[00:00:00] Corinne Foxx: Welcome back to another episode of Am I Doing This Right? I'm Corinne Foxx.
[00:00:08] Natalie McMillan: And I'm Natalie McMillan.
[00:00:09] Corinne Foxx: And we are best friends, confidants, millennials, and the hosts of Am I doing This Right? A life how-to podcast from the perspective of non-experts.
[00:00:19] Natalie McMillan: And each week we cover a new topic and we drink a new bottle of wine.
[00:00:22] Corinne Foxx: Yes. So we do not. And this week we are talking. Aging, Julie fully, fully joyfully. You guys, how to embrace getting older. Yes. We all got to do it and you see how we didn't use gracefully and we'll get to that. Put a pin in that. Yes. We're going to be talking about why we dread getting older. Some. People who achieved success later in life.
And why getting older doesn't have to be scary. You all,
[00:00:50] Natalie McMillan: it does not have to be scary and stay tuned till the end, because we're going to play BFF quiz, BFF quiz haven't done for awhile. And we got to do a little shout out so we put on the Instagram, we found a photo from years ago. Of me and a mystery person walking past me with his back.
He could only see the
[00:01:13] Corinne Foxx: banks in the back of this person's
[00:01:14] Natalie McMillan: head. And we said, if you're a diehard, Miu, we'll know who this is and the first person to say it, we'll get a shout out. So Kate bull at Kate Bush. She guessed it, it was G-Eazy, you're
[00:01:28] Corinne Foxx: a real
[00:01:29] Natalie McMillan: one. She is a real
[00:01:30] Corinne Foxx: diversity. It was even okay. You posted it.
And even I was like, okay, not it's either G-Eazy or Chris
[00:01:36] Natalie McMillan: Evans. Oh yeah. You were like, is this the Chris
[00:01:39] Corinne Foxx: Evans picture? Because, you know, we, we saw Chris Evans one
[00:01:41] Natalie McMillan: of those nights and it was like, kind of in that, like where how's
[00:01:45] Corinne Foxx: that? And so I thought I kind of even thought maybe it was Chris
[00:01:47] Natalie McMillan: Evan. Well, Kate Bush.
We love her. We
[00:01:51] Corinne Foxx: love you. There were other people that got it right. But she got it right. For a
[00:01:53] Natalie McMillan: couple of people. There were also very good guesses. They were the man that you want me to be with from my street. I just want
[00:02:00] Corinne Foxx: to make acids, whoever remembered
[00:02:02] Natalie McMillan: that person. The guy from glee that, oh,
[00:02:06] Corinne Foxx: the guy played the guy already, already, already.
Yeah. I always see that guy. It has been a wild though. He's
[00:02:14] Natalie McMillan: okay. I hope he's okay. I hope he's doing great. So that's that wanted to give a little shout out,
[00:02:21] Corinne Foxx: but not what are we doing, making this epi? Oh
[00:02:23] Natalie McMillan: my gosh. I'm very excited. One. It's a twist. We love that too. We love to say it. It's a reasoning. He is laying know it.
We love a reasoning. This is the three canoes dry reasoning from 2018. And it's from New Zealand. Oh, interesting. Very interesting. Could you hear that little,
[00:02:46] Corinne Foxx: that crunches, because it's a twist
[00:02:48] Natalie McMillan: top. We love the twist tops. Oh, thank
you.
[00:02:52] Corinne Foxx: Oh, oh, oh, oh. Oh. How about I'll do it. You've got little arms, very little arms.
Okay. So now I wanted to bring to her Amies because I really trust them with my life. I really trust them with my life. So you, so you guys know, well, you guys,
[00:03:06] Natalie McMillan: everyone knows Joe, everyone knows Joe. Everyone knows Joe. Joe's
[00:03:10] Corinne Foxx: my boyfriend. And he's moving in soon. And you know, I'm just kind of debating things right now because there's a bit of a red flag in our relationship.
And I just, I want to come to the Amies and I want you guys, please message us and tell me, is this a red flag? And Joe, if you're listening. You know what I'm going to say, Joe, and Joe's going to correct me, but I, I I'm very certain on this. Joe has never seen SpongeBob and he doesn't like
[00:03:44] Natalie McMillan: SpongeBob. Oh, okay.
Well that changes everything.
[00:03:49] Corinne Foxx: So th this is what Joe's argument is the first time I brought it up to me, he had said, you know, I didn't have Nickelodeon on my TV, so I never watched it. So
[00:03:57] Natalie McMillan: then in my head, I wouldn't have Nickelodeon on their TV. Well, it looks like channel 33 or something.
[00:04:03] Corinne Foxx: Or was that Disney was either dizzy or, yeah, it's like
[00:04:05] Natalie McMillan: 33 34 thirty-five or like the Disney cartoon network.
Nicholas. Exactly.
[00:04:12] Corinne Foxx: So, anyway, so his excuse was that he didn't, he didn't have it, so he never saw SpongeBob, but then later upon following up on this recently, I said we were laying in bed and I was like, Hey, we gotta follow up on the SpongeBob thing. And he was like, no, I watched it. I just didn't like it.
And I thought that's. SpongeBob is iconic it's icon. We once got an, a very heated argument because I said SpongeBob is one of the greatest cartoons of all time. And he was a trillion
[00:04:37] Natalie McMillan: percent. Oh my God. Oh my God. You know what he said? He said, no, you're going to say rocket power. No, I knew it.
[00:04:44] Corinne Foxx: I knew you were going to say about rocket power.
I said, does rocket power have a major. Thanksgiving day parade balloon every year.
[00:04:53] Natalie McMillan: Do people even know what rocket power is? What anymore?
[00:04:56] Corinne Foxx: The backpack they still have. SpongeBob is still on the air.
[00:04:59] Natalie McMillan: Fungi is still quotable also. Here's my, here's the SpongeBob. All of the, well, when we were writing this, we were talking about how though
the old lady that's like, she's just like
[00:05:13] Corinne Foxx: very adult. Exactly that the only cartoon my mom would watch with me. That's what I'm saying.
[00:05:18] Natalie McMillan: That's like, I guarantee you there's no parent that was like, oh, I can't wait to watch rocket power with my kid. It was like, my dad loved watching SpongeBob with me and I always just thought it was kind of weird it's because it was like extremely adult.
Yes. And now that I'm an adult and I see it again. Oh, my God, this shit's whole areas.
[00:05:35] Corinne Foxx: It's it was so good. And so anyways, you guys I'm like Joe, everything, you check all the boxes, but the SpongeBob box, I
[00:05:44] Natalie McMillan: don't know about the sponge box
[00:05:48] Corinne Foxx: sponge box. So you guys DM. DMS and let us know, is this a red flag and also, oh, we'll have to do a poll.
We'll have to do a poll SpongeBob verse, rocket power, which, I mean, there's just
no
[00:05:59] Natalie McMillan: way. No, I'm honestly going to think it's going to be 100% to zero. Like truly
Yeah. If anybody votes on it and sees that there's like a 100. That was Joe.
[00:06:13] Corinne Foxx: Ah, we love you. You're the best Joe is the best. He really is the bad. This is really the only thing in our relationship
[00:06:19] Natalie McMillan: that I'm like, we're not compatible. This is real concerning. And it's concerning. It's also just so quotable, you know, I'm trying to think of another quote.
There's so many, I mean, I'm just thinking of like may as Manet's an instrument, like there was like a Tik
[00:06:34] Corinne Foxx: TOK is out about
[00:06:35] Natalie McMillan: SpongeBob, which is like, Do you didn't forget my diet, soda
and plankton. Oh my God. The fund's song. Oh yeah. Your view is for uranium bomb me. It's like a, nine-year-old like, yeah,
[00:06:57] Corinne Foxx: one of the greatest, there's just no way. Hyper-realistic Zuni.
[00:07:03] Natalie McMillan: Yeah, Presby and scary. I
[00:07:09] Corinne Foxx: literally, I actually want to
[00:07:10] Natalie McMillan: watch, like, I would watch it as an adult. Oh, it's 100%. Yes. I'm like, can we get a kid on board so that we can just be like, oh, just watching SpongeBob when my kids, oh my God.
[00:07:20] Corinne Foxx: Okay. Let's get into aging, joyfully. And how to embrace getting older.
[00:07:27] Natalie McMillan: So we actually, we put out a little thing on our Instagram asking for some episodes suggestions. And so this was a am I requested episodes? You may
[00:07:34] Corinne Foxx: have not gotten the, the message here. You need to be on our Instagram,
[00:07:38] Natalie McMillan: on the Instagram.
There's a whole
[00:07:40] Corinne Foxx: new world happening
[00:07:41] Natalie McMillan: over on the Instagram for what are you doing? So we got that little suggestion and we thought it was a good one to dive into, since there's a lot of misconceptions about what it is to get older. And we've noticed that as we approach, you know, the big 30, there were about 20, about 28 that people are making a big deal out of it.
Like we're about to like disintegrate into sin air or something like, oh my God, sir. But, I mean, I think I can speak for us both and say like, we're both looking forward to our
[00:08:10] Corinne Foxx: thirties. I was until I was getting close to it. Oh. When I was like 23, I was like, oh my God, I can't wait to be 30. And now that I'm 28 on my wait.
Oh, hold on. Wait, hold on. Yeah,
[00:08:21] Natalie McMillan: but it's not because you're getting older. It's just because it's like, oh wow. Time goes so fast.
[00:08:25] Corinne Foxx: Yeah. It's more like that. But I think I really need this episode too. Yeah. We,
[00:08:30] Natalie McMillan: we all need this episode when we really wanted to learn how to embrace the getting older.
[00:08:36] Corinne Foxx: So let's get into some facts about getting older.
Yes. Okay. Well,
[00:08:40] Natalie McMillan: first off, what even is quote unquote old? Interesting.
[00:08:45] Corinne Foxx: Well, according to a New York times article, most people wouldn't say that a 38 year old qualifies as being. Actually once you pass the median age of 37.8, you may statistically be considered. Oh, that is from Tom Ludwig, who is a Emiratis professor of psychology at hope college in Holland, Michigan, but do not panic because that same article also mentioned that studies have shown that people start feeling old.
Sixties and a pew research center survey found that nearly 3000 respondents said 68 was the average age at which old age begins. So if you're not close to 68, you don't have to worry about feeling the effects of aging. But it was a little, I'm a little surprised that after 37.8, I am older than most of the population statistically,
[00:09:48] Natalie McMillan: but you've still got a good 30 years
[00:09:50] Corinne Foxx: before.
Feel it. Yeah. That did trip me out because about 10 years away from that,
[00:09:56] Natalie McMillan: that's like, oh, that's a little interesting. That's a little
[00:09:59] Corinne Foxx: interesting. A little interesting. Okay. So now why do we even dread aging in the first place?
[00:10:05] Natalie McMillan: So we've all heard the saying, you know, never ask a lady her age, but why is that?
It's because once we reach a certain point in our lives, we start to dread getting older. We fear it, we load that and we do everything we can do to stop it. And the billion dollar beauty industry banks on it. So are you freaked out about waking up one day and not recognizing yourself in the mirror in today's youth obsessed culture, more and more people associate aging with losing beauty and even love and
[00:10:37] Corinne Foxx: respect.
And I would say for women, oh yes, it's really it's women too. I mean like men, you know, silver foxes, I feel like as men get older, it's like, Ooh, the age, like a fine wine, but then it's like women get older. You suddenly have no value.
[00:10:52] Natalie McMillan: I was like, oh, she really like, let go of herself. It's like, what the fuck?
Yeah. Yeah. So it can trigger a lot of anxieties also about becoming sick or even dying. Fearing death is very normal. So aging, you know, it, it makes sense. Sense. Another piece of this dread puzzle is expectations. So many people put expectations on a number of. By the age 30, I will have achieved this by 35.
I'll be married 40, you know, the list goes on and on and many times we don't want to meet these ages because we've put pressure on ourselves to have achieved some big landmark success by then. Yeah. Which is also when I think back. Do you ever think back to like your college years or when I was like 18 and I was like, when I'm graduated at 23 or however old, I was 22, I'm going to be married.
I'm going to have a house.
[00:11:44] Corinne Foxx: Really? I really like 27 was that year for me. When I was in college, I was like 27. I will be married and I will have a kid. I will be pregnant. Yes, 29. I'm like, I am 28 right now. There's no way I'm not having a baby at any time soon.
[00:12:01] Natalie McMillan: No, I fully, yeah. 27 felt like that's a great age to like settle down and have a baby I'm like, but it's like, I truly could never imagine.
I know,
[00:12:10] Corinne Foxx: but yeah. And it's so funny that it goes even beyond that, like for where you want to be at 40, like how established you want to be, how much money went out with in the bank right now? Like all these things that like, I don't even know. I think we get from movies. Like where do we even get this
[00:12:24] Natalie McMillan: from?
I don't have any
[00:12:25] Corinne Foxx: idea. Also if I think about my grandma, my grandma had four kids by the age of 22.
[00:12:32] Natalie McMillan: Oh my God. Oh my God. I know that was like the common thing she does. Well, just all of them. I think my grandma had six by the time she was like 35 or so. That's insane, crazy,
[00:12:47] Corinne Foxx: but we don't need to be like worried about these successes or these like ages.
There are, you can achieve success at any age. And there are a lot of celebrities who have, Ooh, let's dig into that. So number one is Julia child, Julia public. First cookbook at 50 years old today. And then she turned into a celebrity chef with her own TV show. She also became the first woman to be inducted into the culinary Institute of America's hall of fame.
They're also making a show about her. I
[00:13:22] Natalie McMillan: just saw an ad for
[00:13:23] Corinne Foxx: it. Yeah. That's one veer, Wang who actually did not know this. She is one of the most famous designers today, and it's really hard to imagine VR weighing doing anything but building her fashion empire. But before she was creating runway clothing and wedding dresses, she was a figure skater.
What in a journal? And Vera did not enter the fashion industry until she was 40 years old. And it just goes to show that it's never too late to change careers or change a passion. Like she was not studying this her whole life. It wasn't her. It was something she did later in life. I believe she was a
[00:13:57] Natalie McMillan: figure skater.
That's crazy. I saw a picture of her the other day and I was like, this woman looks incredible. And I'm like, maybe it's all that figure skating. Maybe she like, you know, her muscles or something. I don't know. Yeah,
[00:14:10] Corinne Foxx: another person is Tony Morrison. So the Nobel Pulitzer prize winning author wrote her first novel, the bluest eye at age 40, while she was working at random house as an editor, she won the Pulitzer prize when she was 56 and her Nobel prize in literature at 62.
Wow. I know, I really want to write a book in my life, like a, like a non-fiction book. Yeah. It's going to have to be later because I don't have time, right? Oh yeah. I don't know how you know how to be like yeah. Yeah.
[00:14:40] Natalie McMillan: Books have got to be really hard. It's
[00:14:42] Corinne Foxx: good for her. Yeah. And then the last celebrity we have on here who actually did not know was this age because she looks so great.
Yeah. Is Laverne
[00:14:50] Natalie McMillan: Cox, the Emmy nominated actress and trans rights activists rose to prominence with her role in Netflix is orange. Is the new black in 2013. 41. She was 14, not crazy. In 2014, she graced the cover of time magazine at age 42 and at 45, she was nominated for her first Emmy. She looks
[00:15:12] Corinne Foxx: fabulous.
I had no idea. It
[00:15:16] Natalie McMillan: means, okay, wait in 2014, she was 42. So how old is she? I think she's in her fifties still looking incredible. Yeah.
[00:15:27] Corinne Foxx: Right. She's like my parents' age. Yeah. My mom is 53, 52 53. My dad's 54. Wow. Wow. You would never know. No, but you know, that goes to the term that we always hear all the time that she's like aging gracefully.
This is kind of where we're talking here. Should we be aging gracefully or should that be what we're striving for?
[00:15:49] Natalie McMillan: Right. Okay. So this is up for debate. So according to a Ted article by Ingrid Lee, she says, quote, the dominant discourse on aging, especially when it comes to women, revolves around quote unquote aging gracefully.
So this generally involves. Least three to five years younger than you actually are. Well, not appearing to do anything to
[00:16:13] Corinne Foxx: get that way. Yeah. That was a thing like, oh, I just drink a lot of water. Yes. You know, it's like, oh, she looks so good for her age and she's done nothing. She's done
[00:16:22] Natalie McMillan: nothing. She's never
[00:16:23] Corinne Foxx: done anything.
Yeah. And it's like, what are you thinking? Like, right. Just send light. Ingrained Burien juice
[00:16:29] Natalie McMillan: yet. It also means, you know, people say acting your age by wearing age appropriate clothes. So like miniskirts have an expiration date. Apparently, you know, you're never going to get me out of my jorts. It's never going to happen.
I'm having age appropriate hair, doing age. Titties, but maybe doing one or two surprisingly useful things like surfing or tap dancing. That don't seem like you're trying too hard yet. Let people know you're still,
[00:16:57] Corinne Foxx: yeah. There's like to age gracefully. It's like this fine line of like, oh wow. She looks incredible.
She's done nothing. And she like really carries herself well, but then she still does fun, young things, but not too much. And it's like this. W w w what would we do in yellow? Yeah. It's literally a calculation. That to be perfectly. Gray stuff. Right? Right.
[00:17:18] Natalie McMillan: So this is why Ingrid Lee, she suggests aging joy
[00:17:22] Corinne Foxx: Felly, which
[00:17:23] Natalie McMillan: she says is not seeing aging as something to defeat and conquer, but rather something to embrace and celebrate what gets better with age.
We can also work to amplify these joys while mitigating the losses of youth. We can also redefine aging gracefully to mean, and this is according to health. Aging gracefully. Isn't about trying to look like a 20 something it's about living our best life and having the physical and mental health to enjoy it.
Like a bottle of wine. You can get better with age with the right
[00:17:58] Corinne Foxx: care. That's what I want. That's really what I want. Yeah. The
[00:18:01] Natalie McMillan: right care you
[00:18:04] Corinne Foxx: got or were they just stay sharp? I want my mind to be sharp. I want my body to like, be as healthy as it can be and active, but I'm not trying to fit into someone else's.
Definition of what aging gracefully.
[00:18:17] Natalie McMillan: I don't need to look 20 when I'm 70. That's crazy. I just don't. You know what I mean? Yes. So Corrine, how can we embrace getting older and age joyfully?
[00:18:29] Corinne Foxx: Yeah. Well, there's some fun things that we can start doing. We can go on these things called awe walks in a study of older adults, according to Ingrid Lee from the.
Aging, joyfully revelation. Researchers found that taking an all walk, a walk specifically focused on attending to vast or inspiring things in the environment, increased joy and pro-social emotions, feelings like generosity and kindness, more than simply taking a stroll in nature. And this is so funny.
Cause my mom, the other day out of nowhere, she sent me this picture. I think parents do this though of a tree and it was like, I have to look at this tree. It was just like, oh, here it is. Here. It is pretty tree in my parking lot. Just a reminder to her. Appreciate the beauty all around you. Oh no, it's not.
Natalie. Look at the tree. It has little flowers
[00:19:28] Natalie McMillan: on it. Do you want to see what my mom texted me randomly today? Picture? Oh, we
[00:19:33] Corinne Foxx: have like a toaster strudel.
[00:19:35] Natalie McMillan: Oh, corn dogs and want to read the kids. She said, it says
[00:19:39] Corinne Foxx: my adult easy bake oven on turbo ConvaTec. Those are corn dogs and they are heading towards.
[00:19:47] Natalie McMillan: Perfect. Perfect. Perfect. Oh, wow. So we can post this to the Instagram. You see what our, what our moms, the tree and the corn dogs in the dozer.
[00:20:00] Corinne Foxx: They are enjoying the beauty around them. And if it's corn dogs or
[00:20:04] Natalie McMillan: listen, they're joy. My mom is absolutely joyfully eating those corn dogs. You know, it.
[00:20:10] Corinne Foxx: Again, another thing that we can do to embrace getting older and age joyfully is to have social groups, a vast of studies, a good summary of them actually have affirmed that people who participate in social activities, such as attending church, going to the movies, playing cards, or being go, or going to restaurants or sporting events is linked with decreased mortality among older adults.
Okay. Next thing is. You're as old as you think research has confirmed the long held belief that you're only as old as you feel. Yeah. Studies have shown that as people age, they identify less and less with their actual ages. Feeling more youthful can have protective effects against depression, dementia, and more.
I have to sing praises to my dad here. My dad and I, I, you know, I rag on him cause I'm like, oh God, he's like, oh, he's acting like he's younger than he is. He dresses younger than, you know, most 54 year olds do. But he exercises like he's younger than he. Is, he looks way so much younger. He listens to young music.
He surrounds himself by young, young
[00:21:22] Natalie McMillan: people, energy than me. He
[00:21:24] Corinne Foxx: has so much energy, but, and he always tells me, so it's Korean. I do this because I can't think that I'm old. Cause I will
[00:21:31] Natalie McMillan: become old. The other point before he's in a lot of social things, a lot of social groups, he's got his friends, he's got things he does.
Yeah.
[00:21:39] Corinne Foxx: So it really pays off and you can see it on him. Like.
[00:21:43] Natalie McMillan: Young. Well, it's crazy too. Cause if you think about it, like how old is he now? 54, 54. There are some 54 year olds that look like older than 54. And there, you know, like grandparents. Yeah. Wow. This is a stark diff like J LO's like 50 something too.
I don't know how that's probably better than me. It's insane. Well, you know, and that's also her saying that that was all from olive oil. Me, miss me with that. J-Lo another thing you can do to aid joy Philly is to find your passion. So whether you enjoy gardening, swimming, or spending time with your grandkids embracing what's important to you can help you feel more youthful.
Noel Nelson. She's the author of happy, healthy. Dead. Why, what you think you know about aging is wrong and how to get it right. We'll have that title. She says don't so much focus on your years. Put more focus on what you love to do. Find something that really, really turns you on and go for it with every ounce of your being.
Passion. I love that God find that passion also let go of outdated notions. So don't identify with outdated stereotypes about older adults, just because you've hit a milestone birthday doesn't mean you shouldn't be active or involved anymore today. People stay in the workforce longer and take better care of themselves than previous generations
[00:23:07] Corinne Foxx: that I think that's also what you're saying.
Like, I love my grandparents to death and like, you know, but I will say they're from a generation in which. They're in their seventies and they think they're in their nineties. I call my grandma and I'm just like, you never know any day now we're out of here. I'm like grandma, you're in a literal perfect
[00:23:23] Natalie McMillan: health.
Right. Cause she's young. She
[00:23:25] Corinne Foxx: grandma's young. Grandma's like 72 and I'm just like, girl, you know? But she was from that generation where she just is like, yeah, well, shit it's over. But
[00:23:34] Natalie McMillan: I'm like, they turned 50. I'm going to hang it up.
[00:23:37] Corinne Foxx: Seriously. My grandma's been saying that
[00:23:39] Natalie McMillan: since you was 50, which is absolutely, but
she
[00:23:42] Corinne Foxx: comes from a generation where people actually didn't live that long.
It's you know, like all, you know, her Grant's parents probably died at 60, 70 years
[00:23:49] Natalie McMillan: old, you know, saying they would retire at like actual,
[00:23:53] Corinne Foxx: like, yeah, I really am one foot out, you know, in the grave. And I'm like, grandma,
[00:23:58] Natalie McMillan: it's crazy how people don't look like. Cause I have a picture of my granddad on my frigerator.
When I was a baby and in the picture, he's like, this was like 50 something. And in my head, I mean, he has fully white hair and in my head, I'm like, my dad right now is 65. 20 years younger than my granddad did in that picture. I know it's so
[00:24:17] Corinne Foxx: weird. We know we're going to look good at that. Look at where our parents are at and I'm like, we're going to, when we're 50,
[00:24:23] Natalie McMillan: we're going to look, we're going.
Wouldn't be, gosh, darn immortal. Seriously. Lastly, exercise is your friend. It's often touted as a way to stay healthy and vibrant at any age, but one finding that makes it particularly relevant as we get older is that movement has been. Studies to increase the size of the hippocampus, which is a part of the brain that plays a vital role in learning and memory.
This is important because the hippocampus shrinks as we age, which can lead to memory deficits and increased risk of dementia. In one study of older adults, exercise increased hippocampus size by 2%, which is equivalent to reversing one to two years of age related
[00:25:06] Corinne Foxx: decline. Wow. I'm very happy that like, I feel like both of us, like exercise is just like incorporated into my life.
Like I just. It will never not be in my life. Yeah. Which makes me, I'm worried because, you know, I have a weird memory. My memory is a little shaky,
[00:25:22] Natalie McMillan: you know what? I'll keep you stay sharp. We're going to keep it sharp. Actually. I want to say something really quick because I was working out this morning and my Pilates class, and she was doing these things where she was like, okay, you're.
Like open your leg one way, but then you're going to bring the weight in the opposite way. And she's like, cause I w I want you to like, work your brain and your body. And I was like, oh,
[00:25:42] Corinne Foxx: you know, on tick-tock, there's this guy who does his little hand exercises to get your brain. So it's like open one hand, open the other, and then like, you have to, you know, you have to like get, but it helps work both right and left
[00:25:54] Natalie McMillan: side of your brain.
Yeah. It's a real Fang. So let's talk about. Upsides of getting
[00:26:00] Corinne Foxx: older. Yeah. It's not bad. Actually. You are happier and less stressed according to Michelle. Gielan what it is that how you would say that would say Geelong Dylon, founder of the Institute of applied positive research and author of broadcasting, happiness frustrations are not as big a deal at age 50 as they might've been at 30.
She says also as we age. Often simplifies and fewer demands on our attention can mean that we feel less stressed and scattered. Some studies have found that people are happiest in their sixties and seventies. Grandma, grandma, exactly. Another upside of getting older is that your emotion stabilize and life feels more manageable.
Debra Carr, who has a PhD, a professor of sociology at Rutgers university. She says that as people grow older, they develop a greater capacity to regulate their feelings, which means the highs aren't quite as euphoric as the giddy teen days. But for many's the lows aren't super bleak either. So that goes back to being happier.
You know, it's
[00:27:12] Natalie McMillan: like, everything just feels more like I can do this.
[00:27:15] Corinne Foxx: Another thing is that you care less about what people think. So according to Dr. Carr and studies done by the American psychology association, our desire to fit in with others, begins to plummet after young adulthood, doing what you think is right, is much more of a driver than doing what you believe will make you fit in more with other people's expectations.
As people get older, they get a little bit more, you know, give a fuck. Well, sometimes a lot of people like say she. Yeah. Yeah. It's like, okay,
[00:27:45] Natalie McMillan: you got,
[00:27:45] Corinne Foxx: do not say that dressing a little bit more eccentric. Sometimes
[00:27:49] Natalie McMillan: I love my God. You know, I'm going to be that old lady that like looks wild and says crazy things to people.
And I can't wait. There's actually some health benefits of getting older. So a big fear when it comes to aging is what can happen with our health. But did you know there are actually some upsides, for example, as we age, sweat glands, start to shrink and become less sensitive. So for those of you who are prone to major sweating, you can look forward to relief when you're on.
Even migraines appear to drop off with age. Once you're past menopause, they may be gone for good. Which researchers say is because migraines may come from hormonal changes, you know, and then another thing you can look forward to is catching fewer cold and having less tooth sensitivity,
[00:28:36] Corinne Foxx: such sensitive teeth.
Oh my God. Me too. I am
very
[00:28:39] Natalie McMillan: much looking forward to that. And less cold. Hell yeah. I don't know how that works. Yeah. It might get seems
[00:28:45] Corinne Foxx: like old people, but actually they're not really actually sick all the time. You just don't want to get them sick. Exactly,
[00:28:52] Natalie McMillan: exactly. But I guess they don't really see my grandma.
I don't think it's had a cold and I don't even know how. Another benefit as you may even feel younger than you did when you were actually young, the older people get the younger, they feel relatively speaking among 18 to 29 year olds about half say they feel their age while about a quarter, say. Older than their age and another quarter say they feel younger by contrast among adults 65 and older, 60% say they feel younger than their age compared to 32, who say they feel their age and only 3% say they feel older than their age.
Fair. That's really interesting. And a lot
[00:29:35] Corinne Foxx: of that has to go back to the expectations you have at a certain major, like, okay, well, when I'm 65, I'm going to feel like shit. And then you're like, oh wait, I actually feel really good. I feel great.
[00:29:43] Natalie McMillan: And maybe also. Maybe when you're younger and you have kids or something, it's just like, I am fucking tired.
[00:29:50] Corinne Foxx: You know, what are some clinically proven ways to feel and look your best as you age? Yeah. We've got
[00:29:57] Natalie McMillan: a list of things for aging, but honestly, these are good guidelines to follow. Every age, plus if you make sure to incorporate all these things, now you'll be doing a lot of the preventative or which is, you know, we got to prevent some things.
So take good care of your skin and always wear a sunscreen. That's a big one. Oh my God. You know, all the, like my grandma had a huge piece of her face taken out, basically because it was skin cancer. They have to keep digging out until they like get it two and a half hours of exercise a week. And this can even
[00:30:32] Corinne Foxx: be walking, walking, like all you have
[00:30:34] Natalie McMillan: to do is walk truly.
That's actually really all you have to do, be mindful of your diet. So fresh fruits and veggies will take you a very long. Literally, literally keep stress at bay by focusing on your mental health and wellbeing, quit smoking and drink no more than eight drinks per week. I thought that was kind of a. But that's like a recommended like eight drinks a week.
That seems like a lot. That seems like,
[00:30:59] Corinne Foxx: I think, well, think about it. People have one every night, like you have a glass of wine every night. Yeah,
[00:31:03] Natalie McMillan: that would be seven. Okay. Cause I'm, I guess I don't drink during the week. I don't drink like, wow. Eight on a Saturday. That's crazy. Getting enough, sleep drinking.
Plenty of water going to the doctor regularly have
[00:31:17] Corinne Foxx: a
[00:31:17] Natalie McMillan: episode on. Yes we do. So, you know, scroll down, find that one and take good care of your oral hygiene. Hmm, those are all seems interesting. That's the last one naturally, listen, you know, I take great care of my oral hygiene. I just don't like the dentist
[00:31:33] Corinne Foxx: that does not qualify.
You cannot say you have great oral hygiene. If you're not getting signed up by a doctor. Okay.
[00:31:39] Natalie McMillan: Well, I brush and floss every single night. I'm just letting you know that I'm just letting my biggest flex in life is that I literally floss. I don't know a day where I've not flight at two in the morning and at night, if it feels good, I don't understand why people don't like doing
[00:31:54] Corinne Foxx: that know it's really odd to me.
I had this like weird thing in my head where, you know, every time you, well, not you, but every can we go to the dentist? They're always like, oh, you know, you could work on this a little bit more. I was like, I'm going to go to the dentist and they're going to say, wow, You are flossing amazingly. So every year, every like every other six months, you'd be like, I'm gonna go ahead.
She's going to say it this time. And she was like, she wouldn't say anything. She said it. She was like, wow.
[00:32:18] Natalie McMillan: You're
[00:32:18] Corinne Foxx: flossing amazingly. I was like,
[00:32:21] Natalie McMillan: yes, that's always what they would say. Like when you can fly,
[00:32:25] Corinne Foxx: it's like,
[00:32:26] Natalie McMillan: are you flossing? And I'd be like 12 and be like, yes and no, I wasn't 12. No.
[00:32:33] Corinne Foxx: Well, we hoped you learn more about aging, how to age gracefully and joyfully, but more importantly, joyfully and how to take care of yourself now.
For the future. Yes. We love you guys. And we want you to be here if we're
[00:32:49] Natalie McMillan: ever on everybody to be
[00:32:50] Corinne Foxx: around absolutely forever. So now, should we circle back on the one that we've been drinking this epi? Yes. It's the
[00:32:58] Natalie McMillan: three canoe. Dry Riesling 2018. And it's from New
[00:33:03] Corinne Foxx: Zealand, the land and our Hottie of the week who I'm six cited about.
She in one of my fears of these was her ever monster in law.
[00:33:11] Natalie McMillan: Um, Jane Fonda's are Hottie this week because also listen. But we chose her because she is out there. She like, got arrested a few years. This woman's like 86.
[00:33:23] Corinne Foxx: Well, she's like an activist and she's working. Yeah. She's very sharp. And she's a nice woman.
Yes. We love her. We love her. And she always, she was exercising a lot, a lot of her life. Yeah. She had her little videos and she's thriving. The old issue.
[00:33:41] Natalie McMillan: I truly believe she's like 86. Oh, let me tell you. While I pull up our best friend quiz. Cause you know, that's next,
[00:33:50] Corinne Foxx: she's 84, 84. She's 84 and she's working and twerking.
Wow. I really want to see that movie. She was in Barbarossa. Have you ever seen it? No Barbarella. That's what she's famous for Barbera. Wow. This is. This is looking at her who ended up the galaxy. Oh yeah. This was like, it's like her iconic, um, thing that like put her on the map. She didn't find Barbarella.
Okay. Good old Jane. Okay. One to Jane Fonda. What do we think of the three canoes Riesling?
[00:34:24] Natalie McMillan: Um, it's, you know, the thing that sex is, we always have to compare it to our favorite, which is brand Borg, the brand word reasonings, our favorite.
[00:34:34] Corinne Foxx: Hmm. It's really hot today. And if I was like, by pools by a pool, I would love that.
Yeah.
[00:34:41] Natalie McMillan: I'm going to give it a nine.
[00:34:43] Corinne Foxx: I can give it a seven and a half seven to make it really hard. It's going to be an 8.25.
[00:34:49] Natalie McMillan: Is there any 0.2, five? You know, I can't do the
[00:34:51] Corinne Foxx: math or something like that. Somewhere in the eight. It's an it's an eight somewhere in the eighth, somewhere around
[00:34:56] Natalie McMillan: that. 8.4, just like Jane Fonda is 84.
[00:35:02] Corinne Foxx: They 8.4 and a Jane Fonda.
all right. This is the part of the episode where we play a little wrap-up game. And this week we're doing the BFF quiz, B F F.
[00:35:21] Natalie McMillan: I know, well, this is the thing, so I'm looking it up. And I feel like the one that we used to play is no longer a thing because oh, oh no, no. I found it. I found it. Okay. This is one where you like, choose the number.
Oh, fun. You know? Okay. So you go forth and, you know, we always choose the same numbers that we've always
[00:35:42] Corinne Foxx: done by shoot. Well, I, I number just came to me. 17, 17,
[00:35:46] Natalie McMillan: 17, 17, 17. Is there a smell that reminds me. We have, okay. It's from one to 40, 39 39. Watch it be another one we've already done ad that, that though.
Oh my God. Oh my God. I'm scared. I cannot believe this is the question. What is it? When we're 85 years old, what will we be doing together? Oh my God. I hope our
[00:36:13] Corinne Foxx: podcast. And it's just going
[00:36:14] Natalie McMillan: to, can you
[00:36:15] Corinne Foxx: believe that that was the question can cause a synchronicity synchronicity can, when we're 85 years old?
Well, I hope we're living close to each other and oh my God. How fun, how much fun would we have when we're
[00:36:26] Natalie McMillan: 85? Because you know, we would be really.
[00:36:29] Corinne Foxx: Oh, oh, oh my God. There's so many things. Um, I hope we're still doing like little witches circles. Yes. You know, with our kids or something. Yes. We, we kind of Coogee together.
I see us. What do you think? I think, yes. I think people like our kids love to be an old Winnie with you.
[00:36:48] Natalie McMillan: Oh, for sure. We should do our Salem pilgrimage just like every year until we're like a hundred. And then maybe we'll be like, Salem. Like, they'd be like, oh, those two come every single year only then
[00:37:00] Corinne Foxx: maybe we'll hunt the blades.
[00:37:02] Natalie McMillan: You send them. We can haunt it later. Oh my God. I also feel like, you know, we're not cruise ship people, but I definitely could see as, oh my God. Oh, I love to go all in crew. All inclusive situations. Oh my God. How fun with them?
[00:37:18] Corinne Foxx: Yeah, it would be traveling and, uh, conjuring traveling.
[00:37:23] Natalie McMillan: Yup. Pretty much. Okay.
Which number? And I am I going to choose? I'm going to choose 31. I hope that's not only 40 times. No.
[00:37:33] Corinne Foxx: What is it? What's the first thing I would do if I won the lottery.
[00:37:39] Natalie McMillan: I don't think we've asked that.
[00:37:40] Corinne Foxx: No, we, the last one was like, if I had $5,000 in an hour to spend it on, but what would be the first thing I do if I won the lottery?
I know what it is, but I don't know if you're not going to
[00:37:51] Natalie McMillan: get it. I mean, I would say that you would invest it into something. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. What would you, I
[00:37:57] Corinne Foxx: mean, I would buy my mom a really nice house. I'd fix it first. That's kind of like investing it. Yeah. I would do something of that nature.
Like invested, buy a house or. Buy a jet, you know, something. Yeah. Like I'm
[00:38:11] Natalie McMillan: just gonna like go buy a, a yacht. Yeah. And then park it in Miami and never look at it again. Now, the first
[00:38:17] Corinne Foxx: thing I would do is like buy my mom a new house or just fit. My mom was a hole in her house and I'm like, mom, this is going to clap.
Yeah. Oh, there's a hole. And she just like, we should, we just don't talk about the whole and I go, mom, someone needs to fix that. And she's like,
[00:38:35] Natalie McMillan: yeah,
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[00:39:14] Natalie McMillan: and I think that wasn't that one where they zoomed in.
Really cool. Yeah. And he's all like dehydrated.
[00:39:20] Corinne Foxx: Oh yeah. In this. Oh, I just punched right Mike out of sheer passion stories. There will be a sponge. Bob Paul. Yes.
[00:39:28] Natalie McMillan: Tone. Is this a red flag? Yes. Oh
[00:39:32] Corinne Foxx: God, I'm exhausted. We'll be back next week with another episode.