he just wanted to have sex? Yeah? You guys would do anything to get the place to come on anything. You can get any guys to do anything to get And the more you hold out, the more you hold out to higher the bid. Okay, the phrase is going on estate down yet, Yeah, I gotta agree with that. I find you get way more out of guys before

you give them sex. Way, I mean you still could get a lot after two. Yeah, for sure, it's good thing. I saw my family. She was going out with this guy that she just met on this app. I said, don't get drunk. Whatever you do, don't take but advice. You have two drinks and that's because she gets up. That's that's that's how they are a millionaire matchmaker. Like they have rules like you can't have you can only have two drinks and you can't do any shots because listen,

have you ever had an embarrassing first date? Oh my god, I have. I went on with this DJ for our first date. We had such a good date. He really liked me at the time, because we started hating each other not long after that. But we went on a date and I'll never forget it. It was when you remember when American apparel first got really popular. So I was wearing like one of those stupid American apparel dresses and I had, oh my god, it was so bad. We haven't talking for a long time, but I had

on this dress and we got really drunk. Like we went to a nice dinner and then we went to a club after words, and I got so watched up drunk. He had to like carry me out no underwear on. It was a mask. But we ended up being We ended up each other first like eight months after that, and that was our first day. So I mean, it wasn't it was okay with it. He was pretty drunk too, was embarrassed. I was, so I woke up the next day. I woke because I ended up sleeping with him that night.

We didn't have sex though, because he didn't want to have sex to sleep. Yeah, because he was like, I'm too drunk. Yeah he probably couldn't either, because I learned that about him. Like on like, um, if he drank a lot, it wasn't that good. Yeah you know what I mean, it was. I'm not gonna say it was bad. It was all right. You know that's the words when you have junk sex and you don't remember it. Yeah, so we we didn't like when you just don't remember

and ship start coming back slowly. Yeah, that's how I woke up, like, oh my god, did I have This is the funniest story. She says she has sex with a guy and his dog was in the room and she was like that, like say that the dog's name was Fighter. She was like Fighter, you see your owners fucking me? You see? Really she's dog was there, Like my dogs are always in the room when we have sex.

So how was their reaction? They like go in the corner and like lay on their doggy bed like you're being attacked, and they just like tax when they just sit there and look like what are y'all doing? Like they'd be like some fus like I used to put tyson in the bathroom, but now like can't go off. My room is big enough that he's like off on the other side of the room in the corner. And like what you think. Anytime we start to get into sex and the dogs in the bed, I ain't to

get off the bed. Yeah, please, the dogs look at your ass. I immediately make the dogs get down off the bed, and then they'll go about their business like off to like different corners or whatever. And there's people are having like our kids, like well, you know my kids. I know, but it's so weird, like we don't put them out like I would put them out. I gotta go happy pats. Cats while you're fucking they jump on

you with set much more than dogs. You guys, got them out the room the moment they jump on you, like the go and put a pole hand. It's bad. It's really little pause feel crazy, A little scrassy tongue happening to your tongue. You know. That's one time. One time my son's father, you and I we're having sex. We had a cat named Edwin off what was his name, Edwin? The cats name was Edwin. It's like a real person.

So and so we're having sex and Edwin just jumped and jumped in attacked his balls, and yeah, it was bad. He was so bad like that, r the sacks everything. It was bad. Ball they're fragile like eggs. You gotta be careful. No, he was so upset about that. Cats are vicious man. You know, cats will attack you like out of nowhere next to you are cool, man, you have cats or dogs or anything that poops that I did even push out because that's a lot of Yeah, you know, it's just a lot of work. Like you

gotta walk them and then you gotta feed them. Then when you go somewhere, somebody it's like having to somebody gotta take care of them. Yes, the medical bills. Then they broke your furniture andla blah. Now Atlicia Keys recently posted a picture and you know she doesn't wear she's ditched wearing makeup. She looks good. But how do y'all feel about not wearing makeup? I don't wear as much makeup as I used to, but I'm definitely not giving up my makeup right, Like sorry, but what is there

anywhere you go with no makeup on? Or will you not even like go to the supermarket. Yeah, of course a lot of ways with no makeup. I go everywhere were no makeup on. But I'm still not giving up makeup.

She's not giving up makeup either. She's gonna wear makeup because I feel like sometimes, especially when if you're going to the supermarket, I know I'm running to people, and he's like, the only time I don't wear makeup is like when I go work out or if I'm just like on my way to somewhere where I know they're gonna have makeup, but I'm not really gonna do stuff.

I didn't wear makeup the other day, like coming back from Dominican Republic on the plane, I was like, I don't feel like I have a big glasses on though, well, yeah, I have last extensions. I love them. They help a lot because you don't have to do anything like the last three months. They don't move, and it's just it looks like you have on makeup even if you don't. But you now, why did she give it up? Though? Like I don't know about what she said, something about

um covering up her natural beauty. I didn't know she had freckles, which, by the way, I love freckles. A lot of artists struggle. I know some friends that are artists at full face of freckles that people don't even know because you know, they're always in full face makeup, and that's like a thing because makeup art is just cover your freckles. Yeah, alright, So here's what she said.

She said she's been photographed lately in her skin, she said, before I said a minute album, I wrote a list of all the things I was sick of, and mom was how much women are brainwashed into feeling like we have to be skinny or sexy or desirable or perfect. One of the many things I was said of was a constant judgment of women. So I guess she felt like she doesn't want to have to wear makeup and forever, like for this season or for the summer, don't. But

maybe it's a face. She's an artist, a really big artist, you know. Yeah, she's gonna put makeup on, you know, it's I don't think she ditched it forever, but I guess she's on she's feeling like maybe I don't need it, and I'm gonna go out more without it, Like I'm gonna get photographed more without it than with it. Probably and she's probably getting hell of facials and all this rich people. Yeah right, because you can look right. God, what was that that she was getting the blood for

shoals and everyone. I think that, um, you know, putting makeup on it, it's good. You know what about girls who have a scar on their face or really dark circles, that's something you get from genetics. You know what. I hate when people are FaceTime me and I'm like, look terrible. I put the thob over the camera, like what you got a scar from your head, no makeup, looking awful, and then somebody want to face time you, and then you gotta get the angle right because you know, you

gotta be on FaceTime like this. I feel like I went. I don't wear makeup all the time. I never wear makeup unless I'm working or I'm going out or something like that. I never wear makeup. But I don't think that girls should. I think it's nice to not wear makeup. But I don't think girls should feel bad because they want to be glam you know what I mean. I think the best thing is somebody with a beautiful face

that doesn't have makeup or like light makeup. To me, that's what I'm into now that I'm going to be thirty soon, I'm like less makeup because I feel like when I wear more, I look older now. So I want to wear like a little bit or like what kind of make up? A glow and a little nude like that. Here's what she said. Every time I left the house, I would be worried if I didn't put

on makeup. What if someone wanted a picture? She said that behavior was not healthy, and when she showed up for a photo shoot fresh from the gym with her face squab bear and the photo photographer insisted on stepping here on the spatch, she said, I swear it is the strongest, most empowered, most free, and most honestly beautiful that I've ever felt. So there you go go, Alicia. Is it weird for you, like when you're dating somebody for the first time they see you like not done up.

Do you ever think about that? Nope, I don't ever really think about that. I don't think about it either. I think guys first see me would not make up on, and then they see me done up, and it's like, oh, it's different because guys act like they don't like makeup, but then they do they guys been like, babe, you look good. It don't matter if you gain way, but walk by and you'd be like, but you just told me. Guys, I only say out their mouth that they don't like

us in surgery. Guys. Men love plastic surgery. It's they're the reason that it's been happening all these years since the eighties. They don't care. How yeah, I just don't if you don't tell them, and they just think in their head like she didn't tell me, So it's natural memoria. We can just passed, right. Is it weird if you're dating somebody and they go out of town like with their boys for Memorial Weekend? Do you feel Do you

ever feel weird about guys trips? You always in the back of your head some ship mike right down because I don't like it. Yeah, I don't like it. I mean I'm cool, like i'm you know, I'm dating, I'm single, and of course you know there there was a lot of people traveling this weekend. And I will never mention anything. I will not complain, but it's just like to see it.

It's just like right, yes, and it's like I'll have fun groups like he has a lot of friends that will travel with us, and everybody will bring a girlfriend, and then the single girls to come and the single guys come. Like this past weekend, we we ended up being like twenty two deep between like you know what, and that's a great time. Let's say I know you and your boyfriend, but now we're in groups but you're not there. Now that's like, oh, that's the worst feeling,

Like what are you doing? I'm not here when it's your three day weekend and your friends man entertaining your friend. You have to mind your absolutely, I'll tell because what if what if you're only friends with her because of the like it's your boyfriends, you know, friends girlfriend, and you'll become cool, you know what's funny like due to

others what you have them do to you. Right, But then in the same note, you always have this friend, right who no matter how many times you told her, they're still so sometimes that girl, you're just gonna be like, I'm not the same in the argument because this is episode twenty nine point six. You know what it is, They're gonna get back together and I'm gonna be the

bad guy. And then so let me just mind my business because next time, I'm not coming in because that's where it gets a little tricky because then now your boyfriend can't bring you around his friends because you don't want you to tell what they're doing. Yeah, I feel like the guy has to be respectful because he needs

to respect my friendship. And if alright, do what you're creepy guys do, but tell the girl to play her position and don't let me notice or me see, just like you wouldn't want her to because that puts you in away position. Now, now I gotta be I was there with your little side chick. Now I gotta be around your wife. Yes, where Angela? Imagine that Valerie, you was there and you didn't tell me, like like, then there goes our friendships and then you'll be like, well

it's you know what am I gonna do? And then I feel like, Okay, that's not really my friend, right or you could I was drunk, girl, I don't even know, but that is a horrible situation. I feel like that's how the guy should handle it, like pretend like um would be just like if it was her and tied it for me to would you tell your boyfriend first, like I gotta tell her. I would tell him, you think I'm not gonna tell right now, I would tell

him you better let him know. I wouldn't even I'd be like, you better call her from now and let her know, because I'm telling my version of the few. Now, what if you become friends with this girl and yeah, with her and she cheats and her boyfriend. It depends, right, because you gotta go home and tell your man. Are there things that you don't tell your man? Or do you feel like you tell him everything, like things that happened, Like if your friend tells you something and she's like,

don't tell anybody? Do we tell our man anyway? It kind of depends on what it is. Sometimes for me, it depends on what it is because it used to be able to tell you a man anything. Yeah, and when you're in a relationship that you vent to your man, like when your home girls getting on your nerves, you vun to him, you know what I mean? So, but what if she's the old girl he gave me her piece, I'm going to tell my boyfriend. I might tell my

boyfriend that if your cups and house. But that's one thing that happened to me one time when I did this guy, and I said, tell him everything. This is why I don't do that anymore. And after we broke up, he called my job. I was some stuff at like what happened at work? Like, oh, let me tell you what happened at work today. He called my job and tried to get me fired and was telling people like what I and this this bitch at work was on the phone him for like an hour listening I didn't

even know and was like really talking. I was like, so you're gonna just entertain this crazy, like you know what I'm saying, because all it takes is for you to say some things that are too and some things aren't, and they're gonna believe every So after that, I was just like, all right, this is crazy. But after that I realized that certain things you don't tell a lot of things you don't some things like you might want to come fide, Like, man, what should I do? You

know my friend this and this happened. I don't know if I should tell her? What do you think certain things you will confide to him, but other things that are like really personal that if it ever came back that you told you would be horrified. You shouldn't tell, right, because that's right. You never know in a relationship. I'm sure we've all dated somebody that later on we become the worst enemies. You never think it's gonna get there.

You never think that's gonna happen, and it does. Even You should treat everything like especially if you're not married, if you're dating, even if with time, because that's the worst part of a relationship, the information they leave with because they know about you. You know, your deepest turk is whatever makes you. I know some sh about you too, and I got my evidence right playing he liked his bigger heads. But you shut the funk up after that. You know about all our three women too. I don't

care about confidentiality agreement that I signed. I will let everybody know, so shut the funk up. Don't talk about my child, yes, yes, all right, Well listen, Valerie. I appreciate you coming through for us. It's a lip service. And of course you know we do this every week every Thursday. We've been on point. Okay stuff anybody saying, oh, y'all, we put it out every single every single I know he was a little shaky at first figuring it out. We gotta go over a year and we're good. And

I promised you there's some really big things about to happen. Yes, And we appreciate you all for listening, and we thank you very I appreciate you coming through. And really it's fun. I like my little bound bound and Stephanie, who we're gonna be interviewing you on here. I just love the fact that things have come a long way from when we first started this show. Like when we first started let's just talk about this was newly single and Stephanie

was in a relationship holding her jail boo down. Oh my god, now and now you're in I'm back with him. This is all like a submission at the end of let's let's let's ever we should put her on dates selected, But I don't know if I want to hurt nobody's feelings like that. This sious. No, I'm not girl Sagittarius. But guys that with Stephanie love her like they'll be like, man, she is friend? Right? No? I mean was she when you could guys fall in love with me and then

it's like I don't like we break up? You know, so they always love me and we always loved them, but we just can't. We don't realize how sensitive these men really are. They are guys said to act like I don't want to be in a relationship, but I'm just gonna hit it, and no, you know, I find that. I find out when I laid that on the table. You know, I'm enjoying my single life. I like dating

and I'm happy. I feel like guys try so much harder to actually be in my house and and be in a relation on this, I want to Okay, Yeah, that's like when a girl that's I'm not into guys tells a guy like, oh, I'm lesbian, and they'd be like, well, let me be the one to take you back to that like a spark challenge. Do you think are you the kind of girl that because obviously you hold your own Sometimes when I was saying this to one of my friends as single, and she's like, I don't get what.

I'm so single. I have my own house, and I'm like this and I'm educated, and I'm like, that's exactly why. Because she'll meet a guy first date and she screams like, think independent. It's independent. I don't need to I'll pay the bill, and guys like they want to feel like you need them. Ye, so do you think that happens to you sometimes that do? I just feel like, damn, she don't even need me. I think, guys, Um, when I start to curve them because of that, they let

go faster. The better I do, the easier it just out to be like it. I know she got more mad, guys. I know she. I know she's dating all over the place. I know she could take care of herself, like I don't even need to see. But the truth of the man is, you could have a boyfriend if you wanted to. You just she was not to know. Of course, it's just times no time, and I have to say, like, I really enjoy the guys that I say I love you, I love you, know, but um, this time, I don't

want to settle, you know what I mean? This time, I don't want to just be in a relationship because I want to be And I think it takes a much stronger person and much stronger women to say I'm not gonna be with somebody just for the take of being with somebody. I want to maybe somebody that I could see myself with, like exactly, that's the point I'm going to call you my man unless I feel like that,

right And that's why I say this. Next time, I know I'm gonna be able to be faithful because when I decided to be in a relationship, it's going to be something that I want. You know, at the time. Right now, I don't if I find the guy, but I'm not just gonna be with anybody just because I want to be in a relationship. That's the room for Stephanie Dix. Be big, that's your sex, have perfect timing. May all your men spoil you and treat you like the queen that you are. Jesus name man. And he

eat like a king, okay, eating like he's hungry. And on that note, that was live service.