This week, Lianna Newman (name only) expands on carving out space in STEM, finding community, and creating resources. In this episode, you will learn 1. Some changes we'd like to see in tech. 2. The complexities of gender-neutral vs gendered awards. 3. How to use no pronouns and what we mean when we ask someone for their pronouns in the first place. 🎙️ Connect with Lianna to learn more about + support Lianna’s work: LinkedIn Instagram 💻 Sources and resources from this episode: Out In Tech | No...
Mar 14, 2023•57 min•Season 2Ep. 16
Exploring the kink spectrum and community! This week, Wesley Toma (he/him) expands on how kink is a spectrum, and for those who fall on it, it's very unlikely we're vanilla kinksters. In this episode, you will learn 1. How kinks and fetishes are different. 2. Some examples of how someone could start safely exploring the kink community. 3. Why he currently must travel out of state to access certain kink communities and spaces. 🎙️ Connect with Wesley to learn more about + support his work: Wesley...
Feb 28, 2023•51 min•Season 2Ep. 15
Check out Rebecca's parent coaching . We were nominated for Best Personal Growth and Best DIY for The Ambies! Thank you to those who watched live on March 7, 2023. We didn't win this time, though it was an honor to be nominated for both categories. This week, Rebecca Minor, LICSW (she/her), expands on why the term femme feels the most at home and who helped her to tap into that energy. In this episode, you will learn 1. Why her blog post about fictosexuality got a lot of attention, and what that...
Feb 14, 2023•1 hr 1 min•Season 2Ep. 14
This week, Kieran Mcmonagle (he/him) expands on how he's learned so much from young people in the LGBTQ+ community. In this episode, you will learn 1. Why he shares that he was born in the right queer, trans body. 2. How no space can be truly safe for everyone. 3. How parents of trans kids should love and support their kids and do their own processing in private. 🎙️ Connect with Kieran to learn more about + support his work: Instagram TikTok Red Cape Therapy 💻 Sources and resources from this e...
Jan 31, 2023•52 min•Season 2Ep. 13
Grab podcast merch here: https://www.bonfire.com/store/allyship-is-a-verb/ This week, Ed Carratalà (él/he/him) expands on how he spent 33 years of his life hiding parts of himself. In this episode, you will learn: 1. What it was like for him to attend his first pride event after coming out. 2. Why he had to teach his therapy students about the LGBTQ+ community in secret. 3. How therapists can cause great harm to clients and why it can be helpful for them to do the work of questioning their own g...
Jan 17, 2023•57 min•Season 2Ep. 18
This event aired live on December 4th, 2022, and has been cut for clarity. "Are You OK?" documents the experiences and stories of 130+ trans and nonbinary youth living in the United States during this time of horrific anti-trans legislation. You can watch this video on Spotify or YouTube . Looking for more info about the merch? Grab the wearable merch here ! Be sure to check the podcast website for any new stickers or other items. Author and photographer Jesse Freidin (he/him) and gender special...
Jan 03, 2023•1 hr 15 min•Season 2Ep. 11
This week, Lena Dirscherl (they/them) expands on some of the many factors that influence gender. In this episode, you will learn: 1. What our thoughts are on the term "transgender" and where we think it's heading in the future. 2. Some of the many different definitions of "queer" or "queerness." 3. How "sex" and "gender" are made-up concepts and why that matters. 🎙️ Connect with Lena to learn more about + support their work: BoPoLena’s Patreon Instagram TikTok Website Host Charlie Ocean, MSW (t...
Nov 22, 2022•53 min•Season 2Ep. 10
In the wake of the most recent tragedy yesterday (November 19th, 2022) at Club Q, an LGBTQ+ nightclub in Colorado Springs, CO, I am publishing a formerly recorded episode that I never released. At the time of posting this, we believe that 5 people are dead and 18 are injured. There was a drag show. I didn't publish this episode because I thought it was too dark and heavy to be so early in the first season. I thought about revisiting it but then changed the format of the podcast episodes and it d...
Nov 20, 2022•8 min•Season 2Ep. 9
Did you miss our November event? Watch it here on YouTube: Are You OK?: Empowering Trans Youth Through Storytelling feat. Jesse Freidin and Rebecca Minor Content warning for abuse. This week, Cassie Brighter (she/her) expands on the hidden costs of being transgender, why TSA PreCheck may make travel safer for trans women, and how she responds to questions about "the surgery." In this episode, you will learn: 1. Why she doesn't want LGBTQ+ events at churches, even if they're affirming. 2. What it...
Nov 08, 2022•57 min•Season 2Ep. 8
Did you miss our November event? Watch it here on YouTube: Are You OK?: Empowering Trans Youth Through Storytelling feat. Jesse Freidin and Rebecca Minor This week, Cody Daigle-Orians (he/they), AKA "Ace Dad Advice," explores what it means for them to be asexual, queer, and polyamorous. In this episode, you will learn: 1. How do his ace and polyamorous identities intersect? 2. How do they manage multiple relationships? 3. What is his experience of being ace within the broader LGBTQ+ community?...
Oct 25, 2022•1 hr•Season 2Ep. 7
This episode is sponsored by a private donor. Thank you!!! In this week's episode, Mister Larrie (he/him) and I get SILLY! It starts off with him encouraging you to do the work of finding your people in your communities (and to be patient with the process). We get into mistakes and how having a learner's mindset can help, including when others correct us. Learn what he's been told as a Black man about his career, mental health, and more. Mister Larrie reflects on being visible at multiple inters...
Oct 11, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Season 2Ep. 6
This episode is sponsored by a private donor. Thank you!!! Content warning for LGBTQ+ youth discrimination, suicide statistics. In this week's episode, Petey Gibson (he/him) shares about who he's inspired by to embody gentle masculinity. Suppose you've wondered about the differences between characters written as cisgender men versus trans men or transmasculine people. In that case, Petey explains what he's experienced in Hollywood. We also get into the film he starred in and produced: The Sympat...
Sep 27, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Season 2Ep. 5
This episode is sponsored by a private donor. Thank you!!! Did you miss the launch party for the Corporate Guide to LGBTQ+ Events? You can watch the recording and purchase the guide here ! In this week's episode, Josée Sovinsky (she/they) updates us on what's changed since we spoke early last season, including pronouns and identities. If you've ever wondered why some people use two or more sets of pronouns, Josée explains what it means for her and how she tested they/them out before sharing that...
Sep 13, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Season 2Ep. 4
This episode is sponsored by a private donor. Thank you!!! Interested in the Corporate Guide to LGBTQ+ Events? Watch the recorded launch party on LinkedIn! You can now buy the guide here . In this week’s episode, Jesse Freidin (he/him) shares about his former photography projects and how he's surprised himself by working on a new series that hits close to home. The "Are you OK?" series addresses the current wave of anti-trans legislation by interviewing trans and gender nonconforming youth with ...
Aug 30, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Season 2Ep. 3
This episode is sponsored by a private donor. Thank you!!! Content warning for mentions of George Floyd's murder and generally sensitive topics without details. In this week’s episode, Ra Ra Rollins (he/him) shares why he claims “queer” and “gay” and the difference in meaning for him between the two terms. He ponders if he’s Black first or gay, queer first, especially since not all spaces see him as a whole person with various, complex identities. Learn about how his work can be triggering as a ...
Aug 16, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Season 2Ep. 2
This episode is sponsored by Rebecca Minor, LICSW (she/her). For more information about her parent and caregiver coaching, please visit: https://www.genderspecialist.com/coaching In this week’s episode, Richard Follett (he/him) shares how each of his intersections has shaped a portion of who he is and that while some of them may seem at odds with each other, that's not the case for him. Learn about how he knew he was gay at the age of four but found himself trying to "pray away the gay" and ente...
Aug 02, 2022•55 min•Season 2Ep. 1
This episode is sponsored by Rebecca Minor, LICSW. For more information about her course, How To Talk To Kids About Gender, please visit: https://www.genderspecialist.com/learn Listeners of this podcast get 10% off with code ALLYSHIP For more information about her resource, My Kid Just Came Out: Free Guide for Parents, please visit: https://www.genderspecialist.com/nowwhat And if you're looking to book an LGBTQ+ event for Pride month or after, consider hiring me: https://www.chrisangelmurphy.com...
May 24, 2022•1 hr 12 min•Season 1Ep. 27
This episode is sponsored by Rebecca Minor, LICSW. For more information about her course, How To Talk To Kids About Gender, please visit: https://www.genderspecialist.com/learn Listeners of this podcast get 10% off with code ALLYSHIP In this week’s episode, Destiny Clarke (who now uses she/they pronouns) talks about why they left teaching in the classroom to pursue a career in providing teachers with LGBTQ+ inclusive education. We discuss how living in North Carolina as a pansexual person isn't ...
May 10, 2022•1 hr 2 min•Season 1Ep. 26
This episode is sponsored by Rebecca Minor, LICSW. For more information about her resource, My Kid Just Came Out: Free Guide for Parents, please visit: https://www.genderspecialist.com/nowwhat In this week’s episode, Dominic (he/him) talks about the first time he got hit on by a girl and how that started his sexuality (and later gender) journey. Learn about what shifts occurred in his life as he started to be read as a man in society and some decisions he's made as a result, including going stea...
Apr 26, 2022•1 hr 27 min•Season 1Ep. 25
This episode is sponsored by Rebecca Minor, LICSW. For more information about her resource, My Kid Just Came Out: Free Guide for Parents, please visit: https://www.genderspecialist.com/nowwhat In this week’s episode, Charlie Sprinkman (he/they) talks about growing up in "small-town vibes" Wisconsin and how it's important for people to find the best language for themselves. Learn about what happened when he came out during the Trump administration. We also discuss how important it is to make thin...
Apr 12, 2022•47 min•Season 1Ep. 24
This episode is sponsored by Rebecca Minor, LICSW. For more information about her course, How To Talk To Kids About Gender, please visit: https://www.genderspecialist.com/learn Listeners of this podcast get 10% off with code ALLYSHIP The Trans Day of Visibility: Nonbinary Visibility panel is now available to watch here: https://youtu.be/mYPQBrBvwrc In this week’s episode, K Strohl (K's pronouns present day are now they/them) talks about why they freely share their identities and how they want to...
Mar 29, 2022•49 min•Season 1Ep. 23
This episode is sponsored by Rebecca Minor, LICSW (she/her). For more information about her resource, My Kid Just Came Out: Free Guide for Parents, please visit: https://www.genderspecialist.com/nowwhat/ In this week’s episode, Nick Daily (he/they) shares about what sparked the daily reminders he posts to Instagram to inspire others. Learn about why they’re learning to say “no” and what it means with the nuance of being Black, among their other identities, and practices like not working on their...
Mar 15, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Season 1Ep. 22
In this week’s episode, Trystan Reese (he/him) shares about his days of being a drag king and how he's been performing as a man since he was a kid. Learn about some of the practices he's adopted to check in with his colleagues so that they're in a continuous feedback loop, including addressing power dynamics and microaggressions. We also discuss a bit of what it's like to be trainers and consultants and the work that goes into it, including figuring out our boundaries and doing the work to know ...
Mar 01, 2022•59 min•Season 1Ep. 21
In this week’s episode, Mon Malanovich-Gallagher (they/them) shares about being an LGBTQI+ speaker and facilitator and what some of their experience as an introvert can look like, including introducing the term “anchor.” Learn why they left Poland and the importance of language including identities that reflect our experience. We also discuss employment diversity questions and how data matters while recognizing the privilege of being able to answer as honestly as possible. Have you ever wondered...
Feb 15, 2022•59 min•Season 1Ep. 20
In this week’s episode, Chris Tompkins (he/him) shares about being an LGBTQ inner advocate and practicing allyship toward himself. Learn how he found his way to sobriety while acknowledging that AA isn't for everyone. We also discuss the term "Guncle" and how being one was part of the inspiration for his book, Raising LGBTQ Allies. Have you ever heard of "machismo?" Chris talks about how it influences Latin American culture and what it meant for the messages he received as a young gay child. We ...
Feb 01, 2022•50 min•Season 1Ep. 19
In this week’s episode, Jaffe (she/her) shares the origins of her drag show, Them Fatale Drag Kings. Learn how she claims the terms "lesbian" and "queer." We also discuss the Los Angeles queer bar scene when we were in our early 20s and how it is present day. Have you ever wondered if you’re welcome to an LGBTQ+ space as someone not from the community? Jaffe talks about how it’s important to have a sense of humor when entering such spaces. We also get vulnerable about how when I was first coming...
Jan 18, 2022•49 min•Season 1Ep. 18
In this week’s episode, Dr. Leah Tidey (she/her) shares about how her definition of bisexuality has evolved since she first claimed it at the age of 12. Learn how intersections of bisexuality and consensual non-monogamy have created stigma she’s been pushing against. We also discuss Robyn Och’s definition of bisexuality and how Leah’s work as a sexual health educator can be tricky in terms of how much of herself she feel comfortable sharing with her students or overall in certain spaces due to b...
Jan 04, 2022•1 hr•Season 1Ep. 17
In this week’s episode, Provvidenza Catalano (they/them) shares about how the closer they get to who they are versus how Hollywood typecasts folks, they now get more interest and are called in for different roles. Learn how intersections of fatphobia, transphobia, butchphobia, ableism, and more have shaped their experiences and the work they're doing internally. We also discuss some of what casual representation could look like and how much more authentic and nuanced stories would be for LGBTQ+ ...
Nov 30, 2021•58 min•Season 1Ep. 16
In this week’s episode, Dr. Kyl Myers (they/them, she/her) shares how their gender creative parenting has evolved over the years and that it can look different for each family. Learn how gender creative parenting gave her an opportunity to check in with herself about her own gender and gender expression. We also discuss some of the questions that you asked on Instagram! Are you trying to support friends in your life who have LGBTQ+ kids? Kyl talks about some of what's helped them, which might so...
Nov 16, 2021•1 hr 1 min•Season 1Ep. 15
In this week’s episode, Leo Yockey (he/him) shares how his first tech job denied him the opportunity to control his narrative. Learn what surprised him about the experience and hear how it shaped the man he is today. We also discuss the "I'm not gay hug." Are you a fan of Tan France from Queer Eye? Leo talks about how reading Tan's memoir was the inverse of his experience, though it helped him find a man to model himself after. 🎙️ Connect with Leo: Leo Yockey's website The Leo Yockey Show podca...
Nov 02, 2021•51 min•Season 1Ep. 14
