Episode 423: Relationship Deposits (Feat. Cocktales Dirty Discussions)

What's up a slip service.

I'm into the ye.

I'm Maguire, I'm Stephanie Santiago.

Oh and I'm Kiki set So Gina Monroe and we're in cocktail.

Okay, we're ready to have some dirty discussions now. Listen. I saw somewhere where y'all said, well, you know, we're trying to, you know, tame it down and clean up your act. That's just her, you know what.

I keep slipping and failing because I'll be trying and she's like, what I think about it might not be that clean.

Okay, all right, fair enough turned down for what I know.

I'm both of y'all just have birthdays too, Yeah, oh wow, have youthday.

Or Virgo and Nebro Virgo.

And Libro though, because I'm on the cuts. Yeah, so you steel you're Virgo again, that's cud. Yeah.

So first of all, I love that you guys are in New York and I know you had said you were going to start taking the train and you did.

Yes, you did, I did, he said, you did.

I've done the train in New York before, and I went to Howard and so when I was at Howard, I used to train all the time. I don't like being down there under there with the turtles and the rats and the people could Yeah, that's what I was thinking about.

I'm super excited to be here in New York kicking off our third tour. We were at Sony Hall last night and it was a flood but exciting.

Well still made it out.

I was surprised, and that's the ready show up.

That's dedication. And I know I'm sure some people couldn't because you couldn't even get an uber the train was shut down. But like I was saying, that's memorable for the people who were there to be like remember when they had that big flood and right, and.

Y'all still came out to listen to talk whole shit, Like it's amazing.

It's so funny to me because I think, like the way we started lip service and then what you guys do with cocktails, people sometimes have like a judgment against depending on who it is, you know, some people love it and then some people be like why is that all y'all talk about? Like we talk about a lot.

Of never going to get married, who would ever want to watch people net?

Well, how do you think you got here?

Girl?

Right?

You got here seven.

It's like when Bag and your dad okay and he's slipped up, and.

It's like, this is a show, and we do talk about sex. So if you want to watch something else or listen to something else, there's plenty of other shows. There's millions of podcasts out there, change it. You don't have to listen to us.

Why do y'all think that people feel so shameful when it comes to sex.

I don't know. I try to figure that out. It's like, what is it? It's just like something that people have been taught for so long, but it's crazy because people have to have sex for society to continue. So it's like, why why be ashamed of finding pleasure and happiness in sex and exploring it and figuring out what you like? What's wrong with that?

Sometimes I also think it's it's it looks like they are ashamed of it, but you really are jealous because you wish that you were having your best blown out.

It's kind of like when senators have issues but gabe people in gay marriage but secretly they gay.

Yeah, exactly, have you got a problem with thee but you got to see your whole inside?

You don't know how you want to try some stuff, and you don't have the confidence to try certain things or say what you want.

Let me ask you something because I had thought about this, right, but everybody talking about AI and things that could happen. If it was a potential that like, let's just say, an AI robot could automatically make you like come multiple or I guess right, let's just say, and they could you know and see like exactly what you like, how much your spot is?

Would you try it?

Hell?

Yeah, I use a vibrator like daily, So I mean that's like the next step I think I would do it.

I'm not going to really want to give you. Also really like like what I love most.

About sex is touching bodies, like feeling all those things leading up to the orgasm.

But if he looked real and he was like touching you.

That's weird.

Speaking we always I've always.

Been living in the Jetsons, but I don't want to live there. For when I.

Pictured a robot, not that what I was thinking of, Like an EI intelligence vibrator. It would be like a vibrator bok like knows you you're like connected to your phone, you put your finger print or some ship.

That's what I'm pictured.

Exactly like squirting today or a regular.

It's crazy you would try it.

I would try, but I don't want the one that looks like a person. I would just want it to be like a toy, you know, but it just but not a person. Yeah, more like a vibrator where it already knows. I don't have to keep pushing the button to get to the setting that I like, like I currently have to do.

It's just program, you know, when you get in the car and it has automatic setting on the seat.

Yeah, exactly. I don't know to be onto something.

With that teating Like if you were with the guy and he had a robot that could make him do that and he used it. It was a robot, It wasn't real person. Would you look at that as cheating?

The robot looks like a person though, Yes, because why do you have that? And now wrong?

Like like who it looked like?

Right? Is it like your celebrity crushes? It look like your ex girlfriend, your baby mama.

It's cheating?

Yeah, now none of the timely. Thing that just happened, And I wanted to get everybody's opinion on this.

The Travis Kelsey Tailors swift.

Thing with Maya been Bury right, that's the woman that he used to date that she is now like warning till a swift he cheated. You know he's not good. She's like, I see him talking about this relationship publicly, and he's a narcissist. And I dated him. I thought we were going to get married. All of these things. If you had dated a guy and you felt like he was terrible, you know as a human being, he was a narcissist, He did all of those things. Would you want to warn the next woman or no?

Because at the end of the day, it's like you you kind of look like you kind of wanted back. Still you want to just right, because why do you It's not your business no more. And I don't know unless it was something we're like, maybe he was physically abusive. Maybe then you might warn somebody, But I'm not sure I would go out of my way to be like, hey girl, this is what he did to me. Watch out, we're looking corny. We are old women.

Yeah, I mean, I mess you vibe I want with one person is not always You're not always right that people can be different. He wasn't working with you, and that's why he did that and sometimes got to let a sasquatch.

I mean, sometimes you just gotta let it wreck.

Sometimes this is personal.

Yeah, you think you want girl.

But maybe that focused on you. You're so worried about trying to mess up with.

You, you're too worried about trying to be me and you can't never and you're looking very let's.

Yeah, that's funny though, because like she's been doing interviews and everything, and I don't think anybody's like, yes this, thanks for warning him.

Everybody's like, girl, like.

Do you have coming up? Do you have some business?

But let me ask you all this, have you ever done that? You know how you always you grow, you grow. We've all been young and dumb and did some things we maybe regret. Have you ever done anything like that? Like I'm going to contact the girl and tell her how.

Well, I contacted a girl. So my boyfriend, my ex ex ex boyfriend, cheated on me, and I contacted the girl's fiance who he cheated with and sent him like the evidence, so they both got put Yeah, but he still married her after that. But I just did that and then I never said nothing else again. And then he responded like oh, you know, like I could tell you. You know, I don't know what ended up happening with them, but I just put it out there and I broke up with him, So it wasn't like I was gonna

You because sometimes like looking at it with a different eye, I've done. It wasn't the same exact situation, but there was a guy I was dealing with and he was my boyfriend.

Let him tell it. He wasn't, but he was.

Anyway, we were supposed to be exclusive with each other and he was dealing with this other person.

It ended up coming out on my birthday. He broke with me. It was really sad.

I was so and I was I couldn't believe that he did what he did, and he was like someone who he would contact my mom, take my mom out to dinner. He was just doing all these extra things to show that he was this great man and everybody was believing him, and I needed people to know you, actually, he's he is crazy. So I contacted the girl. My friends found the girl that he had cheated on me with.

She ended up calling me.

We had an amazing conversation and we actually did a bonus episode on Cocktails with.

Her and I talked about our experience with this man.

He ended up doing something really dirty to her, and she was like, I never knew about you at all.

That's a lie. He told me you were a family friend.

A family family friend, And I was just like, I had to contact the girl because I was just like, I need to know you.

You definitely contacted somebody twice.

I got to know a situation where you did this. When I standing in the girl and sent her all kinds.

She's had voice.

Recording everything because he took you there. But that ain't even what I thought about. I thought about the other one.

Oh.

I thought about the other one because he told her that we was just friends. See, and you'd be like something, don't but you got to keep to my house, you got acquire my garage. Friends, we exchange. I love you.

Let me tell you the truth.

We have graw sex. We're friend and it was like four years we're friend now?

Were we exclusive?

Were we ever in a relationship now? But we're just doing all the relationship shit. We're friends.

Yeah, yeah, there are some things that push you to like you playing with me And I'm not even trying to mess up with y'all got going.

But I do need you to know I'm not a family friend.

So this is why I told her, because he allegedly came to my city to visit and brought her with him. And like his whole he moved just different than he normally did, and I knew something was wrong. And the reason why he didn't tell me about this girl they were in a relationship, and the reason why he didn't tell me is because he knew that I knew her, and I wouldn't about to do that, Like I'm not about to be fake smiling this girl face knowing I'm

A lot of the times when you do that, the girl, the girl don't leave or nothing.

She didn't.

Yeah, they don't leave.

She told me she was it. Yeah, she told me she wasn't. And I'm like, well, I'm good.

Like, have you ever had a girl contact you about somebody you were dating? You really left this guy alone? Because she it?

Never Girls contact me about almost every guy that I dated, no contact.

I had a woman contacting me about a guy that I was in, but I actually did leave him alone because it was it was crazy, like his at home situation was horrible, like he was spending all this money on everything else but his family.

I didn't know he had a wife.

I didn't know he had kids well, and it was just a thing where I was like, I can't do this.

These guys about his name.

Oh my god, he just made.

And she told me he played basketball for some school in Texas. And when all this started coming out and this woman kept calling me, we looked up the roster and I was like, you're not on there. And then she when I talked to his wife, she was like, grooms to go. And he does this all the time. He said his name was Kobe because he loves Kobe Bryant. That is not that niggas name.

And I was like, names Kobe and.

Was Calvin, Wow, still working McDonald's. You can move up the rooms.

But you know something interesting you had said before. It was about like standards, right, and realizing that, like you have to have higher standards when it comes to who you're dating. So what made you come to that realization?

So I don't necessarily think you have to have higher standards. I think that a lot of women who are in situations where you don't like how you're being treated, or you might not.

Like what types of dates you're going on, you just won't.

You're dating and you're sad and you don't know why, and it's because whatever you're attracting, you're attracting.

That your standards might be low and you just might not realize you.

Not have any standards and you need to have had them. Yea, you have these men some women might.

Some women be okay, But if you yourself complaining a lot, then clearly you don't.

You need to maybe raise up a little bit.

I think far too often people will just accept whatever is your lonely or you feel like that's going to give you some sort of validation to be attached to somebody. But if you're unhappy and the attachment was the point when.

You're dating someone, do you recommend that they listen?

Oh no, wait, what listen to your I was like, what the stide? I get nervous about it.

Please don't listen, because.

It can help them understand you better too.

You're talking drinking tequiba, something might come out. They just was loose.

Lipped and I just told the man he might learn a little thing or two about watching lip services going to come to me because I'm open book watch.

Lip service, don't watch listen to other women. But it's it's kind of like unfair too, because it's like you can hear all of these things and I'm just having a conversation with my friends and I'm speaking very raw and honest, and then you're listening to that, but then you get mad about you figure it out, or you're questioning certain situations that have happened with me and somebody else and I never you would never would have known, And it's not your business. It has nothing to do

Reading a diary, and it's like a guy that you're talking about them, but you're talking about somebody else.

Right, And you're a good person for even explaining it like that.

I just be telling them, like listen, I'm lying, I'm lie.

Lies the whole time. Why are you listening to.

But you know, and even when.

I'm so mad, I've had problems in every single relationship I've been in since I've done this show, every relationship I've been in, they have a problem with me being on this show.

What is their problem?

Their problem is that.

I'm sitting on the show talking about having sex next to celeries.

Yeah, next to men.

What if a guy you were dating was had his own show and was like talking about.

I'm I would never date somebody who's doing this, that's what you think I think I could Like. There have been times when like, wait, cute, and I'm like, I don't think we should both be in the same industry doing this.

It's like, really, I don't think I might.

Make it kind of fun. Then you'll end up doing a couple of little cross marketing episodes.

Then we break up and everybody's now everybody's talking about it.

Yeah, I didn't know if you show like this will definitely bring out the insecurities and a man, But.

What to like for you if your man was doing a podcast that I think.

It's more acceptable for me because I do.

I don't think I would be upset. I understand this is a job, especially when you take it to certain levels. It's like, I actually commend you for taking talking about fucking to a level of success.

Yeah, I love that. That's amazing. I don't need to listen to I.

Never thought about getting a guy who's on a podcast, but maybe I need that because then he can understand my life, like be.

Like I'm lying to and exactly and you hear me exactly.

But like literally, we do the show, Angel and you know this, are sitting in the corner, like all the way in the corner, and then as soon as we're done, I run out the door. It's just not this is a fact for years.

Sometimes you might get some flowers or something. Okay, would you.

Didn't come to your.

Life showing.

The live show?

Yeah, yeah, I've.

Invited I don't care a guy to come like here incident, but it hasn't happened.

But as a matter, that's ex.

Boyfriend wanted her to do this show when I first started. He was like, that's how when I first started this, I I met because I knew her ex. And then he was like, I went, you know, let's let's put G on there.

You know what I'm saying.

I'm like, okay, I'm cool with that. And I was like, but if you all break up, I don't want to hear and I was like, no, no, blah blah blah. And then Stephanie I met through Sean Malcolm. Yes, it used to be the editor in chief of King Magazine, and I was like, who else do you think would be good? So that's how and that's from the first episode.

Yea, we are.

Yeah relations.

But I also wanted to add in about like men having a problem with women that do shows like this. I do think if you meet somebody that you really do care about the concern I do understand the concerns. It's like we are I don't know about y'all, But sometimes Keik and I really go there to some of the levels, like I could see where somebody would see this floating around on a clip, or maybe their sister sees it or their mom, and they want to talk

Right.

It's not I don't always look at it like you're insecure. It's like my booty hall is cussing you.

Want to talk.

I agree with that, you know what I meant to me.

But at the end of the day, we usually speak about experiences, which we know is the pay right, and then we speak about just likes and you know, needs once and things that we're interested in educational and it's very education So why down me for expressing. But you're right about the fact that a clip that circulates online.

That when we're putting the show together, they don't know if it's a lie or not. So you know, if it's somebody that you want to be in a you're in a serious relationship with, I'm just saying it doesn't have to be an argument if they were just like, can we talk about it?

Because I do kind of want to. When did happen?

Are you at the and your relationships?

Right?

Mediki? Who's more of the I need to talk? Can we talk about this person?

You are? Usually okay?

Wait, can we talk about our issue which is more likely to be like, you know, can we talk Can we talk about this like the disgusting Yeah, me.

In our relationship our relationship with men, but men, oh me and my boyfriend are both like that. And say, because I told myself the next relationship I was in, I really wanted to aim for healthy relationships and for that, it's a lot of communication. A lot of communication around things that you didn't even think was going to have to be an issue. And so like we do therapy. We're not married, but that's the goal, but it's like we communication is really important to me and to him.

So we both are constantly like, do we.

Need to talk about that? Do we take that joke too far? Did you get upset the way I had? Like, I just want to make sure we're good. A lot of times in relationships, people just harbor on feelings and it might be small, but now that's growing.

And you mad.

So that's something you learned because you didn't do that in your previous relationship.

I didn't do it a lot.

It would be something small that bothered me, and I'm just like, I'm not gonna bring it up because this is stupid.

But at least that's everything.

Yeah, we need to talk about everything. Why do you keep no?

For me?

It's usually they're bringing an issue to me, and I'm okay with talking about it if it's going to be a discussion. But what I don't like is when somebody's like just running down a list of all the things that you're not doing right because you chose to hold on to it, I'm okay with talking about it, And I find that usually I'm okay with a lot more things than he is, and so he's usually the one and it's usually the show that's a big part of it. And it's like when I say something. I also don't

Fold them right, Okay. It's very simple.

And it's like if I'm saying, if I brought this up to you already, and I've said it three times now, don't be mad when I'm done, But.

They wouldn't be over just you don't like the big grand gestures like.

I don't mind them. But it's like the grand gesture doesn't make me forget that you won't do the small thing that I actually ask for, okay, Because it's the little things that really matter. It's the little things that make me appreciate somebody and make somebody stand out, then the big stuff, because the big stuff, while it might be pricier to me, that's easier, it takes It's very easy to spend money, it's so much easier to do that. It takes time. That's why I didn't fold the damn towels.

Would you say that in your experience in relationships, opposites attract or you like somebody that's similar to you.

For me, I think it depends on at the moment, like what I'm dating for. Because now since a little bit more serious and I want a family and I want a husband, I look at those family values. So it's like, I like, I needn't opposite. Yeah, it can't be opposite. It needs to be like we have this at our core. We want the same things for kids, we want the same thing for a household.

That's really important.

A lot of times I look at people's relationships now, and that's normally like where people end up falling out over things. It's like like core values, core values, or it's like you're looking at somebody it's like could you be the could you be somebody's father?

Because I'm like, oh.

My god, oh my god, what doing single.

Baby like?

And that's your dad, Yetta, tell my kids that's.

Your dad, your daddy's face on this child.

Day. I like somebody who kind of balances me out. So maybe where I'm weak at you can be good at that. But we do need to have a lot of similarities. Okay, I think that having somebody that's laid back. I've dated guys who want to go go all the time. I don't like that you're gonna annoy me and be stressed. I don't want to do stuff all the time. I like being able to be comfortable around somebody enough where

Like, can I actually enjoy your company without all of the.

Things at it? Because if it's all about these experience, I can do that with somebody else. It's not really about you.

Then, so that's not really real life.

Instagram will really have you creating a whole dream life that is not your real life. To be with somebody married and every day we find the turks. There's gonna be some days where we are just having a normal life.

We're going to the grocery store right.

To do that.

The makeup is gone, lashes ain't done. Ray can we sit down and be regular?

And sometimes people relationships look so perfect and then you find out they get a divorce, like they put up stuff and it's like this is amazing this person And the next thing you know is like what the fuck happens?

Because everybody some shit going on, even healthy relationships.

Everybody has there's like an underlying continuous argument about something. You either learn how to work it out or you get the people where it's like we've been faking it for too long and we got to let this go.

Have you ever argued about sex in a relationship, like not enough sex or not like being able to orgasm or not like has that ever been a situation?

I had an argument in one of them.

I wouldn't say an argument, but it was an uncomfortable talk, like all the time, to the point where I just ended up. I was like, I'm just not going to be having sex with you. And we lived in the.

Same and.

I was going to say so much was the issue.

It was just I started I wasn't attracted to him anymore, and I feel so bad. But again, these are some of those conversations you have to have them. I was like, I don't want to offend anybody, and this was my situation.

He had just gained entirely too much weight.

I'm like, I'm dying under here, like I can't even he's sweat dripping sweat in my nose.

This is sweat dripped in I'm trying.

Here, but it's like I can't do this anymore, like, do you know who? I could be fucking like? I didn't say that, but it was just like, yeah, you.

Don't say mean things, but there were moments where it doesn't seem like you like it. I was like, I don't, I'm sorry, and I felt so could be a great guy. But the sex part just wasn't.

Was he just eating too like had it? Or was there anything going on?

Yeah?

I do think there was maybe like some depression going on. He had been through a lot in life, but that was another and nothing. You don't have to go through those things with people like this sounds really hard somebody listening to bitch is real. But I just at the moment in my life, I wasn't the I'm not I didn't love him enough to be like I'm gonna rock this out with you.

I don't want to. I was young and happy and free and like, I don't really want.

To be a professional. Like you're not profession you're not the lady. Okay, you need to go talk to the lady because what can you really do? And then that's just gonna bring you down that herd.

That's a burden when somebody is not happy. I told you, I dated this guy and he lost his job and it was kind of early on and he was so depressed and like angry all the time, and I was like, I can't do this. I would do I was like, cause it's one thing if like you fall in some hard times, but you're working on it and at least we're still having a good time. But he was not fun at all. I mean it was every time I was around him, it was like my spirit was like, yeah, And it's one thing.

Also when you I think that's when you also realize that I don't really care about you. I care about you, but I don't care about you enough to want to do these things. Because I could see it where it's like you love somebody to the point where.

Will you will go?

But then it's like it's the thing gonna get thinner and thinner? Is it ever gonna get back thick? Because sometimes I think that people like to just stay in that place or they won't do the things that they need to do to get out of it. And it's like, how long do you expect me to ride?

Yeah, while you're like this.

If you're not going to anything trying to But I also you've got to try those types of so people they show you that they don't fix problems before you

Yeah, I can't do it, okay.

So how important is sex in a relationship?

Very okay, I mean it's not the most important, but it's very important.

You know, they act like women like we're not. You know, that's always secondary to us. Have you ever been with somebody who you only like them because of sex?

Oh?

Yeah? To me, sex is like the easiest part of the relationship.

It's the other stuff that becomes the issue.

Sore. I've definitely held on to way too many people because the sex was great, and it's like I don't even really want to talk to him because when he starts talking, I'm annoyed. Or having sex, I'm in love again.

Have you ever known that someone was only with you for sex?

Yeah, because they didn't like when I was talking you know what, you know, it's like it was a mutual decision and it's fine, like you just discuss it.

I don't know if I like, I feel like every guy that I've been with at least acts like they like to be around you.

Disrespect Yeah, like nice, but you can just tell, like when the conversations are not ever really having any substance, and it's just like little things, you know, like if they're not taking you out to eat and we'll eat, like ask me about my future, asking about my family, checking in on people, or asking what I want out of life. It's just like we can go, we can eat, we can do the things. You can drink and after this.

Yeah, what makes sex great to you?

Oh? The passion, the eye contact. I just like the smell of a man.

Are pasturbating right now?

Use my best friend?

I almost warm mind today. But yeah, I think it's that and just being able to look at somebody and just every sexual experience is different and the people that you're with is different. But when you can really connect with somebody and both of you are pleasing each other and it's not like one sided, it's great.

Have you ever had sex with somebody who didn't even really like, like as a person.

Yeah, I stopped doing that.

But sex was good or the sex was bad, or you're like, don't you.

Know, like the sex is good? Person, Yeah, I.

Don't want where's my stuff.

For a person I didn't like?

But I used to like them and then I ended up having sex with them later and didn't like them.

My thoughts on right the feeling one away.

Like if you circle back, like it was good at first and then you like, let me revisit that years later, and.

Then you like, I think I raised my standards because I thought it.

Was there you go, there was this. This happened to me one time. This is so embarrassing as I learned not to do this. But this guy was at my house and he was really good at like in and pussy. That was all that I really I didn't really like

This is why women are so great, because women we all like, I don't want to be rude.

Oh man, out of here?

What you want to go to work?

Yeah?

I got, I got, I got moved the man.

I got.

Worried about that.

Finally he left right and I closed the door behind him, and I was like, oh my god, thank god he left and he heard me, but I closed the doors.

I didn't know he terrified.

He called me and was like, wow, you couldn't wait for me to leave, and I was like.

Wow, I really, I'm sorry.

Did he still come up with each.

I think after that I probably was too bad. But I also just didn't like him any I didn't even really like him. I don't even know why.

I was like, when you feel that way about man, like, what is normally like the underlying factor that you don't like? Because for me, it could be something like slight like you, maybe you when you swallow it's too.

Loud and it's like, well, I don't understand why you.

So it was a guy that I didn't like. I couldn't really just get into because he was like highly unintelligent. Yeah that's a deal break because I like everything was so cool.

But he.

Think I was somebody for a long time whose sex was just incredible.

It was just really whole. You know, everything sucks mm hm.

But he was a little girl.

Yeah, and see I never had like you didn't even get there.

And like I, he and I almost every time we spoke it was like if we had a long conversation, we were either like having a jokey conversation or I was teaching him something.

You're like beat alone with men, it out with it.

It was the sex was great and he was fine, but he just I'm not even like a health freak.

I'm really not. I do the normals.

I'll do my vitamins, I drink a lot of water, I have my vegetables all that stuff.

I'm normal healthy. He was like, I don't like water, and I was.

Like, oh.

Coming out fried.

It was drowning the lettuce and ranch.

I can't so I know he didn't taste good.

That's the steps.

Have a good diet. I couldn't get.

With no water.

Like, no, I don't like water. You don't like yourself. You don't like water. That's the body is what happened.

Okay, I don't know anybody who doesn't drink water. I don't think. I have no idea.

I don't drink.

They were.

Always look unhealthy, something look like, yeah, I don't like water.

So maybe what is overrated?

No, it's not.

I have the question, y'all.

This didn't happen to me, but it happened to a close friend of mine, and I want to get y'all's opinion on it. So imagine your day in the sky and things are getting serious and you invite him over. He's from out of town, and you're like, when you visit, you can just stay at my house and he goes, Now, I'm ready to get a hotel because I don't know who slept in that bed. How would you react to that?

Okay, my reaction will be I can't believe you said to me, But I also get it. So then I'm looking at whoever he said that to you? Will Is there a reason why he do a lot of.

Well, so personally because I know the guy and not the girl. So personally for him, he just feels like he don't want to sleep in the bed that she another man fucked her. But changing the mattress don't change her pussy. You're still gonna sit on the toilet. You still want to eat off the forks in the place. You're still in the house.

Excuse first, right.

Now, there have been times when I don't want to stay.

I was gonna say if you did he had never even been to her time that you go like visit him. I wouldn't want to stay in his house either. I'd rather get a hotel and maybe go to your house.

It was the worst time they were. They were getting serious and she's like, you no longer have to get hotels. You can start staying with me, and he's like not. He said, I'll buy you a new mattress first, but not well, I mean, but that's just oh you know I I told him he was being ridiculous, and he's like the real nigga before, because the real nigga go swap out your mattress. You might out every DWN, but you can't swap out as the pussy. Yeah, I mean, I can see like a new pillows.

But she's okay with you, then you know if she's.

This, this is what I want to know. And I'm gonna ask him because I just thought of this in this moment when your break up because eventually you're probably gonna break up with her. You'll might not make it. You're taking the mattress or you letting her keep it for the next nigga.

So she.

Trying to carry out mattress.

You want to hear something crazy. I dated this guy. This is the only person before that I ever very briefly lived with for like two months, you know, And when we broke up, he tried to take the mattress with him. Like wrong, He's like, but he had no place to go with it. I was like, if you don't just take this.

Wait, it's a video flirting the round of a guy trying to look the mattress onto the train here in New York. I just saw it today.

And I had just graduated from college. So it wasn't like a good mattress. It was from a Kia, so he was extra petty.

Yeah, he liked try to take it.

And he was like trying to take it and drag it down, and I was like, I mean, I don't hear. No, he didn't because he didn't really have nowhere to go. He couldn't get it down the steps. But I think he was just that is so embarrassing.

Imagine you're struggling with the mattress, you can't eat, and I was looking like, are you just stuck this clown right here?

We sit here and talk about clown ass niggas.

There used to be a dude that I was fucking with and he he wasn't even my boyfriend.

We were just like dating for a moment. He was crazy. I will never date another Libraman ever again.

In my life.

That's my brother.

He's a Libra.

I'm a lib to, but the brother.

Brian cool.

He ended up writing a Google doc, a six page Google doc about me, and it had like an intro and heading, and he wrote this Google doc about everything that he didn't like that I did, and he put bullet points. When we were out, you could have suggested that you were going to pay for the extra, the extra who could call? Or hey baby, I'm going to pick you up from the airport this week. It was so detailed. I'll show you all after the show.

It was crazy.

He made a Google doc. Not only did he make the Google doc, he got on Instagram, found my mom, found my older brother, my older sister, and my best friend, and he sent them the Google doc. I didn't even know it had been created. My sister calls me like eight am on a Sunday morning. I'm like, what's going on? She was like, I just sent a Google doc and he sent it to mom.

He sent it to you.

I was like, oh my god, I go to my email. He emailed it to me because I had blocked him. I was so embarrassed the depths that these men will go I'm gonna show you.

I'm gonna show you.

I was.

I couldn't believe that he did this. And it was detailed. It was like a dissertation. He had all these details. Every date, he put dates what I should have said, examples of what I should have said.

Was any of this in your opinion? Maybe he was right?

You know, so.

You in the moment because he came like he really give me to the point where now and I date, I guess I should look at it as a positive. I'm hyper sensitive to like how I treat people because I had no idea he felt this way.

But this was ignorant. I couldn't believe he did this.

God, you know, I'm not gonna lie. When you break up with somebody, would you like a Google doc of like what you could have done.

Talk to me when it happening, how you diegue everything?

And you like about time? I would like it a thing.

You should create a document for people to fill out.

Yeah, like a little.

Because a Google document of what he wants me to do.

Yeah, like, let's be because we would You said it's perfect at the end, when it's over.

Maybe it would be good to have, like some feedback.

I would like to do that, because you know, I would my mom.

What your mom said almost like baby.

I just want you to know I did not open it and read it, and I always she read it.

She said, she did.

You know what she?

He titled it, Hey, smiley face, Why would you do this to someone utterly embarrassed?

That is ridiculous.

I think this is not a bad idea. I don't think we should really create sometimes. I would like and it's six pages. May enjoyed your week?

I like that.

He said, it's currently Friday, No.

Five thirty timestamps.

He actually, it's it's well written. From experience, I've noticed you don't do well with constructive feedback. So I'm also helping you curate your cantability cluster. Hence why he's the where hens while others in your personal circle are included. We often say feedback is the breakfast of champions, and without accountability, there's liability.

I've never seen it.

Okay, I've noticed position he forgot an s here. I've noticed position you've taken on social media as quote being stood up or quote wanting.

Over those particular situations that happen.

So here's some factual critique to truly add validity to the narrative as well as share best practices in dating so you don't continue fumbling.

Good man, what does this man do for a living?

You use a financial advisor? He made to the point where I'll never date a financial advisor ever again.

And even if not with me, I genuinely want and wish the best for you and your love life because I believe you're an amazing woman that may just need a little coaching or a glimpse from another perspective besides your I'm so far it's not bad a one personal accountability and communication made. It wasn't until Friday October twenty nine, at three forty five that you finally share logistics about

That's a whole issue with this is y'all won't undertand because it's a whole situation and he didn't be to it.

Okay, Oh yeah, he drove out of Alpharetta. See. I thought back to the week prior where a similar situation happened. It was Sunday. He has a date, so he has a diary.

He has he has.

Started telling me in the moment it's like a contract.

All right, comment relation moment.

I got to tell you how he starts up to a as aforementioned.

Let's remain ur my last email, right ooh, he said.

Purpose of this interaction was to express my concerned with the relationship deposits or lack thereof. I felt we're being made on your end during the discussion. You took that as me saying you don't spend money on me. That's not at all what I look exactly what he said. I'll share some examples of what we mean by relationship deposits. I haven't never heard.

Of relationship relationship therapist, right, I.

Know we go out of home, so we were not in a relationship that I'm this man for one girl. I knew him for one Did you guys describe knew him for one month?

He would have described your cooking skills.

No, he's sort of saying he wanted me to cook for him, and I was like, Okay, one day I was making some chicken wings and I was like, you could come over it.

Again, he's not my boyfriend.

Okay, you did make him wings that one time. He said they were good.

He was playing, he was I was really looking at this email to my brother.

You got it, girl.

He wanted you to just say this hookah cole refill.

Is on me now we start. But you talk about it wasn't about.

How much ten dollars I want you to be like, I got us a shot.

He left out everything that I actually did do for him that was financial, which is crazy to me. That's why this accountability thing, it's like put in your part in it also.

Though, But what did you do that he's not mentioned.

He's not mentioning the Dior cologne for his birthday. Again, I knew him for one month, and I was like, oh, he's really sweet.

Surprised. That's a sugar.

You're not good at listening, he.

Said, I did a scavenger hunt around his place, like I was like a rob romantic.

On this.

This is amazing by listening is number three and the book Never Split the Difference author describes listening as the greatest form of currency you can give a person. I don't believe it's productive to list the countless examples of where I told you something and you just flat out forget or attempt to explain to me that I never said it.

That's so mean.

I will forget some ship now, okay.

Especially and told me that I need to allow him to spend the night in my house during the week days because I live in the city and his office was in the city and he lived in bumba.

Fuck.

I don't know how much how much you have to drive, so you're paying my rent and right, And he started really having me believed that.

I was doing they so I was like, okay, maybe you should. I was dumb.

Was the last question?

Did you call him corny? I did good.

I lived from the airport and my boyfriend at the hour and a half from the airport, so he would come to my house and like use my house as to jump off point to go to the airport when he had to travel. And after a while I was just like, is this the only time I'm going to see you?

Right? Yeah?

Well he did say you're amazing. Okay, after all that, he said, YO, always attractive man.

He said he was a good woman.

You even shared or insinuated with me over text that you haven't moved on, go speed racer.

You know what? So was there anything that she was like, did you from this constructive criticism?

There was.

There anything?

Quote, let me just do this quote. I've been called a lot of things in my days, but never corny.

I should have had a big booty. He also had a big old block.

I'm not like.

Big, like like you can have a little football.

And he better be glad that I didn't take my platform and really rip them apart.

I could have happened. I was like, I'm not even gonna do that. He wasn't a little bit.

I wish she would. I wish you would have.

I would.

Booty anybody. Glad I didn't contact his company.

There's just so much that could have been done, because now it turned into harassment.

Like what are you doing.

He didn't stop contact together. Yeah, it's like, bro, what are you doing? Take the L and move on.

Period. That was a lot.

It was about a couple of grammdical errors. I'm an English major. But other than that, it was but I take that.

You know what, I'm not gonna I did because it made me think about and when he was talking about like, oh, like you're not offering things, you're not things and you're not doing relationship deposits. First of all, I didn't really like him like that, so I thought that was wek I knew him for months. I was still getting to know you, and so it made me realize that, Yeah, but for me, if I really do care about somebody making sure I am offering certain things and at least

You want me to get this? Do you want me to get my way?

And you like trying.

To ladies, let's talk about that for a second, because you've already had to cope with this in me, Dina, But Kiki, do you do relationship deposits.

If I like you, Okay, if I care, I have no problem doing it. But sometimes I think that men get confused and they think that we like them more than we do, and it's like, this is just a good time right now, So don't expect me to give a lot. But I have no problem giving. I find that really I give too much sometimes if.

I like I saw on TikTok this went viral where a woman was filming herself. She was on a date and the guy I guess didn't have enough money to pay for dinner dishes yeah, and he was like, I can wash the dishes, and she was just kind of like she.

Was just filming.

People were like, why didn't she offer? What did you think about that.

Didn't have it to offer?

That's what I saw herself.

To pay for herself, at least, because I've always been to it since I was young. Don't go out with the guy if you don't have money to take care of yourself in case something happens.

I was taught that.

I didn't always do that. Yeah, but yeah, this is definitely where I was talking.

I would think that if she had it, she would be like, well, I can at least pay my part, but it seems also you wanted to have a moment she tried to do. But then I'm like, well, why were you all ordering if you had the money, what is that point? Yeah, and if it's none, it was ninety seven dollars.

Yeah, they were times in my life they probably didn't have ninety.

Dollars either, But I'm not about to be.

Sick and crazy. I this time when I first when I was working at Serious And I don't think he'll mind me telling this story because I've he's discussed it before. But when Bob first signed to Atlantic Records, he was managed by b Rich member be Rich and him and TJ they were managing Bob. They were like, you know, after they had did my show, they were like, let's

How they paid for it?

They managed. They just didn't get drinks either, like they realized they had just enough.

Like they definitely been in situations like that, especially when it's like you tend to be a guy.

Yeah, it's any situation.

It's tough because even if it's not like a romantic situation, if you are like in the entertainment industry, and you meet somebody that you do look up through you want to work with and you maybe need a moment with him and you want to take them out, you're not going to be like, I really don't have any money to take you out, but I want to take you outcause I wanted to maybe like pick your brain about something we all know, like the protocols you're supposed to

This don't I hope she don't be trying to order too much, right.

We saw that on thesod The Happiness. Remember in the movie The Happiness where his boss was like he was entered in and he borrows some money from him. He was like, shit, that was a lot for him. I think we got to call this episode of relationship deposit no.

Seeing of relationship deposits. I feel like I made too many relationship deposits. I'd be spending money on my boyfriend. I deposit the whole relationship when i'm but I'm in a relationship. When I go shopping, I buy my man's shoes and clothes, and I bring them food.

But I don't.

One thing I have to say is that I have not ever been I've sat at the table with a man who made me pay for my food.

Ever happened.

And what I do want people to take but I would if I had to, I would I pay for both of us.

I'm I'm trick, mama.

The relationship deposits don't have don't always have money, right, because I will say there are some there. Sometimes it's just like sometimes a man just wants you to People just want you to know. I want to know, like you care about my well being man. It's you walk me to the door at night, or you walk me to the car, you open my car door, Like there are just certain things you don't you talk about what you need and what you want to take out my

It's nice for a guy to cook for you, because especially guys, you don't know how to guy except it might be a nasty but a nice gesture.

It's a nice gesture. I had a man I remember in college, but he was bragging about his cooking skills. So when I got to this, it was not there, and I was like, this is truly a college struggle meal. And why why did you invite me all the way out here to come do this? Because he didn't go to school with me. He was at like University of Maryland. So I drove my ass down to Maryland from DC. But it probably got the ticket on the way. Craft mac and cheese. It wasn't even real.

Spaghetti mac and cheese you're discussing it was.

It was pasta. I thought it was gonna be like real spaghetti, but it was like some pasta noodles and like a jar of sauce that he didn't even hook up.

I saw him sprinkle a dobo in it, and that.

Was it, and I'm like, that's the play. It probably was, and I was just like moving. I said, I can't do this. It's buffalo while wing still open. I'm hungry. We need to eat something I can't like order he did and his films were.

But I'm like, I'm hungry.

Hear what type of letter he had written about you?

You should have appreciated the fact that I opened up the jar and I don't have any food, but I gave you my last year. I gave you my last jars.

Yeah, and I did not shouldn't have been bragging about that cooking.

That was the part where he before guys who like think they can cook, but can't. They cannot make tacos and spaghetti. Those are like the breakfast.

Yeah.

Usually my father he made me steak and baked potatoes.

Yeah.

I gave him a baby after that.

Now did you see Tarall Owens talking with Sinko on on Live and he was.

Saying that I was talking about it this morning.

Yeah, so He was saying that he basically had stopped dating black his experiences dating black women wasn't so good, and that they were kind of like did you see it?

He was saying that when he was younger that the black girls didn't like him. They talked about him being too dark, and they just he wasn't attractive, and that kind of pushed him more towards other races women especially, and he's like, you know me now and he gets shunned upond because that's what he prefers. But it's just like back then, you ain't want me. Now I'm hot, y'all me Like, what am I supposed to do? I mean, to each their own.

I mean, when people are honest and they're not, you're not trying to like just offend somebody with your words.

That's his honest story.

You lie.

Have you had experiences dating like outside your race?

Yea, No. I tried one time and I was like, I just I can't.

Relationship with a Caucasian man. I've been in a relationship with an Indian man, and I've been in a relationship with some what are Jamaican.

But did any of them make you feel like I would never date this whatever.

Dan, I felt like he was kind of having a little bit of a fetish because he it was always about black stuff, and it's like, I don't talk about black shit all day every day. We don't have to just have a conversation.

I would date a white man. I feel like that I will probably eventually end up marrying. Really, yeah, just from past experiences that I've always I've always had the best times when I was in those relationships. They just treat you better. It's weird.

Did it feel any type of fetishization at all?

Did it feel like fetish to me?

Yeah?

No, I've dated the rainbow, and it all comes down to, like how we were talking about earlier, I have got to feel like my favorite way to be looking in the house is ugly, Like I like being in my hair looking crazy, and I just I have learned that when I've dated outside of my race, I don't feel not that they did anything to me, it's just the cultural differences.

I don't want those in my household.

I want you to understand that I might look totally different tomorrow, and I don't want you ask.

Some questions like.

What are we doing.

I've got great experiences dating outside of my race. So when it comes down to that, that core again the family values I don't want to have. I don't want to have to explain to your white mother why she can't say the N word.

You know what, I don't want to like, I just don't want.

To have why she's I just don't want to have to deal with that.

I just knew it wasn't the future with him, Like after a while, I was just like, this isn't going to go past where it is now. And he was telling cheep, he had a lot of money, but he always want to get something on discount, and some relationships I always wanted, like.

I was gonna forget that. I like that.

I want us all to go home to tonight and do some relationship deposits somebody you love or like.

Already for all of us.

To be able to do things like that. I'm not mad at it.

I'm not gonna lie.

You know, relationship deposits.

Now, let me ask you this. Let's just say you were in love, you've been in love before, like he was going to get married.

Maybe I thought that and I shouldn't have thought that, but yes, I have okay, and not good at first, I didn't last.

But yeah, what happened.

He cheated, he had a baby with somebody else, He had a whole another girlfriend.

So how did you find out?

His best friend's wife came to me and told me what. She was like, I really hit me up on it was like Facebook, you need to know and.

She was like I know that.

Yeah. She was like you need to know this, and I was like I need to know what. She was like, call me. So I called because I want to know, like what's going on? You have anything to do with anything? Like what's going on? So when I called her, she was like, he's having a baby and he hasn't told you, but they were talking about it last night. Yes, And I loved her message. Yeah, And she's like they're talking about it and I want you to know. I did say you need to tell her and if you don't

You every Sunday, so.

Like I appreciated that, and I'm glad she told me. I did leave Alona for that, because like, this is many you're all to have a life with. And it just made me wake up and realize this is not your person. Well one, he's not trying to be your person. He's trying to be everybody's person. And it's not gonna match up because you're gonna be mad at that baby. Like, I don't know how people are able to stay in relationships with somebody when they have a baby with somebody else,

To do so, And then also have to know that you have to deal with the mom.

Yeah, and I still have to deal with you. And then I'm always gonna wonder I couldn't.

I couldn't do it.

Why is Natasha in the corner not eating with everyone else? Were differently?

No, I was put on a pedestal. I was the you got extra child. I was I was the golden ticket child.

You know, when you're in that situation when they come into a little baby, if the other mom can be okay, you can grow to love and be like okay.

But because that's the.

Other mom is a crazy person, then that's a that's the real obstacle.

Yeah, you can't because you're now a part of my life.

And I think it's also different if like you had a baby with somebody you were in another relationship with, or if it was just like a y'all were having sex and this girl got broke, Yeah, that's different, but you got a whole another relationship.

Now, Like what if you started dating somebody you really liked them, and then they had a baby on the way with somebody they weren't with, could you continue to pursue that relationship.

I mean, I might be able to do that.

I have, I've got that, I've been what I've started with a guy who has a baby on the way.

Yeah, and we still.

Because there's already so much that goes into again, a healthy relationship. If you're not worried about that, then cool, the same for you. But like if you are, it's.

Like, now we have a whole other dynamically.

But like you said, I was, I feel like it was in my younger years.

And yeah, and my younger years, I wasn't even the furthest I was thinking about the future was maybe the next twenty minute.

What are we eating?

But you know, I don't I don't know.

If sometimes we stayed way too long and we got those signs really on it, but like I know, baby on me.

We was in an open relationship and he got the next girl pregnant and I found out because his best friend thought I knew and was like something something something, the baby, and I'm like, what baby. You know what's hard for guys too, because sometimes they be thinking they don't know if it's theirs or not until.

That's what he tried to tell Sometimes they try to wait.

And they'd be like, that was an excuse. When I asked him, I guess what he said, Well, guess guess what was happening. The baby had a name, his name no, but very close to his name because he already had a junior. The baby had a name that started with the same initial, and he was transforming the library across the hall to a nursery. So how are you doing all this and.

The baby and you don't you know?

I would rather like tell me that you think you might have a baby, but you don't know, and let's get to damn test communication not getting DNA tests like you said, No.

I'm not gonna lie.

After the baby came, there was a little problem in between time and the meantime that we had to get over.

We had to move on from out.

Because there's so many Because then you look at it like, Okay, I'm with you, you have the baby.

You have to be president in the baby.

I can't be.

You know, I can't be mad because I knew it was coming.

So what if he was like, I really want you to also like step in.

Step mama.

Yeah, that's a different thing.

There, Like what if the guy wanted to meet his baby.

That's happened that guy that sent that Google doc. That was one of the reasons why I had to leave on because he kept trying to force his kid on me.

Child.

I don't want to The baby was five. I didn't want to meet him though, so I was like, I don't need to meet him. Why do I need to meet your child? I personally don't think that's appropriate when anybody has a baby. You just everybody do you dating is meeting a child?

Do?

I don't.

I'm not comfortable with it.

I don't know that littlenigga Bye, I don't even want to meet your kid unless I know we're about to get married.

That's a big stead.

Because why we're going to do that to the kids and I love kids. I'm good with kids. I play with na I'm gonna.

Happen after that. You don't know where Stephanie, She's gone.

Yeah yeah, And you created.

A little monster for someone's daughter to meet and Mary one day. No, I don't need to meet the baby.

Or I was glad that I met him with the kid, and I met everybody, and now I see how you are with the kids, so I can really see, like how you really are. I can't just listen to what you say, and.

You might complain about your baby mama, and you might complain about.

Things, But then what I can see, and I can speak to him myself or speak to her myself, I can really get my own opinion. But I need to know you well and I need to a feeling that it's more solid than just somebody. I'm just stating. I'm at a dude's mama and his son. They came down one time. We had only been talking for a little while, and I'm like, why are we on a family outing?

I did not know so crazy?

Why are we doing this? This is weird? And it's like, do you introduce your son to every woman that you deal with?

But then again that goes back to the whole again, if that's something that you don't think needs to be communicated. Now in my adult years, I realized I can't be with somebody that doesn't think a conversation needs to be had about meeting something your whole offspring.

Right right, and your mother and your man.

When I was in college, this guy I was with he had a kid. His kid was was only like three years old, and him and the mom were not on good terms. And I was living in a dorm in Manhattan. This is when I was at school at Barnard and I was thought I was going to be a teacher, so I was taking these classes at thanks She College and Education. He left his son with me one day, becau because the mom left a note and was like I can't take it anymore. Yeah, she didn't

You're a good person, and it's like you're just like, I'm gonna leave you with this stranger.

In my dorm room. That's weird.

And then he was like, he goes to me, man, I'm not I'm gonna take him to a foster home. He was like, I'm not doing this. I Am not with a person who even thinks like that. Yeah, even not like he was like, I can't handle this. I'm taking to a fus at home. And I get that he was mad at the mind for just up and leaving like that, but it was really hard for her, Like I don't know what.

He was ready to take the baby to the foster home from day one, and that means he already wouldn't doing his job as if.

And then he already wasn't playing Angel was.

I'm in the dorm room, but he was.

The baby.

I don't even I remember I took him to the park. I just remember walking with him in the park and then being like what am I don't know what to do.

About That's study that right.

I feel like at this point in my life, I don't want to be with a man that has a small child, right, yeah I will.

I don't mind kids, but I like them grown like mine.

Okay, like a little adult.

Yeah, I think I'm old enough to date a man who has a twenty year old kid.

Yeah, you know what I mean.

Be and your son be like cool, we go to dinner all of us.

Do you think that you're more like in a relationship, you're more maternal to your man or he's more paternal to you?

Like, are you more of the person that he's definitely the me too.

I think I'm more maternal towards my boyfriend. But then when I get into like my mode if I'm crying, I want to be like rock to sleep rod turn into a baby.

So I don't know.

Maybe I'm a mix switch back and forth.

What do you Me and my boyfriend are like, He's what I need a man to be for me as a woman, and I am I'm definitely the maternal Like what do you need? What can we do in the house to make things more comfortable for both of us?

Okay, yeah, what about you.

I'm more maternal. Yeah, and that's why I say I give too much sometimes. But I think I would like somebody who is more paternal. I guess I would like try that a few times.

Be taking care of like I like that.

Knows how to lead. And it's not like me too. He just knows, like because a.

Lot of men will stream about it, you don't listen, but it's like you don't leave. What am I listening to?

An idiot?

Like mind?

You know, being the boss of things that men are a little when like I could take care of banking and things in the house and you know, keeping up with the tissue and the napkins and the normal womanly things in the in the home, doing.

That exactly.

The times Like I can't tell my man this is because he's going to be so mad that he might like wild out, you know, like about somebody else, like if somebody did something to you, and you like, if I tell my man, is he about to.

Be I like that I still haven't.

Any of my personal relationship business because he gets in his feelings.

I got to be like, oh, it's trying right.

Let's this.

I've been talking to all right, ladies, some cocktails, dirty discussions and by the way, they are on tour right now, so make sure you check them out because you got y'all kicked it off in New York. So we came in on a SAT today and she's flying back out tonight to be able to sit thank you, you know, to be able to be here for for this episode today. Okay, So, what is one thing that you have to hide and do from your significant other in the house and you

Right?

Always?

No, I'm thinking I.

Don't want them to know every time I'm master every time I think, yeah, I don't want.

Yeah a couple, have you ever masturbated while he's there?

But like if you won't leave, you don't live, You gotta go. I mean I got to.

Be when he was watching football, Yeah, like in this.

Sport exciting about that anyway, Like, oh, let me see it's like this is my personal moment.

Yeah, I don't want you to.

Give me a blanket.

Yeah, I'm hiding under the cover.

Mine would be this is so embarrassing. I sometimes act out these random scenes that are not real. It's just like I'll think of something and be like, I'm gonna fake cry, but I have to obviously be by myself, and I'll be like acting like something dramatic happening really like I'm in a movie, and I.

Just do it at random.

Most like I might be in the shower and be like, oh my gosh, he really did that to me, and like acting out this whole lie of a scene. If he ever walked in on me doing that, would be embarrassed.

We have to break up.

He can't hear you though, Okay, yeah they can't.

At least if he walks in, he won't be surprised. He won't be You don't know what you're doing.

You would say masturbation absolutely, okay, I see. For me, I wouldn't think you would say that. I would think you would be like, what, I'm masturbating?

Well, no, because I do it a lot, so it's like, damn again, you're still in there. So yeah, there's been times when I like would be on the phone with my guy and be like, Okay, I'm gonna go back to eat.

What about you?

Stephanie for me waxing my mustache.

Like imagine you wax your mustache and then your boyfriend comes in and you got like the redding like that, or.

Like you're trimming you need a wax, but you can't make it there trimming the head.

See me like all in my box with the razor.

I don't, I don't.

I gotta really be comfortable with a man to smoke around them, Okay, Like I have to be really really comfortable because after I smoke weed, I look at everything differently. I'll start noticing ship, like what is that mark his nose? Like why does he breathe like that? Why is he talking? I gotta go, So I don't like like smoking weed and I smoke. You know, I smoke pretty much every day, he knows a lot of times.

So that's what.

I was thinking about that met when somebody was like, they were like, your boyfriend leaves you alone in his his apartment. What are you doing? And they were like, I'm fighting and shipping and hilarious. Don't do when he's there. But he's there, right, That's when you know you get to a good place in your relationship.

Before you get there, I'm definitely waiting till you. Yeah, questions there.

And you'd be like's not here yet, Harry, do you want me to call one for you? All right, well listen, ladies, thank y'all so much for coming through. We had a really great time and chill, and we are definitely gonna do it again in Atlanta. All right, that's a plan because Gj's in Atlanta too, So yes, I am in Atlanta.

Oh, I got my companion pass so I can fly everywhere everywhere?

Are you?

I just want to say thank you.

We have been able to this time in New York check off a bunch of goals. Sony was one of them. That's where our life show was, and coming on lip Service was directly after it. So we're really happy to be taking a train, taking the train.

When I was in college, my one of my best friends Nia, she put me onto lip Service when it was on serious Oh yep, and lip Service. Honestly, listening to it in college and all this stuff, I was like, I should do a show like this but with real people, well not real people, but regularly regular and it kind of inspired and so I was like, this is a full service moment. Can you drive faster and the uber we got to I love it. You know.

When I started lip service, it wasn't with celebrities. It was actually a segment on serious Costs sled it out. It was once a week and on the show that Cipher Sounds had, I was his host, his co host, and so I had a little segment. But the segment did so well and it was like regular people. It was like the receptionist. We had a doctor on one time, and then they gave me my own show because the segment did so well, and that's how people.

Want to know.

People like talking about set. Yeah, I also wanted to and I came out with a card game. It's called I'm Curious to Me. We should have we were both rushing around. I was like, when you go out in New York, you really don't have time to go back to.

Yeah.

I was like, so we will definitely like whenever we meet again, or maybe we can send you one of the games. So we would love to see the description so that your listeners can purchase.

It has a cookbook. We're on tour and thank you so much, so much.

You got to put in the cookbook too.

It relationship, but ladies, I appreciate it, and I love the entrepreneurship that y'all have going on to I think it's amazing. You know, we fully support that up here, absolutely all right, it is lipserviyes