The concept of “healing” might sound appealing, but it’s actually a dangerous trick in disguise. Why? Well, it means you have to believe something is wrong with you in the first place, otherwise healing would never interest you. And when you let healing lure you in like a worm on a fishing rod it can actually create more misery, shame, and suffering. But it doesn’t have to be that way. You don’t have to “fix” or “heal” anything. Instead, you could just be done with that “masterpiece” of your lif...
Jun 01, 2023•28 min
There’s an invisible world living beneath your skin. It controls your emotions, mood, cravings, and can even alter your entire personality. What’s this invisible world that can hijack your very experience of life itself? Parasites! Now, I don’t say this to creep you out or give you a reason to shift blame onto these nasty single cell organisms, but to offer you hope: Whatever you’re dealing with now that’s lowering your quality of life, could be the result of parasites. And that is empowering be...
May 25, 2023•48 min
A while back, Jasmine and I considered ending our marriage. At the time, I was in a weird depressive funk, which is no place to decide on what to do in a relationship. Now, I wasn’t depressed, but I was stuck. I didn’t know what the point of life was. And I lost all motivation. So, I decided to try ketamine therapy. Well, I discovered a ton of interesting insights throughout my 6 session ketamine therapy, including how it accelerated these feelings of disillusionment I was feeling. In this episo...
May 18, 2023•50 min
Do you want to be a victim of your own memory? The unfortunate truth is, while unwilling to admit it, most people kind of like being a victim of their memory. Why? Well, it’s comfortable and it absolves you of responsibility for things that happened in your life that you didn’t like. But it comes with a steep cost: When you're a victim of your own memory, you cannot live every moment of your life in complete joy. Your past traumas and suffering haunt you relentlessly. And it fills you with miser...
May 11, 2023•35 min
In the Buddhist religion, masters would tell their students that if they saw the Buddha, they should kill him. Why? Well, the authorities that you revere are your last obstacle towards achieving true freedom. If you’re still letting them influence you, you’re not using your own eyes and ears, which can lead you down a path of judgment and suffering. By “killing the Buddha,” you become the author in your life, with the ability to change your life’s experience from negative and dark to positive an...
May 04, 2023•26 min
We have several tour guides throughout our lives. Our parents, our teachers, our mentors, and our friends. When used correctly, these tour guides steer you down creating your own path, and becoming an experitus. But the problem many people face is that they lose their own experiences in the process of bouncing from tour guide to tour guide. The result? Your tour guides become stumbling blocks, introducing more pain and suffering into your life instead of freeing you from it. But at some point, l...
Apr 27, 2023•28 min
“What entertains you, trains you.” It’s a pithy quote I’ve repeated often on this show, but there’s also hardcore scientific evidence that proves this phenomenon is true. For example, in science, there’s what’s known as the placebo effect, and the nocebo effect. Both of these phenomenons prove that your thoughts can alter your reality—both in positive and negative ways. Here’s what that means for you in your life: You are in the driver’s seat. You have complete control over the experiences you w...
Apr 20, 2023•26 min
There are a lot of similarities between pain (even chronic pain) and emotions. But the most important similarity is this: Your pain and emotions are an opinion! This fact is backed by the leading neuroscientist on pain research. And it’s great news. Why? Because opinions can be challenged! And by challenging your opinions, you can stop decades-long depression and chronic pain in its tracks. In this episode, you’ll discover why pain is just an opinion your brain has, and how this makes it easier ...
Apr 13, 2023•38 min
There are a lot of similarities between pain (even chronic pain) and emotions. But the most important similarity is this: Your pain and emotions are an opinion! This fact is backed by the leading neuroscientist on pain research. And it’s great news. Why? Because opinions can be challenged! And by challenging your opinions, you can stop decades-long depression and chronic pain in its tracks. In this episode, you’ll discover why pain is just an opinion your brain has, and how this makes it easier ...
Apr 06, 2023•29 min
We’re suckers for authority. We see someone in a white lab coat, and immediately think they know all the answers. But reality doesn’t typically play out how they say: Take Amber for example, a featured guest on this episode. She battled chronic pain for years, got prescribed pain pills, and shortly became addicted to them. When she realized she was done taking pain pills, she quit cold turkey. And the next time she went to her doctor—someone she likes as a person, mind you—he told her that quitt...
Mar 30, 2023•31 min
Society has been brainwashed into believing a lie. This falsehood has caused more addiction, pain, and suffering than perhaps any other lie in history. But the good news is: It’s a lie. So, what’s the lie? The disease theory of addiction. Now, this theory has helped many people overcome their addiction, but they still aren’t freed of it because one of the tenets of this theory is that you can’t get rid of addiction. That's where the lie comes in. And in this episode, you’ll discover several reas...
Mar 23, 2023•38 min
Scientists discovered that a tiny fraction of the weight of a dime creates enough pressure on your cells to force them to divide. What does that mean for healing yourself from decades of suffering and trauma? Well, it only takes a little nudge of pressure, applied in correct places, to free you from your decades-long misery. Yes, it can be that simple. In fact, when I speak of “Stick Work” that I do at Freedom Specialist Retreats, this is why it can completely liberate you from your trauma in me...
Mar 16, 2023•40 min
About 14 years ago, a plane crashed into a volcano it didn’t see because the coordinates had been two degrees off on the instrument panel. This story reminds me of the current state of therapy: Therapy’s success rates are shockingly low. In fact, even shock therapy gives you better odds. Now, it’s not because therapists are bad people, most of them have the best intentions, but they’re just two degrees off on how to solve it. Well, in this episode, we look at Chapter 2 from my newest book, Built...
Mar 09, 2023•35 min
Imagine your body is an airplane, and you have no idea how to control it, let alone fly it. Well, that’s how most of us live our lives. It’s no wonder we drown in addictions, traumas, and misery. But what if someone gave you the manual for that airplane and proved that it’s easy to operate? Well, that’s what you’ll get out of this episode. In this episode, you’ll discover why living free and happy is easier than you’re making it. I also reveal some fun anecdotes and stories from the first “adven...
Mar 02, 2023•38 min
When you invite freedom into your life, it creates a domino effect that seeps into every aspect of your life—for the better. Take Lee for example: By inviting freedom into his life after attending a retreat, he finally put his body at ease. Then, his mind became at ease, and he didn’t have as many dark and depressing thoughts. Next, he lost 30 pounds, then 60 pounds, then 100 pounds. Before freedom, he had sleep apnea and stopped breathing 175 times each hour. After freedom, he’s had nights wher...
Feb 23, 2023•49 min
Have you seen the Netflix documentary, My Octopus Teacher? Lee and I recently watched it—and it blew us away. Why? Because it puts this thing we call life into perspective. It shows you how to overcome trauma and pain without letting it consume you—and without forgetting the lessons that can help you avoid traumatic situations today. In this episode, you’ll discover how acting like an octopus may be the key to leaving your decades of trauma in the past for good. And how this helps you embrace th...
Feb 16, 2023•46 min
Every relationship is hard, whether with your spouse, kids, or friends. But we have a tendency to make our relationships harder than they actually are too. When emotions infiltrate your relationships, especially in heated conversations and arguments, it leads to compromises, hardships, and even resentment. The solution? Slowing things down to an Eeyore trot. For example, when you have an argument with your wife, you can use email to communicate about it (without sacrificing living life in the mo...
Feb 09, 2023•41 min
Most people lead their lives with their mind, not their heart. This causes unnecessary stress, worry, and anxiety. Why? Because your heart sends signals to your mind, and your mind makes up negative stories about whatever your heart’s sending you. And most people don’t realize they can lead their lives with their heart instead of their mind. But by leading your life with your heart first, you can eliminate these anxiety-inducing thoughts before they even pop up. In this episode, you’ll discover ...
Feb 02, 2023•44 min
Every time an event happens in our life—good, bad, or in between—our brain creates a story out of it. And since your brain is cunning and sly, it connects these made-up stories to other made-up stories in your mind. While this isn’t necessarily a good or bad thing, most people believe these stories they tell themselves are reality itself. The result? Your mind creates trauma, suffering, and misery out of thin air! Not only are these stories false, but two stories almost never have the connective...
Jan 26, 2023•38 min
All of your problems—whether they’re massive or tiny—are the result of vagueness in some way, shape, or form. And boy, is that a powerful realization. Why? Because by getting real with yourself and removing the vagueness from the stories you tell yourself, you can free yourself from your depression, your trauma, your addictions, and anything else that’s sabotaging your quality of life. Best part? Getting real with yourself allows you to do this at breakneck speed. It’s how I’ve helped people wit...
Jan 19, 2023•31 min
Many listeners, Freedom Specialist clients, and even other Freedom Specialist coaches wonder how I parent. And admittedly, I have some weird and counterintuitive parenting strategies that might make other parents scoff, but work well for my kids and my family. For example, I don’t congratulate my kids when they create an awesome drawing. Why? Because it trains them to seek validation from outside sources. Instead, I use it as a way to help them validate themselves. And this is just one example o...
Jan 12, 2023•38 min
Everyone has secrets. Most of them for a good reason. But, it’ is not the same with addictions. Keeping secrets may be exactly what holds you back on your way to recovery. It’s difficult to open up about your weaknesses, regardless of how close you may be with the other person. Especially if you were raised in a strict environment, that answered your mistakes with punishment. The truth is, there is nothing inherently wrong with you, and the people in your life can support you on your way to reco...
Jan 05, 2023•32 min
I had an experience the other day when my buddies and I went out for dinner. We saw an attractive woman, and I used it as an opportunity to understand what was going on inside my body as a result of seeing her. Most people would call the sensation I felt lust. I would too, until I started paying attention to what was actually happening. After paying attention, I realized it was not lust I was experiencing, but life itself. Here’s what I mean: Any type of energy you feel—from lust to depression a...
Dec 29, 2022•23 min
Most of the people who have come to a Freedom Specialist retreat—myself included—have had one thing in common: Their biggest fear is a lack of control. But this fear itself dupes you into subconsciously sabotaging everything you value in your life. It’s why relationships fall apart. It’s why you can’t get ahead in your career. And it’s why you imprison yourself in misery. And you know what? This fear—in every example I’ve ever seen—stems from being dishonest to yourself. When you’re honest with ...
Dec 22, 2022•23 min
Salvation, enlightenment, and bliss. These are the experiences everyone craves. We want the 40 lb backpack of despair, addiction, and trauma lifted off our shoulders, so we can start living life to the fullest again. But how do you get there? A lot of people think the answer is tucked away in a small pocket of the Himalayas, with a mystical guru who holds all the keys to life’s greatest questions. And a lot of people think they’re a bunch of charlatans stealing money from desperate, vulnerable, ...
Dec 15, 2022•1 hr 28 min
Imagine you have a battery attached to your body. Everything you do—from eating food and working to driving and watching TV—either drains your battery or recharges it. Most people unknowingly do activities which drain the very life source from them without ever asking if those activities are worth draining their energy. Some draining activities are worth it, but are they all? On the other hand, there are certain activities that charge you up, surround you with bliss, and help you tap into the di...
Dec 08, 2022•30 min
Confronting your beliefs about life is one of the most difficult (and rewarding) things you can do. Nobody likes being wrong, let alone admitting their wrong. But what if your beliefs—whether in God, addiction, or trauma—are wrong? And what if admitting your wrong opens up a new possibility for life itself? One that can even grow you closer to God than you are now. That’s what each of the people who have come to a Freedom Specialist retreat have experienced in some form or fashion. And that’s wh...
Dec 01, 2022•32 min
When you were born, you weren’t a people pleaser. Yet many people label themselves as such today (even though it causes undue suffering). Why? Because learning to be a people pleaser usually helps you cope with a traumatic experience that could date back to your early childhood years. For example, one of the folks who came to the Freedom Specialist retreats was a self-admitted people pleaser with a porn addiction. He even contemplated suicide. After digging, I realized he still carried the traum...
Nov 24, 2022•25 min
Suicide is the second leading cause of death for everyone up to age 45. It’s a tragedy—and a full out epidemic. So why do so many people in our world choose to kill themselves instead of living out the rest of their days? Well, there are several reasons. From societal expectations to social media and everything in between. But another massive problem is people don’t feel comfortable talking about it. In fact, even though I had suicidal thoughts, I had no idea my son did. I couldn’t spot it, even...
Nov 17, 2022•32 min
The Buddha as we know him wasn’t always the Buddha. In fact, he was just a normal guy who suffered like most of us do. But then the Buddha discovered the only true way to get rid of suffering. Years after the Buddha’s discovery, a philosopher approached him. The philosopher searched for the answers to life his entire life. And the Buddha’s only solution was to sit in silence for two years. After begrudgingly agreeing to the Buddha’s terms, two years later, the philosopher had no questions for th...
Nov 10, 2022•28 min
