Episode 348: Crockpot P*ssy (Feat. Yemi Alade)

New York right now? Just so we can know? Uh So, I was invited here by the by the Grammy Academy, the Academies, and it's one of the people in the Pannel to speak on afrobeats and Dan Tall you know I tell you about a cranium, Yeah and yes, And it was a nice thing to do, you know, talking about afrobeats and how far it's come. You know, it's been so many years and there's so much more that afrobeats still needs to cover up in the entire world.

But it's a great time to be a life. And there's like a lot of sub genres within afrobeats because it's like, don't even get me started on now, and there's so many like almost every state in every country in Africa. It's like having like in Nigeria alone, we have like over three tribes now we might imagine if each tribe. Now, that is how diverse our sound is. Yeah, listen, and I feel like afrobeast is taken over though, you know, so for yourself in particular, I mean you, I think

are one of the most successful international stars. Thank God for that. Thank God for that. So what was your journey like just even getting to that point? Because man or woman, you are killing it. Thank you. I would say in general, just like every other industry, is never easy for a female because the opportunities aren't exactly the same. I don't know why. You know, the world doesn't deserve us, right,

but I definitely don't understand why. But you know, the women before me, they went through these exact same, you know, difficulties, and I'm facing mine and I'm exceeding them, I'm overcoming them. So I like to focus on the funt that even though you know we're women and that there's disadvantages, but you know, there's definitely a lot of opportunities that open up when we actually push break down the door and

take what's hours. But as as a female, that literally what I'm saying is that all my entire career, that's all I've had to do take my spot, earn my spots, take what's mine because I've never given you know, it takes a lot of strength. But um, I'm here now. Yeah. I mean I gotta ask you this because this is lip service because you like that in your career. Are you like that in the bedroom too? Fighting for my life? But girl and making sure that are you aggressive or

do you like to be dominated in the bedroom? Wow? Okay there, I just kind of question what I would I mean my loud Um, no, I'm not aggressive, but I would say I'm exactly very dominating either. But I give instructions. You give instructions. Nice, Okay, sometimes you gotta tell them girls. No, that's good because you know why. I find like when I was younger, even if I didn't like somebody struck or what they were doing, I

would be kind of like just go with it. You kind of just try to like move but not say anything or try to and sometimes you do got to speak up. It took a while for me to be able to do that. GS like not me, not for sure. I just respect to my class. But yeah, I'm definitely a communicator in all aspects of my life. I'm gonna tell you what it is and how I feel, and definitely in the bedroom, like I'm not holding nothing bad. But even when you were younger, you always been like that. Yeah,

I learned at a young age to to communicate. I learned at a young age that people cannot read your mind. If people who are not going to understand you, if they don't let you, if you don't let them know what's going on. Because I feel like if you move, like sometimes you move a certain way and they think that you move like there because it feels good, but you're really moving like that because you're like don't feel good. Yeah,

like you us, I can feel your teeth ouch. That is a good thing to know because like in Nigeria, in Africa, most of the females, um, we aren't exactly taught to you know, speak our minds as unfiltered as we want to as we feel. Like most times you have to put being polite first before you know even consider how to put the words together. So most times

you just end up keeping quiet, you know. But like so like for me, I'm actually I just kept smiling when you said right from when you're a kid, you learned that people cannot read mind, So I learned that way. Later on, I thought, okay, since I can't say what I don't say, maybe body language you'll do it for me. It still does not you look like a person, even if it's your best friend, your mom, someone who has known you all your life. Still they don't get it.

How you have to speak, you have to speak? How did you learn about sex? Like, was that a conversation that like you did your mom tell you? Like okay, so you know, like, how does that happen? Because my parents never talked to me about sex. Well, for me, I think my first I would say encounter, But my first understanding of sex obviously was in school, the biology

classes that we had. But then at some point there was something that was introduced to my my school, secondary school they called high school here, it's called sex education. So it was like a very short it only happening for like two days, and they had to help protiction us come to school and you know, show us how to wear a condom. That was the most important thing

to them at the point of time. So they add the deal looking things and they just you know, see the condoms on them or like okay, So that was my first understanding. Off you know sex, but I never had a conversation on appearance. It never happened. The closest to sex in a sentence that I probably heard from my mama told my mom at some point was when I asked her, Mommy, what does it mean to be sexy? I think that was the only time whatever. I can't

remember because I feel like my mother just dodged. She just went like this, like that, like that, yeah, and you still never got an answer. I don't even when I got my period, I didn't even know what it was. My mom was just like, put this pad on. I didn't know what was happening. When I caught my parent. My mom didn't tell me nothing either. I didn't even tell her. I didn't think about telling her first. So my friend caught it first and I laughed at her. A week later, I called it so I just went

back to her like a disease. That's how I felt at that time. I called theeriod. I wastageous around me. My mom was at work, she worked seven so it was like when she she found out, like three days later, you have pads in the house and everything or act. I love my I love my friend, my childhood friend she came downstairs and gave me like a whole box of pads because her mom bought her to see. I remember learning how to use tampons. Yeah, I was one of the special ones. But I didn't want to use

the tampon. I just I don't like it, so I would ride it like it's crazy. I would rather use tissue. You put toilet paper in your underwear. I was doing to do that, and my mom had to take me to my aunt and tell her, please talk to this young lady. Like a lot of persuation. I didn't like the you know, the you know it has a feel, uh, the nylon. I don't like tampons now inside yourself tampons. When I had to, I had older sisters, so they

taught me. You know, I learned. My mother didn't teach me, but my older sisters cheerleading in high school, Like we had to wear tampons because we used to have That would be terrible if you did a summersault and your Yeah, an instance where the string was show like not me, but I've had some of my cheirmates like the string when they do. You imagine it happened in the strip club. Can't imagined the girl bending over and the string just hanging. I've seen it happen. Well, you can't wear a pad

in the strip club. But I've been saying, imagine you dancing. Imagine a girl dancing in front of you, and all of a sudden she's been over and it's a little string bang. And I didn't know how to head girls. Plenty of times like oh you damn my straight. I had to read the pamphlet and I still was doing it wrong. You put the whole applicator and every day and they kept sliding back out. I was like, this

is uncomfortable. And then it doesn't work if you don't put the cotton, like if you don't use the applicator. So it just kept sliding back out, and I was like, this is terrible, and understand what I'm supposed to be doing. I just recently stays in Tompon, just been I started

last year. I've always used um pods, but know son tree pods they can't give infections because I had had an infection from some path Yeah, like they have those things, you know, they have like moil on the inside that turns you know, flow into all these chemicals over the years. But yeah, when you're performing, right, because you you go in when you perform. How can you put that? It

isn't an uncomfortable in a pad. I'm just asking even just sitting down, it's uncomfortable, But like performing, I'm just really blessed to be one of the females that don't exactly experience a lot of pain when on their period. So I'm able to go ahead, do everything, do perform dance saying you know, I recently realized that with the tampon. Okay, this is the reason why it stays on the tampon because I just learned how to swim. I don't know how to swim, Sam, the only person in here that

doesn't know how. I definitely how do you? Okay, so break this down for me. So you decided you needed to learn how to swim out fascinated by that. Yes, Covidar really just did a lot. I just really had time to reflect on life and just think to myself, what are the few things, like, you know, get myself into that that would you know, just really make me happy, help me get my mind you know less tense. I learned how to write the bicycle. Then this is crazy?

And then I learned how to swim. So I was taking swimming classes and then I really was excited about it because I started floating, and that's exciting. You don't know how crippling it is to not know how to swim. It is crippling sometimes and I'd love that. I'd love that. But then the thing what happened was that because I was really I always woke up in the morning very

excited for my swim classes. Then one day the period decided to coming and I started making cold How do I do this because I don't want to miss my swimming classes. I don't want to like, I'll just protect I messed up about four or five. I didn't understand the technique, but it hurts on the way in. How do you And then when I now, I'm a pro. But they also have the cups now and they're reusable,

so they're amazing. You know, they also have the cups for you know, when your bladder is weak and you know, like me, like I go from zero to a hundred when I have peas, they have the cup peacups to try them, like they gave them to me, and I was like, yo, I mean, you know when you're at the club and you drink it and then the line be long and yourself so it's not me. It's like a cup and it helps you hold like if you square,

you know, you wait until use squirt a little. You go to the yes crazy if you squirt a little, yeah, like you know when you gotta gold roll back so and sometimes like you get yeah, like I call it happy my dog, My dog get excited. Yeah, I don't. I don't go through that. I don't know, because you know there's women that stuff like they have after half half ki you have. That's why I got vaginal rejuvenation with the laser is because I smoked and I would cough and I would peel on myself a little bit,

and it happened one too many times. So I looked up, like what can I do to stop this from happening? And I learned about vaginal rejuvenation, and I got my vagina lasered um from the inside out and it took it back to virgin status. And that's why tampons hurt me now because it's so tight down there. Hello white part. The only time I almost pee on myself is when I have to go and I'm at the door when

you get you to do it. Listen, you get to the toilet, the board, you gotta go exactly, and then get into the bathroom the toilets eventually and it's right there before. It's just I wonder if guys like I thought that too. I was like, I wonder guys like when they little there's a little pee, like, what happens? Does it happen to you when you Yeah, so y'all in your box, when you're gonna suck it, you can take the pee a little bit, y'all happened to y'all had a little bit of I don't know, ye no toy.

We never get no p money. That's a head. No wait too, guys like wet wipes their tips too, should and then we won't have beer in the mouth, he said, they do, Yeah, they do. Well, my guys have I think. I think it's like the birds is great for it happening. It's a bit you're lying, all right, keep up, ladies, Okay, yeah, I mean you too. Okay, you're not gonna slide out

of this. So let's just say you've been out all day and then you get back to the house with with your dude and he wants to eat you out, but you haven't showered a nothing. Let's go let him. I trust myself, I'm letting him. No, I'm good. No, let's go, let's really, let's really again. I will let my man eat me right after I work out. Okay, what if you shippa right after? I don't even do that. I'm right after, I don't even do that, and right after that, right after because I said, how to clean

myself a day? Right all day you've been working. He was in rehearsals, and then use the restaurant at some point while yes, you and then you get home and he's like just trying to rip your clothes off, and are you gonna just let him do it? Rip the clothes off and pass me the wipes? Yeah, wiping throughout the day. Don't let me tell you something. I had an experience one time, and ever since this one time, I've been scared to death about this happening to me again.

And I'm sure there's a woman in the room that can relate. Have you ever want to go have sex or do something with your vagina? And there was a little piece of toilet paper stuff there and he had to pull it off right. Y'all had to pull off the little that happened to me once and I never went. I was so embarrassed and had some cheape happened to me again, So I used, where's my purse? I have wiped my purse right now. I keep wipes. I wipe. Got about forty eight packs wipes in my house trying

out the good wipe. Y'all need to spons to us to um. I got about forty. I got the to go ones in the little individual rap backets and I have to actual baby white packet and I wipe. Start out that that guy saw the piece, he picked it off. He was about to eat my pussy and he picked off with baby. He still ate it though, when he picked off the little piece of tough paper. It looks everybody, your posting was like an hour later when you pilled

off the wrapper and it doesn't come stuck. It was it was a later with a little piece of the wage paper on it. And you know we're underwear, yes, and I used white, I wipe and everything. But if I know I've been out for a while, no matter, I'm going in the bathroom if I know, if not, if I just showered, and I just happened to come over that separate they I'm gonna go and wipe and just not me but him, poor baby, like poor baby, not me. I picked up paper. I'm gonna be honest

with you. I feel like going home and taking the shower and having sex. You ruined everything. You your your body was mavernating for that. The best time to have sex is after your whole day is finished, and then take a shower and go to sleep after after it is nice to go to sleep after text. But I also like, I'm telling you everything is a little juicy and and nice and taste in the c It's good. It's got it's Laura, get that man, that crop girl.

I'm telling you it's good that thing taste. That thing's gonna taste like beast about is gonna taste like like a second you basically love a girl who goes and takes a shower before No, I don't say, hold on, say all of that. She said, white, You get what I'm saying that that's the same. She really did that. She showed us like a little a little yeah. And then if I'm a ready and I'm just you know, and then I go back and all right, Yeah, let's

get back to you. Like she like, I don't want my white or do you just go straight into it white? She yeah, yeah, because I'm just I'm just very self conscious, like might not. Fortunately, unfortunately, I have a very sensitive nose and I pick up on every order. Like I can literally smell myself right like just even sitting Like

that's good. So you know, one time I tried, I tried to not wear panties because I had a friend that never wore panties and she, you know, and she really loves she was like she was anti pants, like she's like, what is pants? I really want this pants? And then so I tried it, and I just noticed I could always smell myself. I don't. Yeah, I don't like that when I have to wear hats. And then I start thinking about it, like so no, I needed to. I even wear underwear, like I was just but I

have to underwear. But I have specific underwear that I wear to go to bed. Me too, if I have a comfortable pair, Yeah, I have to. But I've started. So my waxer told me that, you know, to prevent and grown hairs after you get waxes, to not wear panties to go to sleep. So now I've started not wearing panties. I don't take the side that's I don't. Now I want to talk about woman of Steel. I want to go to that. Okay, yeah me, let me

ask you to be a woman of steel? Right, how hard is it for you to be vulnerable when it comes to men, because sometimes we feel like we gotta be so tough and we got to make sure that I can handle this. I got this, I got that, but I've had to learn how to allow a man to help me. So how is that for you? I

will say, you know, a woman of steel? First of all, when when I chose that that name for my album, I was thinking more of um, how to go about my daily activities without allowing the world to crush me, you know, with their expectations, with their thoughts, with their words, just you know, pulldozing through all the sorts to say b s. And that's where Woman of still came. Apologize for bs you can, yeah, yeah, I just it's just my nure. I told you where I'm coming from. Okay.

So for me to be strong, I definitely for me to know what strong is, I have to be weak. Why else I wouldn't know what strength is and for me to me also learning to allow people help me when they need to help me, or will I say my man to help me when he wants to help me. I'm learning every day, Oh do you need this? I'm like, no, I'm good. I need to learn to say yes, please, thank you, and I crossed my feet and just do do do everything you say you want to do. I'm

learning that. Um. But being a woman who still comes with a lot of vulnerability because you need to be able to love is it takes a lot. Yeah, because I think guys like to be able to help you. You know what I'm saying, like the need Yeah, they do need that, just like we do too, Like like as nurturers. I would feel a way if I wanted to help my man with out there and he kept telling me, no, it's good, I got it. Yeah, can I help you? Would you like me to know the

where I can do? It's on? No, you're gonna let me do this. Listen. So your song Johnny was one of your first really really big songs. Was that a truth story? Of course? So tell us who Who's Johnny? A silly man with shipped for brains and trust me, in that song, I only mentioned like three ladies that was being very nice and modest. So this really happened. You had a guy that was just cheating on you.

But every every everybody has that one person. Every man has that one lady who has done that, and every woman has that one minded religious and Johnny was that guy. I don't know any other female who has been so blessed to have someone that she's a love with that really rocks her world and literally breaks her heart and ushers her into a new stratusphere of life. Because literally that breakup broke me into the person I am today. If not for that song, enough for that experience, where

will that be? Like? I probably if I ever see this guy, and she'd be telling him, than you ever have another way to break this heart again? Another one of those everything there for a reason. He knew that it was about him. You never spoke like So it happened, and I went my way. I chose to leave, and I just went head deep into work trying to figure out who I was in the music, and we never reconnected. I think he tried reaching out to me, but I was just so I blocked it out because I knew it.

I knew I was weaking niece. I knew I was just the fool, you know. And then when I left that we never reconnected, we never spoke. At some point I was thinking, oh, she try and get some closure. Sometimes closure is just telling yourself this is not for you. Like that. I think at some point it became a thing where everybody says closure. She don't always have to have that conversation. It's not important that because the person who did what they did knows exactly what they were doing.

And it's very possible that you were just the lamb at slaughter. You know, you're the one who didn't know anything. Now that you know, can you just continue your life? You know? So it so and since I'm sure if I had that closure or whatever it is, out of just felt either felt more stupid or maybe just open another door from another stupid thing to happen. And so I'm happy. Sometimes closure space, you know, because it's not saying like if he shows up or you happen to

run into him because you had space. Your closure is just being able to be cord you and keep moving without feeling nothing. Let's say he came to one of your shows and you saw him, would you let him in the v I p let him in people, I wouldn't have one doing that like where he gets he gets to and he's like, yeah, you remember me. I'm like what, We're not having that conversation, Like I've had an extra to do that one time. No, I don't know. You don't know me, you don't understand. No, Like what

are you doing? What is this? So during the pandemic, it was probably nice for you to have a little bit of time to sit down, right because you've been super busy. So what was that like for you? Sis? Wow? It was bitter sweets um, but definitely started off on the sweet side because I've never really Okay, So here's what happened. COVID started, Corona started, and I had gigs here in New York and then some of the gigs

outside America. But I had flown in already. I was ready in New York in February March of Um, it was a few days to my birthday because my birthdays in March. Yeah, okay, three one three, that's like when saying my last day I was And then that stuck wherever you float No. I finally got home, I decided that I was going to cancel on my shows and just go home, I mean, back to Legos, Nigeria. Whatever madness is happening in the world. I told my management util they were like, I don't want to be a

part of this. Let me just be at home and feel good upstairs, you know. And and so I remember being in Manhattan and looking down the Times Square and it was empty. I felt like I was in a movie. It was too scary, the sites of the fun and then the lights weren't really know as bright and attractive as they It just looked like like the apocalypse, look

like something that happened in Legends. Oh my god, Like I stand here before I see someone else, it's probably like ten blocks down, and what am I doing in the city, Like even to have breakfast at the hotel, everybody's looking at each other like you can't see you wipe the spoons, right, What are you doing for something that you can't even see? When when when the virus gets to that plate, it's on the plate, you know. But eventually I just left. I went back to Nigeria,

and I then realized them all as well. My house wasn't really my house, like I'd never really been leaving there. All I do is comeback switched my boxes because I wear a little were a lot of traditional stuff, so I have a lot of designers mixed off for me in different parts of Africa. So I just go back, pick up a box, and I just I'm out. And so when I got the opportunity to sit at home, I finally made my house my home. So I enjoyed it like it was warm. I started to personalize my space.

I really it was. I would wake up on the morning and understand what it meant to have a good morning. I just slide open that window and like look at the atmosphere, like, oh it's a good morning, take it in and just really it was beautiful. But then it became too much. It was at all. The streets just kept going it. Corona just said say hi, I'm but it was big time. It called everybody and eventually it baking on men on. My first encounter with COVID was baddening.

It was not nice. It was not nice. And the annoying thing is that it really affected me mentally because I was already mentally vulnerable. I had absorbed too much information, both the things that were true, things that were not true, concy theories, whoa what it will do to you? In fact, when I hear Kobe, I hear death and so I had gotten to that point and eventually had covie. So I was me. I was a big mess. I didn't in three months. I still hadn't recovered. Damn. Like I

was a mess, and it was most mostly mental. I just felt like I'm never going to be well. Maybe I might not wake up tomorrow because I feel this way and that way. I'm not myself. I take the stairs, I can hardly catch my breath. Didn't affect your vocals at all, because I know for some people with their lungs and being able to perform, Thank you Jesus at N. And we also said most basically, you guys did a poem for your mom to always always. My mom was crazy.

I love her, but yeah, I'm always doing stuff for mom, you know, and I there so much more I still needs into for her musically, blah blah blah. You know, how does she feel about you being an artist? At first? You know, my mom and I never really had that conversation, like, oh Mom, I want to be an artist or anything.

I never even wanted to be an artist. I just realized that anywhere I went if I especially in primary school, secondary school, I was always representing the schools I attended, I was always singing, and I noticed that there was a response, a vibe each time I sang. So I just me it was a thing that happened. And I also loved music, so I was just it was just a very big for me. You know, it was a

big hobby from me. I never realized that I would actually make a living from, you know, being a musician. That's the best living to make is something that you feel good doing. You don't even think about the money. You think about the feeling that it gives you when you're doing said thing, and then the money just comes. Then the money so nice, money sweet, and it's the own kind of currencies international. How do you find guys to date being in your position? Like, well, they're also

some guys that he's in the first place. Um, like, what do you like? What do I like? The sons of humor is like it's probably one of the most attractive things. First of all, a sense of humore. Um obviously appearance because like you first see the person, right, so like like that, like, what are you attracted to physically? Then a tight um boy, have a time or have a I used to have a type, but what was now I was a vibe like I just feel I just feel it. Um those days you say, oh, I

used to like light skin guys. Then I said, like in chocolate guys. And then it's just the vibe like I feel it. I feel it. I feel the company and and the area. Obviously you want me to describe like heights and all of that, like because you know you could be as specific as if it was that specific for you, Like okay, I would say a definitely, because this is way I like to put it. You cannot be shut because I don't want to be standing next to you and seeing the middle of your head. No, no, no,

I think guys who are tall. No, there's some guys that like short guys. I don't know what it is, but no, that's what I got. Well for me, I would take the short guy. If you had a six pack and g said shut, guys have figger dicksie most of the most of them. Yeah, yeah, like so that's a fact pretty much most year. But No, it's just bang bang bang. I'm short, so they don't have to be that tall. Like, so I like best of both worlds. Stephaniely want to climb a month star? Yeah, I like

I like them. I like them like six ft seven, six pack, big legs, big hands. It's very specific. Yeah, exactly as you want specific. I got you on that. I like, you know, big hands, strong shoulders, muscles. Um, six ft seven, I said that already. Um, yeah, that's what I like, even though I could go for like six ft five or four, but I like seven and five and four. Six six ft is cool. That's kind of short for me, um, but really specific for me.

It's like I like a six pack, and I like strong dive and strong shoulders and like for this part of the chest to be like really defined. So when now on top of me, it just feels like I have like some colom based over me. It's like, oh my god, you're so strong. I like you. It's very visual. I felt that I can taking notes somehow to make the next What if the guy told you he loved you on the first date? Spooky much spooky much that that that So there's one time a guy did that

to me anyways, and and that just made me take off. Really, it's just so much, just too much at once, too soon. So you don't believe in love at first sight. I like to think it. But just the ease that which someone would just say it means that sometimes it just feels like you can say anything. But if he was drunk, that's an excuse, right, So yeah, I'll take that excuse if I really like the person. Maybe, Like I said, i'll take it if you're drunk, you know, and when

you're better, we'll talk about it. Have you ever felt like you was in love at first sight? Me? Always? Oh my day be the first time thinking I love you? How many kids were going out? Baby? You want babies? You ever hang up the phone and be like you have done that? I do? Like when he called you, you see his number, like yeah, I know you got you'd be so mad, like if he didn't answer and then you're going back and you'd be like lending ring four all right, let me stop playing up, and then

you'd be actually like you was doing something. Oh, I'm just like, you're not bad, but you're mad. Have you ever blocked somebody and then call them back? I mean block somebody and forgot you blocked them, and they hit them like, yo, you ain't even hit me in a minute or whatever. I forgot that you blocked. I blocked me up. I ain't forgetting. No, I ain't FORGETT just blocked being petty as I don't petty block when you blocked,

like you gotta get another number. You better email me a d M me or something, because you get better try to call me. Block that I'd be changing numbers. I've blocked just to like slow the situation NOWT like, let me give us some distance. Let mean, it's a fizza. Why don't you just do not disturb? Put them turn the moon on? Yeah? Yeah, that person, But isn't that the same thing. It's gonna keep going a voicemail. Yeah. The worst is like when you date somebody who's really stubborn,

and y'all are both stubborn. Yeah, that's what I'm like. That's that's like I'm not all the way. I'm just being because we both but you know, like if you call them, he'd probably be it's the forgot. But for me, I'm not gonna forget if I can't forget, because I don't really ever I've only ever blocked one person in my whole life. Damn, somebody block and I didn't forget that I blocked him, but I started hitting them up, cursing the mount and it was blocked. Yeah, And I'm like, oh,

did he get that? Let me on? Blocks delivered okay and already, so I'm like, maybe it did go through. Like that's the only time I didn't forget though I knew he was blocked. But yeah, sometimes like both of us are too stubborn, and you're like, I know he want to talk to me, and I definitely want to talk to him, but I'm not going to do it, and then it could just end. Yeah. Have you ever been like the person to make the first move after that?

When like you'll get into an argument, will you call and say sorry, M sorry damn for me to really throw a guy? Oh no, for me, I was in a I was in a relationship. I don't off with somebody who likes to pick arguments with me. So I'm always apologizing for things that I didn't even do, just because I don't want to argue. It's like, oh, sorry, you're mad. I'm sorry that you're mad. I don't know

why you're man, Okay, sorry, that's like a terrible apology. Yeah, I mean, I'm just I'm definitely I have definitely been the person even after a breakup, even sorry, but I've definitely been the person after the you know, after the fight to come back and be like, bib, can we just talk about it. I've definitely, But they have to. I feel like when you're in a long term relationship, when you're when you're messing with somebody for so long,

you take turns. Yeah, you know if you take turns. No, you take turns coming back like sometimes yeah, like sometimes you gotta be the bigger person and sometimes you need them. If you guy after you apologize first that I really throw him off. Maybe I'm a master haplogize. Yes, let me tell you something. And it's really like not that big a deal. We make it so much more of a big deal than it has to be. Like to call somebody and be like, you know, wait, I do

want to apologize. Guys will go crazy and they think you're amazing. He'll be like, wow, I can't. No one's ever apologize apologize for how you were affected by it, Like that wasn't my intentions? Right? And then he better apologize for his part too. Yeah, that's really I'm really apologizing so you can apologize back to me. All My funniest apology is you know, you're you're really trash, and if that's disrespectful, I apologize because I don't want to

be disrespectful. But it's not an apology. How do you start an apology but your trash? You're fucking trash. But you know, I'm not a disrespectful person, and so if it's fine, not disrespectful, I'm sorry. But that's the truth. Yeah that before do you write better music when you're in a relationship and when you're single, you think, Look, if I've ever been single is probably just for aqu

weekship yo yo yo. Yeah, I've always been in a relationship, um, even if it's for a short time or a long time, whatever it is, I've always been a relationship. Um. I think for me, the good part is that I'm in my mind because I have a very visual mind. In my mind, I could take a happy moment and flip it, make it sad because that's what music allows me to do, just really mess around with the truth and the picture,

you know. So I could take a very happy moment and flip it and I could just look at someone who's having really the best time of their life for the worst time of their life and making my story. Okay, So I just doesn't matter if I'm single or I'm a relationship, but I do find that when it particularly affects me directly, I have such a connection to what I'm saying, you know, and and no true awards would

be sung than what you hear on that song. Yeah, Like, what's an example would you say of a song that is super personal to you when you was going through something size Johnny Um, I try to personalize a little moments. Let me see you when me see when we see something that even when you sing it, you are like really reminiscing on something that happened and channeling that. There's this new song that I'm about to put out there,

and it's the one that features Cranium Man. Yeah, okay, because I keep seeing the hashtag and I'm like, wait a minute, But then Crannium has been on lip Service, by the way, and so it's a very he's definitely been on here. Or if he speaks, he speaks his truth. Yes he does, Yes, he does. That's what he did, right. Oh and he has stories for days. He's amazing. Yeah, we like he was great. Yeah, so what's my man about? It's a love story. Give us a little more because

you know it's it's like, it's a love story. Okay, So contrary to what she said, let me tell you about my mon six bucks. Nobody thing would make me fall four um back up whenever day by him side. Yes, I'm gonna love this, you know, because she said six packs said six packs isn't the thing, you know, but it's kind of there, but it's not really the thing. But yeah, that's it, but it's there. What death size mattered to you? Size of what the penis? Who know

what I'm talking? What could I be talking about the size of it? Pinky toe? That? Hello? Whatever? Everything? Please do this splaying? Please decide? Is it a capital P or a lower case P? But do you feel like you ever get like, you know, with like I can't leave because it's so amazing? Huh. It always has to be amazing, man, I'm from the first note. It always has to be always. Oh I'm so busy, and when it happens it must be mind blowing. I do not

have time to play. It must be the thing, you know, Yeah, definitely, No, it might because I've been I've been with a few people that I had a very small pocket. Other words, I'm not talking about money from the United States, you know, Okay? No, um. And and then when that, you know, you have to experience setting things to know what you don't like. And when that happened, I realized that, oh it does not work for me, Like it's such a turn off. I need to get out of here. Yeah, so that the

size is the thing. And then skilled because some people have it but don't know how to use it. And that is very sad. Oh my god, Yes, that is sad. It's so sad. And I feel like if I put myself in that situation again, if I could have a conversation with that person, I'm sure funny, I'm with you. What could you say? Like right, like, what can you say? What? What's the conversation? All right, let's let's act it out. Yeah, I mean, what's the problem? All right? Okay? Um? I

really are you laughing at my dick? Something quick? Being? Okay, no being, I'm going out. But I'm saying you said, let's have a conversation. So like, I don't feel like you're into me. Oh no, I am. I really really do like you. Um, and I like the time we spent together. Um, what do you think should be making more interesting? How I feel like you? We could do all the things under then you just always being on me, like try all this other you know, interesting positions? Okay,

Like what positions do you like? He's going to be like, ah, you're on a shower, you are in a prosty to so what without that guy? So I don't want that Stan you're telling So you're telling me that I don't know how to ego. It's gonna be your fault. Yes, sometimes you just gotta to take charge. Though you think America, So you think Internet like American man would maybe, I mean because America. What are you saying? Okay, even American will react as well, what do you what? I think?

What I think is irrespective of where the man is, whether he's American, Spanish, or whatever, it's all in the head. Some people don't know how to put their ego aside and have certain conversations. So like, I'm very sure that there are some American guys that will not find that conversation with funny no matter how I put it, but probably would just really make sure that I feel like

trash and then the relationship ends. Then they take their time out to maybe improve on their skill for another woman, because I probably like really messed with the ego at the point in time. It takes a man who's willing to really understand that it's not just a game. It's like it's all about pleasure, and like if you feel like you're not pleasuring me, and I'm able to tell you, and you really making your goal to just pleasure me and pleasure yourself, because if you if I'm don't enjoy myself,

you can't enjoy it. There's a different feeling when we're both enjoying it. So it takes a man with pedigree to separate the ego from such a conversation. Have you ever faked an orgasm? What doesn't mean to fake an august? And that's a lot about never died com Yeah, but you really didn't. Oh that's still I wouldn't admitted I'm not faking maybe or types, I don't all what was the reason for that, I don't know. Maybe sometimes you just want your partner to really feel um great, feel like, um,

I didn't feel great. You ain't feeling great? No, I did not know it's good. But maybe maybe your partner came before you, and I still didn't come at off should be able to have a good time, but I just didn't get there. Right, I've had sex and I didn't comments great. You like that's okay. Well, I guess I'm not gonna lie about it. He's too nice and like, what do you mean before you say something? I probably will just make my own stuff come, and then that's me.

I'm not I haven't faked the organs in years. I'm not doing it. Like you said, I had a good time. I just didn't come this time. It's all good when you just had sucks? How do you do that your fingers just like you just showed UD said they could feel bad about it, saying I've done it. I pulled out a toy on purpose, and that's what I said?

How many times? Because I let it happen like the first, second, third, and in the fourth like I felt, I didn't want to hurt his feelings, so I was like, I'm not gonna hurt it, but I'm gonna I'm gonna come and I pulled out the toy. Do you use toys? One time? I didn't really enjoy it? What's over here? What's here? What's happening? But like, we want to make sure you have fun. Okay, so we do have a fetish kit

for you. So this has blindfolds, a collar and a leash for him to put on him, rist cuffs, ankle cuffs, and a little spanking paddle. There you go. I have just were not doing the right thing. You pull this out, You pull that paddle out and have a little fun. Yeahmy hey, I have to hide this from my mother. Listen, this will be a great time for you and your mom to have these conversations. No, she's going to pray for me. No, no, no, no, no. You can take it out of the box and I'm just you know,

wrap it up in something later. You know what I'm saying. So you don't have the whole box. Your mom's not here, is she? Okay? I thought you can, but she is so online. She knows everything. So I'm not going to be able to dodge this woman. Bush it out to her. You know, she's taking it out. She's like, I want to have you ever been blindfolded. No, but I imagine that that would be nice. Yes, I don't have a blindfold a leash, it's the leash. I have a friend. I have a friend, and all she does is send

me two things. She sends me pictures and videos of babies because she loves babies. And then she sends me pictures and videos of things like this. She she sends me, She's like, I need to be strip now she's oh, she's so silly, you're jealous. She will be someone now, of course I do. Okay, she ain't never saying what you heard that he's going to enjoy it. I want to see how I was looking at your finger, like is there a ring? But I don't see your ring right now. But you think he's the one. Oh yeah,

you think that every time? No, no, no, okay, okay, yeah like that. I used to always be like that. Yes, true, everybody's the one. Yeah, everyone was the one, But yeah he's the one. He's different. Why is that? In a grown way? When I was a kid then kid mentally as well. It doesn't matter how old I am. But he is. Okay, well, we'd love to hear it. Tie him up. Let's see if it's real. Okay, use some hand at the same time, girl, ready listen to me.

Thank you so much for coming through happy birthday. Thank you good really show for us though, because I know it's not too often that you're you know, in town. So we appreciate you coming through lip service. Thank you

so much. We think you're amazing. I appreciate it. I appreciate um, even though like one would expect that in Africa, we don't always have this conversations because I wouldn't say it's a taboo, but like you would be seeing as a as an unnecessarily open my the person to the things that they would refer to us negatives, you know. But I value such conversations because I think women need to speak to each other more. Yeah, that's the whole

point of it. And I do think part of women's empowerment is to be able to freely speak about our bodies, things that we like in a positive way with no judgment, bodies like we need and n by I guys have these conversations and it's a okay. So yes, we are able to have these conversations too, and they'll have these conversations about us, and so we can have these conversations with each other and this helps a lot of women.

And that's what I love about lip service is women would be like I was listening and I learned this, and I didn't know about this, and I felt strange because I never was able to have anyone to talk to. So we just want to be able to let people know it's okay. There's nothing that you like that's weird,

as long as it's consensual, you know, and legal. Yeah, yeah, And I like that you guys, even though it's it's it's centered around sex, like, but you still talk about anything feminine, you know, that concerns that regards to the body, and each woman is different in our own way, but they're still woven out there who are exactly like we are.

And most times we need to just be told that we're not alone and that whatever condition a situation that we experience, someone out there is experiencing the same thing. You could just be the solution to someone's problem out there. And don't get me wrong, even though you know, I keep saying in Africa we don't say certain things. A lot of women are now beginning to understand the importance of speaking out. So a lot of women are vocal and open to such conversations and we'll be very excited

to watch this eventual. That's important to us. I appreciate that because even as discussing how like we didn't have these conversations with our own moms, who are you having them with? You know what I'm saying. So that's why that's what I'm saying, Like even like, I'm pretty sure there's a girl I would be ashamed normally to speak

about things like this and it would be uncomfortable. But being here and just be uncomfortable with everyone else and just knowing that you had that you you can't you like, it's amazing, and the messages you get with like wow, I went through that too, like the b MS. It is great, And it don't take away from how powerful you are and what a great role model you are for everybody but young women, I think in particular, So it does not take away from that. It adds to it.

Thank you for having me, Thank you for having me on amazing. Thank you, thank you, thank you Chelsea, thank you. Left Service