Episode 143: The Big O (Feat. Oloni)

social media. Like you, I appreciate that. I actually feel so amazing to be here today. It's like an honor to be here and sit with you guys because I listen to you guys all the time back home. I love you guys. No, but you do have a book coming out, and um the book is The Big Oh yes, the Big, which should be coming out hopefully at the end of this year. So I'm very excited. It's going to be about sexuality and relationships for millennials, so please do keep an eye out for it. Yeah, and support

that go fund me. We're actually gonna donate from lip Service is over to make sure you guys go and donate. But you always have some really funny topics. Now. Something I still you posted, okay was about a guy who found out that his wife named their child after her ex. And he didn't know until they ran into one of her former friends, one of her friends from school, and introduced and she, you know, asked about the child and yeah, the child had a very unique name. And her friend said, oh,

like your ex. And I found that so worrying, because what do you do in that situation? Do you start calling the child by their middle name or I mean, I had someone told me that they'd take a paternity test. It was that serious because you start to wonder. But I think that's quite cool that you could name a child after a previous partner. I mean, you gotta let your what your man know though, don't you think you do? You do? But I don't think he wouldn't even agree

he would agree to that madness. To be honest, what do you guys think? Do you have like an exit you name your child after because you liked his name, his name. I'm trying so hard to shut up, but I got to say that. Lario, please be hoive, don't drag me. Jay Z Funk with Blue Care Trail. Yeah, that came to my mind the baby name blue. Every time I've seen that, I thought of that, and you know, like I don't know whether Beyonce was taking the hill job and was like, fun, Blueca Trail, like that's where

the favorite color is blue. I'm sorry, it's just like that's just a little rough for me, and like, I love Beyonce, So when I see now, I just thought maybe it was her being a little shady, you know what I mean, like, ha ha, bitch, stow your name and your man. But you know she did, but in afair, and then she didn't know that jay Z did date Blue Can Trail, so I was a secret. It'd be different, right if you named it after X and the person had no idea to the exactly That's exactly what happened

in this scenario. They bumped into the X and it was just like, wait, hold on, it's not the name of our child, and it was just yeah, my little heart, because I'm like, what are you still in love with this bitch? That's what I would think. Guys have an ex boyfriend whose name you like though, no, Lucia, I don't like that name. You should call him Lucifer. Like when we broke up. I called him Lucifer and he's gay. Lucifer and he's gay. Now wait, so you think he

was gay while you were with him? Do you know what? It's crazy because actually lost my virginity to him. I know it's got so I was actually gonna put this in my book as well, but I actually lost my virginity to him. But he went out with another girl after me, who was like Oriental, and I was just like, it was her, right, it was her. It wasn't me. It was her. Like we still talk as friends, and he was just like, sure, if you want it's Asian, because Angela has corrected me on this, I just feel

like an abject, like a rug. She's Asian. So um yeah. So he was just like, out, sure, if that's what you want to go by. It was her, it wasn't you. But did you guys break up? We broke up. I think I was too crazy for him. He was good could be a good reason, but the fact that he went out with another woman after me, I was just like, dude, come on, but I couldn't. But there was one time

I remember he couldn't get up. But because I was so comfortable in my sexuality, and I knew that it was a thing that sometimes guys go through phases where they can't always get it up. So I didn't even assume that he could possibly be gay. And I think because I was so young, I was like eighteen, so I just assumed that, you know, this is just what happens. I've read about it before. It's completely fine, and he could get it up other times, and he was he

was very He wasn't even willing Grace. He wasn't will or even Jack. He was very like, he was very match. So it never crossed my mindset when he told me, I was just like, no, why do you feel like he had to tell you? Because we were comfortable? And I think because I talk about sexuality, a lot of people just feel comfortable about telling me about their whole sex lives. So when he told that he always know he was gay or did he not come to terms

with it until he had inklings? Like I think he always had an idea, But he said he was like bisexual. I was just bisexual. Your game bi sexual? So minute, that's just I think, you know, we have he He's definitely a talk only women could be bisexual. That's true. True, that's true. If you put your penis inside another man, you're gay. I mean, okay, I get it. But they might feel like vagina though, like vagina just I'm just joking.

What if they try it, that's not bisexual? If they tried it once about that and they're just like, that's not for me. They tried sexually, they experimented, you guys sexy, tried now, but what would make you go that far that you're like, fucking let me try to get a dick up my asscause that's pretty. That's gay, Like you might also like women. Listen, I'm not gonna lie now alonely you can because your book is about millennials and sex, and I do feel like millennials nowadays are very um,

what do they call it? Fluid with fluid, sexuality, fluid, all of that. All these new words are coming out. I'll keep you have fluids, all kinds of fluids. They're fluids, fluids all right. Now, another thing that you talk about is, um, can women live their best life or do we still

have to have quite some way to go? You said to maintain a sex positive attitude towards women, because right now it does seem like and even when we do lip service, I noticed people will say things like, a bunch of hose I hate that, that's your mama has sex. That's happen here, a whole bunch of brothers and sisters. You know you're calling me a hope, but you don't

know your daddy. So I always feel like they've always had a They've been a lot more accepting about sexuality, like in Europe than they are in the United Absolutely, you would think that. But he here's the thing. We feel like Americans are more. We think that you guys are more in the future because you guys be eating us and everything eating us back home. No, I like that eating to us. It's that fancier like I would like some us. I would like you to take my ass.

That's just fly like groceries like. But yeah, I know, like to us is very diabolical. We're just like, why would you do that? Why would you why? So we don't. I mean, people are doing it, but they're not talking about it, but you guys talk about a lot more. I feel like you guys are a bit more sex positive, even like platforms to do with sex positive sex positivity, it's more, um, it's more rife in America than it is back home. I mean, if you guys getting cool holes,

I get holes. I mean they call me hold only, like I've seen that, right, But yeah, it's very I get hold all the time just for talking about sex. And we get there too. Guys would be like a bunch of holes talking about sex, Like it's actually really important for us to have these discussions so that we don't feel like we're doing something so nasty and taboo. That's how people end up having complexes about storing and the show is not for them. Like, if you feel

like that, then watch something else. Money. They're like in so many other podcasts you could be watching instead of just listening to hus and just criticize. To criticize, like you don't have to listen to this. But the reason why I always thought that because whenever I would come over to like if I was in London or you know whatever, they would have like sex on television and nudity and all of that and we can't have it.

It was a long time ago, but I would come out there and I would be like, dam they just naked on TV. And it would be at night torobably really soft, so you can't do that at all. You can't see a nipple, like even after noting nothing on regular basic TV. So when I was young and I used to be a year but I would go then I'd be like, damn, they just had people on TV naked and we weren't used to like people just having

their baggies out there like that. I don't know. I feel like with London there's still a lot more room for improvement when it comes to sexuality because you know, even the conversations of should a woman have a t out when she's breastfeeding, people are still against that forgetting that you know, breast is supposed to be feeding a child.

You know they're too Yeah, there's always a debate about it. Yeah. See, so I felt like maybe probably both then have still have a you know, a long way to go when it comes to sexuality, and then you have a long way to go to for accepting it, because I don't know, they get mad at women for having sex, but it's just like if we don't have sex, who will you

have sex with sex? And you know what I don't like though, because then when we do have nudity, which would be on like HBO or Cinemax and something like that. You don't see much dicks like you always see a pussy. You always did, you see males, but the most you know, you see like the crack of males. But remember that shows The Odds or whatever it was when they were all in jail. That's the first time I've seen a

dick on TV. But and the only time show. Yeah, and it's a jail show, and I feel like that's the only time I've never seen a dick on TV. I'm trying to think I'm talking to you, but you've seen puts in cities before. Guys be self conscious, since you said os. One of my friends was on Odds right, and he hit me up and I asked me should he do it because it was like, you know, he had to do a scene where he's gay on the show.

I thought he was asking me to do it because he didn't want to like kiss another man, but he was self conscious about his dick. Yeah, I've seen so many little dicks on that show like this. That's when I first knew what a little dick was from watching Like dad, I've never seen something I was a kid, so I knew it was small though, like I didn't. I was just like, what is that little thing hanging? Like?

Was he was he hard at the time? Now they were, but I didn't know the different, like because this ship came out when I was very young, so to me to see the dick, it was exciting. I'm like, oh my god, the dick. But we were always like I mean, I was so yelling, that's got her on the path she's on. Then stop talking about I wanted to go to jail. I almost wanted to go to jail after seeing if they were not seeing them little ones. I was like, no, that don't look at a damn stay

out here. But now it's true. It's it's like very rare that you see penis on television and a lot of guys that growers too. Let's keep it real growers. Yeah, let me see, yeah, let me see now. I was also since your book is called The Big Oh, I was like, let's talk about the Big Oh and orgasms. So I was reading about it, right, and they said that only eight percent of women who had said that verginal penetration alone was enough to make them come. That's

a really smart percentage. Yeah, it is a actually yes, between seven five and eighty that actually can climax through um clitoral stimulation and then the rest can climax through penetration alone. Is that right? Well, they only eighteen percent can come just from verginal penetration. Oh, yeah, that's true. Yeah, it's very hard for the rest is clitoral. Yeah, and I wasn't surprised because I faked it so many times.

I just if it don't happen, it don't happen. Right, Yeah, I faked it, but I I mean, I have faked it, but I'm not I have. They said one and four men have faked orgasm. I did to make it stop. I had enough, Yeah out of here? You know, no, I think I think too sometimes until I got older and I said, you know, this ship like it's just not working out. We need stop. But guys have actually admitted to faking it to me as well. Um, guys

are spoken too in the past. They said, yeah, they've done it, and I've said, but why, and they said, you know, they've had enough. The pussy was trash um, So why not just be honest, like listen, trash trash, go do some ki goes, go learn how to get with I don't know that, but I feel like I feel like if I feel like it's a man, they do that little shake with a humping about them. Yeah, but you can't feel that with every guy. There's this one guy I used to date, and every time he came,

I could feel his dick. Yes, it should be every time what's his name? You got me? Would you recommend a guy to one of your friends that you used to if they were good? I would? I would, I would? You know what we call that? What community? Did that dick for? Everybody? I girl? Get you something, girl? It ain't no fun if the homies yea hello, gonna you know? But I always feel like it's not a bad thing

if you especially if it's not serious. If the relationship hasn't been serious, the relationship was serious, then I keep it quiet and I'm not telling my friends. I think my boyfriend is the only person who's dick I've never shown to my friends before, and that's because I love him. Any other guy who sends me a dick pic, I'm just like your boyfriend sends you dick picks. Now he does, but I don't care. And then he has sent you

here he hasn't known since I've been here none. If I've been here none, do you know what I think? Because we've literally only faced times a couple of times and it's just been been bamboom, like okay, hye bye, I'll see you later, and then that's been it. But he doesn't. We don't really send each other stuff like that. I don't know why, now I think about it. I don't know why. But I sent him stuff from time to time. He tells me I don't, but I feel like I do. Doesn't send video of him like jerking

off and stuff. No, he would never do that. He is so I would, but he would never do it. I would never do he would. He would never do that. See, that's the thing that's the difference between guys from London and America. They would, I think like guys from America would probably do that, but guys from that's from America would do it if you don't even ask them for it. Guy from America sending there to your m I got a guy more than one, the money shot and everything

I was, and some guy from America. We weren't cand creating some guy from America. He we literally just swapped our names. We took our number. The next morning, we'd woken up to so many messages of his dick and we would we screamed. We were like, oh, I have a friend. This reminded me. I have a friend. UM,

and she's she was dating this guy. And she said that like she wasn't initially attracted to him, um, but she like was going out with him because he was taking her the nice restaurants and you know, giving a nice gifts and stuff. And she said she had no intentions on having sex with him until just randomly he sent her a pit sure of his dick, and she was like, from that on, everything changed, did you know how? And she she told him, m yeah, the sex and good,

she says. But she she told her like a few months or years or whatever down the line that I that's that was his thing, Like I do like I know, like I know I'm not the best looking guy, you know, rip, but I know what I'm working with, so that's what

like that's my get him girl. Like I send that out and instantly and he was like you and yeah, she even told me, like listen, I would I had no intends on happen sex with him, ntil I saw his dick and when I saw it, I was like, oh, yes, she still with him for me, And it actually happened recently. I was talking to a guy like and I've been talking to him without whatever, whatever, and then one day he sent me a damn video of his things right, and I'm like, and it was a good size and everything,

but I just felt like it freaked me out. I don't know why. I think it was more self because of the fact that, like, I didn't really know him like that. We just started talking. We didn't never do nothing. I didn't I told you I'll know you again later, but like basically like and it was a good size, and it was like everything was good and he's nice looking, got everything. But I was just like, does he just guys? Do I learn that from my friends? And it kind

of was a turn off to me. So even though everything else is good about him, his conversation, everything, everything, it was when he sent the dick that I just was like, alright, I met a guy and he sent me his dick the next day and I never even responded. I sent it to all my friends and never responded back to him. And that's weird. I didn't even want to show it and it's like this is good. Hi, I'm Joey. Here's my dick. Like I don't want you

organ Joey. I got those in my m that's people asking me like, hey, lord me, I just want to know because you always talk about and I'm just like, we have an email for that. Really yeah, pretty dick swagging and we get all contexts and people do have You know what's funny is that guys do have questions about their dick because they're like insecure here about it sometimes, so they'll send a picture, what do you think of my dick? Please let me know? How would you rate this?

I'm sorry, don't send it to me because I'm gonna make a whole joke out of it. And people be doing it all the time. Raid it from zero to ten. I'm gonna show we can raid. We just ain't gonna let you know. Motherfucker is at one. I had a guy want to told me like that. I basically got the idea that his dick was small. He was just like girls usually told me, I know how to use it. I was just like, I don't even want to know

what I had. I had a guy who didn't really have a big penis and the fact was really good. Well no, that's a different but yeah, ourself was really good. Like I was surprised that he probably made me come on internally on a more consistent basis than anybody else. And then he got tell the little dick guyan too like a puzzle pieces. Hey, I feel like maybe his whatever your spot is, whatever his career is, the tipper just some people sucking fit right together. And that's just

is what it is. You have like a booger up your nose. He could take his little dick and you never tried to stick a dick there. I just that's my mouth like when he's over my face. But I don't come to shoot up my nose. Really, you get dick in your nose and come shoot up my like I'm trying to get it on my face and it kind of like want did you sniff it up and let up? No? Did you like the challenge? Did you do?

You know? Somebody while they were coming and went down the wrong run, the wrong party, choke, I don't know you're about to come to. Yeah, that's why I can't show us housing in one ways to die. You know that, No, man, if you choked on seven and you died. That's pretty horrible. My parents would be like, really right now? You also talk about sugar daddies and sugar babies yea, d okay, we know who else? Like okay, geez, we know you've had a sugar dad. Do you like being a sugar baby? It?

Would you do it again? Yeah? Alright? If I wasn't with my boyfriend, I would. I probably would because I see so many girls enjoying their lives and I'm just like, what am I doing here? Suffering? But what a terrible What do these guys look like? I don't know, but I get so because I do like anonymous stories. I get so many girls who asked me for tips or girls who share the experiences with me all the time, and I'm just like, what type of life are my living?

Like I had my chance, you know, from twenty one to twenty five, and here I am in a relationship, Like seriously, but I think the most I've ever had, like an older man do for me is pay my phone bill once like that's here and sugar, that's the case. The most I've had, that's the most, Like I mean, my boyfriend does if I need something, My boyfriend would do it for me. But you know, and this is I didn't even see him, Like I didn't even meet him.

He thought I was gonna come and see him. I was just like, well, I need to pay my phone bill. And then he was just like I have done, and he gave me his credit card details and I thought, okay, I might as well go shopping with this as well. And I did that and then I just yeah, guy tells you like, let's go shopping or here's my card. Do you care? Like do you say to yourself, Okay, I'm not gonna go crazy with it, like I'm about stuff on sale. I'm not gonna like how much you know,

I'm gonna I'm gonna go crazy. I'm I'm gonna go crazy, like because like what how much would you say you would tap it off? It probably wouldn't have been on like how much money that person had. Yes, that is that's a very good point. And you have to see what they're working with as well, and what type of

money they spend on themselves. If you don't really know like that, they're like it's early on and you can be you can be like just cut through in that care and while out you can be a little bit conservative. But then if you know how much I like the guy, if I know it I didn't really like him like that, then I would swipe it into the decline because if you do that the first time, then that's probably no coming back. He did so that I got everything I never now I'm good for the summer. Give me an,

what about you? You ever had a sugar daddy? So I had a very generous boyfriend. That's not I feel like he was better than a sugar daddy because like when I was younger, I had a guy that I would would say was a sugar daddy. I didn't realize that I was a sugar baby, but I was so

stuff like stupid. We would do stuff like, well, go out to eat or something, and it'll get cold, and he'll be like, let me take you to get a coat, and he'll go and buy me like a cold But I was like in high school, so to me, I was like, oh my god, it was Kelly now. But

that's that's what it was. It was like that I never had sex with him or nothing, and like every time or he would just send me stuffing and I thought it was great, and I actually met him by him buying me something like I was in the sneaking store. I was about to go buy myself some Jordans. I was not young, and he was like, I'll get those for you. Don't worry about it. That's creepy. So that was now. But he looked good, like he looked good. He wasn't not old. He he probably was like in

his thirties. And how over you. I was like seventeen sixteen because I graduated when I was seventeen, So yeah, it was sucked up or whatever. And I wouldn't I kill my nieces and didn't do anything with him. No, I never did nothing with him, and he just like he I'm not gonna lie. He did a lot of stuff for me, and I didn't realize. I just thought, like me being young and naive, like oh, this is

my friends. So okay um. I was doing music at the time and I had a manager and I told him and I was like, yeah, I got this guy. Y'all going to hell A He said hell find me Like I was like, I didn't know what then about He was like, bitch, are you dumb? And then he's gonna sell you in the prostitution. So I was scared of him after he said that. But so he would come to New York be like, you want to go to down Like no, because in the back of my mind he's gonna sell me and grab you get what

I'm saying. But before then, I was having a great old time with him. I had the masque jackets all that, like he was making sure I was good like but that was like, I never try to sugar daddy my mom. I had guys that, like I date, do really great stuff for me. But I've never had like a straight up sugar daddy. I've had like a situation where I

had a whole allowed one month for me. That's cool, and like he would he would give me like a certain amount of money every month and then I would see him probably like once a week, and we would like go to dinner. They would like go on a date like dinner, and what was your allowance? Three thousand a month or week a month? So we goddamn, that would be a last This might be a thousand dollars a coundred dollars a day. Wow, So he just wanted

your company. He went to my company, all right, but we would we would we would right, we would go, I mean we would have dinner and go out on a date and everything usually would it would end up in sex or some head or something. But he was good looking, he was older. Don't have an ugly sugar daddy. I think I'm too shallow or I'm not, you know, I like to look up. I like the look of Benjamin Franklin Bill, and I like him at the bank

going into my account, and he's pretty. If he was ugly, like ugly like girl, Okay, give me to paint flap. Give me a whole chocolate bar that edible, so I can be half this and I might be able to stand dinner. Okay. What if it was somebody that was like a disgusting person like Donald Trump? I don't know, No, you can't do. I wanted to do discussing things to you, like pee on you and stuff like that, like would you bet is it in the shower? Just pet on

in the shower? In the shower? A girl with the yeah, you don't even sit right back off? Um, you know that it all depends on how that check weighing out. But I'm sorry, but like I tried to date, like even date like a guy that wasn't the best lucking guy, and that ship only lies for like a couple of months, because guys that are the best looking guy, it's all about the personality and a slat. But your face could kind of ruin your personality. Your personality can ruin your

face too. So we had to choose between a guy who was broken but really good looking, nor rich but really ugly. I'm going rich. Guess what we can get surgery? We can we can get some face work, we can get plastic surgery. With all that money, we can go see a thermantalitist. That's a lot. You know. We can get some invisiligned, get them together. You know that takes years. So everybody says, um rich and ugly between you can't be in between? All right, what situation you now? Right now? Now?

I'm not got Yeah, No, I could take a cute looking broken right now. Listen. Thing with guys, they don't even need to be good lucking anyway, like fat You know what, y'all know what cutty say, Cutty say that broke guys got the good dick, But you know what not sometimes yes, better, y'all don't too much on it. He's ugly. Okay, do you think jay Z is a nice looking man? No, he's something about him. But that's what I'm saying. But I know, I don't even know.

I mean he's confidently. I don't mean jay Z. I mean like ugly. Okay, who's really ugly. Let's take it somebody that's sucking ugly Beetles? Shrek got a little no Shrek Shrek, No that I mean a human and as a human. Imagine a guy that looks like Shrek. No, but beetles, just as a real person and one that was on oh to beat up the little guy. Okay, I could not. You know, you don't I don't know that. I don't want that, don't need I don't want. Yeah,

that's what I'm saying. Like somebody ugly Liken like private jet rides, anything you want, like value, a house, a car, a real real friend. Can I have a man on the side, right, daddy, not your man? Then sure? Why not? Definitely? Yeah, especially if I can have a man on the side, Thank you listening. I wouldn't. But I'm just saying this is I'm not gonna lie to I have a home girl that has a sugar daddy and he'll give her money to buy her boyfriend stuff, like because he knows

that she has a boyfriend and he's not it. So isn't he a pimp nan in a way? Because she's taking Yeah, I had a sugar baby come to one of my shows back in London and her boyfriend came with her and they were talking about how they scheme together, like she goes on the days and they split the profits. A boyfriend saying, a boyfriend and yeah, that's what I'm saying. Yeah,

I'm just like, the boys don't know about this. He doesn't know why he isn't he like, we're you're getting all this money from She says she works, she has a job, but he don't know how much she gets paid, you know what I mean? So you can't tell them everything. And then when he finds out, like, look, how do you think you got all this? Okay, you should be thinking humble. You know, I just paid for the last

trip he was on. Right now, as we get older, I feel like we've done so many things in the bedroom, it's hard for us to think of something we haven't done. So when's the last time you've done something brand new that you're like, oh, this is different. Oh, I think the only thing I've ever tried thought was new to me was probably a no. And I said, never gotten like either, ladies don't mind. What's the penis? Um, I became a rapist. I think that's the first thing that

I'm saying that. I just say I became very aggressive in the bedroom. Like I became very aggressive. I take the dick, okay, So that was that was something new for me. And he wants it. Though he wants you to take it, he wants me to take crime. I love. That's a we can't even joke around about things like okay, but you guys and we talk about that because you said you never were very grave. And that's the thing I've evolved because the lip service you guys told me,

like really like you you don't even just try. And I was like, no, I just laid here and wait for him to just guys like that. So now too, So now I'd be like the little shy a little and then I get the penis. SONI why didn't you like that? You know? Because I just feel like it's just hurts to go there and it huts. Maybe I didn't prepare prep No, I don't see I get so many cents courage, that's very courage. I love it, the pain reliever. I feel like I didn't prep right. Yeah,

personal person whisky that's come burn. Yeah, And it's just I just it's not for me. I'm just like, I will give you head, I will let you do whatever else you want. But yeah, but no, a no for me. I just feel like it's too you know, like when guys get carried away, they want to double dip as well, and I'm just like, no, yeah, gross, like the worst thing to you go from the plussy to the but you can't go back without cleaning it first. Yeah, problem there,

and it just gets a bit messy. I'm just like, can we just keep it? Basically? No, I didn't. I didn't, but it just went in the bad and I was like, no, okay, I'm not doing it. You gotta get past that initiow what it is when it goes in it's like you gotta get into v I p right is noney? General is not like you gotta get into you when you do it. I have one. I haven't climax from doing it,

but it does get me really really wet. You come what amazing, Like You'll be like it was worth the page, even if I'm having sex and he has like his stumm in my butt and he's like really like you know, I'm crazy with his stuff. Yeah, I'm tike. I tried um. I mean it's it was sucking the same, but it was just a different position that the guy had threw me in my pissi or whatever I was. It was

like some yoga posed type ship. How I felt, No, but it was like it threw me for a look because I think what I can't really remember exactly how it went, but I believe I was giving him head and then he just was like all right, but flipped me kind of and it was just amazing. It was

like the explain this position? I don't know. I was like like I can't explain, but it's like if you ever get to it, because there's so many positions, and I feel like we think we've done so many things, but you look at those books and stuff like that, so you've got a book to do this or no. But I'm saying like I'm pretty sure that position is in that book. I like my sect and my legs are closed instead of open. Okay. It could be on

your stomach. It could be. Oh, if you start to do it, okay, like reverse cow girl like that, that's your position, y'all. Did you say that. Yeah, that's that's our position. I like to do like squats. Yeah, I'm too lazy for that. That's look good from the back too, when you do it like that. I don't know what. I love you have videos, get that, get that. I love a good donkey. I think donkey is amazing for me.

And I don't know, I feel like it's the only way I truly call them, like ilways st off missionary come that way. Oh my god, I'm so glad you said that again. We come on my back or on top from the bay with but I had an incident where that agreement is gone. Definitely can come on your stomach, like when you're on your stomach well that way, yeah,

but not like on all four. A couple of polls under you as well, and then you're like the pillow thing because provides support a little and it also for the guy it like pushes pushes in, so like I

don't know. I had a guy tell me before that his woman was a little overweight, and then she started working out and losing weight, and he said that she felt tighter and the inside once she started working out and losing weight, so it gives it that same effect like you're pushing, so it kind of like makes it tighter for her. I forget working out, ladies. I never did the pillow thing, like I didn't know what it

was like, you know what I mean. That's how I asked, because like I always hear people great as well, like when you hold your breath as well. Have you ever like held your breath while it's having sex with being choked breath and hold it in for a couple of seconds and then you just carry on going at it like either whilst you're masturbating or you're having sex, and it just makes every like the experience a lot better. So like you're you're struggling for air really for a

couple of seconds. That's how people do that. It's called asphyxiation. People end up feeling themselves like that. So we don't want to come into a sad to hold your breath, but it's different when you're actually getting choked or like some people will actually tell a noose while they masturbate and then I've seen that on like movie. Yeah, and that's way two same things. White safe. I'm a screaming scream about you masturbate. Oh no, no, no, that would

be so crazy. But I've had made noise, you know, and it helps you know you watching either. I don't rather the porn then I'm not good at santsizing. I wear at the porn not that good. But I like to watch porn on you see, I don't. I want to. I want to English, and that I got to hear the noise. I don't know what that's a turn off. You're like, what the hell are you saying? They say they hate all black people. You just watch it. They're like, yeah, yeah, yeah,

it'd be better. And Larry, you can't speak Spanish a lot understand this. Poppy and Maddy Cone all right, now, we talked about learning new things from experimenting. Now you also said that no man should be sucking you for a long period of time. Absolutely right. What's a long period of time? I think anything over twenty five minutes, and I think just penetration alone. I've penetrated our penetration, special penetry. Did you guys have a break? No one

came hours I did. He did eventually. That doesn't count because a nice session then for you. But it's on something. I'm gonna tell you who it was, because something that I don't think that I told you know, I'm just assuming. No, no, no, I don't even think. I don't even think y'all know that I used to even see this person. He's famous though. We got a lot of stuff to talk about. I know, you know, I'm scared about changing names, changing all the names have changed. Is he somebody like that? Is he

somebody that we you know, we all know him? He said he's famous. Yeah, if I said his name, you would definitely know who he is. No, okay, let's just let's not well ask her later. But I wanted to hear the story. So it was how many? It was like four hours? And then how was surprised that he just kept going and kept going, And then he came and we smoked and like laid up and talk and then we did it again for like another two hours. Got no job, ain't got no cramps like you ain't.

I was so surprised, but it was so good. I was soaking, soaking wet. You've been so wet that it starts to like boogie up in his hairs, like you know what I'm saying. It was like that I was it was like clumping. I'm gonna say, come of that time stuck and but yeah, right right right, so it like I started to light and like yeah, it was yeah. See that doesn't count because it was four hours and you guys had a break. No, no, no, it was four hours until he came and then a break, then

another two hours after that. I don't know if I would want to have sex before hour, and I didn't know that I was going to have sex for four hours, but I didn't stop him because it was really that good. I was amazing and this was my first time I having sex with this guy. Did you And I was like phone during that time? You know I would hours. I was so surprised if we kept going like I was. I just really after a while, I was just like,

when is he ever going to stop? Seven he stopped and it was like so many different positions and like standing up, laying down on the bed on the floor in the bathroom saying pick me up? Is he an athlete? No need to be right, he needs to be in New York City, marathon. Now I could do like sessions as far as like we fucking all day, but we're gonna stop, like we're gonna have sex for thirty minutes, Come good, then we're gonna start again in another thirty

minutes something like that. It's cool. Before normally I just felt like my leg's gonna cramp up, pussy gonna be sore, like it's just gonna be up as well. Like I feel like I don't know if I would dry up, but I definitely would. Mentally, I would not be my forty would be like you're tired. So yeah, like we were drunk and high drunk, not on any kind of drugs, but yeah, it was it was like what did you have water by the bad so at least like water at some point? Can you ever get the real drive out?

Water in sight? Especially when you're smoking as well? Like you mouth so ye didn't know what. I can't even suck his dick. My mother just gonna be like it wants me to spit in his mouth. I can't even spit, ye, my mouth is dry. You never spit in somebody's mouth. Oh, I've had that recently actually your boyfriend. Yeah, and it was yeah, It was actually quite amazing. I was surprised I would be into it. He was just like, open your mouth. I was just like, okay, yeah, your mouth. Yeah,

And I did it back. It wasn't bad you spit hit saying spit back, yeah, it was about in general is literally nasty. So boy like to me what he was like, spit my come in my mouth, Angela. You always got to look you're gone too far, too far, No, no, no, it live a little. I know you're about to kill me for saying this. You did this, but I don't know how to spit. Look the way you don't know how to do. I don't know how to spit. I

don't know how to whistle. Whistle, but that's you could because you can't spit so that it wants to be able to spit in a guy's mouth. But I just don't know how to spin. I'm not good at it either. You know, I've had my ex has spit in my mouth before, and at first I thought it was the most disgusting thing in life. And I was like, it's kind of freaky that I need some spit. Let's put that on my list of neverse. You said, let's put that on my list of nevers. That's a very short list. Neither.

I'll never spit in anybody's mouth, and I'll never hear anybody spit. Will hear it? Yeah, I'm doing it. I want you at homework. Yes, now she's she's aggressive and now she's gonna step. She's a spinner. What about some other things that's get some more homework of things that you think now lonely, since you're I guess, what are some other things you would recommend for us to try that maybe we haven't that you do? Um, I think you guys. You guys are pros. No, I listen to

you guys at the time. I'm getting tips from you guys all the time. I'm just like, okay, I might try that. Like, especially when is giving her tips, is what I'm like, Okay, if you're doing it and your boyfriend's but you stick your finger, no, he doesn't even let me like pinch, no, but action he just clenches up all the time. He's just like no. But I realized now from this show it's the best way to do that. It's just kind of like wait till you a second stick and then just kind of slide if

That's what I always say. I have friends who have done that. Like she's giving him head and then she like sticks it from behind and she's doing it, and I'm just like, okay, I'll try my boyfriend, got bet my boyfriend, what the hell? No, my boyfriend whenever I think he's scared that I might call him gay, like, I'm just like, it's okay, I know you're straight as hell.

He might like it. No, he's scared that you're gonna get right on lips ever, and she's gonna be like you have a sticky finger up your boyfriends, but slides in there nice and easy. That's relevant. That's what it is. Don't hang around people like her and blame me. You will be sticking up finger up everybody's. But if it wasn't for him, if it wasn't for me, she knows you, so from then on they know you sticking friends of bus. Now, I want to talk about this. Two reasons that people

break up other than infidelity. Okay, what's the reason that you would break up with somebody? And this is for the guys out there that are listening, because sometimes I get a lot of emails with guys that want to get their girl back and they don't know how to do it and they don't know if she's still interested. Are you about to spit? Loria? Huh? Are you about to spit? I was trying to learn, was teaching me over here. But what are some reasons that people actually

break up other than cheating? Like why would you break up with a guy? Um? If they are if they just turn out boring. If I'm totally bored of them and nothing is new anymore, I'm not being surprised or wooed anymore. I'm just like, fuck this. I might as well be single and live a boring life then be with you. And so make sure you keep it spicy baby, Right, that's a good one. Um. So for me, lying lies and I hate a liar, but that will be the main thing that we'll be lying about. What because he

started cheating? But I had a guy. I do not like a little lie. I don't like a big I was talking to this one guy once upon a time and we were talking. He said, you know, I've never done social media or nothing like that. Found a whole Instagram page follow him? Um, because that would have been funny. No, but I didn't let him know that I've seen this page, and I was like, you know, it's so funny what

you know him self. I've just seen somebody post about that I don't know, And to this day, like it's so crazy because he listens to this. I'm sure he does. He started fucking following me, and now I don't funk with him or nothing. It's been years. He started following me like about a couple of months ago, and I'm like, motherfucker from the same Instagram page and all that half

to the fucking death that he didn't have one. Even when I showed it to him, he was like, oh now my home girl set this up with like tried to make a lie and then finally he admitted to it. That's over. And from then on it's like like, even if I still speak to you, now, I'm looking at you crazy. I'm never gonna trust you. I'm never gonna but thanks been listenings. I've broken up with the guy before for um lying about having like a whole family,

Well that'll do it. Like when we first got together and he had just got a jail and he was like, oh, you know, I just got out of jail and my sister is pregnant, so she's always at her boyfriend's house and I kind of like share her apartment until I get my own place or whatever. Um, long story short, that baby was his, That was his girlfriend, and um, when I'm found his sister. When I found out, I found out because he had gotten locked up and he

sent me to Mindrew. He used to have had me in this apartment all the time, and I used to talk so much trash on the sister because she had like really big feet, and she would buy like cheap shoes, and I was always something like rainbow you know, I'll go and Steve Madden. It's cool, but like rainbow shoes like Ana Marie, you know what I'm talking about. And and then she wore like a like eleven and a half or twelve, so she at least a cheap bass shoes.

And then she had like every victorious secret and backed and body works, body spray like all lined up on. So much I said so much trash about her. I've seen her, I've seen him. I've seen so much trash about her. And then, um, so the reason that what the way I found out was he had gotten locked up and he sent me to the sister's apartment to

get money from her. But she came down with the baby and I like start talking to the baby and I'm like, oh, you're so creel with your name, and she's like Derek, just like my daddy, and I'm like yeah. And the crazy part about it was she he was eventually yeah, so the crazy thing but by it was he hate evenually moved into my house. He was paying all my bills and taking care of my daughter, like

taking care of me. He was my boyfriend when I got locked up for ninety days, and he like paid on my bills and took care of my house and everything while I was in jail, like took care of my daughter and everything. And so it's like, you're living with me and taking care of my child, but you deny on your own child. Yeah. After years later, guess what that maybe not even his whoa just like his daddy. Every other little girl it was a boy. Oh boy, okay. N I was like, why was the girl's named Derek?

Cause I was a little boy. A lot of stories like that where bitches have been naming like and we talked about the name, but they'll name them after man and then come to find out it's not there. I think they name them after them, probably like hoping wish and then like we're trying to convince that and you had that fond like maybe or maybe that's like I feel like some women try to make that something to be the husbands that they never had, which I find

it and you know what I mean. So I'm just like, especially on Instagram, when they'd be jush like why your son is full looking like a whole scam mother and he's not chipped in maybe matching with you like this ain't mommy daughter, I mean son thing? This is boyfriend girlfriend? Yeah, nobody wants you though, sis yea, you know who I'm talking about. Right now, let's discuss something else. Have you

ever dated somebody? Right? And then they started hanging out with somebody that knows your whole past, like anybody dating somebody dude? Right? And then you see him on Instagram with a dude that knows your ex and knows you said, you know, all that stuff is about to come out. What do you do? I haven't had that. I've just had like guys who have messed around with before, and I've seen them in like an Instagram post and I'm like, oh, fuck r they they know each other, and yeah, no,

that's I think that's the most I've had. Like, I haven't ever been worried about a guy because I couldn't even bother me. Actually, I think just two guys knowing each other that I've spoken to you would probably scant me more than their friends. Yeah. Have you ever had two guys that know each other that you you talk to both of them? No? No, I never had thought. Luckily I don't. I don't eat so up just happened

to you. Well, there's um, there's two people that I was with in the past, and I know that they have a mutual friend and I'm not with either one of them like currently, but I just found out that they have a mutual friend. So I wonder if there was like to each other. I know, I want to know, like if they are actually friends, because I know that they're really they're both really close friends with the mutual friends. So I don't know if these two people are friends

or not. Might be hanging out, but I mean, I mean it's not it just what it is like. But like I just felt like niggas nowadays, certain ones maybe not all got to be a lament spot nowadays, Always you don't because I'm running to do guys like do that, They're like, yes, they do, And then you know what

it is is because they'd be bragging. You know, guys like the brag and like tell all their business in the macho type of way, not really in the gossipy way, but in you know, with sometimes this gossipy too, because you know, like all right, I haven't been in the studio with everybody because you know, I did music for having and like I've sat back and even heard guys talk about certain females and I'm just like, damn, since you're dragging her, like like you a whole female and

you want them nigga? You know what I mean? Like dudes will really ship on a girl, like I don't know if it's that they men is bitter, they're bitter. I don't know what it is, but I've heard it happen, you know what I mean in the situation like like I dealt with a guy or whatever. I dated a guy and um, people knew I dated this guy and then I see his friends hanging around a guy that

I was talking to or what it? So, do you know what I mean, it makes me feel a little uneasy to see what is he saying about, because it's like, what is he saying? And you know that especially if you know, especially if it's end well and you're like because if we all have guys who dated in the past, and right, yeah, why did I date him? And then

we're like and ship. Even the guy I'm talking about has told me stuff about the dude I used to date, so I know he you didn't say you know I used to date him to the guy, so he kind of hinted to me that he knew that I used to So I don't like talking about niggas that don't matter. Like now, if it was like an ex, that like, yeah, that mattered, that's anything. But like this nigga, he don't matter at all in life to me, nothing at all, Like it was just a dub, Like he a dub.

So to me, I don't feel like I have to explain myself like he if you fell away then because you found out and then you talk to me about it and then let me, you know, let me fix it that way. But I'm not about to just volunteer that I funk with this. I used to funk with this clown. He is a whole clown him for listening,

he probably is clown. You know. I feel like any guy that are dealt with or like is listen to lip service or does listen to lip service because they think I'm gonna say something about them, or sometimes I'll be talking about a whole another negative. I know you were trying to talk about me. I was talking about your one out of many. I've had some similar to that. A guy who I was messing around with. You guys say college, we say university back so we say university.

So we used to mess around all the time. He was literally just a fun buddy, but he was such an asshole. But he was an asshole with some good dick like I can't deny it. But ever since you see me start doing my thing, especially with simply Lonny and just sexuality, and he was used to ask like, why don't you ever share your whole you know, your host stories and stuff like that, and I'm just like,

are you talking about my stories with you? Because I'm very open, and he just started calling me every other type of you know, drugtory under the you know, he was just we were just going at it on via d M on Instagram. I was just like, that's why you were this. I was talking mad about his dick, but it was a lie. But you know, I just had to humble him a bit. And I realized that he had a girlfriend. I don't know if this is bad at me, but I went to his girlfriend and said,

this is what your boyfriend is doing. He's trash and just to let you know, he was trying to hit me up when you guys were still together, and I scream. I enshoed it and I sent it to her. We had a phone call. She called me. I said, listen, if my man was a clown, I would want someone else to tell me. So I'm telling you and a woman to a woman I had to do. You know what I was searching and she didn't tweet him that much.

You know, when you searched someone's name and you noticed that the interaction between two parties are not the same anyway, it's calmed down a lot. So because when a girl does actually, first of all, she automatically think she's going to be checking her timeline and she's embarrassed, you know, and she doesn't want you to see I'm still talking to this dude, even though you gave me all this information and she is still checking the time, But why didn't made him really mad? As if you follow her?

I tried, I tried to. I'm very petty, like it would have been so good if he just left me alone, but since he started calling me every other name under the no he I was just like, right, so, yeah, and this is all because you don't want to talk about his whack dick. It was good, but because he was being disrespectful, like he should have just been like a normal person, like I see you doing your thing, keep it up. But I think he was hating and

he didn't want to admit it. So he was just coming at me, calling me a whole Everybody used to talk about you, and I just like, no, he used to talk about me, Stop lying right, So yeah, so and he was still checking for me with something. He's coming meet him. I was just like to do what he was, just like to do what you talk about? I was. I was like, I was like relationships. He was just like no, sex was no, that's not happy right alone. Let's end on this one. You also said

that monogamous relationships could be overrap. Are they should we just accepted some of us are built to be with more than one person. I think this is why we say, like in a lot of cultures around the world, open relationships is actually a thing. I think even if we just look at headlines in the media, monogamy is not working. Why are we playing ourselves? I mean, I don't want to say his name, but we all know who played the name Christian. I mean, you know what I mean.

So monogamy is not built for everyone, and I think we would be a lot we'd save a lot of more heartbreaks if we were just honest and openness sate. Do you know what, Maybe I want to be in a relationship, but I would like to have someone on the side as well, and hopefully you can find someone who would be open to that. And it does exist. I went to a sex workshop where I was in a room full of people who are in polygamous relationships, and they look like regular people that you see on

the subway. Alien look like you just would never know that. The women women. It was actually the women who were who told me. This old white woman he was just like, yes, I have a husband and I've got a boyfriend, and I was just like your husband doesn't have anybody else, and she was just like no, and he's was just like you look like a liberrian. I would never know that two men on the goal like it's so. But I was very happy and it was very eye opening.

So I just always tell people like, don't try and force yourself into yourself. I wonder about it. I think that maybe in the long run, I might be open to an open relationship, but I would definitely say monogamy is overrated. I've got good friends who are in open relationships and they're the happiest people out. Your boyfriend wanted to have an open relationship, like where he could date other women, You'll be down with that. He doesn't need to date anyone else but me date. But see, that's

I think we say differently. So if he wanted to sleep with another woman, that would be fine, but dat is in her No, he doesn't. He doesn't if he did not, But if he asked you and was open about it, if we'd have a conversation about it, we'd have to start a bit by bit and then I think we'd work our way up into it, because it's not something you could just jump into, like, let's be real, like it has to be baby steps. And then we

come back discussed it. How did you find it? Do you think this is something we can carry on doing and if it works, then it works. But I'm sorry that s it ain't for me? Relationship? Right, how is it? She didn't know? No, no, no, I didn't know. We were very we were very open about, you know, seeing other people. We had hell of three sums um and we were very open about seeing other people. But he was like super freak. He was a little older and

he was like super freak. So he would want to know like details of being with other guys, you want to know, Yeah, he would want to know, Like he never wanted to like watch or be around, but that we wanted to know. He wanted to know details. And then eventually ended because he got somebody else pregnant and he lied to me about it, and I'm it's like I already knew you were sucking her so down that she's pregnant, I'm not having a baby. So with an

open relationship. And this is why, because at some point, at some point, something's gonna happen. It's gonna be a bitch. I don't want to hope from relationship and he's gonna try to make that bit happy, and I just felt like, with me, I'm not down with that ship. It last two and a half years though, I mean, but that's not really that long. I mean two and a half years is, and it was it was, and it was completely open the entire time we went into relationship. I've

never wanted to be in an open relationship. I'm not playing that ship, so I couldn't do it. But I also feel like as you get older, like when you're younger, you might feel that way, but then when you get older and they lonely and you don't want to you don't want to share somebody because I'm like, I'm too lazy for that ship. I'm not going out with other people. He's not gonna go out with other people because I'm

not cool with it. And you know, at some point it's just like, Okay, it's too much work with me and him. Though it was more like we were together, we just had sex with other people, like I wasn't in a whole another relationship with anybody else. Just so that's what the problem is, and that's the yeah, like relationship thing is raw sex to me like, I'm not just going around having raw sex with this person, this person,

that person. There's gonna be someone. That's the thing that open relationships, I feel like they're they're more open and honest. And the thing with monogomy is everybody you can be. You can be in a committed relationship with your significant other that's passing out raw dick to every time they can hearry that relationship Diane and Mary, that's beyond that,

you know. Yeah, alonely let people know where they can find you, and let's talk about the girlfund me because we are gonna deals because we want this book to what our name on it. Yeah, thank much. So my book will be coming out hopefully at the end of this year, no fingers crossed. Um it's called The Big Oh as you know. Find me on simply lone dot

com and just about the book. Like I said before, it's about sexuality relationships for millennials, So I'll be talking about everything from sugar at least two open relationships to um I don't know the LGBT community also, so it's going to be very interesting and I can't wait. But yeah, please do find you talk about fla auto Felacia. Haven't heard this word for relationship? Google it okay about your

LGBT you hay talking about your LGBTs experiences. So I've never see I think that I could be um, I think a trisexual, but I've never ever gotten that, you know, all the way. Like I've always found like women attractive because I feel like we are the beautiful sex, like like we're more attractive than men in general. But I don't know. If I go all the way there, I think I'd be a very terrible lesbian. So I'm just like maybe a terrible lesbian. I don't know what to do.

I'd be nervous, like I heard so much do not had so much but experience. I feel like I've been in so many h relationships that I'm experiencing that sex in that sense, So to be with someone who's the same sex as me, it will be starting all over again, and I'd just be nervous. So you're gonna give wagheads, which but you know what's interesting is the fact that lesbians have more orgasms than hurt your sexual relationship, which

I think is amazing. It's like three D masturbation. It's like why I play with yourself when you're gonna play with her and she'll play with you. This is too fast, my goodness, your own dick? Wow? How do people get that flexible? They stretched their beds. I'm sorry, but I don't want to see nobody stretching exercises? How do you do that? Your like, let me try. I don't find

nobody tonight. I want to get back your own. But you want to do something right, you gotta do what your saying, like, how do you know how to suck it dick? Right? So you know what you like? You know this is what I'm saying. No, but like I had to learn to really suck dick from sucking dick, you know what I'm saying, Like this makes perfect, practice makes perfect. You don't think you can know what you want to do for yourself. You think you can eat pussy right now my own. I'm just like, I mean,

you're making yourself. I'm sure if you make it something with your fingers. Why can't you make yourself with your talking about to eat pussy? Like? I felt like, first of all, I'll be like no, I would be like I wouldn't want to tell you how to do like I wouldn't you know what, You're right. Let the rest second, Dick, isn't that hard? Is very sorry, because you have to make sure this teeth Joel has to be on point.

That has to be that this party, our lips get like it any yeah, okay, okay, that should be so all right out here from your two front tee, I'm a well never you just be biting. No, I don't since I was a teenager protector for you guys presence as well, so from right because they like it when I take it. Let's just say role play change. Let

me get a shop. I'm gonna put no in front of her, So no consent, but thank you, thank you and having me appreciate you, and we are supporting you in your book and your movement right