Solving Conflicts the Smart Way! (Episode #17)

As much as we hate experiencing conflicts, we must admit that they are a normal part of our relationships. We can’t agree on everything, and avoiding conflicts hurts both sides more than it is able to help. The smart way to deal with conflicts is not to circumvent them but to resolve them in a rational way.

Conflicts arise from the differences you have with other people. They occur whenever people disagree over their values, motivations, perceptions, ideas, or desires. In particular, in personal relationships, each standpoint deserves respect and honest consideration. Any lack of understanding of each other’s standpoints can result in vicious arguments, distancing, and even break-ups. At your workplace, major differences can result in lost business deals, decreased profits, and lost jobs.

We all experience conflicts. The only question is how can we deal with them without hurting ourselves, our undertakings, and others. Let’s reflect on the problem.

1. We must be aware of the fact that conflicts are more than just occasional disagreements. They are often a treat to both sides.
2. When ignored, conflicts worsen over time and can endanger our well-being.
3. We often make the mistake that we respond to conflicts only on the basis of our perception, not objective facts. Our assessment is based on our own experience, culture, values, and beliefs.
4. Conflicts always trigger strong emotions and stress. If you can’t manage them you can’t resolve the problem.
5. At the same time, conflicts are also opportunities for personal growth, re-establishing relationships, and building trust.