Our final episode of season 2 is all about Zones (the erogenous kind). This week our format is a little different. Instead of our usual 'extensive research', we take you through nearly every erogenous zone we and the internet can think of and tell you our own personal feelings about them. We then discuss our zones-related film, which this time is 'The Piano!' It was intense we loved, but we loved it (and keep away from the darker aspects of it in our discussion). THANK YOU for coming on our jour...
Dec 03, 2023•1 hr 47 min•Season 2Ep. 26
In our penultimate episode we turn our minds back to our younger and less experienced days and discuss the tumultuous world of sex and relationships from the perspective of 'the youth'. It's not all anecdotal of course. We do our usual 'extensive research' and find out what the youth of today think about it all, as well delving a little into relationships with large age gaps. This week's youth-related film is 'Everybody's Talking About Jamie'. We probably won't be talking about it much in the fu...
Dec 03, 2023•1 hr 23 min•Season 2Ep. 25
It is finally time to release our A to Z LIVE SHOW!! In this first ever collaboration with the absolutely incredible Glitter & Titter Cabaret, we welcome special guests April Fiasco and Gigi Vin Rouge! Gigi is a stand-up comedian and burlesque artist combining sex and statistics like they've never been combined before. Sextistics if you will. April Fiasco is the showgirl alter-ego of comedian Carmen Ali. A regular on the London Cabaret scene, she is resident host at Sexquisite Events & C...
Sep 29, 2023•1 hr 33 min•Season 2Ep. 24
This week is all about friendships and relationships that come with added 'benefits'. We discuss the pros and cons of a typical 'with benefits' type setup, and explore what the 'benefits' actually are - is it just sex, or is there more to it? Can you, in fact, have a non-sexual friendship with benefits? We also look back fondly on our own 'with benefits' friends of the past. This week's 'with benefits' related film is 'Y tu mamá también' directed by Alfonso Cuarón. We thought it was an excellent...
Aug 27, 2023•1 hr 23 min•Season 2Ep. 23
Episode P was devoted to Penis, so it's only right that episode V should be all about the Vulva! And we're not alone, as joining us this week is the lovely professional hula-hooper and graphic designer, Beth! As we vivaciously vocalise about various things vulvic, we learn about similarities (and differences) in the arousal of different genitals, and discover that the vulva-owners among us know shockingly little about vulvic anatomy. Our vulva-related film this week was Park Chan-Wook's 2016 fil...
Jul 26, 2023•1 hr 28 min•Season 2Ep. 22
This week is all about celebrating the things that don't get enough attention - i.e. the sexually, sensually, and romantically Underrated! Based on the anecdotes and experiences of their social circle, Raphael and Jacinta look at the sex and relationship related experiences that are overlooked, but delightful none-the-less, be it a touch of the waist, a caress of a leg, or a comfortable silence. This week's Underrated-related film is Gilda , because *that* glove peel... There are no trigger warn...
Jun 09, 2023•1 hr 8 min•Season 2Ep. 21
Last season episode T was devoted to Turn- offs , so we thought it only right that this season T should be all about Turn- ons ! We look at top turn-ons in America and Western Europe, as well as unlikely places to be turned and unusual things to be turned on by. We obviously talk all about out own turn-ons, and how we discovered them, and discuss the sexiest scents. Our film of the week is Happiness , an exploration of problematic and stigmatised turn-ons. This bit is full of trigger warnings, s...
Jun 02, 2023•1 hr 38 min•Season 2Ep. 20
This episode is all about that previously indefinable type of relationship, The Situationship. With a lot of help from the glossy mags (and a lot of wading through the heteronormative monogamous agenda), Raphael and Jacinta work out what a 'situationship' actually is, and discuss whether they have ever had one. They look at the pros and cons of a situationship and conclude that (surprise, surprise) it all comes down to communication, really. The situationship related film up for discussion is be...
Apr 12, 2023•1 hr 19 min•Season 2Ep. 19
It's time to talk about that word we hate so much, Rape. Sadly, rape is something that a LOT of us are survivors of, and Jacinta and Raphael are no exception. It's so important to talk about it and that's exactly what they do. Sharing personal experiences; discussing the inadequate language around rape and sexual assault, and exploring how to support people who have survived rape. This is a difficult episode with a lot of triggering content so please listen with caution. Twitter/Instagram: @atoz...
Mar 24, 2023•1 hr 58 min•Season 2Ep. 18
Raphael and Jacinta are back with a quip-filled, laughter-fuelled, fast-talking episode all about quickies! They are not alone though, joining them is none other than genealogist, socialite, and all round smutty guy, William Hall. Jumping from orgasms to red wine and white carpets, to blowjobs in the 'bog', sexy teeth-brushing, and #quickiesinthequeueforthequeen, they explore the meaning of 'quickie', the best places to have them, and the best people to have them with. They also have much to say...
Jan 13, 2023•1 hr 7 min•Season 2Ep. 17
For a podcast about sex, there's been remarkably little chat about the specifics of genitalia so far. It's now time to change all that with this week's episode, P is for Penis! (Don't worry, Vulvas will be getting an episode too, you've just gotta wait a few weeks for that one.) Join Raphael and Jacinta as they talk penis parts (inside and out), penises in art (spoiler: there are a lot), and tell stories of penises they have known and loved. TW: There are no trigger warnings this week. Sources a...
Dec 12, 2022•1 hr 10 min•Season 2Ep. 16
Today Jacinta and Raphael have not one but TWO guests because, as we establish in the course of the episode, it takes at least four to make an orgy, which just so happens to be the focus of this week's discussion! The guests in question are drag adjacent performance artist, the fabulous Felix Le Freak (returning after their brilliant appearance in Season 1 episode Q is for Queer ), and first time (but no less fabulous) guest, actor, musical theatre performer and educator, Tanya! With much merrim...
Nov 21, 2022•1 hr 25 min•Season 2Ep. 15
Jacinta and Raphael bare the naked truth in this week's discussion of nudity. They look at a range of feelings involved with nudity, from shame to confidence and embarrassment to empowerment, and look at the contexts when it is and isn't ok to be naked and why that might be. And of course how nudity should very much be on the nude person's terms, you should never have to take your clothes off if you don't want to! Having got to a stage in their personal journeys where they're both extremely comf...
Oct 23, 2022•1 hr 34 min•Season 2Ep. 14
Rounding off the first half of Season 2, we bring you an in depth discussion on Masculinity, featuring very special guest, Cabaret performer and producer of the fabulous Glitter n Titter Cabaret, Matt Rowan! Positive, performative, toxic and fragile, Masculinity encompasses a lot of things, but what actually IS it? Is it a useful definition, a societal construct, an outdated term, an intrinsic part of our identities, or possibly all of the above? We're left uncertain, but happy to be part of thi...
Jul 04, 2022•1 hr 23 min•Season 2Ep. 13
This week we're looking at Love's near, dear, and much maligned relation: Lust. Where Love is the stuff of epic poetry and enduring fiction, Lust is the stuff of banned books and pornos, hidden away behind closed doors and under creaking beds. So why is that? Why is such a strong, and often enjoyable, feeling surrounded by so much stigma? Join us on a journey of erotic discovery, in which we examine religion's role in our cultural and societal perceptions of Lust; lament the havoc Lust in the wo...
Jun 13, 2022•1 hr 23 min•Season 2Ep. 12
In this week's episode K, Raphael and Jacinta are talking all things Kissing! Whether it's reminiscing about the pillowy lips of partners past and present; deep diving into the science of smooching; discussing kissing compatibility; or explaining the importance of consent when it comes to the platonic peck, they cover it all. Does good kissing equal good sex? Is it bad form to kiss in public (especially if you're straight)? And how does kissing make us feel ? Listen now to find out! Our Kissing ...
Jun 06, 2022•1 hr 14 min•Season 2Ep. 11
In our efforts to find something relevant beginning with J, we came up with... Just Kidding! (In other words, faking it.) There are of course fake orgasms, which we talk a lot about. How common are they? Do cis men fake orgasms too?! Are fake orgasms even possible?? Have we ever faked them, or had them faked to us? But there are, we discover, a lot of other ways of faking or 'just kidding' within romantic and sexual relationships. Can we all honestly say we're completely honest with our partners...
May 30, 2022•1 hr 7 min•Season 2Ep. 10
This week I is for that all powerful, all consuming emotion, Infatuation. We often compare infatuation with love, but what is the difference (and what are the similarities)? It's erotic, distracting, and at times deeply inappropriate. But can infatuation be a good thing and does it ever lead to, or indeed, co-exist with, love? Infatuation with people, places and pastimes, we cover it all! Our infatuation related film of the week is Théo & Hugo. With intense and sexy (unsimulated) sex scenes,...
May 23, 2022•1 hr 11 min•Season 2Ep. 9
This week Raphael and Jacinta are joined by very special guest, Achim Brandenburg (aka Prosumer) to delve into the topic of Heartbreak. We look at post-breakup heartbreak, the heartbreak after the loss of a loved one, and the physical impact heartbreak can have on your actual heart. Amongst the usual 'extensive' research, practical (and less practical) advice, witty anecdotes and film discussion, Achim movingly shares his feelings of heartbreak following the recent loss of his close friend, Gary...
May 13, 2022•1 hr 33 min•Season 2Ep. 8
This week we are getting technical and discussing the all important genitals! We all have them, we all use them (for peeing if not for sexing), but do we really know them? A bit of research suggests that, no, we don't. Vas deferens anyone? Or what about a mons pubis? In this episode we try to clarify a bit of genital biology, as well as exploring our relationship with our own genitals. Turns out it can be complicated, but ultimately, every genital is different and, more importantly, every genita...
Apr 02, 2022•1 hr 13 min•Season 2Ep. 7
This week we're delving into the fabulous and fascinating topic of Fetish. We couldn't do it alone though, so this week we are joined, for the SECOND time, by A to Z favourite, bisexual burlesque beastie, Bambi Bang Bang! Together we discuss the difference between between fetish and kink, explore some common and less common fetishes, and muse about what our own fetishes might be (if indeed we have any, it seems some of us can wank to anything)! We also watch the iconic kink film, Secretary and d...
Mar 28, 2022•1 hr 47 min•Season 2Ep. 6
This week E is for Ejaculation! An exhilarating release and the perfect accompaniment to an orgasm, but ohhhh the mess... Join Raphael and Jacinta as they discuss existentialism, ejaculation etiquette, the science of ejaculation, and get personal about their own ejaculations past and present. Today's Ejaculation related film is Shortbus and they LOVED it! There is much vocal ejaculating at the film's sex positive perfection. They highly recommend you go watch it immediately! There are no trigger...
Mar 20, 2022•1 hr 14 min•Season 2Ep. 5
Stressful, scary or scintillating, Drama is a prevalent part of many sexual and romantic relationships (not to mention friendships and work relationships)! Whether it's the drama of first love or fifty-first love; breakup sex or makeup sex; whirlwind romances or relationships that have passed their sell-by-date, Drama is everywhere. What creates drama in a relationship? Is it avoidable? Can it ever be a positive thing? Raphael and Jacinta discuss all this and more, as well as reminiscing over so...
Mar 11, 2022•1 hr 7 min•Season 2Ep. 4
Communication is essential for any relationship, be it sexual, romantic or platonic, but it's so hard to do! This week Jacinta and Raphael explore just why that might be, as well as discussing some tips and tricks to make it that little bit easier. This week's film is Duke of Burgundy, which we have a lot of good things to say about! There are no trigger warnings this week. Sources and recommendations: ‘Communication That Truly Connects’ https://www.tonyrobbins.com/stories/date-with-destiny/comm...
Mar 11, 2022•1 hr 19 min•Season 2Ep. 3
Most of us will have gone through at least one break up (some of us considerably more), whether it was from your childhood crush, your first proper romantic partner, your kid's other parent, or any of the relationships in between. They all seem to happen for different reasons (falling out of love, sleeping with someone else, annoying habits getting that bit *too* annoying, lives simply following different paths) but they are all HARD. To help them explore the variety and similarities within brea...
Feb 25, 2022•1 hr 33 min•Season 2Ep. 2
An A to Z with Men is BACK! And today is all about aphrodisiacs and erogenous zones, because this week, A... is for Arousal. In a new, Season 2 format, Raphael and Jacinta will be discussing words of the week; answering questions from the audience; doing the usual 'extensive research'; sharing their personal stories, and watching a topic related film. This week it's 90s classic, Cruel Intentions... Listen now to hear just how successful they think it was at exploring the topic of Arousal! Spoile...
Feb 18, 2022•1 hr 2 min•Season 2Ep. 1
It’s been a wild ride and now here we are at our final destination, Z is for Zipless Fucks! Jacinta and Raphael had no idea what a zipless fuck was so they drafted in some expert help in the form of SPECIAL GUEST, writer and comedian, Michael Cumes. Together they academically analyse the zipless fuck (a term coined by Erica Jong in the novel Fear of Flying by the way) in an attempt to define something so elusive that it’s almost undefinable. Drawing on more ‘personal experience’ and ‘extensive r...
Oct 01, 2021•1 hr 20 min•Season 1Ep. 26
While we're waiting for episode Z to zoom it's way to you (read: we're still editing it), we thought we'd tide you over with a mini bonus episode, in which we chat love... in the bedroom. Dinners, blowjobs and bondage are all in the mix, but how do you think love can be expressed during the act of sex/fucking/love making etc? We would super love to know!
Sep 24, 2021•7 min•Season 1Ep. 25
No means no, but does yes always mean yes? This week it’s time to look at the big Y.E.S. and what it means when we say it. There’s the tentative yes, the spontaneous yes, the considered yes and the all important enthusiastic yes! There’s yes to sex, yes to cuddles, yes to relationships and yes to marriage. What do all these yeses entail? Can yes be said without being spoken? And what’s the difference between ‘yes’, and ‘yeah’? Join Raphael and Jacinta this week as they yak and yarn about all thi...
Sep 18, 2021•1 hr 13 min•Season 1Ep. 25
This week is a little different folks! Not many things begin with X so Raphael and Jacinta have thrown caution and convention to the wind in this X-RATED drinking game special. X-pect X-cruciating quizzes, X-plicit Would You Rather s, X-posing truths and X-pedient lies, not to mention an X-plosion of alcohol fuelled X-uberance in this X-hilarating X-stravaganza! There are no trigger warnings this week! HUGE thank you to our sound technician Flavio Buonerba of TripleFSound! Get in touch with him ...
Sep 10, 2021•1 hr 8 min•Season 1Ep. 24
