[00:00:00] Corinne Foxx: Welcome back to another episode of Am I Doing This Right? I'm Corinne Foxx.
[00:00:08] Natalie McMillan: And I'm Natalie McMillan.
[00:00:09] Corinne Foxx: And we are best friends, confidants, millennials, and the hosts of Am I doing This Right? A life how-to podcast from the perspective of non-experts.
[00:00:19] Natalie McMillan: And each week we cover a new topic and we drink a new bottle of wine.
[00:00:22] Corinne Foxx: Uh, a subject that's close to my heart. Yeah, I am. I think all ladies' hearts, ladies' hearts, we're talking personal safety 1 0 1. How to protect yourself in any situation, we're going to be talking about apps and products for your personal safety advice that we found from a female cop on how to stay safe in public and how to wire your home for safe.
We have to be safe out in these streets. And so your girl has an anxiety disorder. I think everyone's trying to get me.
[00:00:51] Natalie McMillan: Yeah, same, same to I'm
[00:00:53] Corinne Foxx: to look at also I love true crime and so.
[00:00:57] Natalie McMillan: Newly kind
[00:00:57] Corinne Foxx: of a new thing for you? Well, I grew up on true crime. My mom is like my, all my mom watched was, uh, it was TV. No, it was not curvy.
It wasn't, it was before it was ID. It was the, um, what was the name of the
[00:01:09] Natalie McMillan: channel line? I think it was literally called like
[00:01:11] Corinne Foxx: CRI Waze or something called, like, it was like evidence, TV. It was like all the true crime, all. Uh, husband's going rewind. I no,
[00:01:22] Natalie McMillan: no, no. Dammit. What was
[00:01:23] Corinne Foxx: it called? You have to look it up now.
It was, they changed it to ID, but it used to be, um, it's where forensic files was on. Yes,
[00:01:31] Natalie McMillan: I feel it wasn't
[00:01:31] Corinne Foxx: court TV.
[00:01:33] Natalie McMillan: No. Before. It was called discovery time. No, this is what it says. Former names. No, it was discovery times from 2003 to 2008. Investigation discovery becomes top cable for women with true crime all the time.
True,
[00:01:53] Corinne Foxx: true TV. T R U T R U. True TV. That's what I vaguely remember. Yeah, 2008, 2011 was true TV, but TV was something from 2000 to 2007. Yeah,
[00:02:08] Natalie McMillan: my mom was all up in and around court TV every single day. Nancy grace was on court. TV.
[00:02:16] Corinne Foxx: Yeah. True TV. Anyways. Anyways, we've completely gone off the rails. What, why are we drinking
[00:02:25] Natalie McMillan: now?
We're drinking the David Hill. Reserve peanut new war. And it's from Williamette Oregon. I love Oregon Pino.
[00:02:35] Corinne Foxx: Ooh. I have
[00:02:36] Natalie McMillan: faith with this one. I'm going to pour myself a little glass, Corinne porters. I also probably, I just ate a lollipop. So this might on the first go not be smart, but we're going to find out might be a little off.
Okay, but I have a little surprise. The surprise for you. Surprise. Surprise the surprise. Okay.
[00:03:04] Corinne Foxx: No, you did not get out of here. I heard to be over. You're saying I'm hungry.
[00:03:08] Natalie McMillan: I know. And I thought, oh, I should give him to her now, but then. It would ruin this. You
[00:03:13] Corinne Foxx: guys can't see this, but Natalie has broughten me the E Pepe puffs from trader Joe's that have you guys heard on a previous episode?
She recommended, but then I went to go get them and they were sold out. I
[00:03:25] Natalie McMillan: know everybody's like, I can't find
[00:03:27] Corinne Foxx: them where. Yeah. So I got the everything, but the bagel, potato chips, which I'm not going to lie. We're average, maybe below average, they were a four out of, out of 10. Oh
[00:03:37] Natalie McMillan: no. Cause I won't get that. I really want to try one.
That's why I got them. So you can try it on air
[00:03:42] Corinne Foxx: or I'm going to try it on air. Okay guys, here we go. Alive tasting. I don't want to crunch into
[00:03:47] Natalie McMillan: this though. Well, ASM are though. Oh, that was good. Yeah. In my ears. I was like, Ooh. Oh my God, are those not the best? Oh, this is going to be a problem. Oh, I go through like three bags a week.
I'm not even kidding
[00:04:02] Corinne Foxx: love. Cause it's yeah. It's like Pirate's booty, but peppery, peppery. It's exactly what it's at the peppery
[00:04:08] Natalie McMillan: peppery Pirate's booty, but more luxurious.
[00:04:11] Corinne Foxx: True friend. Thank you so much. You're so welcome. Okay. So should we get into personal safety? So we do not end up on crime TV, court, TV, any of those TV, forensic files, ups.
[00:04:22] Natalie McMillan: I don't want Nancy grace knowing my name. Let's just say that. There we go. Well, basically every single day. Live with fear, not paralyzing all the time, but it's always there. It's omnipresent. Whether you're walking out of work in the dark, or you're asking a friend to watch your drink, we all know some personal safety tips, but we figured it's time to brush up on them.
Maybe even learn a couple of new ones. Okay. Yeah.
[00:04:44] Corinne Foxx: You know me? I'm stalked. Yeah. Come up on me. You're going to catch a lot of things, especially these hands, these hands, but there's gonna there's pepper spray. I have an alarm. Oh yeah. You're going to, you're going to jail. Yeah, I got, you're not going to take me
anywhere
[00:04:59] Natalie McMillan: anywhere if people come up.
Cause you know, people like to steal French bulldogs. Oh yeah. If people come up, if they get even a little closer, I grabbed the pepper spray and look at them straight in the face. Like I will pepper spray your ass. I feel
[00:05:12] Corinne Foxx: bad though. Cause I do that too. I'll put my hand on my pepper spray if I'm walking through a parking lot by himself or whatever.
And I always feel bad because I feel like the guy walking can see me and he's like, I think he's like, man, I'm not going to do anything. Yeah, well, not even
[00:05:25] Natalie McMillan: dry, but they can't be trusted. They can't be
[00:05:28] Corinne Foxx: trusted. So let your guard down ladies. So we like to start a lot of our episodes with some facts. So here's one, here's a fact so strongly.
Under privileged women. Those with relatively little education and older women are most likely to feel afraid to go out in the daytime. Wow. This is interesting young educated, urban women, students who have never been married and do not live with a partner are more afraid to go out at night. But. Those women are precisely the women that are likely to do so because they're young and they want to go out, but they're also the most afraid to go out at night.
So 60 days to fireball, right? What's also interesting is that 68.6% of women are afraid to go by certain streets. You know, I won't go down that one, but I'll go down this one. And then 69.4% are afraid to be in places with few people, nonetheless, to go out. At night alone. Oh,
[00:06:31] Natalie McMillan: I would never go out at night alone, like out to a bar.
[00:06:35] Corinne Foxx: Hell no, I can barely like if I have to go to the grocery store at night, I can barely get from the grocery store to my
[00:06:40] Natalie McMillan: car. Oh, panic. I don't think I'll go at night. I don't think I do go at
[00:06:45] Corinne Foxx: night. I've never went at night, but if I, if I had to, I'd be afraid about the 30 seconds in between my car and
[00:06:51] Natalie McMillan: in a building.
You just never know what's going to happen. Yeah. Another little fact here that women fear everyday life scenarios, more than men and are more likely to express quote unquote, great fear of certain scenarios like sexual assault, physical attack, and mugging. According to a new study, they're also more than twice as likely to experience fear walking or jogging in their own neighborhood at night, allowing maintenance workers inside their home alone and taking the garbage out.
Uh,
[00:07:22] Corinne Foxx: so this is so interesting because my assistant, Danielle, I'm putting stuff up in my house and we booked some construction workers to come in. And I said, when you booked them, you also have to come because I, during the day and I'm like, I just don't want to be alone with a man in my house. And then also with the taking garbage out alone at night, when Joe is over, he takes Archie out at night because I'm like, you don't understand, even though it's only 30 seconds for him to pee, I.
Convinced I'm going to be murdered. Oh,
[00:07:48] Natalie McMillan: 1000%. Cause I will take Zeplin out like for two seconds. And I'm like in these two seconds, a car is going to come back. Snatch me and I will be gone for real and somebody who's going to find Zeplin with Alicia attached, like what happened? It's going to be me. So why do women fear these situations more than men?
[00:08:10] Corinne Foxx: Yeah, well, I mean, it's pretty obvious. Women are more likely than men to be domestically abused. So if they're hurt by the men that they love, they're afraid that strangers could hurt them. But it makes sense. It makes sense. And there's other reasons too, women are scared any crime could lead to rape. So the fear of sexual assault is shadowing.
Every other fear and men are not nearly as likely to be raped as women are, women are physically weaker than men and women. You know, they can't fight off an attacker, especially as they get older. And also we've been socialized to be afraid. All the things that parents tell their children, socializes, that they should be, feel responsible for their own safety.
And yeah, we socialize girls to be terrified and we socialize boys to be tough. Wow. That's very true. That's all. According to Jody lane, who is a university of Florida sociology professor. Hm.
[00:09:06] Natalie McMillan: Well, you know what? I have one little thing for Jody lane. One little tiny thing that I wish he would change. I don't think that women are necessarily weaker than men physically.
But we're just smaller. We're just smaller people. I mean, a lot, you know, of course men can build more muscle, but there's some women out there that you and I could take down a mother like that. You know what I
[00:09:25] Corinne Foxx: mean? Well, you know, that's why I signed up for my, my what's it called? Your personal safety class?
That personal safety. It's self defense defense. My self defense class, because I do think I'm strong, but I wouldn't know what to do, but I mean, I will say there's times, sometimes me and Joe read. And I say, okay, like really try hard, like grab me. And I'm going to try to get out of this. And I can't, it's tough, you know, I really try, but guess if I had adrenaline pumping, maybe it could have more force and maybe I'm like, I don't want to actually hurt him, but I'm like, I sometimes will pin me and I'm like,
[00:10:00] Natalie McMillan: Yeah, well, okay.
So this just reminds me, my friend, Casey. She was here this weekend and she was talking about having what she calls quote unquote, big girl privilege because she's six feet tall and she was like, I am never like men do not try to push it. Because they're not going to try to fight a six foot tall woman like jacked.
Yeah.
[00:10:20] Corinne Foxx: She's uh, she's a personal trainer
[00:10:22] Natalie McMillan: instructor. Yeah.
[00:10:23] Corinne Foxx: So, so, okay. Getting into personal safety, what are some ways that we can increase our personal
[00:10:30] Natalie McMillan: safety? Okay. Okay. Well, according to east Tennessee university.edu, You know, number one, reduce or eliminate opportunities that may make you a target to increase awareness in the places you're most comfortable.
You can let your guard down when you're most comfortable. Okay. Three, trust your instincts, regardless of feeling embarrassed. I do that all the time. That's sort of like that. If you're going through and you feel bad. You've got your pepper spray out. Oh yeah. Don't feel embarrassed. I feel bad. That's true.
And then four prepare your schedule daily with safety in mind.
[00:11:09] Corinne Foxx: Yeah. Yeah. Like thinking about the routes you're going to take or, you know, how am I going to get inside? I mean, I already did that. Walk
[00:11:17] Natalie McMillan: to the store. Daylight,
[00:11:20] Corinne Foxx: right, exactly. Yeah. Around that. Yeah. So what are some other tips for our personal
[00:11:26] Natalie McMillan: safety?
Okay. Well, these actually came from the Catholic university of America. That sounds like a Colt, another.edu. It sounds like a gold though, but they've got great tips. Okay. So first tip, stay alert, competent and aware of your surroundings. Walk purposefully, and make eye contact with people around you. Trust your instincts.
[00:11:46] Corinne Foxx: I disagree. So I am somebody who makes eye contact with a weirdos on the street. Okay. That's your energy now they approach me. Yeah. Yeah. I, and they think, oh, I can approach her. Yeah. A lot of weirdos on the street that come up
[00:11:58] Natalie McMillan: to me. I think it's a combo though of you're walking with purpose and you're looking them dead in the face.
[00:12:03] Corinne Foxx: I can you can't run up on me. I see.
[00:12:05] Natalie McMillan: I see you. And also if a cop were to ask me what you look like, I know. Okay. Next tip. Avoid alleys shortcuts and vacant lots. Stick to well lit busy streets. Make sense. Walk with a companion whenever possible. Avoid displaying large amounts of cash. So use ATM's during daylight hours only.
I could be better about that. And if you are being followed abruptly changed directions, stay in a well lit area and seek safety in a public building. Oh wow. That's smart. Yeah. Go into the nearest
[00:12:40] Corinne Foxx: yeah. Public builders. One time I thought I was being followed and I was not, but I still thought I was, and I drove to a police station.
That was smart. Yeah. I was like, I followed
[00:12:50] Natalie McMillan: that one time we were in the car. Yeah, they did where they were following us. You're like, maybe there's something wrong with the car. Like we're like, what's happening. And they wore, oh yeah. I forgot
[00:13:00] Corinne Foxx: about that. Yeah, Gary. Well, there's a few apps that you guys can have as well that can help your personal safety one.
Yeah. So the. Safety apps are simple to use in a panic situation. And noon light is literally as simple as you get. It's like one button. So yeah, all you have to do is press your finger on the screen. If you feel unsafe at, after you lift your finger, the app will wait 10 seconds for you to enter a pin number in case it was like a false alarm.
And if you don't enter the pin noon, light will first attempt to contact you over the phone. And if you don't answer, the company will then contact the. Authorities and direct them to your location. So basically like when I take Archie out at night, when Joe isn't over, I am holding noon, light down the whole time.
Totally PS. But if someone were to run up on me, I would release it. And then in 10 seconds they would send a pin to the police. Like, this is exactly where she is. But sometimes they accidentally release it and I forget to put the pin in and they'll text me like, are you okay? What's going on? We're sending someone like, stay safe.
Oh shit, sorry. Hi. Sorry. I'm good. But you do have to pay for that service because there is someone like 24 7. Yeah. But. It really makes me feel safe. So
[00:14:13] Natalie McMillan: I have it. Well, here's another one. There's one called Strava, which is actually a social network for workouts. So it's used mostly to record long bike rides or runs.
So you might even have it already in order already use it, but there's a helpful feature on it called beacon that shares your real time location with anyone you choose along with what time you started your activity, how long you've been acting. And your phone's battery percentage, which is super cool.
And if you set up a check-in time with your chosen friend, they'll know when it's time to get worried, so they can also share your GPS with the, that was good
[00:14:48] Corinne Foxx: for people who go on long runs. Yes. You know, because I've listened to a lot of true crime and a lot of things happen on jogs. .
[00:14:56] Natalie McMillan: Well, we don't know.
We can't even, we can't even get into that
[00:14:59] Corinne Foxx: one. Um, okay. So another app is called, be safe and it's one of the most popular and comprehensive personal safety apps. Be safe, has a range of safety features for users. These can all be activated. Touch or voice command. It has an SOS button that will not only call for help, but also record audio and video of your surroundings in your contacts can even see and hear everything happening in real time via live streaming.
If you hit SOS now, you don't want to hit that. You know,
[00:15:31] Natalie McMillan: you that could get scandalous.
[00:15:34] Corinne Foxx: Um, the app also shares your location with friends and lets them use GPS to track your journey. And finally, there is a useful fake call feature that gets your phone to call you, which would just be helpful on a bad day.
Yes,
[00:15:47] Natalie McMillan: that's a really, I wonder if I have to pay for that one or not. Oh, I don't know. We have to look into you have to look into that one, but that's a really smart. Smart feature
[00:15:56] Corinne Foxx: so that one's called be safe, be safe, but along with apps, you can also have alarms on your person
[00:16:02] Natalie McMillan: as well. Step on your person.
So for one. Very basic, but there are a little, there are whistle key chains that you can get, you can get them at like sporting goods stores or just even on Amazon. There's a ton of options. You can just pop one of those on your key chain. They are allowed
[00:16:20] Corinne Foxx: as hell. I have a whistle, but it's, it's in my bedroom in case my building were to collapse and it would be under a rebel.
[00:16:29] Natalie McMillan: I think I said one time, it's like rose from what did she, she goes
on her little slab of whatever she's on the door. There's also personal alarms. So there is one called birdie. I have that one, which is basically just this little thing. You can connect it to your keys and. Pop it open it screams extremely loud and light.
[00:16:56] Corinne Foxx: Yeah. So you have the same thing. Mine's called be alarmed plus, but mine is here's has a light that flashes, but mine doesn't that flash a light, but yeah, if you were to pull it out, it also deters animals.
Like if, uh, like actually it was walking in my neighborhood in a coyote, walked down the street with. That's crazy. I know. And so like how to approach my person. I went up pop that thing. It would've been so loud. It would have startled. It
[00:17:19] Natalie McMillan: would have ran off for sure. And then there's flare there's this thing called flare it's a little bracelet and it comes equipped with a button that triggers a number of things.
should you ever find yourself in danger? So you can send your location in a text of five friends. You can receive a call that acts as your perfect way out of a sketchy situation, or it will connect you with 9 1, 1 direct blame. We love that. Yeah. And it's got the little built-in alarm. That is a real multi-use fan, but let's talk about defense.
Like, let's say we've pulled the alarm,
[00:17:55] Corinne Foxx: but we're still reading into layer two. Yeah. So one thing you can get is a key chain striking weapon. So essentially these are key chains that you can put your fingers through, like brass knuckles kind of, but instead of like the rounded edges, they have very sharp points that you could use.
Do. Stab somebody literally stab somebody and it can also be used to break a window in your car. Okay. So like, I don't know, like it, should you plunge into a lake? You could yeah. Pop it open. Or
[00:18:22] Natalie McMillan: if you were, if you did get kidnapped in the, yeah. You can smash their window open. Oh, I
[00:18:27] Corinne Foxx: love that. Another thing that you can get is the honeycomb hairbrush, concealed dagger.
You guys were trying to make you guys for again, CIA
[00:18:38] Natalie McMillan: Kim possible, a modern day. Kim POS.
[00:18:42] Corinne Foxx: So it has an innocuous appearance of like a simple hairbrush, but the fully functional brush also acts as a sheath that conceals an eight inch dagger and rather than use metal, it is made from stiff nylon and fiberglass composite.
So it isn't sharp like a blade, but it's actually at least. Wow. No, that these are not legal in all 50 states. So you have to really look it up before some of these things that aren't legal. I, yeah. You have to look up like your states.
[00:19:11] Natalie McMillan: Yeah. Like for example, stun guns slash tasers. They are an easy and legal actually.
They might
[00:19:19] Corinne Foxx: be legal. Oh,
[00:19:21] Natalie McMillan: that's why I say easy and legal way to carry protection without having to carry an actual weapon. When unlike a gun taser products can be easily purchased online. They're designed to incapacitate and attacker without causing permanent damage. So that is a way to offer an effective alternative to lethal force.
So
[00:19:41] Corinne Foxx: you don't want to kill them
[00:19:42] Natalie McMillan: off. I just want to stop them. If you don't want to rip out the dagger from your hairbrush, you just want him to go down. That could be for you also pepper spray. A one second blast of pepper spray will render an individual incapacitated for 15 minutes to over an hour. Oh wow.
[00:20:01] Corinne Foxx: I have pepper spray.
[00:20:03] Natalie McMillan: Yes, we've all got to have pepper spray. It's actually an inflammatory agent that will kick in immediately. It will induce coughing, choking nausea. It will dilate the capillaries of the eyes causing temporary blindness. Gosh, isn't that crazy? So unlike guns and firearms with strict.
Gun laws, pepper spray is legal in all 50 states. However, there are some regulations on what types of peppers break can be used, the strength of the spray and the size of the actual canister. So, you know, yeah. Keep, keep an eye on that. Also you can test it. You got to just give it a little test experts.
Believe that you should test it every 90 to 180 days. I've had mine for like five
[00:20:47] Corinne Foxx: years.
[00:20:48] Natalie McMillan: Maybe you should get a new one. So they do have expiration dates. Oh shit. Mine's expired. So it says you may need to replace them every 12 to 18 months. Oh yeah. Yeah. Your girl needs a new
[00:20:57] Corinne Foxx: one and you've tested yours.
Yeah, I had. Go out on a balcony with me. I did not pepper spray
[00:21:04] Natalie McMillan: pepper sprayed him in the face.
[00:21:05] Corinne Foxx: No, we just, we just sprayed it off the balcony to make sure it even came out. Yeah. I don't know. Maybe there's water in there. Who knows? But no, I did not spray Joe, but I did have him like test it with me. Yeah.
And that's what you should do. Yeah. And what about Macy's? I'm the same
[00:21:19] Natalie McMillan: thing. Yeah. Okay. So actually mace. Irritants similar to tear gas, whereas pepper spray is the inflammatory agent that will immediately take the person down. So the thing about maze is that it may not work against someone who is under the influence of drugs, which is why
[00:21:37] Corinne Foxx: like bath salts, like those people, like who like lift up cars, like you can't take them down.
Sometimes they have like superheroes.
[00:21:44] Natalie McMillan: Yes. And so the mace does not work for them. So just pepper spray across the board. I think there's this like rumor that mace is like strong. Oh, I see it's pepper
[00:21:54] Corinne Foxx: spray ladies.
[00:21:56] Natalie McMillan: Okay. personal.
[00:22:00] Corinne Foxx: What about our home? Yes. So you also need to wire your home for your personal safety.
You can get indoor cameras that stream to your phone. So one of the first home security features that many people install is security cameras and wild, old fashioned security cameras did their job well enough these days we prefer. Smart security cameras, which allow you to monitor your home right from your smart book.
So I have a little camera and I love to see what's going on outside on the balcony. Oh, aha. And if I like hear a little noise, sometimes I get scared and I'm like, okay, nothing's happening?
[00:22:33] Natalie McMillan: Yeah. I'll do that with my ring. I'm like my ring camera. I'm like, oh, what was that? Who was that? And then I'm watching them on my radar.
For
[00:22:40] Corinne Foxx: sure. You can also get a video doorbell, like you just said. Yeah. It seems outside. And these allow you to see who's ringing the doorbell before you open the door and you can even talk to them through the device. If you're not home or uncomfortable letting them in. Um, if you want the best smart doorbell, we recommend that, like you just said, the ring video doorbell too, which offers motion detection, alerts supports two way talk and features HD video with night.
[00:23:06] Natalie McMillan: Yeah. The night vision is actually very good. Okay. The other thing you can do is a full DIY home security system. So if you're thinking, installing a security system, a DIY option can let you adjust it to your needs without overspending.
[00:23:23] Corinne Foxx: Yes. So I go to home security system and. By the package, like they're pretty expensive, so, but you can get it like customized, like, okay.
I only need like two sliding glass doors things and the video one, I don't need the whole package. Right.
[00:23:36] Natalie McMillan: I can get them in every single
[00:23:37] Corinne Foxx: room. And a lot of these like online security brands, like allow you to pick and choose what you.
[00:23:42] Natalie McMillan: Yeah, so like ring, they have alarm security systems that you can just pick and choose the ones that fit your need.
You can monitor it yourself, or you can pay a monthly fee if you want somebody else to monitor a professional there's sliding door security bars for your patio. So sliding doors are known for having mediocre locks. And if you're worried about someone being. Open years from the outside, you might want to invest in a security bar.
So these are affordable products that are installed behind the door, that slides. And when you close the door, you simply put the bar up to prevent it from being opened.
[00:24:18] Corinne Foxx: Yeah. A lot of people do with broomsticks too. Oh yeah. Yeah. But those are those break easily. If you slammed them enough, really slammed it hard enough.
And then last thing that you can get, and there's a million things, but this is the last one we'll talk about is a reinforcement lock for added protection. So if you can't install a deadbolt on your door, you might be looking for a way to further secure the entry of your home. And a reinforcement lock is definitely the way to go.
These inexpensive and highly rated locks are easy to install and they're designed to resist up to. 800 pounds of forest. So basically no one's getting in unless you want them to. Um, and I've seen those on Tik TOK too. A lot of girls who live alone well, like at these reinforcement locks for their doors on top of their locks.
Wow. Okay. So what about some general tips about all of these products and services that we keep talking about?
[00:25:08] Natalie McMillan: Well, the number one thing is always just test it first. So a complicated new. Won't do you any good if the first time you use it is during a tense or panicked situation? Yeah. So as soon as you unbox the product or you get the app go through and do test runs, setting off certain alarms, sending your location to a friend or activating any of them.
SOS sort
[00:25:30] Corinne Foxx: of features. And a lot of the time I was reading, like the companies, like if you let them know ahead of time, like they'll let you run through the whole thing and know what to test run. So you can like reach out and say, Hey, I'm going to do this. Like, you know, and it's a false alarm. I just want to see what the process is like, and they'll let you do
[00:25:45] Natalie McMillan: it.
Yeah. That's cool. The other general tip and it seems obvious. It's just something to really focus on is to have it ready. So whatever type of product you're using, it's only gonna work if it's quickly accessible. So if you're on a solo jog, you're walking home alone at night, or you're navigating a dark parking lot, have your device in hand.
Cause you know, you don't want to be digging through your purse. Like, oh, some guy comes out from behind a Bush. You need to immediately. Tase
[00:26:16] Corinne Foxx: tase. You can write alarm set off your app, have the little spiky. Yeah.
[00:26:23] Natalie McMillan: What are they? The,
[00:26:24] Corinne Foxx: the, the knuckles with the snakes and not killer.
[00:26:28] Natalie McMillan: Yes. So this was kind of fun.
So a lady cup has these tips for
[00:26:33] Corinne Foxx: women. Oh, I'm so excited about things. Okay. Number one. This female cop says to never get into an attacker's car. If they pull a gun and they order you into their vehicle, most attackers don't want to shoot you. They want to get you in the car so that they can drive you to a deserted place, or, you know, God knows where else.
So do not comply. And instead runaway screaming, it is much more likely that they will just move on to an easier target. That makes sense. They don't wanna go down for murder. No. And, um, But even if they did, if you get in the car, they're going to murder you on the street, they're gonna murder you at some other place.
So you might as well risk and shot there. Got a chance. Just take it. Never go to a second. Location is number one. Another thing is while driving, this was something interest. Never pull over. If someone driving alongside soup points to your car, pretending something is wrong. So if this happens, drive to the nearest well-lit and populated gas station and look the car over yourself or ask the attendant, but believe it or not many women have fallen.
Fearing that there were like cars going to spontaneously like explode in the middle of the road, which is not likely. So some guys like, Hey, pull over. I'll help you. No, no, no. Nick now explode before
[00:27:45] Natalie McMillan: that I do that. Also one that I never knew was if a cop pulls you over and it looks a little suspect.
Calling the badge number. You do not have to open your door if they're like get out of the vehicle. Ma'am you do not have to, unless you're like, let me call your badge in first, because that's another ruse that men do really? Yes, because you can easily get the
[00:28:05] Corinne Foxx: lights. Oh my God.
[00:28:07] Natalie McMillan: Fucked up. All right.
Another tip. Always lock your doors while driving. We read several cases where an attacker simply walks up to a woman's car while she's at a traffic light and jumps in with gun and or knife drawn.
[00:28:25] Corinne Foxx: Oh, it stripped off of this girl at pumping gas and she was showing the security footage and she was like, literally look, she's pumping her gas.
The guy gets in her car from the other. Grabs her phone and, and leaves, but I mean layman, but, and she was like, my back was turned she's like, and I was there for like, it looks like a long time, but it's literally. 30 seconds. Yeah. You know, put it she's like I was putting in your zip code where your credit card, it takes it.
And he just popped in, grabbed it and left. But imagine if you sat in there and she'd got in and she didn't know he was behind her, you know? Yes. It's
[00:28:59] Natalie McMillan: very
[00:28:59] Corinne Foxx: possible to even lock your cars when you're getting gas.
[00:29:02] Natalie McMillan: Yeah. The things we have right now, When having your car serviced only give the attendant your car keys, and detached the keys to your home because they have key duplicators readily available and they generally have your address on.
So they could just be like, you know what, I'm going to go ahead and don't post a picture of your keys because there is a thing now where people can take, they can like screenshot. If you put like, oh, new house, key, whatever they can screenshot at 3d printers.
[00:29:33] Corinne Foxx: I thought about that. When I bought my new home, I wanted to post like the key of me holding it.
And I thought, nah,
[00:29:38] Natalie McMillan: people are getting too crazy out here. And finally stay alert in parking
[00:29:44] Corinne Foxx: lots. We've talked about parking
[00:29:45] Natalie McMillan: lots, like, yeah, but it's just true. You got to stay alert. If you're at the grocery store at night, don't be shy about asking it for an escort to your car. You can ask somebody that's in the store and be like, Hey, can you like walk me out to my car?
You know, when they always say, do you need help out to your car? And we were like, Yes, sir. Yes, I do. I actually do a lot of women are abducted from, or even raped in parking lots.
[00:30:07] Corinne Foxx: Oh my God. It's just like a, no. Okay. Not after this because you're going to have
[00:30:14] Natalie McMillan: your app. You're going to have your. You're going to be alert.
You're going to look people in the eyes. Yeah. You're going to have a hairbrush that, Hey, just kidding. I'm going to stab you in the neck. Yeah,
[00:30:25] Corinne Foxx: shoot. We're on the proud. Be scared of us on these streets. Well, we hope you learned more about how to stay safe on the street and in your home and feel confident to take your walks.
Jogs runs safely and securely. Yeah. And, uh, yeah, catch us in these streets, catch us in these
[00:30:42] Natalie McMillan: streets, walking our dogs fully armed.
[00:30:47] Corinne Foxx: Um, so now let's circle back on the wine. We've been drinking this episode and intro or YT of the week. All right.
[00:30:53] Natalie McMillan: We are drinking the David Hill Pinot noir from 2019 from Willamette,
[00:30:59] Corinne Foxx: Oregon.
Okay. And are, how do you have the weekends
[00:31:02] Natalie McMillan: or Hottie of the week? We were shocked. We didn't. Jason Mamoa and why did we choose him? Cause you know, he would protect, protect and serve, protect and serve. Like he kept just,
[00:31:13] Corinne Foxx: we escorted to my car by Jason, but I
[00:31:16] Natalie McMillan: would prefer if you would just like pick me up and take care.
Oh yeah. Like, so,
[00:31:21] Corinne Foxx: okay. Why did Jason Mamoa what are we thinking for this? Uh, what is it? It's a Pino Pino. I really like it. Okay. So what are you reading it?
[00:31:32] Natalie McMillan: I personally would give it a Mamoa.
[00:31:37] Corinne Foxx: I cannot match. Okay. I'm so sorry.
[00:31:39] Natalie McMillan: It's okay. That's why I said I personally, you know, I just live and breathe for a Willamette valley, Pinos.
The thing,
[00:31:47] Corinne Foxx: give it up. And this is crazy. I'm giving it a six. I don't love it. That is so weird. I know. And I love peanut. But it's just not for me. So, so if you're given an a 10, I'm giving them the six, it's about seven and a half and eight and eight and eight and eight. Jason Mamoa it's still great. It's great.
all right. This is the part of the episode where we play a little wrap-up game and this week we're playing. Fuck Mary . Mary Kay. It's been awhile. Do you want
[00:32:22] Natalie McMillan: me to go first?
[00:32:24] Corinne Foxx: I'll go first. Okay. So my fuck marry. Cal is bringing us back to our childhood.
[00:32:29] Natalie McMillan: This is so weird. Okay. I was thinking about something about our childhood earlier.
Oh, it's not, I didn't choose it though.
[00:32:36] Corinne Foxx: Powerpuff girls. Oh, Baba. Blossom
[00:32:40] Natalie McMillan: buttercup. Okay. So bubbles was the green one,
[00:32:43] Corinne Foxx: right? Bubbles was the blue one, the little light baby. Yeah. And then blossom was the red head with pink, with a pink. And then buttercup was the little black box. Yeah.
[00:32:56] Natalie McMillan: But the green, she was my girl.
Okay. So I'm killing bubbles. I just going to kill bubbles cause like.
[00:33:06] Corinne Foxx: Um, she was kind of a whiny little
[00:33:07] Natalie McMillan: baby. She was a little whiny baby and like, Could she really like do much for me? I don't think so. Okay. So buttercup while she is my number one gal, I don't think she'd make a good long-term partner. I agree.
She had anger issues. She had anger issues. So I'm just going to, we're going to fuck. We're going to two different. Could you read it for buttercup? Yeah. And then, so I will marry blossom because blossom was just lovely.
[00:33:32] Corinne Foxx: She was just very put together. I think she was like kind of the
[00:33:34] Natalie McMillan: leader of the group she was, and I need somebody like that to keep me in line.
So what are you doing that you'd be kept in line? Well, I just need somebody to like, you know, cause I can be all kinds of ADHD, very ADHD brain. And I need somebody to be like, Hey, yo, we're looking at this. You know what I mean? Yeah. I think Boston would do that for you. Yeah. So I'm going to marry her. Fun.
Okay. So mine is skinny, white tattooed boys. Oh, wow. I feel like you should be answering this. Well, you know, there's, these are the three of the fucking decades. I know Travis Barker machine gun Kelly, Pete Davidson. I
[00:34:10] Corinne Foxx: should have asked you this. They're way more. You're tight. Okay.
[00:34:16] Natalie McMillan: Okay. Okay. I get, but I'm annoyed with them though.
So I don't
[00:34:19] Corinne Foxx: say though, you guys, they are Natalie's type. They are my type 100%. Yeah. That is your tight. Yes. Your bread and butter. Okay. Um, Mary Kell,
[00:34:27] Natalie McMillan: the skinny tattoo tattooed white boys over the. I
[00:34:30] Corinne Foxx: have to fuck Pete Davidson. I mean, there's just no way the curiosity alone curious what
[00:34:35] Natalie McMillan: it is. Karen and I are manifesting being in the same room as him just to like, feel the energy.
Yeah. It's
[00:34:41] Corinne Foxx: like, I'm curious if it's like, when I met Obama, when I met Obama, there was something that emits from him that. Hit me, but I was like, oh shit, like there's, his energy is so powerful. And I'm like, I wonder if it's like that Pete Davidson, because he has his spell wrapped around Hollywood. Oh yeah.
The women of a woman in Hollywood are under his trance. So w we have to have luck and we have to know what it is. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. So that's off the table now. I there's no way Mary machine gun Kelly. I
[00:35:09] Natalie McMillan: have to marry Travis Bart. True.
[00:35:13] Corinne Foxx: Uh, but you have to, but I have to, so I would marry Travis. I would definitely, definitely fuck Pete Davidson.
And then I'd have to cut machine gun Kelly. I would agree on all three, just for his, uh, engagement ring
[00:35:25] Natalie McMillan: alone, Caitlin for the engagement ring. Did you see the engagement ring? Did she get it for him or the one he got for her? Oh, it's like the double thing. Yeah.
[00:35:37] Corinne Foxx: I just, I think he's a really nice guy though.
Sure. Super nice guy. He still must be killed. He must be killed in this scenario and this
[00:35:45] Natalie McMillan: scenario, and I fully agree with your choices.
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