Episode 387: F Your Watch (Feat. Jayda Cheaves)

I think that's important as a person who is has a business for people to see you there too, like on the ground right, like really putting the work in. That's what it's about. That's the main reason I got on the show because I was like, I want to showcase myself as a businesswoman and not just like this cute girl that take pictures like it's more to me,

you know. All right, Well, before we get into all that, you know, this is lip service, So we are going to start with our tip of the day, So everybody has to give a tip, all right. So the question of the day was this one woman was asking me, listen, I'm dating this guy. It's pretty new, but every time I gave him oral sex, he never comes from it. So she asked for some advice on what she can do to actually finish the job. And she's wondering, why is it not working? Oh, he wanted, I don't come

from head man. Yeah, my tip for this young woman would be to just simply ask him what is it that he needs? You know, like the best way to get the real answer is to ask the question, what can I do? Differently instruct me on what you like and what you enjoy so that we can get to the end of this. Because as much as I love giving head, we ain't about to keep going through all of this. I want I want the reward to from all my good works, my jaw lock up period. Okay,

but if that's you, Jada, don't look around already. Um So I would just say, of course acts because that's like the main thing, Like you got to see what your partner wants and what they like. And honestly, it's no such thing as like bad head. You just gonna make sure you make a real, real what it probably isn't a thing. Well okay, but the water the better. Not on that, but make sure he comes. But okay, yeah, right,

like dah she died giving head. I've had that same issue too, And that's why I say when they asked you, I don't like generate to give head because they take so long and like you said, to pay you back off what you guys say, wet for sure. I've learned over the years that wet. And also you know, playing with it with both hands and doing different things and touching under the balls. What is the call but the good you wet, you touch it and you just look at him and just make sure you know you can

feel pretty much. But it's really hard to make them calm sometimes, so we know answer that. I'm not about to answer this for this question, but I'm gonna tell you what I tell her. Okay, Well, before you do that, I just want to go and give a bonus, right, enjoy it? Yeah, you are always that matters that you enjoying. You gotta you're gonna love it. And if he feels like you're enjoying, pleasuring him to help get him there too. Yeah, that's what I told her too, right, So don't say

I'm not gonna answer it. So the first thing I said was anticipation matters, So you gotta do a lot of four plays so that like you ain't got to do it right away. You gotta just act like you're about to go down there and come back up, go down there and come back up. Then don't necessarily do it right away because then they're like, damn, putting your mouth already, and by that time they already like, you know,

building it up. I said, you gotta make your noise like you gotta like moan a little like you're really enjoying it. And y, that's a lot of spit, you know what I'm saying. And then I just think you gotta talk a little bit too in between you're doing it. You gotta say but if you know your man and you know he liked his nipples played with, then we gotta chick daddy. Daddy, you don't wear the nipples. I mean, yeah, I will, but not while doing that. I gotta focus.

So like I'm already trying to, like because I figured out my thing, like getting more into it to please my partner is like pleasing myself too, So like I have a Twitter and I'm like doing it at the same time, so like I'm also trying to, you know, get myself there as well as pleasing you, and that makes everybody's happy. As that's a good tip. Play with yourself like yeah, and you know what you talking about? Tip too. That's another thing. A lot of times women

think you have to yeah, deep thrown into everything. But when you play with the tip, used the hand and then just that's that's how I have made men come right with the tip. And you know that part times to the tips of it. But I have enjoyed it over there. The more I do it, like I said, and the more I pick up those tips, I actually do and joy everybody. But you know, you gotta be confident, never might swallow. Can you call me and tell you about the first one. I'm gonna please. Yeah, you get

your superhero strength. After that time, you're gonna go from little little lord a big lord like Mario graduated. Stop, oh my gosh. Now you know how the day season is also kind of like a break up time for some people. Now do you officially need to break up with somebody or does it just kind of fade out, like do you have to be like, okay, let's have a conversation we are broken up or is it kind of understood when something happens. I feel like it's understood.

I don't think it's a conversation that's needed because everybody not mentally there yet to have a conversation when they feel like they did something wrong. So like me, I'm ready to talk about my problems, but like the nigga might not be on that because he's not mentally there yet. Like they run away from their problem, they're not ready to face them. So me, I'll be wanting to talk, but I don't get that. He's like when I talk about I just let it fade away. You know, it's

never like we're broken up. That's not it no more because guys be like, once you have that, like, yo, we need to talk about this. They don't never want they're gonna have you ever dated a guy they wanted to talk? So I'm actually crashed off of a breakup. That the most craziest breakup, right. Yeah. So we were together for like a year and a half, and without getting into too much detail, I just felt like there was a point when I just realized that the relationship

wasn't working for me. So you know, we had went days and days without speaking and um, you know, I had a tragedy come through my life and wrecked things, and I just felt like he wasn't there for me at that time. So at that point, I'm just like, Okay, I'm done trying, and we kind of just faded apart. But there was a time when I literally said to him like, hey, we need to talk. And we never had to talk, but I was really feeling like I just wanted to ended because I just wasn't getting what

I needed. But we just never had the chance to do so, so it faded and it's over and I'm single. Y'all. Would you have wanted to talk? Yes, I feel like most women do. Um. I mean, I don't know. I just really was at the point where I didn't feel like myself in the relationship was a priority in his life. Like I feel like once he got me to a point where I was in a safe space, like I was in the savings account versus being in the checking then I felt like he's like, all right, she good,

I don't got worried about her. I got her tucked off, I can go do this, this, this that, and that it wasn't out things outside the relationship, but focusing on his businesses and his health and his family and personal things. And I just feel like me knowing what I need in a relationship and knowing what you know, I want to expect time is something that's very important to me, and that was what was lost, and I just didn't

feel prioritized. So I wanted to tell him these things, you know, I wanted to be were we were very open with each other, so I wanted to be completely honest with him and let him know that this is not working for these reasons. But we it just faded away, and I guess that's just it. So I remember somebody posted I remember who it was, but they were like, for a man who's successful, you'll never be a priority.

They were talking about meeting because he's very successful, and I just I mean, there was a point in time, in the very beginning, of course, where I did feel like things were a priority for using. I want us to be a party, not say meeting us, our relationship, what we have, so like, yeah, like you that's true,

you would never yourself be but our relationship. We even started working on a business that a business venture that we were going to go and sit together, and that just like got pushed to the back burning for you know, whatever reason. And I was just like I just needed him to kind of like stand by his word and then do the things that we spoke about and really make things happen instead of it always being this what

we're gonna do. This what we're gonna do. And I just got like, all right, I got to move on. So now jaded watching you on the Impact Atlanta, Right, you said that you are single. I know you're used to being in relationships. So being single, did you have like a breakup talk or did you, like you said, just fade away. Um, it just got bad to the point it was like it was all over the internet. It was like we was going back and forth to the point I just had to take a step back.

So it wasn't really like a this we're breaking up. It was like we didn't have no choice but to break up. It was so bad, like we both we can't keep doing this. So you think the internet because clearly, like and we know that, you know, from starting off young,

you've always you've always had a big following. You think without the Internet things could have been better, you know, because I think sometimes relationships are public and people go through whatever issues, but as long as the world doesn't know about it, Yeah, the internet knowing in everybody's seeing

and telling you what you should do. Not that I care about what people say, but it's like I have to have respect for myself to like I can't keep letting you play with me and I'm just sitting here all smiles, because that should hurt, you know, like my feelings hurt. So eventually I had to like take action, like Okay, I gotta step back because it's ain't it.

And that's what I did. And so you think it's permanent now or you feel like there's a chance that like things could if you know, all I'm still young too, so it's always a potential that like, all right, I'm young, you're young. We both lit, we pop in, but maybe later on down the line. The love is still there.

I mean, the love is always gonna be there. But as far as like a relationship, that's just not something that I'm focused on because I feel like I'm healing and I need him to heal too, because like we could even hang around each other now and it's still stuff like I'm like looking at like he doing this because of that, or like I'm looking at your flaws. I'm trying to dig into you, like why do you do the things you do. Why do you speak on

the things that you speak on? And it's like I'm a little bit to heal, so it's like I need him to get on that same catch up a little bit so we could kind of like balance and you know, meet in the middle rather than it's like Okay, I'm here and you here. You know what I'm saying. And you think there's also pressure from what people have expectations of what you're supposed to be like as an artist too, you know, because I know back in the day used to be like, oh, if he's gonna be an artists,

you can't publicly have a girlfriend. I feel like you being his girlfriend was still lit for him though, you know what I mean. But I think at a certain point, like it is a lot of pressure for guys, a lot a lot of pressure, and you gotta think, like you get way more cool points having five holes than

having one. I mean, it's messed up, but generation now, like that's really like people goes like, oh damn, he was with her, he was with her, Like that's what goes viral for guys now, you know what I'm saying. So like, I don't know, it's just society, Like, what are you looking for now, Like, I know businesses first, but if you can say, because everything is a learning experience, so I feel like, no matter what we go through, even if things didn't work out, you know obviously have

a beautiful son, and it is a learning experience. So what would you say in the future. You're like, this is what I want, and this is what I won't tolerate. Um, I'm not tolerating an insecure man. I'm not tolerating hosts like a guy having, a guy having or just feeling like he could do whatever you want to do. I'm not tolerting like a lot of the stuff I used to like just let slide. I'm not tolerating it. I want to secure man. I want a man that bounces

off me, like somebody I could get life from. I'm not just like pouring it to you. I need somebody to pour back into me. And we're just helping each other win. Like that's what a relationship is about. It's an agreement that we got to be with each other. I'm not trying to control you. I don't want you to control me, but we are here to benefit each other in some type of way. And that's all I want. I just want to secure man that could just like

we went together, like live life at our fullest. Now, somebody had told me about dating a guy with kids, like be careful because he always still gonna suck with his baby mom. What do you think about that? Oh, because y'all did have like some Okay, No, I definitely that baby mama, Like I'm not even gonna stay here

and lie, I'm definitely like that baby mama. That it hit a little different, Like he gonna always you know, we're gonna talk on the phone, We're gonna be cool, like even if we're not physically intimate or like we on that level, we're gonna always chop it up. He's gonna randomly face time me. I'm a randomly face on him. I'm always answer no matter what I'm doing, whom around, who I'm around, just because like we were always friends first.

But if I had a guy who I was dealing with and he was like that with his baby mama, I would be like, oh, like, you ain't the one for me. I can't even like I'm not about the vibe with you. On the flip side of that point, if you are to move on to a new relationship, and you have this relationship with your son's father, How do you think a guy is going to feel about that or come to you and be like, I don't really like the way you and him rock, you know,

would you kind of not breaking? Would you kind of like that? Would you be like, no matter what we what we are right now this is the potentially forever because y'all have a son together. We have a son together. But if I really meet a guy who makes me want to do that, because you know, I'm an in dealt with other people besides my child's father. I just haven't met the person that's really like I'm a lock in with him or like it's serious, if it's worth it.

Oh yeah, like out of here, like I'll talk to you and we need to talk about my son. But like right now, I'm just really out of space where I'm just like living life doing me like I don't got no rules, there's no rules, I don't gotta answer to nobody, nobody is controlling me. I'm just living the wonderful. It's oh my god, like so happy in real life. What if he finds someone that and he set boundaries on you but you're not. How would you handle that?

Oh no, I'm so comfortable in myself. I'm ready. Right. Of course it's gonna hurt because the love is still there for him, But like I would respect it. I would definitely respect it all the way. And I'm not like I'll say this, we're all genuine iss in me. I really would respect it and just be like shit, that's what it is. But I hope she a good girl because she's gonna be around my son. I gotta respect it. But a time, listen, But I must say,

I always think like this. We always think is our plan, and we have plans, and we make these plans thinking this is the person and this is right now, and it's on God's time and God's plans. So maybe right now is not the time for both of you, guys, And both of you are super successful, like you got a lot going on as well, just as much as he do. So you never know, like you, and it is the son of your child, so he's never gonna leave it never again. Sorry. Yeah, so you get what

I'm saying. So maybe you get what I'm saying later on in life when you guys, because sometimes that happened I've seen relationships were like eight years later. You know, you guys been through whatever you've been through, and at the end of the day, that love remains that love and you and you'll never know. And let me ask you this. Javonte Davis, right, we were watching um before the fight. We saw that his his child's mother shifted on his tooth first. I know, I'm sure you saw

that on social media. He posted it, what's the craziest thing you've done when you've been mad? I'm not crazy, Like you've never done nothing, not for real. I don't ever allow myself to get out of character like that.

I'm gonna cut you Out'm gonna be mad. But like as far as like breaking your stuff trying to like I've never been that in love to where I got to come out of character like trying to like ruin your car or oh okay, So I would say the craziest thing I've done, I'm not gonna like fuck your property up or like do nothing like that, but I have like took all his jewelry, and I like, Hiddy, that's because you're you're going to have to talk to You're going outside that right, I would say, that's the

most craziest thing I've ever done. But I'm not like that. I'm not gonna pop up on convenience where you put my watch at? I made sure to take because I left everything. I took the most expensive I took the most expensive watch, and I just took it with me because I always would keep my own place when we lived together. I will always have my own place. I just took it left and then um, I guess he was ready to go out one night and he was like, where my watch that? And I was like, I'd like

ignore him. He started up, he started blowing my phone up. I was like, yeah, that's all I wanted to get your watch, Come get it? Yeah, Come, that's funny that you know that would bother him. Yeah. So, as far that would be the craziest thing I've done, But as far as like crazy crazy, I'm not there. Like I would never do no ship, I'm not crazy like that either, but I was saying I was telling them earlier. The craziest thing I did was UM, when my ex boyfriend

was cheating on me. I the girl. I found her on Facebook and she was engaged, and so I hit up her fiancee and sending him like the emails of the trip they took together with the receipts and the pictures and everything. See, I'm not that bold. I did something a little similar. Yeah I did that. Well, I didn't do that, but that's like a classy, like a classy. You know what I'm saying. I don't even want to cross paths with the other motion. I I gotta just

leave you alone. I can't. I don't want to even have a conversation with the next party. Because see that's what I did. He told me, like my ex c the new girlfriend. Yeah, I him to her and was like, hey girl, I just want you know that your man said this, this, this, this, this and that, and he lied about this, this and that. And I saw a proof when I went through his phone. And I'm only telling you because I wish somebody would have the proof. I didn't send her to proof. But but but the

things that I said, she knew that clearly. I was, yeah, no, no, but don't know she saw it? Oh please? Would you you know? People say like I would want to know? Would you want to know? Oh no. The only reason the things I did find out in my past relationship was because it hit the blogs, like I don't go looking for nothing. I really like to stay on my own bubble. I always go off of what you don't know. I won't kill you as long as I'm happy until you I'm gonna go until you find out. And then

that's when my life is shot. And when you go looking for it. And I never went like, I don't go through phone and I'm not I'm not searching for If it just following my lap, then I'm gonna start investigating. But like, I'm not going looking for nothing. I know his hurt job to the floor every time he hit the blog, say have you ever been together when something hit the blogs? And yeah, and you got that first,

you got that first real reaction. But you know, you know what's so crazy and it's had no time to prepare. But looking at the blogs and seeing things like that, like you're beautiful, like I said, you have everything going for yourself. And it's like as a woman, like you know, women who are not in the entertainment or anything like that, women look like look at her, she got everything. It's dummy still doing this and kind of it's like what as a woman, what is going to satis? But it's

not your fault. But I'm saying women looking at it because some people think that you know, oh my god, they make the perfect She's perfect. I would like, even Beyonce, it's not. That's the answer that you can't. Yeah. Never. But at one point I did used to be like, is it me like to pick this? Do I need to fix that? And then I started getting so confident in myself and really learning like it ain't me, it's him. He's broken. I'm good. I'm not the one, you know,

giving my body to all these for men. Like I'm really good with who I am. I don't got to do that. I don't need to go and funk off if I feel like I just lost gambling or I lost the game, or I'm upset, like you know what I'm saying, I don't. I don't have outlets. My outlet is I'm gonna sitting in the house deal with it. My problems. To meditate before you go stick your dick in the random. Honey. Okay, you know you think men and they right, Men and women are different for the

reasons that they do what they do. Absolutely, especially when it comes to sex. Like you know, we were having it because some guys like they could be okay having sex with somebody, they're not. They're not even really that at traffic too, right, It's hard to have sex with somebody that you're not like feeling, you know, as I think I don't know how to. I mean, I know guys have been like, yeah, I just did it. It was nothing. But I know for me, like it's hard

to be like I don't really like him. I didn't really, it was no such thing. It's me just like fucking and it's like, okay whatever. It's like, no, if I allow you in that space like I like you, I want to pursue you. You know. So now let's talk about the impact. Are you doing the season two? No, I'm not doing season two? Oh for real? So you're out? How come? Um? I feel like it was just an experience and it just wasn't really for me as far, and I'm not gonna even say it wasn't for me.

That show specifically wasn't for me only because like a lot of the scenes that we did film didn't make the show. A lot of things behind the scenes that were going on I didn't know about. And it's just like after seeing it air, they would like send us the edits, and then once it go on TV, I'm just as surprised that the people watch and I'm like, what, that's not what I That's not what I watched, or that's not what they sent me, and um, it's just

not for me. I feel like that show, but I really like towards it and started enjoying doing reality TV. It was something like it became fun. So you would do something that you have more creative control, yes, for sure. Or if I just like if everybody on the cast is on the same accord, you know what I'm saying, Like, of course, a little drama here and there. Yeah, I mean that's necessary. We spoke earlier about there's always a villain, there's always a fight, there's always some type of drama

when it comes to reality TV. So that's something that should kind of be expected when getting and we've all done shows and been shot in actually crazy and like you said, there were so many scenes that we film that just didn't even make the cut. Yeah, like so many, so many scenarios that people remember, the switching up. Yeah, and you're right, you don't get to see really what they put together. You know what you feel when your situation that's really fucked up that you would never in

real life. You're like, man, I would never have been at this event with these people, and now here I am and now this personal out crazy Yeah, in the middle of some ship I would never even in real life. But I'm not even gonna say, like, I love the experience. I love how it went. I up that even though it was like a bad light that ship, really like I had my business booming. Regardless of that I was made to be the villain on the show or whatever people want to say. I still like, at the end

of the day, I was handling my business. They did showcase that enough for people to say, Okay, I want to support her business, like let me see what she's selling, let me check out her website. And it really did like do what they had to do as far as that Wait a minute, So that's why I'm like, honestly, like, that was so cute, so cute, right, and it was a lot of it paid off. It showed your mom, like a side of you. That's what I was thinking, you know what we was watching. It was like it

showed a side of you that people don't see. As far as also your relationship, you know, with your mother, with your sister, and how involved your mother is in your business and you keep your family closed, so that it did show outside of Yeah, I started I feel like that and people were too focused on the bullshit that they have, because I also can appreciate, like as a business owner when things don't go right, and how devastating I could feel to you, like when you got

the clothes and you were supposed to have a drop and then like ship, now I gotta push it back and everybody's expecting this and this came out messed up, and this logo is not where it's supposed to be, and that should be out of your control sometimes and you don't know what to do. You're just still You're still always the one that's gonna catch the blame because

it's you're responsibility. You're a line, you're the boss. So no matter what's going on behind the scenes that people don't really know, they're still gonna look at you like, oh, she cap Cauline supposed to drop in and drop she keeps pushing it back. Sure, people don't know that ins and out, it's always yeah. So I'm glad that that part of it was Showcase because that's what that's what I was there all the other ships. Like I hear

y'all bo, so what's next with your clothing line? So I have my upcoming drop, which is gonna be the end of this month or March. I don't say exact days no more. I don't exact days in production production for sure. And um I dropped like a little um sneak peek maybe like the week after Christmas and it went crazy. So the girls will, yeah a little teasers. Now,

how are you in Ari now? Um? Honestly, ever since the show, like we just don't talk like at all, but we never really talked on a regular basis, you know what I'm saying. So it's like she in her world, I'm in my world. I want her to win. I think they still got another season coming up. They did the re union and everything, like they're actually on what you guys, because it's still the same season, y'all are actually on hich one that I just found that out

the other day night. Yeah, I saw the commercial for it last night. I didn't even know that. Yeah, I worked out, but yeah, that's that's viewership in the wider audience. UM I enjoyed the show. I was kind of surprised to see that they kind of had you guys as enemies and then it was kind of separated, like I was expecting more of all together unity. Yeah, for sure, I felt like Lakia was kind of doing her own

thing off to the side. I love you and that this relationship you could tell you'all really like j friends, Like you can see the real like love that you have for each other in the support that y'all have for each other, and the same thing I feel like well Ari and T. But I just felt like I expected it to be a little more cohesiveness, but with everybody they were trying to be cohesive. But every now

cohesive and messy. But like in the beginning, we all like weren't on a friend basis to where we texting and talking to each other. So once it started becoming time in the film, which was six months after we had that original meeting, everybody, y'all coom by, y'all like, hell, yeah, we're about to have this show. Let's go six months we stopped talking. Now it's time to film again. So everybody,

it's all weird. It's all weird. So it's like damn, Like, how the hell are we even supposed to say at this table with the same energy when we haven't talked in this months, you know what I'm saying, Like we all follow each other on Instagram, but it's like how we all supposed to come together? Really and everybody in Atlanta? Yeah right right, all right there? Yeah, so this happens like just like like just like, are you planning your own show now? Oh? No, I'm really just getting my

acting bag. I got another movie coming out um this year, and what's the movie. It's called Only Child. It's a really really good movie and I had a bigger role than the last movie I did, So it's really I feel like it's going to open a door career path. Yeah, so acting is something I really want to tap into.

Reality TV cool and I'm not against it. But have you always went into act or is it something that kind of like came after everything else with the fashion and Um, I never really wanted to be an actor. It just kind of flow or came about after UM like TikTok And I guess this lady who filmed that last movie Been for Love, I was and she was like she could do TikTok's I feel like she could act. I want her to be in my and that's how things,

you know. Ye, no audition, no nothing, And I did the movie and did a good job, so it worked out for me. But acting wasn't something I was like, I want to be actorss No. Now, Gig, I want to talk about your social media. So we saw you got another surgery done so and I tell you responding to people so today, so talk about it. So what you've got do you know? We I freely talk about surgery anytime it comes up as a topic here on

the service or in any conversation. Um, you know. But so recently I did like both three sixty Um, I did a flex scope procedure with UM goal shout out to ghostlex surgery. No, I can talk about it freely now. It was a promo thing, right, so clearly required to post and to go live. So I'm freely sharing my whole process, you know, from even before I laid on

the table. I you know, did the surgery live on Instagram everything, so um in these posts the comments, of course, people going to have their things to say, oh you'll need that, or with a waste of money. Oh, love yourself? Oh that right, So that's all fine, right. Everybody is entitled to their own opinion. Opinions are like assholes. Sometime I'm sayre shitty. You know, sometimes they think right, but sometimes you fix them and sometimes you know, you get

it right. So I made a post that kind of cleared up a lot of the misconceptions about surgery and procedures and so forth. People took it the wrong way, like, oh, how are you gonna sell You don't care about people opinion, but you write this long book and make multiple posts about it. It's not that that wasn't the thing. I just want people to be informed, right, I want you to really have facts when you think you know what

you're talking about. Like, for instance, and I'm sure if you've gotten this on social media, every time somebody see this shape, they automatically say BBL. No, every time you see this, that does not equate BBL. Every woman did not have a BBL. Some women like me are actually too small for a b b L. Like some women like me, I already had fact butt shots in this butt for ten fifteen years now, and I you know, I ain't no doctor gonna put nothing in there and

guess what, I don't need no more. Right, So, just to give a little clarity again, I have been doing surgeries since two thousand five. Right, I'm on my second pairer M plants. I'm on my second round of light bo. I've had butt shots for a very long time and thankfully I had okay experience. I have very minor uh side effects from it now. Um, but there are women who almost died from getting bus shots. There are women

who have had lots of complications. I know women that went to the same lady I went to that had to get there is removed because their body rejected it. You know, everybody has a different experience experience. Also, everybody is a canvas, right. You cannot go to a doctor and say I want to look like this if you're not giving that doctor that to work with to begin with.

And that's another misconception that people have by surgery. Oh you need to fix this, or you need to fix that, or you botch this, you botch that, you should look like this, or you should look like that. And it's always the ones loud and wrong that don't know what they're talking about. Stop working on your body. You got Preston plance. What did your doctor tell you when you have to get and redone? How long? Two years? Or

five and ten years? Five and ten years? Most prest and plants have a five to ten years shelf life. So after I personally didn't like my first pier, so after five years I got them done over. But I'm going on thirteen years with this second set, and at ten years I got them checked and you know what, the surgeon told me, they are perfect. I wouldn't touch them. If they start to give your problem, revisit it, but

as of now, you're good. Keep them right. So it's not that old I have body dys morphia, or I don't love myself or not even just me in general, but women who get surgery right, because this is all the things that they shout at you. You don't love yourself, love the body God gave you, you know, work on your self esteem. This the third and that is not the case of getting surgery. And when you don't get done and then right then we do them. We don't um. I know, I'm going a little bit of rant, and

I'm into with this. To each their own right. We choose to do what we want to do to make us happy. But it's not always about a man. It's not always about society. It's about you. You choose to do your hair the way you want to do your hair. You choose to get your nails the way you want to get your nails. I choose to snatch my waist because I want to statch my waist. Yes, I love my body, but I also love my strip of body from two thirteen. And guess what, I got that thing

right back? You can get Oh, you could have just worked out and went to the You could have just ate clean and went to the jump for thirty days and you didn't even need all that. I eat very clean business like if I wanted to lay on the table and get it sucked out and be and you feel and you feel good. Yeah, so I am very pleased. That's why you gotta just know what you're doing and be happy within and be so that ship don't even bother you, you know. But sometimes it is like, okay, no,

I'm gonna shut you all up. But like I've noticed lately, they still don't think what they want to think. So it's like I don't even give it the more. I really just stepped back and like, Okay, y'all are fucking losers and I can't Like, I'm not even about the superhoo. A lot of it come from people that could do it if they could, would do if they could be

people be so crazy. Posted a picture on vacation, like, you know, I went to St. Martyin for the holidays, and like, I don't even post a lot of stuff like that, right, but I was this beautiful villa and of course I want to post them to promote where I stayed. And you know, I was just chilling and my friend took like a little video of me, and then I was like, Oh, that's cute. I'm gonna post it. People was like, oh, so I hate when people post video themselves on it. I'm like, I've been see so

they're gonna find something wrong with you. Yeah. And then and then they were like, oh, we don't need to see this, so we're still doing this, and I'm like, you guys, I got a brand new show about to start, you know, and I heard the only black my mother syndicated show on I heard excited about that. It's also

it's just my birthday. It was New Year's and I don't even barely post nothing like that because they couldn't be there with you if you are, Because think about it, like, damn if you're happy that like okay, if I like my outfit right now, I love my outfit. If I posted and I know I'm posting it on Instagram, I know they're about to be talking. They're gonna find something to say. But I like my outfit, that's all that matters.

So you posted that video you on vacation because you wanted to post it was peaceful, yeah, but I was like, amazing. Social media is meant to tear you down. That's what you gotta be strong minded when it's not for everybody. I was like, well, damn, you know, congrats to me, right.

I've come to realize that when have negative things to say about you, especially when they don't know you, especially when you're someone right, it's because they they see something in themselves that they're upset with, so they want to project project right, Like, I've really come to that you're miserable with yourself. You don't like yourself, so now you're gonna tell me you don't like my hair doing damn, well, my hair is cute, Like I said, they're losing, Like

for real, that's like loser, You're fucking loser. When I'm reading my comments, I'm like d and they're not going to page. They'd be so like, girl, you're too cute to even be hating, like this, what's wrong? You need healing? The same they're saying, if you don't have nothing nice to say, don't say nothing at all. That's saying about that whole school, because I live about that. I'm not even I didn't even do that, Like I neverly sucked up comments me either, never either ever, Like I've never

been that girl. But you even have the people like I could go under a comment, like I made a comment under the shave room. It was something that they posted. I was like, oh, but I mean, I think it's fine. Everybody should speak their mind. I got so many hate comments, just like saying I couldn't say nothing. Okay, you know what I went. They went on my page, left messages. You know those people are saying even in the comment

in for this show. And she had to tell me, like, Laura don't know, I'm reading the contents up about her about the response, like what do you talk about comments? And it don't make your life so much more. I'm comments, you know, the only time time because if it's on my page, and I know I'd be having like advertising and stuff like that, So I clean up my page. But on the other pages, I can't control that, and I go back and I'm not gonna be mad about it because I'm like, why do I want to disturb

what I have going on? Like, clearly I don't need to let the energy. Yeah, I don't put me. I'm sorry. Like I read them and I'd just be like, wow, lose their one to him? You will losing to lose it. But I'm gonna read. I don't know. It's just something in me. I'm not gonna stop reading. Yeah, life would be way more peaceful than I your life. It's peaceful. And because you know you'd be so mad, you'd be starting to respond and then you'd be like, let me know on my I'll be buying the back of my

month twitterte what you're saying on my page. I'm glad that now I find it first because I have to go delete it before my son seet. Yeah, you got to think about my son's going back and forth with someone, and I had some something like yo, let it go like, it's that they don't know you, they don't know me. They're gonna and this is gonna keep was like mom like, it's like and now he's like, I'm ready, I'm ready to pull up on the model call. I'm like, boy,

shut up. Yeah, you know. So that's why no, like I make sure I just delete it or you know, before he could see it. But sometimes it goes by and by the time I look he's responding to having a whole conversation with him. I'm like, William, just let it go after them surgery posts, and the people was coming at me were like, guess what I started doing restrict restrict restrict restricts better because I don't know. I don't know. Yeah, my friend, you see it, Yes, listen,

you block them and create another page. You're talking, you're talking to yourself. Don't get consumed in the negative side of things, like you know, I agree with that. And then I also saw in the pack you said, yeah, d MS was lit okay, so and that's a that's a good part of social media. So have you ever responded to somebody in the d M s and been like receptive to you know, maybe potentially going out Oh, the niggas a d in me. It's like, I don't want nothing to do with you. Nobody. I mean no,

they'd be good. Okay, I don't want to know. You know. It's like it's not nobody. I met a guy, but it was in person. Okay, Yeah, Like, because are you gonna screenshot me? Are you trying to set me up? Who sent you? That's what I'm thinking? What sent you? Trying to be? So? So, what made this guy who you met in person stand out to you at all? Like? What what about him? Because I'm sure guys approach you all the time? What about him was like a little

bit special? He was cute, he was like different, it was something different from like what I was used to. I'm I wanted to tap into something else, and yeah, it was. It was cute in the entertainment business. Or is he like a different type of Yeah, he's we ain't about to do that. So I want to ask you about the backlash you was getting on social media for saying things like what type of guy you are? Like I need a good nigga? Like why do people

care so much for one? Yeah? But when Beyonce said it, it wasn't a part, but when your saying hood and I ain't checking for you, my god. But I did have to go back and like kind of I did a um interview recently with the Shade Room, and I basically was saying I probably was just like, you know, just being fly on TikTok, because not thinking it's gonna hit the blogs, you know, just being funny myself, my

true self. And what I really meant by that is I just want to protect her, like somebody that's gone just as much. Yeah, robbing me just because like I'm pointing license to carry, I keep my going with me, Atlanta is the world is crazy and I don't leave nowhere without it. How would it look if I got my gun and my pat the guy in the passator

and driving see heat, I'm shooting for us. You know, say, if you're from New York is different, right, So you said a guy from New York where you can't really have a gun, like okay, so it is everybody got yeah, okay. So that's why I went back and sing the protector. You know what I'm saying, like I need somebody to be like, all right, it's time to leave this restaurant. Like but you know what right there and he we all want somebody that has some type of like street smart. Yeah,

that's it. I was saying, like I need somebody on point just as much as I am, because I'll be on point. Like you don't want nobody instigating a situation, but you want to know if something happens, I'm gonna

be okay. Yeah, you want to love her to person who knows there's a time and a place, you know how to prevent and know how to talk with you somebody I feel comfortable with, you know, like I could turn up get drunk because I know on our way home you're gonna be making sure that's nobody following us, right, you know, yeah, somebody that's aware. It's just crazy how our lives get put so much, and not mine as much as you it's clearly, but our lives get put

so much under a microscope. Like once you reach a certain level of popularity, it's that you can't even sneeze the wrong way with, but it's it gets in a curse because I think, like for Jada, you can mop off of social media. That's the reason why you're in the position that you're in, is the support that you've gotten so then it's kind of like you could complain about it. But at the same time, yeah, yeah, not that you do, but I'm saying a person could complain.

But at the same time, it's like, well it is you know, it's what pays me, right, It's like what you choose to do with that platform, what you choose to do, and you know what your plane is. You made another comment that went real crazy about like sleeping with somebody. You know, you sleep with your man, that you slept with him on the first and we were talking about that sex on the first day. I waited, and I'm mad that I wait, Like Laura just had

an experience. Yeah, it was like, I don't care about you sleep with a person up her. I believe that it is what it is. If I'm feeling you and you're feeling me and the vibe is right, and you know, like things happen, it happens, you know. But then I started saying, Okay, I need to try something that always that happened, but it has happened. But I've been trying to go into you know what, let me give it three weeks a month and a half, you know what,

I'm saying. And I went through the whole three weeks of being courted, going out on dinners, going on you know, to me dating, You understand what I'm saying. Slept with him, sex was amazing. You know, we four months of all of that and the whole time to him that wasn't dated. Right, So that's the second part. We need to know what is what is the definition of dating? But as far as like having sex off the rip, you got a lot of backlash for it. I don't see nothing wrong

with it either, right, what do you guys think? I mean, g would tell you she has for eleven years, so that never determines like anything. And I've also made a man wait because I felt like that's what I needed to do and it was not worth my time. What's going to happen? Do listen? Might work out, it might not work out, But like I just go off an energy, like I'm really been on energy. So like my baby's father, my child's father, he um first night and it's been years,

tell me, tell me how it. Tell me like the vibe was like for y'all, like the whole process. You want to know it's crazy, are you sure? Yes? You want to know, I love to know. So one night, UM, like I've just moved to Atlanta, had a cute condom. So I was like, I've never had a guy over. I can't wait. So he was like, what you're doing tonight? And I was like, before that we met? We never met. Before that my first time meeting him, Like I just

heard of him. When I moved to Atlanta. Everybody was like, you need to talk to the little baby. You need to talk a little baby, even my sister, and I'm like, who is this person that y'all keep asked me about? And we had followed each other on Instagram and I posted his mixtape. He had dm me prior, like when he was still in prison, and I just never paid it no attention. But when I moved to Atlanta, I just kept hearing about little babies, so I'm like, let

me follow him. So we started following each other and we eventually linked up and one night I was home and he was like what you're doing. He was like, I'm gonna come over and I was like, okay, cool, like you could pull up. I couldn't wait because my condo was little, but I was like, you know what, I'm not gonna I'm not gonna say I want him over. I was just like you could put up on me. I'm gonna come outside and talk to you like we're

gonna chop it up. So he pulls up. I'm outside talking to him maybe for like an hour, and um, he like I got to use the bathroom. I'm like, it's like when I still I still trying to like play hard to get. I'm like, it's wanted a lobby like Consierga. Let you you know. I was like, you know what, you could just come up, sire because y'all both wanted him to cry. So he came up there and we sat and talked for like maybe like four hours, and then um, it just happened. Like eventually he was

like all right, I'm going in for the kids. Yeah, it just happened. So it was like I literally went off energy. I didn't have no intentions like I'm out to him, like hell no, me talking to him and really getting to know him more. I'm like, okay, let's go. It like started getting hot talking to somebody for five hours just like five days. Yeah, that was good. It probably was longer than that, but it was like hours. It was like sunrise and if I was smoking to

like you know when you smoke, you we weren't. Well he was smoking, but I wasn't even smoking. I don't smoke. But it was just like good energy and was the first time was it like amazing? Because you know, sometimes it's a little awkward when y'all don't know each other, like with the other person. Like, so the first time it was kind of crazy because I really wasn't on that, so I didn't have no intention. I really didn't even

get the grass. Yeah, like I really didn't get into the cut me off guard, okay, but like I was like, I was like, okay, it was okay, I gotta I gotta see it again because I don't really know. I was so in the moment, like just what it wasn't playing it was God's plans. But I would say the reason why I said that in that comment because that was somebody I met and you know, did it with the first night. So I was like, okay, it worked

out with me. So I probably shouldn't even said that because I don't just a whole bunch of guys on the first night put in my hands how many guys I've slept with in my whole life. You know what I'm saying. I don't even think that matter, can't matter, but it didn't even matter. Like it's that you say that because there's this stereotype that like as far as like you said, you're a woman or I sucked him on the first night. But if a man do that,

like they're not looked as you know, like that. I just feel like, yeah, and you're gonna the first just do it to wait three months and should be terrible. Yeah, I can't get back, but imagine you waited that long and the dick ain't. But yeah, it's just fun if you want to fuck y'all ran it back and then he the next fire the next day came with a

damn spending night bag. Yeah, it was crazy, came with it was like the WiFi jumping in this we got Netflix and crazy you know, cooking and yeah, because you know, I'm gonna be honest, a lot of guys, from what I've experienced, don't be really used to girls having nation Listen, you know what, it's a special thing for sure. Over the years learned there are certain women who just really don't have their ship together. And it's like some of

the things that most women men don't experience. Some most women, I'd be like, ain't you like that comes second nature? And no, I've learned from talking to men and from men's you know, telling me like damn I didn't. Yeah, I just hadn't had these type of experiences with women, And I'm just like, well, who are you dating? What type of females are you dealing with that you're not getting this. What I think is the bare necessities are

just like you know, common regular things. So yeah, I would say it come with like maturity and just going through life and learning. Yeah. I think it's also shows that how you was raised, how he was raised, because I know grown women that can't do are well, that's yeah, that that's not okay when it comes like mors and stuff.

I was taught that. But like as I'm getting older, I'm realizing, like I'm learning, like it's okay to run a bath for a guy, Like it's okay to be submissive before I was so so after just having different experiences with different people, it's like, okay, like you do have to be domestic when you're dealing with the guy. And at first, you know, I could honestly say like it was kind of given like a little girl, you know,

like because I didn't know. I'm I'm gonna make sure the house clean, I'm gonna take care of the house. I'm you know, but I'm not knowing that. Okay, when it's time to eat, I should fix your plate. Like I'm just learning that over the past three years. And I could see here with confidence to say like I didn't know that this whole time, and I was living with a guy for years and was still like not there mentally yet, you know, So it just come on

maturity that it's definitely grows. And I think if a guy can make you feel like comfortable and secure like you you want to do those things. And I'm learning that and it doesn't have to be like afford that traditional roles and being forced to do something. You do it because you like, because I want to take care of you. It's just like right here, you want to take care of you too. Yeah, I'm learning that though.

Oh that's yea. I was like tapping into my affectionate side, being more affectionate and stuff like that, because before I'm really not an affectionate person. Now that was I say that, you know, I'm not learned what I learned about your son Capricorn. You have Capricorn, Yeah, you have a being affectionate is that sometimes if you just aren't genuinely an affectionate person, it'll get pulled out of you from the

energy that you receiver from your mate. And you're a liber right, Okay, My mom, my brother and my best friend all libras real sensitive. Yeah so sensitive. That little baby like she you're the same age, but she'd be like that little girl fill to this day. Girl, You are right. They actually it's funny. We just talked about saying creative. I was talking about before you guy here,

So they did this whole thing. The zodiac sign most likely to live a secret life according to astrologers, right, so number seven on the list, and these are people who they could plot a murder and you would never know. Number seven was Virgos, extreme, number six was aquarious, number five is Leo's, number four is Gemini. Number three is Scorpios, who are known for being mysterious. Number two was Cancer,

and number one was Capricorn. Yeah yeah, as capri Corns are known to be quiet and tight lit, but they also have a much darker side. When it comes to the secrets, and can be quite malicious in nature. Due to their high drive for success combined with an obsessive and strategic authoritative nature, A Capricorn could easily be a secret murderer. But we're also very fiercely loyal, So Capricorns are masters at hiding their two feelings and but secretly

kill in the name of love, loyalty, and protecting family. Girl, that's a lot. I was just like the worst your best friend. Yeah, I'm seeing should real crazy to you, but I don't see you as a but either. I think you always pretty much straightforward and level headed and like, yeah, you know, honest and you know that whole thing. Like I don't really Yeah, I'm very practical, but I could

be like really emotionless about things. But a lot of times, like your signs still like that's what you're sign, That's what the character characteristics is of your sign. But like, I'm a Pisces and there's a lot of things that I've learned growing up over like Okay, when I read it, I'm like, oh my god, that's how I was. But now I know how to I know that I'm like that, so I work on those things, and I make sure so when I'm start feeling, I'm like, yep, here I

go loving others more than I love myself. Let me work on that. Here I go wear my heart on my sleeve. Let me stop extremely sensitive. So I'm in therapy dealing with my emotions and my sensitivity. So those are the things, like going to there that was part of it, because like every time I read Pisces and I read those things, I'm like, oh my god, that's me. You know, there's a lot of great things about us, but there's a lot of things that will cause a lot of hurt and a lot of insecurity and a

lot of things within myself. So when I'm you know, dealing with my therapist, I deal with these things because I don't want to be like that. But those signs that that that's you. Just gotta work on those things that you don't like about. Everybody is who they are, Like, well, do you think you have any libra characteristics that are supposed to be kind men for you? Yeah, I have something, but I just feel like that just comes from my childhood, like trauma and just bad energy that I had from

different situations, and you know, I don't. Really, I'm not gonna say I don't believe it SIDS because I always asked everybody i'll meet, like, what's your side? But it's like there's a reaction to every action in life, whether it happened when we were seven years old or seventy you know what I'm saying. So we just experience in life at different rates and you just got to deal with it and face the problems. What are some things like you talk about childhood trauma, Like how do you

see that play out now? Like me not being affectionate for instance, Like my mom wasn't really the type to just hug me and tell me she loved me. So now when we get off the phone, we always say we love each other, but it's still like I love you too, you know what I'm saying, But only because coming up, like she didn't just always like give me hugs and stuff. My mama was my best friend, but as far as like affection, she didn't give that to me. So now I'm like, just you know, even talking with guys,

I'm like, dang, you're right. I I'm like, stand off is I don't cuddle you? But that's just because I wasn't taught that, you know. But with my son, I make sure like I cuddle my sign, I kissed him every morning, I tell him I love him so many times throughout the day. Were super affectionate with each other. And I don't want him to grow up and not

be affectionate because I grew up not being affectionate. So I just like, you gotta really go back, sit with yourself and analyze all those things coming up, break that ship down, and really break that curse, because every reaction we're receiving right now came from something that happened a long time ago, or ship a couple of days minutes ago. What about your dad, Oh, my dad not affectionate. I

didn't have a relationship with my dad. I still don't have a relationship with him, so have like but you know him. Oh yeah, I know my dad. And then my mom um, she actually got married and her boyfriend adopted me and my sister and really helped you with your sense of like wanting to have a business own and that this is like that who's who I called my dad and considered dad because I was through year sold and that's who really took me on my wing. Told me about boys. Got me like, what did he

tell you about boys? I mean, you know, like he will always telling me, don't be no Honda and that basically everybody can have a Honda. Like when I went, he was like, see, don't be no Honda. He will always do that. It's liable. Yeah please, I'm just like everybody.

But when I when literally I came home with my first car after selling I sold out my hair and I came home, he was like, see, don't be that, because like that's your parlem, Like, bro, you have for me, Like, but that's what you got, the first car you got, Like, don't be that. So he will always tell me that, and like he just really gave me that hustle. He went to China for me, help me find a vendor for my hair. Like so that's my dad. That's that's the person who you know had gave me that manhood.

Did your biological father every time to reach out to you now seeing you being successful, he's just not open to it. Um he reached out recently, and I mean I told him I love him, you know, but I just feel like you don't know me no more. I don't even know you, you know, like I could love you from a distance, but as far as like having a relationship, I don't want to mend a relationship because I'm just not there. I feel like I'm past that.

Do you feel like that comes from your success? Do you feel like like, don't come on be around me now and when you didn't want to happen? Yeah, because I feel like then I've been I'm twenty five, Like why are you just not reaching out? Damn like I would expect if you reached out when I was five, you know what I'm saying, Like, yeah, ship thirteen, you know what I'm saying, It don't matter. But reaching out now, it's like I'm growing his head, like come on? What?

But And I think I think probably also that you had another somebody else there as a father figure out because like I just read, connected with my father, I hadn't seen him since I was eleven, And I'm not gonna lie. I needed it, Like I definitely needed that my kids met for the first time. My oldest is twenty one, my youngest is eleven, And what that did for them and what that did for me is amazing. But then again, I didn't have anybody else to be

a father figure. So like in my case, I'm super thrilled and happy because for the first time I felt the father love. Whether it was for five minutes, you know what I'm saying still, you know what I'm saying, Like it was something that I needed going into the

new year. Yeah, she went to Dominican Republic. That was Chris Like what it did for him and even not just for me, what it did for him made me feel good because I don't know what the reason is behind him not being in my life where you know, I don't know what happened with my mom, Like I don't know, and I'm learning so much that it's like, you know, I'm glad that I kept a open mind, you know, because I could have been because it's like we're you know, it sounds hard open heart too, because

it was kind of like, damn, where are you? Like, I don't know nothing about man right now. You know, I have brothers, but at one point day wearing ships. So it was like that that that but you think God, and it was blessed to have someone there to show you now all that is necessary because I like, then I will really sit down when I'm sitting with myself

really trying to figure out life. It's like, it's that why I accepted so much from a man, you know, because I just wanted a man, you know, because I didn't have that growing up for real. Or I saw my mom you know, going in and out of relationships or dealing with different guys. So everything comes from somewhere. So it's glad that you taped back into that to know, like I needed this. Do you know why your father was just not there? Did he um in and out

of jail? And then I guess my mom just eventually got tired of his ship. And then she met my stepdad, which moved when they had you she was young. Yeah. Yeah, me and my three sisters, three sisters, and it's five of us. My mama got twin twin boys, and when I got older, two older sisters. That's nice to have a whole Like, yes, and y'all seem to be pretty close and well here, yeah, we're close. I try hard,

me and my sister. We sometimes we're seeing out of but like at the end of the day, that is my sister and family is everything, and you just gotta learn how to love people from a distance. Like as I'm getting older, I'm learning like that is what everything is about, even my biological father, Like I'm gonna still tell you I love you, but from yeah, like ain't no bad book. Well, I thank you so much for coming out here and being so open and honest you know with us. I've been watching a lot of your

conversations and moves that you're making. So this is our first time having to sit down with Jada. I'm coming back. I love this and now listen, you have to and I can't wait because I feel like some big things are about to happen that you're gonna have to come back for. Speaking of big things, I got a little interruption for big that's I was like, wait, what's happening. I was like, wait, that's in September. Yeah, I got heat. A birthday came or whatever. That's so cute. Well, thank you.

What kind of cake is that? It looks fancy moves? Did you make them? Cut? Yeah? Thank you guys. Happy birthday, Happy birthday, Happy birthday, Happy birthday to you, Happy birthday, Happy birthday, Dear Angela. Heapy birthday to you. Let me make my way, yes man, that's really specifically Yeah, Yeah, birthday, Happy birthday, Happy birth, new Year, new show, new chapters, everything, Yes, the way up for Angela. Ye, I feel like we got the way thing in common. You know you would

do something. Yes, I'm excited. That's something GOODE is the year so much. I appreciate it and jard you with the first person to come on in the New Year, so we appreciate you to kick it all. Right, well it is lip service. Is there anything you want to make sure that you get out there that we didn't talk about? No, no, no, we got any upcoming from Yeah? Anything new that were not like everything, like y'all let me go listen to a New Man and New Love.

No see that? You go, Okay, we're seeing a different film. We're gonna find out soon because you know she's not. She's feeling very strategically. Yeah, okay, yeah, I'm good on that. Lift service B