Episode 158: The Dutch Oven (Feat. J Prince)

a lot, witnessed a lot of things. So the ladies to you said to the young guy, Yeah, to the yeah, get no advice. Yeah, well you know about my perspective. Yeah, well I need to help a man's perspective and give me some advice. You get what I'm saying, Yes you do. But I will say man and women differ on our views on things a lot, So you know, J. Prince might think this is the best thing to do and we might have to challenge him on something. Oh he just looked up. I was like another mind. Okay, so um,

and I brought this up. When you're on the Breakfast Club, the book, the Art and Science of Respect. There's not a lot about relationships in there, so we're gonna get advice from you about that because it's not something that you really prefer to talk about. It feels like, right right, But I got some advice I can give on that.

So if you're broke, should you be dating as a man, because I've had men that have in the past wanted to ask me out, but they told me later on I didn't really have it like that, So I didn't want to ask you out because I didn't have my money, right, Yeah, It's all about what you feel secure as a you know how you feel as a man. You know, if you feel incomplete, then get you get your grind up, you know what I mean, get yourself together and you know what I mean. But if you feel you qualified

being broken, man, I can't stop you from it. Maybe your lottery pick, but for you personally, because obviously you had money for a long time, right right, You've been selling we since she was eleven. You got me to understand that. But there was a period of time when you gave everything up and you were broke. Did you

feel comfortable dating during that time? Well, when I hit rock bottom like that, I had someone that was down with me, and yeah, I felt real comfortable with her because she showed me, uh something I hadn't seen before, and that's that she was down with me at rock bottom. So that was important. That was a special moment. And you know, I was secure as a man even when I hit rock bottom. So it's good to have a

woman that's down with your ground zero. So when you rise to the top, you know what I mean, y'all still want a car, so she gets like she can get like a vacation on the island. She chooses. Yeah, you know, I never forget people that was down with me, you know what I mean, period in life, you know what I mean. So it's hard for me to let go when Lawyer tiers in the portrait, you know what I mean, I helped somebody that was down with me

no matter what. What do you ladies think about a guy perhaps asking you out, you know, g and Loreal and they don't really have it like that, they don't have a car, they don't have a lot of money, but it's your first like initial stages of dating. Do you think that that's cool or do you think that they should kind of wait, I think that they should get very creative if they're not going to wait, it's

not always about money. Um, you know, if you can't afford to take me out to a fancy dinner, then buy some groceries and cook you know, um, I mean not really what if they take I mean, come on, you can'cer What are you eating? Right? What do you eat? But I think could get something grocery grocer grocer. I mean, you know, you can always go for like a picnic in the park, you know, you know I walked into If you're in the beach city, you know, somewhere that has a beach, you can go, you know, take a

stroll on the beach. Or you don't always have to impress somebody with material things and with money. Um, it's always good to let your personality show through, no matter what you want him to tell you, like list no, no, I don't need to know that. And that's I'm asking you for something and you don't have it. I don't need to know what you have or don't have, especially not in the very beginning. I guess fake it till you make it. I was just about to say that

I tell you were going to fake it? She I mean, I said, you know, I guess like fake it till you make it as far as like if you don't have it, then don't act like you got something that you don't have. But there's no need to put that out there if I don't need to know that, Like what does he supposed to do? Be like, hey, I want to talk to you. By the way, I'm broke as fuck, you know what you say, Like like I

don't know. I'm just saying like I feel like it's been times when I didn't have money like that, but I'm not going around like but it don't matter right when women are broke, it don't really matter. But I figured my own stuff out, Like you gotta figure out how to get your money, like he said, Like I'm not thinking about being with nobody else when I'm all over the place and I can't even barely feed myself,

Like I felt like that's kind of weird. Like especially I felt like maybe for a man, now, if you was with somebody and you lost it, that's something different, right, You don't like, yeah, we know each other, that's trash. Yeah, if you leave that person when they down and you was with them when they you trash. Like point blank. But if they're down, they shouldn't. You should be focusing on yourself and trying to get yourself up instead of dating g G me you you know. I just that's

what I think. That's my opinion, because you can't be right for nobody unless you write for yourself. That's true. And I think one of the instincts of a woman is is security. You know what I mean. She won't to feel secure with that man, and that's physically and mentally. So you know what I mean. If you're a man and you can't satisfy that security where a woman is concerned, that's considered unequally yoke. Have you ever had your heartbroken?

I think I have. You know what I mean. I think every human being has experienced somewhat of some heartbreak. So yeah, most definitely. Was it like a physical pain, because you know, physically we feel it when we get our hearts, women really get sick. I think mine was more mental. I don't think I experienced physical pain. I wonder if guys even experienced that at all. They do they do, because I felt like they get a delayed reaction. I was about to say that they don't right away.

First I'm gonna go out and just gone later. I could do me without worry about her, and they back right, they'd be so sick. And they' friends ain't right either, because they'd be like, oh, let's go to the shop club. Then put them on the girl just immediately. We're just upset and then we get to the you know him, I'm moving on right. They get it that way first, and then we get it that way second. It's kind of vice first something. Yeah, they always say that, you

guys have a delayed reaction. Okay. Advice for women. If she fights in the bed, should she acknowledge it or act like it didn't happen? Well, it depends. It would be the respectful thing to do. I was like, nah, I had a bad experience. If it's a silence phrase, silent but deadly. Yeah. Was everybody sleep or was everybody?

Who's everybody that's just you? Yeah, everybody and they always get on Okay, so yeah, I mean if we're sleep and you you know what I mean, it's one thing, but don't have that it might affect Try to hold that. But it slipped out. That happens. Okay, she acknowledged it and be like, oh, my god, I'm so sorry, or should she just be like yeah. It was like, damn, Ja sneak up on you like that. That causes problems. I've had a guy for in the bed before guys

could do that, though I was. I was awoke and he would sleep and it came out real quick, and then he kind of just like, yeah, I farted in my sleep before. I'm not gonna lie. So I've been told I think people farting their sleep. You ever fired and you're sleeping and wake you up? No sleep, And he farted and he woke up looked at me like I was kidding, like you're the one who did it. I was wide away. No, you know what, it's good if you sleep and then you wake up and act

like it was them. I feel like, damn, you want to just fight because you think I'm sleep or if you're gonna fint, you gotta pull the covers tight around you escape what's called a Dutch oven. Right, she's doing it. That's what put on somebody some practice. It's just an embarrassing situation. Sometimes you gotta fight. My first don't think

that bad. I don't think your first smell like chicken because that's all you eat, and I've been cutting back on that, so now they smell like fruit and veggies. I just think it's more at you tried to it happened, Angela. You ever fighting and didn't think somebody was about to come right back in and then they wouldn't work back in the mid Did you say something? Now? I'm me and I just try to move around. But what are you doing here? What smell? Smell crazy when I came

over here? Like, no, it's all right. Now, let's talk about arguing in public. Have you ever dated somebody and she liked to argue in public or y'all got into it? Are you like we're gonna talk about this later. Do you leave the person or do you argue back? Yeah, I'm not gonna make a fool of myself in public, so I'm I'm gonna move on. I had a feeling, Yeah, but what tell you? Would you leave or would you tell her come on? Get in the car? Like? What do you do? Well? I mean, I'm an accept right

there in public. Let's not do this, you know what I mean? We can talk about this later. If she don't hear me, then I'm I'm out. Did you make a FOOLI yourself by yourself. Yeah, I can't. I can't attention you don't be in Louria. I'll be saying here like y'all don't be are you in public? No, I don't do that public stuff. I argue, don't give me argue to the bone. But like capricorns, that's aid trade of us. We don't even and like, uh, public my hand, not no kind of embarrassment, no kind of done on

my hand. I'm not really like the kinsey kinsey person in public, like when we're in the house. Yeah, And I'm not saying it's not an embarrassing thing. It's just like some things are for the house and some things are not. And that's just how I look at it. I argue, though, yeah, we know, but not a Brogola ship. It wasn't an argument. I knocked over the hookah and the party was over and over through the hook I

was there all right. Now, let's say you are for the young guys out there first dates, and she want to take a picture with the two of you, like see, yeah, I mean, if that's what they want to do, I don't see anything wrong with that, all of them. No, But let's say they're asking you, like, yo, gee, you know she took a picture. Is that something that's kind of a red flag because it's a first date and

what she's about to do with that picture? Yeah? Yeah, I'm not big on pictures, So if it was me, I'd be like, I don't really want to do the picture thing right now unless I really spend some time and know this person. But you know, normally trust is something that has to be earned, So I don't want to put no pictures out there with the wrong perception behind.

Did you see the episode of Atlanta where paper Boy was dating that check and they was in the Neil Salon and they were getting pedicures and she took a picture of him and he got so mad he left her there. Have you ever had somebody to take a picture of you and you didn't want them to want her to? Yeah? I think I have. Yeah, that's a fact. That's a fact. What do you do where I asked them not to do that? Against them? Everybody? Don't do that again, none of y'all. Let me be an agreement

with my likeness, my image. You know, I don't like anyone just doing whatever they want to do with my likeness and image. When is it okay to post like a picture with you on social media when I'm in agree? So she got signed something? Well, I can't say that because I mean I take pictures all the time. So but I'm talking about a person or like with somebody, your lady, Yeah yeah, could she be on the island

like here we are? Well yeah, okay, that's cool. But a lot of times I don't like everybody knowing where I'm at, right, you know what I mean. On a person, I'm really private. I don't I don't trust everybody. And I feel like if you, you know, leaving a broad map to where you are all the time, the possibilities of anything happening arise. So I like to be out

of sync with posting. That's true because if people know you're not at home, that's how homes be getting around when they see you somewhere, Like, okay, person at home. I like the post after like I'll be somewhere and like maybe I'll take a picture of my friends. We'd be at the table, all of us or something, and then we leave and I'm like, all right, I'm home already. So I think that's not but you know, it's crazy

when you said the picture thing and like firsday. Back in the day, people used to really like take pictures on the first day and they would have to have memories like and this was our first day. Yeah, but there wasn't social media back yeah. Now in these days with the Internet, people will see a picture and their Mr screw was going on within the picture, Like they make their one scenario. Yeah, They're put their own scenario based on what they see and it's just like no, yeah,

all right. Now for women asked you out, should she pay? No, I always like to do that. I think, uh thank oh me and ship you want to be in that driver? See yeah, I mean that's what I feel about it. You ever had dated somebody or been with somebody and they actually took you on vacation or did anything for you. I hadn't experienced that yet. You don't think that might be really nice? I mean, I mean I would, I would accept it if they just really wanted to do it.

But I'm like always quick to you know, I want to do that. You know I love paying and doing things like I love I love paying. This. This is great key, young fellas, this is great advice. They you love paying too. That's a good thing to say on the day. Do you like surprises? I don't. Man, you'd be like, look, don't surprise. Yeah, I don't mind with

some surprises. As long as it's safe. You gotta do the flash dances for him, like the people that come out the flash mob and they just stopped and start this nowhere, help me, we should do that him pay for it. I just had a surprise birthday party. Oh it was fun. You'd be surprising. Hold yeah, tell us to set up. Well, I was at a restaurant. I thought I was even with my kids, and my children they're not kids, you know your d Afterwards they well, the owner of the restaurant came and say, oh, let

me owe you the balony. So I went up. I thought I was going up to look at the back and end everybody was. But that's really nice. So you ate first though, like you're sat down at that was waiting up there for a minute? Is that what do we dessert? Let me get another there like no, well we never got to the entrede come to think of it. Just advertise okay, all right, now, what are some things that you've seen in the past In this business. That

would make a woman undateable. I know you've seen a lot. Yeah. One of the first things that like turned me off about the one like a woman that smoked cigarettes. You know what I mean. I see a woman a cigarette smoker automatically. I know, we can't do nothing about sig of weed. Well, I don't think weed is that bais you know what I mean? But cigarette, I hate the smoke. I hate the weird look. I mean, that's just a turn off, bad for you. It smells nasty, yeah, and

it sticks on clothes. Yeah, that's a deal break off. Clara was going to quit smoke a cigarette, I don't know. Playing with you, I found like it because I gotta bras, all right, So smoke a cigarettes? What us would make a woman undateable? Um? I guess if we are unequally yoked, you know what I mean, if a nonbelievable you know, I don't. I don't like a woman that you know, don't reverence, no type of godly belief, you know what I mean. That's I don't see how we can grow together.

I don't see how we can have anything. You know what I mean. She may believe in the devil, I don't believe in the devil, So what if she's a different religion though, No, I don't think that's a bad thing. This religion thing, you know, is a man made to a certain extent anyway, So anything else, Uh, let's see what does any type of drugs or anything. Yeah, I don't want know pere papa ain't nothing we can do. I don't want no pere papa coax, not a I

don't want know hard drug dealing woman. Bushrooms, I don't know what they do to But that's not that's not that's not a drug that you would that's like a yeah, that's not a drug. That's kind of falling in the category as we even though it's not as popular mushrooms how they make you feel. So mushrooms are just poisonous mushrooms and it's it kind of just makes you like hallucinate a little something. But I think it goes by pretty quick and people do it kind of like a

spirituality thing too, But it's not anything. It's like really mushrooms. It just really grows off the ground. It is your body fighting the poison off because they're poison. Its mushrooms that don't sound bad. We got something you to try. These things look a little crazy in here all right. Now, if some of the kids out here were to ask you, how do you know it's safe to take the condom off? But with your aunts to be, when is it time that it go? Because you got kids? Yeah, you took

the condom off. Everybody never put it on, not definitely put it on. Even have a condom company called scrap get the strapped. You almost need to take some tests, you know what I mean? Make sure everybody is clear. You know how guys test themselves they suck you row and if they don't got nothing to send their girlfriend. Yeah, we don't have to be that way, you know what I mean? Yeah, I think definitely, in this day and time, it would be good to look at one another's test.

So you've done that and like, let's get tested. Keep it real, I would like, because I don't know anybody that's really done that ever. I know one person Okay, yeah, I don't know what. I don't even know one person. That's it's ideal way to do it. That's what you're supposed to do. But that's why I'm recommending it. Okay, Like when did you know? Okay, we ain't using condoms. You have to really believe and have faith in that other individual. You have to know. And to me, it

was like my intuition, my spirit was comfortable with it. Now, what if you go what if one of these kids asked you, I went to her house. She's dope, love her, beautiful, smart, intelligent, but her house was dirty. Is that a red flag? Yeah, it's definitely a red flag. Like normally, if somebody dressed good and you know they places dirty, it's something going on that may not be right, you know what I mean. I just I would have a problem with that. I

don't like dirt. I like a clean environment. So that's a red flag for me. If I see a lot of dirt, dirty bath throat, just like clutters, I feel like where dirty. They're doing things that's dirty, you know what I mean? Like if you're not taking care of your surroundings and how you left you I didn't carry maybe you was rushing, you got some clothes that that's different, Like you didn't take out your trash. But if you

have bathtub is filthy. That's when I clean my bathtub like three, four, five times a week, Like that's nasty to me. I would hate to go on somebody bath room. I clean my bathtub when I clean my bath room, even if I hadn't used it, because just dust. Yeah, we're speaking from a woman. I dated a guy before and I went to his house and it was disgusting and I was completely turned off. That's what I cleaned it because, I mean I had to make myself comfortable.

I didn't deal with him after, but I did. I know, I clean leave his house, Yeah, because I was out of town and I had to stay there. Yeah, so it was either clean up to make myself feel comfortable, or the hotel room or on the plane. No, no, no, no, it was in a different state. I went to him. We have been seeing each other for a while, and he had it and had a oka it was dirty. Yeah, it just was. I mean, it wasn't like it was dirty. Are you more likely to have a woman come to

your house before you go to her house? And how likely are you to go to a woman's house, Like you know, sometimes it's an awkward feeling to go to someone's house if you don't for the first time, because you never know, you feel a little out of place. Yeah, I don't. I don't like being in in environments where unsecure environments, so I would be health attentive about going anywhere where it wasn't secure. But about having someone come to your house, like when you were younger, would you

have um if you were dating somebody? When did you say okay? I never? I never allowed. I had. I had to know you very well to bring you to my place. You know what I mean. I'd rather get a room or do anything, and I didn't. Very few people had opportunity to know where I laid my head. I'm so glad you said that. So now because I have a question, y'all, how do you think a woman should date a man every time they link up or something like that, it's in a room in a hotel here? Yeah,

you don't think that that? And you said I can't come to your house height, how should that woman felt out? How should she felt like, all right, I'm gonna let you all the way in. If every time we have sex we're going to a hotel and you have a big house. Yeah, No, I don't think that's fair either. I think at some point, you know, it's a graduation phase. But I think in the beginning it's a feeling out you know what I mean. You want to know, you want to know you can trust that person. I'm sure

they want to know if they can trust you. But if you're already there, then that's a matter of a bunding in some kind of capacity. So yeah, I don't think it's for ever, but it is a process. And what if she says to you, like, you know, I don't like meeting you in hotels now where, Well, I mean that's a prerogative and she don't like that. We can figure out something else, But it don't mean it has to be my place. Yeah, definitely. You know I was that way in the beginning. I never let nobody

know where I laid my head. I felt like you should be like I feel like the people listening to need to take heed to this sting. You shouldn't just let any and everybody comes to your place. Now, I from experience to know that guys like to show off. You know they live in a nice condo where they have a big old house and you know they yeah, come over then, but it's just like still, like you need to make sure that you know who this woman is, or make sure that you know that she ain't gonna

be sending nobody to your house when you out of town. Yeah, or if or if things go sour, then she's sending people or things or whatever to your Like, you never really know where people's mindset are, so you shouldn't just bring anybody to where you live at. What about letting a woman cook for you? Oh? I love to eat as long as she clean, you know what I mean, can cook because it's hard for me to just eat bad cooking. But she got to force yourself to do it to be polite. Uh no, I couldn't. If I

don't like it, I'm not gonna force it down. But I'm not saying I'm not hungry no more. You're gonna be like it doesn't taste that. I think I'm being honest, honest. I see him, and I see him in a very calm, nice way, saying, listen, here, sweet her, you put forth the effort, but it's just not what I'm going out. I slaved all day. This is so cayful. Maybe you need to try another recipe. Actually favorite, this is mine. You'll see everyone loves this. Okay, Well, my collageude honest person,

trudely honest. So I let her know. I almost can smell. I mean, listen, we eat with our eyes and our noses before we taste the absolutely. What's your favorite dish? I'm my soul food man, you know what I mean. I love some soul food. I love sea food. If I had to choose my favorite dish, it would be my grandmother beans and rice. Yeah, I love beans, and that's interesting. Yeah, I would never have anticipated. Yeah it was Sunday. She make him from me if I'm in town.

That's cool. And I wish you give up that recipe something. She re esteems you with that recipe. Ain't giving up that recipe. I get that recipe up. Dog, you got down because I can do a little something, but I never do it. Look like a lot of men can't cook, but most of them I imprison you know what? Yeah, but cook for anybody? Yes, what did you make? Spaghettist? That's all guys. That doesn'tunt turkey bacon? Anybody cook cook eggs.

Everybody can't cook eggs. That ain't now everybody can't cook bacon. I don't eat that stuff. But when I used to, people burn it up and all that you'd be burning your bacon. Let me see, I like my bacon. I like my turkey bacon, crispy, kind of burnt bacon. Not at all, not at all, My god, I ate pork the other bag sometimes. Yeah. I took a bite of a pork hot dog, he said. The person that gave it to me told me was turkey, and I believe them. And first bite, first bite, I knew you could buy it.

By three or four hours later, my stomach was doing flips. But you would stick the wholes. No, no, no, no no no. I only ate the one bite. And then he said, you don't need hot dogs? Hours later? Why not hot dogs? But your report, Well, it's hard for me. Smell. Have you ever seen how hot dogs I made? Never like hot dogs for some reason. How does that? It's gross? The process of Yeah, but you know what, I only eat hot dogs if they're deep fried, were on the grill.

I can't eat hot dogs. You fry hot deep fried hot dogs? Yes, but it did frier. Oh my, I had in Atlanta for the first time. When I lived in Atlanta, it was this place called the Chicken Shack. And I used to go to Chicken Shack all the time and check in Jersey, we call it the Chicken The chicken spots. Yeah yeah, no, no, no. It was really called the Chicken Shack and it was a little teeny place off one SI six off Camperton Roll and I. We used to go there and get deep fried hot

dogs that sound like an attack. It was so good and then you die. I had jugs of years. I haven't had pork since I was in sixth grade. I haven't had years. It wasn't that many. But the only time I've ever eating pork I was I eat it by accident every single time I got sick. I'm with you want a seafood, That's all I eat. I'm a prescutarian. I'm trying to get to be a vegetarian, but I just love crab legs too much. I don't need see food at all. Yeah, we know you're missing out chicken,

vegetables and chicken. That's it. What's your sign? I love scorpio. Scorpio man are the worst. They're freaky, freaky. I didn't one scorpio y no, no, no, I would say this. They are very freaky, but they also cheat so much. Oh my god, they are the worst. And they'd be lying about headed. I had ex boyfriend was a scorpio, and he lied about everything, his how many kids he had. I was like, damn, how are you lying on you? He told me that this is the dumbest lot ever.

So he had a baby by this check right. And then the woman was pregnant when me and him started dating. But he told me that she was pregnant by somebody else. So I believe him, right, because why would you just make that up? His baby mom was having a baby, but she was with somebody else. Then after she had the baby or whatever, she called me one day I was in college and she was like, yeah, tell him he needs to buy his kids some pampers. I said, he only has one. She was like, um, no, we

have two. Then he told me, after I confronted him about it, that it wasn't his. It was his brother's baby. Who lies about something, no experience? And yeah, and then everybody he was twenty seven years old, right, but he told me he was twenty four. So then when I found out because one of his boys, you know, snitched

on him, because that's what guys do. Um. He told me he said, you know, he'd be lying about his age, and I was like, I was I asked him he was like, you know, I went to jail for three years. So since they took those three years in my life, dirt back God, he said. He says he's twenty four because they took three years from him. The scorpio, I don't think that. I've never been that for geminis. I'm a Gemini and people who be all crazy have one crazy persona people in one sign. The sign is actually

to this great. Do you care about signs? Not really, not really. I don't get caught up in it, but I think there is some kind of validity there. But no, you don't never ax. But I don't govern what we're gonna do or what we have based on Yeah, I don't think it's that real. I got. I know a lot of scorpios. My dad was a scorpio. Like I wouldn't say liar, I would say arrogant. I would say a little, short tempered, maybe more than a little. And I would say I don't From dealing with scorpios, I

would say that they're very freaky. Yeah, and that's it, No, I said, Yeah, he was. I don't really know many sco men, but I know a lot of scupio women. And that's a living opportunists, the same ex boyfriend. Though something in your buck actually made me think of him when I was reading it, even though this was a long time ago, when you were talking about driving to go to prison to visit your uncle and how you saw things and it was like getting out of the neighborhood.

He was the type of person that had never left his neighborhood growing up, and when he used to come visit me in college, he was like, Damn, I wish I would have seen some of this when I was younger. I left my neighborhood because they probably would have made me want to go to school or like do more. And because he was like one of those unsuccessful drug dealers,

you know that it was a low level. I think I know a lot of people from where I'm from, a Philly that never leave Philly, right, But it really does And yeah, it's crazy to me too. I think that people should get out and experience the world, not just outside of your city, but they should experience other countries and other cultures. Because from the traveling that I did over the past decade, I feel like it's taught

me so much about life. And everybody don't have the opportunity or even the thing like, look, when we were younger, right, we didn't have the internet like we have now where you can see things in other countries, so you have no idea Like me growing up in Brooklyn and Flatbush, I never really left my neighborhood when I was younger, So I'm thinking we're chilling doing good until I left, and so we wasn't really doing that good. But see

that's back that. Nowadays, there's no excuse, like you have access to the internet, don't bottom sneak as this month, save up your money and go somewhere and save it for memory. And one thing that people don't know is it's not as expensive to travel as as people actually think. If you're playing a happy playing ahead, you know, Groupan

got some nice trips um. But if you're playing ahead and you research where you're going and that type of chang and a lot of hotels are all inclusive, so you don't really have to have a whole lot of money once you get there. This been on food and you know stuff like that, unless you like, you know, trying to travel on the excursions. But I honestly think

that people should get out more. I think that it is good for the I mean it's yeah, but if you're a young kid and you don't have a job and you're just in school, like because I didn't, you know, experience that I didn't even I think my first vacation was when I, um, when I graduated from college and I went away. One of my friends, UM her family had like a time share, and so all I had to do was buy my flight and that was like

the first time I ever went on. And when I was growing up, my grandmother had a house in Whitewood and every summer from as long as I can remember, until I was older to say I didn't want to go, which was like, but that's not that far from But to me, I was going thatwhere. Yeah, that was my

you know, that was my traveling. And I didn't realize until I grew up and started growing, I mean started actually traveling and getting on planes and going to other places that I was really only an hour away, you know, I was only an hour two away from home. But as a little kid, like that was huge to me that every summer I left home and where how I was. I was like one of those they sent me down south. I was one of them kids, they're like something. I

was in North Carolina, I was in South Carolina. I was in everywhere but home with my mother, and she was like, your ass is bad. You're going down there with your auntie or your godmother or whatever. And I would be there the whole summer. But she would still take us our trek style. We would go to Like my mother, I'm not even gonna say like she had a whole bunch of money, but she figured it out so she would drive like I was dead. See my

mother drive like to Florida by herself. We had three girls in the car, and she would take us to Disney like she would make a stand. Ever been in Disney room? Men, Like for your kids, you got to do some some stuff like that. Sometimes I ever went where the island and my mom is from Mansterrat. That's the only place I've ever been growing up. Was the first time you left the country? Oh Um? I was grown. I was grown and I went on a family vacation. Which is where did I go? I think to Europe?

First trip? Did you feel like out of place? Because I know the first time even the country, it feels mad, weird, like even with the phone service not being able to use your phone like that and not being able to order what you want and you don't know what's going on. I don't really feel out of place for my eyes, you know, witnessing the churches in the history over that gave me a whole different perspective of everything. And I'm like, whoa.

And you know, reading my history books, all these different places and things that always thought I would never wasn't important to me, I would never see. And here I am walking at a museum where the great Grave is and I'm like, whoa, this is interesting. But I think traveling, you know, for me, getting out of my hood gave me a whole different outlook and caused my brain cells to open up and start dreaming beyond you know what

I even imagine. So that was one of us to be able to Just that penitentiary ride that I took with my with my grandmother caused me. That's why I winning purchased a thousand acre ranch. The seed was planning in me from looking at laying right into the penitentiary. So that's how powerful that can be, you know what, and make you want to do different things. I remember they used to do this trip called Brooklyn, Vermont where they would take people from you know, Brooklyn and then

take you snowboarding in Vermont. And that's something there, like you know who does that? Like I never even knew what that really was until we went on those trips as motivating and it makes you want to see more. So it makes you want to do more thing exactly exactly everybody need to get up out the area and

comfort zone and goes, you know, experience other thing. I agree. Oh, and I want to ask you have you ever had beef like when you were younger over a girl, like really not fun with somebody, because I know in the book you talk about your son and little Wayne, about Jazz and Little Wayne having they're falling out, But has that ever happened to you? No, No, I don't recall that well. I remember in high school, I mean in

elementary school, I had now this girl named Sharon Staley. Yeah, I don't know, I got nineteen kids, I don't know. But I went to a school in third Ward. I'm from fifth War. Transferred to school from third Ward, and when I left, this guy was picking on or pulling her hair. So when I came back to fifth Ward, I got right on his ass. Did you have a crush on her? I did? I did? I mean from Kenny go onto the sixth grade? Was she grateful? Like thank you? Yeah? She was quiet, she was innocent, and

her parents was glad. I had came back to fifth ward, but she was being arrest. But what you had a crush on her? Y'all? Did with your girlfriend? Now? That was my years? Yeah, No, we call ourself being girlfriend and boyfriends. He didn't really mean nothing, you know, because I was like, I just mean, don't pull her haircause I whipped that. Ask you remember the person you had a crush on when you was in elementary school? I remember to his personal last name, just like how you

don't yet? Day was John Days. I was in love and like if I've seen him right now and I know what that if he's on Facebook? Like I like that, brother? What is it? What was he? He was light skinning, sounds like he was Hispanic, he was mixed, he was he was black in Spanish. Oky liked him? Yeah, I liked myself right, little battle myself Kendrick voice, What would you say for the guys out there listening? What are some of the qualities that you should look for in

a good woman. I think the number one quality you should look for is uh, you want to find somebody that's spiritually grounded, you know what I mean. You want to know you want to check her belief system, you know what she believe in, not whatsover religion, but what can you be or without knowing a woman's belief system has feel about God. That's number one. And from there, you know, I would go on to you want to tap into something that you attracted to, you know what

I mean. You don't want to try to build something with somebody that you're gonna be looking at all these other women trying to find something you won't and a woman, so you need to make sure you're attracted to this woman from a physical perspective mentally, you know what I mean. You want to make sure you y'all connect, y'all equally, yoke, can have a conversation, can relate to one another. What's her dreams in life? What's your dreams in life? You

know what I mean? You have all these real conversations to see if y'all even on the same page. But if she was like, I'm going to start a makeup line, would you invest or just gonna ask the I think, yeah, I think it's a beautiful thing to u to have a woman with an entrepreneur mine, you know what I mean. But if you don't think it's a good idea though, well, if you don't think it's a good idea, I'm a I'm the type. I'm gonna want to see the budget.

You don't have that budget, then we know you know the possibilities of your plan you I mean, you ain't got a role map to get there. Then it's just a conversation. So a certain things, you know, you have to real conversation. You have to have to know if this can even become a reality. What is that left in life that you want to do that you haven't

accomplished yet? I don't know. You know, I accomplished all of my my goals that I want to at least my material goals, not really other than uh, I guess I want to be a better person, so you know what I mean. That's a goal to just be better, Just to be better and to spend quality time with you know, family and friends, things like that. But for as material goals, I've pretty much accomplished everyone I really wanted, So of course, maybe some new ones may pop up.

But I'm at a place, you know, in my life where I'm just something like cruise control. I just want to enjoy every day, you know, leave it how I want to enjoy to the fullest, and you know, share it with others. Do you ever be goofy at home? Like trying these dances? Do things like that? All right, well, thank you so much, Jay Prince. You actually came into lip service. Hey, there's a pleasure on you know what I mean. I've never been in a situation like, yeah,

you're not mad, right, this is different. We're not gonna get no call. Like we all were nervous. You nervous. I was nervous. I was like, I don't know what the funk about the second I always defends somebody. I said, listen, don't say nothing. I c verite, colorful personality. Great lip service. Yeah, we're done. It is my service.