Humans crave belonging, it’s even smack dab in the middle of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. This week, Dixie De La Tour of Bawdy Storytelling tells us about her years of building community. We learn how acknowledging your authentic self through community changes your self-perception; self-talk transforms from “it was all my fault, I’m a horrible person” to “I'm ok, I did the best I could, I’m not alone.” We touch on the power of vulnerability, cultivating empathy, and finding the courage to tell t...
Sep 09, 2019•1 hr 28 min•Ep. 102
On ep 101 of American Sex, we talk swinging with Dee and Laydee Vee. They answer common questions about the lifestyle-- how do you meet people, what’s the etiquette of attending parties, what do all the acronyms mean, how do you combat jealousy, what are the best ways to start exploring opening your relationship, what are the differences between being a swinger/open/polyamory and do folks that identify differently play well together? We discuss the nuances of swinging in the African American com...
Sep 02, 2019•51 min•Ep. 101
Amp Somers from Watts The Safe Word discusses sex-positive content creation. We talk: the rewards & difficulties of being a Youtuber, why demonetization and censorship have snowballed, and how the mark of Youtube success has changed over the years. Amp discusses other platforms too-- how people are bullying adult creators on Instagram under the guise of ‘indecency’, the age-old question of where to draw the line between art and pornography, plus SESTA/FOSTA and other factors creating the per...
Aug 26, 2019•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 100
Nicole Prause, Ph.D. gives us an eye-opening view into the world of a sex researcher. We learn about the latest sexuality research like brain hacking to normalize sexual desire, scientific sex product research, and the very specific laboratory definition of an orgasm that surprisingly fails to line up with what many of us experience in the bedroom. We get into the internal clitoris, vasocongestion, skene's glands, the mystery of sexual vaginal lubrication, and the most sensitive areas of the cli...
Aug 19, 2019•48 min•Ep. 99
It’s legal in the majority of the US for medical students to perform educational pelvic exams on anesthetized patients without their knowledge. Amy Jo Goddard has been working for years to put a stop to this practice and is producing a documentary on the issue called At Your Cervix. In this conversation, she tells us how unbelievably prevalent this practice is. She also gives accounts from women this has happened to and from medical students uncomfortable with this requirement but afraid to jeop...
Aug 12, 2019•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 98
Level up your dating game with Shannon Boodram! Screw those dating books filled with pick up artist techniques to trick potential mates. Shan’s dating advice is more like “dating therapy”… and you need it! We talk about the importance of addressing emotional intelligence before you start swiping on Tinder. Shan tells us why knowing you and your partner’s attachment style and apology style is so important. We also learn why risky behavior is integral to your brain’s development and bonding with a...
Aug 05, 2019•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 97
Episode 96 of American Sex podcast is all about pubic hair. The societal messages we receive about our genital hair cause us a great deal of turmoil. Should we trim? Shave completely? Or let it grow free? What do our grooming preferences say about us and how do the people we’re intimate with feel about that? On this episode, we examine your personal stories, difficulties, and strategies for caring for your garden down below. We also speak with Lyndsey Craig, an anthropology doctoral candidate st...
Jul 29, 2019•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 96
BDSM educator, Casey Carter, welcomes us back from our summer hiatus on episode 95 of American Sex podcast. Casey tells us about diving into the kink & leather world after the age of 40 when an unexpected divorce forced her to reexamine a sexual part of herself he had abandoned years before. She gives us important tips about exploring kink and tells us why understanding what’s behind our reluctance to talk to partners about fantasies is crucial for a satisfying sex life. We discuss the upsid...
Jul 22, 2019•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 95
This week we revisit an enlightening conversation with John C. Luna about urethral sounding. Get ready to have all your questions answered-- What exactly is urethral sounding? Why do people do it? How do people do it? Is it safe? Does it hurt? Why does it scare the bejeezus out of me? Why does it also sound hot AF? And what exactly do urethras even sound like anyway? We also discuss advanced play with tuning forks and electricity, what to do if you're scarred from kidney stones, plus John shares...
Jun 17, 2019•57 min•Ep. 94
Dr. Liz Powell is an open relationship expert. Find out when you should and shouldn’t open your relationship, how partnerships change after they become non-monogamous, how to emotionally prepare for opening up, the pitfalls of unicorn hunting, the different types of non-monogamous relationship styles and how to figure out what’s best for you, and how to manage jealousy. Surprisingly, much of Dr. Liz’s advice applies to any type of relationship--from monogamous romantic ones to relationships with...
Jun 10, 2019•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 93
Amberly Rothfield, the go-to resource on the business of phone sex, is back! She gives us the do's and don'ts of online domination-- what to do when fantasy meshes with reality, when to walk away from a client, how to assert your boundaries as a provider, talking dirty & mastering sexual improv, what mistakes she’s made in her 13 years as a PSO & how to avoid them, plus more goodies from her new book “Financial Domination: Tales from an Online Mistress”. We talk about the increasing dema...
Jun 03, 2019•1 hr 15 min•Ep. 92
Ruby Ryder tells us how she discovered her joy for pegging at the age of 50 and became the go-to expert. She addresses pegging apprehension that stems from the societal notion that it's a threat to masculinity. We learn how to talk to your partner about your interest in pegging; how to have pegging induced multiple and full body orgasms; the difference between prostate, anal, and penile orgasms; plus the striking similarities between the g-spot and the p-spot. Ruby also covers concerns for giver...
May 27, 2019•1 hr 15 min•Ep. 91
Our access to safe and legal abortion is being threatened with the recent anti-choice bills passed in a number of states. Reproductive justice expert, Bianca Laureano, gives us a deeper look at abortion policy & procedure in the US. In this conversation, she helps us understand harmful ways lawmakers have chipped away access to abortion and quality reproductive care with things like parental consent, approval waiting period, and the myth of the partial-birth abortion. We learn what goes into...
May 20, 2019•1 hr 19 min•Ep. 90
Grab a pen because this episode is jam-packed with valuable info! For the first time, Sunny Megatron publicly divulges all of her long-distance sexytime tools. We’ve never seen such a comprehensive list of apps, programs, techniques, and creative ideas for keeping your LDR hot and fresh. This information can be used for ongoing dom/sub relationships, one-off BDSM scenes, cam performers and online pro-doms, cybersex with strangers online, or getting it on with yourself online. Although quite a bi...
May 13, 2019•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 89
Andrew Gurza is back and it’s his birthday (happy birthday, Andrew!). He talks with us about his viral hashtag, #DiablesPeopleAreHot, and how it became a worldwide movement. Andrew also tells us how his relationship with his mother changed when he told her that he hires sex workers regularly. We discuss why the concept of enthusiastic consent is ableist, how we can all better combat our personal “isms” and learn to be better allies, plus the harsh realities of dating when you’re disabled. Submit...
May 06, 2019•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 88
Adult star, Larkin Love, is our guest on ep 87 of American Sex podcast. Ken has a few red-cheeked fan-boy moments and Larkin delves into quite a few important topics: the psychology of mommy domming; the taboo nature of incest play and her insecurities when first exploring that part of herself; the censorship of taboo fetishes on adult sites and how she and other performers are dealing with it; the business behind establishing an online fetish identity & marketing yourself; body shaming and ...
Apr 29, 2019•56 min•Ep. 87
On episode 86 of American Sex podcast, get a peek at what goes on behind the scenes at a brothel. Dena is the madam of Sheri’s Ranch. She tells us about what it’s like for brothel employees-- how they are hired, the training and shadowing process, and the various techniques for discrete DC (that’s industry talk for ‘dick check’), and more. We learn about the ranch itself and which surprising amenities you’re welcome to enjoy even if you're not there for sexy time. We go over what’s it like to be...
Apr 22, 2019•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 86
Cuckolding: it seems everyone’s doing it but no one’s talking about it! On episode 85 Dr. Justin Lehmiller shares the science and research about this taboo fetish. You’ll learn how cuckolding has roots in evolutionary biology; the surprising correlation between the conservative lifestyle and cuckolding; gay cuckolding vs hetero scenarios; complimentary fetishes like forced bi, chastity, feminization & cross-dressing; how to tell your partner about your cuckold fantasies and incorporate them ...
Apr 15, 2019•1 hr 1 min
On episode 84 of American Sex Podcast, you’re a fly on the wall during a candid conversation between Dirty Lola, Jimanekia Eborn & Sunny Megatron. What started as a twitter debate opened the door to a much larger, systemic issue in both the sex ed community and the world at large. We examine what happens when our well-meaning feminist activism leads way to paternalism, savior complexes, and intersectionality that’s more of a buzzword than something that’s widely understood. We touch on perfo...
Apr 08, 2019•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 84
Adult Star Lance Hart is our guest on episode 83 of American Sex Podcast. If you’re a straight-identified guy that’s been curious about dipping your toes into the bi pool, you’re going to enjoy Lance’s account of the first time he bonded sexually with another man. If you’re in the adult industry and geek out about the business side of things, you’re going to get a ton of practical information out of this episode. If you’re interested in what’s behind the porn you see-- how people get into it, ho...
Apr 01, 2019•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 83
Ashley Manta joins us on the SXSW podcast stage for our very first live taping. We talk about how to mindfully combine sex and cannabis to enhance intimacy. Ashley blows Ken’s mind when she tells us what Indica and Sativa really mean and Sunny reports in throughout the episode on the effects of CBD lube she slathered on just before going on stage. Ashley breaks down the differences between the CBD from dispensaries vs. what’s available in all 50 states, how to comfortably consume THC if you don’...
Mar 25, 2019•1 hr 16 min•Ep. 82
Nevada is the only state in the US where full-service sex work is legal, but how much do most of us really know about the brothel ecosystem? This week we talk to Dr. Sarah Blythe, co-author of Sex and Stigma: Stories of Everyday Life in Nevada’s Legal Brothels, a book that highlights stories of brothel employees. We talk about what her research uncovered--the positives of consensual sex work in Nevada and it’s juxtaposition with outdated rules and laws that encourage unfair labor practices, disc...
Mar 18, 2019•55 min•Ep. 81
This BDSM episode is a perfect primer for those dipping their toes into the kinky pool for the first time or for experienced kinksters looking for a little renewed inspiration. Ken & Sunny’s approach to kink is quite different than what’s typically depicted. Nearly every stereotype, archetype, and “rule” you thought applied to BDSM is about to be broken. In this episode Sunny talks with Lexi Sylver of the Seek, Discover, Create podcast about all things BDSM. They cover: the roles of a domina...
Mar 11, 2019•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 80
Sunny & Ken dip into their virtual mailbag to answer listener sex questions on their second Q&A episode! They cover painful sex after menopause, exploring BDSM, being ghosted in non-monogamous relationships, erotic humiliation, tips for keeping lube from drying up and more. If you have a question you’d like answered anonymously in a future episode, send it to [email protected]. Sunny & Ken also dive into the hottest twitter thread this week-- Unpopular Opinion: Sex Edition...
Mar 04, 2019•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 79
On ep 78 we speak with Zoe Ligon of the SuperDeluxe web series, Sex Stuff, and owner of Spectrum Boutique. She tells us about the larger forces in her life that affect her relationships, identity, and sexuality--namely, healing from childhood trauma after the death of her father. Some of what we touch on: emotional incest, covert sexual assault, PTSD, loving someone that hurts you, identifying and recovering from subtle recurring abuse, rehabilitating vs. excommunicating abusers, shedding the pe...
Feb 25, 2019•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 78
Queer porn producer, writer & director, Shine Louise Houston, is our guest on episode 77 of American Sex Podcast. We talk about pay inequities in porn and her progressive pay structure for talent, what it means to be queer, her upcoming movie "Chemistry Eases the Pain" which is a “straight curious” adventure-- that leads to a discussion of identity policing in the queer community and the all too common problem of being ridiculed for doing something or someone that isn’t “queer enough.” We al...
Feb 18, 2019•57 min•Ep. 77
Get ready for a memorable blast from the past. We revisit an early American Sex podcast guest conversation with Davecat. Davecat’s wife, Sidore, is a doll– meaning, she’s not just a sweetie, she’s actually synthetic! Happily coupled for 17 years, they also live with their mistress Elena and her partner Miss Winter. Davecat considers himself an iDollator because all three women in his life are dolls. You may have seen him on My Strange Addiction, the BBC Documentary Guys and Dolls, or other shows...
Feb 11, 2019•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 76
On episode 75 Sunny & Lola’s reflection on the Surviving R. Kelly docuseries prompts an impromptu conversation about America's long history of sexualizing teens. We’re all shocked by the R. Kelly story but remember back in high school when it was “cool” to date a college-aged person? Remember when adults in your life didn’t bat an eye at you dating a legal adult when you were underage? We break this complicated situation down by reflecting on our own experiences. Some of what we touched on: ...
Feb 04, 2019•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 75
This episode might just change your life-- especially if you've ever wondered if your sexual fantasies are too “weird.” Dr. Justin Lehmiller surveyed over 4,000 Americans about their fantasies and what he discovered is absolutely fascinating and reassuring. It turns out all of our sexual fantasies fall into seven major categories. Dr. Lehmiller tells us which are the most popular and why, if people of different genders fantasize differently, why suppressing our sexual fantasies can be damaging, ...
Jan 28, 2019•59 min•Ep. 74
American Sex Podcast is back after holiday hiatus! Ken & Sunny speak with sex therapist Dr. Hernando Chaves about what affects the health of our sex lives. He discusses the heavy impact stress has in the bedroom and tells us how we can use mindfulness techniques to combat it, how to find common ground with a partner when your sexual interests don’t seem compatible, the current political climate & its effects on gender power dynamics in relationships, and support for men in the age of #Me...
Jan 21, 2019•1 hr•Ep. 73
