¶ Intro / Sister Wants Her Old Car
My entitled sister demands that I give her my car that she gave to me two years ago so that she can sell it to buy a new car herself. And despite the fact that we signed it over into my name and we spent thousands of dollars fixing it up because it was undriveable.
My sister still feels entitled to it in a way that I'm honestly so confused by because right now I seriously don't know what to do. Here's what happened. So about two years and a couple of months ago, I was looking for a cheap car to buy because my husband and I have been driving an old car that was really started.
to give out. My sister at the time owned a Dodge Dart and a Dodge Charger. She and her significant other also had a Taurus that was from the year 2000 that had literally just been sitting there parked in her driveway for two years and it was completely undriveable.
she and her significant other offered to give my family the broke-down car. I asked them what they wanted for it, and the response that I got was them saying, oh, nothing at all. We are family, and if you are getting it running, you can have it. And that is quite literally a quote from them.
I was extremely grateful. And so my husband and I borrowed a trailer and picked up the car and put the car in our names. We worked on the car for about a month in the yard, buying car parts for it. And finally, we got it running. A little over two years later, we spent about a thousand.
in major parts and repairs just to keep her running for our family as we used it. She was my everyday and only car. We put hours of labor and love into this 20-year-old car just to keep it going for us. Now, not one time had I ever heard myself I don't know. My husband had worked so hard for a promotion and we felt we could finally afford a car note and use the Taurus as a backup in case it didn't work out. I have had it now for about 30 days and I just made my first regular payment on it.
She has had two more kids and now will have a third kid all under four years old. She had quit her job months ago just as I had to stay home and take care of her babies. Her significant other only makes $4 less than mine and things really took a turn for them.
And somehow she is four payments behind on her Chevy Tahoe that she is financing. She sold her Dodge Dart for a down payment on this vehicle about a year ago. And she was very worried about how she was going to make her baby's doctor's appointments and how her significant other was going to.
get to work. These conversations went on for about a month and not once did she ever ask about the Taurus. I talked it over with my husband and I asked him if we could let her borrow the car if hers gets repossessed until she can get another one. Well, we both agreed and I called.
and I told her that she can come use the Taurus for however long it took for her to get another car. I also let her know that it was having a hard time making it out of town while also telling her what to watch for when driving because it was becoming our backup car for a reason.
Well, just this afternoon, I asked her if she still thought she needed the Taurus and she said yes and that she was coming to get it soon. Then they commented how they were going to sell the Taurus for a down payment for another car. And I was completely shocked to hear that. But I told her.
She is not going to sell my car, but she can use it for however long she needed. She then got very upset and told me, okay, so after we gave you the car, you expect us to buy it from you? And I just said to her, no, that is my car. And I offered to buy the car.
when I took it over two years ago. And the both of you said no. I said that it was not run for over two years. And we had put so much money and labor into the car just to keep it going those two years that we had it. She then called me a hypocrite and that I was selfish.
because she had helped me get up in life and that I didn't need it now because I have another car, while also claiming that she gave us a head start in life. And when she said that, I was just shocked. She feels as though I owe it to her to give her this car that I have owned for over two years. And how she had still not paid it back, which was about $400 in the last few months ever since.
their finances started to go downhill. I told him not to send it to her and that it wasn't worth asking for it even after she called me a hypocrite and acted like she was my savior. All those days she called me crying about how bad her significant other was spending their money.
and they were just completely broke. All those times I dropped off Medicaid applications as well as several other similar applications for her and she just never even touched them. I lent her my money anytime she asked and I even paid for and arranged both of her baby showers.
I tried all I could to help her out these last few months, but when I draw the line with the car, it was almost as if it was all for nothing. She acted like I was selfish and ungrateful to her. I'm just so sad right now, and I'm trying to make sure my own pregnancy hormones
aren't getting in the way of my decision. My husband says that she dug her own hole, so we just need to let her lie in it. But he was angry about the hurtful words that she had said to me. Well, I messaged her that I would be glad to allow her to use the car still, even after what she said. But she's...
Still felt entitled to it and hung up on me because I did not want her to sell my car. Now, after all that's said and done, am I in the right and am I wrong to feel justified in my actions? I feel like I'm being guilt tripped and I just need validation or some kind of opinion.
¶ Host Says Sister Is Entitled
Because right now I seriously don't know what to do. No, you are not the jerk and you didn't do anything wrong. Your sister is literally trying to steal your car and sell it off so they can get a new one. Like that is all that's going on right now. And that is insane in my opinion. So what? Even though the.
cars in your name and your husband's name, they still feel entitled to have it and be like, oh yeah, we deserve it. We're going to take that car and sell it to get a new car. It's like, no, you're not. Two years ago, you signed it over to me. This is my car now. You don't own it. Just because they were too
lazy to fix it up and do something with it doesn't mean you should be punished because you actually did do something with it. Like you made it work. You put the time and effort into it and you literally spent so much money just to get this car drivable. So for your sister to step in and be like, we deserve that car.
We're going to use that and sell it for something else. Like that is just completely crazy in my opinion. And it's honestly so unbelievably entitled. So no, you are definitely not the jerk because the way your sister is acting, in my opinion, is absolutely uncalled for. If you like, am I the jerk?
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¶ Parents Constantly Invade Privacy
description if you would like to submit your own story am i the jerk for constantly starting fights with my parents every time they violate my privacy boundaries because right now it's the worst it's ever been in my life and at this point i seriously don't know what to do here's what happened
OK, to start things out, I'm a 22 year old male, and this is a problem that I've been dealing with since my early teenage years. I grew up in a household that never really seemed to have a regard or respect for privacy. A lot of the times I would rationalize it for being our culture.
or how my parents were raised. But at other times, it was just downright frustrating and even confusing how my parents refused to allow for certain privacies in their home. One of the biggest struggles and disagreements that has been long lasting to this current date is the boundary.
of my room. Now, I'm not a very messy person. Granted, when I was younger, I was even cleaner, and this was due to my mom's OCD-like tendencies. I was raised with absolute spotless floors that were vacuumed and mopped daily, if not twice daily.
Because of this, I was always witnessing my mom with her own cleaning patterns and organization patterns. I learned from her and before I knew it, I too was also very clean and very organized as an individual. Well, fast forward a few years later and I've gotten older.
And I'm now a young adult preparing and saving to move out and start the next chapter of my life. However, the relationship with my parents has only worsened. The boundary of my room being off limits to my mother has been an ongoing argument ever since the day I decided.
to go against their style of decorating and organizing. Whether it was to hang up LED strips, tapestries, or posters along my walls, it was always an issue. Whether it was to buy new chairs or beanbags for my room, it was always an issue.
Recently, about a year ago, I bought two new rugs for my floor and that was also an issue for some ridiculous and outlandish reason. It's done nothing but cause some of the most heated verbal conflicts between me and my parents driving a wedge in the relationship. Eight months after...
I had bought the rugs and displayed them. I returned from a 5,000 mile road trip across the country just to find out that my rugs had been removed and my room was almost completely rearranged. Everything was changed and reorganized from where I kept my very important mind. Thank you.
matters even worse. I had recorded what my room looked like right before I had left for my trip, so I had literal video graphic proof of the issue, so it only made me angrier and angrier. On a separate occasion days after, I started to develop an insane
migraine and i needed my medication fast usually when i get migraines it involves these super irritating stars in my eyes that basically block my vision completely when i rushed searching around my room i was left sitting in absolute intense pain for two hours
unable to find the medication that I usually keep in a very specific, easy to locate location. I even called my mother and father multiple times just to be left on voicemail every single time. I was furious. As soon as my mom came home, she pretended.
and played stupid, acting like she had no clue where my medication had been moved because she hadn't been in my room for the past two months. But then I pulled up the video that I had taken right before my trip, and I show her the footage of exactly where my medication bottle was sitting in my room.
She then walks around the house for two minutes, pretending to be confused and acting as if she doesn't know where they are. Then seconds after looking around in my bathroom, she comes walking out, shaking my medication bottle and jokingly saying, oh, you're always so faded.
Never know where you leave your stuff at. I never even moved this. It's your medicine and it's supposed to go in your medicine cabinet where we all keep our medicine. But that's the thing. I've never done that ever. For as long as I've had migraines, I've never once walked to the bathroom.
and grabbed it in the cabinet. And that's when I just officially lost it. I slammed the door shut in her face. And when my dad came home, I immediately came storming out and I yelled at him. Now, I feel bad every time this happens, especially afterwards. But at the same time, he continues.
allows for this pattern of conflict to keep repeating. Multiple times, I have asked that either a lock that only I have the key to is placed on the door or that my mom is to be kept from stepping foot in my room anymore to organize or move my stuff around.
time this happens and is brought up, my dad only tries to calm me down or yells at me to either deal with the situation or move out. And this specifically is becoming his response every single time now, even though he fully knows that I've been saving up money to move out for a while.
while now. Then this further results in super tense verbal altercations where a ton of insults and mean or rude comments are traded back and forth, mainly on my behalf due to the frustration and even at times gaslighting from my mother. I love my
family and I love my mom and dad and I will always be grateful for the fact that they put a roof over my head for all of 22 years and they did take care of me raise me and put food on my plates but right now I feel so frustrated and disrespected as an individual
I should have a choice on how my room is decorated. I should have a choice for whether I want to keep my shoe collection in their boxes or not. And I should be allowed to have the proper privacy and safe space in the home that I live in. So am I the jerk in this situation? What should I do?
¶ Host Validates Need for Privacy
Man, this story is meant for me because I feel the exact same way the original poster does. Seriously, is it that big of a deal to be like, okay, this is my room and I want some privacy. Like that really should be the bare minimum of like what you expect in your life, especially when you're living.
with other people regardless of if they're your parents or not. Like that is so uncalled for for her to act like that and for her to basically go in and move everything around. Like that would drive me crazy if that was me. Because personally, I'm a very private individual and I don't like people being...
All up in my business. And in this case, it is quite literally someone else going through all of your stuff. I would lose my mind if someone moved all my stuff around like that. Like that is so violating. So no, you're not the jerk for getting upset because they clearly are just not taking you seriously. And if any.
If you really wanted to send a message, you could easily change out those locks on the door and put in a doorknob that only you have the key to. Like, sure, that would probably cause like an uproar of some kind. And you can obviously keep the other door ready if they really want to change it back out. But that really.
would send a clear message that you want privacy while you're living there. But regardless, in the meantime, I really hope you're saving as much money as you can because the way your parents are acting is super obnoxious and I don't blame you in the slightest for being frustrated. Am I the jerk for not being supportive?
¶ Girlfriend Uses Marathon as Excuse
of my girlfriend's decision after she signed up to run a half marathon, even though she's never run in this capacity in her life. Here's what happened. So I have a girlfriend that just recently decided to sign up for a half marathon come December. The reason why she signed up is because
she doesn't want to go to an event that's also happening that day so now she has a built-in excuse and that's honestly really wild to me. She asked me beforehand and I told her that I thought it was a bad idea. She doesn't like running nor does she even run and she could find another
excuse that isn't running a half marathon. Well, she signed up anyways. She then told me that she will follow a 12 week plan for running the half marathon that was given to her with her inscription. Now here's the thing. I'm a runner in an elite running club and I've run over
over a dozen half marathons and countless 5Ks and 10Ks in my life. This summer, I ran a 10K and a half marathon and I finished fifth overall in the 10K and 12th in my category for the half marathon. I'm by no means a good runner, good as in I
can make a living doing it, but I do know what I'm talking about. Now, she has often talked about wanting to get in shape, which I've always encouraged, but never pushed for it. I mean, it really is just not my place. About a month ago, she started going to workout classes and she's enjoying them quite a bit.
bit and i have gone with her a couple of times so i assumed that going to these workout classes was the final motivation she needed to sign up for the half marathon anyways i advised her to start walking and jogging now before she starts the 12-week program i told her
that she needs to build a cardio base before she takes on a half marathon program that includes jogging, repetitions, intervals, long distance, and some hills. I mean, there's a lot that goes into it, but she doesn't want to because she's not willing to stop going to these workout classes.
classes and she gets tired doing two workouts a day. I told her that a half marathon is a lot of mileage and that she needed to get extra prepared so she doesn't get injured in the race. She said she's not interested in achieving a good time and that she just wants to finish the race.
even if it's walking. She also said that she has a cardio base from playing basketball growing up, even though she stopped playing basketball eight years ago. I told her that she made this commitment and that she should take it more seriously. 12 weeks for a half marathon is a pretty standard.
program when you've been running and you want to hit your peak in the race, not when you're about to start from scratch. Well, that was the last straw. And she got really upset with me saying that I was trying to put her down. I was not being supportive of her and that it's not easy for her when her boy.
is in great shape and she isn't now at that point I apologize for making her feel that way and that I would just drop it I do feel that I need to find a better way to approach it but at this point I really need to know am I the jerk in this situation what should I do no
¶ Host Warns Against Unprepared Race
No, you're not the jerk at all. You're literally just trying to look out for your girlfriend, who, in my opinion, is quite literally in over her head. Like, why would she say, oh, yeah, I'm going to sign up for a half marathon to get out of this obligation. Why not pick literally anything else? Like, there is a myriad of reasons.
why she could get out of this obligation. So the fact that she thought, oh yeah, a marathon would be a good excuse. Like that's crazy to me. And that just doesn't make any sense. If anything, it sounds like the plot out of the office or something like that. So no, I don't think you're the jerk for trying to like tell her the truth about. What's going on here? Because I really think that she's going to have a rude awakening. Hi, it's Andrew Gold here from Heretics Podcast.
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¶ Roommate Won't Flush Toilet
Am I the jerk for yelling at my dirty housemate in front of his friends after he once again forgot to flush the toilet? Here's what happened. Okay, so I live in a house with another guy who is incredibly dirty. The biggest issue is that he often uses a toilet and then doesn't flush.
And every time I find it, he denies it's him, but it's obviously either me or him. And I know it's not me. Now, this situation has been taking a toll on my mental health as I suffer from anxiety and depression. And having to deal with someone else's garbage just isn't healthy. I was already stressed.
because I had a fight with a friend, and I came home really mad. My boyfriend was with me, and he knows how much this situation affects me. Unfortunately, I can't move out for another three months because of the contract, but after that, I'm moving in with my boyfriend. When I got home, I decided...
to shower. And of course, I found that my housemate didn't flush again. His friends were over, but I know it was him who made the mess because they only arrived after me and my boyfriend. And I even asked them at the reception when they came in. Well, I was furious and I stormed
straight to his room and I screamed at him. I called him a disgusting fat pig and some other names that I'm not proud of. He tried denying it again, but I called him out on his BS. His friends gave him the side eye and he eventually went to clean up after himself. Now, my boyfriend supports what
I did. And my housemate apologized and claimed that he has IBS. But that is literally not even the issue for me. The real problem is him not flushing properly. I told him to stop using that as an excuse and to just act like an adult. Well, here's the thing.
¶ Host Approves Calling Out Roommate
So am I the jerk in this situation? What should I do? No. you're not the jerk because that is something that should be cleaned up and taken care of right away you literally should only have to tell him that once and that should be fixed like immediately because that is incredibly gross like seriously dude just flush the toilet and clean up after yourself so in my
In my opinion, calling him out in front of his friends might have been the only thing to get through to him. Like if I was in your shoes, I would have done the same thing. Like for me personally, I wouldn't care if he's embarrassed. He needs to figure this out and get it taken care of. And if you talking to him in private isn't going to do the job, then maybe talk.
¶ Roommate Invades Personal Space
Because right now, my roommate's saying that I'm questioning his... character. And at this point, I seriously don't know what to do. Here's what happened. I'm a 23 year old male and I'm living with a friend whom I have known for years. This friend is 37 years old and I moved into his apartment last August and I have been renting one of the rooms there since. However,
in february he sent a message to my sister that my jacket smelled like the herb if you know what i mean he had no prior contact with my sister but he was angry with me for not being home that weekend which is why he sent it now i have since quit smoking but i
I felt like he crossed some boundaries and I've been mostly to myself ever since. The reason I bring up the fact that he told my sister that I smoked is because he knows that my family do not take lightly to this. He knew it would make me look like some sort of junkie, which my sister thought.
for some time. And I was just illustrating that his intentions aren't always good, even though he pretends that they are. However, when I'm not home, he is often in my room and goes through my trash and picks up bottles. I've let him know that I find it weird and I don't want to
in my room when I am not home. I also don't have a key, so I am unable to lock the door when I leave for class or for work. When I order takeout with my own money, which is rare, but it does happen occasionally, he finds it in my trash and lets me know that he never orders takeout.
out because it's a waste of money. He also tells me to clean my room, even though it's pretty clean for the record, but he has a different standard to what clean is than I do. He smells my clothing that I put in the wash and tries to confront me sometimes thinking that I smoke.
he tells me to close my window when I go to work or to class, even though we don't live in the first floor. So basically, he's in my room a lot when I'm not home. He also goes into my room when I'm sleeping because I'm sleeping next to my laptop as I need to watch something to go to bed.
He says it's to remove the laptop, but I've told him that I don't want him to do that. But instead, he just keeps doing it. Additionally, he insists on using the bathroom when I am showering and using the kitchen when I'm cooking. And I find this to be an invasion of my privacy.
And I have confronted him, insinuating that his behavior is controlling. I have asked for a key from my room, which he didn't take lightly. And I want to keep pushing for a key, but he makes it seem like I'm questioning his character. I want a key, but I feel like a jerk for pushing for it.
What should I do? Okay, first of all, your roommate is a massive creep. This guy's going into your bedroom while you're sleeping and he's literally going through your trash while you're like not aware of it. Like that's weird and I don't care who you are. You shouldn't do that to somebody. And you know what? Yes, you are.
are questioning his character. This guy is going through your stuff. The only reason he doesn't want to give you a key is because he literally just wants to keep going through your stuff while you're not there. And God knows how many times he's done that. So no, you're not the jerk for wanting to lock your room. But in my opinion,
the bigger problem is the roommate itself because this guy sounds like a massive weirdo. And in my opinion, you can find a much better roommate than what this guy is trying to offer. When you subscribe, make sure to hit the bell to turn on notifications. To finish listening to all the stories, check out...
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