Amazing news! Registration is now open for the FREE Dom/sub Dynamics Virtual Summit! Reserve your free spot here: http://bit.ly/sunnysummit2024 The Rundown 4-day online BDSM conference, free! 5 sessions per day + supplemental class tools & materials April 8-11th 2024 Watch live (no student cameras so you can attend anonymously) -OR- stream recordings of the classes you want to take within 24 hours Some of the educators: Midori, Luna Matatas, Evie Lupine, TheDutchy, Miriam Green from Wicked G...
Mar 25, 2024•10 min
Curious about the role of a switch in kink & BDSM? Some say switches are really just confused doms or subs that haven’t figured out their true identity yet. Others believe they’re less skilled and aren’t as dedicated to exclusively topping or bottoming. In this episode, Queen Anas Blue busts these myths and gets deep into the switchy nitty-gritty. Some of the topics we cover: Switching styles & traits Switch erasure Switch drop Challenges cis men face embracing their switchy side Overcom...
Nov 11, 2023•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 213
Are you a fan of adult entertainment? Then, you've got to listen to one of our favorite podcasts: Holly Randall Unfiltered. In this sample from Holly's show, the iconic performer Adriana Chechick joins Holly for an interview that shows Adriana's MANY sides! You’ll hear about her upbringing in foster care, her honest reflections on career regrets, and why she finds gangbangs empowering. Adriana will surprise you with her brutally honest insight on a storied career that brought her so much fame, a...
Nov 01, 2023•16 min
Ever felt confined by the choice of monogamy or polyamory? What options lie between those two ends of the spectrum? And what happens if what’s right for you changes over time? Sex- positive psychotherapist Kate Loree joins Sunny to talk about navigating and customizing fluid relationship dynamics. Some of what’s covered: The significance of intention in customizable relationships Anxiety & Jealousy in non-monogamy Parenthood & fluid relationships Honesty in relationship dynamics Mindfuln...
Oct 29, 2023•1 hr 21 min•Ep. 212
Host, Clinical Sexologist & Kink Educator Sunny Megatron Is back for a third installment of free-style BDSM education. This time she weighs in on BDSM reddit. Topics discussed: Am I a bad sub for not liking pain or degradation? What’s a praise kink? When Is humiliation play healthy and when is it detrimental? Where & how to find 1-on-1 BDSM instruction and “exploratory sessions” for kink newbies? How can I safely do breath play to the point of passing out? New partner advice: Is this how...
Oct 13, 2023•1 hr 16 min•Ep. 211
Relationships, at their core, are about relating – with other people, our surroundings, our past, our future. But the truth is, most of us kinda suck at it! Enter the spiral of emotional dysregulation… In this episode, Megan Bhatia gets right to the juicy center of relating and its role in safety, power dynamics, and agreements in our relationships. Some of what we cover: Recognizing & managing emotional dysregulation Head knowledge vs. embodied knowledge Jealousy in non-monogamy Creating sa...
Oct 06, 2023•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 210
Have you ever wondered why we eroticize certain bodily fluids but consider others disgusting? Luna Matatas dives into the why and how behind body fluid fetish & fantasy Find out if squirt is really pee plus learn creative ideas for squirt play. Discover why people are into golden showers– is it humiliation? Dominance? Something else? Learn how to explore piss play safely and some surprising things about diaper play (nope, they aren’t only for adult babies). We also talk spit, tears, sweat, l...
Jul 07, 2023•1 hr 18 min•Ep. 209
We’re excited to introduce you to another show on the Pleasure Podcasts network called, Erotic Short Stories . (Yes, the audio is NSFW so choose your listening time & place accordingly!) If you’re a fan of erotica and looking for a place to indulge in your wildest fantasies, then you need to listen to Erotic Short Stories. Each week, Mia will tell you a sensual story in a silky-smooth voice that will surely get you in the mood. Check out more Erotic Short Stories wherever you get your podcas...
Jun 27, 2023•10 min
Sex-positive psychotherapist, Kate Loree joins us to talk about managing mental health within polyamory and consensual non-monogamy -- specifically how mood and personality disorders like anxiety, depression, BPD, NPD, etc., can impact these relationships. According to NAMI one in five American adults experienced mental illness in 2020. When we combine this with consensual non-monogamy (CNM), things can become even more complex. As Kate points out, CNM tends to poke at unresolved attachment inju...
Jun 23, 2023•1 hr 25 min•Ep. 208
As a culture, we’ve come a long way in our understanding of consent. It’s discussed in schools, on TV shows, and in popular media. But through this mainstreaming of consent, we’ve also lost some important nuance along the way. This conversation with Kitty Stryker is all about that nuance. From the complexities of consent within various power dynamics to the ways it shows up in every relationship, consent situations seem to be everywhere. Kitty lays down frameworks to help us reevaluate our perso...
Jun 09, 2023•1 hr 31 min•Ep. 207
jessica drake joins us for an International Masturbation Month chat about mutual self-pleasure. In this conversation, we unpack the shame surrounding both solo and mutual masturbation. Plus, jessica gives tips for: Getting out of your head & into your body Prioritizing our own pleasure Building bedroom confidence Fantasy sharing & dirty talk Introducing toys & porn Compassionate & validating communication with partners Sunny & jessica go well beyond the basics, sharing import...
May 26, 2023•1 hr 18 min•Ep. 206
In this bonus mini-episode, we're previewing Double Teamed with Cami & Niki. Here the twins talk about their recent journeys with kink & power exchange. Hope you enjoy! Get more at http://doubleteamedpodcast.com
May 25, 2023•12 min
Most of us know how important things like self-care, self-compassion, and self-love are. But knowing and doing can sometimes be two different things. Lee Harrington not only talks about why these things are so vital but also teaches us HOW to do them. Lee walks us through forging the path to self-forgiveness, compassion, care, healthy boundary setting, and becoming our own beloved through self-courtship and deepening our most important relationship -- the one we’re in with ourselves. As a bonus ...
May 12, 2023•1 hr 25 min•Ep. 205
How do you live your authentic kink life when your needs don't match up with the BDSM community status quo? In part 1 (ep 203) Mollena Williams-Haas told us how returning to the leather community after parting ways sparked an unexpected journey of healing and growth. In this discussion, Mollena shares practical advice for digging past the stereotypical BDSM “supposed to’s” in order to identify your needs and honor them. D/s relationships are about making life better for both doms and subs -- but...
Apr 28, 2023•56 min•Ep. 204
Today we are sharing a preview from one of our favorite podcasts that we think you’ll enjoy. On Sluts and Scholars, therapist and sexologist Nicoletta Heidegger talks with diverse professionals about all things pleasure and sexuality. In this preview, strap in for some strap on information with Sex and Pleasure Educator Luna Matatas. Nicoletta and Luna talk about pegging, anal play, and why it is so hard to just receive pleasure. Join these slutty scholars as they help to make your sex smarter, ...
Apr 27, 2023•12 min
Today we’re sharing a preview of a new podcast we’re enjoying and we think you will too! On this episode of the Cultivating H.E.R. Space podcast, Dr. Dom and Terri have a deep conversation about the truth of gaslighting, red flags, and manipulation. Maybe you’ve heard these terms recently, but do you really know what they mean? Accessing the language around these pieces of the cycles of abuse can help you create a toolkit that can help you identify them earlier in your relationships. Knowing the...
Apr 18, 2023•12 min
Mollena Williams-Haas, a.k.a. The Kink Doula, is back to serve up a slice of community healing. As a BDSM Leather community veteran and legend, Mollena understands the challenges of living your truth when it falls outside of the alt-sex status quo. In this convo, she shares how her rocky relationship with a community she once loved transformed into an unexpected journey of healing and growth. And, in true Mollena fashion, the insights she gleaned from this transformative, powerful experience are...
Apr 14, 2023•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 203
Mike Stabile, who appeared in Netflix’s Moneyshot: The Pornhub Story joins us to talk about important details that didn’t make it into the documentary. Some of what we discuss: The aftermath of the 2020 New York Times article that shook up the adult industry How the far-reaching consequences affect us all Who’s behind the Traffickinghub campaign, related anti-trafficking organizations & why What Pornhub did wrong & did right The role of adult performers in maintaining checks & balanc...
Mar 31, 2023•1 hr 28 min•Ep. 202
Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons joins us for a conversation about the ways racial inequity hurts the sex lives of BIPOC folks. Although many view sex as an escape from the stresses of real-world issues and a common experience we all share -- it’s not that simple. Orgasms are not the great equalizer. Political, cultural, and systemic societal forces have everything to do with the ways we experience pleasure. Some of what we unpack in this episode: How the belief that only men who have money deserve se...
Mar 17, 2023•1 hr 27 min•Ep. 201
Veronika Kestrel joins us for a conversation about creating safe & inclusive kink spaces for everyone across the gender spectrum. Despite the BDSM subculture's roots in the queer community & emphasis on inclusivity, many communities remain steeped in heteronormativity, leading to the fetishization and othering of gender non-conforming and trans people. Some of what we touch on: Why gender bias exists in kink The commodification & politicization of GNC & trans kinksters Tips for v...
Mar 03, 2023•1 hr 14 min•Ep. 200
Adult grooming is often misunderstood -- from what it looks like, to who is most vulnerable, what types of people groom, and why -- most assume it can’t happen to them. The fact is, grooming comes in many forms and can happen in any type of relationship - including BDSM dynamics. And because kink often involves power imbalances, it can be especially difficult to recognize in this context. Whether you're new to kink or a seasoned veteran, episode 199 of American Sex will give you the tools to spo...
Feb 17, 2023•1 hr 26 min•Ep. 199
Here’s the quickie bonus episode link you’re looking for! http://bit.ly/sunnydssummit Want a recap? Read on … The Dom/sub Dynamic Virtual Summit was designed to help you improve your D/s relationship & navigate the BDSM lifestyle. The Summit features 5 jam-packed days of classes from 15+ educators covering topics ranging from confidence in the bedroom to dealing with chronic illness, and everything in between. Get your free ticket to The D/s Dynamics Virtual Summit here : http://bit.ly/sunny...
Feb 08, 2023•5 min
Midori joins us to discuss Japanese BDSM & why recognizing fundamental differences in various cultures around the world is the key to understanding the how & why behind kink. We talk about differences in consent & safety, how differing social norms & hierarchies influence our collective play styles, and how these insights can enhance our own relationships. Most of us aren’t great at recognizing our way isn’t the only way. But even if you plan on never venturing outside your local...
Dec 23, 2022•1 hr 25 min•Ep. 198
Fact: The BDSM world has a race problem. Queer, Black, kink educator, Phrygian Monk joins us to talk about it. This conversation stemmed from one of their no-nuance November observations: “Kinktok is heavily segregated and pretty racist – like 1950s level.” They bring all the nuance and then some. We discuss why it’s essential for everyone to consider how different forms of play relate to POC kinksters, why we should take a pause before condemning all forms of race play, why many kinksters of co...
Nov 25, 2022•1 hr 23 min•Ep. 197
Having difficult conversations with one partner is hard enough. When consensual non-monogamy is part of the equation it can feel overwhelming. In this episode, therapist Kate Loree gives insight and actionable strategies for working through uncomfortable emotions in polyamory/CNM like jealousy, envy, insecurity, and feeling disempowered. She also provides valuable tips on identifying & managing triggers with our partners and metamours. Some of what we touch on: Attachment injury Triggers Gro...
Oct 28, 2022•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 196
Asexuality and kink?! Isn’t that a contradiction?! Nope! Asexual BDSM is quite common. In fact, a significant segment of the kink subculture is on the ‘ace’ spectrum. On ep 195, Evie Lupine joins to talk about it. A few of the things we discuss: Asexuality vs. Responsive Desire & how to tell the difference How someone can be asexual but still have & enjoy sex Why the kink community appeals to many aces What IS sex? Do we have the definition all wrong? The relationship between sex & B...
Oct 14, 2022•1 hr 15 min•Ep. 195
In episode 194 of American Sex Podcast, Sunny Megatron continues her deep dive into the murky, messy, nuances of kink. She examines some of the most popular kink “rules” pertaining to consent & safewords and the grey areas that cause community friction: “Never renegotiate during a scene” “When there’s a problem someone will use their safeword” “Never do heavy impact without a warm-up” “Safewords can be abused” “Safewords are for sex and BDSM” This episode will help you diversify what’s in yo...
Sep 30, 2022•1 hr 16 min•Ep. 194
Safe words aren't as deep & complicated as we make them out to be. They aren’t necessarily as simple as we think either. In kink & sex, safe words are simple communication tools that stop the action & trigger a predetermined protocol. What they mean, how they're used & what you do after is up to you. How do you decide that? Episode 193 of American Sex Podcast will help you figure it out. This convo was inspired by a listener suggestion to unpack some of the fiercest kink communit...
Sep 16, 2022•1 hr 28 min•Ep. 193
“The BDSM Test” is infamous in the kink community and beyond. Since 2014, thousands have proudly posted results like a badge of honor on FetLife profiles. We use it as a roadmap, educational tool, and kink negotiation starter. It’s even gone vanilla as the focus of social media challenges and pop magazine writeups. But is this kink subculture phenomenon all it's cracked up to be? While some find it helpful & validating, many say it’s othering, stigmatizing, and normalizes red-flag behavior d...
Jun 27, 2022•2 hr 15 min•Ep. 192
Kink & BDSM stigma is alive and well in the mainstream, in our own communities, and even in professional/academic spheres. In episode 191 of American Sex Podcast, Sunny Megatron busts some of the most common kink myths + provides clinical & academic resources for therapists, academics, and skeptical naysayers. She deconstructs the following kink & BDSM myths: Kink is always sexual and platonic kink does not exist Kink is considered abnormal by psychologists & the scientific commu...
Jun 20, 2022•1 hr 35 min•Ep. 191
