Episode 337: Fever D*ck (Feat. Just Pam)

I think you got sick that week. I think that was the reason they called me, because you yeah, you being sick, maybe not being sick. But I'm happy here had COVID. I just want to know you had. What was the experience like for you? A been I have fever. I was down for like a week, and I definitely lost my taste and smell after the words. How long ago was this in July? How long did you not tasting smell for like four days? It was very weird,

definitely weird, but I wasn't bad. I felt sicker before, like years ago when I used to get the flu um, But yeah, I got all the symptoms, it just wasn't like severe. Thankfully got to just Pam, how is your stint? Mom was bad? Yeah? I had everything, but of course I still have my taste buds. I was like, if you don't take these ships, the first thing is to god. I was. I was really sick. I was sick for about a week. Um, I had fever, I had a really bad cough, but I was still eating out. I

didn't get that. But helloo was that? That was in August? Okay, damn, so you got July August? What was it the delta you had delta? No, I haven't. You haven't had You haven't tested positive at all. I haven't. And you know when you was taking a thousand for beyond the Pole all of last year year, well half of last year. I had this test three times a week, and he was in Atlanta where everybody was outside. That's I think we got her immunity INTA. But no, I didn't. I

have negative blood type. I don't get sick. I get sick like once every three or four years. But oh type, I have old negative blood type. Okay, yeah, so you know it's the rarest we can give to everybody. No one can give to us. But because of that I think my immune system is good. Like literally, when I start feeling sick, I'll drink orange juice for like a day,

and then I feel better the next day. Now, if you're loving somebody, if you're in a relationship and they get COVID, are you gonna go and take care of them, even knowing that you might get it too. I think I was gonna ask, like, do we live together? Because if you live with someone, then you if I will, yeah, I will be extra cautious. But I was kind of like the sex from the Bad I made it somebody

who was exposed to COVID and he um. He was like, well, I was exposed to COVID, so I'm gonna quarantine for a few days in our quarantine and what I'm but he didn't end up having it. But had he ended up having that, you would have probably had it. Well, no, you got the super bloods. Yeah, I just I don't know. But I took the chance, right and you didn't. Okay,

getting sick clearly she was a friend of mine. Want to be pissed, full blown, like to the max hundred and five fever, sweat chills, and I was there from the call um tested positive all the way to the tested negative. As a friend, good friend, uh just your friends or friend friend, this friend of mine, friend sometimes friend friend friend, and you went to the very gonna do that just for a friend. Very four more than the crazy part was I had just got out of

the hospital, so my got out in the hospital. I went to his house to for him to like help me out my friend, and the doctors is like, you cannot catch COVID. You're gonna die. I was like, got you. So I was at his house and then his family started calling him like, yo, we just tested positive. And I'm like, oh, ship, but I've been over here. We went and took a test, was perfectly fine, came back. I was fine, he was fine. Pregnancy my my test

came back negative, came back positive. So now I'm like the next day when we woke up, you know, he woke up in a sweat hundred people. Couldn't walk from the couch. I couldn't leave them. You know what I'm saying that he couldn't even walk from the couch to the bathroom like without me, like it bad and I

just couldn't. I couldn't walk away. He was like, you can go I was like, but I think that's the hard thing, right, if you see somebody that's right sick, I could obviously want to be cautious, but you still feel bad because sometimes they can't even fully take care of themselves. I'm definitely that girlfriend that if my boyfriend is sick, I'm gonna go be with him, whether I'm scared, shouldn't get it or not. Finitely. One time I was with somebody a couple of years ago and he had

strep throat. He got it from his kids and were making out of everything. I didn't even care what she and I didn't get it. Yeah, what's funny. What's funny is that I didn't get that strap throat when um when he had it. But the next following winter a year later, I got struck throat. So I feel like that's a virus and it like stood in the background ready to come out and flared up. I got real sick the next year. That's the last time I was

really sick. Okay, now let me ask you this, what if your friends say with somebody you were sleeping with was sick, would you have sex with him during that time if he wanted to. I think she probably did during that time. When you say it happened, I mean did it happened, because you know, I thought I'm about the doctor told me gone. So I was like, we didn't have mask. We was literally sleeping in the same Yeah, I don't think a mask wouldn't matter. That were like sleeping.

I wasn't so afraid to like leave because he was so bad and you love him. He cool like that, you love him? Yeah, but didn't have a fever. I didn't. It was hot. It was, yeah, like he had because you know what you're doing it you put it, you put it in your mouth and like, no, she said the warmth, That's what I was going to Actually, did you feel the wine or vagiant? It was like smith morning. I'm gonna say exactly nice. But I think it would

feel good in the back of your throat. And the schools like what do you call a little but would you change the positions? Like if you know he has COVID or you just gonna listen it down? That should be big spoon, little school, not smugging them with a pillow, you know what. I was kind of being safe. Okay, so you smell them that can't breathe, But it's interesting because guys do like to have sex while they're sick.

Do you like to have sex while you're sick, like if you're under the weather, because I feel like that's not something I'm interested in. What I'm saying. It depends how sick I am. If I'm like sick in bed and I can't get up and I feel weak and fatigued, no, But if like you kind of have like a mild small call for you know, something super light, maybe, But if I'm down bad, I don't even I just want to be on time. I caught a stomach virus and I never listen to It's crazy. I caught a stomach

virus and I was throwing up. I couldn't keep anything down. Everything I would throw up, not even water. Everything was getting thrown up. And I never thought that I would like to have sex when I was sick. But I ended up like my boyfriend at the time came and he started eating my pussy like to make me feel better. And it worked. It worked. It was really good. Honestly, after the sex, I felt better twenty minutes. That wasn't I wasn't. I wasn't. You know, girls don't ship. I

don't know what you're talking about. But I didn't. But I was throwing up, and I remember we had sex and I felt better for a little while. You know, they say orgasms can be healing. Yes, the headaches. Yes, I'm sick, not sick. He's like, you can't possibly be horny right now? Like yes, I am, like, there's nothing wrong with me. It was wrong with you, like so sick, not sick. Monday's Tuesday's right. You like to have sex like um, every day? If I could? All right, that's

everybody's good. Yeah, that's good even on your period. Had anybody tried the cup thing you put in you for him period? I did years ago. I didn't like it. It seems superlated, but not to have sex. Did you have sex with it on your period? I was cooking. Can you imagine to have sex with that in because yeah, yeah, you got to put all will go everywhere, too messy, I think, yeah, yeah, when you pull it out, the blood is on your hands. Yeah, I started it is

to see. I don't know if I could do it, because you want to like cook it out, like you put it in there like thing you pinch it in the middle and then you put it in and then when you pull it out, you gotta like and it's really cup fully and look. But if you have long nails and you have to like put you put your you know what I'm saying, You scratch you inside of a vagina. That's actually why my nails is short and

not sharp anymore, because you scratch inside. Sometimes I'll be in the shower, like cleaning myself, and I would scratch myself. I noticed long nails too, same same saying that. Don't laugh, just paim. You don't clean in your vachina, Yes, but it's still funny. You know, when you're in the shower, you got to open your butt hole. You got to get in there between the boley. I don't never mind. Do you use a different wash cloth for your face and for your body? Oh my god, just here you go.

You use the same wash cloth that you use the fingure tell you I use one wash cloth, same I do. I washed my eyes with the same wash I wash my face first. No, I washed my face first. It's just a natural habit for me to brush my teeth and wash my face at the same time. So you guys, so just can let's get back to this. So you put your finger in the wash club sticking up your butt,

and then you wash your face with that wash club. Yes, that is exactly right here you're cleaning it again, so yeah, no, But I mean I want my man to be able to put his face in my pussy where I put my that's right. One. I wanted to put his face in my ass too, Right Where did I put it on my face? I watched my face with my bare hand. Me too, though, But when I if I use it, if it's one rag, it's one ragot me too, you know. And that's what I'm saying. I use all of that

and I use them on my face. We're not very hygienic. Huh whatever. Okay, so I do use the loofer, right, However, we're not wrap the loofer around it scratches because you can't put a loof up your But now you tell me, Okay,

I was doing the minute. I said, this is a little intense, but I mean I felt like it was quickly right, right, So technically I don't use the same wash cloth because I don't use a loop on my I to think about it, I did not just as a comedian, right, and you always do these posts female comedians are funny. How hard is it for you when you're dating a guy? You're around men all the time, you know, plastic cup boys and all that that naive man stain and the heart everybody isn't intimidating to date

you knowing that you're always around men. M hm, yes, because I mean I travel a lot and then, um, the people that I'm around sometimes intimidate the person from you know, like I have a partner that I'm always like with and they'd be like, you knows going on with you and your partner whatever? I black, it's my partner whatever. So it is sometimes, So how do you handle it? Just suck everybody, keep everybody happy. Everybody said some ship my DM was like ridiculous, No, it was

in a bad way. Somebody it demmed me after the last lip service and was like, quote unquote, bitch stopped playing. You know you want this dick. I was like, I don't even know you. I see you on lip service. I was like, oh my god, I didn't even check you. Let me see a DM lip service. Lip service be having. I'm sure we all can attest to this, that lip service be having our d ms looking real crazy, you know.

And I can always tell who has a little dick in the kinds because when we talk about that, like, guys be so mad when you'd be like, yeah, you know what I mean, a little dick, and then guys be like see y'all hose that's exactly because they'd be so big. And He's like, every time somebody leave a comment like that, I'm even when you talk about height, like conversations about how I've seen comments, like you could

tell it because you're telling you like, that's right. If you got a big dick, you like, that's right, don't a little dick. But I'm good on the road. I am. I don't. I am, And them are like, oh big brothers. Like so when I'm on the road is literally all business. I'll be like, Okay, after the show, I go back to my room. I don't um. Sometimes we do after parties and stuff, but I'll be up under them like like Mitch More, I'm like, I don't know, you know, so I just kind of stay close to them. And

then what's the groupy situation like for you? For me? Yeah, because to you, I'll have groupies, thank you very much. He wasn't a groupie. He was a weird though. That was like he just came home. Yeah, that's what it sounded like, like not really groupies. No, you never had people like come up to you after the show like so yeah, first of all, I did one show one time and I was standing towards the end of the stage and the man ran up to the stage and

he put his face right here. I was like, oh shit, wait, no, stop keep going wait this guy not the head but and he walked back over his wife and his wife was looking at me like wife. Yeah. I was like, that was weird ship that I was. Was he drunk? I don't know. I was stuck they was what did his wife saying? She sent them? I just kept I kept you thought she was. But that's hite, the weird ship having on stage. But would you try to, like if it was a couple they wanted you to join?

Um No. If a couple was like I want you to join, no, you hesitated too long. I would have to be the person like, hey, I want you to join. Maybe that I do that, but you could yeah, I'd be like no. I was in Mexico one time with a friend of mine. Come on you okay, friend with a friend and this were just sitting on the beach and this girl walked up and was like, oh, y'all look cute couple. And we looked at each other and she was like, y'all do threesomes? Oh, And I'm like right,

it was so red them. I was like I made her face and she was like, oh my bad, and she like walked away. And then I turned and looked at him. He was looking like bit like he's like, do we It was so weird, Like I was like, it was just random alway, she was just was she okay? Like it was she you know, somebody know. It was just so caught off guard that I don't even think

he was like hold up, where you going? I still would have been stuck like this bitch like she probably been up and down this beach all day and we don't even know her, Like I don't even know she put her finger in the washcloth. No, it was weird. It was weird. So you know, I would not swing with somebody. All right, Well it's a new year, right, so to start this year off, I want to see each Why are you looking at me? Like I thought it would be a nice time for us to apologize

to a guy from the past who we did. You don't have to say his name, but talk about something that you did and why you want to apologize for it. You're just gonna throw this on me like this, and I'm start with you. Why you want to apologize to him? This is a meeting that we were wrong, Okay, it's accountability in the new year. But we're gonna admit we was wrong and ask for forgiveness. I don't have to

say the name. Don't say the name, okay. So I'm sorry for using you for a place to live on some of my apartment was done, and then dumping you right before the holidays. You didn't deserve that. You didn't deserve that. You're a good person and I still got mad love for you. God bless your hope. Everything is okay, and I hope you found a nice girlfriend. O That sweet was acute at least? No, he was good looking, a very good and bad So why didn't you like him?

I can't talk about it too much because we're gonna They already know who they are. I think you know who I'm talking about. G you know who I'm talking about, and you know it's somebody who I got mad love for. I know for a very long time. He and I have just had our ups and downs. We just don't match for a long term thing. We have good sexual chemistry and that's about it. Yeah, okay, so he gets it right. But that was nice of me. Okay, g who even apologize to I wonder about it. This is

a recent abo, this is a fresh apology. I want to apologize to you, sir, for telling you that I no longer um want to be friends with benefits because I am in love and committed to my new relationship. I'm sorry that they hurt your feelings, but I hope you understand. And that was honest of you. Because He's like, what's up? You've been friending on me, and I'm like, listening here, bro, here's the real situation. Like I ain't even gonna play with you, like I ain't gonna string

you along. I don't even want to give you the wrong impression. We might have had this back then, but my life has changed and this is the direction that I'm going in, and I hope you understand that. I wish you were. I'm proud of you. Know what the topic is. I'm just feeling. Okay, who do you want to apologize to? Um? So nice of all, I guess I apologize to my ex my last relationship. UM, we had a lot of good times, but we also had

a lot of difficult times. And I think it is because, um, we were both growing and our relationship definitely showed us things that we needed to work on individually in order to be a better team. And you know, I just apologize if I ever hurt you in any way and made you feel bad. I definitely experienced a lot of personal growth and that's helped me become a better friend, a better daughter, a better you, like just everything, a

better me. So, you know, just starting the year off apologizing and being accountable and you know, ability just WI should everybody love and happiness. Oh my god, I want to apologize for dropping the air conditioner on the hood of your brand new out of the second floor window. You could have killed someone. Sairly didn't break the movie, No, it crushed the hood of that bitch through the hood. Stop. Okay, honesty, what she was going to apologize for you on the window?

That ter apology? She got a hundred other things she did. You did it on purpose? Yeah, she said from a second story window that was on the second floor. That was a hard phone. I was like, you don't want to help me? He was like, nah, say less. He was like pe crashed right on the car. He ran over to the windsow what it looked, looked up, looked at me, and I was likery, did you pay for it?

I'm just kidding me crazy pology from state phone. Okay, my apology is there was a guy that I went out with a couple of times, and I just go to him and didn't even give an explanation. I think that was whack, Like, you know, I should have a long and this was a while ago, and he sent

me a long email. Actually, when I worked at Serious, he worked right across the street from me, and so I would see him sometimes when I left the building, and I was always like I would always have to go outside and look around and make I could have just been like, you know, you're cooling everything, but I just like completely ignored. I'm an avoider, so I just ignored his ghosted his emails and text messages. He even sent me a message like what happened? I don't know

what I did wrong? And he didn't really do anything wrong. I just didn't. You said what you do it all the time. Well, that's nice apologizing. Yeah, you know, And it was so long ago. I have no idea where he is and what he's doing. But I do feel like now that I look back at it, I could have just he was like, at least let me know, Like you think that's fair to let somebody know what they did wrong. Did you have like a like you do you have like a thing with him? No? We

went out twice. That was I feel like, unless we are actually a thing, I don't owe you an explanation. Unless we really like our thing, I'll just be like I don't talk to you no more. Listen. And sometimes whatever it was that made you feel like it wasn't going to work out might have hurt his feeling. So you probably spirit him. Yeah. I tried to apologize you guys, just um, I try to make it good. I don't

about you. But that is a good question because I feel like that happens often, like both men and women will get ghosted, right, So is that the appropriate thing to do to just say, hey, I'm not I'm cool off this? You know? Yeah? Because I actually feel bad because I made him take me to the super expensive restaurant because this is I really when I was as serious, I was broke his back. But I was like, he was like, where do you want to go eat? And I was like, ship, it's a place that you know,

you only go when someone takes you there. So I made him take me to this super expensive steakhouse. It's not even there anymore. And um, then he made us go do karaoke. And I think this is what bothered me, and y'all might think this is weird. You know how, sometimes something weird and small can bother you. So I was ready to go home. He wanted to go like do karaoke and extend the night, and I was like,

all right, I was being a trooper. So I went and he worked in like finance, but he never told me that he used to be in like a band or something. And I hate when people who can sing when to do karaoke, Like this isn't fair. Yeah, I think that's I would have to. I didn't even know you.

It was only like two dates ever, so we didn't even know each other well enough for me to like look stupid in front of you like that, and I would have did it, except he got up there and he let me pick his song, so I picked Thong song because he thought that would be funny for him. He was like, we were yeah, we were in Korean town like exactly background and other people that were there like doing karaokee, but like, oh wow, and I'm not

getting what I'm saying. Impressed and this is why I would I aloud thought that I was gonna go and have fun and kill something beyond and I wanted to as bad as I sing right right nothing that's fun, paradizing and ship. He was probably trying to impress. He was probably trying to impress you to let you know that he can see suit backfired and that's crazy. I would have been so annoying. He s I'm like, I'm sorry, I gotta work in the morning. And they were like

tourists coming up and like oh my god. Like I was like, okay, taking picture. They thought they were taking a picture. So see, that's that's tough though, because he probably, like g G said, intentionally tried to like her finance nerdy and that's probably what was tripping him out more. After he goes to him and it's like wait, I thought I put my best suit on, show him skin. He was swiveling and everything. It was like he was the one a lot now. But anyway, I'm sorry, she's

know she's not work. Go No, we're not we're not ghosting. Yeah, just oh no, you're so ride or die. That's why I'm surprised. I'm ride a dog. I can't goost the rider dig but right, okay, because I feel like if unless we actually have some sort of a thing, right, yeah, I don't know. You don't know where I live, You don't know I'm breaking up with my family, gunbirds, you don't know anything, right, So I don't feel like I owe you an explanation. Just after three Texas, I don't respond.

Stop calling, and we call oh hit me like, so what's going on? Good morning, princess and grand like my god, yep, right in the crotch. Okay. Anyway, I don't know what about saying all right, so, is there ever a time that it is so you're saying it is appropriate to ghosts at certain times? Do you guys agree with that? Even you look like you don't belie that. Um, I feel like I've definitely ghosted. So I can't be hypocritical. Um,

but growth, Yeah, I don't know. I think like it depends on how how often we've spoken, Like you said, you know, if it was just like one text or whatever, two or three texts, like you don't really know me that well. But I think for me, I'm trying to move more intentionally, especially with dating, Like I'm single right now, like I've been for a while. Um, and I think just focusing on myself and intentionally trying to find somebody that,

like I can really connect and build something with. So I just want to be accountable and I also want to just be responsible. You know, anybody did that to you? Yeah, I mean it's happened. It's happened to me, and it's definitely not a good feeling because sometimes you're like, what what the fun did I do? Like, what really did happen? Like an explanation in your mind is like could have been this, that, this that you know, but do we

really want an explanation? No? No, But yeah, case by case, if you like somebody and you're really curious as to what happened because I was really fucking with you, and then maybe they could just be like, look, this is not working for me or have a situation. I respect that, you know, but it depends on the situation because levels to ghosting like where Angela did, going out and having dates and then not hearing from someone that's you know,

that's a tricky. Yeah. But when if you meet somebody and you give them your number and then you don't really respond to them, because that turn off if you just go on to like a first date with somebody, what are some things that would turn you off immediately? Um, I don't know about first date, but before we get to the and this has actually happened to me, I was immediately turned off because now you know, like in this new era of social media, guys will ask for

your Instagram instead of your phone number. So this guy, I asked for my Instagram and he followed me, and I clicked on his page and it was like a meme page. There was like one picture of him. It was like all straight means and I'm like, are you a catfish? Are you? Like? But who is me? He was just posting other people just random random just a

boy and like a boy. Yeah, like just like random pictures of like celebrities and stuff, just like yeah, that's a little This tells me nothing about like social media is supposed to be a representation of who you are, what you're into. And yeah, probably like two or three thousand, but he was following like more people than he was probably following like seven to eight thousand, and I just glanced at his page and I blocked them with media, like, bro,

are you're a fake page? Right? Literally? Are you? And like what if you see him leaving comments on celebrities pages that don't know him, like gone or someone that takes someone that takes picks where everybody they meet but doesn't know them, like to take a picture with every celebrity word you don't know big brog bro. We like, for me, it's bragging. I don't like men that bragg name drop. If your name dropping bragging that's to me is like like I hear you, but I don't hear you.

I don't. I don't like that. That's a turn off for me. And before we continue, I do want to congratulate you Avian. I know you've been you moved to l A now she's tending to the little girl moved to l A and you've been making some big moves. So I just want to shut you out. Actually was working here in engine room, and then she started producing, and then you ended up talking about what you started doing.

So I, you know, I was assistant studio manager here for like five years, and I was you know, producing for a long time even before that. I even knew Angela before when she was working here, when I was, yeah, I'm managing a boutique. Um. But then you know, I got a placement with Vory on his last album, the songs called York Way, and then I was doing sound

design for DJ Khaled's podcast on Amazon Radio, Amazon Music. UM, I did a campaign with Timberland, like you know, the producer and Ye for Native Instruments and Beat Club, and then I recently did a campaign with Boccardi and boy Wanda highlighting female producers. So I released a single as an n f T feature in Nickamore and then we

put it on DSPs. So it's it's been a journey than for a little while, and I just want to make sure that we acknowledge things that you've It's been a journey and I'm grateful, you know, even just being in this space learning from you guys. You guys have always embraced me just even helping you guys behind the scenes and you know, co hosting. Like I've just learned a lot and really just took a lot of gaming, and you know, I just I just want to work.

I just want to like not your creativity, your other creative side of the selling hustle and to hobby into a hustle, right, yeah, just designing my own clothes too. I made these pants, you know, just really trying to just trying to be creative and just doing what I love and taking it to the next level. Yeah. Just I'm just glad that I can create whenever I want, you know, and and as much as I want, and right exactly because it's it's not easy to do that,

you know. But I've definitely, you know, been blessed and grateful to have good people around me. And they guys that I used to talk to try to like hey, big head, but I'm off that I don't I don't go backwards and like once I'm I'm like turned off for not interested. I'm turned off and not interested, you know. I'm I have a different mindset, I have a different

hustle now, I have different like a different vision. So I'm looking for somebody that can match that, you know, And I'm not in a rush either because I'm still focused on myself, but it's everything before that getting He's a young and too, so it's good to see you making all those moves. I think where you are ten years yeah, I know, I'm excited. Thank you, and just PM, let's talk about you congrats because I've been watching your

come up to thank you a Jersey girl. Yes, so let's talk about what you have going on now too, because we want to make sure we give you your props as well. I have been torn with the Plastic cup boys for about five years now. Who you think is the most irritable one on there? Like that? So if you have to say which one of the Plastic cup boys is always irritated, always irritated you. But I

just had to put that out there, yes now even then. Actually, he actually did Our Lives show in l A. If you guys remember, he was talking about his bad acne from when he was younger. So if I had the pick, she said, pick, he was really going hard for you to be all lip service too. Damn you don't want to change you love. You know he's gonna hear this he knows you already knows the answer. All right, which man has the biggest ego? They're gonna love this Chester

the comedian, biggest ego, who had who was the most sensitive? Sensitive? Damn? Just say down now, even though he's not a plastic to my money. I want my money back money he's playing cards one Well, he didn't take your money, then he won your money. He took my money. Do you think you shouldn't have taken it? Like you shouldn't have taken that is kind of I just got millions question too.

Down up be spending money like you ain't nothing. I don't know if you ever been out with down now listen, he spends money like it ain't ship took my couple of dollars. I was trying. I was trying to play for a dollar hand. He fought hours the hand. I was like ship man. And you know what's so funny. He had a little Christmas dinner. He was like, oh, we all go out to dinner, right, We went to Brooklyn chap House. You know I love Brooklyn chap House. Shout out to them. And he went and he paid

for everything for everybody. I was ordering mad drinks because I knew he was paying. I was little crazy. We was doing shots, like another round of nineteen forty two. You know how you do that with someone else's doubles. That bill came and you know whatever, so done how he acts like it's nothing. And then I was like, you know, showing all the food on the table to

drinks and then I put it in our look at dot. Now, I said, you know, I spend all the millions he just got already and he was like over the post. But now I love done that. We're gonna get him to come up here again. Yeah, because he's got his Netflix special coming out. We should have The last time we had him, we were remote, right, Oh yeah, he did do every month when I had to leave you up because you know he don't stop. Yes, yes, yes, yes,

yes exactly. You did have some Yeah, y'all stayed on for like two more years on the zoom ones for sure. Now just saying you like I was saying you always do. The female comedians are funny, So talk to me about, like, what are some of the biggest obstacles you have as a female comedian. Um, A lot of the shows that outside of you know applies to cut boys, because um, I'm only with them when they're you know, when they're on tour. There. Sometimes I can't make certain tour dates.

And you know, because I work a regular job too. I'm a I'm an operations manager at a flooring company. Okay, I needs. I'm about to quit, you you know, and you're like, wait before, you just don't allow me the time that I need. You need to show ladies and stuff like that. So um, it's just like when I do local shows, you know, it's like ten men, one female,

you know what I mean. So it's like so many guys, and then they might throw a female on just to be like, yo, we gotta put a female on the flyer, we gotta put a female on the line up or whatever. Um. And it's been shows where they put me on the line up with all men, and when I went up after me, the men was like, bitch, like we can't follow that. You know what I'm saying, because now I

feel like I gotta go ten times hard. Yeah, I get off stage, I'm like dripping sweat, and they're looking like, damn, why you have to go so hard? I'm like, cause I have to, you know, Like I just have to because it's always, you know, it's gonna always be that ten men, one female, ten men, one female. So I just feel like, as a female comedian, there's not a

big enough platform for funny females, funny black females. Yeah, because you know, I go to comedy shows all the time, and a lot of times there's no women right on their If you see a woman is not normally a black woman either, right, So, and then sometimes when I do see black females, you know, sometimes it's like the stereotypical content. You'd like, damn, like you know, use you know, use your platform, show them something different. And that's what

I try to do in my comedy. In my sets, I try to show them something different that they're not gonna expect. Like I'm a I'm actually a certified Zooma instructor. I'm just see right. But when I when I say that on stage, they'd be like, which where, like know for real? I really do? You know? So it's things that I talk about in my life that they would never expect, especially like as like a plus size woman.

So I give them something that's not the normal. H walked up the steps and I can't breathe No, you're not gonna talking about eating how you eat? Asked how that was just last episode? Right? Last episode you ever discussed that? I probably haven't. That could be funny. But ain't nobody having to drink after you or sharing a blunt? That's all right? How is it like having sex conversations around a lot of men, like in the male dominated space?

It's not weird because I think sometimes I have the mindset of a male, like I don't think I think like a typical female. So when they'd be having conversations about like stuff like that, I'll be with you, damn right, maybe looking like damn like Pam is with us, you know. So if they're right, they right. If they're wrong, they're wrong. But some situations from a female perspective, I'd be like, this bitch is tripping, you know, And I tell them that.

So I don't ever feel weird? Can you keep it? Really? Like? Let's say your friends are the guy and he's cheating on his girl and you know her. Would you be like you gotta chill? Yeah, am I trying to suck him? But your friends with his girlfriends with his girlfriend and you know that he's going to out of cheating, So are you gonna tell him? But am I still trying to suck him to where my more friends with? You know her through him, but me and him, gang, you

wouldn't say nothing to him. Me and him, I'm loyal before anything, not that you're not loyal, but as part of loyalty, you wouldn't tell him like, like, you got a good women. You know she is if she's doing everything she's supposed to do as a female. But I feel like, you know, like if they fucking sucking, licking, tricking whatever it is they want to do, and I feel like it's a great fit, and I'm like, yo,

you're bugging like that she she a good one. But if I feel like she's not, then I'm gonna be like, she's not the one for you, right, you know? So I don't. I don't. I don't like that, you know what I'm saying. Because when I'm into somebody and I'm like committed to somebody, I'm like all in, you know what I'm saying. I try not to leave room for other females to get in, you know what I'm saying.

So I don't just try to hit them sexually or mentally, I'm like sexually, mentally, spiritually, physically, emotionally, like I try to hit them through all angles because if I don't, if I leave one one, you ain't gonna say that's the truth. You don't think men sometimes it's cheat Like even if they can't get everything, they're going to cheat regardless, because I have come to that conclusion that they are going to cheat regardless, and I hate that I've come

to that conclusion. But if you can mentally understand the I guess the mindset of a man and how he thinks, and he'd be like, damn, Like, it doesn't matter what I do, you know, it's always gonna be something prettier, something ask that's fatter or this is and it's like their visual you know what I'm saying. So they're always gonna find some shit attractive. But I'm a firm believer

in I just suck this bitch, that's it. I believe that that's the thing that you can really fuck this bitch walk away and be like I don't even remember her name, you know what I'm saying. So it's again, it's a loyalty thing before anything. Now, if your wife in this bitch, it's different. You know what, I'm saying that you'll be okay with a guy being with you and just sucking somebody. I'm not saying I'll be okay with it, but I have one choice, lean with it

or rock with it. So if I lean with it, I got more leeway because now I could be like, instead of you lying and manipulating to try to sneak out with this bitch, what if I want to go out to dinner on Tuesday, but you have set this whole little lie up for you enthusie to go out on Tuesday, right, But now I'm like, but damn, baby, I wanted to go out to dinner with you tonight. He could be like, all right, I'm gonna tell this bitch tomorrow because now I know and I kind of

have to understand the verses. If he lying about it, he don't give a fuck. He's leaving to go see you too, Susie, because he had the lie, cheat and still just to get a date with her. So I feel like it puts you at an advantage a little bit because you have more say so in what he does. But I feel like they're going to do it anyway if that's your man though, like your boyfriend, like it's the worst. How often would you tolerate that? Right? Because I feel like if you give a man a pass,

you're gonna always have to give him a pass. I don't give a pass. I ain't because then basically another girl because it's over because I'm gonna get old to you. I I don't find at yeah, and then it never happened, and then it never happened. So like I said, you lean with the rocket, I could be like, yo, out of sight, out of mind, I don't ever want to

see it. Or I could tell him like, you know, I don't want you cheating if you sloppy and I feel like you're cheating on but that's when they're sloppy. I think that sometimes guys have to be like, first of all, they have to get gone through what they went through. But I think sometimes fair will make a guy not cheat, like if he fears that like you'll leave him if you find out, or it depends on

the guy. I feel like there definitely are men out there who don't cheat, and but they're definitely men out there who haven't experienced that growth and get tempted too much and just always need to be out there. I feel like that if you find if you catch your man with a girl and you laugh him slide, he's gonna keep it right election, Maybe I think every relationship no bullshit that I think I've been in, every single person has done some bullshit. I can't think of one

relationship where the person did not cheat. I got cheated on so bad that I thought I was about to get married. Literally I don't know size my finger, and all this ship he was with the church. I was about to be the mother. I'm about to do gospel like he gholstedt me. This is why everybody was everybody's sucking getting ghost kid because rightbody? So I mean I was like I was involved with his kids. I was like taking his kids in school, like we was a thing, right.

And then we were supposed like go on a trip. And I was like, yo, I'm gonna call you when I get to work to find out which train you want to catch. He was like, okay, call them, no answer? What text them? No answer? Called him the next day, no answer, And I'm like this nigga died. What the fun? You don't want to send those messages like yo, fuck confused? So I ended up, like calling him from my job. He picked up, so he picked up and I know he's a game he so of course I'm like hello,

and he was like what's up literate? So now I'm on the other phone the end of the phone like and I was like you telling me what what you me? What's up? This nigga said, Yo, I decided to be with Cashanna and that's just where I'm met with. Definitely there I was plutching pearls. I didn't even have by the ball. Did you know moment No, he said with I have no idea that I wouldn't said that. Probably was like on a Thursday. I went back to church on Sunday. Here he was next to Coshana front row.

Did he see you saw me? Now, I gotta be in church with the church finger trying to play it off like front of me. I want you can't fight in church? Yeah you need what is him? Is him Disha Dickshina know who you were, but it's him going to church and having you in case why he was like the whole son of the pastor. And I was like, yes, this story gets worse and that's like my kids, my kids father of a b but my kids. Father. I remember him telling me I'm going to Atlanta for the weekend.

I was like, okay, I'm cleaning up the table. Like a week after. I see his birth certificate on the table and that ship had a stamp on it. That's a Dominican Republican import, Dominican Republic export. I was like, birth certific remember back in the day. So I went up to him, like you want to y'all? He said, ayo, the airport made a mistake. I said, you know, if somebody really don't give anything, this crazy, this is why

I will be casper at this moment, he said. Abody said, you ever heard of the city of in the York called Atlantica? Like Atlantic, not Atlanta? This is why? Why have you cheated? No, I'm not cheating. So you've never cheated. I only cheated when I knew. Yes you have though not you know because you say this all the time that you know when it's over, you already made happy, relationship is already over. So she was just like me, I'm like, either all the way in or all the

way out. I don't have a middle right, So it's like I'm patient, I'm in, I'm trying. I'm trying. I'm trying because I know when I let go, I'm all the way letting go. Are you bendictive? Like if you move on? Do you want them to see the ship? I don't block them on social media. I'm gonna see this good ship. I'm block you, and then you're gonna have to look for me somewhere else. And he actually came to a show. He came to a show at um Stress Factor in New Brunswick, and all of a sudden,

this nigg is super supportive the show. He's trying to hold my pocketbook and ship. I was like, okay, now, did you know he was there before you went on stage? Could you think that would have thrown you up a little? I saw him when I got on the ledge. He was at the front, he was back and I saw him and I made a joke and I made a joke about him. Yeah, he probably loved it. I didn't told you why he went to the show, No he didn't.

Did he hold your purse? He would? And it was like a bunch of men trying to take pictures with me, and they was, oh, girl, you know you were so beautiful, And I was like, grossies like I just didn't give him the time of day. And it's a lot of people like you are asking from my past that all of a sudden are now, oh you're super supportive or now you're so interested in me and what I'm doing,

And I'm like, ah, you really not. You know, you're just interested now because you see what I'm doing, you see you know my growth, and you see how I'm moving, But you're not really you know. That's why the biggest turn off of me is when I meet a guy and all of a sudden he'd be like, yeah, you know, girl always wanted to be a comedian. I'd be like every time, like so now it's like they're trying to out funny me, but I don't really be trying to

be funny. I just do you have to have like joke ideas during sex where something's happening and it'd be funny. I've had I've had to go to the bathroom what just the stace because something happened it was so funny, Like, oh my god, trying to think because that's the worst time to laugh. If you have a funny thought when you're having sex and some ship funny happens and you

want to laugh. It's always when a funny thought comes to me during sex, I'm like, we really me at him one of my friends, but me and him are like the same level of goofy. So if like something can happen like right at the end and were just sitting there dying laughing, and it happens all the time. So it's like I can't even pinpoint one thing that could be the stupidest thing, but we both find it hilarious.

And I don't that still though, when you could laugh together, yea, we begin rolling like times I don't win in there after sex, like bringing in right. Have you guys ever been like in a situation where you're having sex and something happens and you're like, oh, this is gonna be a good lip service topic we got talking about, Oh my god, that's good. That's I mean, And that's what it is. I think you gotta be able to laugh at yourself, you know, and laughing situations and think how

you could use that for something in life. Use your own experiences, because it is like therapy, A lot of experiences. I was in therapy Manafact got so much ship Girl Come By did it hell. My therapist was like, I cancel my benefits. My therapist gave me a personal number, like if you ever in the area. She was like, I'm gonna come to a show. She was like, bitch, I can't believe all this ship could happen on one person.

I'd be like, that's why i need to be on stage, and that's why I'm on stage as much as I can. Like I literally was on stage. I was on a zoom call, remember like when COVID like had just hit last year, and I'm on a zoom call with the hospital with my mom right and I'm literally zooming with my mother, who is like They're like, yo, this might be the last call or whatever. I'm on my way to a show. At the fact, I was with Naim and them, Um we were somewhere and literally was like

a hung up with my mother. As soon as I hung up, they were like coming to the stage, just pay them. And I had to be out there life, hey, hey, hey, you know, like just mad energy and ship like that. But inside I was up here like my mom is about to die, Like, but I couldn't let anybody on stage and know that. So when they found out, they was like, Pam, you know, we had no idea what

you were going through, what you were dealing with. And I'm like, because my job is for you not to know, you know what I'm saying, Like, if you came to see comedy and you came to laugh, my job is to make you laugh, you know, not to be caught up there in my personal ship. Because if that's the case,

I'll be here right now. I feel like in some ways comedy has evolved, um beyond just being funny though, because it is a lot of commentaries, like a lot of social commentary, a lot of personal stories, and everything doesn't have to always be only funny. What do you

think about that? It's true? You know they say some of the best comedians are the best storytellers because you know, anybody could write a joke, but it could be a universal joke, like we all talked about niggas with small dicks, could be the same for all of us, and for some people that's not funny. And I can tell you who those people are. Everybody. If you see somebody leaving a comment on lip services page is mad about the small dicks shrimp under their sp It's just like I

don't know. It's just like I don't even remember the question I was. I was saying, how sometimes you're saying storytellers, right, So, like I said, anybody could write a joke, you know. But like I said, if me and us female comedians both went up there and we both started talking about sex or like I said, dudes with small dicks, Like I said, we've fall into the stereotype. And they're like, oh, we heard this. Every time a female up people, she's

talking about the same stuff. But if I tell a story that's specific to we can't nobody repeat that church. If I want to put that Coshana ship into a joke, can't nobody else put that same thing into a joke, such a specific name that might have been. So it's like I think by doing that, it makes you unique

as a comedian. It makes you stand out, you know, it makes your content not the same, you know, and it makes people want to see Like I want to see her show, Like I want to come out to you know, Kansas City this weekend and watch the Plastic Cup Boys at the Kansas City Improv because I want to see her jokes. Not saying it makes them want to see it. So I feel like I'm working in entertainment.

A lot of people, with our emotional things and our personal problems, we always have to put it in the background. And a lot of people don't realize that. There's been so many times that I've been through nasty breakups and I have to come and record the show and so about relationships. How many times I'll be in the back stressed out and come on like I'm span You know what I'm saying, it's it's like, kudos to you for

doing that in such a hard situation. And Jessica, and you know, I always say this, and I tell you this, I think you're amazing. And we are going to have you on as a you know, fill in the host as regularly as we possibly can. So we appreciate you for that. And do you want to make a resolution for lip service moving forward? In two? We are not going to talk about guys and small dicks anymore. They get so mad and we have to stop doing that. We want to be more inclusive. I thinks are made

to be broken anyway. But if you want to be inclusive, you got to talk about the little dick. That's what I'm saying. We don't joke about big dicks, because that's nothing a joke about. You don't with with exactly, and because big that that's all they had to be as big, right, all right, Well, maybe forget that resolution, kiddy. It's too many of them out there. Like them a little more love, yes,

not criticism. They do, and they they're good for say things. Look, they know I have some friends who definitely had sex with men with and they said that they were pleased. They're easier to suck. It's know, some women prefers smaller penises. We are not good. Don't right here like little? She said, She like like when the balls is bigger than the dick, there's always gonna be there's always gonna be somebody for somebody. Yeah,

there's always gonna be a person for everybody. So if you got a little dick, there's somebody out there for you. Like we haven't seen the many Corner Children's commercial. Definite small penis will fly. I'm definitely seeing the lip service comments. And they'd be bothered, so you know you could tell they'd be so alright, well, anyway, that's lip service before we get in trouble. Yeah, exactly. The heart at tech alright, Jess Camp again, thank you so much. Kansas City, Yes,

Kansas City. This weekend Kansas City improv with plastic cup Boys. Come check us out if you're in the area. Alrighty shout out to that bank. I love y'all right service, Danielle. I want my money, but