Episode 32 Ft. Michelle Hope

not at all, but it's a little different. I think having sex with a guy with a small one, well, I think that what we have to remember is, first and foremost, there is no nerve endings inside of the vagina. I've always said to all these men out here talking about you're gonna blow my back out where you might really slip a disk. So let's not do that, and

let's focus where my pleasure point is, which my claturus. Alright, so so you don't have to have a big dig to reach the clatorius motion in the ocean bubble Kidi, not the size of the ship because that Titanic went down, Okay, but also you have to remember that your g spot is only an inch to an inch and a half inside the vagina on the upper part right, So that does not make me want an inch long penis, no, hell, okay, but I would suggest the crossover. I'm a big fan

of the crossover move. Somebody can't see me, but like where you're kind of scissoring each other's legs and he got you right here and he might be spanking it. That's a really great move for let me see scissoring. So that's basically your legs are kind of closed, right, so like he might be like this and like one of your legs, so if he's standing, one of your legs would go in between. Isn't that how lesbians have sex? So basically a guy with the small penis is a lesbian.

Similarly they have the trip, you have the trip, oh my god, and men with small penis should eat it and should eat it. But in particularly if you have a small penis, you gotta start up with that, let her come from that, and then slide in right or take it to the booty back door. Betty it that always works too. You know, I'm so scared. It ain't all no matter what size it is, right, But if a guy have you ever had sex with a guy with it's my penis? Yes? Okay, So what is your

recommendation to make that I don't know. I need help because I don't I feel like I feel like my best sexual experiences are guys were bigger dicks, and you know, like a small dick is like I feel like I can't like bounce on it the way because it might you might slide out, Like you have to get grind it, like you have to grind it, and I don't feel like guys like to get grinded on you, Like I can't move too much because it might not so it's

like a little short bound. The only way for me to rise is like a first cow girl, Like you have to be like sitting up and like I have to be like on my knees and reverse, you know what I mean. But that seems like you might move up too far and then have to come back down and then you can't see it. Are you doing your kegel exercises while you're having didn't like my key goes because he has a small PENI that's not my fault because one time I had a man with a small

penis during sex. Say to me oh, you're trying to clench. I wanted to stop the whole show right there. In my mind, I was like, I kind of need to trying to feel something right. Doesn't have nothing to do with me, because my vagina is not a hallway. But what you got is a baby Karen, all right, well do you have you you've been with a small penis guy. Yeah, I've actually had a small penis boyfriend. And so what's your tip for two women dealing with that and for man?

What can you do to make the experience more pleasurable? Well, we had a lot of anal. There was a lot of oral. Um. I didn't hate. I didn't hate like just regular vaginal sex with him, um, but it was kind of, you know, not fulfilling, to say the least. Okay, um man, So he had to do other stuff. Basically, vibrators are great. Sometimes I can't He use his finger, and well I don't. I'm personally not a fan of fingers.

But some times guys that are that have smaller penis is, if they know what they're doing with it, because like you said, what the g spot is, it can be a good time. They just gotta know how to work that little thing, and they gotta think it. They gotta think rationally because most guys don't think that their penis is the smallest they actually is, so they don't study think and they study thinking they need a magnum. Stop where Oh my god, that's the worst. Oh my god.

Instead of trying to put a sagnum on that little tiny thing, you should just embrace the fact that you have a small penis and learn how to work with if you have. That would be my advice to a man. And you know, we were talking about this earlier, but a lot of times guys, if they have a small penis, they're not trying to have sex with you. And you were saying, who said one of their friends had a problem with a guy not wanting to have stout. Yeah, one of my close friends. Um, she's in a new

relationship and he won't have sex with her. Well, they did eventually, but it took a while and she like tried a couple of times and he kind of like, don't touch my penis now, and then when they finally did do it, it was like a guy's a big dick as soon as you're working proud exactly, but it is belly would you round her a long that's funny, A long pencil dick, shorter, girthier, yeah, right, not too short. I like my man short and thick, like my men

like they're win. No, not too short though, you know, yeah, not too short. I like girfie penuts. But I'm not gonna lie. I do like I do like a bigger dick. I really do like it. Have you ever had it? We all like it, but I like pain. Okay, have you ever had a penis so big? He turned it down? I did, yes, yes, a couple of times, like I don't think they can fit in mouth? No in your mouth?

But oh no, no no. I went somewhere. I was somewhere out and I'd been kind of dating this guy, and you know, it came to shoot or get off the pot, and we was making I was like, tonight the night he's so fine. Girl. He pulled that out, I said, lights came on real fast. I was like, is that a baby? Four? Are like, what are you doing? I can't do it? But you could put it in and I put it in the whole way. No, girl, I could not tip one fitting. Furthermore, I was like,

what did you want me to do with it. Look at like an ice cream cone because it's not fitting any orifice on this body. Oh he was, it was massive. Well, let's because somebody asked on Instagram and we asked if they had questions. Naturally, Ari wantston ow. Can you talk about what to do when you get sore from too

much sex? But he still wants it? Well, I would need to know what the pain is because when you start to talk about pain during sex, there are some health things that I would worry about, and some things that could be associated with if infection or an s t I um, because things like HPV or human papal lomba virus that can cause displasia on the cervix or what we know is cervical cancer. Somebody getting an abnormal paps.

Oh my god, I saw that on Survivor's Remorse. The girl had HPV and she had to tell him that she had HPV. What happened? Yeah, what did happen? Did they break up? Um? I mean I don't think it was a relationship, but she had to tell him. He had to go get tested, but he couldn't tell if he had it or not. Well, that's very true. Can't men so men are usually carriers and there are no

side effects. But when you would have something like cervical displasia or something like cervical cancer, the beginning signs it's usually pain during intercourse. Now, but on the flip side of that, you know, just saw it from too much, too much pounding. You can get bruising inside the vagina, which is very normal. You can get, um, something called Fisher tears, which is at the bottom of the vagina. It tears just a little bit because it's kind of

like when you would get an psotomy. Now, that will heal quickly. Um. But what I can suggest is loop it up, loop it up, loop it up. Also, if you're using condoms and you're having a lot of sex with condoms and you're not using lube, that latex can kind of irritate the inside of your vagina. So if you don't have a loube first of all, if you're using condoms, please don't go to the kitchen like, oh baby,

I got some coconut because that will compromise. Yeah, it's great for lo but not for your vagina because it will compromise the integrity of a condom. Is there something wrong now? I have a friend who uses loop and she says she can't get wet. She's like very dry, but she said that she sneaks and does it. Is it embarrassing you thing to have to use the loups? Very embarrassing. I think you gotta because also, you know, one of the things of the pussy being good is

that it's all we see. So yeah, but oftentimes what men fail to remember is that it takes a woman about fifteen to twenty minutes to go through bossi congestion, which is the process where we get wet. So in men, bossio congestion is where all the blood rushes to their genital areas. They get the seconds right, yes, like very quickly. But for women, what is happening is the blood rushes to our vagina or volva area. It engorges the tissue,

which then expresses moisture. So that's what that wetnesses. So it takes fifteen to twenty minutes. So if you're like you got them, you have to preheat that oven, you know. So I always advise a lot of four play and you know, lick it before you stick it, and then if you got to spit on it, telling you guys, you got to play, you know. Yeah, you can't just be like, come here and just jump on my dick like something you feel like, I just want to jump on your dick. That's not lick a nipple. But it

does four play for you. He does four play for you. Ladies start in the bedroom because for me, like I'm somebody who gets off on intellect and like smart people. That's what I'm saying, I want it to start at dinner. Will you pick me up? Yes? I get to that as soon as I get to the guy that I'm

fucking's house, like I'm leaking right yeah. But if you're not at that point and um, he's ready to go for it, I definitely recommend some for a plague because right, ain't nothing more irritating than a guy trying to put especially with an especially without a condom, trying to put a penis in a dry as with giant. But what I have heard a lot of times in talking to people I work with is it's like, especially women, so

a man doesn't wait to get them warmed up. Then they have sex, and a man can only have one orgasm, right then they have to go through this refractor period where they're being some of them, you know, keep going. Sometimes people's refractor periods is very quick, so it could be like a minute. But as you get older men,

that refractor period becomes longer and longer. However, you know, there have been women who have said, oh, well, my boy a friend has sex with me, and then after the first time, now I'm super wet because they didn't take the time to warm my son. Now he's done, and you're wet. You haven't gotten off, and now you have turquoise ovaries. Like that's the exact same thing as

blue balls said. Turquoise sounds prettier, doesn't. But just brought that up though that as men get older, because young men like they can just go less nut go again. But now I was saying to you'all earlier, it seems like there's this trend of older women with younger men. Clar we look at like Tammy Roman her boyfriend fiance, he's a lot younger, obviously, women Riah Carey was Nick Cannon. They're allegedly they're saying Halle Berry is dating Chris Webby.

He's a young twenty seven year old rapper, you know, and that's like the new in thing. All these older women with younger men, do you think that, um, these guys are at their peak? I know they say men sexual peak a lot younger than women do, and they know they definitely do. And I think for some of these women and the women you're naming, these are all women in their forties, So erectile dysfunction happens to a

large majority of men being forty, right. It's very very common, and it's very normal, and unfortunately we oftentimes we're not talking in our relationships about things like this. There's stigma around a man having e D and having these kinds of things because then you feel as that women like damn, I couldn't get him hired, and then he's embarrassed, right, so and then communication breaks down and now all of a sudden, here you are happy, um with younger men.

I think that. I think the idea of being like this mothery hen thing comes in. But the problem is, oftentimes these men haven't developed the skill set to be an adult relationship, or you're just trying to get your rocks off. And as women get older, they become more inhibited. So women don't really reach their sexual peak until about thirty three till like forty, and then once you go pass forty, you just don't give a fuck anymore. So

you're like, I'm I'm bread to go. And I have heard from a lot of women who have come to me and said, I'm more horny now in my mid forties than I've ever been in my life. And then those young guys are just right, they're ready. And then younger guys in here that makes it perfect. Can I put my hand down further? But who attracts younger guys in here? I attract them too, I think we all do. I mean I didn't like younger guys before. One of the best, some of the best sex I've ever had

was with ae year old man. But lately, no, I mean there are some I mean, there's the benefits of a younger guy. He can bust in that and then and then bust another net. Right, they have stamina, they can keep it going. But what's their minds? Everything that comes along with that. It's just like right, like when they said you got text mus is like what's up? And you're like, w y D, Yeah, you do what

you're doing. But they don't have the wherewithal to be like, hey, can I take you to dinner, they'll just be like what up? Because I actually ended up in a young situation with a younger man about ten years younger than me, and he'd be like what up? And I'd be like what up? But then the conversation. But a worseman is like a forty five year old man like what up? And You're like, hey, you're forty five year old? Would not have my phone. Well, online dating, now, Michell, I'm

glad you brought that up. You ended up in this situation. Now, I know we've discussed this. You've done online dating because I did a lot of you. How do you vet people out on on? Because I know there's a stigma attached to it. I know a lot of people that have found like their husband or their long term boyfriend on No keep going because I don't want to discuss I know some people that have has worked for but I know some people who also feel like, oh, I

can't do that. It's weird, it's crazy. There's some weirdos on there. Get out there and meet somebody. What's your take. I think that you're gonna meet weirdos anywhere you go right one too. I don't want to discredit dating apps, um too severely because I've how friends that have have seen some of my writing about dating apps are seeing another radio segment or something about dating apps and they were like, but I met this great person. Um. Dating

apps are like a sheep or a wolf in sheep's clothing. Right, So you know you have casual contact or casual encounters on Craigslist and all these things, and people they are really honest about what they want. They're like, I'm looking for a woman to come over and give me a sloppy blow job, right, Yeah, I really want a woman to put a stop on on and but they're still paying for that because it's not they're not it's just people connecting. And there are other websites where people are

connecting sexually. What we're starting to see is that these dating apps are sexual hookup sites, right, but they're kind of mask and this idea of oh, it's gonna be a relationship. Um, So I think that it's a false sense of security. Um. I've met some crazys on these dating apps, and you really kind of what do you mean back crazy? So one time I was on a dating app and this was supposed to be an elite dating app. I'm not going to say what it is. Okay, you have to pay, but they said no, you didn't

have to pay. You had to be vetted and there was a waiting list. So there are not a lot that are waiting right, And so this was supposed to be an elite person. And on the date, do you know that this man wanted to ask me multiple questions about what the largest penis I've been with was? Wow, first date, I don't know what he's doing. First date. I just looked at him and was like, but did he have a really big penis? Girl? I did not find out that night. But did I find out? Ever,

that's either my first date? And asked me about the man's penis. You're asking and then you can explain it, and then started texting me, asked me if I had photographs and if I would penises of penises. He was by that's so weird. I don't know. I was in a relationship where it was open and my partner wanted to know when and how and all the deats about what I did outside of the relationships. Did he want to watch, No, but he did want to listen one time.

That's cock holding that's what it's called. It's called cock holding. So a cock hold doesn't even sound holding somebody. Cock hold is someone who gets off on their partner having sex with another person. It's it's a it's a So all these sexual things that we do revolve around power and control, and that is a sense of relinquishing power but still kind of being in control because you've kind

of given permission to do that. So you know, there's some all kinds of we can talk about all kinds of Never have been with a guy who asked me about another guy's penis trying to think the guys don't want to know the guy's really he don't want to know about other guys like Eve don't want to hear about it. Yeah, And even when I've gotten caught with other guys got it like a question, was not were like, oh was it good that? Than never asked me that either,

But would you guys? Would you want to know if your man cheated on you? Would you be like? Where was it? I would never ask hibody that. At the end of the day, I don't need to because my responses. When you're done with the rest, you can come back to the best. Maybe that's what I really didn't like. Yeah, I don't know that. Yeah, I mean I remember I um my son's father. He didn't he didn't get caught cheating on me, but he was with somebody that I knew. And I asked him, wasn't good and he was like,

it wasn't better than yours. I was like, that was answer exactly. That's what. I cried the whole time, or never I thought I was listening the time. The man did cry when he was he was just like, oh my god, it's so good and would be really creepy. And I think we're when my wather was like one years old, I'm cried during sex. But if a god women can do it, men probably would love it for you to cry during sex. That's the woman. Oh no, the guy that I'm sucking right now made me cry

the other day during sex. How because it was so good. I started crying. Happened to me? See the guys like that? Now, what if it was he started crying? Is that weird? That would be weird? That would be weird. But I liked sex with on the T shirt. I've had sex. Um, I had sex and where we were both crying what's weird that sounds like we were going through emotional ship makeup. Yeah, you're in love and everything and you're both crying. Now, we weren't gonna see, I'm not gonna lie that a

guy crying. It has to be like a real reason. Yeah we were up, No, because but I'm not gonna lie. The sex was really good, but we were both like we were both just in a bad place. Because you could bring that ship up later. You could be like, oh, don't act like you wasn't crying with your bit I have later. I'm telling you're not. Your tears were lubricating out, you know. You say that when he was crying in

this pussy. I really some type of way like the sex birth slash sex cologist has a much more tame sex life than you love the lag. How do you feel about a man crying during sex? I wish a mother would, because that's what I'm saying. I haven't had that. I haven't had that experience I have. It was just emotional, you know, it was just a time and so sex for you emotional. No, we were just sad and man, we were in love, you know, I mean, sex is emotional.

I'm a woman. So I do feel emotional towards every person I've had sex. Wo, I definitely don't, at least at least at least at least that they counted. So four out of the total five, yes, four out of five fives for su All right, now, somebody else asked us a question on Instagram. Amum, this is big ace, little deuce. He wants to know. I don't even know. Maybe this is a woman. Yeah, she said emotional cheating, So don't believe it happens, or better yet that their participants.

What do you think about emotional cheating? Is that a real thing? Not physically not physically cheating, but maybe having a bond with somebody that's it's it's cheating totally. I would rather I would rather you have a one. So this is the thing. So I have some perspectives on coupling. I would identify slightly closer to polyamorous, whereas I need

a little space. I want to retain my autonomy. I think that sometimes dating other people when you're in a relationship can sometimes remind you why you love the person that you're in a committed relationship with. UM and I don't necessarily connect as much emotion to sex as some people. But um, I think if I was gonna get married tomorrow, I would want to have a two week break, and you have your two week vacation before you get married, like annually. Okay, But um, that two week break cannot

be taken with the same person. You better not know her birthday, you better not know her favorite color. I don't want you to know you're okay with your man for two weeks. I'd rather be a different girl every day. No, that's a must, But I'd rather a different girl every day versus you creating some type of closeness or bond with someone else. I think that that kind of thing your hopes, your dreams, your ambitions, that's mine. If we're

in a committed relationship sexually, we're sexual beings. Our bodies are designed to do four things, eat, sleep, ship, and procreate, not in that order, hopefully, but you know that's what our bodies are designed to do. So all this like thinking and processing, and that's things we've given. My dude, No two weeks either you you ain't. You can't be with nobody else. We got married, that's it. I'll put a wig on, like switch it up. I'll do some

new exercises, maybe get a little more flexible. I have sex somewhere new way, act like you don't know each other meeting. But all right, now here's the next question from DJ Plug. He said, did your girl guy be willing to have sex whenever you went to or do you have to be considered? What's the point of being in a relationship if the smash ain't guarantee whenever you want it? I think that, Um, I think when you're in a relationship, yeah, you should. You should be able

to get it whenever you want it. For sure. The only times I would say no to sex is if, like I'm not feeling well. Yeah, unless she's sick and it's not God forbid, somebody really out of you. Right, even though even though when I am when I'm sick, I still I'll still have sex as long as I'm

not throwing up. If my man wants to have sex, it makes me want to have sex, right, even if I don't feel like it at first, you know, But are these things that we should talk about as we're getting into the relationship, Like when you're like, I'm somebody on a date and maybe this is why I'm single, Like, I'm like, so in a relationship, how many times a week? Like, what do you think it's a good amount of times?

I will ask that, But what do I think it's It's varies for the couple, Like there are some couples that don't feel like actual intercourse is a part of intimacy and maybe we just want to cuddle. And maybe I'm somebody who just really likes to cuddle and I only want sex one night a week, or you know, maybe I'd like it every day the ends and y, I think every day except that you had a week

off when you have your period. It ain't stopping me because actually, did you know that during your menstrual cycle you are more aroused? And I know that you know that you can get blood all over your sheets and your math. I'm not doing or hopping the shower. Listen, that's my week off. I agree, I mean, I mean week yeah, and I like giving every day. But I'm not gonna lie. The guy's willing to run the red light.

I'm like, okay, you whatever you or the last two days, because yeah, I would rather heavy than the last two days because I'm not feeling so like I feel like the aroma on heavy because when you look like when you turn the light on it. But I think in a blood clot Yeah, that's funny. I think the only time I would say, the only time in a relationship or something of this nature that I would say sex you shouldn't be every day or whatever is you have to be much more mindful when you're in your first

trimester of pregnancy. Yeah, very mindful. Um. And I think in that situation first trimester of pregnancy, if a woman is like, you know, I'm not really feeling well or whatever, you don't want to have um intercourse because there are some things that can happen to the fetus born fetus. Also, oral sex during pregnancy, especially that first trimester, you have to be very very careful because you don't want to get you don't want to get what an air bubble

in your uterus because that can cause extreme complications. Right. Um. So, if a woman is pregnant and you're in your first trimester and your partner wants to have sex and you're like, or you start to have sex and then sex becomes uncomfortable, you need to stop having sex because it can really

impact your pregnancy. Um. But those are conversations you should have, like, oh, can I give you a blowjob instead, I'm kind of having some morning sickness, or I'm not really feeling bad, feeling good, or I'm having some cramping, uh due to the pregnancy. You want to try to like that. You have to listen to your body whenever I feel like I'm like my body doesn't want to have dick in my vagina. I'm definitely kind of first time messages jergraph on me. I don't think whatever I think, you cannot

just give you hit. I think I just give head until they come and don't stop, and then they're exactly you know what I'm saying. If you ever get a head and don't have sex like as women do, we absolute la. I see it out and then I dismissed someone like no, because I like how to get up, like I like to make a I like to make a guy come with my mouth. So yeah, I definitely without having sex, but I want a new person now

I'm talking about this. He go down on you and you come, and then you're like, Okay, no sex, Oh no, not for me, because I want to dick after a call right after you come. There's no better feeling than you come and and that boom. I like it, Dili, Yeah, no, I don't. I want it. There's nothing better than the guy that's like, let me just take care of you, do this for you and then but then I'm like, why don't you want to suck me? What you're gonna go for the next bit? I didn't even do that

for you and be rewarded for that. No, I was. I was acting as I wanted them. What's the reward if you've going down on me? And I'm I'm feeling like, oh, I need to reward you. What's a reward if you don't? Don't we do it for guys though, Yeah, like just take care of them and no, no, no, I take no, not for a reward. I just want to reclaim power and remind you like who you with. I just want to reclaim But I just want to snitch that all right now, let me ask you this. Say you're dating

a guy. Things are going great, he's really into you, You're really into him, perfect man. Right before y'all have sex for the first time, he tells you, just so you know, it's hard for me to tell you I have herpes. You know that never goes away. But a lot of people have it. Yeah, a lot of people have it. Probably most of the people you slept with. You don't even know they have it, and they don't know that. Hey, if I'm not having an outbreak, it's fine.

You can't get able to protect ourselves. What do you do? No, I'm not having sex with you. I'm sorry, past, thanks for telling me. Thanks for telling me. What do you have to say about Okay, so, um, I'm not having sex with somebody knowing they have herpes. That girl, I'm gonna tell you right now, you've had sex with someone knowing they've had herpes. They just didn't tell you. No, I didn't know. They have not ever had sex with somebody that has herpes. You don't know that. You know.

I know. I'm telling because i know what it looks like. That's what I'm saying. You know that break is. Here's here's the thing. People have herpes. I just want to say very clearly now because there's six of us and somebody, I just want to say clearly. I just want to say this very clear. I just want to say this very clearly while we're recording. I have not ever had sex with somebody that has her know that I don't

have herpes. I do people have STDs, and I can count on one hand how many people have I've gone royal with so and with that without skin to skin. I was. I was dating a guy before and and I went, I was in like snooping in his bathroom and I found Valt trucks and I found something Valt track and yeah, and I kind of ended it after that. Really, but you already had had sex with him? No, you had it? Yeah, I think I saved myself from maybe getting it. Well, now you tell us Michell was a

sex sex pert? Okay, when you can, you should? You would you have sex with some money that is that has herpes? Okay? So I want to kind of really give you, um some facts. First and foremost, a person can have herpes, right, I hate to break your heart. No, you're not breaking my heart. I know for sure, because I don't. I don't. I don't just I know the people that don't have a sex. I know for sure

that I have not had sex with somebody. Okay, So herpies first and foremost can lay dormant in your system for twenty I'm not taking that there's no way I'm taking out right. So I just got a call from Africa. Somebody saw me speaking in a number way and a girl calls me. She's like, I just tested positive for an I g G for HVS two. So an I g G is a blood test that they can take.

First of all, I want everyone that is listening to know when you go to the doctor to get a check up and you get tested for STDs, herpes is not a test that they do. It is a test you have to ask for. It is not great. You will not know unless you have an outbreak. If you think you have herpies. What a clinic will tell you is they'll say, you know what, we need you to come back when you're having an outbreak so we can test the fluid. If you get a blood test and

you've had chicken pox. And this is why they don't test for herpes via blood test because you get a lot of false positives. Right now, an I g G test, which is a blood test about chicken pox. No, chicken pox is herpies. It's a it's herpies has a bunch of different pos twice. Isn't that like herpes? They well, you're not probably gonna get chicken pox twice. Now, what's the other thing. It's chicken pox, and it's shingles, oral herpies.

It is herpies and it's oral herpies, and it's so of the adult American population has oral herpes, has HVS one. They get cold source. So that's one I I don't have, y'all y'all know me a minute, y'all know two years. Have y'all ever seen me with anything on my mouth one time? No? That's not me. No, And that's and that's great, right. But also what you have to understand the dormant thank you, not in me, maybe in y'all, not me, nerpies. Her can lay dormant in your system forever.

Like you can have the herpies virus and never will never get an outbreak because your immune system is strong enough to fight it off. Now, what herpies really is is a really inconvenient fucking virus, okay, because and it's a barometer of your health. Because if you've been exposed to herpies and you have the herpies complex virus in your system, and you are healthy and you have a

strong immune system, you will not get an outbreak. You'll never get an outbreak, but um, and I've had gynecologists and um, you know, eurologists talk to me about herpes. Is kind of barometer for your health. If you get an outbreak, that means your immune system is not where it is so weak it cannot fight off the outbreak. You see an emergency emergency up honey or valtrack or lycing. So lysing is an over the counter amino acid that you can buy at the drug store, all right, and

lycing you can add to your daily vitamin regiment. And if you have either been exposed to her pies or you're dating someone, if you're dating somebody who has disclosed to you that they have herpes, I would immediately tell you to start taking lycene because it will fight off. It will fight off your body getting um an outbreak. And then to understand that there are the times that someone is most contagious is the the few days prior to an outbreak. And people who have herpies, no, because

they're gonna get a tingling sensation. It's a nerve it's a nerve virus, so your nerves it's gonna tingle in the spot where the outbreak will come, not A, not a. It's gonna itch and tingle and then you're gonna get the outbreak. So if you have a strong enough immune system, you cannot have I actually had a gynecologist I worked with once who said, my my husband, I've been with him twenty two years, he is HBS too positive. He has herpies. I have had two children with him, and

she has never had an outbreak. Right, So it was her that really explained to me the understanding. Off you keep your immune system healthy, you will not have outbreaks. It is an inconvenience. Chlamydia, gnarrhea, if that is not treated, that can kill you and make you sterile. Right, herpies, and it's just yes, and make it juice out green stuff. You know, dicks don't start dripping. Great, but herpes is

not gonna kill you. It's just super inconvenient. Right. And And I think that I think statistically, and I'm trying to look it up on my phone so I don't sound like an idiot. I want to say it's like one in three sexually active adults in America has herpes. And we're not even talking about minority or a a minority demographic because yeah, we're talking about gen pop. But if we looked at ethnic into ethnic people of ethnic backgrounds Latino African American, the numbers would be like two

out of three. You somebody with harpies everything or not. I'm I don't funk with these. Disgusted already as God's father, I was with my son's father, checked this out. I was with my son's father for almost a decade and then even cheating on him. I'm like, I don't go raw, I don't play game has herpes, but we are steping her out. Not is making me never want to have sex again. I swear to God, I'm a very paranoid person.

Well think about it. Like, so here's the deal. Use a condom, but the condom doesn't always protect you against her pies because it's skin to skin and more times than not, herpies and genital warts they don't grow on the penis shaft. You can get them in that space

between the penis and the testicles. The taint that it can grow there, or it can grow like on the pubist moand which is right above pictures of like I remember seeing a picture of a baby who got a herpie all over that because as somebody a family member like kiss the baby. Yes, never like, yes, I should not herpies all over his back. It was so often, it's awful. So you should never let strangers kiss your babies.

No please. I was so paranoidal with my son. I didn't even let anybody my family members to kiss my baby or touched my baby. I'm like, go wash your hands, don't breathe on him. You can only home for about fifteen seconds. But you know the best way to kind of prevent herpies or even HPV because that's also a skin to skin You don't need a body fluid for that.

You could fingerpop somebody and give them herpes or that. Um. So, if you're going to do intercourse, female or internal condoms are the best because they sit outside of um the vagina and kind of cover. I mean, you can use them. Have you used I am familiar with how they work and might have a used one. I am familiar with how they work, and I can tell you that they are a big cumbersome when you first start using them.

But you have to remember a female condom and be put in eight hours prior to sex, and the longer it's in the vagina the way it starts to mold to a woman's walls. So I have had clients who have said that it is much more enjoyable for a man and for women. You're safer, you're more protected because your volva, the outer area is covered by the outer part of the How many people really use people see

they don't. I don't know if it's because they don't know, or it does sometimes make a sound during sex like sound. It's not a farting sound. It's kind of a it's you know, what's what I wish I would have known we were going here because I have my vagina and my penis and my condoms in my bag. Girl, I brought shoot, I brought Rhonda with me. Loving it. It does make a little it makes a little bit of a kind of sound, squashy sound. It makes a little

bit of a sound, but makes a squashy song. You want to like it because literally it's no mess, no fuss, no muss, you can use, you can yo red wings. You don't even have to worry about a mess. Because that's interesting. Yeah, what should pussy smell like? We were talking early and we like, you know, people be like pussy stings. But pussy should have a sent. It definitely should have a sent. So it should have aroma a roma, right like, So we give our pheromones and we give

off these kinds of different smells. I used to call that freemones. Yes, honey, get your freemones on. We could bottle freemones. We got over here. That could be your freemones. We could bottle yo freemons and start selling it. Um, but you're you wanted to have, it's gonna have a scent, it's going to have an a roma. Um. You want it to be not fishy. If it's fishy, you got a problem, Give it a doctor. It's fishy. There's a

high likelihood of bacterial vaginosis, which is phoebe um. Sometimes yeast infections can cause a little bit of a smell. It probably won't be fishy, right, but what's not fresh? But that's gonna come along with a cottage cheesy discharge and and some itching and burning and swelling. Um. If it smells like something has died in your pussy, bitch, check your tampon. Do you have a tampon? Oh my god, you know they happened to one of my friends. Sometimes

people did. She was having she started dating a new guy and they were about to have sex and it smells so bad. She was humiliated and embarrassed. He didn't know what was going on. He was like, you know what, you need to find out what's the problem. She forgot its tampon. I know, but do you understand that that you can get very, very sick from that toxic That can kill you. So if you smell like rotting carcass, you need you might have a tamp you might have

left that obi in there. And if you smell like garlic or oniony or something like that, take a shower, yeah, like a body. And then also as women, you really need to tune into the fact that you are what you eat. So if you eat high amounts of garlic, your vagina could smell like garlic um. And you know, water, eat eat, drinking a lot of water, flushing your system. You a lot of fruits. That pineapple, If you drink pineapple, your vagina is gonna taste good. That's really not the

essence of that things. It's like, hey and perfect, I'm glad kettle one doesn't have a taste. Vodka doesn't have a taste. Um, but yeah, so you want to smell, but it should and it probably will smell musty but kind of sweet. It should have it. And for men, because I think that this is important. Men, your sperm or your male ejaculation should smell like bleach or ammonia because it's a base. If it smells like if it smells like weeds, I love the backwards down. You should

clean things your no, and I think it's good. Like you know, you're good when you um. When a guy goes down on you and then you kiss him, you're like, oh, i'd tastes pretty good. Yeah, yeah, yeah, that happens a lot. And I drink so much water. I drink like a lot. I drink like a gallon of water a day, drink water. I drink mad water. I mean Hennessey has to come from water, right, yeah, and it's like in it and you see the ice is melted, so now it's water.

Therefore there's water in me. Well that's good. Can guys be like taste nasty and stuff? Yes, sunk, sunk, funky spunk. Yeah, you are what you eat when you swallow and it you want to throw it right back up because it tasted gross going down. Yeah, it should be sweet too, because seminal fluid. So semen right there like little individual tadpoles, right, they have to have the energy to swim to the egg and it's it's a journey, okay. So for them

to have energy, they have to eat something. So when um, the semen goes through the epididymus and the vast deference, it passes through the prostate, which we can move on to prostate next. Um, when it goes through the prostate, it picks up like prosthetic fluid and all these extra fluids. Some of the fluid is fruitcost which is sugar. Because sperm has to eat to have energy. So sperm should taste sweet. It should smell kind of bleachy or ammonia eat,

but it should have a sweeter taste. But I should not be bitter. Me and my booie sat there, we were eating a bunch of sour pasts kids and then I sucked a zick and swallow his comba and it tasted like sugar. I was like, what all that mean? Does he probably doesn't do drugs or drink a lot of alcohol. Then that's why, because that prostate fluid, that's helping that seemen get to where it's gonna go. It's supposed to be fruit. Was it like a yellow sour

patch kid? Or all? Right? Now we have another question on my instagram, m La mont Bobwin wants to know can holeness be deleted? What is hohleness? You know, it's like you used to be at home, but now you're in a relationship and all of that. Can we forget my past and move on? I mean, I guess you have to ask not only your partner but also yourself, because I think a lot of times what we do as individuals is we don't allow time to forgive ourselves.

So then we go ahead and we sabotage the relationships because we're still living in that space of quote unquote honess, and we're letting all of these negative things that all the shitty relationships we were in before cloud this individual who's here, who's accepting me for everything that you're saying? Okay, So I was reading about this interview that Lara Galoora

did a Global grind. You know, she was getting she read that right they broke up, and she was saying part of the issue the first time they broke up was that there was a picture she posted she was in the strip club where she worked with Meek Mill, and that pictures circulated everywhere. And then there were some old tweets she posted about other rappers. You know that she loved quote unquote loved or whatever when she was seventeen years old, and she was like, the first time

we broke up, I didn't think he could. She was like, it was hard for him because everybody was tagging him and all of this stuff, and she felt like he couldn't handle it. And then they ended up getting back together, but ultimately it didn't work out. But I think that in that that's her not leaving the past in the past. But it's hard when everyone keeps bringing it up and tagging your man in it. But but was but Whendy, But was she with her man when she brought up

all this old stuff. Well, she didn't bring it up. I think everybody else did a lot of other people were digging it up. She said, it was a publicly relationship, and you know, people don't want to see you happy, so you started posting stuff and then there everybody's trying to embarrass you. Going on you kind of be degrading it's hard for a guy to handle something like that, it would be hard for a woman. That's part of

the reason why. And we've had this conversation before. Um part of the reason why I kind of uh put myself out there with my guy in the beginning because I never wanted anything to come back and haunt me. I never wanted anybody to come back and throw anything in his face. And if anything ever came up about my past, I wanted him to have an idea of it already or kind of already knowew what's going on? Nothing. Yeah, so anybody anything that, anything anybody said to him, it

don't matter because it's already know. You're not telling me nothing already know, so we know if you can handle it or not. From the beginning. If you can't handle it, hey, you know, I'm sorry. Not me. I feel like nobody ship because I've experienced it, and I'm telling you'll be dating guy and somebody comes on the radio and they're like, nah, you know, I have a friend like what they want to bring it up. I have a a friend on

the radio changed the channel. I have a friend who is in a relationship now when she just had a baby with her boyfriend who's just a regular mega guy, and and um, she told him about a couple of you know, maybe rappers or whoever in her past, and it's been thrown up in her face, crying like I just I wish he would just leave it alone, Like I'm with you now, we have a baby, we have a family. Feel like she wishes she wouldn't have told him she does because he would have never found out, right, Yeah,

that's how And that's how I feel like. If I'm dating someone and I see that they're hanging out with somebody that I slept with, I'll be like, hey, you know x y Z happened, right, But see the difference in her situation. Need to be dating someone who doesn't even work in entertainment. I told them, Hey, I stopped with x y Z. That does x y Z and entertainment. That's what I was feeling. Every time that guy comes,

I feel like the radio on the TV. He's feeling away for no reason because he would have never found out about that anyway, Right, And that's the main reason why I told my guys, because he's in the entertainment. So I feel like, you know these people, or you might know these people, or you might come across some of these people, and I don't want it to be

an issue. Now, if he was a regular guy, I probably would not have told him, because you're never gonna find out you don't know the person unless I tell you. But I feel like even because it wasn't like anything, but it could be something that ends up on the bloods and he finds out about it, and maybe you know, I walk like the catburg I keep. I mean, I just and now today I feel like, even with me dating guys and entertainment, I still don't feel like it's

any of their business. I wouldn't want anybody who has slept with me to tell whoever they're dating that they were with me. You know what I mean. And I'm going to keep it to myself. Now, if like you said, something comes out on the blog, is that true or is it not true? Yes, it's true and not moving forward, you know what I mean? But what if they ask you, like listen before I find out anything about you, I wouldn't know what I do. I will observe the situation

and see who he knows and who he doesn't. I tell you what you feel like he needs to know exactly he's arrested myself. You don't know, won't hurt you full disclosure or no. I mean, I'm always a full disclosure person. But I don't have as exciting of a sex life as you guys do, So I mean, it's never gonna come up like, oh you was with that one. However, there have been moments where I've been with like a

regular guy. I tend to like kind of nerdy guys, and I'm like sitting and we're watching a TV show and after living in l A for ten years, there's like actors on and I just start cracking up on the screen and they're like what And I'm like, oh, yeah, I dated that guy. I just think it's funny. But I mean they're so square bots. I mean, I date squares and the oka whatever I do. Why do you date squares? What is it? What is it about squares?

If you feel like I mean, I would identify myself as sapio sexual, which is someone who, yeah, I'm really attracted to people mentally. UM. I also have come to the conclusion with my experiences that most people are bad in bed, so I'm going to have to make it good. Um. And so I don't look at it like and then I've never like and don't think I haven't been out to the parties into this into that. I just ballers are not nobody's ever like, I'm not that smart with

who people are. Like. I think I've had basketball players or football players try to talk to me, but you know, I'm so like, so you feel like the ballers are dumb. Well, I think they just think I'm snobby, is what like they kind of think, and I'm not like, I'm trill. I'm still like the ground that I gotta be a trial nigga. What people don't always what I present, so people think Honestly, I find that, um, you know, dating

uh rapper or basketball player a football player. You know a lot of times you know, rappers are a really good with words, so they're they're smart, they're intellectual. And then you know the basketball players and the football players there they went to college, so of course, but I'm also but I'm also i feel like it's these drug dealer niggas that are dumb that you really like, they

don't love, but they definitely don't like me. But even that they don't like me, I'm also not that time like them to like call people like, I'm like, if you're not, like, if you're not calling me, Yeah, I don't do that. I'm not I'm not calling you. Nobody likes. Let's just be real. I'm not gonna end up the cat lady. That's that's what it's gonna be. No, what's wrong with the regular guy? What's wrong with and I like, Um, what's a regular guy? What is that? Somebody that works?

You know? Have you ever been in a boring relationship? No? You think boring is good? You're boring is great. No, because even my even my son's father is not a square. But drama. Drama is not gonna get you a thirty year marriage. Yeah, No, I mean I think with um. With Derek and I, we didn't have a lot of dramas for the end when I started acting crazy. But with the last one, the last one, it was just it was a mess. We were fighting all the time. We loved each other, are added to the fighting? No,

I hate it. It's awful. Do you what's that? Miserable? You were miserable. But I also feel like some people think that when you argue and fight all the time, that's what love is. It's passion. He's so passible. Really believe that. Some people don't know any other way other than I'm in a relationship. This is what we do. He loves me, and that's why we fight all the time. I check your phone, You're gonna check my phone? Like that? All that a lot of people. No, that's one thing

I don't. I'm not a digger. I feel like, if you're looking for a song, you'll find oh, of course. But like, I have a girlfriend who dated athletes, who did all this, and then she found this nice guy. She had, like this nice dude she was dating, and she would call me and be like, he's boring, ring, And I'm like, girl, since we've been in high school, we've been running drama on your boyfriend's whether it was

stealing a dog or beating up somebody's girl. But so she got so used to the drama and identifying that the drama was loved. That's not love. Love is sitting on the couch on a Tuesday night after somebody cooked dinner, arguing over not even Netflix. Even more boring, arguing over who the best voice was on the voice tonight. I just feel like, for me, athlete is a regular guys.

Everybody's aular girl. Everybody's regular because that's her. I don't think dating an athlete is dating an average guy, you know. I don't think dating a rapper or R and B singer is an average person. But I think they're regular. Okay, So let me ask you a question. So let me ask you a question. Let me ask a question. Would you rather an NBA player or a man who graduated from Yale Law School? Assumed to come laude. Is he

a lawyer if you graduated? Listen, I don't care about what a guy does, because I'm gonna do good for myself no matter what, whoever's gonna treat me right, say, everything was the same except one the NBA player, and one went to Yale and his lawyer and a lawyer or has his own business he has. I mean, if I had to choose NBA, everything is the same as the same character, the same type of perfect one one

plays basketball, one as a lawyer. I would take the lawyer just because I know the lawyer is probably gonna have more time for me. You know what I mean? You busy lawyers are, But I mean he's not going to be traveling. No, that's no, not only trying not to be honest with you. I have wait, I have dated UM, and in my mind, I'm thinking of someone specifically who went to Yale Law School and UM has their own business. That man is on the road seventy

five percent of the time. Literally, it's the same. It's literally it's the exact same. But the difference is what the experiences when we're together. Like so for us trying to squeeze time in might have been, Hey, let's wake up at six in the morning and go to the gym together, or I see the face I wish you could see. Hi. No, I would do that with my athletic boyfriend. I'm just saying, like, if I had an athletic boyfriend, I would do that with him. I would

do his workout with him in the morning. And the attorney's workouts are way easier. Yes, that I don't know. And you know. The thing with a lawyer, and the difference between a lawyer and a basketball player is that a basketball player is going to have a lot of groupies because he's really famous. But you don't think, Okay, so I had to break it to you, he's gonna have groupies too. But it's not gonna be it's it's

not no word like. That's one thing about dating and entertainment is that if I take somebody entertainment, he's gonna understand. He's gonna understand all the guys, all the groupies I have, you know what I mean, the naturally Yeah, just just me living my life. I feel like anybody has you would understand why you have guys, the guys that are not in entertainment. There my last boyfriend, if I took a picture with a promoter, he was taking my head off.

I couldnt post photos with promoters who pay me to show up out their event, right, you know what I mean? Dating and entertaining, It's like, but that's because he has a little penis. No, I'm not gonna say all of that. Well, that means he's insecure about something. What I'm saying, I'm

just saying, you know, um, dating and entertainment. A guy dating me and entertainment, it's gonna know like, oh yeah, she took a picture with two chains, or she took a picture with this one because they just took a picture together, not because she's like fucking the nigga. You know. But sometimes it's haired to for guys in entertainment because those are their peers. So it was like me, look crazy, dude, Yes some of them are yes pictures. Are you on

your knees in the picture? What I'm saying, No, I was. I was accused of dating somebody because or having slept with somebody because we took a picture and that person had their arm around me and try to wrap it. My gosh, I can't And I literally just sat down for the picture like let's take a pick, click, and

kept it moving. But the picture looked like it was so much more that he really accused me, like, oh did I definitely did that, experienced definitely dated a guy who got mad about every picture and told me that, okay, when you take pictures with people, you can't do this. You can't do that. You can was this was this

pures with these rappers? That? Yeah, because that's see again, all of these relationships revolve around power and control, and it also makes me look at you crazy like that insecure, right, it's not that that security is not attractive, but it's not always If I take if I take a picture dribbing a guy's crotch or you know, licking his face, then you have a reason to questions. But if I take a picture with somebody in his hand ends up on my lap for the picture, that quick doesn't mean.

But I think that what again, I want to go back to power and control. All of our relationships are run by power and control, roll and everything I just heard all of you ladies speak on was men trying to use their power to control you as a woman. And and again, perhaps this is why I am squeal because I don't play that like. You ain't putting no money in my bank account, you ain't signing no checks, right.

And at the end of the day, I came in this motherfucker alone and I'm gonna end up going alone. So at this point, I love you. I want to be with you, but I need you to recognize that I have my life and my autonomy and and the other thing is called it's what I need. But the other thing is called the pig the Pigmailia effect. So

there's this idea of the Pigmailia effects. So a man likes you, Stephanie for this fearce wild wow, so underground and she's gotta be a trip right right, But then what happens is when they get you in a relationship, they want you to become that demure wife they want you to make, and they try to turn you into this other person who you're not. And then let's say that you do end up be coming the person that

they want you to be. Next thing, you know, they're cheating on you with the girl you were right, she's just got a new name, right, So we have to be aware of that. I don't play that. You're either gonna take it or you ain't gonna take it. Because and even with my last even within my last relationship, like you know, he and I knew each other for years, but when he got with me, he knew what was going on in my life, you know, and just a couple of months down the line, I had to make

a lot of changes and adjustments. Right, Stephany was like, I'm not talking about my ex. No one here we are, good morning. I see a new man about your ex like any guys you're dating, not at all. I don't talking about him at all. The only reason we're talking about him now that's relevant. Yeah, it's relevant to our conversation.

But please, new man about one thing, nothing, nothing, nothing, whether or not that's it, that's all or that's great exactly with my last relationship, and if you compare them to what's going on in my life now to the guys that I'm getting to know now, there's no interest there. It's it's like, well, you say, I'm proud of Stephanie because before she was like, that's it. I'm gonna be with him. I'm gonna wait till they can whatever. And I love him. I'm not doing anything and all my heart.

I always love him for the rest of my life. But but but I mean compared to what I got going for me, for me to be talking about this man with the guy that I'm sleeping with now, it's a waste of time because I'm just making myself look crazy. I think that's again not allowing yourself forgiveness for whatever

went wrong in that relationship. So you're bringing it up in your new relationship, trying to overcompensate, to be like, I don't want this to happen in our relationships, so I want to tell you all about this and what happened in our relationship and our last couldn't possibly happen exactly. But if you plant seeds, you might see some type of variant. So really, I think leaving the past and in the past the past. Al right, two thousand sixteen, let's do it. Well, they're thank you so much for

coming back this same time Residents sex Birt for lips service. Yeah, this was really really educational for me today. That's definitely rather she wants to admit it or not found out that she has not. I'm not. It's impossible. I am not. Okay, I'm most it's imposible, but in your world impossible, let me tell you. And I usually brag about my mute system, but later, your lip's nothing. I'm always is always bare. Ain't nothing on my mouth, you know all the time, Stephanie.

Stephanie's mouth is her favorite part of her that's right at my it is my other favorite parts. And I take a little both SuDS. She either doesn't have her peace or it's dormant. Yes, let me tell you what we're seeing my my mune system. And I usually think my new sun's really good. But I got sick already. I moved into my new apartment. I've been sick in

that apartment already three times. Well, if one day you get the chills and the shivers, and all of a sudden you've got some itching and burning and one spot in your vagina. I will be dead because I will seeing get you some light seeing and somebody. I'm gonna kill myself straight the funk up if my pussy doesn't work no more. I'm just gonna It's like it's like a man for his penis, if you shoot his penis, or if he's gonna want to die. No one is shooting up your a jay. That's how it sounds like.

Oh my god, I don't just scare her like that. It heels after seven days. No, man, you know what, I'm not trying to you know what. God bless everybody who has her piece. I know. God, if you know one of my good friends has it, and God, but you know, I just I don't want that in my life, you know what. But you know what's funny. A baby mama can kill you, herpies cannot. And a baby mama can make your man broke as hell, but herpies cannot. You can fuck a baby mom's up, you can't fuck

herpies up. You can't with some val All right, Well, thank you so much Michelle again. Ge Hey, we'll be back next week, we're back. I officially live back in New York. I'm not missing any more episodes. Somebody's boot here, I'm here to start. Yes, let's service